#everyone has done something wrong

[libertyvigil]

The same kind of people who say "Ukraine must've does something wrong to be invaded" are the same kind of people who say that a woman must been doing something wrong in order to get raped, must've been "asking for it".

#ukraine #russia #war #rape #this makes me so mad #russia is in the right bc they invaded? #what are you on #what messed up dimension are you living in #everyone has done something wrong #no one deserves rape #no one deserves to be invaded #esp in so brutal a manner #...btw ppl say the same about men who are raped as well

[nostalgia-tblr]

Every Doctor Who Production Team: "How the **** did they work out the shocking top-secret plot twist already?!?!"

#if anyone's curious this was inspired by stuff about the Loki series' S1 trailer and the CGI removal of a major character from it #and how I will defend Chibs' CGI removal of Sacha Dhawan from the DW S12 trailer on what I consider the reasonable grounds that #if Dr Who fandom saw a man with a beard wearing black they would 10000% have instantly assumed that he was the Master. #(correctly!) cos there are people who guessed who Missy was just from her wearing black at the end of 'Deep Breath' #but many of them had also guessed this about every other character who wore black and mostly they were wrong #but it does mean that fandom will occasionally be right about who the Mystery Character In Black is #and everyone involved just has to accept that and get creative with their trailer footage if necessary #or do something really WEIRD and OUT THERE like dress the Master n a different colour. (WHICH THEY'D BETTER NOT!!!!) #the master #dw memes #(i assume this meme will have been done before but fuck it i'm procrastinating here) #dw

[pbnmj]

Ur tags about how Miles and Pavitr are the ones who say "I can do both" because it IS quintessential spiderman thinking AND because they're too young to have seen that devastatingly not work yet. BUT the thing is they are RIGHT but only if it's "we"! Spiderman's mythos is inherently a lonely one reinforced by Miles and Gwen's isolation and by every. single. intro. reminding us that every spider person is the "one and only spider person"! And yet!! These films are just about relationships (1/2)

YES YEAH YOU GET IT !!!! and (quite recently rewatched it and mentioning it here cause i can't believe i forgot to mention it in the post you're talking about) it really gets me that gwen also says 'i was doing both' in regards to protecting miles and protecting the canon event, and i love that the phrase was reflected like that, even tho (at this point of the movie) miles and gwen pretty much oppose each other in views/priority !!

it also absolutely kills me the way that gwen begins (like you say) atsv quitting the band and isolates herself, and then throughout the whole thing she finds something/someone that she wants to take that leap for, all over again :') she (and the entire spider-team!!) is willing to bet everything on miles and is ready to fight for him, and i really just love the idea that miles just is a force that inspires good !!!! IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT LOVE!!!

#and . i dont think she would have done this without reconciling with her dad and that entire speech. #i do think that acceptance and love meant everything to her when she was at her lowest and it pushes her to do more + #AND it shows her canon events arent necessarily end alls. and it reflects in how she tells miles parents how much he loves them #just feel like. gwen now believes that love he has couldnt ever be bad. and it shouldn't have to make the world end... #and she believes it wont. AUGH #also been thinking that it's such a fun way to reflect that 'parker luck' #where yknow . where peter just cannot balance his two identities #and usually a spider-man success means something in his personal life goes badly #and idk i love when things are acknowledged to be like. the RESULT of being spider-man . #its fun to me. perhaps i am analysing media wrong. but tragedy magnet spider-man is so fucking depressing on many levels #and that opens up barbie dreamhouse levels of fun to me #generally superheroes creating their own enemies on accident . like ssm's venom was a goldmine to me i enjoyed that interpretation so much #i dont think miguel was right tho . fate of the multiverse/anomaly/etc I DONT CARE OLD MAN. UR OPINION WAS OVER WHEN U STARTED BEEF W MILES #and so sorry this took forever to reply to omg i adored reading this meta !!!!! #answered #disinherits #long post #sorry everyone the floor was open for my deranged takes again

[rosalinesurvived]

Stepped outside my bsd circle and i’m reminded why i forever stopped listening to ppl in hs whenever they told me to leave my comfort circle and push my boundaries smhh :|

