#in feminine clothing etc

[gideonisms]

Hardest things to accept in my late 20s have been that A) one day per week in which I putter around my apartment rearranging very inconsequential items IS necessary for my emotional stability B) if I don't eat I'll look haggard. what do you know that has physical effects C) if I don't ever buy new clothes I start to look out of place and unkempt in the clothing I own because 10 years is a long time

#and D) just because someone is easy to be around does NOT mean i actually like them. those are TWO different emotions #god. having a day #all my clothing is wrong my appearance is wrong idk why it just is. i don't THINK it's a gender thing because now i'm like #i need long hair and clothing that fits Immediately. looking at photos where i'm feminine feels wrong looking at photos where i'm masculine #also wrong. what was that haircut etc etc #i wanted to go out and accomplish all my errands but the thought of driving or experiencing sounds and sights made me nauseous #alas #podcasts and cleaning it is

[puphoods]

enough of this btw

#liek fat women wearing regular womens clothes that thin women wear and arent called butch #but the fat women are is pretty umm. well its a little. you know... #inb4 of course this doesnt imply butch or masc =bad dont be stupid.. this is abt how #fat women r seen as inherently GNC by virtue of being fat and that they can wear #the exact same things that thin women r praised for and called feminine and fashionable but the fat woman is called unwomanly #or masculine or etc. #et cetera #and YES they are dating. before u all say it

[craycraybluejay]

On the next episode of Are Maleness and Sadism Interlinked or Am I Just Weird About My Masculinity and Kink

#my tranny sex mysticism is cooler than your cissy sex mysticism #although gender in general is a construct and everyone ties things to their gender which have little or no #real connection to anything like that #bc gender is identity #clothes are the easiest example but #i think i understand when people say stuff that sounds nonsensical like 'my gender is venus flytrap' #because gender is identity and if its a big thing in your identity you kinda like #connect it to your femaleness or maleness or both neither other #like when a girl fights shes still feminine kicking ass and that doesnt make her any less good at kicking ass #or when a guy does his nails it can very much be a masculine thing for him #its all made up and based on vague feelings and concepts #so sure conservatives feel free to identify as an ak47 you know its not a gotcha #and radfems feel free to keep calling me a monster it makes me hard <3 #but yea like. identity is both complex and simple. its the human condition to identify with things #and i dont think 'neogenders' are particularly new i just think we had different words or no words for that #but people have and always will identify with anything and everything #thats human nature. we mirror and absorb and grow #even twin sisters experience femaleness differently or even call it different things #girlhood or being a lady etc etc #even within the cishet society gender is not as simple as authoritarians would like you to believe #anyway yeah my gender identity is sadistic male aligned freak and other things

[dyketubbo]

yknow i think ive realized the underlying reason why i always sorta err away from o!ranboo having tits to signify that Shes Girl Now is just that this fandom really needs to expand its perception of trans women beyond boobs long hair and feminine clothing. hell this kind of happens even with like.. fem ocs made in the context of mcyt, or even within [shudders] genderbend work. ive noticed it mainly with like, cranboo moms or even just girl family members to cranboo/oranboo in general where people seem like.. afraid to depict women as. not conventionally attractive, and it has to be clear that nonhumans are women by Human Standards through what us as humans believe are signifiers of gender

and sure theres plenty of people who will talk about how boobs arent inherently gendered, how its important for transmasc fans to see men with boobs so that thats normalized but like. idk youd think maybe in a fandom thatll keep talking about being diverse and shit theyd care to stop thinking of signifiers of womanhood being.. skirts/dresses long wavy hair and tits even on characters who have no reason to have tits. like didnt yall learn anything from the criticisms of movies that went "this one has a pink bow so its a Girl"

