#someone make me stop

[the-water-nixie]

How many times can one person write KimChay reconciliation? I feel like I'm trying for a medal.

#will I ever run out of scenarios? #someone make me stop #i think i need an intervention #kimchay

[f1-birb]

everyone shake me for starting yet another au 😅

There's the usual pre-training hum of the locker room that buzzes just under the music coming from the speaker Pierre always brings. It's Daniel's playlist, something upbeat and country, and the atmosphere is light.

There's a ding and a chorus of boos when the music is temporarily muffled, and then the song cuts off abruptly as Daniel shoots to his feet, staring at his phone.

"No fucking way!"

"What?" Max tries to peer over Dan's shoulder, wrestling with the older man to get a look at the screen. "You've got to be shitting me."

"Share with the class, boys, you're killing us." Lewis teases, looking up while still tying his boots.

"You know the new signing the Boss was losing his mind over?" Daniel waits for hums and nods, before reading out the headline. "F1 FC confirms the signing of Lando Norris."

#f1 fc au #little sneak peek #someone make me stop #i don't need more au's #birb writes

[appalesbian]

was listening to Beyoncé self titled while doing records for work today… I know what the next fic is…….

#😗😗 #the one after the one I’m currently writing #not to be confused with my multi-chapter wip #someone make me stop

[puppygirl-panopticon]

BUDGET

$120 food

$45 clothes

$5400 new collars

$950 rent

$300 discord nitro (for all of my accounts)

$35 coffee

SOMEONE HELP ME BUDGET IM LOOSING ALK MY MONEY

#Someone make me stop

[sailforvalinor]

However much I may desire to make a Mac Campbell playlist, I recognize that it would just end up being The Arcadian Wild’s entire discography

#they are his ENTIRE vibe #’the poet’ is about him #’graduate’ is about him #’a benediction’ is about him #‘oh sleeper’ is about him #someone make me stop #mac campbell #rose in bloom #eight cousins

[bending-sickle]

me: *writing hurt/comfort*

also me: *putting the fucking divine comedy in the footnotes*

#someone make me stop #yes i referenced the gates of hell #no it was not the abandon hope line #(it was the lines before that) #randomness

[jacqcrisis]

im fucking addicted to baking

#just spent an hour making spaghetti sauce for dinner #and im like 'mmm i could make cookies too' #someone make me stop #literally planning on making lemon loaf on sunday #and im just...but thats two days away without baked goods in my house #what am i gunna do #i even looked up local bakeries #we dont have any cause this town sucks ass

[inkonssstantgeissst]

hi idk what i’m doing with my life but it’s kind of funny

#yuh #hilarious #someone make me stop #no one is making me stop #fuck you then i'll just keep on being pointless

[itsunderstudyxx]

♡i got some colour back, she thinks so, too♡

♡i laugh like me again, she laughs like you✨

#hozier #almost #hoziercanhavemybabies #someone make me stop #Spotify

[deathbyfiction]

I hate this I fucking hate this 😭 I gave up on drawing for fucking years I swore I won't get back to it. Now here I am and I fucking hate it cuz why tf did I start again. It was just supposed to be posting one art and now there's 5 wips WTF. And the worst thing is I've forgotten half the things too. Why did I get into it again 😭

#someone make me stop #i cant go through this again #i gave up for a reason #😭😭 #WHYYYYYY #its all that damn bird apps fault

[otakusapien]

I've been binging Fantasy High for the past few days and I just finished episode 13. It is the middle of the night but I NEED to watch the next episode

#Someone make me stop #Gorgug is my favorite #I hate Adaine's family so much

[bitchfendi]

i got a new sd card someone talk me out of playing every level 5 game on the (3)ds

#level-5 #i say (3)ds bc i also just got twilight menu and can get ds games now #SOMEONE MAKE ME STOP #or atlest give me recomendations #maybe ill make a poll

[samble-moved]

post itself

false flags

trans/adjacent tags

accessibility features

tumblr live post (thanks for the link, @problemnyatic)

flashing / strobing / lights

unblockable flashing ad

buying ad free

staff @/macmanx guilt trip

list of staff + more issues

#post nuked bc proshippers started insulting people who rbed this and implied partyjockers attempted to Kill staff? it was getting old so #archive links still under the cut if you want and you can rb this from others if you want the og #hint: if you dislike this post or want to debunk parts of it the way to go about it isn't to call people who've rbed it 'disgusting little #fuck ups' that are 'spreading anti shipper lies' #note: this post is and was Not about ship discourse jesus fucking christ proshippers get a grip #also ace discoursers are here too? this isn't about you either? #edit 2: if you send me an anon regarding this post about how im policing discussion or 'don't really want it' #but then stop replying when i answer your ask #maybe that's. not helping discussion? #i nuked this post as people started making up false accusations to smear people staff sniped. aka accusing someone of IRL ATTEMPTED MURDERS.