#cw caps #tw caps #cw cursing #tw cursing #SHUT UP ABOUT SHIPPING SHUT UP ABOUT SKK TALK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE IT WONT MURDER YOU #IS EVERYONE IN BSD GREY OR HAS ODA DONE NO WRONG YOU C A N N O T SAY BOTH IN ONE BREATH BE FORREAL #WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN ODA’S THE ONLY ONE WHO’S SHOWN HE LOVES DAZAI?? THE FUCK??? #BSD STANS FIND A WORD TO DESCRIBE WOMEN THAT ISNT GIRLBOSS CHALLENGE IMPOSSIBLE #ALSO-HOW AND WHY THE FUCK DO YOU MAKE SO MANY ‘HERES HOW SKK IS CANON/I CANT BELIEVE PPL SAY SKK ISNT CANON🥺 PIECES WHEN SKK IS THE MOST #SHIPPED SHIP IN BSD?? WHAT PLANET DO YOU LIVE ON AND CAN I JOIN YOU ON IT BABYGIRL MY CUP RUNNETH OVER WITH SKK #THEY WOULDNT SAY THAY!!! KUNIKIDA ISNT AN NT!!!! NOT EVERYONE *HAS* TO BE GAY!!! #STOP! SANDING DOWN CHARACTERS! TO FIT IN WITH TROPES/MEMES/INCORRECT QUOTES! YOU DONT KNOW THEM YOU DONT GET THEM YOU DISSERVICE THEN #GIRLIEPOP IF YOURE COMFORTABLE WITH CANNIBALISM THEN SHUT TF UP ABOUT HOW PPL WHO SHIP TANIZAKICEST OR LIKE MORI ARE FREAKS YOU WEIRDO #AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[tankgotstuckinthecircusgate]

late Carlo and Moretti (during vinci-moretti war) are like Luca and Clemente to me. Moretti will never raise his hand on Carlo but! will he drive him into guilt in ways that are not direct? insult him in passing? convince Carlo that he's doing everything wrong, when in fact it's the opposite? of course such a painful kick to Carlo's ego, it's unfair, he doesn't deserve it. and it's not a father-son relationship, it's a professional relationship and he can't say anything back & defense himself in any way maybe Moretti's more favorable to Eddie in this period because he's more blindly loyal and Carlo feels he's about to explode

#^ i wrote it before that hounds thing but its about all this anger was once love etc #carlo who is a capo who has done so many terrible things for this place watching how eddie gets bonus points for blind loyalty: 😐 #and it's not even that he's a capo it's that carlo says the right things but moretti dismisses him every time #also ok😬😬😬my truth! is that eddie really was against killing moretti at first #and when he finally decides to support carlo well. is it just a change of master? (yes) #m2 #moretti family #and! #as far as i understand Moretti's murder took place just a few days before his victory? fucked up thing #i mean. it just makes Carlo an even shitty man. he chose himself over the majority #(i can't think about any war theme on a physical level at this point so. i have only abstract thoughts on this) #but objectively: moretti family may have gained control of the vinci family's territory of influence etc #instead they got a young crazy don. and everyone was alright w it (?!makes me think for what reason) #which is why i think there's been something wrong with Moretti in his last yrs. he looks much older thank frank n leo #for now he's just an old man stubbornly clinging to power to me. but not to say that i worked on his character much #i think he became weaker hypochondriacal and paranoid towards the end. “i saw his hands trembling” carlo bout moretti etc #“akela missed his kill!” and the young wolves tore him apart #ewwwwwwwwwww no Carlo who sees Moretti growing weaker and instinctively his teeth are bared more and more ewww #kill the weak and old so the young can survive😬😬 (fucked up thing is that they aren't animals they would survive w moretti in charge) #spoiled hounds parallel makes things so much complicated tbh. but it feels right

[comfortcomes]

theres a woman at my work who cannot ever do a single thing correctly like no matter what the task is whatever you ask her to do she will do it wrong 100% of the time. in a way that i don’t even understand how it’s possible. and every single time this happens she responds with complete denial that it could be her fault. and the craziest thing is i feel like everyone i know has a coworker like this and i don’t get how it’s possible how does a person evolve to be like this

#also she ims everyone about every tiny little thing to inform them that she is about to do something wrong and then after she has done it #also she once got the cops called to our building because she couldn’t use her key right when she opened it

[guzmapkmn-archive]

i wont lie ive been feeling rlly disconnected from everyone on here and i kinda want to remake but. idk....

