#so mad i didnt take more screenshots

[cerubean]

i never give san my the love she deserves

#id kill for another city world w/ bands and skateboarding and dirt and grime sighhh #ts4 scenery #the sims 4 #s #simblr #s4mm #so mad i didnt take more screenshots

[roakkaliha]

Yeah i met this one dude thru a wc server and he asked me to join his server n i was like sure and it was all pastel goth tbhk carrd twt furriers so you know shit was gonna be insane. Anyway i bought a 10$ custom from this dude he never finished n i was like ok 🙄 and he kept like approaching me to buy other shit but this was last year before i got my current job so i was making 10/hr AND my sister was asking me for cash (now estranged) upwards of like 50$ every few weeks so i was like dude im not buying a 200$ used fursuit from you fuck off. Anyway i just started screenshottimg every convo i had in that server bc they pissed me off and would also lie about things they said like 10 min prior so id cite my sources n ppl got SOOOOO mad. Anyway there was also obvs favoritism and like this one dude went so hard for White Guy Furry Using JPN Name despite having been kicked from his bpdpolycule it was whack. Anyway they were also fatphobic like crazy and had bad takes abt a certain trial last year which was fucking HILARIOUS bc id talk about a legal part of it and theyd be like "well idk anything about that but-" SHUT UP THENNNN . Anyway the guy was gonna commission a huge piece from me but i refused to continue past a concept till i was paid the first half. (More on that later). Hed also ghost whenever i called him on anything including his poor conflict resolution skills which then got me made a mod (????) . Anyway mod chat blew up after a minor misunderstanding turned into a bloodbath bc one mod thought one of the main guys Eff Pees broke a rule and i was like OKAY OKAY OKAY IM DOING MY FINALS CAN YOU CUNTS ACT GROWN so then me and other mod got demodded and the mod chat got nuked. (But i had screenshots :)). Anyway i get a dm later from sb who knew that other mod n was like heyyyyy btw those ppl scammed others out of both money and art (comming n then ghosting) do you have all the evidence of that and also where they accused me of being a pedophile. And i was like oh boy do i.

I didnt even think it was a scam thing or whatever these people were just such insufferable cunts i ended up cataloguing vital context to the buyer beware. #paralegalslay

#you live a fascinating life

[emmetofthestars]

hi if its ok to ask can you say what happened in the ask discord? i'm in it but don't know anyone and barely ever look at the chat so i don't know much about the admins but i'm worried what they did...

of course don't answer if you don't want to talk about it, sorry for bothering and have a good day

basically what happened is that the server owner, within the first day i was in the server, decided to for some reason derail the conversation happening in general into NSFW, and they posted cropped nsfw, and asked IN GENERAL whether anyone wanted the full. this contradicts THEIR OWN SERVER RULES which says if you post nsfw you need to spoiler it and add in text WHAT you spoilered. i tried to point this out, and they spoilered it (But didnt add text describing the context...) and basically immediately started guilt tripping in front of everyone, which completely destroyed the conversation me and other people were having in that channel. they said shit like "i thought i was a friend but i guess to you people on the server im just a messenger for the asks" and "nobody likes me", garbage like that makes my blood boil and i promptly left the server and told them to take me off the list. it made more than just me uncomfortable too, i talked to somebody in the server in dms and he said he also felt uncomfortable and didnt like how the situation was handled. i paraphrased the quotes but it was along those lines, as close as i can remember, i didnt take screenshots because i was so mad i couldnt focus. i absolutely advise to stay away from this server, with a owner as immature as that.

but also, this is just about the owner, i dont know much else literally because i had to leave promptly. idk what goes on in the server now but i wouldnt say its peaceful

this is also setting aside the fact that this server isnt the goddamn place for nsfw. its a public group, keep that shit in your pants or between your friends for fucks sake.

[slaythespire]

im sorry my tumblr followers who dont know me im mad rn, im just rambling mad under a readmore again thanksss

listen its not that i need to be dating someone im just chilling. in fact rn i would not want to date anyone.

but i HATEEEE HATE seeing people say shit like "You dont need anyone, you should learn to be happy without someone else in ur life! why do you need someone else! just be happy without that!" well damn sue me for wanting someone to deeply love me who i deeply love back!! why is that such a bad thing to want!! obviously if you cant function without being in a relationship that's not good, but people always say that shit to someone going "i feel unlovable and like no one will ever want me" and it feels so meanspirted!! damn!!

its been like almost a year since i got ghosted and i know its annoying to hear people complain abt the same thing over and over again. but its just HARD bcus i feel stupid, and used. i really thought my ex was like, THE person, we talked abt getting married and how we'd combine our last names, abt moving in together, supported each other through everything. when i was in inpatient this person called me almost everyday i was there to say hi and check in on me. i thought my future involved them and then they just dropped me without even an explanation. never in a million billion years did i think that would happen (outside of my bad brain telling me it would, which, well i was right so LOL) bcus they were my best friend of 8 years!!

and its scary bcus it makes me think there must be something wrong with me/"how could anyone ever love me when even the person who dated me for 6 years didnt". and people always say things like "you haven't met everyone who will care about you yet" but what if i have, and my one chance at having a relationship i was so happy in was ruined bcus the other person is a self-obsessed asshole who lied to my face abt so much for who KNOWS what reason. WHATEVER.

i feel like when i make posts like this i come off as an insane person in the "no wonder they broke up with you" way, but i promise im actually normal ive just been very emotionally ripped to shreds by a very bad breakup. barely a breakup bcus it was over TWITTER DM. whatever im just gonna be one of those people that obsesses over fictional characters so much i think were in a relationship.

i just rlly rlly wonder what their reasoning for doing this to me was and if they feel bad abt it. or if they think its funny, or if they just dont care. i also wonder if they think they can just message me one day and apologize and think itll be okay (i dont think this will happen, i used to but i dont anymore)

i lean towards they just dont care, i doubt they even think about what they did lol. i mean i HOPE they feel bad, but i dont think thats true. id be shocked if i ever heard from them again which is just, crazy. 8 years of knowing someone and it ends like that through no fault of your own. i wish i had a screenshot of the break up dm id post it in a heartbeat so anyone who actually read this far would feel whiplash like i do. (filled to the brim with "i love you so much" "i feel horrible for hurting you and i hate that im doing it" "i really care about you" "i hope you stay in my life bcus youre my best friend").

and it makes me really sad bcus OFC we would have stayed friends, i loved them so much that while id be sad abt breaking up i would still want them in my life. (WE EVEN TALKED ABT HOW IF WE BROKE UP WE ALWAYS THOUGHT WE'D STAY FRIENDS). but even in my fantasy world where they reach out after a few years all apologetic and guilty i just couldnt do it anymore.

one more but i don't understand what would compel someone to say all that knowing theyre lying and dont give a fuck about you, like it only comes off as evil and fucked up and cruel to me, so how else am i supposed to take that.

