#women can never be individuals

[ruralcat]

am i jaded or do men really just fucking suck

#so unbelieveably tired of men claiming their love for me when they do not. even. fucking. know me. #they do not even know me #leave me alone #i hate you #why do the women in their lives need to be their Sunshine or their Soulmate or their Caretaker why cant women just be fucked up gross humans #who probably dont even deserve #.. or want!!! #your attention #women can not exist without them being a character or a doll in a mans life #women can never be individuals #without being lusted or loved after

[butch-reidentified]

fact: there is so much of the natural world we don't understand yet

many forms of women's spirituality is just... celebrating how cool that is. not believing in any fictional narrative. just celebrating nature and how much we have yet to understand.

that's why I take issue with the "it's just as fictional as Christianity etc" narrative. some forms, sure, but not any I'd ever be interested in.

it's just ignorance. your idea of witchcraft vs what I'm actually talking about. but you aren't taking the time to ask or listen. there's literally nothing "unscientific" about what I personally practice. it's just about my relationship to the scientific unknown.

edit to add some of what I just included in a different reblog:

fwiw, I still don't consider myself spiritual as (like I've repeatedly said) my witchcraft is, to me, artistic self-expression and is fundamentally about my personal connection to the universe, womanhood, nature, and, despite what certain women on here are insisting, to science. I've never been able to convince myself to believe in specific unseen/supernatural things like deities (learned this at a very young age trying to make myself believe in the Christian God, then tried with other gods, never believed in Santa even).

women engaging in scientific pursuits have historically so often been the ones labeled witches. new scientific creations have so often historically been called magic, witchcraft, heresy, etc., and those involved persecuted for it.

historically, women called witches have so often BEEN scientists, and that & the erasure of women throughout scientific history is exactly WHY using the term is so important to me, WHY I don't respect the patriarchally-derived dictionary definition* of "witch" or "witchcraft." I have a peer-reviewed neuroscience publication with my name on it, and that, to me, is part of my witchcraft. idc how anyone else feels about that but calling it antifeminist is absurd.

#i get that some people will never be able to understand that #but can you please just let us be about it? #the fact i never even said anything about “magic” but yall keep projecting about it anyway... #like its ok to not understand it! #bc it's fundamentally about you as an individual/your internal relationship to the world #my saying some of you will never understand that is NOT a dig at those ppl #it's just a neutral statement of fact #mine #witchcraft discourse #witchcraft #brujeria #women in science

[moreclaypigeons]

No like seriously ARE we ready to talk about the misogyny in fandom spaces

#or more so like. the disparity. of depictions of men vs of women. i #and like. dear god. it's dire out here sometimes #um. anyway i dont say this to like invalidate anyone and i worry that by even saying this it feels terfy? #but its like no u can talk about misogyny while including trans people especially bc of the overlap. heterocissexism. is ghat a word #like . ugh i just. its never like an individual thing i have beef with u know #like if someone tends to prefer male characters or writing men loving men im never gonna shit on em yk #it just . bothers me how large of a trend it is #especially in comparison to f/f... #like jave u see the differences on ao4 #ao3* #or the differences in how people talk about men vs women here #obviously theres room outside that binary and i fucking hate it as it stands anyway but it does stand and we should talk about it. #like i dont think this is just a cis issue at all. we should also talk about how we talk about nonbinary or gender non conforming characters #but its also like can we be normal about women too. and not prioritize men always . um #hey guys . rambling in the tags is all to say. this post explicitly includes trans people. i will not tolerate any #transphobic rhetoric on any responses to it. you will be blocked. #sierra speaks #misogyny in fandom

[mariemariemaria]

Does anybody else feel like mental health awareness has done very little to help them in material reality

#i was gonna say done nothing to help but that seemed too harsh #like there definitely is more knowledge about it now. maybe more people feel comfortable speaking about it which is good #but personally i don't feel that. like idk. workplaces will post about mental health awareness and then do nothing to help employees #the same w universities. my uni cut back the already meager mental health support #and then the government is doing absolutely fuck all as well #like idk im just back in a place i thought id gotten out of long ago and i still don't feel comfortable talking about it with people #maybe that's a me problem or maybe it's cultural or something idk. but in the 10 years ive been depressed (🫠) i don't think it's gotten a #whole lot better. teenagers are still dealing with the same shit i did and they're still not being taken seriously #women's mental health is not even spoken about.....anxiety depression sh eds etc are still ignored or seen as hysterical behaviour in women #or just normal esp with disordered eating. society hasn't changed people still want women to be stick thin and weak #like i know 10 years is a short time and there has been massive improvements in mh awareness if we look back over the past 50+ years #but idk i just think that it hasn't gotten better for a lot of people #i think specifically of belfast and like god. the amount of trauma there is the amount of homelessness the amount of substance abuse #drug abuse in particular that has gotten visibly worse over the past decade or so* #and i connect the dots n see the 2008 recession + a tory gov defunding the nhs + dehumanisation of homeless people & addicts + the troubles #+ ptsd + generational trauma + a negative peace + classism + paramilitary drug dealers + parties linked to those paramilitaries #and its like hmmmm i think we live in a society. and a mental health approach based on individual actions like journaling and meditation #isn't the way to go. or at least is not the be all and end all which is what a lot of mental health awareness raising seems to promote #*visibly worse on the streets. it was always a problem ofc but even a decade ago my parents never imagined it would be as bad as it is now #and it's become so normalised. i do think there's less individualism here than there seems to be elsewhere which can be good and can be bad #but i think we are becoming more and more individualistic. slowly. there's still a sense of community here but i do think it's changing #and callousness towards homeless people is one of the most obvious examples of this. #love when i put a wee asterisk in the tags of a post. like i have A Lot To Say lol

[souvenir-de-florence]

never forget people like aryna and iga are byproducts of the media they consume

#like internal misogyny is everywhere in tennis media #there is so much lacking in media coverage for wta #they never have those fun games that the atp people play that could introduce new fans to fun personalities #even though there are so many fun personalities in women’s tennis #and there is NO detailed wta technical analysis out there even though that’s the kind of content that connects a lot of people to tennis #and that’s not even getting started on all of the underhanded ways journalists talk about wta players compared to how they write about atp #and all the other non tennis places where we can find internalized misogyny #blame the system not the individuals

[screamingay]

someone on here will literally say "encouraging plastic surgery for the sole purpose of conforming to eurocentric beauty standards isn't actually feminism" and 200 other people will come out of the woodworks and chant in harmony LET WOMEN BE HAPPY and WHAT ABOUT TRANS PEOPLE AND BURN VICTIMS as if the post wasn't clearly 1. about womens' self image & insecurities being strongly influenced by the richest and whitest of society and 2. not about trans people or burn victims at all

#ive thought about it a lot and i know the main argument is that it's bodily autonomy and also having it more widely available makes it #easier for the people who really do need it to get it #but like. first of all the industry (and it is an industry) spends SO much money convincing women their bodies look wrong #if it wasnt advertised everywhere and if the expectation wasnt there to look 'perfect' according to the most recent trends #the amount of women getting elective plastic surgery would be drastically lower #second of all. yeah having more surgeons out there means more experience and safer treatments for those who really need it.. #as long as they have the money #and for trans people as long as they have money and/or good insurance and/or all the required medical documentation and/or therapy #and at the end of the day you can criticize just part of something but not all of it. i feel like a lot of people forget that when they #start saying shit online. just stop and think and dont interact with people assuming the worst of them!! #when i criticize the beauty industry im never calling any woman who's ever worn makeup or gotten a facelift evil it's an INDUSTRY #it's systemic!!! #almost reminds me of how criticizing the patriarchy and systemic misogyny as a lesbian will get u painted as some man hating terf #i love men! i dont blame individual men for the system we're all a part of i just criticize its existence and try to work to dismantle it #and i know complaining on the internet is like a little raindrop in the ocean but still. it needs to be discussed i think

[fishflavouredlead]

queer women when trans-masc/men's lived experiences are just a little too similar to their own: 😡☝️🤬🚫😤🤬🚫😡🤬😤☝️

#bc thats really j gotta b what it is right? #bc idk how u can hear ppl #go through exactly what youve been through #the only men or men-like companians who can ever truly ***empathize*** w women #and u want to talk over them or claim that their experience isnt valid in some way because??? #what??? #it makes u feel some type of way??? #u dont like it???? #u dont agree w it bc personally its not yr own personal experience???? #bc u think it somehow takes away frm yr own expereinces??? #when in relaity were both j expereincing the same thing and both suffering in totally similiar ways j in different directions #or sometimes still even in the same direction #idk im really tired of this kinda.. indifferent if not invalidating attitude ppl will have towards transmen #or even transmascs #if theyre a lil too masculine or a lil too binary (which again will always b skewed due to individual perceptions) #and tbh #it kinda scares some of yall bc #honestly some of us including me including some trans ppl too #dont know what good kind gentle postive masculinity looks like #its never been modeled for us (which is glaringly obvious looking at the stae of the world) #idk it just comes off as ignorant and closeminded and yall wpuld think ud b the the last ones caught dead being exactly that #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbt #queer #literally fighting the same fucking battle but were all too busy killing the whole squadron w friendly fucking fire #like i love yall but come on

[musical-chick-13]

Bro, I'm so tired.

#he's not SEEN as creepy he IS creepy!! #it's okay for a character to be creepy!!!! #and it's okay for you to still find them interesting or even like them because they aren't real!!!!!!!!!!! #he is 'regarded with deep suspicion' BECAUSE HE IS SHADY AF AND REFUSES TO BE A REASONABLE FUCKING PERSON #you would NOT be saying this if this character were a woman #In the Vents #'I don't see people as individual people with their own interiority unless they are personally connected to me' THAT IS NOT AUTOMATIC #NEURODIVERGENCE MY FRIEND #you will never get me to feel bad for this man. I simply cannot care. sorry. #also if the implication is that he has face blindness. why the decision to SEE EVERYONE AS GAME PIECES. aka 'things you exploit #for personal gain/entertainment' #it's not like. random blobs or fuzz or a singular generic look it is SPECIFICALLY. TOYS. #HOW WAS THAT NOT AN INTENTIONAL CHARACTERIZATION CHOICE. THIS IS A SMART SHOW. COME /ON/ #also the fact that he can differentiate between men and women. and men all look the same vs women all looking the same but in a different #generic way. which like. hmmm. HMMMMMMMMM. #also he can differentiate between his promoted and un-promoted coworkers like this does not read as 'I literally cannot tell the #difference between any person.' it comes across as 'I do not care about people or see them as people and find it boring/pointless #to bother trying to differentiate them in the first place' #also lmao at this article trying to convince me the teenage girl shoved into a court role against her will is some how more dangerous than #this man. like I literally cannot make this shit up.

[butchshevik]

I will probably cave and watch the fall of the house of usher anyways but let it be stated for the record that I do not and never will like flanegans work

#its the themelessness for me.... #if you pay attention to how he writes/frames you can tell that beneath the veneer of a Family Redeems and Love Conquers theme #there actually isnt any salient consistency with the Why #at my most generous hes going for a 'your loved ones are complicated individuals capable of hurt but you should still love and forgive them' #but he never crafts an argument as to why that should happen besides the Bad Things Happening that comprise the plot of a horror production #and im not saying that you shouldnt forgive people but just that an artistic production that centers it thematically #ahould be able to make that argument on its own two legs #also he writes all women as smarmy #and makes them suffer the greatest narrative consequences despite often having minimal roles in the cycles of violence the plot centers #but he makes absolutely no cogent point that transforms it into a commentary on misogyny instead of another iteration of it #and the way he paces dialogue and sets characters on these patronizing monologues just artistically is weak imo #but will i watch the new one? probably 😔

[not-so-superheroine]

deseret book is more persistent than duolingo.

i ordered 2 books for a church research project on Black saints in the early Church and also in the Reorganization, on which the one book had a small section us and all had info from the our shared early church history, and it was an ebook too!

and i get physical mail from them once a month. i have no idea how to cancel.

herald house, the community of christ publishing house, contacts me much less, and i buy books from them all the time.

and oh their church book app reminds me to read my scriptures and the words of their prophets regularly if it's not in sleep mode.

i have to admire the effort behind it, ngl.

#tumblrstake #the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints #Community of Christ #latter day saint #deseret book #i highly recommend both books #black saints in a white church #and “My Lord He Calls Me” edited by Alice Faulkner Burch #she's really awesome so pls support her #i hang out with the genesis group bc i am playing with a similar group for community of christ #because the Black saints expressed interest #actually Black Saints in a White Church may have been elsewhere by Signature Books #you can read it for free on archive.org #and if you're at BYU you can access it too and papers on it #i'll promo them in another post eventually #white saints in my church don't get my vision bc their like “we never had a priesthood ban” #but i literally had to do the project bc they were speaking over us regarding anti-Black racism in our D&C #and people individually reached out. like Black church leaders. bc they be doing this. #we made so much noise and the first presidency reached out to ME bc i wrote a paper that spread through the church about it #wild moment. but yeah we need something like the Genesis Group and they were willing to help me out a bit #its too much for me to handle on my own tho. esp with the revitalizing our intepretation and use of the Book of Mormon projects #i always put too much in the tags. i should write a post about that and share my article #it was on our D&C 116 which is like our L-dS OD 2 on Race in the priesthood and specifically ordination of Black men #which they (some of the white saints) wanted removed 🙄 bc of the “ministers to their own race” part which led to segregation being allowed #but also explicitly affirms God calls people of all races to priesthood and also that Black congregations didn’t need white pastor oversight #so just leave it. and ig you feel guilty...cope #i personally believe it to be inspired but flawed #it was literally a mostly white church in 1865. not excusing tho bc some sects were always fully integrated like the Bickertonites #they had a Black apostle in 1915. representation at high levels of leadership #oh and women in the priesthood from the jump. if limited

[rotzaprachim]

Much observed but also highly entertaining the extent that fundies are worse at every discernible “home making” skill than many a group that they claim to be part of the Them group keeping women from their true roll as home makers

#I think there are many and highly complicated reasons behind this #A huge portion being the idealization of a past that never existed etc etc #Like the nine kids stay at home mom (with little Inter community help) who homeschools is just not a time equation that leaves time open fo #Cooking/cleaning/taking care of every child in an individual manner #The other unspoken elephant in the room is the extent that in the rare-r occasions there WAS the #Ye olden days Ma with her pristine white dress and nine pristine kids rather than an extended network of relatives/women etc etc #That social arrangement was only possible due to the working class women who did the cooking/cleaning/child care #In the South in particular the work of Black women. And for many of the periods fundies glorify? Enslaved women #Tw slavery #The cult of domesticity inseparable from classist and racist oppression etc etc #There’s just a lot going on with how outright bad fundies are at cooking and cleaning and that sort of thing #We won’t even touch on the parenting because that’s it’s own thing of a cultural structure that just creates intergenerational trauma from #The get go #But I think one of the big things to take away from the soc 101 kind of thing is like #Religious conservatism is deep in us cultural waters #But the whole fundie school of quiverfull related movements is NEW #It’s NEW #It’s a modern self-created culture from the 1970’s/80’s that can be classed in a group of similar religious revival movements #That shook politics around the world from that era as a reaction to “modernity” and which can be found in many cultures and religions #Inside and outside of the us #But as a fairly modern cultural construct there’s parents who assimilated into this culture and kind of formed it based on that idea of an #A past

[wild-at-mind]

If you ever see me becoming one of those transmisandry people, please fucking call me out immediately.

#it shouldn't happen though i am too triggered by MRA-lite material #i can't see that changing any time soon even though i haven't had exposure to the content for like 10 years #the transmisandry discourse on this site melts my brain it's awful it's just online stuff being argued about more online stuff #this is not the same as me saying i will never be treated badly for being transmasc i am not stupid i know that happens #and i am fully committed to fighting the patriachy which has nothing whatsoever to do with my individual manhood or anyone else's #it's a system and yes gender and how we fit into the patriachy is made extremely complicated in trans circles and that's ok! #i promise it is you don't have to design a new system that cis women and trans women are using to do oppression on specifically trans mascs #we're all being fucked over by the patriachy and how the fuck does it help to be divided #but in reality let's face it i can say this all i want but the real reason i'm never going anywhere near being a transmisandry person #is because i was exposing myself to MRA-lite content at a formative age and harming myself in the process #even if i didn't know i was a trans man guess what it would have harmed me just as much if i did have that awareness #and honestly when i see transmisandry discourse all i see is that fucking triggering stuff again #all it does is nitpick whether patriachy is real with tiny examples it doesn't talk systemicly and it doesn't help men in the slightest #it pays lipservice to marginised men but it has no interest in talking about the fact that men are usually simultaenously #oppressed and oppressor at the same time- this is not accusatory it is just factual #it's true of the queer community too and basically every community #but we can't seem to talk about it without just harming each other and blaming and not seeing each other as human #the internet makes it all so much fucking worse this stuff can't exist without it #anyway i'm super rambling but these are genuinely very triggering topics for me i have unfollowed people i LOVE becuase of this #and i still love them! unfollowing on a social media isn't a referendum on that i just can't see that stuff and i need it gone from my dash

