#disabled ace

[theacecouple]

TOMORROW is the start of ACE WEEK 2023!!! :D

To kick things off A-specs Committed to Anti-Racism is hosting a book club on October 22nd.

If you're interested, you can get more details and the link to join on the Ace Week Website

#ace week #disabled aces #disabled ace #asexuality #ace week 2023 #asexual #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #asexual community #ace #aces #ace community #a-specs committed to anti-racism #discord #book club #black disability politics #anti-racism #anti racism #ace week events #ace week 2023 events

[serenaluna15]

In celebration of ace week:

Me! And me pride pins! I just ordered these and I love them. (So cute. So tiny!)

And before you ask, yes my right arm is missing. No it wasn’t lost/amputated, I was born this way. That’s why I where both my ace and aro rings on my left hand.

I also just wanted to show off my outfit!😜

#ace week #ace week 2023 #disabled ace #ace pride

[scribefindegil]

When you encounter a person who does not do something that you consider normative, you need to understand that they could be either stating a barrier or expressing a boundary. A barrier is "I would like to partake of the normative activity, but I can't due to other factors." A boundary is "I have made a decision not to participate in the normative activity."

Many people do not believe that boundaries actually exist! This is why it's so common to give a clear "No" on an issue and get inundated with people saying "But have you tried-" They can't conceptualize that anyone might actually want to avoid X thing, so they assume that you totally want to do X and you would love X so much if only they could figure out a way around whatever pesky obstacle is getting in your way. But humanity contains multitudes, and for any given experience you consider vital for happiness I promise there are people who are Just Not Interested.

If someone is stating a boundary, do NOT talk about how sad their life must be, and do NOT try to push them! Just accept that their life experience is very different from your own, and isn't that a beautiful thing?

Barriers are different. Barriers suck. With boundaries, the only problem is other people being dicks. With barriers, the problem is the barrier itself . . . and probably, additionally, people being dicks. There's really not a way to win in the people being dicks department when you don't do something that other people have decided is Necessary For Humaning.

If someone is talking about a barrier they face, still don't talk about how sad their life must be, although it's fine to commiserate with a friend if they're complaining. It's hard! Some barriers are pretty insurmountable; the person might not ever get to do X even though they want to. And a lot of people don't believe that this kind of barrier exists either; we're very much taught that you can do anything if you try hard enough, when that is simply not true. If someone tells you that they can't do something, listen to them and respect that.

The only reason for not doing X that people really acknowledge as real are the surmountable barriers. And these are real, but even in these cases you should always assume that the person knows themself best and not give advice unless they've specifically asked for it. But if they have asked, it's chill to try to brainstorm solutions with them.

As someone who has both things going on, it really sucks that people tend to assume that everything is a) a barrier issue and b) that they personally have the solution to it. Don't do this.

The only way you can tell if something is a boundary or a barrier is to listen to people and believe them.

Example:

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "No thanks . . . I haven't really found anything that I like yet," (barrier, potentially surmountable) it is probably cool to ask them if they're open to trying something new, and if they say yes ask about their tastes to try to find a drink they would enjoy! They might like it or they might not.

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "I can't, it interacts with my meds," (barrier, insurmountable) you can say, "Aw, that sucks!" and offer them something nonalcoholic.

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "I don't drink," (BOUNDARY) you should give them a mocktail and shut the fuck up.

#this post is about being ace and also being a teetolaler and also being disabled and also-- #there are some things i don't want to do and i am sick of people assuming that really i *must* want to #becuase no one could *really* be uninterested in drinking or sex or whatever #and there are also some things that i desperately want to do that i can't because of the curse #but a random stranger doesn't know which is which unless i tell them #you've got to listen to people when they tell you what they want or don't want to do #and you've got to listen to people when they tell you what they can and can't do

[isabellascarlett1]

No Queer person owes you an explanation for their Queer identity.

No Plural person owes you an explanation for their Plural identity.

No Disabled person owes you their diagnosis.

#LGBTQIA #LGBTQ #LGBT #Queer #Plural #Plurality #PluralGang #Plural Gang #Disabled #Disability #Lesbian #Gay #Bi #Bisexual #Trans #Asexual #Aromantic #Ace #Aro #Endo #Endogenic #Endo Safe #Endo Friendly #Bi Lesbian #Bi Lesbians #Lesboy #Lesboys #Rad Inclus #RadInclus #Mspec Lesbian

[genderqueerdykes]

🏳️‍🌈 New additions to our shop! Severely disabled trans person stabilizing after recent bout of homelessness♿

hello, my name is equinox, i was recently homeless for 6 months. i am an intersex genderfluid trans butch lesbian. i am multiply disabled, i am autistic, schizophrenic, and bipolar, and have hypermobile eds, arthritis, fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease, chronic fatigue and other physical health issues. i am struggling to make ends meet right now after paying a deposit and first month's rent after living in a hotel for 2 months where i was paying at minimum $1,200 - 1,400/month to live there.