[anchorandrope]

Hello Alex!!! Hope you’re doing great :3

I follow you on Twitter and I have seen that a couple of times you have said that you can be "no stunts" and a twarrie at the same time. Can you explain how that's possible? Thanks <3

hi dear,

before i start, a little note for those who dont have twitter: on twitter people use the term “no stunts” to refer to the fact that they dont believe in any stunt. larries do this because on twitter there are larry shippers who call themselves larries and thats why they invented that term to differentiate themselves.

first, everyone should know that there is only one definition of larrie (a person who believes that louis tomlinson and harry styles are in a real and serious love relationship since the beginning of one direction), but unfortunately many people believe that the definition of larrie varies according to the app, or stuff like that. for this reason, many people use terms like “im a tumblr larrie”, “im a tiktok larrie”, “im a twitter larrie”, etc. in my opinion, either you are larrie or you are not larrie, the end. it seems stupid to me that some people think there are different types or “levels” of larries.

having said all this, the term twarrie came up to refer to twitter larries. and no, its not literally any larrie that uses twitter, the term identifies those larries whose main platform is twitter. the term encompasses a whole stereotype of how a larrie whose main platform is twitter acts and thinks. i think a lot of people think that being a twarrie is synonymous with believing in babygate (thinking louis is a father) when in reality being a twarrie involves a lot more than just an opinion on babygate. you may not believe in babygate, but if you act like a twarrie does, then dont get mad when someone calls you that. you know what i mean?

as i said, the stereotype encompasses many things, so you can easily be a “no stunts” larrie and still be a twarrie. now, you must be wondering... how the hell do i identify a twarrie? well, basically a twarrie isnt educated and theorizes and “clowns” about everything. if you are new to the fandom, surely when you see a twarrie you wont identify them as such, surely you will think “wow their theory is so complex, surely they are very smart” when in reality they are just making up anything to keep having “larry proof”. you realize they are twarries when they seem to need these crazy theories to keep believing in larry.

i feel that the new larries want to look for current “proofs” because they didnt live the real larry proofs. i know they dont do it with bad intentions, but this really affects the image of larries a lot, especially those of us who use tumblr. twarries think that by the simple fact of having installed the tumblr app on their phones, they are automatically “tumblr larries” (and then they go and tell everyone that they are), and thanks to this, everyone think that larries that use tumblr are crazy.

i personally never cared about twarries, but lately i have to admit that it annoys me that they use us to make hit tweets and to justify that they are the smartest just because they have tumblr. im tired of going on twitter and seeing accounts that take screenshots of tumblr posts just so they can say “omg look what i saw on tumblr, so true” and gain likes. but you know what makes my blood boil? when you tell a twarrie that they’re acting like a twarrie and they tells you that you’re blinded by the industry and that things go way beyond what we see 🤌🏼 sorry, but i dont know about yall, but i would say “babe, sit down” lol. i think all twarries should read this... because lately their actions are affecting the fandom a lot.

i hope i answered your question (and sorry it was so long) have a nice day <3

#i was going to answer this in a short way and... shit happens hehe #ask #twarries

[lwtqts]

no because that eunseok fic is relating a LITTLE TO WELL to my life..... okay a little storytime ONLY IF YOU'RE INTERESTED ‼️ okay so this girl i became friends with the beginning of freshman year decided to turn her fucking back on me out of no where, so its the ending of sophomore year for me rn and in January she had started to become distant and i didnt mind because yk maybe she was going through something and wanted to be alone but mind you i kept asking if she had a problem with me or something because yes i am an overthinker okok 😾☝️and I skip right to conclusions anyways she starts making our entire friend group distant from me (except for two girls whom ive known since literal diapers) anyways i start to get uncomfortable because wtf she used to be so nice and a girls girl until one day she snaps at one of the two girls and starts calling her names and telling her to fucking move on from a guy my friend was talking to at the time which mind you that girl shouldn't be talking because shes still obsessed with her ex from FOUR FUCKING YEARS AGO 😭‼️‼️anyways that day she made the room hella uncomfortable and that day going home from school something didn't feel right and that's when i get a message from her asking if we can talk and i answer her right away cause fucking finally she spoke up about her attitude anyways she starts going off on me on how terrible of a friend I am, that I'm a bitch who makes everyone uncomfortable, I'm judgemental and opinionated and that I bring nothing but bad energy to everyone in my life and I was just sitting there in disbelief because wtf and not to toot my own horn or anything but I am one of the nicest people I fucking know 😭 I have gotten so many compliments from those around me on how I put others first and how I radiate mother energy, and how i put my own problems aside to take care of those around me and yes I will admit i am the mother of the group and i am proud to be that 🫡N E WAYS she would quite literally like the guys I liked or his BEST BEST friends and try to get with them 😭👎 and would always judge everyone but if you told her something she'd be mad and make you apologize like girl !?!? anyways me being the bigger person I apologize for those dumbass reasons and there we unfollow each other and that's it but I wake up the next morning to MULTIPLE messages from this girl talking about how if I was to talk shit id do it to her face or that i need to shut my mouth on social media, GIRL THE WAY I WASNT EVEN ON SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE I NEEDED A BREAK FROM IT TO RETHINK ABOUT THIS GIRL AND HER INTENTIONS THE WHOLE TIME WE WERE FRIENDS AND SHE PULLED SOME SHIT ASS LIES FROM HER ASS AND KEPT ACCUSING ME 😭 what's so funny though is that she was the one talking shit on me on social media but as I was realizing this I get a text from one of the two girls and she sends me a screenshot of all the shit that the girl was talking behind my back, FOR 2 MONTHS SHE WAS TALKING SHIT ON ME WHILE ALSO PRETENDING TO BE MY FRIEND 😭😭 AND THE BEST PART ABOUT ALL THIS IS THAT SHE IS GOING AROUND PAINTING ME AS THE FUCKING VILLIAN DUDE 😭😭😭 AND SHE LITERALLY SWITCHED OUR FUCKINF ROLES AND SAID I WAS THE ONE TO FUCK EVERYTHING UP LIKE HUH !?!?? since it's been months of that happening I catch her ass glaring at me and STILL spreading rumors about me but almost everyone in my school knows I'm so sweet and I've known a majority of those people since kindergarten and that girl just moved to that school so 😭 honestly I just continue to let her bark because I don't like problems with anyone and I like to be the bigger person 😓 also she turned the friend group on me by convincing them that I was talking shit on them which I wasnt and now only those two girls talk to me! lol sorry for this long ass storytime I was just thinking about how yunjin is sounding a little TOO much like this ex friend of mine 😭😭 if you want more details I have PLENTY GIRLLL like the tea is boiling over!! okok tyyy 💗 (I love your work smmm but eunseok pisses me tf off in that fic 😞🤞)

