#have you SEEN those smiles

[magicaldragons]

Ryu shi-oh is a Tragic™ villain

it's official guys, he's fullfilled all criteria 😩

#sharp jawline #tragic backstory #potential fluffy boi #have you SEEN those smiles #strong girl nam soon #ryu shi oh

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[thefirstpaleontologist]

Anatomy of Alastors demonic forms

#Alastor #hazbin hotel #we know he got shot in the head by a hunter and that’s how he died #and that that’s prob tied to why he��s a deer demon #and radio dial eyes is obv because of his ties to being a radio host in life and now in death #but do we know anything about the stitches and broken neck #in a lot of scenes we see him twist his neck violently #and in his demons forms it’s always crooked #did his neck get snapped during or after he was shot? #I guarantee you that if we ever get a scene where Alston’s neck is bare it will have a fucked up scar or something #I’ve heard theories that the stitches on his mouth could be tied to his constant smile #either that his smile is such an important feature that it became permanent in death #or that whoever he made a deal with made it so he’s not able to actually talk about it #could be both even because in some scenes there’s only stitches in the corner of his mouth and in the deal scene they’re all the way across #personally the stitches in combo with the deer form and the fact he was killed by a hunter makes my mind go to taxidermy #it kind of looks like he was stuffed and stitched up #I’ve also seen people compare his stiches to those voodoo dolls #but I dont know enough about them to make any kind of comparison

[sollucets]

Hey, Sand, have you seen--

#only friends #ofts #only friends the series #sandray #raysand #mdni #rowan gifs #here it is finally #i made this on saturday right after the episode but tumblr refused to put it in the tags #i know a few of you saw it anyway somehow and i do love you for it (nastia kisses to u especially <3) #anyway have you ever seen two people more grossly romantic about a morning hj #what are those SMILES

[fear-no-mort]

i cant get over the whole time in the real world rick just sat there watching over morty and when he woke up finally rick sounded SO happy the way he just yelled his name excitedly the second he woke up,,,

#i miss them already…. #AND ALSO AT THE END. MORTY WAS KIND OF IN A WAY WHAT STOPPED RICK FROM JUMPING INTO THE HOLE TO SEE DIANE. #you saw him like look sad for a second that he wouldn’t get to see her but then his expression changed to a firm one when he decided he was #-going to put mortys picture on the wall and then his little smile after he did… morty isn’t dianes replacement hes even better than that #THATS HOW I SEE IT THOUGH. one of the biggest appeals of r&m to me is just how they are eachothers absolute favourite and they outweigh- #-everything the others ever known. i think this episode really showed that alot. #despite everything he’s seen and experienced mortys biggest fear is rick not caring about him #and like. that’s funny bc that’s a thing where everybody knows for a fact that’s literally impossible #the biggest contributor for why SO many things in the show have happened is rick loves morty more than anything #also that one part in the whole sequence with them growing up where it showed r&m drinking togehter that made me so happy bc like #it was one of those moments where i was like. Oh yeah duhdoy i almost forgot they’re going to be best friends for ever and ever #hhhgg. so many good things so much so much. also im probably not going to touch this episode for a week lol #i Need time ok. #rick and morty #rick and morty spoilers #odiespeak

[lunarharp]

when an obsessed orufrey person plays ace attorney for the first time in a while

#witch hat tag #orufrey #you know those times when the defendant is still in shambles at the end of a case because it was not a clear-cut thing #but you get to present one Special Sentimental piece of evidence that proves not all is lost #qifrey's breakdown would be like... he turns up calm and pleasant like dahlia kristoph gant etc but very quickly: #well first he's hiding his scar so you have to use the bracelet and also you find out about the seal on his hat using that. #eventually he is throwing water that comes out of nowhere like that coffee prosecutor guy. and his cape starts billowing #the more he breaks down his neck thingies start coming undone btw. To represent his descent into guilt and his LIES becoming undone. #course as the player i have already used my magatama and seen his 35894 psychelocks. but theyre those BLACK psychelocks #representing his repressed memories taken by the brimhats. also his glasses shatter out of nowhere when you keep presenting evidence #and tartah's testimony etc. and the player is like UHH this guy is A PUPPET MASTER but coco's heartfelt testimony commands the tone #and of course he's someone who has been twisted and damaged by trauma like adrian andrews. the mastermind is of course the brimhats #only me with my magatama knows that... only i can do it. It has to be me..... #just like how as the reader i can see everything about qifrey and i can hold him dear as much as i judge him #whereas if i were oru things would not be ok unless memories can be restored and mentally ill decisions can be illuminated #WELL ANYWAY !!!!! what i appreciate about ace attorney is its ability to mix silliness with seriousness #i cant usually make jokes about serious heavy heartbreaking stuff in witch hat because it is all very intense emotions for me #but i appreciate ace attorney's mix of sincerity and psychological pain and the inherent silliness to being a character in a situation #so.....Get Iguin on the stand. Now. BAILIFF.. TAKE OFF THE MASK #i would most love to be able to prove qifrey's eyesight is failing. hed be like I have no reason to pursue the brimhats (smiles pleasantly) #and it would be like You're lowering your gaze.. proof that the court lighting is too harsh for you..! #his glasses would crack at that moment btw. I used apollo's bracelet and saw the glyphs on the glass. #I know all about u. and i will save u

