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THE TRANSSEXUAL

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This just reminds me of how tomboyx wound up being transphobic and misgendered their models.

I would bet that 99% of these brands don’t even see the transmasc models they hire as anything but Spicy Women. The reason they don’t hire models with more masculine bodies is because their goal isn’t to make clothes that are gender-neutral and for everyone—their goal is to make clothes that are ‘gender-neutral’ for all of the Spicy Women with Spicy Identities to wear. In other words, their goal isn’t gender-neutral clothing. It’s clothing targeting an untapped demographic of people they see as women: transmascs.

TBH the only brand I’ve ever seen that hasn’t had some sort of allegations of transphobia come out (that I know of) is Beefcake Swimwear (and you’ll notice that they actually do have models with masculine bodies).

* I don’t use AMAB and AFAB here bc I don’t like those terms very much, but I do agree with OPs tags that transfems are also underrepresented in addition to trans people with masculine bodies, in particular transfems with masculine bodies.

Wow, this "gender free" fashion brand sure doesn't have any AMAB models.

#queer fashion #nonbinary #trans

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Erasure is something that cannot be contained. You cannot say with a straight face that transfems have it worse than transmascs by citing statistics after acknowledging that the statistics will not report a lot of incidents against transmascs. The point of transmasc erasure is that WE DON'T KNOW how bad transmascs have it.

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cis people stop doing this shit challenge

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jobs for girls who can't focus and are tired all the time and aren't rlly that good looking and get startled easily

#this but I’m hot

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You should cut autistic people some slack when it comes to being blunt, not understanding social cues, or not understanding social norms.

But.

If somebody is being a dick to you, if they’re flirting with you and won’t stop when you ask them to, if they’re being really inappropriate or invasive, it doesn’t matter that they’re autistic! You’re allowed to be uncomfortable with that.

I am autistic and sometimes I do have trouble with social interactions. I often cannot detect sarcasm unless it’s clear from context, I can’t always tell when something is a joke or when somebody is exaggerating, I often can’t tell what people are ‘saying’ if they don’t say it outright, and, though I try to guess anyway, it is extremely taxing and confusing for me.

But that doesn’t mean I can walk around stomping on everybody’s boundaries after they make them explicitly known to me.

I have read far too many stories of specifically some autistic men being completely inappropriate around women, only for the women to be told something along the lines of, “he can’t control it, he’s autistic.” If he can independently go places, he should be able to learn to stop when you say to stop. If he really can’t learn that, then he needs more support (maybe a carer to be out with him and to help him navigate social situations), but, either way, it is completely unacceptable to write off sexual harassment or bigoted behaviour just because somebody is autistic.

#neurodivergent #autism #actually autistic

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I get the impulse of some trans girls to describe testosterone as evil, since, yeah, when you’re a girl and other girls are talking about how evil T is, how T makes people angry and evil… but you have T in your system, and maybe you’re binary and have dysphoria so you don’t want it there at all, it might feel a little freeing to remove a lot it from your body.

But that doesn’t mean it’s true, just because you have dysphoria about it doesn’t mean it’s inherently evil. And when you say it is you’re throwing a lot of other genderqueer people under the bus. Not only trans men, but trans girls who aren’t on E yet or who don’t want to take E, any sort of nonbinary people who want or are okay with higher T in their system, and many intersex folks as well who have higher T and are happy with it.

Iunno, it just makes me feel really alienated. I guess I’m transfemasc so I will always be somewhat alienated from people who are only one or the other, as I’ll always feel like they’re missing a portion of my experience, but when other transfems go so far as to completely demonise one half of me it really hurts. I had high T as an intersex person. As a person taking oestrogen I still was somebody who, at one point, had higher T. As a person taking testosterone I have T. Sometimes I am a woman again but I keep taking T. T is not evil, it does not make you angry or aggressive, and it does not taint you somehow. No hormone is evil or bad. Hormones are just hormones.

Please stop speaking over us!

#transgender #anti masculism #transmisogyny #transandrophobia #intersex #intersexism

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Everyone told me testosterone would make me angrier. My family has a habit of attributing any anger I feel these days to the testosterone. I didn't feel any angrier, but my mother would still tell me that no, I am angrier now, and testosterone did make me angrier and *she* could tell.

A week or two ago, I got my proof to the contrary. I'd been having a difficult day, woke up late, and had to rush out the door, ran into minor inconvenience after minor inconvenience, and then the straw broke the camel's back.

I wrote out the kind of angry vindictive seething text message I used to write constantly. I didn't send it, of course, I copied it out and pasted it in the folder of my notes where I put all my rage venting.

And then I thought.

Huh, it's been a little while since I did that. And I checked the time and dates on my previous notes. The last one was a few days before I started testosterone.

And scrolling back, I noticed that they were *constant* at least one a week for *years* I used to get so angry that I would get the serious urge to say cruel hurtful things to or about people I cared about on a near-daily basis. I didn't realize how big of a problem it was until all of a sudden I hadn't gotten that angry in Eleven Months. Nearly a YEAR.

And then I realized in my rush to get out the door in the morning, I hadn't taken my T shot. My testosterone was the lowest it's been since August.

All of a sudden, I had demonstrable proof that testosterone really did make me less angry. That all that "you may not think you're any angrier but you are" was bullshit.

I feel like I should be angrier about this than I am. I know how angry I used to get. About everything. I just felt it again for the first time in a while. For once, it would feel justified to be that angry. But I'm not. I'm not mad. I'm just... disappointed, I guess.

#anti masculism

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ykw it's fucking bonkers how trans guys are made to feel bad and/or irrational for being nervous around entering spaces dominated by cis men & boys. like we are straight up told that either our fears of harassment and violence are proof that we aren't real men (because real men take patriarchal hazing on the chin and never complain!) or – & this one is especially pushed by other queer people – that no trans guy ever has anything to fear from cis men. like personally i have never seen someone tell a cis gay guy that he's self-victimizing or has a misgendering kink when he talks about hanging out with girls because he didn't like straight cis guy culture & it being actively hostile to him. but the only kind of trans guy that's allowed to exist in a lot of people's eyes is "typical masc cishet guy but with a pussy"

#transandrophobia

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“Transandrophobia means that trans women oppress trans men!”

*team and crowd clapping, and team yelling “good answer!”*

❌

Ooh, sorry. You failed to steal.

Wow, after those first three strikes on transphobia means, “that trans men want to be oppressed,” “trans men are trying to claim that ‘men’ is an oppressed class,” and, “that trans men are trying to claim trans women’s oppression as their own,” I don’t have any idea what those answers on the board could be!

Let’s see what we were looking for! Starting from the bottom:

4. Transandrophobia means toxic masculinity as it is wielded against trans men/mascs.

3. Transandrophobia means that trans men/masc, especially those who aren’t binary-stealth, are treated worse as men when compared to when they were presenting as women.

2. Transandrophobia means the intersection of misogyny, transphobia, and cultural concepts of masculinity as that intersection applies to trans men/mascs.

1. Transandrophobia means the oppression that trans men face as trans men/mascs.

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REBLOG THIS POST IF YOU FEEL SAFER WHEN QUEER SPACES ARE OPENLY ACCEPTING OF AMAB NONBINARY PEOPLE

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lol. lmao even

#fuck this #covid

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Adding on that it’s pretty normal for preferences to differ between headmates! I like headmate/system/plural and I’m okay with alter/part, Cyril likes part/system and is okay with alter/plural/headmate, and Marbas likes alter/system/part and is okay with plural/headmate. I use explicitly plural terminology a lot of the time but everybody else tends to refer to us as parts of one person, either bc it’s more comfortable or because it’s easier.

btw. use whatever terminology benefits you.

if they're your alters, beautiful. if they're your parts, fantastic. if they're your headmates, wonderful. if they're your fellow system members, awesome. if they're just YOU, delightful. as long as you're comfortable, it doesn't matter how you conceptualise or label your self-states!

if you are a system, perfect. if you are a person with a CDD, perfect. it's all perfect because you deserve the autonomy to choose how to define yourself & you have made your choice! or chosen not to care about terminology! & that's rad!

#osddid #actually dissociative #actually plural #plural #system posting

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medical literature about intersex people be like "there are problems that can be caused by forcing surgery on babies. luckily we are solving this by forcing surgery on even younger babies. it is vital that this baby CANNOT be left alone to develop normally. here is our 36 step guide on which surgeries you should force on which babies. also some people have said that forcing surgeries on babies might be "harmful" so consider that too I guess"

#intersexism

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rb this and tell me what ur accent is. this has no purpose except the fact i just realized i could have like... mutuals with cockney accents or newfoundland accents or something and thats just wild

#I’m like Midwest American w a few southern words thrown in but somehow I still manage to give off vague British vibes #yet vague British vibes strong enough for multiple people to have asked me if I’m English despite straight up not having an English accent #so I guess I sound like if an English person had a midwestern American accent???? #which is probably because of the Autism ngl #lmao

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You don’t get to police somebody’s identity just because you think the term they use to refer to themselves is problematic. If somebody wants to call themselves a fag, or a tranny, or a transsexual, or a homo, or a queer, or a dyke, if they use ftm or mtf, you have literally 0 say in that. If they’re calling other people that without permission, that’s one thing. But nobody has any say in how THEY experience and describe THEIR OWN life and identity.

#queer #genderqueer