[inkskinned]

in internet posts it is easy to cut them out of your life. they are hurting you! they aren't listening to you!

they held your hair back. they lent you lipstick. they held your hand at the train station and got you home safe. they rounded on your bully, got loud, said get fucked, spitting-mad in your defense.

they also cut the hair off again. told you that you should really think twice before wearing something like that. took you for granted. took your insecurities and threw them in your face again.

you know logically it should be easy. all the internet advice comments always read it will feel better. like an equation - if a person is rotten, you just remove them. you pull the tooth that's hurting.

but it was never a big flare-up moment. you don't live in a sitcom. they never tried to take your boyfriend or steal from your apartment. they showed up to birthdays and they wrote songs about you and bring you water without you asking. once you found out they carry an emergency inhaler for you, even though you haven't had an asthma attack in years - just in case.

where is the line? people fuck up. sometimes they fuck up badly. sometimes people have raw personalities, like a powerline, and being around them is dangerous. addicting. sometimes they can't help themselves, but you know they're trying. sometimes they are just rough-around-the-edges. sometimes they don't even realize how they sounded when they said that. sometimes it's just - you've both loved each other for so long now, the way this thing hurts goes back to the root.

and that's the fucked up part. you have pushed your fingers against the sweetheart of memory. things these days are electric, tense, harrowing. they didn't used to be. there were a lot of good days in there. sometimes you want to just close your eyes and say can this be over yet? do we still need to be fighting?

doing that would give up any chance you get of getting an apology, but you don't always know that you need an apology, you love them. once they flaked on your birthday party. once they told you to get over it, people are always dying. they also let you crash on their couch for a week after the breakup, handfeeding you when you were so sad you couldn't eat. they are also judgmental about everything, occasionally react to banal statements with an attitude that is weird and fiery. they also love you like a lighthouse sometimes, so strong they cut the storm like lightning.

but the problem is that you might be storm. you might be the thing that needs breaking. what if you are two forces who are desperately, horribly drawn to each other, shaped by the other person's passions, and both good for each other and bad in equal measure.

what if you're both just people, and you're no saint neither.

just cut them off! swallowing the saltwater, you catch yourself in the mirror. you've been shaking more than usual. there's an ache in you that is oblique, loud, impossible to soothe. is this what it looks like? when life is "easier"?

your mouth will always have a hole, is the thing, if you remove the tooth.

#spilled ink #warm up #writeblr #this is about someone specific but feel free to blorbo on main. #tbh this is familial for me so that is an element but it's also about childhood best friends #and probably about ur enemies to lovers blorbo #(but i want to specifically say if ur partner is like this. not necessarily a good partnership lol.) #(the dynamics at play in familial/friend relationships feel equally important and in some ways are HARDER to escape. #bc we can see that this is a potentially toxic romantic foundation. #but in family ? ...... it's toxic and it doesn't stop u from loving them. bc u always have. #and i think that makes it harder. by a lot. which is what this is referencing). #but genuinely and really truly forever feel free to tag ur potentially toxic enemies to lovers on this and all my poetry #here i'll do one for u - adora & catra :x

[hayden-christensen]

HAYDEN CHRISTENSEN + the 'Obi-Ani' lightsaber spin

Hayden came up with a move when we did the second film that was like your move, like signature […] for me it always felt like your move because he was really good at it. — Ewan McGregor

#swedit #starwarsedit #star wars #anakin skywalker #anakinskywalkeredit #hayden christensen #haydenchristensenedit #hchristensenedit #swcastedit #sw bts #usershale #starwarsblr #flashing tw #*mine #*2023 #*gifs #10k #the way he can make the spin slow or fast... #this is the THIRD set I've made on this move someone stop me (I love it so much)

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop