Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful, they deserve to be proud for all that they have survived especially with such a distressing disorder
I had to learn in the most devastating fashion that he didn’t know how to love, but he damn sure wanted all of the love I had to give. He made himself a victim of everything, and used that to gain my empathy. It was suppose to be a trap, but I escaped. I don’t care how he explains my escape. I don’t care how he villainize me. Just know that my mind is free and I finally have peace. This is going to be hard to hear. He will never love you, no matter what you do or how much you do it. Not because you don’t deserve love, he’s merely incapable. He doesn’t know how. But he’s not going to tell you that, because he loves all the ways that you love him. He loves how you pacify, make excuses and sacrifice yourself for him. He loves how hard you work to prove your love. He’s going to drain you in every capacity, and eventually you’re going to feel like nothing is ever enough. And you’re right, it never will be, because darling he’s empty. He’s an endless pit of darkness and he’s trying to drag you into the tunnel of nothingness with him. You are next in line for everything that he said about me and did to me. Sadly, it just might be worse for you. I wish I could rescue you, but right now you’re busy trying to prove that you’re different. He has projected all of his negative behavior onto me and you believe it. So unfortunately, you can’t be saved. You have to find out like the rest of us. Just remember that when you finally wake up to the man behind the mask, to give yourself some grace. He’s good at fooling people.
repeating this from my twitter account because i wrote well lol.. was just really tired of seeing narc abuse twitter fucks..
"narcissists lack humanity"
just.. fuck you.... seriously.. if you say that then you dont even know what a narcissist really is. you cant just completely condemn people you dont like. empathy doesnt equal good person. you have a shitty opinion too and you probably have empathy.
The hardest thing about moving on from a narcissist is looking back and realizing nothing was real. The initial love bombing. Then spending months, jumping through hoops and chasing that initial connection. Only to realize you were chasing something that was impossible.
How come when you’ve been gaslight for so long, and you are finally brave enough to mention it to others such as family members or friends it scares the ever living shit out of you.
I think that it’s the not knowing what their reactions are going to be, or if they are going to believe you or not. It’s a very scary situation and then you start to self doubt yourself over it.
The emotional trauma that you’ve been put through, causes you so much suffering and damage and you don’t know how to become yourself again.
Hell, at times in my marriage, I don’t know how to be myself because I’m scared that I will do permanent damage to us. I never know how to react, and I overreact a lot when we have an argument because I’m so used to having to try and defend myself.
Thankfully, I have a truly amazing husband who understands my trauma. But I don’t think he actually knows how deep it truly runs.
Most narcissistic men are gay. They’ll never admit it but I think that’s their dark MO. He hates when you receive attention from other men because he wants the attention from the men. Ask him if he’s gay, and see the response.