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I just want you to know that if you have ever liked one of my posts, reblogged one of my posts, or followed me, you are forever marked as a Good Person™

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This is GLORIOUS. I LOVE it.

every time i listen to “you’re a mean one mr. grinch” i can’t help but sit there and think “what did the grinch do to hurt you?” because dude just stands there for 2 minutes and 58 seconds and drags the grinch into the dirt

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I love this, I rally can’t find anything wrong with it! Thank you, @the-moon-is-aroace for this amazing aspec flag!

A new flag for the aspec community

Just an idea I had for an aspec flag. 

I haven’t really seen a flag that has been widely adopted for the greater aspec community as a whole, and I thought to throw my own hat into the ring because why not. 

More about the flag in the break below

Keep reading

#new aspec flag

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Voldemort’s nose

So I have a theory that Voldemort had a nose until, at the Potter’s, when Harry became a horcrux. That Voldemort’s nose was the piece of him that went into Harry. After the horcrux in him was destroyed, Harry’s sense of smell was weaker, even if he never realized it.

#voldemort #harry potter #horcrux #voldemort's nose

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A good way to exlplain it is with shoes. Some shoes are cute, others are not. That’s what aesthetic attraction is, just substitute the shoes with a person. I have seen many pairs of cute shoes, but would I want to kiss them? No, because I am not romantically or sexually attracted to them.

How do I tell the difference between aesthetic attraction and romantic attraction when it's less obvious? If I see a person and think, "wow they're pretty. I think kissing them would feel nice" and if I wish for a partner with those looks, but I forget about that person almost instantly when they're out of sight, what attraction would be? - 🐡

Hello, dear anon! Thanks for the ask!

In all honestly I’m the least qualified person to respond to this ask, but I’ll try. The reason I say I’m not qualified is because I identify as quoiromantic, which, for me, means that I almost entirely cannot differentiate between romantic attraction and almost every other type of attraction. However, I’ve researched enough about the different types of attraction that I think I’ll be able to answer this well.

I would say that if you see a person and think “wow, they’re pretty,” then that’s aesthetic attraction. For those who don’t know, aesthetic attraction is essentially just “wow, this person is very good looking” and that’s about it. It’s just finding someone’s looks appealing.

However, in the second part of the ask, anon says, “I think kissing them would feel nice.” This, I believe, is sensual attraction. Sensual attraction is when you feel a need or an urge to be close to someone, whether that be handholding, cuddling, hugging, or even kissing. Some people don’t specifically identify their attraction as sensual, but instead break give those feelings to other types of attraction, like thinking of kissing as romantic instead, or handholding and hugging as platonic.

You asked how to tell the difference between aesthetic and romantic attraction when it’s less obvious, and there’s only really one piece of advice I would give you: when you’ve got some time on your hands, mentally classify certain feelings as different types of attraction. Maybe tell yourself “whenever I think I would enjoy kissing someone, I think of that as sensual attraction” or “whenever I find someone pretty, I know that’s aesthetic attraction.” Most people do experience the different types of attraction differently, so classify different feelings as whatever works for you, not what the weird person behind the post says.

And, dear anon, I do feel very similarly to you about a lot of people. I often find people pretty, but almost immediately forget about them once they’re out of sight. I understand the struggle :)

I hope this helped! Once again, feel free to add on in the comments or with a reblog!

-Will (she/they)

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I have very accepting friends, (three are bi, one’s allo-asexual, a few are straight, and one I haven’t come out to but they’re still very kind), and I’ve known about aro, ace, and aspec identities since before I realized I was aspec, but I still have anxiety that makes me doubt my identity. 

One sentence that for me is worse than "you'll find someone" is "you probably felt a crush but haven't realized it".

That specific sentence made me question my romantic orientation for months when it was very clear I am aromantic. It made me feel insecure, specially when it was paired with an explanation of what a crush feels like (since I couldn't find a difference between what my friends described and platonic/familial love). I questioned all my friendships. Was I just a lesbian full of internalized homophobia? Was I feeling crushes for all my close friends? And for some time I thought my repulsion to that thoughts was internalized homophobia. And that the fact that the lesbian label didn't seem to fit me, I also thought it was because of internalized homophobia. I imagined myself kissing all my friends. (also one of my friends described a crush as something similar to the feeling of when I see my mum, and I was very wtf with that).

All this story might sound stupid to who knows what a crush feels. But since I never felt crushes, I was looking for them in my experience.

Long story short, if you're alloallo and someone asks you what a crush feels like or tells you they never felt crushes or something similar, don't tell them they might have felt crushes and not realized that. Respect what they're saying to you. It's not an easy journey.

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she is water./powerful enough to drown you/soft enough to cleanse you/deep enough to save you

Adrian Michaelf (via turtle-the-turtle-quotes)

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Voldemort out, bitches.

AVPM’s Lord Voldemort 

#avpm #voldemort

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...shut your ungodly, lopsided mouth and quit interrupting

AVPM’s Albus Dumbledore

#avpm

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If I had an invisibility cloak I'd use it so I'd never have to face my own reflection in the mirror.

AVPM’s Hermione Granger

#relatable #avpm #hermione #invisibility cloak #hermione granger

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I don't want my life to be like Spiderman 3, I hated that movie.

AVPM’s Harry Potter

#avpm #harry potter #spider man 3

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Malfoy, you little shit!

AVPM’s Albus Dumbledore

#avpm #a very potter musical #harry potter #albus dumbledore #dumbledore #malfoy #draco malfoy

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What is your opinion on the shameplant?

also called sensitive plant, sleepy plant, or touch-me-not, the shameplant is a creeping plant that folds/droops when touched or shaken. I find this very relatable, as i too have been known to shrivel up and scream internally when people intrude on my personal space

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out of curiosity, how much would a wholesome thought cost from you, if you sold them at all?

i have never posted anything wholesome on this entire blog, it’s completely against my brand, how dare you, i would never stoop so low for a penny less than 30 bucks

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Depression is flat, hollow, and unendurable. It is also tiresome. People cannot abide being around you when you are depressed. They might think that they ought to, and they might even try, but you know and they know that you are tedious beyond belief. You are irritable and paranoid and humorless and lifeless and critical and demanding and no reassurance is ever enough.

Kay Redfield Jamison (via thoughtkick)

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Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody.

Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower (via quotefeeling)

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Pretty much. I always assumed that I was straight and that ‘sexual attraction’ just meant finding someone attractive, like, there are boys I know that are cute but they’re idiots in all sense of the word. I hear girls swooning over them and I’m just like “have you ever talked to him? Or listened to him? Or just payed attention to him in the slightest?” 

What's your earliest memory that you look back on and realize you were so ace, even back then?

Oh wow that’s a hard one! I guess in like 3rd grade when everyone else started talking about how cute guys were and I was like friends???? why does cute matter in friends????

How about you all?

#ace #demi #aspec #arospec