#mask mews #probably needed disclaimer that i dont think. this is a moral issue. or whatever #its just a personal issue based off a pattern i noticed #have fun with designs just.. idk. i think theres some worth in maybe. trying to diversify how you perceive and depict women..? #just thinking out loud etc etc #i dont think im necessarily completely exempt from this ive noticed this kind of habit in my own work #but i wanna move on from it #and itd be nice to see others try to change it up too #draw oranboo with short hair still asserting herself as a princess #make one of cranboos moms bald and average looking. draw transfem ctommy in clothing she would wear even pre transition #etc etc #dont completely move away from femininity because thats still important especially when it comes to gender presentation #just like.. have fun with what exactly femininity Means

[skitskatdacat63]

Maybe im just too used to it atp, but it's funny to me how easy it is for me to draw seb and fernando with long flowing beautiful curly hair/wigs for my au, but when I even just try to imagine other people in it, like Mark and Jense, I can't even imagine them wearing the same type of thing at all 😭😭

#ig theres smth about like fernando and seb being more feminine in their role of ruler #and others like mark and jense being more masc in their roles of service hmmmmmm #but like mark = automatically short hair. absolutely no wig. cant even imagine him w slightly longer hair #jense more close to his honda hair length but cant imagine him w super long hair either #and the others which i havent really touched on(ex. kimi nico lewis mick etc) #i dont know if many of them i could draw w long hair either. maybe nico ??? #i guess its mainly bcs it kinda goes along w whos had longer hair irl #but its not like seb or fernando have had super long hair akin to what i draw #but somehow to me it suits them very well 🤧🤧 very majestic very kingly #i cant imagine living back then and theyre like yeah wigs the fashion and you look absolutely shit in a wig #do you just live w that??? do you just cope?????? #one day i will draw a comic of mark trying on a wig and them relentlessly bullying him #it just doesnt suit him at all!!! like i cant imagine it at all #well anyways this is all to say that i want to draw portraits of mark and jense #maybe ill play around a bit with jense #the only thing is just: he needs to wear a tricorn/bicorn hat LMFAO #hes just that type of guy to me #also i wonder what colors ill do #mark is the same clothing colors of seb 🤭🤭 cause he belongs to him YKNOW #and then jense idk. i think i drew him before w reddish orange cause mclaren which is okay???? #idk theres just a lot to me abt color coding and like who belongs w who and who is opposed to who #<- which is why seb and fernando are always blue/red for me #catie.rambling.txt

[badnikbreaker]

none of u are ready for the roleswap im cookin up

#mun art. #the different names are because i figured starline was unlikely to use their real names #id have liked to revert to surge and kit's 'real' names to highlight the difference but. lmao. dont know what those are #yes rascal is a ref to rosy rascal. it just made sense #lets see what else....design notes.... #my first few sketches i did of rose at work pulled more from surge's concept art and i liked a lot of it #but very little looked like AMY yknow #so i pulled in other elements from previous amy designs that were punkier #particularly her sonic the comic stuff #i abandoned most of creams clothing colour scheme cos i wanted it 2 be really obvious that she was Built and Designed to echo ames #the jacket shes wearing is one of amy's! cream prefers big jackets she can hide inside #doesnt like feeling Exposed. very nervous #i wanted 2 keep surge and kits basic colours / etc but make them feel like Designed if that makes sense #like more casual. not built 2 be heroes just ppl who hang out #surge is still a lil punky and more masc / androgynous when compared 2 ames which was important to me #i didnt want to just swap em and make surge feminine while amy gets masculine #amys still feminine! just a punkier version! etc #personals do NOT interact w this ill EAT YOU #i wanna put a Cleaner version of this on my art blog eventually #but i wanted 2 share this asap cos im having so much rotating them in my brain

[perilegs]

i’m making huge generalizations here but idk i feel so much more comfortable just existing around trans (and some gnc) people than i do with people who are cis (and gender conforming) bc of the way we view our - and other peoples bodies. i hear trans people talk about bodies with so much love and adoration. like sure hating your body is a big thing for most trans people but most of us also learn to accept what we look like. and the acceptance often turns to genuinely liking yourself. especially if you make changes you want to to your body. it’s just. idk i feel like only a trans person could see my body for what it is

