#milk posts

[milkpuddl3ss]

NON CAT RELATED DRAWINGS | Day 1 been drawing some NON-CATS to get me out of my comfort zone/art block. hopefully i'll be able to get to four more by this week!

#jake the dog #adventure time #art #art block #artist struggles #i tried #young artist #adventure time fanart #adventure time jake the dog #adventure time art #hey hi look at me whoopdeedoo im posting finally. are you impressed #milkpuddl3s #milk posts

[notwhatyoucameherefor]

My friends and I have started using the term "fat little milk boy" to describe characters we want to throw against a wall like the Twitter milk webkinz

#so far we've got ciel phantomhive as our collective milk boy #milk posts

[calamitys-child]

What's everyone's favourite flowers that aren't like. The normal ones. Like everyone's a fan of roses and sunflowers what's a more niche one. One you don't get in gift sets. Mine's sweet peas

#other good ones are crocuses and lilacs #one time I was ill and depressed and my mum brought me a lil milk bottle full of fresh cut sweet peas from her garden 💖 #i like that theyre colourful and i like climbing plants and they smell amazing #posts brought to you by me going to the park on my lunch break just to see all the crocuses

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[carlyraejepsans]

online harassment campaigns are genuinely terrifying and part of why they're terrifying is that they make you feel like you're going insane—especially if they're false, frame you maliciously on purpose or blow things wayy out of proportion—because like. asides from it feeling really fucking bad due to the aforementioned tide of toxic sludge coming your way all at once, you genuinely start to doubt your perception of reality because surely this isn't... right? surely people can tell this isn't real/there's no way this kind of reaction is warranted or deserved, right?

if any of your friends ever go through that the single most helpful thing you can do is reach out to them & be like "jesus christ these people are nuts, are you okay?" PLEASE do, even privately if you're afraid of being dragged in. they'll never thank you enough, it's a literal life raft for their sanity

#this post inspired by my wonderful beautiful mutuals #and my IRL friends. who now have a new inside joke after we did a dramatic reading of my callout post together #straight up felt like i removed the insanity status effect afterwards. minecraft milk style

[lieutenant-sarcastic]

#this will settle it! this will settle the private conversation between two people who barely cook !!!! #weve said stove so many times that it ceases to look and sound like a word #i grew up with electric stoves like #yeah they WORK differently but cooking on the stove is cooking on the stove #ur not special or better than me bc u have a gas stove 😌 #i hope ur gas leaks and morgan freeman has to shooy u thru a pint of milk 😌 /jk #up to something #polls #edit: *Mickey mouse voice* ha ha! I’ve made a mistake! #This post was not supposed to escape !!!!!! Fuck !! #my brother: lol is this about the political shit that happened a few months ago? me: THE WHAT??????

[cuppajj]

i had a vision

#id make this a full comic if i could i just need more substance #shadow milk discovering pure vanilla and black raisin's close bond and going after her... teasing her... #like i know he already has his whole thing with white lily but i bet black raisin is pretty bullyable #there are so many things about pure vanilla that smc could torment her with that she doesnt know #healer cookie huh... #anyway i know black raisin doesnt have a sword but i gave her one just for this #what was i supposed to do draw her pointing the bird at him? literally giving him the bird? LMAO #crk #shadow milk cookie #black raisin cookie #pure vanilla cookie #(spiritually) #cookie run #cookie run kingdom #cjj arts #i gotta stop posting so late no one is gonna see this... anyway morning reblog inbound for sure

[speltfields]

[concerningly sweaty] i think he'd...grow a beard in the winter...!!!!!!!!!!

#spiked hot chocolate. with the cheap baileys knockoff #i was shane shorts in winterpilled but jeans will do...jeans and boots okaaaayyyy #shane stardew valley #shane sdv #my art #sdv posting #Hey. if ur still reading this. sorry it kinda looks like shit. my brain is mushy cereal amd stardew valley is the almond milk. in the cereal

[goddamnshinyrock]

people who grew up drinking dairy milk and switched to non-dairy later in life: ugh almond milk is so thin and watery, I accept coconut milk or cashew milk only!

me, who grew up drinking rice milk: almond milk is almost TOO flavorful and rich, wow

#RICE MILK IS VERY WATERY BUT IT’S GOT A PLACE IN MY HEART #I admit there is a reason rice milk is not the widely accepted alternative milk choice of the people.... #but still. I’m loyal. #also my opinion on soymilk is ‘yucky’ and that is all #inane personal post #trying to start lactose free discourse on tumblr dot com for funsies

[faunandfloraas]

2019 // 2023

#he did it. sadly there were no grasslands but regardless- hes official milk boy #yang jeongin #stray kids #bystay #createskz #skzedit #stray kids gifs #skz gifs #I.N #I.N stray kids #vocalracha #vocalrachasource #okay i'll stop milk posting now or else you guys are gonna think im a shill for big dairy

[scarapanna]

This animatic has finally been finished!!