[mg549]

god i wish season 2 of h2o wasnt unwatchably misogynist 

#my posts #h2o #put it on for bg noise. got to my least favorite episode ever of all time [irresistible] #the whole season is rly bad tho. charlottes entire character is jst. jealous bitch stereotype nothing else #like yeah yeah shes meant to be dislikable. do you maybe want to meditate on why they wrote her the way they did any deeper than 'on purpose #'? bc it was on purpose. im aware of that. pls think deeper. #this isnt a take ive seen on tumblr mostly jst in the youtube comments btw #like. the character setup of granddaughter of the original trio is so interesting. but they hate women love loses #also i HAAAAAAAAATE ash. everytime hes on screen i have to pause to go watch sth else for a minute he makes me so mad #girl you look like live action william dunbar Go In The Dark. his mra talking points are so. i haaaaaaate it emmas such a butch lesbian 😭😭 #my less popular take is that i dont like zikki either sorry. i think theyre both gay. i think they are wlw mlm bffs who shop at hot topic #god. the straight coupling literally ruins any sense of like. individuality they had in the first season [which still suffers from misogyny] #why write character development when you can jst do the same relationship drama over and over again #also i hate how the color grading got darker and less saturated in an attempt presumably to market towards older kids. looks bad #this is why s2 never got a rewrite in my hallucination doc. i have Ideas but theyre basically literally removed from canon entirely #i had an iced coffee so now im Going #<-he cant handle caffiene well but loves the taste

[subconsciousmysteries]

Men are absolutely losing it because women are seeing through their bullshit and I'm here to watch their collective narcissistic meltdown

#I understand anti feminists because feminism is a CIA funded plant that dug its own grave in regards to the trans stuff #I understand anti fems until they start saying we need to feel compassion for incels lol #I can tell these anti feminist women have never got stuck with a narcissist / borderline personality man before #The only way you can deal with a Cluster B is shut them down like the animal they are. #No sympathy no compassion... Their entire pathology is about exploiting your compassion to get you to enable their evil. #They are demonically possessed individuals #Even if you don't believe in that stuff... If you've dealt with one before and processed it... you know there's no fixing them #You can't love incels out of hating women #They have a deep-seated womb envy that transcends feminism or anything to do with the modern times #Coddling them literally makes it worse #See if the population understood enneagram things would be much easier lol #4s (incels) need to get they ass whooped by some harsh eugenic 1-ness #You cannot love them out of being hateful #And 2s (gender conforming women) need to grow some self awareness and understand that they keep themselves trapped in the “feminine role” #It's not muh social conditioning muh patriarchy keeping women sympathizing with gross men #It is our own 2-ish hubris #I need to write a book about gender dynamics inspired by enneagram 2 cuz this understanding is so so lacking in our culture #When you try to “fix” a broken man you are trying to impose your will on him and establish power over him. #It's absolutely not about you being a poor little innocent victim of patriarchy even though that's what you become when it backfires on you #Speaking as a 2-ish woman who has learned the hard way you can't fix broken hateful men

[ocotllo]

tbh the very first 'mens' vest to ever be tailored to a 'woman' by disneyland's costuming department being a thing in my closet with my name sewn inside it is a very cool feeling... i fought hard for that

#a few years before they had started to tailor vests to trans men who got their gender marker legally changed but Only if legally changed #but i was forced to wear a skirt for years and years bc im 'just' butch #i didnt talk abt it much so as to not doxx myself but now that im gone from that hell hole anyway.. #back in sep 2020 they finally decided to take a small step toward treating human beings as diverse individuals #by dropping all if their sex-based uniform policies as well as allowing us to have visible tattoos* and piercings* #*within certain size limits and placement constraints that were still not remotely inclusive of many cultures #and this also freed us to wear mens or womens costume pieces the problem being #the smallest vest they carry is a size 30 broad shoulders and im a twinky little 26 #but that shouldnt be an issue because for ages theyve always custom tailored costume pieces to people with specific needs #including plenty of men who were too big or small for the stock size run of 30-56 #but they did not want to make one for me #and refused until they were threatened with being fired #which took 2 month of me fighting with multiple departments' managers and struggling to get hr and the union to work with me #i had one manager who was very excited for me and really had my back bless her specifically but everyone else can choke #and then i got bullied out of the fantasyland area within 4 months of that and never wore my vest again :) #and the adventurland costume was just a baggy button up so i didnt need anything custom fit there #but i never returned that vest they literally wouldve incinerated it once i quit