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skipppppy · 4 months

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No offence but I feel like some people got a little too comfortable with telling people to touch grass and swung all the way round to just straight up shaming anyone who might have a less active social life than them to feel better about themselves. “She should be at the club” was a really funny meme until people started acting like fucking middle school bullies towards people who don’t go out with their friends a lot. All those drinking/drugs/sex milestone polls were fun to engage with until it became a wierd circlejerk making fun of people who haven’t done those things before. People on twitter are once again dogpiling someone for wanting queer social spaces that don’t revolve around alcohol or loud music and telling them it’s their own fault for not having friends.

Like I get that nightclubs and sex have strong ties to queer culture and are often the first targets in the hellscape of respectability politics. It’s important we remember our roots and protect these spaces from conservative scrutiny. I mean that. They are important. But just on a surface level it seems like people are starting to see having an inactive social life as some kind of moral failing which…it’s not. I feel like an insane person for feeling like I have to say this on the fucking queer autism website but like. You aren’t inherently a bad person if you don’t have friends. You aren’t “falling behind” if you haven’t had your first kiss in your 20s or never done drugs. The real world isn’t a movie. And if you see someone who doesn’t go out much and instinctually think “wow what a terminally online loser. I bet their social life sucks because they’re a sheltered creep and not because of systemic barriers beyond their control” you need to have a long hard look at why you feel that way.

There are very real barriers that prevent isolated people from finding community and connection. Do you think you’re superior for being able to breach them? Time, money, sobriety, accessibility, none of those factors were a problem for you, so it shouldn’t be for them, right? Right?

#the wider issue is that there are little to no social spaces that don’t charge you to be there anymore #capitalism has all but eradicated the third space

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samuraisharkie · 2 years

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there’s somebody that used to be a friend but blocked me that’s STILL queuing my posts!!! 😭 like that’s so awkward ur ass is gonna ghost and block me EVERYWHERE bc ur buddy was being ableist and you decided to side w them but then ur gonna keep reblogging posts from me????

#does this not upset the friend that hates my sibling’s and my guts to see us on ur dash??? lmao??#girl delete my posts if ur gonna commit to blocking me everywhere and not coming in contact w me ever again #do you not wanna see me ever again or not?? 💀 make up ur mind #they’re in her queue but one would think once she kept seeing them appear she’s remember she queued them and would go and delete them??#it’s just. weird and awkward lol like why. the whole point of blocking someone is that you don’t want to see them at all???#I’m trying to move on stop doing that it’s so fucking weird and uncomfortable lol #friendship fallouts have enough baggage stop making it worse #like ur gonna agree w me on a majority of all these big important issues #but then view me and my sibling as terminally online self righteous dumbasses #for holding ‘friends’ accountable when they say suspect ableist stuff and pointing out that personality disorders don’t make someone bad.#weird fucking line to draw.#all these other human rights issues ur agreeing w but you draw the line and ableism and mental illness??? ok???#ur friend made it pretty clear she saw that as an attack against her very character and a defense for every bad person ever so like.#if you agree w that why are you still rbing from me.

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ghoooooooooooooooost · 9 months

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i think i can make a more informed post than my first one about the projmoon situation so i’m keeping my old one locked n making this one (however, please be aware that i still may not have all the facts. i am simply relaying the korean fans on twitter)

recent twitter thread on this: here

to summarize: incels from a korean site called DC Inside Gallery went to project moon’s studio with demands (images don’t show a violent storm-in but some of them were saying violent things online; it seems more likely they wanted to cyberbully when it comes to damage). some people (including me at the time) have said they also reviewbombed limbus but apparently that part is shaky. at first it was believed this all only happened because they were mad about ishmael not getting a revealing swimsuit for the summer event, it turns out that was just one of the points they made. they wanted to harass the main artist but shifted to vellmori (the cg artist) after learning the other one is a man. the excuses they used for wanting her gone were that she retweeted tweets about the fact that hidden cameras in places like bathrooms are bad, along with pro-choice tweets and tweets that were considered feminist. these retweets were around 5 years old and had actually already been deleted by her before she joined the company. projmoon fired her very quickly and did it over phone at 11pm

projmoon has still not made any further statements and still haven’t translated the statements they already made for their global players; but they have been posting global update notices in the game itself. this makes it clear they’re avoiding social media till the criticism dies down

there are lies being spread about vellmori, please know that she is not a TERF nor an extremist – these along with other things were made up

kr fans have called for a boycott by not opening the game <(please do the boycott too)

kr fans upset by projmoon's decision recently got together to pay for a truck demo – these protest trucks simply display messages while they park or drive around, they’re not violent

the director was in japan during this for an unknown reason (possibly related to a game showcase); i'm not sure if this is effecting anything but it could be worth noting

the termination was not done to “protect” anyone (and it was handled extremely poorly either way). it was a bad, rushed decision that threw an employee under the bus

#projmoon #project moon #limbus company

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thisvegetabledoesntfallinlove · 2 years

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having aromantic feelings in this denny’s tonight bc i had to go on a blocking spree yet again.