BRO WHATT😦😦😦😦

im literally mouth open what the actual fuck, i hate people like this fr like what the fuck is their problem. i had a friend like this too which was at the beginning of the year and she started talking shit on me bc of a guy who i happened to like too BUT i didnt know she liked him because she never told me, and she started talking shit on me and making me look horrible saying shit like im a pick me girl, i need male validation and attention, but girl i literally did NOTHING to her but like this guy and be friends with him, i confronted her later on and she shut up real quick admitting that she was jealous of me. ugh but i hope you find better friends soon ! because from what i know, people who talk shit on you who happen to be your friend are jealous. but like if you ever need someone to shut that girl up rq, dm me because no way in hell is she gonna get everyone on her side nuh uh🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️

[tattoed-and-toothless]

There are a few things about all this situation that I wanted to bring up that I haven't seen other people mentioning. (This is long, so feel free to scroll away if you're tired of it all, i don't blame you)

I'm not sure if anyone else has said this, but I think the Seattle social media team could have handled their response to this A LOT better. First, they promoted a seemingly toxic situation that seems like it didnt really have a good place to end. What? They just stop making booktok content and people get upset that they took a 180° turn. Like how people are upset that they did that now, after the Wennberg's spoke up. Maybe posting something like, "hey, its been brought to our attention that members of the Kraken organization felt uncomfortable with certain posts so we have chosen to take them down." I don't think they should have posted a lot of those videos in the first place (some of them were pg and wholesome).

But I don't think they should have just gone no-comment and dropped all their booktok content and unfollowed Kierra either. They could have messaged her and explained themselves a bit more and parted ways amicably. After all, they did invite her to a playoff game and gave her a jersey very publicly on their account as well. Both accounts gained a following around it.

Quite frankly, I think their social media team ran with the trend because it was popular and it was getting them more views. But they probably should have consulted with the people in the videos before posting them. Imagine your workplace posting thirst traps of you doing your job, without asking if they could post it. I know a lot of that might be in their contracts, something about media and it may not specify types of media, i dont know. But human decency is the whole topic here people.

I also think that the social media team for the kraken may be a bit young, and not as experienced at posting things for athletes or teams specifically. They may be experienced at social media managing as a whole, but not necessarily managing for something of this caliber, with this magnitude of publicity. it seems like they jumped the gun on this stuff.

A whole other thing that i've noticed is that with every new video, every new comment about the situation, Kierra Lewis has seemed to make this whole thing about herself. Every video she posts seems to inflate the drama more and it doesn't need to be this big of a deal to me. Kierra talks about how they called her out and blamed her specifically.

Felicia DID write her first message over screenshots of her video. But she didn't name Kierra specifically, even though she very easily could have. It was a fairly straightforward statement Felicia posted about how she knows that her husband is attractive and she isn't mad at people appreciating that. She just asked the entirety of booktok, and anyone else who sees the post, to be more respectful of what they say, how they say it, and who they say it to. And then put that text over some comments she had screenshotted and hit post.

Felicia wasn't trying to make an issue of anything, she's just asking people to respect her husband and other public figures of either gender. It was simple. She didn't point fingers. She didn't name names. She asked that EVERYONE be respectful and mindful of what the say in comments, DMs, videos, etc... which is something we should already be doing.

As soon as she didn't get a DM back from Felicia, Kierra went off on everyone. She was so apologetic and nice in the messages she sent Felicia, offering to take down any videos they wanted and saying that she didnt mean to offend anyone. And then she turned it around and blamed everyone else. I feel like this could have been over with so quickly, but she keeps posting more videos about it and adding fuel to a fire that could have been put out.

Her videos keep drawing more attention and not the good kind. I feel like she drew a lot of conclusions based on assumptions of people's intentions without knowing their real intentions. In this world, when you assume the worst of everyone, you get the worst of everyone. It's not a fun world to be in.

I think it was wrong the way the kraken social media team communicated things and I think it's wrong the Kierra seems to be inflating the situation with every toxic video she posts. But as a whole, everyone out here coming after the Wennberg's and their family when all they asked for was respect? That shows more about your own character than it does theirs.

In the end, nobody is perfect and mistakes happen, but this has blown up so much more than I'm sure Alex or Felicia ever intended it to. They just wanted respite from the comments and messages they were tired of seeing.

