thebiancarivers

[thebiancarivers]

Another victim of transphobic violence...

I would prefer my first meaningful post in a while to be about something more positive, but sometimes it takes a sad story to inspire some writing.

I read the news. I read about what concerns me. And I consider LGBTQIA2+ rights and news as my business. And today I see yet another trans woman of colour who got murdered in the USA. Then I read hateful comments under it. What’s the hell is wrong with people? Someone just died, murdered, burnt beyond recognition and you think it’s right to insult her memory AND blame her on top of that??

I wrote an « open letter » in response to those hateful comments because... it’s not ok.

Hello everyone.

I am a transgender woman. I am part of this minority that gets the highest suicide rates of all and that also get murdered the most, in proportion.

I see a lot of people using religion to attack us. Then I see a lot of people “sending prayers”.

First... get your shit together people: you are supposed to all pray to the same dude in the sky, so ask him how to treat us and you all should be doing fine. Love thy neighbor, they say, right?

We are your neighbors, we are your coworkers, we are your friends, we are your family, we are your kids... and some of us don’t understand themselves yet.

Sending prayers... I’m sorry to be one more person to tell you the truth: who cares? Oh, for sure they are “good intentions”, thanks a lot for that! According to the saying the road to hell is paved with them. In reality, you throw them around all the time, but mass shootings still happen WAY TOO OFTEN.

To me... it says it all. What we need are not prayers. We need actual support.

We need people to speak up for us when we are alone in the street getting insults yelled at by random guys.

We need people to speak up for us when we are not around.

We need people to stop using us as a punchline in their jokes.

We need people to respect who we are.

I could be your neighbour. I could be your coworker. I could have been your close friend who is in a deep depression and too afraid to come out, because the world treats him as a menace and a sicko.

Being male is not a choice.

Being female is not a choice.

Being transgender is not a choice either.

On the other hand, being hateful, insulting, mean and violent is a choice you make.

You might not understand us, what we are going through and how we feel.

It’s ok!

There is a lot of things I don’t understand. But I’m curious and I get informed before I judge and let my emotions drive my opinions.

Please... Be kind

#trans #transgirl #trans girl #trans is beautiful #trans is valid #trans support #trans issues #trans rights #trans lives matter #transgenderpride #transgenderwoman #transgender rights #open letter #lgbtqi #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbt rights #transgender woman

[thebiancarivers]

Haven’t posted in a LONG time!

I got a new phone, so the link between IG and Tumblr is broken and I’ve been a lazy bitch! So since I have been more on Instagram lately, I would keep you posted with a friendly selfie from Insta, in the hope you guys would follow me there too...

That did not happen...

On the other hand, THIS!

Today, I got this in the mail, notified the Gram and Facebook and now I just realized I left you guys out. Here it is! In 30 days, time the Supreme Court have to reverse this decision, I will recieve my official certificate. This is to confirm that my request for a sex designation and name change has been approved!

Sorry for the french paperwork, but that’s how we roll around here! I am ecstatic!!!

Be strong and be who you truly are!

#mtf #me #trans #selfie #montreal #transgirl #trans girl #trans is beautiful #trans is valid #transitioning

[thebiancarivers]

Foundation gone wrong? Nah! Just a volcanic ash mask! A girl gotta take care of herself, right? . . . #me #selfie #mtf #trans #transgirl #transwoman #transgirlsofinstagram #transwomenarewomen #transgender #transgenderpride #transisbeautiful #transisvalid #skincare #facemaskselfie #facemask https://www.instagram.com/p/B1cxOqSHQDk/?igshid=10haryg61bl99

#me #selfie #mtf #trans #transgirl #transwoman #transgirlsofinstagram #transwomenarewomen #transgender #transgenderpride #transisbeautiful #transisvalid #skincare #facemaskselfie #facemask

[thebiancarivers]

Sign this petition to get that hateful bigot out of this newspaper! . Signez la petition pour demander le renvoi de cet homme haineux qui répand les préjugés dans le joirnal le plus lu de la province! . http://chng.it/G9ncBDbjf4 . #trans #transrightsarehumanrights #transrights #transgenderpride https://www.instagram.com/p/B1ZaNY5nB9C/?igshid=11qey16e5m5uy

#trans #transrightsarehumanrights #transrights #transgenderpride

[thebiancarivers]

Ok… not really my style of picture, but today I’m quite pleased to say that a cleavage is born! I was getting dressed and i suddenly notices that my boobs were now big enough to cast shadows!

#me #cleavage #trans #mtf #bra #transitionmilestones #transgirl #transgirlsofinstagram #transwoman #transwomanofinstagram

[thebiancarivers]

Aaaaaand off to work we go!

#me #selfie #mtf #trans #transgirl #transwoman #dermablend #transgirlsofinstagram #montreal #sunnyday #transisvalid #transisbeautiful

[thebiancarivers]

Got my book signed!! 💖💕
Thanks a lot, @maven_of_mayhem for all that you do!

#transrights #transadvocate #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqi #lgbtbooks #canadianbestseller

[thebiancarivers]

I still can’t frame my face and smile at the same time… I need a photographer! 😂

#me #selfie #trans #transgender #transgirl #transgirlsofinstagram #transwoman #unicornhair #dermablendpro #mac

[thebiancarivers]

Lots of fun two nights in a row!

#me #selfie #atwork #proaudio #vi600 #soundcraft #mixingfoh #montreal #mtf #transgirl #transgender #transgirlsofinstagram #transgirlpositivity

[thebiancarivers]

Lights out, headset on… reharsal mode activated!

#me #selfie #mtf #mtftransgender #trans #transgirl #transgirlsofinstagram #showbusiness #mixingfoh #transwoman #myoffice

[thebiancarivers]

Damn I’m bad at taling selfies! 😂
Going to work in a venue I haven’t set foot in for years! It was among my first few gigs when I moved to Montreal about 10 years ago. Time flies!

#me #selfie #badpicture #badfaceday #slightlydysphoric #mtf #transgender

[thebiancarivers]

Beautiful day today! I kicked myself in the butt and started getting to know my local LGBTQI+ community... it was about time!

I recommend it to everyone. No matter who you are, where you come from and what your future is aimed to be, you will be welcome. Even cis people! Show up with an open mind and an open heart, that’s all we ask!

#mtf #me #trans #montreal #selfie #transgirl #trans girl #trans is beautiful #trans is valid #transitioning #lgbtpride #lgbtqia #trans rights #pride march #trans march 2019

[thebiancarivers]

I finally got my copy of this already Canadian Bestseller book! This woman is amazing and the story of her and her family is a true inspiration. Thanks a lot Amanda for what you do! We have never met, but I sure hope we will some day. The world needs more people like you, willing to fight on our side to make things better for everyone. 💖💕

#lgbtq #lovelivesherebook #loveliveshere #transfamily #transgender #transkids #transissues

[thebiancarivers]

There it is! Transaction approved: my paperwork for my name and sex designation change is in the processing queue!

#me #mtf #trans #transgirl #transwoman #transition #milestones

[thebiancarivers]

I’m not an american... but this is important. I feel like I just started living, so please, do not let that orange piece of trash accelerate the downfall of our planet for his own profit...

[thebiancarivers]

So, I stole this from somewhere on Tumblr and posted it on Facebook... seems like it goes against their community standards, so I got banned for 24h... 🙄

Let’s see how Tumblr reacts!

#1st world problems #facebook #facebook algorithm #algorithm

[thebiancarivers]

Hey everyone! Always busy, but still alive!

#me #selfie #mtf #trans #transgirl #transwoman #purplehair #mascaraonly #transgender