I just think like... people don’t know shit about what it’s like to be aromantic. aphobes complain about the Fandomization Of Pride and say shit like “asexuality is basically a fandom thing; if your community is entirely online and based around tumblr tags and headcanons, you cant possibly compare it to actual real life gay experiences”

and like. i have some bad fucking news for you about gay people who live in super homophobic backwater small towns. I’ve known plenty of gay people who were completely closeted irl and whos entire interaction with queerness was online communities, especially gay shipping. that doesn’t mean there aren’t other gay people in those homophobic little towns, its just often too dangerous to look for them. there are definitely other aro people in my backwater little town! I just can’t find them. I’m not saying this is the best way to interact with the queer community! or even a good way! for instance, nobody gives a shit about gay vs aro or bi vs pan irl! this drama is all internet shit! but being terminally online is certainly not a problem unique to aspec people.

honestly, as someone who’s trans, bisexual and aromantic, the thing that’s actually made my life the most difficult for cishets to swallow is the aromantic part. my backwater town is fairly liberal, so they can be chill about the gay thing, they can even tolerate the trans thing, but not getting married???? what do you mean you can’t be like the sweater-wearing chaste gay dads in the commercials? what do you mean you don’t want to date but you still want to have sex???????

nothing about my identity is palatable. nothing about me is relatable or marketable. my life, my future, my happiness, looks completely alien to your average cishet. the first time I told someone irl that I was aromantic, the immediate reaction was “oh my god I’m so sorry” as if I just said I had cancer.

like. actually. yknow what. yeah I think the aromantic experience is very easy to compare to my experience as a disabled person. its because I’m fundamentally missing something that Typical People consider completely intrinsically tied to their worth and their happiness. what’s the point of life if you can’t get married? whats the point of life if you can’t have a job? “i’m so sorry to hear you’ll never experience the be all end all of human existence; retiring to live comfortably with your aging partner as your grown children take up the mantle of your legacy.”

people don’t know what its like to be aromantic. they think of it as a tumblr tag, or headcanons, because the only time they bother to interact with aromanticism is when they’re complaining about our headcanons. no one can deny that aspec identity in this decade is intrinsically connected to the internet, in the same way that no one can say that gay identity in 1970s and 80s america wasn’t intrinsically connected to gay bars. its because That’s How You Meet People. queer people have always taken whatever was the current way for humans to connect to each other and carved out their own space.

aromanticism is in the stage where its hard to find other people, and no one knows what you are, and if you explain it to them they think you’re sick. we’re in the stage where we don’t get a lot of explicit canon representation, we have to scrape by on aro readings and subtext and coding.

and it IS coding! its coding! I don’t care if aromanticism wasn’t named yet back then! there are plenty of instances of queer coding from before we had words like “trans” or “gay” or “lesbian” or even “queer.” what matters is that someone somewhere was like “this character has the experience of not feeling the socially mandated attraction to the opposite binary gender,” which is a queer experience whether the person feeling it is gay or aromantic. just like bisexuality and lesbianism weren’t separated for a long time because straight society didn’t care if the wlw could also technically like men, lesbianism and aromanticism and asexuality weren’t separated because straight society didn’t care if the woman who wouldn’t get married to a man wanted to kiss girls or not.

this is way longer than I intended it to be and it got kinda rambly and train-of-thought, and I don’t think I really have any particular conclusion here. just aro feelings. idk if this makes sense but I’m tired of trying to edit it to make more sense so I’m just hitting post

#actually aromantic #actually aro #aromanticism #alloaro #actually autistic #aspec #aphobia mention #queer #queerness #long post

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writing-for-life · 3 months

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Shipper Tag Game

I was tagged by @ginoeh , thank you so much!

And also: I’m notoriously bad at doing these and still have many, many in my inbox I will eventually get round to answering (thanks to everyone still waiting), but I thought I can do this one since it will be a lot easier to write off the cuff because:

I don’t really ship; I don’t find it particularly interesting, sorry 🤣

Having said this, I’ll still try to answer the questions, so here goes…

What ship were you completely obsessed with as a teenager, but now you don’t care about anymore?

I don’t think I was ever obsessed with any ship, not even as a teenager, because I tend to like characters and their stories, but I don’t really ship them other than what’s already in canon. So very mildly, maybe Batman/Bruce Wayne and Catwoman/Selina Kyle because they never truly ended up with each other? But even that one was meh…

Which ship would you consider your first one?

Hm, again, too mildly too really care, but maybe Aragorn and Arwen from LOTR?

Your first fanfic was about which couple?

