#we've got tonight

[tfc2211]

Melanie-Beautiful Hits

#Melanie #Melanie Safka #We've Got Tonight #Bob Seger

[moms-music]

We've Got Tonight

#We've Got Tonight #Bob Seger #Stranger In Town

[duranduratulsa]

Watch "What I Learned From Loving You" on YouTube

Song 🎵 🎶 of the day: What I Learned From Loving You by Kenny Rogers (1983) from We've Got Tonight #kennyrogers #RIPKennyRogers #whatilearnedfromlovingyou #wevegottonight #80s

#kenny rogers #rip kenny rogers #what I learned from loving you #we've got tonight #80s #Youtube #Spotify

[fallevs]

#he knows it's late 😉 #he knows he's weary 😏 #we've got tonight gcv #kurt hummel #blaine anderson #klaine #this scene!!! #blaine so smitten #yeah pull that tie 🗣

[nocturnalnewsiestrash]

There are two types of Bottoms (2023) rewatches (for me at least)

Or

#lets play a game of guess which one i am in tonight 🥹 #spoiler its not the first one #isokay though im managing it well *well being a relative term for my usual amount of my panic attack management system #bottoms 2023 #bottoms movie #the amount of giggly smiling tricks my brain into thinking we're actually feeling happy and in a giggly mood #and the unhingedness gives my empathetic nervous system a chance to redirect its focus onto THEIR issues instead of #mine and then suddenly my brain has realized we're not in immediate danger #and boom we've got a perfect panic disorder management strategy for me #the other type of rewatch is also very fun. trust. Especially when I'm introducing it to my other sapphic friends. so much glee #and unintelligible thoughts. giggly unintelligible thoughts #anyhoo here you all go :))

[regicidal-defenestration]

DOCTOR WHO 11 MAY

#maybe the dw instgram will finally show us a trailer instead of months of clips from the same hour long Christmas special #wait isn't it red nose day today? maybe something tonight then #doctor who #May is going to be huge for a certain type of nerd we've got star wars on the 4th; dw on the 11th; and discworld on the 25th

[be-the-glenn-to-my-maggie]

Hey, so I saw your post about some fics demonizing Neytiri. That has actually been one of my major fears as a fic writer, attempting to balance Neytiri's extremely valid trauma and the POV I'm writing from (that is typically flawed in some way). I was wondering, since you seem very well-versed on the topic, what do you define as "demonizing" for Neytiri? Is it ok to write from a perspective where a character doesn't really like or trust her, as long as the trauma is noted? Do you have any resources so I can educate myself to properly write this kind of character?

I really want to make sure I'm doing right by Neytiri and improve as a fic writer overall, so any advice you could offer would be very much appreciated!

Whoa, what a complicated and nuanced question. A great one! And I'm super flattered you came to me! Just one I'm going to try to answer to the best of my ability. I'm assuming you're referring to Norm's pov in your fic?

First of all, I do not want to at all proclaim to be an expert on generational trauma; I am not a person of color, and I have been lucky enough to have a very normal and healthy family. I just had a best friend growing up in an abusive household and took steps to educate myself best I could to understand the situation, which I believe anyone would do. So I'm just gonna try to word vomit out my thoughts for you, please ask questions or challenge any of what I say if any of you see anything you think is incorrect. Buckle in, this will be long.

What do you define as "demonizing" for Neytiri?

Demonizing means portraying someone as wicked or threatening, as evil or worthy of contempt and blame.

For me, demonizing for Neytiri is the trend I've seen lately of portraying her as this unyielding, animalistic type character who's hatred of humans, Spider specifically, goes so far that she gets physically violent with Spider and eventually ends up tearing apart her family. In these fics, Jake is always a sad sack loser bystander, loving his wife too much to step in but of course shamefully knowing how wrong what she's doing is. Infantilizing poor white savior Jake Sully, being brow beaten by his mean indigenous wife into neglecting a child is a weirdly strong take in this fandom. Often Mo'at is a wise elder chiding Neytiri for being unable to get over her prejudice. Mo'at and Jake understand Neytiri as much as anyone would, they wouldn't shame her. To me, it's an extremely reductive and frankly borderline racist characterization. When paired with a sympathetic view of Quaritch, it is at best irresponsible and at worst knowingly dangerous.