#cat.txt #idk im trying rlly hard to interact with people as much as i can #but i sorta feel like people are avoiding me..... #maybe im just making that up djkhsdkjs but it feels like people havent been interacting with me as much lately #and im worried ive done something wrong... #ive deleted most of the posts ive made lately bc no one has seen them #idk im just worried everyone hates me or smth :'))

[not-poignant]

“I’m sure part of you wants to follow in their footsteps” holy shit temsen does not hold back 💀 it’s true though!! ef wants to have power and the people who have had power over him have been callous and cruel. but he has to unlearn those patterns aaauGh i love reading about ef learning how to be a person again in every universe

Temsen does not hold back. Though to be fair, he'd kind of snapped at that point and delivered a much more reasonable (though still very stern) lecture before that.

The fact is, Efnisien has been domestically violent, and he's been abusive. Gary acts so permissive of it that in some ways we all do, but it is an act of domestic violence to destroy someone's loved items, knowing it will hurt them. You don't have to hit someone to be a domestically violent abuser, and Efnisien has a lot of different methods covered.

I find this kind of path really interesting. Efnisien's not really learned better because of his upbringing and he needs to be expected to do better at the same time. In many respects, that's not fair. He's not being given time to process what was done to him, while being expected to step up in Hillview, which is a place where he was abandoned by his family.

I think it will be quite a divisive chapter, frankly. My sympathies are actually very much with Efnisien, but the story could not afford to be soft to him in that moment. Part of his growth journey is well, growing, and learning to take responsibility for his actions. So I think some people will feel that Temsen (and me by association) are being very unfair or even mean to Efnisien.

I'm also okay with that. I think some people will also take Gary's side. And some folks won't take any sides. It's a tense series of chapters, that's for sure!

These boys aren't perfect, but they're getting there.

#asks and answers #underline the black #ohlo ohlo temsen #efnisien ap wledig #dr gary konowalous #i like the moments where you can see that everyone has done something wrong #but you feel like some people have done *more* wrong than others #and others will be deciding what the hierarchy is #at any rate #i'm rooting for the two of them #but goodness they're both dopes sometimes!

[shopcat]

been having the mother of all morality ocd spirals and the only way i can help it slash stop it is SAYING: tldr taikas been dumb but i still "like" him/(mostly ed) (who he plays). with a lot of flashing lights and disclaimers around "like".

And if you can. please like ❤️ <-👍👍👍 this post if you see it. (or you can unfollow me if you like no hard feelings but if you don't read the tags either i do Nawt support slash stand for the dumb shit he as an actor creator whatever says i think he does stupid shit)