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Feel free to DM me, i'd love to have a genuine conversation with people about this, whether you agree with me or not. But only if you're willing to have a civil conversation

#alex wennberg #felicia wennberg #i stand with alex and felicia wennberg #seattle kraken #kraken #nhl #hockeyblr #seriously #dm me #i'd love to hear your thoughts #there didnt need to be this much drama about this omg

[charleslebatman]

hi bestie!

i have been thinking for sometime if i should send this or not but i decided to do it.

i saw all the alexandra twitter likes when people find out her account and before she deleted it; and i remember thinking "humm theres A LOT to unpack here"

first of all - her oldests twitter likes (from 2019 that i think that was when she created it) were the problematic ones that you have the screenshots of. I agree with everything you said about it and you, who is directly affected by that law, have every right to be mad and angry with her. - im not gonna defend her on this. in the same time frame she also liked a tweet from a very weird account but the content was fine (they were talking about the importance of different cultures in society) - and i checked at the time and she didnt follow the account so 🤷🏼‍♀️.

but i have to said it to be totally fair: her other likes (from 2021- 2023) are so different from the problematic ones . Like, it shows a totally different view about the world and politics. I remember she liked tweets heavily criticizing piers morgan and the way he talks about meghan markle and antiracist suff . and yes she liked tweets about the war (ukraine and afghanistan) but the tweets weren't making fun of it (like so many people said) - in my perception it was about the dirty politics and the powerfull people and countries interests behind it (and i 100% agree with them tbh) i don't have any screenshots of it so i can't prove what im saying but istg that i have no reason to lie about it and its mostly based in my own opinions its ok if people desagree.

and in the middle of it she also liked stuff about ecole du louvre - so i think that was the turning point for her. it is common for people to go through certain changes in ideals and conceptions when they go to college. you mature and start to see things with another mentality. so maybe she changed?

idk, it is like you and other besties said before - she is a rich and privileged girl so -im disappointed but not surprised - that she liked some problematic stuff and if she changed thats good for her.

we can talk about more about it if you feel like it (because i know its not a easy subject for you and i don't wanna push it too much).

anyways, thanks for creating a safe space that everyone can share their opinnions, bestie :) 😶‍🌫️

Sincerely, I don't care if her other likes are true or not. I've seen enough with this retirement law. I could talk for hours about the consequences. About how it's enough to show that she's not as kind and gentle as we're led to believe.

How it disgusts me to see someone liking the very first one on l’Echo de la Boucle, but I'm also going to annoy people. It's not just political opinions, she's making fun through this like of people who are going to kill themselves at work and of women for whom this law is very sexist.

The first tweet said, "working more will make you younger" basically. Even the rich unionists were against this law. It's the first time that so many unions were in agreement. There were real scenes worthy of war. Perhaps other French people will tell you I'm exaggerating, except that we tend to take a lot of things in a humorous tone to put things into perspective.

I'm quite surprised that so few talk about it. I guess because it's related to Charles and it's hard to imagine him dating someone like that. I've said it many times, I love Charles but he's no angel or saint.

Plus, thanks bestie I’m glad to learn you’re feeling safe here. ❤️

#alexandra saint mleux

[ravasheencc]

Hi Rava! Hope you're doing well! I have a quick question. It drives me mad that trees in the game, when zoomed in, disappear and don't come back unless you zoom out. That & the lit curtains that came with HSY & other things, I'm sure there's more than I can think of. I'm fine with it in live mode but when it comes to pictures is where it really annoys me. Is it possible to make it so those things reappear in screenshots (using the camera button/"C" shortcut)? I write a lot in the game so I take a ton of screenies. I'd love to have flowering trees framing the scene in some of my proposal/romantic screenies but I have to be so far away from the scene for them to appear & it's so frustrating. Maybe this already exists somewhere & I'm just unaware. Thank you for any input you may have!

i didnt know of a good way to do this without editing each tree object so i asked twistedmexi and here is what he said:

If they start the cinematic camera away from those objects they should be able to get closer without them disappearing

hope that helps!

[kingslayerstew]

3, 19 & 24 for asoiaf? 👀

3. screenshot or description of the worst take you've seen on tumblr

i dont really go outside of my mutual sphere so i dont come across that many garbage asoiaf takes anymore but fertility theory still sticks out to me as particularly awful. you know the theory that because she has tully megafertility womb as opposed to yucky barren stark womb sansa will have a billion babies with jon. or whatever

19. you're mad/ashamed/horrified you actually kind of like...

hmmm.... i dont really get ashamed of things i like i guess the closest thing that comes to that is my complex relationship w littlefinger who i think is a very entertaining character yet is hard for me to think about for more than 10 seconds because on page child grooming is too much for me. its like. i dont think i wouldve been a cerseigirl if she did what she did to lancel on page you know, at this point its not abt character morality its just what i am comfortable with reading personally. didnt rlly answer the question sorry

24. topic that brings up the most rancid discourse

little girl discourse will always take the cake it seems like a very miserable way to spend your time

#ask

[aronarchy]

[image ID: a screenshot of a Tumblr interaction.

On May 3, someone posted, “[cloud emoji]: [redacted] blinkies <3 anti abuse only plz,” with six blinkies, captioned “all made at blinkie.cafe”

On June 2, critical-collective reblogged the original post. A third person reblogged this reblog, saying, “Many of those you would consider pro-abuse would consider themselves anti-abuse, and I can firmly say that even without knowing your stance. Sorry, but this is literally the same as ‘basic DNI,’ ‘DNI shitheads.’”

critical-collective reblogged from the third person, adding the tags, “#tbh i didnt even see that anti abuse thing when i first rbed #i was just captivated by the rolal blinkie #but rbing for that addition #also important to say that you cant really control who uses the things you post to public domain”

/end image ID]

I’ve been seeing this take more and more often among people I would consider friends/closely acquainted comrades, and I strongly disagree. It’s kind of worrying, actually. I’d wanted to address this earlier, and even started drafting this post weeks ago, but unfortunately stress + ADHD made me unable to actually finish writing it until now.

I remember seeing a similar sentiment around here from this following set of answers to anons. I hadn’t wanted to say anything about those answers at the time, because I was triggered and distressed, and thought it wasn’t really important enough of an issue to make a fuss about. But I think I’ll talk about it now, and I’ll also take this chance to address these in the same post, because they run on similar faulty logics.

[image ID: three asks sent to a person (not through Tumblr) about 1 month ago.