#ive seen a lot of trans art recently and its all been so lovingly made and with clear adoration towards bodies that look like yours #idk im not very eloquent and theres a lot more nuance to this entire thing #but like. i personally love my body like yea i have parts im insecure about we all do but also i have been able to choose to do things to m #body that make me happy! and i dont just mean surgery and hrt bc thats not for anyone but also choosing to do whatever the hell i want to #with my hair and getting piercings and dressing in a way that feels good #i know being able to dress etc the way you want to is a privilege #and im so grateful for it #i can't believe there was a time when i wasnt allowed to cut my hair or wear boy clothes and i had to dress up as a girl #and got constantly reminded of being a failure of femininity etc. and now that i dont talk to my mom anymore im so free #i can exist in my body and i actually feel like my body is mine and not there just for show if that makes sense #like i look in the mirror and go that me! #and also like seeing myself like that has obviously made me appreciate others bodies as well #bc when you have for a long time always payed attention to the positives of a certain thing you start noticing positives more! #just like how idk going for a walk and finding 5 nice things you appreciate or looking #in the mirror and listing things you like about yourself #out loud. even if you feel uncomfortable #it helps #can you believe you're happier when you fall a bit in love with everything around you #there are so many wonderful things on this earth and you have to condition yourself to notice them and its hard work that never stops #but it is so worth it #i have lost the plot of my post #leevi talks #anyways i love how trans people love bodies

[deblklesb]

I'M SO STUPID I ALWAYS TAG MY ONESHOTS "fem!reader" NOT IN SAYING READER PRESENTS HERSELF AS NECESSARILY FEMININE BUT JUST SAYING READER IS AFAB BUT I SHOULD'VE JUST PUT AFAB

like in my head reader has mostly neutral gender presentation, and unless i have to specify clothing i just don't think about it too hard bc my intention most of the times is to keep neutral so anyone can self-insert!! BUT after reading some stuff around here i notice that most of the times "fem!reader" is about like expression+clothing/presentation and the opposite is mostly "masc!reader" as in reader is afab/female and masc in clothing/presentation/expression

idk how to explain that it never crossed my mind that way i swear and now i feel stupid for never noticing it, sorry

#like there's nothing wrong with “fem!reader” as in reader is more feminine presenting but the point is that wasn't my intention necessarily #bc i try to keep it neutral for the sake of whoever is reading can self-insert in any presenting way #unless i specify clothings and etc #ykwim?? #and now i feel kinda bad bc i tried to maintain neutral and could've accidentally made y'all think i was referring to gender presentation #like restricting to a specific presentation when my intention was the complete opposite!!! #abby anderson x reader #ellie williams x reader #abby x reader #ellie x reader #deblklesb speaks

[pawphin]

#HER TRANSMASC SHE/HER SWAG!!!!!!! #its not that she hates ''feminine'' clothes like dresses skirts etc but when given the choice she tends to gravitate to more masculine #options and yeah. yeah same #no im not projecting what are you talking about #also its really interesting reading the tags on my pride icon poll #i decided to change my icon because emma is so important to me that it feels weird associating her with something i dont headcanon #dont worry i will not shut up about being a lesbian this pride month #ill just let my transmascness shine a little too since its still a more recent discovery #ok i need to finish this homework im almost done with it..

[cruelsister-moved2]

watching sailor moon and learning about the scrapped SuperS movie script makes it so obvious ikuhara literally just thinks masculine women are really cool and understands that a lot of girls admire them and enjoy seeing masc/fem lesbian relationships lol so it makes peoples one-note analysis of utena's masculinity fall even flatter than before bc you really shouldnt be overlooking the commitment to like extremely positive portrayals of female masculinity in his work just to be like "we're ALL princes and princesses in the end!!!11!!!!!" forthe billionth time

