#making it everyone’s problem in fact

[prettycryptid]

my tummy hurts and i’m NOT being brave about it >:(

#making it everyone’s problem in fact #shut up olive

[systememergency]

OSDDID community, please remember that, yes, most cases of DID are covert, but not all cases. I am an overt DID system, my alters act extremely different from me and this has repeatedly caused me issues throughout my whole life. It has made navigating this disorder extremely difficult for me and has made people other me a lot. People have almost called emergency services on me for how differently I start acting when certain alters front. I physically cannot hide my symptoms. My symptoms have always been pointed out by others and I was very much estranged from and bullied by people around me for it. Even teachers would badger me over my symptoms.

It gets really tiring and demotivating seeing people saying over and over that "DID is covert," "DID is hidden," "DID never makes itself known" when all my life my DID has been overt, has never been hidden, and has made itself known. It makes me feel like my existence is inconvenient to address because people want to feel better about their experiences. But what about my experiences? It makes me feel isolated from the community because people are constantly saying that my experience is not real which has driven me further and further away from OSDDID communities because there's such scorn for the idea that overt systems do exist.

You can absolutely acknowledge that OSDDID most of the time is covert and not spotted by others. A lot of people do end up figuring out symptoms purely on their own and others doubt their symptoms because they are not obvious enough, and that sucks. But please do not then assume your experience is the only one and that overt systems are some made up concept or that OSDDID is inherently covert. We do exist and we need a place within the community as well

#This made processing the fact that I'm an overt system 100x harder bc it makes me feel isolated from a community that I joined #in the first place bc I felt isolated from everyone else #I noticed this is mostly a problem on reddit but I've also noticed it here so I figured I should say it #Anyway I'm v nervous about posting this for some reason - I hope it comes across in the way I intend lol #osddid system #did #osddid #cdd #did system #actually did #complex dissociative disorder #did osdd #dissociative identity disorder #system things #overt did #overt dissociative identity disorder #rant #rant kinda

[e-von-dahl]

On one hand joker out are ridiculously attractive, and daydreaming about cutesy shit like stealing their clothes and cuddling with them on the couch is all well and good

On the other hand I know in my heart everything they own smells like fucking cigarettes and so do they half the time

#despite how attractive they make smoking look it doesn’t change the fact that I’d probably vomit due to the second hand smoke #many of my romantic fantasies are ruined by this knowledge #joker out #this post is stupid but I am Down Bad and sometimes I just have to make it everyones problem

[is-the-owl-video-cute]

i think the most annoying part of dog food discourse is how many people will act as though proplan/hill’s/Royal canin diets aren’t extremely and prohibitively expensive and that THAT is the reason so many people look into healthy alternatives.

People complain about corn being in the first five ingredients on most of those feeds because, regardless of other factors here, that is not an expensive ingredient. But it makes up a large chunk of the dry food. So the dry food should be fairly affordable, right?

Oh… with tax you’re spending about $100 for one 45lb bag of food where the third ingredient is wheat and the fourth and fifth ingredients are corn.

Oh… well! It’s slightly cheaper! But the second ingredient is rice, third is wheat, fourth is corn, and then fifth is poultry byproduct. None of those are very expensive so this just must be the low end cost of dog food unfortunately. The vets recommend it so surely that means prices aren’t inflated, right?

Oh? This one has similar ingredients with the only real difference being no corn? And it’s half the price?? Well surely that’s just a fluke.

Oh. Oh no.

This one even has CORN in it and it’s $20 cheaper?? Wow!

Like listen at some point I don’t care if your dog food has the ichor of the gods in it, I’m not spending $100 every five days if there are cheaper options with just as many “good” ingredients in it. If you think I’m a dog abuser because I can’t afford this overpriced garbage, that’s too bad. I don’t care. My dogs are perfectly healthy with the food I give them. Great weight and great coat. People giving dog food recommendations that aren’t those top three hyper-expensive dog foods aren’t trying to epic own those dastardly vets half the time, but I really don’t blame the ones who do lose trust in vets when the only heartworm protection they recommend lately are expensive triple-action brands like Simparica Trio that costs $120+ as opposed to the other heartworm protections that are only about $40-$60 on average, which is still cheaper even if you add on a $20-$40 flea and tick protection separately, and only recommend dog food that costs $85+ a bag even if your dog doesn’t have specialized dietary needs.