The first ask:

I see that many [[people in a certain community/demographic] think that [thing which is a form of sexual abuse] does not count as real sexual abuse,] but [they see that] others unfortunately [are] being real victims of predators and get sexually abused [(what does count as “real sexual abuse” under their framework)], so although wouldn't it be more logical to be anti-abuse than anti-[term for a set of behaviors which all constitute abuse (we believe we are correct in considering them to be abuse), though the aforementioned individuals believe that only some of them are abuse)]?

answer:

“Anti abuse” sounds like “anti bad things, pro good things” to me.

second ask:

Are you not anti bad things pro good things?

answer:

I try not to define my political positions in ways that describe my attitude more than what I actually want.

third ask:

But some people do think abuse is good, even things they themselves consider “abuse” (with that word).

answer:

Most people I’ve come across agreed with me that abuse is bad. We just defined abuse differently. And that, together with how sensationalized the concept of abuse is and how easily people get aggressive at the slightest implication that they support abuse, makes me not want to use this word as often. There are other ways to say the same thing.

Some portions have been redacted. The text in brackets was edited in by me to clarify context or make things easier to read.

/end image ID]

(I’m aware that this might make the OPs feel attacked. To clarify, I don’t intend this as an attack of some sort, just as a way to air my disagreements and frustrations and possibly provide useful information or arguments. Usually I don’t say anything at all when a friend/close acquaintance says something which I find problematic, because I don’t want to make people mad/upset at me, and feel like nobody would agree anyway. I’m not mad and don’t want any apologies; just bringing up points for consideration.)

It’s very important to me that people do not confuse what “should” be done from what “can” be done. It’s true, for example, that it’s difficult to truly have control over who reuses your designs you post to Tumblr. That doesn’t, however, make it wrong for you to wish for your creations to be reshared in respectful and ethical ways. Is it actually wrong for someone to violate a “do not use this if you are X”? I don’t know; the ethical considerations surrounding boundaries regarding non-direct interactions like these are far more ambiguous and difficult to determine. That doesn’t mean, however, that we should use doomer arguments—the logic of “you can’t enforce this, which is why you should not expect (want) people to respect this” itself can be applied to anything. Including boundaries that are much more obviously obligatory to respect. Leaving this open is dangerous. A similar set of arguments applies to DNIs in general.

And is it wrong for, say, a bigot to interact with a marginalized person who says “people bigoted against my identity DNI”? IMO, yes, but not really because I’d say “all DNIs are always inherently wrong to violate”; it’s because a bigot, with the beliefs they hold, makes those marginalized people unsafe. But the very same DNIs that are (pretty much) most unambiguously unethical to cross are also the ones which are hardest to enforce, because by definition bigots do not care about the boundaries of marginalized people. But, using this to argue against DNIs as a whole misunderstands the reason why many people say “[bigoted group] DNI.” They know that it’s not really enforceable without a block, but it sends a message: that this is what they want, and it indicates what they believe, and that they are likely hostile to bigotry. The same logic applies to abuse apologia.

This is in no way the same as things like “basic DNI criteria” or “DNI shitheads.” “Basic DNI criteria” and “shitheads” are nebulous, basically impossible to define universally, because they can’t be the same among everyone; they're by themselves vague and extremely subjective. But “abuse” is not such a term. Abuse is possible (arguably easy!) to define objectively, and one should expect people to adhere to a single definition of “abuse” (and believe that it exists). Of course most people don't agree on what constitutes “abuse”—and that is a problem, actually! Most people are abuse apologists; that’s not a good thing. Of course most people aren't the type of edgelord that’s unironically supportive of what they personally believe does constitute “abuse.” That doesn’t mean they’re not actually pro-abuse though; it means they’re wrong thinking some abuse isn’t real abuse. But the solution to that is not to cater to their abuse apologia, to coddle them and refuse to tell them the truth for the sake of some liberal ideals of “tolerance” for a “diversity of opinions.” Some opinions are not valid! Some opinions are harmful!

Bigots (in general) use the exact same tactics, rejecting labels like “racist” or “homophobe” when they’re accused of being such, because they don't believe what they’re promoting or doing “counts” as “real” bigotry or oppression. That doesn’t mean they're right about that. It also does not mean that people should stop saying “I don’t want [bigots] here” because “well what about the [un-self-aware bigots]!!” (They are un-self-aware bigots, not people who just happen to have a neutrally different and equally valid opinion on what constitutes bigotry.)

Ceding that the definition of abuse can reasonably/should be relativized is what abuse-relativizers (and abuse advocates/abusers in general) have been cheering on since forever. They believe that “abuse” is “simply a word to indicate nebulous individual feelings of perceiving Bad Things” because they support abuse and don’t view it as a serious issue specifically defined by exploitation of power/violation of autonomy which is inherently unethical, and view victims as lying, overreacting, contemptible, and unreliable witnesses to or interpreters of our own lives. They apply this view to victims/survivors all the time, dismissing our concerns as simply “subjective feelings” or Moral(tm) Judgment(tm), and cast this labeling as “demonization.”

The term abuse is “sensationalized” in most people’s minds BECAUSE of pervasive abuse culture and pro-abuse attitudes. Of course many people only believe that Actually Extremely Bad actions are “abusive”—they don’t have a good understanding of what abuse is! That is a very bad thing! It is one of the most important factors in making most abuse go undetected and most victims unsupported! (Meanwhile, the actual problem with the anon’s statement and beliefs went unaddressed, missing out on a useful opportunity, because the responder decided to focus completely on the wrong problem.)

I can’t really take this (the responses to the asks) as just some sort of personal preference indicator regarding terminology and comfort levels. It’s clearly a capitulation to abuse culture that fundamentally misunderstands the dynamics at play, and ultimately reinforces these problems.

Yes, much of abuse victim advocacy advises that (at first) you should not directly use the term “abuse” when telling someone that the abusive behaviors they’ve experienced were wrong or that their abuser is harming them. But that has never been a call to keep doing that forever, perceiving avoiding the term “abuse” (them having internalized their abuser’s abusive rhetoric) as some sort of good thing. It’s a crucial part of healing and breaking free from abuse to be able to understand that the abuse was in fact “abuse” and that abusers are abusers.

The word “abuse” is language extremely important to victims/survivors and anti-abuse activists. Abuse apologists’ fear of/aggressive opposition to being labeled abusers is a clear indicator and product of their own ignorance, entitlement, and oppressive ideologies. That makes it even more important to confront their problematic rhetoric and lack of understanding instead of defanging our ability to analyze and critique power dynamics and advocate for ourselves.