Written: Erm, despite having been a writer for aeons, I only wrote my first fanfic in 2022, and that was an OC x canon. So if we’re looking at canon x canon, it was Johanna Constantine x Rachel Moodie/Sandman.

Read: I’ve honestly no idea and can’t truly remember, but I’m fairly certain it must have been a Batman one.

Do you remember the first couple you saw fan art of?

Fairly certain it was Bruce and Selina.

Have you ever gotten into ship discourse?

When I was a teenager, people were fighting over whether Bruce/Selina or Bruce/Talia were the OTP, but we weren’t terminally online, so ship discourse in this disproportionate, unhinged way wasn’t really a thing. I stayed out of it back then and still stay out of it now because I think everyone is free to like whatever they like. I have opinions that I occasionally voice, but that’s rather about general fandom trends (misogyny drives me up the wall) than specific ships. So as long as no one tries to ram their ship down my throat, it’s all good.

Did you used to have a NOTP or have one currently?

No ship is generally NOTP, but the way some people ship can be annoying. I have to admit that Dreamling has started to get on my nerves a bit. Not because I have a general problem with the ship or people who like it (many of my mutuals do), but rather because it’s everywhere, it’s hard to filter, and certain people need to make every discussion—also the ones that have zilch to do with it—about it and literally claim every corner of the fandom.

I don’t mind if people ship them though, I just don’t constantly want to get bombarded with it. So I guess what I’m trying to say is: Have your fun with it, but leave other people who don’t like it out of it, and stop constantly encroaching on creators to make it “real”, and above all: Stop inboxing people hurtful crap. In short: Don’t be an entitled arse with OTP goggles about it.

Who were the last couple in the last fanfic you read?

Dream x Calliope/Sandman.

Currently, do you have any OTPs?

Yup, the one I’m writing, which is a canon x OC pairing, sorry. Other than that, I don’t. I usually can’t get over why pairings don’t work in canon, hence I write OCs. And if they work out in canon, they already have everything they need, so I don’t feel particularly tickled to write about them. It’s sadly how my brain works. The only ones that currently get remotely close are Dream x Calliope (because of second chances) and Dream x Johanna (because they’ll be a complete fuck-up, but in an interesting way). But I still wouldn’t consider them OTPs.

Is there any couple that, to this day, you are extremely mad about not getting into?

That question doesn’t make a lot of sense to me, but maybe I’m missing something? If I can’t get into it, it’s for a reason, and that’s not a loss or something to get mad over…

Is there any ship you used to dislike but now you think they’re kind of interesting?

Nope.

Do you have any ship that, in the past, would have been considered normal but now you would be cancelled over?

No because again: I don’t really ship. Unless it’s a =>

What is your favourite crack ship?

I am one of the main instigators of “Murphy and His Cool Hat”, so of course it has to be Dream x Helm.

What is the couple you read the most fanfics about?

None in particular. I either like the tone of something or I don’t. It’s probably easier for me to say what I don’t read/tend to avoid…

What do most of your ships have in common?

Byronic men who are shit communicators 🤣

What do you absolutely hate in a ship?

Nothing outright? I can get behind a lot of tropes if they’re crafted well, the plot is solid and the writing is good. If I had to pick one thing it’s power-over-dynamics. I abhor them in real life, and I don’t feel a massive desire to write them or read about them (as in: specifically seek for them or make them part of the plot myself). But even so, I have read fics with such dynamics and it didn’t massively bother me because the story and writing were good. Another thing I’m not massively keen on is enemies to lovers and/or lots of forced arguments just so people can angry-fuck. But hate is a strong word—again, if the story is well crafted and that’s not the only thing that’s going on, I wouldn’t drop a story just because of that.

I'm no-pressure tagging @rey-jake-therapist (shipping, friend, it’s about shipping 🤣), @marlowe-zara, @tickldpnk8 if you want to, or maybe just point me towards your post if you've done it already?

#tag game!

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deerinstinct · 7 days

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Life is hard being one of the few people who actually somewhat likes the current enstars event story despite the (few imo) ooc instances or very discomforting moments. Ones that have been the reason of deep rooted inner turmoil for many.

A lot of fans claiming that some moments are ooc when they literally are not, like people forgetting Aira is dishonest and a tsun and she’s stressed of course she’d be rejecting Hiiro’s hand and lap offers that’s literally a core part of their dynamic but also Aira as a whole that she’s snappy and reactive and cruel at times. It’s even told to us that Aira makes sure to be extra sweet for Kohaku, something that isn’t Fake, but still purposefully done. And it’s cute because they’re both that so sweet towards each other. If Hiiro hadn’t said anything in that moment or if she hadn’t just been turned down herself, I’m sure she would’ve slipped her hand into his own for comfort in a heartbeat. Aira is a bittersweet girl; in an opposite way to Kohaku. Her childishness manifests differently to Kohaku’s own.

