#istrauma

[intersexfairy]

the assumption that intersex people are inherently nonbinary is just another way of saying sex = gender. it essentially means that intersex people can't be their gender because of their physical and biological traits... similar to how trans people are told the same thing.

transness and intersexness, transphobia and intersexism... aren't the same. but the bigotry we face ultimately comes from the same place. a more pressing and dangerous example of this is how the laws that ban GAHT for trans youth and bar trans youth from sports... are the very same laws that encourage the abuse of intersex youth, barring them from GAHT and sports as well.

this is all to say, trans liberation is intersex liberation and intersex liberation is trans liberation. we're being spun on two sides of the same coin. if we all reach around to the other side and pull, we can topple it and be free.

#ifairy #intersexism #transphobia #anti trans laws #igm tw #igm #istrauma #queer liberation #trans liberation #intersex liberation #queer #queerphobia

[intersexfairy]

intersex people are not rare and the medical & scientific communities are not authorities on intersex people. intersex people are fairly common and the medical and scientific communities are our oppressors.

they're the ones who created the illusion that we're rare. they pathologize our existence, abuse us, lie to us about who we are, prevent us from being born, and from having children of our own. they call us disordered and defected. the list the of awful things they do is very long.

so, few of us know we're intersex. few of us know we can be intersex. few of us accept we're intersex. few of us are out as intersex, and if we are, people hardly know what that is. again, the list goes on. we are made invisible, and we're right in front of you. always have been.

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[intersexfairy]

little reminder that hyperandrogenism can happen in anyone, not just people who were afab. they could have been amab, aiab, axab, uab, etc. and it doesn't only happen in people with certain body features.

it's also good to keep in mind that birth isn't the only time assignment can happen. for example, someone with hyperandrogenism who was afab may get reassigned male around puberty (and vice versa).

please don't assume people's experiences with assignment - especially since intersex people can have a lot of trauma around this. and definitely don't try to dictate what identity people can have.

#ifairy #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbtiq #lgbti #lgbtia #afab #amab #agab #asab #istrauma

[intersexfairy]

being on T after essentially being hormonally reassigned female is so healing. i can see myself in the mirror again. when i look at photos of myself as a child, i can really see how their face grew into mine. i recognize myself, past and present. my face is mine. my body is mine. i'm not a performance. i'm not her. i'm not the person they forced and coerced me into being. i still haven't fullt accepted who i am and i have a lot of self hate to work through. but i'm doing a lot better than i was then, and i'm so proud of myself. i love testosterone. i love it so much.

#julian rants #istrauma #gaht #hrt #transmasc

[intersexfairy]

i wish i had know what intersex was when i started puberty. i wish i had been able to be feminine without my peers mocking me, or at least had the solace of knowing the problem wasn't me, but them. i wish i hadn't had 1 on 1 lessons about "female puberty" shoved down my throat, where i was told to shave almost my whole body and never taught about the rest of my puberty. i wish i could go back and tell the kid looking in the mirror that there's a reason they don't look like other girls, and that there's nothing wrong with them. i wish i had met and known about people like me much sooner.

#istrauma #intersexism #julian rants

[intersexfairy]

Please include intersex people in your discussions bodily autonomy. Please boost intersex voices on it. Our bodily autonomy being taken from us is one of the most pressing ways we are oppressed, and it absolutely intersects with whatever specific topic you're on. Reproductive (mainly abortion) rights is at the front of my mind right now.

Language that excludes intersex people is everywhere. What bothers me a lot is how people use the phrases afab, or people with [organ]. People afab, or with a certain organ setup, aren't the only people who can get pregnant & need care. Intersex people of any gender, any assignment (at birth or later in life), or without that certain setup, can get pregnant. Assignment also does not dictate what people's bodies can do or what they're like.

As for a few relevant experiences we may have. Some of us are forced via medical intervention to be able to become pregnant. Some of us get pregnant unexpectedly, or w/o knowing we can get pregnant. Some of us get pregnant when we want to, and are forced to have an abortion when the child is intersex (this happens to dyadic parents too).

We deserve access to care that puts our needs first - not the prejudices of the medical system. And we are tired of having our bodies invaded and not having dyadic people, especially those who should be our allies, stick up for us. At a crucial time like this, at the very least keep us in your words by not excluding us.

#ifairy #istrauma #lgbtqia #abortion rights #reproductive health #reproductive justice #reproductive rights #reproductive freedom #abortion #lgbtiq #lgbtqi #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtqipa #queer #intersectional feminism #intersectionality #long post #perisexreads #eugenics #intersexism

[intersexfairy]

there’s been too much silence on how intersex people are impacted by the anti-trans legislation. for something so harmful and deadly, i would have thought now would be the time intersexism and the abuse of intersex youth got noticed. especially by our trans dyadic peers. in most of the places i see it mentioned, we’re just that. a mention. maybe i’m not looking in the right places, but something like that shouldn’t be hard to find when the topic is headlining.

#ifairy #intersexism #istrauma #igm

[intersexfairy]

tw: intersexism, medical abuse

it's a good thing HB 675 didnt pass, but please do not ignore the fact it was for a completely horrible reason. it was so that they could continue medically abusing intersex kids via nonconsensual interventions (like genital mutilation and hormones). that's what they mean by "serving children with highly specialized medical needs." abuse.

#ifairy #igm tw #igm #istrauma #medical abuse

[intersexfairy]

I’m struggling a lot with being intersex/feeling intersex “enough” because i went through IGM, but due to circumstances surrounding my birth, my parents also didn’t know for years. do you have any advice?

I just want to start off by saying you most certainly are intersex enough. No doubt about it. Intersexness isn't quantifiable; all of us are equally intersex to each other.

I don't know if it helps to frame it this way, but a lot of us (myself included) struggle at some point or another with not feeling intersex enough. Including people we may feel not intersex enough compared to. And i feel like this doubt, in part, comes from how rigidly our oppressors define intersex. For me, remembering that when I doubt myself has helped.

Many of us have also gone through forced medical intervention and not known/have our parents not know. It's an unfortunately common experience, and I've never seen anyone think of that as meaning someone isn't intersex enough. They're accepted into the community just as everyone else is - just as you are.

As far as struggling with being intersex goes, I don't know if I can say much on that due to how personal that is. But you aren't alone in what you're going through or have gone through. If you arent in an intersex group (a server, the subreddit, in person if you can find it, etc), I'd very much recommend it. Being around other inters and talking to them has helped me on my own journey, and I've seen it do the same for others.

It is worth noting though that a kind of intersex medicalism does exist and some groups follow that, but I havent had a problem on discord or r/intersex. You can usually tell with a quick browse what kind of community one is.

#sorry this was long i hope that's okay! #interasks #igm #igm tw #istrauma #does-existance-exist

[intersexfairy]

gonna be using the tag #istrauma for posts that talk about intersex related trauma in general - for filtering purposes. it's something i want to seriously talk about for visibility & personal reasons, but i also dont want to subject my peers that may get triggered or upset from the posts to them.

#julian rants