Everywhere I look I see people wanting to water down, co-opt, or constrain the language developed and used by survivors because nothing will satisfy them but, ultimately, complete silence. Everywhere people seem allergic to the term “abuse,” complaining that it is “too strong a word” and maybe you shouldn’t use it? I mean it’s kind of harsh/mean/too extreme/subjective/exaggerating/hysterical isn’t it? Just pick a different word!!! (No word ever truly satisfies.) I’m fucking tired of this bullshit and I don’t want traces of it to stick in places where I am supposed to feel safe and have my issues and my needs understood too.

(update: talked it out with the aforementioned third person; we mostly agree)

#OP

[surpriserose]

3, 7, 16, 19 for jojo :]

3 screenshot or description of the worst take you've seen on tumblr

I mean christ what do you even pick for jojo no one is normal plus i mean memory bad so i dont know if i even have a specific example dhhshshshsjs

Actually can i cheat this one is twitter but it was this guy being like ew the stone ocean anime is so lazy theyre using CG ANIMATION EWWWW but specifically talking about lang wrangler like shut up who cares cg animation isn't bad on principle and its totally fine to use it like im in agreement that that shit didnt look good but its not like using cg animation is like...a sin man like the fucking opening is cg and it looks great! They just didnt care for lang wranglers animation and i dont blame them tbh he sucks ^_^

7 what character did you begin to hate not because of canon but because how how the fandom acts about them?

...........entire golden wind cast like okay i dont HATE them but no one does anything interesting with them or lets them be little freaks like they are in canon you know? Plus i mean the oversaturation of part 5 stuff alone is kind of gausbsjsbwos

16 you can't understand why so many people like this thing (characterization, trope, headcanon, etc)

So i dont hate this i mean i literally just dont understand the impluse to flesh out yukako? Like i guess j do i love people who flesh out ignored female characters but also shes like...just a yandere cut out i dont understand what people see there but more power to them i guess? Vdushsisksks

19 you're mad/ashamed/horrified you actually kind of like...

Man...its anasui im sorry he sucks i do hate him if i think about his character seriously but i cant lie i love making him a pathetic loser everyone hates and that makes me not write him off entirely you know? Like idk that feels like kind of a cop out but anasui as the friend everyone hates is enjoyable sorry to have fanon brain for a moment sygdudhsisdbdksk

#Long post #? Idk it feels long to me

[thotfrnk]

tackling the ancestral hall scene. re: jc was very much in the right, my thoughts. long post !

^^^ for some context, jiang cheng didnt explicitly allowed wei wuxian back, but he didn't deny him. basically, he gave wei wuxian an inch, and he took a mile. not to mention, jc wanted w.wx to return back anyways! he wanted w.wx to kneel in the ancestral hall and beg for forgiveness from his parents. that consent didn't extend to l.wj, an OUTSIDER, he's not part of the jiang nor does he share blood, nor was he wedded to w.wx, at that point in the story w.wx still wasn't aware of l.wj's feelings.

yada yada yada theyre all at lotus pier, on official business, to discuss the whole matter wrt to jin guangyao, wng.xn are there as GUESTS, w.wx technically deflected from ymj pre-res, and l.wj is yknow, an OUTSIDER. while sect leaders are discussing, wng/xn decided to explore lp, nothing wrong w that really, jc tails them for a bit bc he was notified. he would've never confronted them but! this happens:

wng.xn were basically trespassing at this point like dskjfnnkjnkfenjr they'd have to be SO far in the inner courts of ymj, even if its in character for w.wx to do this, l.wj on the other hand.... shouldn't he have known better? all those rules within the gusulan sect and none of them mentioned to not enter ancestral halls w/o permission? like this is jc's HOME, he's the master of the house, they cant just waltz around like they own the place.

this is taking me outtttt like w.wx fr shit talking yzy in her FINAL resting place and only realising it after a second widkdkfkdfkdkfkdkfkfkckfkfkdk . didn't screenshot this but: ww.x AND l.wj did bows in front of their tablets , which...... yeah.

the thing is, yeah yzy and jfm tablets were there but it's not just them, it's the JIANG ancestral hall, so it held tablets for ALL the jiang that had passed...... like you don't even need to be well versed in chinese culture or confucianism or the like to know that what wng.xn were doing was wrong. god.

and this was where jc caught them:

jc was totally justified for this reaction, there's no ifs ands or buts with this, they basically violated the most sacred place in his HOME. need i mention again this is jc's HOMEEEEE .

some more context: jc was implying l.wj was gay (he is) and was mad at how shameless wng.xn was acting, w.wx still doesn't know of l.wj's feelings and took it as an insult. antis love to you this scene as jc being homophobic but like...... 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 he just doesn't appreciate them coming and desecrating his ancestral hall bro 😭😭😭😭😭 jc isn't homophobic he just don't appreciate ppl acting shamelessly in sacred places wldkdkfkdk

then w.wx goes and attacks him, in his HOME, in his ANCESTRAL HALL..... GOD....... like what the fuck is wrong with themmmmmmm 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 they done trespassing and now attacking and i supposed to be rooting for them?🙄🙄 jiang cheng better than me, he shoulda drawn sandu right then and there

and the cherry on top of this whole soap opera mess:

w.wx FAINTING. like "oh woe is me my actions actually have consequences?😵" MANS ALLERGIC TO ACCOUNTABILITY 😭😭😭 . the cognitive dissonance was truly hilarious to see ekdkdkfkdkfkf

#jcposting #god im basically writing essays yall im sorry dksjfksfeujidrg #please do note this isnt meta or some well researched post. this is just my thoughts abt the scene #and my defending jc for this bc he was 100% in the right for this #post-res w.wx I dont care for i do hold sympathy for him but his avoidance of the very -- #-- real issues and mess he left behind is quite... hmmm irritating? #this is why i could never like wng.xn.... lw.j is too much of an asshole and post-res w.wx is so un-w.wx #but yeah . these are my thoughts lskdekfkkrfk #whoever reads this whole mess: BLESS YOU 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[kithtaehyung]

Was gonna do this in order of how offended I am but it’s really hard to choose…so this is just in order of how I saw them 😐

1) Him tracing ily on her skin 😭 why did my brain immediately think of him doing this before he has built up the courage to say it out loud, like he can’t say it out loud yet but he’s bursting at the seams so he just- ✋🏽😭

2) I was expecting the 3tan yoongi violence but this cannot be tolerated 😐😐😐😐😐 #1 post I’m mad about as of rn. This Tae is illegal 😭😭😭😭 (spoiler alert: it gets worse 😭)

3) Lmao no but Ryensuela for the Nicholasname 😂☠️ (I am still partial to when I see people call you Ryen Kith Taehyung in all caps, it makes me giggle every time). Didn’t have a particular post to tag for this, just know I thoroughly enjoyed seeing people try to lengthen your name 😂 nicknames are my fave.