Producers of certain characters are saying their favorites have been ooc, but don’t go on to explain how exactly, or in what scenes. I dabble in and love Crazy:B but I am only ALKALOIDp, so I wouldn’t know… Rinne’s been said to have went too far with some of his schemes like the laxative thing which is like. Um. Well. I suppose he is trying to do everything he can to win, despite what he learned at the MDM; Rinne is still somewhat ruthless. He seems to still have quite the vendetta against how ALKALOID is treated by higher-ups and painted to the masses in comparison to his own unit. I thought the way he feels is pretty interesting. Generally, I’ve kind of loved Rinne in this story.

Although… everyone does feel a little off and I don’t know why. I admit that. Maybe, it’s because they are so shaken and tense.

Now I’m going to talk about a topic I’ve only really spoken of on twitter, one that had my initial reaction being a stomachache and solely negative thoughts, until I started thinking about it more.

I was afraid of how they’d portray the Amagi village at first, the possibility of them treating the Ainu without respect and making it stereotyped. So I was surprised by all the research they’d put in, and the parts of the story used to even go against some of these. However, the execution of this, the amount of microaggressions spewed by one character only and the educating needing to be done for them… I was happy they weren’t babying her for the ignorance coming out of her with their words nor their tone, instead telling her how wrong it is and how it hurt to hear; the fact she should know better at her age. How she’d immediately double down and do it again was a strange decision, but I suppose internalized biases aren’t immediately unlearned. She grew up in a society in which it’s all too common to have such beliefs (the world in general is that way, I think. I’m not implying “asian people don’t know what’s right and wrong 🥺” as they are not infants—but racism is something that is ingrained into many from birth, but can be unlearned if one cares to. Racism that even the best people can contribute to, without meaning to; anyone is capable of offense.) She is terminally online and stated to not be very smart. You can tell it doesn’t come from a place of maliciousness even if it makes you grip your thigh so hard, to read. Especially when you love her.

The rest of her unit seem sick of it. Which is sad—the way their dear friend is saying such things when they are All marginalized to some extent, including her, is bound to hurt. But it could’ve been made one of those situations where a marginalized person is made to hold someone’s hand & explain to them why their views are bad like one would to a child, with an unlimited amount of patience. I’m glad it isn’t.

The feelings of brown and indigenous fans are justified and sad to see. I have also seen people asking others to block them for not seeing it as a completely negative addition, which is fair, but one cannot speak for everyone. Especially when it didn’t come out of nowhere, there’s even Ainu fans who are thankful for their struggles being addressed within such a big IP. I keep having to hear “how can a person who’s gotten bullied for being hafu and struggled with it so much be racist? It doesn’t make sense!” over and over again like a broken record, as if it’s something that’s impossible in the real world when mixed people can be racist, have been racist. It won’t cancel anything out, being bullied doesn’t mean you can’t be ignorant. It’s intersectionality 101.

It could’ve been handled with more tact or be done more tastefully. Akira has a really direct approach to addressing things, shoving prejudiced views (racism, transphobia, particularly transmisogyny) into the players’ faces to be able to then explain to them why it’s bad like the morals being taught in a kid’s show, and it can be a very uncomfortable experience. But honestly, the target audience for Ensemble Stars partially needed it to get people to reflect on their internal biases, such beliefs are rampant in JP spaces, called out by Mayoi himself in the same story. Countless cosplayers still partake in brownface to this day, and fancontent of the Amagi village is done with stereotypes and a lack of care enough for one to notice, ones that are so similar to the views being judged in the story. But it’s also prevalent in ENG spaces too, at times, I won’t pretend it isn’t. I see it in many interpretations of their hometown or implying that because they are indigenous they’d be more prone to engage in incest when they can just… do it without dragging their race into it. There’s even comments about the Amagis made that seem innocuous but hold a lot of weight, particularly ones regarding their intelligence, or their hygiene, etc.

Aira has always been the audience stand-in from the start, as well as the type of girl to say things without thinking, as much as it makes sense nobody would like to have such a thing rubbed into their face or coming out of their favourite character’s mouth, imagining how they would react to them if they knew them in real life and being crushed by the thought. I see it less as her being given the trait of “racist” to make her a worse person, and more utilizing her as a narrative tool… but we are all entitled to our own feelings about it. I think she can do better. I really am not against it being addressed. One cannot expect people to not feel sick being exposed to micro (or even macro) aggressions, of course.

Some, including those directly affected, say they are happy for it to be spoken of rather than not brought up at all. Others think that it shouldn’t have been due to the fact they knew such serious topics wouldn’t be handled the way they’d like for it to. They ask, think of her fans! Which is fair. But this is something that has occured before, even it not so egregiously. Previously, she was given no consequences for it. She’s always been a little cruel.