Those top three foods are GREAT at making competent prescription diets, I don’t deny that. I do still have to criticize the pricing of those prescription diets though because I have spoken to DOZENS of people who had to pull their pets off of a prescription diet and struggle to find something comparable because they couldn’t afford the food, and that’s terrible! These are not poor companies! Purina, Royal Canin, and Hill’s can ABSOLUTELY afford to lower their prices to make their food accessible to people who need it for their animals but they don’t. They probably never will. Because at the core they are run by greedy corporations. It doesn’t matter how many good nutritionists are on board if the company is run by people who put profits over customers and make the food impossible for people to afford.

#I keep seeing posts from people on both sides of this #and it is frustrating to see how many vets don’t seem to acknowledge #that a MASSIVE part of the dog food debate has and always will be #the inaccessibility of these three brands #because whether corn is good or bad or neutral for a dog #It’s a cheap ingredient #any meat byproducts are a cheap ingredient #wheat in any form is a cheap ingredient #rice is a cheap ingredient #they aren’t putting Diamond dust and gold flakes in the kibble it’s very accessible and affordable ingredients for the most part #and many comparatively smaller companies use very similar ingredients and make food people can actually afford #So yeah when people look at these factors it does make them distrust vets who will almost exclusively push expensive brands #and that’s where the distrust is coming from #it’s not primarily smug tiktok kids who think they know everything #it’s just people who have less money than you and get treated like they care less for their animals because of it lol #and people who feel scammed because anything veterinary is already expensive to the point not everyone can afford it as regularly as needed #the fact people have to give pets vaccines themselves to make ends meet because most vets charge so much just to walk in the door #is a sign of a larger problem #I criticize people who avoid taking animals with surprise sickness or injuries to the vet #but it’s not exactly hard to see why that isn’t even an option for a lot of people #people can’t even afford surgery on themselves if they’re suddenly injured out of the blue in this country #So I can’t pretend to be shocked they don’t have $10k squirreled away if something unavoidable happens to a pet #no one is entitled to an animal they can’t afford yes yes but a routine vet visit shouldn’t be $600-$1000 per animal sorry #give me a copay or something

[snorpdawg]

What emotion does this picture make you feel

#bugsnax #filbo fiddlepie #putting this in the main tags I’m making this EVERYONE’S problem #🛠️.png #as I drew this I got blasted back to 2021 years of yore #ahh… the days of Instagram GC and interpersonal friend group drama #what a time to be alive #fun fact! Beffica’s V/A voiced Aoi in the mainline games

[kafkasmjjw]

he never once stopped to think "ah, maybe im the problem" (hes not ❤️) and i respect him for that

#sfh #strangers from hell #yoon jongwoo #very aries coded if i (aries) say so myself #his smile in the last panel. he cracked the code #also truly love that the show is also called “stranger from hell” denoting that he is in fact a problem too. #which makes sense #considering deukjong's “man in 303 this is all bc of you” #and the way everyone on the show died BECAUSE OF jongwoo #whether directly or indirectly #its all just very sexy to me

[swiftcast-selene]

Day 1: Introduction

"O'nehgi Tia, is it?"

he laughs. "ah, no, no. just Negi, please. and - Selene, too, if you wouldn't mind. she doesn't take well to being ignored..."

#miqomarch #miqomarch 2024 #ffxiv #ffxiv miqo'te #final fantasy 14 #HIIII it's my first time doing any of this I HOPE EVERYONE IS HAVING FUN!!!!! #umm negi is. my main he has many problems and i love him. #he is not the wol but he is the wol's assistant i guess you could call him. because what would the wol do without a good healer huh?? #nothing. thats what. #m: negi #he wouldn't exactly Mind being called O'nehgi most of the time if it wasn't for the fact that like. the letter h is very much a *hiss* #that most non-miqo'te cannot do considering they don't have like. the right throat to make. #so usually he'll get real familiar with everyone very fast just to avoid having to hear it get mangled forever lol #if he doen't ask you to drop the letter very early though. watch out. that means he does Not like you.