#somepost i lost on here abt how beauty or stuff lookign appealing is like morally neutral in rgu #awful stuff is shown beautifully and to a lesser extent vice versa #which plays really well with the themes about abuse etc bc of the cultural expectation that abuse looks ugly blinding ppl to the reality of #it. #but yeah like u cant overlook the fact that utena simply is masculine because its cool and she likes it. youre literally not invited at any #point to ponder any kind of Deeper Meaning to her masculinity #and it invites you to think about so many things but its so clear tha tlike she just is masc #and both times shes shown in feminine clothing as an adult #it says this. ESPECIALLY the first time literally a whole ep devoted to wakaba telling you that she just IS masc. i hate it here guys

[silverislander]

i have a weird relationship w the way i look bc on the one hand luckily i don't have very bad dysphoria, i don't get it abt a lot of stuff and it's not smth that's constant either i'm very lucky that way. but also. i know that w my body and my face and my voice i am never going to look a way that makes other people perceive me as what i am and that feels. really bad. but also i don't deserve to feel bad abt that bc i have features that are conventionally attractive. but also i hate them

#its not even that i want to change myself for the most part. its that i wish i could change how other people read those parts of me #the only thing i wish i could change is my chest and having periods and thats partially bc its inconvenient #almost everything else is habitual. clothes/hair/the way i walk and move/etc #but just. the second people hear me talk they read me as a woman and it makes me want to fucking scream #and i have a v round 'feminine' face so like. its that x2. i get read as a teenage girl all the fucking time #and i like those things abt myself!! i like my voice and the way i look #i wish people just. wouldnt assume at all. i wish i could fucking confuse them actually i wish they couldnt tell anything #as a kid i read a lot of 'girl dresses as a boy to do xyz' and i always loved those stories #not bc i /wanted to be/ a boy (trust me ive fuckin questioned that lmao) but bc like. the freedom to pick and move around between #being able to get people to recognize you as what you want to be. being both and neither and smth else entirely #hell i still get a lot of euphoria from confusing people honestly. i cant meaningfully be misgendered bc youre either right or funny #idk! idk. its a very first world problem i know but im never going to be seen as the me that exists inside my head #and i think im allowed to be a little sad abt it #levi.txt

[medicasino]

ive just accepted im just never going to fit cleanly into any label or community ever

#affie txt #vent incoming sorry ik this is probably really annoying #and im also sorry if this comes off insensitive or ''i have it SO hard'' i dont mean to be like that #but just. no matter how my identity rolls out i always feel like an imposter in some way #when i ided as a lesbian i already knew i was nonbinary and despite my yearning to experience it; i never knew and will never experience #being a lesbian and a binary woman. and ofc when i ided as a nonbinary lesbian was during that whole bullshit ''nonbinary people cant be #lesbians'' debate that resurfaced so that didnt fucking help #but im not a lesbian im bi so that was easy i guess. or easier #not being binary or very knowledgeable on queer history (tbh i want to change this im not proud of that) and having not participated in #many pride events and queer spaces irl (due to uh. yunno. Covid lol) #has like really made me feel like an imposter that just doesnt fit in anywhere #and now coming to terms with me being transmasc and having a strong attraction towards men and nonbinary folks has really uh. shaken things #up #and not fully in a good way bc its left me scrambling to put together the pieces #its left me in sooooooooooooo much distress i feel like so sick over it #its. not fun. esp bc im still pre-op so very girlish in appearance and voice eugh #and on top of that im also still nonbinary and do feel more neutral/androgynous some days and also consider myself gnc bc i like feminine #clothes and stuff so like. AUGH! and im also fucking 5'1-2 so no matter if i bind or get top surgery or etc i dont think ill ever pass as #not a girl so . pain! #and even saying all that makes me feel guilty bc its like. is that just internalized misogyny? am i misogynistic for feeling this way? and #IK IN MY RATIONAL MIND THATS BULLSHIT AND THIS IS *ONLY* ABT ME NOT OTHER TRANSMASCS AND NBLMS/MLMS TO BE CLEAR #im just an anxious mess with ocd and anxiety in general that just loooooooooooves latching onto bullshit like this to prove im predatory or #weird. also other ocd themes dont fucking help? #idk ill shut up now i need to be on a call but just like. its painful bc i dont feel like i fit into any queer communities lol #this also applies to disability stuff but im NOT cracking that can of worms open today sorry #ok gopdbye for now . responses are ok btw but also no pressure im kinda just emptying my head lol #vent #rant #ask to tag