I don’t know how people think ignoring or pretending certain things in the content they like didn’t happen will do any good. I thought we were meant to be critical of what we consume. I too kind of wish it wasn’t there at all, especially coming out of the mouth of one of my top three favourites, but whether it’s necessary or unnecessary is up to debate. I think they could have made it an NPC instead, as many argue. People think this is a new thing and that’s in part why they claim it was a bad writing choice to make her seem like a bad person so late into the game (4 years) but Aira has made tasteless remarks in the past, too? I used to believe it could’ve reflected the views of the authors, it made me uncomfortable too. Image not created by my hands but essentially:

People are not obligated to love her, but I don’t think I will stop loving her because of this. I don’t think this is a necessary, “realistic” flaw to add to your main characters, ones that are meant to be likeable, but this behaviour isn’t out of the blue. I do wish she could’ve just gone and been normal about it and had some internal monologue about how wrong she was. There was many possible ways to execute it.

All of those thoughts aside, there’s a lot of scenes & aspects of this story that I like a lot like the entirety of part 1 and bits and pieces of part 2, though part 3 is not out yet… It’s nice to get to see characters who don’t or hardly ever or have even never interacted before speak to each other, as well as Rinne and Aira’s dynamic as narrative foils being addressed again since it’s something I’ve been interested in for years, I really like the peeks of the past when it comes to Rinne’s early idol days and I also love AkanP. Pathetic butch alcohol producer. The Kaname mentions make me crazy for multiple reasons, especially including the fact both HiMERU & Tatsumi didn’t really know him as a person. I’m not sure how to feel about the whole ES colonizing plot point that has been set up since SS… ES really is evil. Well, it always has been; but I haven’t seen any Eichi fans talking about that. Nobodys talking about the Eichi idol colonialism. Which is interesting. I love my princess, but I still kind of have to kill him for the millionaire heir who is engaging in evil capitalist endeavours thing. I like watching Tatsumi be stressed out. I like alkakurei. There’s been so many heartfelt moments I’ve loved, and so, so many silly ones, too? It hasn’t even entirely felt like “fluff” because there are things being set up & stakes and stuff. As a “finale” would entail. I suppose some expect more grandeur and that’s fair in fact always wish for more. I took ten million screenshots, some posted some kept away in my pocket and stayed up to read livetweets both times it was occuring so far and was vibrating the whole time. A lot of my thoughts I kept to myself honestly! There’s been interesting insights …

I understand why people are very upset, or think it isn’t of enough substance, or that it just has yaoibait which I guess is fair due to the fact that Akira even managed to slip mpreg in as he always does.

Also, not every issue between every character can be addressed in one story, despite this being meant to bring a sense of closure. There is an entire third part we don’t have yet, and I still want to see it! I want to know what the fuck is up with that third baby Amagi. And I’m thankful nothing is VR. It definitely has more substance than ALKALOID’s climax, that’s for sure.

#ʚɞ #late night thoughts #also if you’d like to discuss I’d prefer it to be in replies or nonanon asks …………… TankQ #these are just general event thoughts but the aira part got long

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paperstorm · 1 year

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I was reading a discussion about 3.13 again because I really can't get enough of that episode and someone said something about how tk ignored carlos's insecurities on purpose because he doesn't care enough about them and that he should've been more self aware about the whole cooper thing.

(I'm still trying to get what's the problem with cooper and still head empty..he seems such a sweetheart, idk 🤔).

Like are we watching the same show or are they just using that to hate on our beautiful mess tk?☹️

I know you're probably tired of this topic but I really do love your analysis of tarlos as a couple and individuals.💗🤍

I think sometimes people get it in their heads that it’s not okay to just … dislike something. You can’t just say “meh that show isn’t for me” or “That character rubs me the wrong way”. We all dislike things, for tons and tons of totally innocuous reasons or sometimes for absolutely no reason at all. I don’t like Jennifer Garner. She’s literally never done anything wrong, I just don’t like her. It isn’t necessary to find like a terminally online social justice approved reason to dislike something. But lots of people fall into the trap of thinking that it is. So if they watch the show and TK isn’t their favourite character, instead of just saying that, they have to invent reasons for it or say that he’s abusive or a bad person in some way, because then they can go “well actually I dislike him because [valid reason] and you’re wrong if you disagree.” I’m not bored of the topic necessarily but I also just don’t think there’s much value in the emotional labour of trying to prove those people wrong, because they don’t care if they’re wrong. It’s about making themselves feel like they’re purer than you, because they would never dislike a gay Jewish character unless it was for a Very Good Reason.

#911 lone star #anon asks #disk horse

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charmanderxerneas · 5 months

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I’m really tired of the notion that “if you disagree with me on this piece of media, you must be stupid or watching it wrong or mot thinking critically enough”. Maybe this is just a problem I have (because I have interacted a lot with terminally online young people), but whenever i like something thats popular to be hated on and I explain that “Yes, I legitimately thing X is a good piece of media and I disagree with many of the criticisms” People act so fucking rude and dismissive and just act like you’re Stupid. “Oh but you know that theres a difference between liking something and the quality actually being bad” Yes, I know this, when I say X is good i legitimately think its a technically well constructed thing. People get baffled by this.