[skyward-floored]

Did people who don't see any zelink in hyrule warriors even play the same game as me

#like no offense #please nobody take offense #BUT #my friend. have you seen the way those two goobers look at each other. #they were making lovey-dovey eyes at each other literal minutes into the game #the smiles they give each other! #their dialogue when they're in the same battle!! #that end bit with the master sword where they both put it back together!!! the way their hands touch!!! AAAAH #I mean whatever read into it however you like I won't police #but i don't get it #rambles from the floor #zelink #hw zelink

[oatbugs]

i think if i painted my ex situationship i'd be cured it's the most shallow but intense connection i've had w anyone i think i am so obsessed w how she looks i want 2 photograph her/paint her forever rant in tags but ive talked abt it b4 so feel free to ignore

#god her personality is so . kind of repulsive its insane i think shes a good friend to her friends but #the way she just openly admitted to treating her exes like they r less than human w the most beautiful smile u have seen in ur life #shes acc tainted tottenham court for me bc i keep thinking of our second date where she wrapped her hands around me from behind waiting for #the train . also yh sorry we were one of those cringe ppl on the escalator sorry sorry never again sorry #shes shorter than me but on the escelators she was taller so she kissed the top of my head gently #w the most beautiful side profile on earth she said she didnt even lead me on. its fine it was never that serious #ill FUCKING KILL YOU #thinking abt when on a date she was like . yh my ex would look lovely pregnant 😊 like bitch. WHAT #also she has central heterochromia so like . super beautiful big green/brown eyes longest eyelashes ever + i dont want to lose you i think #im 80% sure we should just be friends ok my love #i took you to a party on a high-rise and you held my neck when u kissed me on a canary wharf rooftop and now you just told me you want to #fuck pregnant women and that you basically cheated on your ex who then cheated on you but its ok bc shes the love of ur life #???? #anyway #sorry i am acc basically almost entirely over her this was triggered by her texting me to meet up a few mins ago #after ghosting me for a while . anywya w/e time to hang out w friends and study

[bylertruther]

y'all moved on but i literally still can't believe this is real life. what the fuck. spread ur wings, mr schnapp... sniffling, crying, weeping bc i am so full of Joy... not 2 be corny but it's always a lovely thing when someone steps into the light n lives their truth... when they feel safe and loved enough by those in their life that they feel they can and genuinely want to share this part of themselves with the world... mr schnapp who has played will byers for such a big part of his life and explored his own self and come to terms with who he is at the same time that will has... will, who means so much to so many and has such a realistic journey that we seldom get to see, especially in such mainstream media, literally the biggest show in the world... just so moved that he went from being scared in the closet to feeling so loved and at peace that he would share this part of himself with the world in such a silly, light-hearted, and entirely noah way, always so true to himself and full of light... i just. 🥺 a lot of feelings are being felt rn. good for him!! GOOD FOR HIM!!!!! 💗🏳️‍🌈🫂

#like. he's gay 🥺!! tears in ym eyes lol the reality hit me like. omg. he's gay.... noah schnapp... gay... revealed it in a silly funny #little tiktok.. with a smile on his face :) <3 it just makes my heart so happy!!! i love when anyone feels safe enough to come out!! #i wish we didn't have to i wish that we could just exist and have it not be a big deal but we aren't there yet and for now i just. #i just !!!!! feel so happy!!! for him and those who felt inspired by his courage and told their loved ones about themselves too! #and for those of you that can't do that just know that you are still loved and seen and you are not less than or any less valid! #peace and love on planet earth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🥺😭🤧💓 #scared in the closet to being out and proud and smiling about it.... bro i'm really crying rn like . love is so real... it's out there... #staring up at my ceiling thinking abt how none of us are ever alone... wauw life is um . well. life sure is something sometimes huh