[mistergandalf]

ULTIMATE TOLKIEN BLORBO ROUND FIVE: SECOND CHANCE BRACKET

ÉOWYN vs. MERIADOC "MERRY" BRANDYBUCK

See the ULTIMATE TOLKIEN BLORBO MASTERPOST for details and follow #ultimate tolkien blorbo to cast your vote for the blorbiest blorbo of all!

#ultimate tolkien blorbo #lotr #lord of the rings #tolkien #eowyn #merry brandybuck #meriadoc brandybuck #I chose these two pictures SPECIFICALLY to make it harder for you to decide #because I am evil and I love causing problems #everyone always talks about how eowyn killed the witch-king because she's a woman #but no one ever talks about the fact that merry was able to harm him because he's a HOBBIT #TEAMWORK #they did it together!!! I love them!!! #also forever sad we missed out on merry's friendship with beregond that was in the books #don't mind me I'm just thinking about beregond now #anyway have fun voting

[morzowo]

so one character got to learn how to live again, how to reenter society after traumatizing event that will forever impact his life, got to heal and rebuild his relationship with his family even estranged father, reconnected with his old friends and was able to create reliable support system of people that also grew throughout this healing process and now can understand him more and be there for him, got to graduate and start his own business and now can even give inspirational speeches to help others

and the other one had to leave two closest people to him that were his only support after his family death bc 'friends' he had before weren't type of people worth reconnecting with, move out of his country abandoning everything he knew his whole life just to * checks notes * start a job he didn't really want and the main reason he needed higher pay was to establish financial stability for one of two people who he had to leave and that no longer wanted to be with him

okay yea okay sure both cases are about personal 'growth'

#last twilight #to clarify it's more about time skip and the talk at the end of part 2 bc yea ofc mhok also changed throughout whole series in general #the fact that 'growth' for mhok was equal to getting a job just doesn't sit well with me #his sister killed herself bc of their financial problems and then they put sole responsibility on him for providing for himself and day #and it felt like it was about more than just day's disability #like ironically his mechanic friend offered more support and understanding than most of the other characters #what kind of 'growth' is uprooting yourself and leaving everyone behind when you are still in vulnerable state and need someone to rely on #it would make sense in other story with other character but here it just hurts #i do have some other problems with the series as a whole but nothing that wasn't said already #everyone is angry at part 4 but end of part 2 was the breaking point for me #moving out for work is extremely lonely and alienating experience especially when it's not even to a country you particularly care about #what is the lesson here with mhok's plot line? #to completely isolate yourself to heal from your trauma somehow without anyone close to you? #and oh yea job being the most important thing for 'personal growth' actually? #in hotel in hawaii nonetheless... #i'm getting so tired of these series not being able to stick the landing fr

[femmeidiot]

I think it’s funny when I bring up something that is inaccessible to fat people and I’m like “yeah these desks are not made for me because I’m fat” and then the skinny people just look horrified or deeply uncomfortable. Good you should be uncomfortable I’m uncomfortable every day and you have never once thought about it.

#Skinny people are soooo uncomfortable when fat people describe themselves as such in a matter of fact way #yes I’m fat and things are inaccessible to me and I’m tired of being embarrassed about it I’m gonna make it everyone else’s problem #text

[asteralien]

i can't speak for every mentally ill person but i don't think "don't self-deprecate! it makes everyone around you feel bad :(((" is necessarily the all-encompassing bandaid slam-dunk you think it is.