I get it: it can be fun to really rant about bad games or movies or something. And it’s good to have opinions and to criticize things, that’s how art improves! But I think on the internet people who are chronically online tend to be really overly negative, since anger is what drives the most clicks, to the point where I think the words “bad game” is over used and no one can see the positives in a piece of work anymore :/ . When you’re calling perfectly decent games “horrible atrocious bad the worst game ever” when its competent and well put together, it kinda makes those words lose all their meaning. If you’re calling everything horrible, then when you actually play a truly bottom of the barrel piece of shit then you’ll be in for one heck of a surprise. A game doesn’t need to be perfect to be a good game. In fact, its impossible to create a flawless game or movie or piece of media!. if the gameplay is a little messy but the writing and characters and art and everything else is fantastic, I think it makes up for it. Games/movies/ect. are the sum of all their parts, and when most of the components making up a game are good, then it’s safe to call the game good (I understand thats very subjective and there are people who are like “nuh uh bad gameplay makes the whole thing ruined” which. if you wanna live like that be my guest but sounds exhausting dude)

But overall, even if someone DOES think a piece of “bad media” is good: does that justify being mean or rude to the person? Does that mean that they’re stupid or that they must not consume media critically or that they just have bad taste in all media ever? No, of course not. If my friend were to tell me they’re really into like. the minions movie or some shit, I might be like “oh i don’t think that movies good lol” but you should know when to draw the line when it comes to disagreeing and just being mean and dramatic. (ie, stuff like “Wow you have horrible critical thinking skills” “I can’t trust anything you say because you think the newest pokemon game is actually good, you must be stupid💀” (real things people have said to me about liking certain movies or games or whatever))

(Do not derail: this post is not about problematic media/creators like harry potter or south park or shit where there are such bigoted flaws in them to the point where you cannot separate the art from the horrible ideas in it . this post is about Normal games/movies/ect. that are so hated on that people are actively mean to fans of the thing, even though the media is probably just Fine)

#yes this is about fnaf and sonic and pokemon specifically. but may also apply to one of your fandoms if its overly hated #sorry im rambling Again

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ask-artsy-oncie · 2 years

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I gotta outline the problems I have with terminally online people being so damn adamant about putting terms like “TME” or “transmisogyny exempt” in their bios, because as much as I just wanna yell “fuck off with that shit” at the people who insist on making this a thing, I haven’t really found a post wrapping up all the problems with this in an easy to understand way. And that’s a problem of its own, because people are so fucking afraid and otherwise discouraged from questioning any new “progressive” online discourse stance that gains traction and risk getting ostracized from the communities they’ve come to depend on.

For those people, have some food for thought.

Firstly, aside from like some people of color denoting that they’re white-passing (which is an entirely different bag of worms), the vast majority of abouts, bios, what have yous that denote your identity Do Not contain a disclaimer list of your privileges. Saying shit like “transmasc, TME” is about as “redundant” (I’ll get to that) as saying “able-bodied, able-minded, ableism exempt” and therefore unnecessary. Except it’s not just unnecessary - and this is likely why some people so deep into discourse culture insist on using it - it serves to downplay your experiences as a trans person and feeds directly into oppression olympics politics.

If your marginalized identity has to constantly be paired with “I don’t actually have it as bad as these other marginalized people though”, you’re creating an unconscious divider between yourself and people who are actually in a decently similar boat that you are, as well as creating a reminder of “I don’t actually have it that bad” which very quickly evolves into “my experiences as a marginalized individual aren’t valid enough” and that can lead to “so it’s okay if I start getting excluded from communities I thought I was supposed to belong in”. It’s a divisionist, exclusionist method of thinking and serves to weaken our community, whether the people participating in this practice aim to do so or not.

And even if all that wasn’t an issue, the practice shouldn’t even have legs to stand on because no the fuck you’re not exempt from transmisogyny because that’s not how bigotry actually works. Bigotry, in real life, does not attack based on how you identify, for the most part, it attacks based on how you are perceived. Believe it or not, cishet and straight trans people are not exempt from being affected by homophobia. Cishet and cis gay people are not exempt from being affected by transphobia. There are many more examples I could give but I’d start derailing. Point is, marginalized people, ESPECIALLY queer people, have SO many overlapping experiences based on how they’re perceived by their oppressors - and it’s why dividing up the community so staunchly is a bad thing.

If you’re transmasc and visibly aren’t performing your gender properly (which HEAVILY varies from bigot to bigot so don’t even bring passing privilege into this) and are attacked for it, you don’t actually know if it was transmisandry or transmisogyny at play just because YOU know how YOU identify. And your online discourse buddies don’t know, either, no matter what they try to tell you. That’s just the reality of how marginalization works.