[yellowloid]

thinking about that "there's nowhere for me to hide" quote that's been going around and the fact that it's actually the opposite. i know he's mostly talking about writing and yes when it comes to am he's the one doing (most of) the lyrical work on records as opposed to tlsp where him and miles are 50-50 and they have a whole different creative process than he does with am. but when it comes to being on stage, performing with am is actually the time he hides most. perhaps exactly because he's up there alone as a frontman, hence the need to "protect" himself by putting on a persona, a mask that can be conveniently taken off once he's hopped off stage (a theme that has been widely explored in the last albums, but really it's been there his whole discography - including obviously tlsp with the bourne identity and also his solo work with songs such as hiding tonight). but when he's up there on stage with miles, and miles is "up there singing with [him]", he says it gives him somewhere to hide because that 50-50 ratio that comes with writing translates to their stage presence as well. however one could argue that it's that same equal ratio that makes it so that he doesn't, in fact, hide at all when it comes to tlsp performances, and especially eycte era ones. because the knowledge that not all attention is on him, but rather distributed equally on the both of them, added to the reassurance that having miles there gives him, results in what is maybe his most genuinely maskless behaviour, of which we've seen countless examples during the 2016 tour. and although one could also say that that one, too, could partly be a persona in and of itself, the point still stands - he might be hiding in different ways depending on whether he's up there as the am or tlsp frontman, but being two halves of a whole with miles certainly didn't give him more of a hiding place. on the contrary.

#thoughts that haunt me while i'm trying to take a Normal&Peaceful Shower TM #mind you this isn't even about milex i just find it very interesting how he talks about being able to hide when he's up there with miles > #> as opposed to am. because bruh. that is the furthest thing from hiding we've seen on tour in 2016 #those were some of the most genuine antics/shenanigans/smiles/behaviours he's ever shown in 20+ years of career #it was just a man being silly with his best friend. not a single thought behind those eyes. except maybe one-- [gunshots] #but yeah it was just real. and he's real eith am too it's just. in a different way #something was in the air in 2015/2016 that made him not worry about putting on a mask and we'll never know what it really was #and i think that's incredibly interesting #alex turner #arctic monkeys #tlsp #ramblings #btw while reading this you have to imagine me putting him under a microscope. to study him

[morkofday]

every time i hear mork say "someone like me" in his self-deprecating voice while smiling as if it doesn't hurt and burn and gnaw on his poor heart, i want to bonk him on the head affectionately

#i mean that's relatable but MY GUY #DO I HAVE NEWS FOR YOU #and those are: you are enough and you are doing perfectly fine #he knows the exact things to do for day #HAVEN'T YOU SEEN HIS SMILE #*smothers him with aggressive kisses on the forehead* #last twilight

[starscelly]

no phones or cameras were harmed in the making of this video

#“WHAT ARE YOU DOING ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND?????? #JASON WHATSBSVDBWBXB SO DRAMATIC #for those who have not seen/don’t use twt #dallas stars #esa lindell #hm #jason robertson #for the yelling idk #stars lb #esa smile <3 #attempted assassination !!

[possamble]

woke up and got absolutely obliterated by a farcille fancomic on twitter how are you guys doing

#possramble #lsdfjvnsf it's by shindo9600 and you've probably already seen it if you're on twitter #i just. hooo boy i don't cry often #but that one was just like. every single had something that got to me and there were just like two pages in sequence that GUTTED me #i hate twitter's 4-image limit bc those two pages are split across two posts and like #i think it would have hit even harder if it was immediately in sequence instead of you having to click to another post #but jesus christ just. marcille holding falin and feeling the difference between little falin and the one in front of her #and then it cuts to two panels of her earliest memory of holding her father's hand and here last memory of it. #and then because it goes immediately to her hand on falin's face you don't get to see her expression until the next page #and it's just this held breath of grief and sadness until you see her smiling wryly and at least halfway reconciling with it #instead of flinching away from it #i had to put my coffee down and rub my eyes like wow. #i. god. what the fuck

[nepotisim]

I've said it before but I'd like to say it again. I've noticed that the sims/simblr community has become a prominently black/POC space over these past few years, and I honestly couldn't be happier. Most of my life, I've felt ostracized by my own community because of my non-stereotypical interests, which was compounded with neurodivergence I have finally come to accept and am learning to deal with. It feels really nice to have a community, even if it is online, of people that you can identify with and talk to on more levels than "I like this game."

I also feel like these past couple years, this game and this community has helped me fall in love with myself. When I started my simblr 10 years ago, there was such little representation of people that looked like me; plus sized and dark skinned. I did not resonate with any of my sims and often found myself giving the same European features over and over again to sims no matter what the skin tone because when I used something darker, it just didn't feel right. I am so grateful for the overflow of natural hairs, cocoa complexions, and different types of skins to represent different shapes and types of uniqueness. I am so grateful I am able to share my sims with you, but also represent people I see in my own family and my own community, in my own life. I used to feel my blackness was ugly and undesirable because it was never shown in media, so now in my 30s, it's an amazing feeling to not only see people like myself in media, but also to be highly praised and put at center stage.