4) Sad I missed this ask game but the ones asked were so good 😂😭 (wish there were more sneaky 3tan bro and jk ones but it was still a good mix 👀)

5) I’m sorry wut is this 😐 this is going pretty high on the list. You teasing a Netflix and chill 3tan drabble and bros identity? 🤨

6) I- 😐😐😐😐 your audacity has reached a peak once again 😭 PEAK I SAY agahsdklggl

7) 😳😳😳 this should be illegal. How dare you throw this out into the world.

8) Nope 🙅🏽‍♀️ Absolutely not. Nopenopenopenope. Nope 😐. If I refuse to acknowledge it did this really happen??? 🫢🫢🫢 I-

9) AND I DIDNT THINK IT COULD GET WORSE THEN IT DID 😭😭😭 RYEN! Explain yourself 😐😭 *aggressively shakes tree* agshdkdlgg

10) 👁👄👁 GET BACK HERE 😭 you and your damn tags IM AT MY WITS END ISTG

11) Not the Wendy’s 😂☠️☠️☠️ I’m sorry…but this is just SO funny to me. After the horny hours too. The timing is UNREAL 😈 not so much fun when you’re not the one being the menace is it (Also having the live in those screenshots is taking me out, his face in them is perfect 😂😂😂☠️)

12) IM SORRY WHAT!!!?????? I missed a whole ass huge spoiler 😳😳😳 (I’ve said it a million times but I’ll say it again, your tags I- asgdjjfkg YOU WANNA FIGHT OR??? What do you mean is it!??? You literally said “highly requested FULL basketball scene coming up” DONT PLAY COY NOW 😭)

13) Okay yeah…I…I have…a lot of…feelings…about this 🙂🙂🙂. This is fine. Everything is…fine 🙂 (AGAIN THE TAGS WE’RE GONNA THROW HANDS)

14) 😐☹️☹️☹️ this was uncalled for, unprovoked and just RUDE

15) ☠️ I’m not even sure I have anything more to say than just 😩😩😩😩

16) Ryen…😐 This…this takes #1…the teaser!!??! Agshhsjfkflg 😐 don’t talk to me….DONT EVEN LOOK AT ME 😭🥴 (wait help I just saw the estimated help date nooooo, you can’t do this to me I’m ✨unprepared✨. THIS IS WHAT YOU MEANT WHEN YOU SAID SOMETHING I HAVENT GOTTEN TO YET. Never been more thankful for a delay in release dates, if I came back to a full ass YOONJIN fic dropped I would have yeeted my phone off a balcony)

17) 😐😐😐😐 uncalled for and unprovoked pt 2 ☹️

18) Last peak of audacity reached…the way you tagged this 🍊🍊🍊…SEE…this is how I knew. Just knew it smh 😐. When I saw you were conveniently releasing 3tan9 visuals on jk’s bday 😒

And on that last note…guys…I’ve been saying this but 3tan jk is gonna be at the release party duh!!!! For how long and what interactions we get 👀 only Ryen knows but IM READY 😈

And this has been ‘what you missed in practically 2 weeks on this godforsaken blog’…hope this puts things in perspective 😐. It was a rollercoaster of emotions let me tell you, 10/10 do not recommend going through it in a short time span…it’s…✨a lot✨ 🥴😂 and you’ve created monsters. We’re all menaces™ 😂

Let’s hope tumblr doesn’t randomly eat this ask bc I lowkey don’t wanna hyperlink everything again 😂🤧

OH MY GOD MIKAYLA LMFAOOOO okay… yeah…. We… don’t have any excuses for what the fck you missed🥴

I was gonna respond to all of these when I realized that it’s much more hilarious to just make a scholarly blanket statement and say “If you’re gonna skip, just know you have a lot of make up work to come back to.”💀💀💀

But seriously, we missed you so much! Definitely would’ve been more screaming involved (and faster justice for Friends!!!) All the tags screaming I am CACKLINGGGG HAHAHAH you know to read the tags!! Always read the tags!! Yoonjin piece is still in the works but I’ve realized that I wanna make it perfect so🤪 Stay fcking tuned.

The theory you have is super interesting so we’ll see what happens in the next parts👀👀

#ryensuela here!! #mikayla! #asks:3tan #asks:hitrecord #*ryenfictalk #mailbox💌

[alicebellphagoraalbrecht]

You Tubers on Twitter - Frustration - Transphobia?