Please, just stop drinking this koolaid. For the sake of yourself and others. For the sake of being real about how the world works. Just label yourself as transmasc and literally anyone who is capable of critical thought can then go “hm, it’s probable that they don’t have the exact 1:1 life experiences a trans woman does” if that thought’s even applicable. I’m begging yalls to give this one some more thought before digging your heels in.

#lgbt #transgender #transmasc #transmisogyny #tme #I'm debating on whether or not I want this to be rebloggable #Like fine but also I'm blocking anyone who tries to clown on this post or debate me in my askbox #also do not fucking tag this as 'q slur'. blacklist the actual word 'queer' if you don't like it asshole.

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rustedskyprisms · 10 months

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Since tumblr is apparently the website you can use as a diary, I need to get this out. And it’s a “me problem” so yeah.

I got back on here too soon. I was on here, under a different blog, from 2015-19. I got off because this website was really, really bad for my ocd. In fact, I’d say it’s one of the worst things for my ocd and overall mental health I can think of. I didn’t actually start using this website as a somewhat social thing until mid 2018. By the end of that year I was like a normal tumblr user. I had mutuals I would interact with, I had a bio with a bunch of unnecessary information about me.

Meanwhile, in my personal life, I was 16, and i was in my junior year of high school. I was doing so bad mentally that I did my junior and senior years through homebound schooling through the school district. I finished school in December 2019. Before this happened, I kind of tried to kill myself twice, in September 2019 and then November 2019. I ended up getting off of here in November 2019 because I could not handle it anymore.

From then on, after finishing school, the pandemic started. So, I was already extremely isolated and could almost never leave my house to begin with, and then when that happened….yeah. So, essentially, from the fall of 2018, up to now, I have been extremely, extremely isolated. Remember the lockdowns? That’s the closest most people will ever come to understanding.

Anyway, I remade in July 2021. I’ve always really, really liked the format of this website, and if you’re primarily interested in art/photography stuff, in my opinion, it’s the best website for that. My plan was to get back on here and really hang low. To this day I still have not told that many people about my old blog on here because yeah I wanted to start new.

Initially, I did really well on here when I started again. Then….I started going into like, the fandom side of tumblr, and that’s when everything changed. I was hyperfixating on something at the time that did happen to have a pretty good sized community of fans on tumblr. So, I kind of started interacting with people. The thing was, as important as the thing I was a huge fan of at the time was to me, besides that, there really wasn’t much of a connection between me and them.

Okay now it’s June 2023. I feel like a very different person from then, and I feel very disconnected from this website and a lot of people on here at this point. And there’s this obligation on here to like, not ever unfollow anyone unless they do something “wrong”. And on top of that, the biggest theme of my ocd is that I’m going to hurt someone, so I think if I do that, it’s going to hurt someone, especially if we’ve been following each other for a long time. It’s literally nothing personal though, I just don’t connect to that anymore.

Anyway, in addition to that, I feel very mentally unstable right now, and this website is just contributing that. I realized, and something someone said on here about TikTok, believe it or not, made me realize this: I use this website the same way people use the TV when they’re alone at home. You’re not “in it”, but you’re so lonely that you need some kind of company. That’s the purpose this website serves for me. It’s not even interacting with people, it’s knowing other people exist.

That being said, of course, you’re going to have to interact with people, and 99% of time it’s really uncomfortable for me. I don’t feel compatible with most people at all, regardless of how many similarities there can be. I don’t know what’s “wrong” with me at this point. I think almost 5 years of isolation, severe mental illness, and truly being terminally online, and then now, adding drugs to that, has just fucked up my head. So yeah I think I should take a break

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snellyfish · 2 years

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oh good lord--

To preface, it’s impossible to keep this as short as possible while still getting my point across clear enough, because if there’s one thing I’ve learned from the Danganronpa fandom it’s that people love misinterpreting the Hell out of each other. This is not meant to be the public’s issue, I wanted to keep this quiet because it literally does not concern anyone else in the slightest, but I’ve been hearing more and more instances for the past few months of me being repeatedly slandered and shit-talked in both servers AND in public posts (vague or not), and my refusal to feed into the terminally online community’s craving for niche fandom discourse is not helping my case, since no one’s getting a chance to hear my side. But my desire to keep personal issues personal does not equal blind racism. Lol.

To put this into context for anyone who’s unaware:

AS FAR AS I’M AWARE-- The only claim of racism towards me is about me feeding into Angie’s islander stereotype in the content I have made about her in the past. Which I understand, I see, I’ve heard people with islander ancestry’s take on it and I hear them, I’ve heard both sides from islanders and I don’t know what to think in the end. It’s a much greyer area than one white internet activist would think.