#'you feel bad about yourself? well now you're making ME feel bad too :(' #wow not only do i not hate myself less i might hate myself for a few bonus reasons! cool. thanks 👍 #i just think that this toxic positivity trend of making one person's mental illness everyone else's problem #and the answer to mental illness is to just think of everyone you're inconveniencing/hurting by being mentally ill #which will absolutely motivate you to stop being mentally ill #is............ well! i'm sure it works for some people! #aster chat #i'm not saying that mentally ill people should not or cannot take responsibility for things #but i think people don't realize that some mental illnesses' problem is that it makes people take Too much responsibility #which is in fact. overwhelming. #you can't guilt someone into not being chronically guilty

[beanghostprincess]

I am on my period and I am very violent today. You know Nami going fucking feral? Well, that's me right now. If somebody says something remotely bad about Usopp I might throw hands. Who knows. Might just go conqueror's haki all over everyone right now.

#saw somebody mentioning usopp haters and i'm gonna make it everyone's problem today the fact that i love usopp #one piece #usopp

[eisenbrave]

“Nay, we’ll do it your way. No holdin’ back, eh, old friend?”

#octopath traveler #olberic eisenberg #erhardt #erhardt (octopath traveler) #chapter 3 spoilers / #first thing of the year i draw has to be olberic but also my brain chemistry was permanently altered by his chapter 3 #and i will make that fact everyone else's problem #'for what did i wield my sword? gods how many years did that question plague me? but at long last i understood... i'd never lost my worth.' #<- QUOTES THAT MAKE ME SO SO VERY NORMAL AND FINE

[amatres]

interestingly enough despite how mean she is, the core of balaerra's personality and motivations is love, and the desperation to protect it. go on girl, give us corrupted by the absence of love you've felt over your life and you're desperately digging you nails into what love you do have to the point you leave a wound that rots away at them

#ama mumbles #balaerra (oc) #what did cas say one point. no amount of your love can save them #very true. in fact it is her love that ruins you and it ruins her too #mean girl who just wanted love and protection making it everyone else's problem

[fitzrove]

Started watching a "problem with greek myth retellings" video and it began with a blurb montage like "Condemned by the misogynist guys of history, this is the true girlboss feminist story of [A WOMAN]" and like. brb writing one of those about crown prince rudolf. It's ok he's like a misunderstood girlboss to me<3

#NASJASKSDFKDSLFDGJDFJ #joking. since those retellings seem to be often bad #fun fact i do have ideas for like a black teen comedy series with mary as the protagonist where the ending is like a harrowing twist #like you think it won't go that far but it does and the point is that she had historical agency and her own problems and personal journey #but in the end it spiralled catastrophically due to both crown prince rudolf related events and others #unfortunately writing one would draw the ire of both misogynist rudolf conspiracy theorists (how dare you suggest women have agency) AND a #certain type of feminist media critiquer person: (1) how dare you cover a topic like that flippantly 2) how dare you make rudolf anything #but an inhuman monster of a r*pist murderer gr**mer or whatever in the story #like idk man.. other male characters portrayed as romantic interests in mainstream media are toxic r*pists all the time. like omg i hate ho #'the great' handles p*ter and catherine because i was rooting for them to remain toxic and for catherine to kill him or whatever but then #she starts falling in love with him in s2 and everyone in tumblr is like omg hot sexy toxic romance. like cant we have ONE series where #straight romance doesnt inevitably become the overbearing focus?? i had wlw ships for that show.. they never pulled through... #anyway um yeah. the way i would portray rudolf in that is that mary sees him as this romantic hero which is emphasised in the way its shot #but he's constantly acting in kinda offputting and strange ways and is occasionally pretty pathetic and weird ASHDJFJF #^^ that's never been a deterrent to anyone ever. most rudolf biographers want to [redacted] him this has been proven by the way they write. #the only ones that dont are me (well not a real biographer but a rudolf enjoyer nonetheless) and brigitte hamann /hj #(she actually doesnt salivate over his appearance like frederick morton does xD only quotes 2 contemporary women commenting on it)

[in-death-we-fall]

#joey jordison #scar the martyr #fun fact: the first niche i found in fandom was gifs #anyway yeah this clip was a personal attack and i just had to #he really said 'i'm the only one in this video wearing makeup and i'm gonna make that everyone's problem'