Neytiri is representative of an indigenous woman. I feel like I don't have to explain why making her violent, volatile, and completely unreasonable is a little bit of a harmful caricature. In these fics, for me, Neytiri ceases to be a person. She looses autonomy to sort of represent this monolith of hatred and prejudice that has hurt our little baby boy Spider. It's crazy to me that people can't apply the exact same empathy they have towards Spider (saving Quaritch) to Neytiri (not being able to trust Spider). They are the most foil of foil characters. Their storylines are extremely similar, if I'm being honest. Essentially, ignoring the fact that Neytiri is a member of a minority community being actively genocided by Spider's people is intentionally reductive. If you can empathize with Spider, and ESPECIALLY if you find Quaritch sympathetic, finding Neytiri's actions unforgivable is racism, plain and simple.

Also, side note, the lengths people go to where Neytiri just literally will not budge under any circumstances at all is INSANE.

(I read a fic the other day where she gave Spider to child protective services behind everyone's back. That's LUNACY. She only came around after she almost lost Tuk when Tuk was suddenly born prematurely and Mo'at came in and was like "Eywa made it so you can never have kids again because of what you did, have you learned your lesson yet?" Like?? I do not understand the HATRED some of ya'll have for her, the suffering you all think she deserves. She's having an EXTREMELY NORMAL trauma reaction to surviving GENOCIDE? Examine yourselves greatly).

But where I was going was Neytiri is the same character who pushed her parents to let them go to human school, fell in love with human Jake, defended him and trusted him despite her family, mated with him and lost her religious position because of it, and then had a bunch of part human kids with him, and adopted a fully freak of nature kid born of a human she loved and respected. She has human friends, she wears and uses human tech, and she forgave Jake after he had betrayed them. Basically what I'm saying is Neytiri, despite her continuous trauma, is the most open and curious and non traditional Na'vi of all time. Girl is READY to meet new people and learn new shit, and to be open to everyone. Sometimes I think about a no trauma Neytiri and I get emotional. I think it's crazy to say she would never budge on Spider, if it wasn't for his dad I'm pretty sure she would've softened lonnnnng ago, if not having liked him from the get go.

Um, that got way too long I have too many thoughts. Second half of your question.

Is it ok to write from a perspective where a character doesn't really like or trust her, as long as the trauma is noted?

This is a tricky question, because technically there is nothing you can't do as a writer. Of course, it also means there is nothing anyone can't criticize you for writing. Like, Colleen Hoover can say she's writing realistic depictions of domestic abuse until the cows come home, I'm still going to say she's romanticizing and normalizing it in a super callous way. Neither of us can stop the other. So yeah, of course you're okay to write from the perspective of a character that doesn't like Neytiri. I just think the point will be what your prerogative is. One of my MFA professors says it in a way I like and I'm sure I've referenced before, if you aren't trying to make a point about something that might have to have a trigger warning then don't include it. I always say I would take it a step further; if your point is to defend that thing, don't do it. So for me, my big points would be try not to project my own feelings onto the character either way; if the character is wrong about something and the narrative intends to show that they will either learn, or we the reader will grow past them. But to be sure what you feel the takeway of the piece is is what you wanted it to be, I guess.

Do you have any resources so I can educate myself to properly write this kind of character?

Well, I have a few on white writers writing BIPOC characters and the ethics of that if you're interested in that. But I don't have any on specifically writing generational trauma. I guess I'd say reading and absorbing are my biggest tools; so reading books/watching movies or TV that use the speculative to translate generational trauma, and learning about and taking in the real life examples the character is based on. Read up on some genocides, and indigenous people today and how their lives are still affected. Even just watch the news; we're witnessing a very public genocide being pushed right to our attention right now. And of course, that is not the only genocide happening rn, it's just the only one we're talking about, so there's plenty of real world case studies unfortunately right in front of us.

#this got way way too long #it's almost midnight and i still have work tomorrow #i was goING to answer a few asks during amazing race tonight and instead #just this #lol #my bad #hope this helps! feel free to ask or dm with any questions or grievances haha #keep in mind i am not an expert! #i am just someone who likes knowing things and is really annoying about consuming ethically #anyways spider fandom i need u to lay off my girl #fandom criticism of bipoc characters is somehow always a little rooted in racism #but that's because we've all got internalized racism my friends and we cannot escape it without daily intentional thought and conversation #neytiri sully #miles spider socorro #spider socorro #spider sully #jake sully #jeytiri #mo'at #miles quaritch #tuktirey sully #norm spellman #avatar #avatar the way of water #james cameron avatar #melissa og #melissa on avatar (cameron) #melissa is an english major

[emblazons]

Thinking about Dion washing up on the shores of Ash (x), struggling with the burden of survival—how he’s quite literally standing in the wake of the ashes of his former life, revived from the death he expected and forced to face the ramifications of not only the destruction of his homeland & Sanbreque, but the world as he’d known it from the gilded confines of his royal cage.

Thinking about the way he would run across the wild wyvern tails Harpocrates showed him when he left the Hideaway expecting his end—how the victory he never expected coils and twists like dark tentacles within him, and every breath he takes is a reminder that he still feels undeserving of a good life, knowing he can never atone for the destruction left in Bahamut’s —Ultima’s—wake.

Thinking about how he is torn between wishing his death was the end of atonement and wishing he had not left Terence now that he knows he survives Origin—the way he is torn between his desire to return to what was once familiar, safe and constant and the way he knows he will never be the same man he was no matter how many times he might play out repairing the thing he knows he broke forever with Terence in the halls of Ran’Dellah (x).

Thinking about how he feels guilty for enjoying the fullness of the air without the weight of Bahamut in his chest, even as he misses the light of the dragon storming within every waking hour—how he feels more naked without the armor of Bahamut’s scales than he has ever before in his life, despite knowing that the humanity he so desperately longed for came at the expense of his dominance and the eikon of light.

—thinking about how all of this now pales when he looks at it in comparison to the optimism of the Phoenix himself; how Joshua, who has survived a certain death not once but twice in his identical 28 years, still ventures forward, determined to save others even as he desperately searches for both truth and his family, no matter how high the personal cost.

Thinking about how standing next to an equal in both rank and status—next to both a prince and fellow dominant—for the first time in his life both delights and challenges him in radically new ways; the way Joshua pushes, prods and demands of him in ways no one but his father ever dared, though with a touch of healing fire that permeates through the heart of him—bright enough to want to hide from, but not painful enough to burn.

Thinking about Dion dealing with the ramifications of his willingness to follow Joshua so easily—the way he can doubt, question and even disagree with the man before him and still desire to believe him, the same way he has since the minute Joshua entered that tent with nothing but a plucked white wyvern, a companion and a tale to tell about monsters and mothercrystals all the same.

Thinking about Dion thinking—how he must speak of his debts now that it is over...and figure out who he is now with all the feelings that living dredged up in the dragoon who met a phoenix’s end.

#phoenixflare #dion lesage #joshua rosfield #we've got a LOT of feelings about dion and phoenixflare tonight. I made tags about 'the fic I would if i could' and now...I'm so sorry lmao #this is literally just the mental expansion of the snippets you’ve been getting lately as well #guilt-ridden overthinker Dion my beloved #also...this doesn’t even have to be romantic which is my favorite part. they’re just entwined to an absurd point and I love it 😂 #will there be a Joshua companion piece one of these days? likely. but we’ll see how long it takes me to write it out lol #ffxvi #ffxvi gifs #my writing #...because it is kinda? #the me tag

[emile-hides]

Hugga Bugga; Good for the Mental Health

I'm not a typical shiny hunter, I'll just spam hatch eggs till I get the shiny I want rather than run around looking for them, but you can't do that for Paradox Pokemon and I wanted a shiny Slither Wing really badly

Her name is Migas because I wanted to name her something egg themed. She's sunny side up and I love her.

#Emile's Arts #Slither Wing #Pokemon Scarlet #Yeah those are fine tags #I just got her tonight and I'm already so obsessed with her #Volcarona's shiny was always one of my favorites and Slither Wing just slaps in general #I love her eye liner and silly crawl #Also she will NOT get away from me any time I stand still she rams her head into the back of my knees #I love her. She's so affectionate #Hugga the Bugga. It's good for mental support #Who to hunt for next? Something not in the Crater cause it's kinda hard to hunt in the crater... #Though I DO want a shiny Sandy Shocks at some point too #And Glimmora do they spawn anywhere outside the crater? #Unrelated this generation has the WEAKEST shinies to date #Which is SO disappointing sense you can see them on the overworld??? #Why not make them the most eye catching vibrant shinies we've ever seen huh??? #Like they did in XY when they could finally custom make shiny colors?? #Mini rant sorry #Back to hugga bugga

[trans-axolotl]

Hey! Really excited about that sh curriculum you're putting together. At the risk of diluting the focus: What definition of self-harm are you going to be using? Some stuff I've seen before has been very focussed on NSSI/very direct forms of self-harm and I think there are more recent/broad definitions that are better but depends on if those would limit how effective your curriculum would be. Full disclosure I studied psychology at undergrad and my dissertation was on self harm (specifically if psych undergrads recognised/accepted a broader definition of it). I was using research that was slated for publication that same year, but that was five years ago and I haven't been a student since then so I don't know how up-to-date it is (and one reason I left was the institution of psychology as a practice put theory far ahead of the experiences of the people we're supposed to be helping). Best of luck! I hope your work helps many many people. 💜💜💜

not diluting the focus at all!

content note: in depth discussion of several forms of self harm.

so i was planning on using a pretty broad definition of self harm that is essentially based on what an individual defines as self harm for themselves, rather than trying to create an umbrella definition that labels certain kinds of actions as "inherently self harm" or "never self harm." the first slide of the presentation is actually about collaboratively creating a working definition of self harm within the presentation group, bringing up things not traditionally considered self harm like piercings, tattoos, high risk sports, etc, as a way to consider societal attitudes towards self harm, and then contrasting the definition with medical definitions of self harm so that we can start to build a political understanding of self harm. for this specific training and audience (group of radical medics and health organizers looking for specific skills and strategies they can implement), a lot of what they need is direct information on more common forms of self harm and practical strategies for supporting people with things like cutting, burning, hitting/headbanging, etc. it's likely that a lot of content will be focused on that, simply because that's the need for this context.

also think that there's some other more uncommon forms of self harm that i definitely want to at least mention and brainstorm a bit with (ingestion harm, ligature harm, etc). which can be a lot harder to do harm reduction with given risk level, but important to discuss and brainstorm and try.

in terms of adapting harm reduction to a broad definition of self harm that encompasses many ways people hurt themselves, both directly, indirectly, in ways that are societally acceptable, in ways that are not, i think there's really a lot of opportunity there. in a lot of harm reduction education that I went through that was drug use and sex work specific, we spent a lot of time developing essentially like... a set of generalized best practices based in values and the philosophy of harm reduction that could theoretically be applied in many situations, before we went on to specific harm reduction recommendations for specific drugs. and i think there might be a lot of value do to something similar here. even if a lot of the practical techniques are focused on the type of direct self harm i mentioned above, i think that developing a harm reduction for self harm framework that could be applied for a wide variety of situations that different people might consider self harm. maybe doing a few less typical examples that we work through together and consider how we would apply the harm reduction framework.

honestly i think the only things that i know for certain i'm not going to be covering in this training even though they're things that some people might consider under the umbrella of self harm is harm reduction for eating disorders, because i have a whole separate presentation planned for that LMFAO and harm reduction for drug use, bc there's already so many existing resources in my community. (to be clear not saying that all or most drug use is self harm, but just that i know some people who consider their drug use as a form of self harm for them).

also, would love to hear more about your research if you want to share! it sounds super interesting.

thanks for the ask!

#asks #harm reduction #self harm tw #sh tw #tw self harm #self harm cw #<-tags to filter out if you don't want to see any of this content! #heads up this might be a lot of content on my blog tonight cause we've got some more asks

[murderballadeer]

the thing is when i go seek out this classic country stuff it sounds rly familiar and when i try to figure out why half the time it's bc i probably heard it on the country classics hour on ckut 90.3fm as a kid

#real montreal kids listened to the country classics hour every sunday at 8pm #🎶if you've got a radio then won't you listen in we've got red foley merle travis george jones and loretta lynne🎶 #🎶ernest tubb'll sing the old songs stompin' tom is comin' too it's country music this ain't nothin' new🎶 #🎶turn on your radio at 8 on sunday night we'll listen to hank williams sing our song tonight🎶 #🎶turn the lights down low tune into the mighty power of the country classics hour 🎶

[astriiformes]

Someone reblogged the Lilith playlist with a tag saying it had 2014 8tracks vibes (as a compliment, to be clear) and I'm having a bit of a moment about it

Because not only is that exactly the era I cut my teeth as a little baby fanmixer back in the day, but also, two of the very first playlists I ever posted on there were aro/ace Mako Mori and Newt Geiszler ones for Ace Week in October 2014 (one specifically on a day for making aro fanworks, because this was before the ace and aro awareness events had totally diverged). Long enough ago that one of them has the old black-and-grey-and-yellow-and-green aro flag on it, which at this point is even more of a relic than 8tracks itself.

And now I'm just thinking about like.... obviously I haven't stoppped making ace and aro fanworks based off headcanons, but back then, it was because I didn't have anything other than headcanons and couldn't have made one for a canon character if I'd wanted to (and I really, really wanted to).

I vividly remember reading the same two or three aro Pacific Rim headcanon fics over and over again around that same time, and one in particular that centered on my favorite character being in a queerplatonic relationship. I was just a little baby aro/ace back then, too, and had only just started identifying as both the year before. And of course being in high school there were a lot of things I couldn't envision about the future, but I knew I was still looking for some version of it in those stories, even though there weren't very many of them. To the point that I started saving them for the nights I was feeling the loneliest and saddest about my future, because I didn't want them to lose their impact. Except even with their help, it was still hard to picture ever finding someone who wanted the same sort of thing as me.

So now I'm sitting here feeling some kind of way about being 26 instead of 17, and the community history stretching between then and now and those playlists and this one (the new/current flag design, ASAW being a thing at all), and sitting on the couch last year listening to the TOH charity stream and shouting across the room at Scribe when they played the reading of Lilith's letter, and the handful of other aro/ace characters I get to hold onto these days, and also about living with Scribe at all -- years and years after I met her because she got excited about another playlist I posted to 8tracks.

#sometimes i feel a little embarrassed for being so loud about aro/ace fan stuff when we've got much bigger problems to solve but #i literally used to cry and cry reading the same fanfic every month or so #because it was the only picture i had of the kind of future i wanted #needless to say i am a bit more teary-eyed than expected thinking about lilith tonight. i'm glad there are teens who get to have her #(& i'm glad i get to as well but it's in a somewhat different way) #man. just..... man

[jacobglaser]

Fantastic text to get while I'm at work, if there's no internet when I get home tonight I'm going to jail!!!!!

#this is the worst timing i have so much to do tonight!!!! #at least i can do 90% of the gif making stuff without internet but i cant post them!!!! #I've queued todays already at least but ive barely started tomorrows #and i really want to get ahead with them cos thursday we've got ofmd and then sunday im at fob so im gonna be so busy later in the week #im going to commit a crime!!!!

[gabigabigabby]

#to end off tonight... #thank u boss for everything that u do for our beloved boys #we've got SUPER MIK ARTETAAAA~~ #mikel arteta #arsenal #arsenal fc #football

[good-beans]

I do believe it's bedtime 😌

#am sleepy #its early for me but im zonked #got a lot done today!! very products day of cleaning 😤 #we've been slacking but we cleaned the wjole apartment and went through laundry and got some things we needed #finally mopped and it feels so cleeeen :3 #i had a few things i wanted to do tonight but my brain is sayin nope #sorry my blog will just be queued old art the next few days lol -- i have lots to queue soon #my tuesday night class is canceled so im excited for a free night then >:3 #i have no desire to go to work tomorrow so that will help adfgbnnj #hope everyones doing well 😎 #rose rambles

[pianokantzart]

Yo, if you guys have an insta pot I can NOT recommend this recipe enough.

#sorry to sound like a pop-up ad on main #But I've made it twice before and I'm making it again tonight #with sweet potato casserole and biscuits! #we've got guests coming so I'm goin' nuts this Tuesday night #all the spread is missing is some etouffee #gosh dang I miss etouffee. Etouffee literally never misses #and the closest cajun place is two hours away :( #going to have to make it for myself one of these days as a treat