#🐾 #i think he makes a lot of stupid comments but also a lot of things get taken out of context and he's targeted unfairly by .. ''the media'' #and twitter. and that does not apply to any of the reasonable criticism against hkm that i agree with #he has been antiblack and supported j*hnny depp however hollowly so and the current things he's been doing/saying #i think he's smart but also stupid and he's done good but also spread unfortunate messages #and people do love to dog pile him as in weird critics and movie fanboys not social media in general #like that thing where he said no one knows who directed casablanca and everyone got SO MAD #as if he wasn't saying it in the context of ''therefore i don't create movies to be known as the director. i do it to create.'' #AND finally the hundred flashing disclaimers are the typical you know me (i hope) i don't do celebrity stan culture etc etc #i don't support the things he says and don't believe in seperating art from the artist in general but do think he is a Good artist #and his work has brought a lot of meaning to me personally. i think he's a flawed guy who is attempting to do right #and says the wrong thing sometimes and should still be held accountable he's not a child etc etc #and his latest comment ie the podcast IS still stupid bc of its insensitivity bc of the current state of the world #and he already made a stance by signing the letter so being asked to clarify is seriously not the drama he may think it is #anyway. that's all i think #it's also not lost on me AGAIN that our flag is my spinterest and i am being a bit selfish here which is why i say you can unf if you like #i talk and think about this a lot sorry 😭 #but i do think in the grand scheme he is pro palestine he is attempting something or other i understand what he was saying even if it was #stupid and annoying but i know how he got there. i don't think there's such thing as liking an unflawed celeb or media #but you do put out what you wish to receive in the world and should support things critically as in thoughtfully #and who and what you choose to show support for can reflect onto you but at the end of the day if people think i personally stand for these #things and therefore dislike me well. that's fine i guess and i don't anyway so i'm also fine with it #sorry if this sounds clinical i feel like i'm reading from a handbook LOL #and of course like always if he ever goes over the line i will be able to extract myself immediately but the layers of weirdness here is #sort of messing with my mind. hence the ocd spiral. And one million tags #also ironically he also has ocd lol #basically. it's disappointing and i hope he does better. much like with anyone who isn't morally reprehensible to begin with #update from the future um. well thank you guys for putting up with my apparent manic breakdowns 😭 i don't even know why i made this post

[mrpuppett]

saw someone on twt basically say that ppl can't change or learn and that doing something better after being called out is "fake activism" and I'm so..... shut up just shut the hell up. Denying a person the right to learn and improve and acting like the first thing they say on anything is set in concrete is fucking insane to me

#sm and Twitter specifically has made people so much less willing to give others any kind of grace and it's ridiculous #It's all black n white no in between #And thus ppl are put under such intense scrutiny to never make mistakes which is how we fucking learn #Nobody is perfect no one comes out the womb with pristine takes everyone has said or done something wrong ok #It's how you take that mistake and learn and improve as a person from it that matters

[thedeadthree]

VALAERRA targaryen (hotd/asoiaf) / CALLA stark (hotd)

IOVANNA dayne (hotd) / VALAENYA targaryen (asoiaf)

VIKTORIYA vays (cp2077) / AŚDÍS alfvinsdóttir (gow)

the dears @leviiackrman, @dihardys, @yennas, @jendoe, @denerims, @jackiesarch, and @marivenah to make some of the girls with this picrew! ty so much! <3

TAGGING: @feystepped, @griffin-wood, @risingsh0t, @kingsroad, @queennymeria, @arklay, @chuckhansen, @leondaltons, @pearlcscent, @malefiicarum, @florbelles, @aartyom, @adelaidedrubman, @swordcoasts, @stormveils, @shadowglens, @belorage, @unholymilf, @shellibisshe, @roofgeese, @confidentandgood, @aceghosts and you!

#only if you want to! 🥀🍄 #oc: valaerra targaryen #oc: calla targaryen #oc: iovanna dayne #oc: valaenya targaryen #oc: viktoriya vays #oc: aśdís alfvinsdóttir #this picrew was so cute! alas as many have said the skin tone options are…… yikes though ✨🤧 #in celebration of the girl winning my spotify wrapped as all five songs are from her playlist i bring the ice queen herself ✨😌🤍❄️ #and there’s aśdís as wellllll <3 the monarch of the light elves in all her glory 🤍🤍 #im thinking bc of his close relationship with alfheim that she’ll end up with f*reyr? #maybe it started as a political alliance uniting asgard/the gods and the elves? became more than that or something? #vika likely miffed she has blood on her face but relieved none of it got on her outfit ✨😌 a fashion icon and corpo ice queen w/ priorities! #calla with a butterfly in winterfell ✨🥹 her dragon is never not too far behind so her pleasantness can’t be mistaken for weakness hehe <3 #enya and vizzy said these hands are rated E for everyone akjzjzjx and i support them in that u know? they’ve never done wrong! not once! ✨😤 #likely enya in the fic aksjjxjx iconic of her <3 #loved that i did get to put stars around iovanna and in her eyes 🔮🥺 #calla and vizzy got matching tattoos for vizzys 21st birthday ✨🤧 they tried to rope baelor into it but he was ‘busy’ sure baelor soxjxjjx #leg.ocs #leg.tagged #t: picrews #iovanna and her little family and her descendant ✨🥹🔮🕯 #(minus baelor alas ✨😖)

[drjohnwatson]

Oh my god???....The feminism,, in the halo series. I love that for them

#don't get me wrong on the whole it's not good and NOT halo #but I don't dislike most of the characters and it's not the actors fault the directing. writing and editing is shoddy #but my goodness. The diversity in women here is something i ...don't know if i've seen before??? #Which is pathetic to even say but like wow. that's pretty neat #i like kai. i hope she has a nice day. #To reiterate this is NOT halo nor a halo story. The only thing done well there is vaguely some casting #(*ofcourse Cortana and Halsey kinda) and ofcourse that master chief costume is fucking incredible and i cannot tell everyone enough #just how much I NEED it #*I also am aware that halo lore is diverse in it's nature to begin with but it's nice to actually see it in this media. Instead of like.... #For every 6 guys there's one girl and she's just kinda there to be pretty #So that's one big positive there. #halo #halo series #hi tumblr i have not been here for so long and have so many things to rave about that happened but i need to put this here now

[blodeuweddschild]

Imo most of the time a child should decided to do/not do something not because they know their parents don’t want them it and they’re scared of the consequences, but because their parent has explained why something should/shouldn’t be done in a way the child understands and makes sense to them. And consider if you can’t find a reason to explain to your kids, maybe there’s no reason at all and your rules are arbitrary

#teachers too #it’s all well and good telling kids to be quiet #but you need to CALMLY explain why it’s better they make less noise #in ways that are logical ie. if everyone shouts it’ll be harder for everyone to hear anything clearly #when volume is too high for too long it has the potential to cause headaches and sensory discomfort #generally if you’re talking louder and not noticing it’s likely because you’re too invested in a conversation to be doing work efficiently #there’s nothing wrong with talking to each other a bit but the more into it you get the more distracted you get #and if you only care to explain this once the bad thing has been done. that’s not good enough. that’s not how this works #you gotta explain before or be calm when they do it and you haven’t explained #your anger is not productive #if this does not help then you need to calmly discuss with the student why they not listening #explain to them individually. solve problems that might be causing this issue #and if you know something or boring or pointless but people are making it so it has to be done. tell the kid you feel the same as them! #say it’s annoying and you don’t like it but someone’s saying it’s gotta be done #instead of burying it sometimes you need to validate a kids opinion cause they’re fucking right #and chances are now they understand you sympathise they’ll be more likely to do it

[crazy-fruit]

Irritated by the fact that my supervisor seems to think I am much further with my thesis than I actually am.

#jojo rambles #uni life #he has always given me a bit of a weird vibe #don't get me wrong in general he is a good supervisor just something is off about him and I can't name it #maybe it is him acting as if he is a flawed researcher while he's actually kinda saying he's perfect #also he kind of assumed that our parents will be able to proof read our thesis #no sorry - not everyone has parents who have a background in academia #anyway: glad the actualy supervision is done by anothet person and he has been great so far

[the-judicial-assistants-notebook]

We won't ever get it, but I think it would've been cool to see an antagonist/client who hates Edgeworth specifically because of what he did as von Karma's student. Like someone whose loved one -- I want to say 'sister' because AA, but I think it'd be pretty cool if it was their father -- was wrongly convicted and given the death sentence because he silenced witnesses or presented faulty evidence or something similar, and there's no fix to it. The case ends with the truth being revealed and ringing hollow, because they don't want revenge, not really; maybe they just want the verdict overturned, but even that doesn't change anything, because the person is gone, and whatever damage could have been done has been done, and they just have to live with it, all of them. I think it'd be interesting to see how Edgeworth and the people around him handle that confrontation -- the idea that you can change and try to fix your mistakes the best you can, but there are some things you'll never be able to atone for. Not really. And you just have to keep living.