I can't do anything about how it was when I was a child, but I'm so happy that I'm finally able to create the representation I needed as a child and heal her from the inside out.

#thank you to all of you amazing cc creators #ryn rambles #I also don't mean this as a slight to those non-poc people that come across this ramble #but for a long time i have felt so alone with my interests and in this community until last year #not only has my following grown immensely and I am so grateful for every one of you who want to see my nonsense #but I have made a handful of new friends and I'm really hoping these are some lifelong relationships #y'all know who you are #I have never felt as beautiful and as seen as I have these past handful of years #and it's silly to credit a game franchise for that but not only speaking about my sims but the beautiful melanated sims i see from friends #and all of you guys brings a smile to my face ily blm

[mblue-art]

It's me again, anon, who adores your love-hate towards Cross. Friend recently showed me a video in tiktok where there was a sound of 'oh I hate that man...but oh, cara mia...how i love him'. It immediately reminded me of you. Tsunderes keep winning. Let's go tsunderes ✊️

hhhh h hhhi anon i do, i do ha-

#ask #mblue talks #mblue art #self insert #.. dammit #HSHFBXNZN #('oh i love tsunderes' — *becomes one* — *surprised pikachu meme*) #(each day i get a cross simp thought i ask myself WHY am i a tsundere for this man istg smfh 😤😤😤‼️/lh) #(everytime i get a cross brainrot it hits hard and it burns (just like the blush on my cheeks HSHFHCBDN/J) for how goddamn long it lasts) #(once again i wanna be mean to him and lovingly bully him but also he deserves the niceys!!!) #(tired man tired boy needs to RELAX‼️ like sheesh ur shoulders look stiff dude im patting those tf down; ease up my man) #(gonna do that thing where i plat my palm onto his forehead bc of how much hes furrowing his brows!!) #(thatll probably surprise him and unfurrow those for a few secs LOL) #(give him a lazy day; let him roll around in bed with the fluffiest pillows and the softest blankets and watch anime and drink choccy malk) #(ok that just sounds like i wanna pamper him HSHHRFNKDSK BUT STILL i want him to be happy HAVE YOU SEEN HIM SMILE GENUINELY????) #(like in fanart nstuff LIKE WHY DOES HE LOOK LIKE THAT /POS) #(hes got that anime boy charm somehow istg) #anyway ramble over im sorry hello tag readers did you enjoy me simping 😎 (imagine my hands folded on the table) #m rambles #CM

[rubysparx]

Ok fine fine fine I’ll share my takes with the class.

FIRST OF ALL THO. Jrwi art dump coming soon MAYBE.

Okay anyway I see everyone saying butch Arthur Bennet which is fucking awesome, I love that, but I have to inform the masses that while listening on my own time I decided he’s transhet and I am attached to this concept now sory </3 I’ve also seen everyone talking abt Emizel and Soda and idk what’s going on behind the scenes with that so I will just believe you, yeah he’s gay. I thought about saying he’s bi but as it happens I was once again projecting.. also I think he’s nonbinary but not yet. Like he’s having what happened to Jonathan Archives. The horrors occur and you die but don’t really die but there are more horrors so you never really have time to process the feeling of being not a man as in not human and also just literally not a man. Ok last one forgive me for my insanity I think Prince Shilo is cis and sucks abt it. I think gender roles are baked into him but he also thinks they don’t apply to him or apply differently bc he is royalty . Heteronormativity isn’t real with vampires tho in fact I’d even bet on homonormativity. Yeah he’s gay, he’s flirty with his guards, yeah.

#on record I don’t rlly. have any ships yet? #and I don’t think this campaign is gonna be free so I probably never will #also Scrubby if you see this so sorry if you didn’t know those things abt Jon </3 #good luck on the tma listening. it will change you permanently. smiles #OH ALSO I’ve seen some ppl shipping Shilo with his guard #I do not #like obv u guys do whatever u want I’m just #saying like . to me Shilo actually cares soooo little about the well being of the ppl around him #he’s got that high elf ‘humans are pets ^_^’ swagger to me #his guards are so incredibly replaceable he fails to be mature enough to understand the complexities of their lives #he’s immature!! is the thing! he’s manipulative and evil in the head brother I prommy #I love him for this also #compulsive liar swag #he cares about animals. and the important people. and any outsiders #but inside the walls of his prison #the guards are. just guards. just drones to command. and it’s soooo fun to mess with them #yeah yeah yeah whatever Prince Shilo is your favorite Ruby shut up… #jrwi #jrwi the suckening #<- I can’t believe they stuck with that btw #wish me luck guys I’ve been catching up on riptide……