I had a few days to let this interaction sit, but I decided to vent my frustration about this guy finally. I will censor out the parties involved. (Just to be on the moral high ground really). But first things first I want to make clear that Im not trans myself. Im AroAce and at most confused about myself. But still I felt like sticking up for the original poster who he randomly lashed out at, because it felt like the right thing to do. So I followed this art commentary (turned gaming commentary) You Tuber for a while. When I finally made a Twitter I of course followed my favorite You Tubers there too. Now he had his "Anti-SJW" moments in the past but nothing major, he seemed nice otherwise. But on Twitter you quickly learned how much good editing can make a person. On Twitter he was insufferable. (Unless he was sharing art) He would awkardly beg for money, "jokingly" baiting his followings to pay him to review "horrible" media. And they paid him for some reason, absurd amounts of money too. But its his following. What really began to annoy me was his intense focus on negativity. He made opinion pieces of games and media and then when he got strong responses to his "objective" opinion pieces he would drag the comments out to his twitter and pick them apart, feeding the people to his following. Not blurring out their usernames or anything. This is where this mess started. I noticed his anger towards "SJW" aka queer people finding him annoying. In this situation I noticed that he for no good reason lashed out at an unrelated (possibly trans) person, because he didnt like their gaming opinion about Persona 4. Specifically Naoto. And I found him needlessly hostile towards someone who hadnt tagged him or even replied to them. He just sought them out to get mad at someone. So I decided to call him out for it, nicely of course, and tried to explain why the person probably had this opinion. But he was just weirdly obsessively defensive over Naoto really truely not being trans. (Maybe they are his one true waifu or something) So I tried to move away from Persona 4 and Naoto specifically. And hoped to have a mature converstaion about these uninspired storytelling tropes. You know the one: About a person crossdressing as the other gender but once the main character changes their mind and makes them be true to themselves they go back to being their original gender. Usually female presenting male. The damsel needing fixing. Yeah that kinda shitshow. I tried to get into why the person arrived at their opinion about Persona 4 in general, because in my opinion these kinda stories can spread harmful ideas if handled so poorly. (Especially in a game where you "fix" peoples minds) And how the story felt very "tell dont show" But thats where things went downhill. I was met with nothing but rudeness, hostility, defensive mental gymnastics and some absurd victim complex. He kept going on and on about Naoto not being trans, ignoring my attempts to getting away from that character and game. Honestly I think they are his waifu and he just got violently butthurt about someone not sharing his worship of them. Now eventually I muted the tweet because I realized he wouldnt bother actually talking with me, he was just being an asshole for no damn reason. I tried to de-escalte, be polite and reasonable but got no respect in return. The next day I see that he bloody vague posted about it and at that point I got annoyed and more spiteful in my tweets. Though still harmless in my opinion. I would call myself stern and cold by the end. Sadly I cant show you, I dont want to direct anyone towards him and I was blocked before I could grab more screenshots. (So please take my words with a grain of salt) He then had the audacity to play victim, thats when I got really upset. He went out of his way to attack/harrass/silence a trans person (the og poster mentioned gender disphoria, hence my assumption they might be trans or at least genderfluid). Said person didnt mention him, didnt tag him and they didnt reply to him.

#my blog #transphobes #trans issues #transgender #vent blog #vent post #venting #youtuber #persona 4 #persona #naoto shirogane

[taestefully-in-luv]

wow

i really needed a few days to think about the whole story of Love Again... and process what happened.

it was so beautiful and i really enjoyed it to the teenie tiniest bit!!

I always got so excited when i saw your updates.

whenever you posted a new chapter i told my best friend ALL about it because i fell in love at first sight!!! ahhh

The way two ex lovers meet again and fall in love with each other all over again..is just so nice! :(

and i told my bestie ALL THE TIME how much i enjoy reading it, how much i love the characters, HOW FUNNY they are, how real your writing is.. and how MUCH i love the plot.

now that it's over... i have a bitterweet feeling... because i have to understand that there won't be any more chapters.

You have an incredible way of writing.. doesnt matter if its your original and unique way to bring the characters with their super fun, loveable and relatable personalities to life, or the way you bring emotions through your way of writing and just in general...the way you use your words is so satisfying.

You're a great Autor.

i usually don't write stuff about the fanfictions i've read but i felt the need to do it here... because you really deserve to know that there are people out here who love what you did/do.

Reading it made my days so much better!

Especially at times where i knew when you're gonna post again!! my whole week just got better because of your update. It didnt matter how bad my week was, i got so happy knowing i can read a new chapter soon :')

I don't think that i can EVER show anyone how much i love "love again"

now to the characters.. the first thing that comes to my mind is "wow".

i love everyone so much.

i loved how jeremy and naomi were bickering all the time, how hobi was y/n's biggest hater and support, how COOL dae was, how amazing namjoon was even tho he got his heart broken :(( ahhh BUT EMIKO AND JOONIE <3, how Taehyung was this super cutie patootie soulmate(he always made me laugh), how lucy evolved at the end, how jungkook was this really cool and fun (not real)girlfriend-stealer HAHAH

how jimin ...went through so much but..the way he was with y/n, how their bond was, the way he accepted that he needs help with his trauma and guilt and .. i could go on and on..ahh idk i could write so much about them.. and y/n.. man.. sometimes i don't like what "y/n's" are doing but you... you did her real good.

o k a y sometimes i wanted to punch her (cuz that's normal) but i also understood her so i was feeling bad for being mad...i just love them all so much..and i got so happy at the end... at the wedding...

i'm glad you can't see me crying rn because i'm shedding ugly tears.

it's crazy to say this after reading a ton of fanfictions but i think this turned into my all time favourite.

and i dont think that another one can top this.. Love Again will always have a special place in my heart.

thank you so much for giving us this beautiful story! <3

sorry for my grammar, i'm not a native speaker

:)

sorry it took me a hot minute to answer this one—it’s just every time i read it i legit had to take a moment to collect myself from stopping my entire body from melting

anyway

thank you thank you thank you 💘 i screenshotted this the moment you sent it in and sent it to my sister in law so we could sob together

i’m very happy you enjoyed Love Again and that my updates were something you could look forward to and also !!!!! i’m super wowed that you’d even tell your bff about it!

this story was so fun to write and every chapter i wrote felt satisfying in my own eyes, making every time i had to write feel super easy. your kind words talking about all the little details whether it’s plot related or about the characters just makes me feel so accomplished 😭 i can’t tell you guys enough but even if ONE person feels connected to my story and my words in any way then i feel like im doing something good and a worthy human being lol

so glad you liked the ending! and yeah, the characters were fun and made the story feel more full imo but of course y/n’s have to be annoying sometimes for some drama akdjdjsjsksks

thank you thank you for reading this series and supporting me from start to finish, it means everything and the fact you took the time to write me all of this is just <3

glad you couldn’t see me either because the first read through of this i def shed at least 4 tears lmao

also, don’t apologize for the grammar, you wrote super well :)

thanks again, i’ll cherish this ask forever 💗💘

#love again #you’re so lovely