#and for phoenix especially the idea that you can love 'monsters' because it wasnt an accident that led to the wrong verdict being handed #it was a choice. a choice edgeworth made just like all the people whose crimes phoenix unveiled in court with triumph and fanfare #because it was justice. #miles edgeworth #phoenix wright #ace attorney #ace attorney phoenix wright #i feel like everyone knows edgeworth's done things to get innocent people convicted but they don't /know/ it you know? #we've never had to look at the effects of that head on and decide for ourselves how guilty or innocent those actions make edgeworth #dgs kind of did something like this with uhh spoilers major spoilers here look away barok and kazuma but theirs is slightly different #spoilers over. i'd like to think the client/rival is really lovely too. they obviously despise edgeworth but it's not like antagonistic #or particularly vengeful simply because there's no point. of course it ends with everyone reaffirming their loyalty to edgeworth #but i think it should feel at least a little lacking. #ofc a story like this wouldnt work any time after aai because edgeworth has come to his own conclusions about this by then #so i think it would have had to been before jfa or during jfa if at all which is why i said would've been nice #though i do think there's something to be found in the idea of him having settled everything and living positively only for this case #to come cleave his life in two. i think there's something to be said about how people who've wronged a person can go on to live happily #while you're left picking up the pieces of a broken life and pushing forwards because you have to. always carrying a pain you're never able #to reconcile. i think that's pretty interesting too #i think it'd be interesting if it was a client and if phoenix didnt know at first that he was going to try and oveturn edgeworth's case #it's only partway he realises and then he gets upset/defensive thinking it's some weird ploy to undermine either of them #but the client is just confused and tells him they came to him because he was good and he can refuse if he wants to. #and you have to choose to continue. to doubt edgeworth. idk i just think it would have been fun

[kaikree]

something that isn't talked about much when it comes to healing yourself is that it might end up killing relationships (both romantic and platonic)

and i don't mean that in a way that should dissuade anyone from trying to heal. i mean you are where you are, on a path to try and get better, to do right by yourself and take care of the child inside you and nurture the things that have been hurt and sometimes you look around and realize that the people that you used to stand beside are a half-mile back on the track, so far that you can barely see them

and you want them to be with you still. you know that if they can get themselves up this hill with you that they'll feel better. things can get better and it's hard but you're up here climbing a hill, you know that it's possible and they can do it too! they can climb the hill with you and look out at this great view

but

you can't move their legs for them. and no matter how you wave or cajole or promise that it's not as hard once you get into it, they will not move from where they are. and you can sit there and try to talk to them from afar, but the healthier you get the harder it is to yell back to where they're standing.

sometimes there comes a point that you have to turn around completely because the path they want to stay on will only leash you back to a lower point. and that's... not actually your fault.

and yeah that can get so very frustrating. there have been times in my life where while talking to friends who were in bad spirals i would get frustrated b/c no matter what i said or did it seemed like they were hellbent on staying exactly where they were no matter how much they hated it or how much it hurt them. i could sit down and walk with them through resources and venting sessions and so many ways to to get out of the place they were in and it just... repeated. in a cycle. at some point i had to come to terms with the fact that you can't help someone who refuses to take the first step to help themselves and sometimes sticking around someone like that is only going to keep you tethered to that mental state.

#chinhands #sometimes i wonder if you'd actually communicated with me that we'd still been able to be friends #this whole metaphor makes sense in my head but idk if it translates #and then the awkward sense of feeling like the other person resents you for not being as miserable as they are #or that they resent your successes when they happen #tbh i wish i could say that i chose to end that relationship but i wasn't the one to cut the tie #i just realized that when i finally #finally #told them that they'd done something that was hurtful #that it rebounded and became about how me being hurt was actually hurtful to them #i'd made so many excuses about not telling them when they were out of line or wrong b/c i could handle it #excuses of 'theyre going through things and im privileged so i can take it' #'but if i tell them that this isn't okay then i'll be responsible for what they do to themselves after' #which in hindsight yeah that. probably. should have been indicative of something. #it wasn't something they threatened or anything like that #it was 100% my own fear and knowing that if they spiraled i was thousands of miles away #with no way of contacting anyone near them or getting help if something did happen #relationships can go bad even when everyone has good intentions #they probably think i hate them but tbh i just wish they'd get whatever they need to pull them out of the hell in their own head #they're a good and kind person just stuck in the shittiest kinds of place