The quality took a big hit thanks to kinemaster's gigantic watermark, but at least that annoying thing is gone hsndfdb

Oh well, I guess it adds to the aestetic/silly

#intertwined opposites au #ahh took my sweet time with this animatic jsnfdn #gonna add more context to the AU's name on the infodump post as i'll focus on it now that this is done #cookie run kingdom #beetle's art #pure vanilla cookie #shadow milk cookie #crk au #The song is “this day aria (reprise)” #my mlp brainrot is infecting my other obsessions/silly

[homiu-l]

Just found out I've never posted my Mounders fanart on tumblr so here you go ( ; u ; )

#post aged like the milk I bought last month #secret life #pearlescentmoon #mumbo jumbo #bdoubleo100 #smallishbeans #the mounders #homiu fanart

[hotmilkybuns]

this is not nsfw content it's just funny

#milk posts

[vero-niche]

can i just say how much i adore how Nao-chan's gender is treated so casually in skip to loafer

like, as a white cis woman who is also quite tall and havent read the manga i didnt even realize she was trans until this scene in ep2:

and i didnt even have the time to get nervous how they would handle this as they already moved on, ignoring the comments (just like queer people learn to do so) except for Mitsumi's comforting touch (implying she also heard the comments):

and there were no sad words or anything about this either, it was just handled so.... normally. which should not be something worth highlighting, but, well, you know. also on that note, special shoutout to P.A. Works for casting a woman as her voice actor as well.

she's shown being the supportive and lively aunt and like seconds later in this scene she's back to being her usual self again:

in conclusion

#im an anime only so i pray this post wont age like milk but i honestly dont think it will #maybe they will discuss something about it when/if mitsumi will be asking for an advice at some point but #judging by Theatre Kid in high heels not being ridiculed i think they will stay respectful and chill #i wish i could say more and in a better way but alas. i hope this will suffice #i just havent seen any posts about it in the tags and i was eager to rb something on it #anyway give this anime a try if you can <33 #skip to loafer #skip and loafer #trans #EDIT: i have been informed in the notes that this post will NOT age like milk. godbless <3

[sleepyflowershead]

i thought such idea like this after seeing so many pv, sm

pining this so lil intro for my concepts that just become a freaking au-

edit : yall seem uhh to like it so here something for the this one, edit again to make 2 lil more make sense, his name “jester”

shadow milk possessed pure vanilla mhm but he somehow make themselves bound together forever in mind, soul, mental, physical and got physical appearance change, pv can still like fight back but it won’t be enough (edit : finally it got edit of my mind, they pretty much a “mixed” as part of side effect)

2. white lily have tough time thinking be ofc that one 3rd choices but it also result pure vanilla getting seal away with shadow milk too, clock is ticking

she have no choices.

#cookie run #cookie run kingdom #pure vanilla cookie #shadow milk cookie #does even reference image like him even counts- #wooooo let go 2 post in one day bruh #she is depressions but i doubt ppl read tags uhhhh maybe? #trapped forever soul au

[ranilla-bean]

culture tips for writing asian settings: tea varieTEAs

atla's got major Tea Guy representation in iroh but let's be real, even non-tea guys are going to be drinking tea in an asian-inspired setting—you'd be served it instead of water most places. so, what kind of tea are you picking for them?

as an east asian reader, it can take me out of the setting to see the characters drink something like chamomile (from europe/west asia) or... most herbal teas, to be honest. ngl it was weird to see iroh in the show, characterised as a huuuuuuge tea snob, drink stuff like jasmine (it's fine it's just basic, is all! imo!) or like.... a random flower he encounters in the wild.

when we're talking tea, real asian tea, we're talking about the leaf of the camellia sinensis plant. the huge variety we have of tea is actually from the different ways of processing that exact same leaf. popular varieties include:

green: the leaf goes through minimal processing, can have a bright and even leafy/grassy flavour (examples: gunpowder, longjing aka dragon well, matcha, genmaicha)

white: also undergoes minimal processing, with a lighter flavour than even green (examples: silver needle, shou mei)

oolong: the leaf is semi-oxidised, curled, and twisted—can be characterised by a tanniny flavour with a bright aftertaste. my personal favourite! (examples: da hong pao, tieguanyin, dong ding, alishan)

dark (black): note this isn't the same as black tea as we think of it in english. the leaf is fermented to produce an earthy tea with a flavour like petrichor (examples: pu'er)

all the teas listed in the "examples" are fairly credible teas that i think a real tea snob like iroh would drink.

ok, but what about...

"black tea" as we know it in the west—assam and ceylon etc? this variety is actually called "red tea" in chinese. we don't drink it with milk but to be honest, i've just... never really heard of anyone drinking chinese red tea? which is why i've kept it off the list. (there's lapsang souchong, but i associate that with bri'ish people...) anyone who does drink it, let me know! on the other hand something like assam/ceylon, while extremely delicious and also asian, is a product of british colonialism and is consumed with milk. i think if you wanted to massage some of the traditions & have chai-drinking indian-influenced characters, though, that's cool!

do you actually not drink herbal tea? we do... but a lot of it is considered medicinal. we've got stuff like herbal "cooling tea" with ingredients like sour plum, mesona, or crysanthemum; tea that warms you up like ginseng or ginger. the whole concept of hot/cold in chinese medicine though... that deserves another culture post

camellia leaf murdered my family & i have a grudge against it; what else can my blorbos drink? there'a some good, tasty stuff made of wheat, barley, buckwheat, even soybean. wouldn't be egregious for the characters to drink that!

is milk sacriligeous? a real tea snob would think so, but a lot of asians nowadays are chill about milk in tea—usually in western-influenced red tea. hong kong, thailand, india, taiwan, and malaysia (among others) have their own cultures of milk tea, which has even become a democratic rallying point.

what do you think of iroh inventing bubble tea? my main issue with it is it's anachronistic! it was invented in taiwan in the late 20th century, but atla's set in the equivalent of the mid-19th century... you could also make arguments about whether iroh's too snobby about tea to invent it LOL

there's soooo much more i can say about all this so: keep your eyes peeled! i'll talk about medicine & tea ceremony in the near future <3

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#atla #atla culture #atla meta #avatar the last airbender #iroh #asian culture tips #tea #so i'm making this post as not QUITE a certified Tea SnobTM the way iroh is #but i do really love and enjoy many east asian teas #and i start every day off with a cup of strong milk tea (probably reflecting my own cultural heritage tho ;) ) #and i do look down on white ppl tisanes. that shit aint good!!