Ultimately, Angie is not a character I want to make in-depth content for anymore, (been that way for a while, honestly, dunno how obvious that’s been) I don’t know how to properly handle her but some people seem very confident they’re doing it perfectly right, so I’ll just let them do their thing I guess lmao. I’ve heard out one islander, who said that her entire character in general is bad, making content for her character is bad, liking her in any form is bad, to them she is entirely irredeemable. And I respect that. The white person who started this spiel about me is an avid creator for content of her, (last I saw? I personally don’t hatestalk them back so idk) but they do it in what they deem a more acceptable way. Are they right to still make content about a character that islanders are horrendously uncomfortable with? I don’t care at this point, I really don’t have a say in this, I am white, too, afterall! But if I’m gonna be put down for my portrayal, I only hope they’ve listened to actual islanders too.

I entirely stopped making blood sacrifice/ritual stuff with Angie for almost a year at this point and people still aren’t happy. I have avoided the word Atua for most of my time in the fandom and people still aren’t happy. Who am I making happy at this point? Literally just myself? The handful of people who tell me so? My followers who only care that I’m drawing their blorbos and will happily skip over a post like this?

Angie is a sensitive character. Characters representing any harmful stereotypes are sensitive. POC characters in general are sensitive--especially if they’re dark skinned and foreign to their setting.* I understand this, and I don’t wish to try and portray these characters beyond a simple drawing because I like their designs, personalities, ships, or whatever else.

*Sensitive as in they HAVE to be handled by the right person who understands all the nuances and good representation, not to mention some cultures should exclusively be written by those who live(d) that life. I don’t think I’m fit for that as of now but I’m learning, (Only took a LOT of vagueposts, anon hate as well as direct hate, and no one trying to Actually listen to me or explain to me what I’m doing wrong before having it dramatically blow up but...alas) I only ask people to have patience with me (and anyone for that matter!) trying to better themselves, and let the past be the past.

I have trans friends who are entirely uncomfortable with any mention of Chihiro or Mondo. I have trans friends who embrace both of them.

I have lesbian friends who are uncomfortable with Tenko. I have lesbian friends who embrace her.

I’ve listened to an islander talk about how they’re entirely uncomfortable with any mention of Angie. I’ve seen islanders embrace her.

I understand now that my attachment to Angie and lack of public acknowledgement of the clear racism in her character that I somehow overlooked for a long time is...well... kinda bad. To be as honest as possible, I feel obligated to admit the first thing that made me love Angie when I first played V3 was that she was a quirky sacrificial freak, because I LOVE that in fictional characters. I LOVE weird characters who stand out like that with taboo themes. So...after realizing how harmful that is, being informed it’s a stereotype, and coming to terms with the fact my favorite thing about her ended up being something racist, it’s very difficult for me to actively enjoy her because sometimes people even get upset at the portrayal of her literally just being a “weird girl.” Hell, I’ve seen people completely erase religion from her character in an attempt to “fix” her even more!

I’ve had people of color inform me my Angie portrayal is their favorite they’ve seen. I’ve had white people inform me my Angie portrayal is racist. And without cherry picking, I’ve heard it the other way around for both sides, too. I know I’m a broken record at this point so I’ll wind this down, but I don’t think anyone is anymore right than the other, no matter how much each party vehemently believes otherwise. I just don’t like how elitist this fandom can be, man. I’ve always tried to portray Angie in a significantly brighter light than most anyone else I see, so I think my initial stubbornness with this whole situation was caused by how everyone just sees her as an evil antagonist, and I thought that they thought I was doing the same? I dunno. Maybe that’s unrelated at this point. Either way--

I am sorry.

I apologize to anyone who might be personally offended by my portrayal of an islander, if anyone wants to talk to me about it and help me see any clearer, please do! That being said, I do NOT apologize to the non-islanders (mostly white people) who attack me for this and won’t accept someone trying to move on from their wrongdoings. Thank you for reading.

TLDR;; Is Angie’s character inherently racist? Yes. Have I drawn and written into that stereotype ignorantly? Yes. Did I initially handle this wrong but have now realized my mistakes? Yes. Have I apologized for this already and acknowledge what I’ve done? Yes! Am I free from this year-long hell yet? No, but hopefully soon. 🥴

Also...

I appreciate the apology, thank you, this ask honestly gave me a chuckle because I read it before the first ask LOL. I only pray next time you come to anyone with super serious claims you have something to back it up, or any context. And to keep it in a DM where it’s less hostile. I don’t think anyone’s going to get mad at you for genuinely wanting their input on something wrong they may or may not be doing. Doing it anonymously feels aggressive and careless, it forces it to be public discourse.

Hatestalkers if you’re reading this, can you PLEASE leave me alone, you already blocked me man, let me go,, the crash was 9+ months ago 😭😭😭 if you guys aren’t letting go of this I can’t really either

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