[viiinz]

rant incoming, see prev post (transphobia tw)

#i didn't want to add on to the prev post but yeah that kinda hit home #i came out as trans to my parents about 2 months ago #i was so scared to tell them for years exactly because of what prev post was talking about #i had no idea how they'd react #and then when i finally told me they said they needed time #which sure i understand that #and the first week they still talked about it but in this way that felt like i was the cause of all their suffering #and why would i do something like that to them? #and you're not really going to mutilate yourself are you (meaning medically transition)? #and you can't expect us to use different pronouns for you that's ridiculous #and how dare you even think about changing your name etc #and they say it's because they're worried about me #because what would other people think? what would the family say? #and surely no one will ever fall in love with you if you're trans #they think I'm purposefully setting myself up to be isolated from society forever #meanwhile they are the only one's who've reacted this badly #so that was all said the first week so naturally after that i was scared to bring it up again #and they haven't really talked about either since then #except for the way my mom keeps suggesting i dress more feminine and keeps buying me clothing from the female section #and send me pictures of girls with pixie cuts when i told her i wanted to change my hairstyle a bit #and during Christmas dinner my grandma brought up someone who I don't know who came out as trans #and spoke about how that person's mother or grandmother had reacted badly #and my mom was defending the transphobic person in that story #while i was sitting right there!! #meanwhile my aunt and grandma (who don't know I'm trans) where definding the trans person #and i just urgh like i know it's not easy for them but they just make me feel so guilty like I'm somehow ruining their lives #and i feel stupid for wanting that unconditional love and support from my parents #like they'll say they love me but it feels so hollow when they won't even acknowledge this major part of me #and i really just don't know how to feel about it all #vince talks

[nevergoesout]

i adoooooree my clothes so much i have so many really beautiful pieces and i know the story behind each one like they’re my friends . and everything is secondhand/vintage save like one or two things which i have had for years which if nothing else just feels like an achievement !

#i love natural fibres i love earth tones i love vintage silhouettes #i have put a lot of effort into finding clothes that fit my absolute favourite style #and like it takes work ! to find vintage/vintagey clothes that look classic without looking feminine without just wearing men’s stuff #so they like flatter my waist and hips etc #but i have done it and u know ! that’s very cool of me #alia #cloves

[yurious-george]

Butch ass

#I’m pretty solidly femme and I accept that #I like being feminine and have doors opened for me and etc #but it’s so fun to have this haircut and these clothes #gender… 💕❤️💕 #the mzungu’s face

[roaringroa]

i’m not crazy for shopping but there is a very confidence building feeling when i find something in my style that fits me 

#bought some clothes today and i surprisingly enjoyed it quite a bit #i'm very much a comfort over style person and don't usually care that much about what i wear #but i do wanna dress up when i go out and up until like 2 years ago i really didn't have nicer clothes for that #i think growing up i had a hard time with dressing up cause: #i don't like feminine clothing + i don't like more elaborate clothing (with a lot of patterns etc) + i don't like showing too much skin #+ i am too small for a lot of stuff on the men's section + i didn't even have the confidence to go to the men's section #+ i don't like shopping with other people #so like usually i would just wear jeans and a t-shirt #which is nice i still wear that a lot #but now i also wear other things or nicer shirts or different jeans or stuff to complimentthat #it took me a long time to find my style and i'm still figuring it out #i don't buy clothes often but it is nice to find something new and like how it looks on you #all of this to say i bought like 8 items today #which includes a leather jacker #something i've been waiting for years but could never find one that i liked the look on me #so this one i got today plus having just cut my hair is giving me a very appreciated confidence boost #my post