my food stamps are on hold right now because the government is "receiving 400 - 500 applications per day" and it is somehow my fault for not thinking to come in in perosn to talk to them depsite the fact that they told me i am approved online. i have been starving for months. i need to eat in order to work to pay my bills. thank you for considering helping me, it goes very far

#share your dollar #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbt #queer #trans mutual aid #queer mutual aid #trans punks #trans punx #queer punks #queer punx #lesbian #butch lesbian #intersex #genderqueer #genderfluid #ftm #transmasculine #transmasc #trans man #trans men #bigender #bisexual #aroace #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #asexual community #disabled

[winterserpent]

#ace attorney #ace attorney trials and tribulations #ace attorney 3 #mia fey #ace attorney meme #meme #memes #funny #mental health #health #chronic illness #chronically ill #adhd #meds #medicine #disability #disabled

[gray-ace-space]

happy lesbian visibility week to acespec lesbians!

💜 to gray asexual lesbians

❤ to demisexual lesbians

🧡 to aceflux lesbians (and all lesbians whose sexuality is fluid)

🩷 to trans, nonbinary, and multigender acespec lesbians (transfem, transmasc, and those who are neither!)

💜 to bi, pan, and all mspec acespec lesbians

❤ and specifically mspec lesbians who are acespec in different ways/to different degrees for different genders

🧡 to intersex acespec lesbians

🩷 to acespec lesbians of color

💖 to disabled and neurodivergent acespec lesbians, and especially those of you who are autistic - happy autism acceptance month! ❤🧡💖🩷💜

💜 to acespec femmes and butches and gnc lesbians

❤ to acespec lesbians whose sexuality is influenced by trauma

🧡 to sex repulsed acespec lesbians, sex favorable acespec lesbians, and everyone in between

🩷 to lesbians who feel alienated from lesbian communities due to their asexuality

💜 and to acespec lesbians still figuring themselves out!

i see you. you are appreciated.💖

#og post #positivity #lesbian visibility week #lesbian #acespec #gray ace #demi ace #aceflux #glitter text #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #lgbt+ #inclusionist #rad inclus #ace lesbian #asexual #trans #nonbinary #multigender #mspec lesbian #bi lesbian #intersex #poc #disability #neurodivergent #autistic #autism acceptance month #gray asexual #demisexual #flashing

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

shout out to disabled aces and aros, physically developmentally cognitively intellectually you name it

shout out to aros and aces who aren’t “born this way” or whatever

shout out to aroaces whose aromanticism is more salient/important/prominent than their asexuality and is sick of aromanticism being seen as less important or secondary to asexuality

shout out to allo aros who is tired of aromanticism being falsely collapsed under the asexual umbrella

shout out to aces who have sex who like sex who love sex who want sex who enjoy sex

#ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #disability #loaf screm

[thechronicsloth]

The sunflower is the official symbol of hidden/invisible disabilities.

Three more flags on sunflowers! These are for asexual, aromantic and aroace people who also have invisible disabilities.

Feel free to use it and share it. I just ask that you credit me.

If you'd like to have it on pins, stickers, tote bags, clothes and other merch, these pride sunflowers are all available in my shop.

Let me know if you'd like a particular flag on a sunflower.

#aroace #asexual #arospec #aromantic #asexual spectrum #aroace flag #asexual flag #ace flag #aromantic flag #aro flag #pride flag #lgbtq #lgbtqa #lgbtqplus #queer community #queer #pride flags #invisible disability #hidden disability #chronic disability #disabled artist #artists on tumblr #myasthenia #digital artist #chronic illness #lgbtq community #tcsloth #tcsloth pride #tcsloth pride sunflowers #tcsloth sunflowers

[theacecouple]

Psssssssssssssst! Disabled Ace Day is coming. Pass it on

#ace week #disabled ace day #asexual #asexuality #ace #aces #disability #intersectionality #pride #lgbtqia #aspec #aspec pride #asexual community #ace community #ace pride #asexual pride #disabled pride #disability pride #disabilties #queer and disabled

[theaceandaroadvocacyproject]

Hello everyone! We wanted to do a piece talking about the intersectionality of disabled and aspec identities and experiences - does this ring true to your experiences? What did we miss? Info on the images are written out below and included in alt text.

[Text reads: July is Disability Pride Month. Let's discuss Disability and Aspec Identity. While individuals may be both aspec and disabled, the two groups also have many similarities outside of people who exist in both. Ableism and aphobia, while both robust issues on their own, have intersecting pain points. Ace and aro people may be accused of being "sick" or "unnatural", and in need of a cure. Simple existence is conflated with suffering, and some people may be more invested in "fixing" aspec people rather than accepting them.

The idealized future - long life, independent living, marriage, children, etc - does not necessarily leave room for people in these groups. Disabled and aspec people can definitely have wonderful futures, without adhering to ableist and amatonormative notions of what a future should look like. Both groups are frequently treated as an afterthought in the realms of legislation/political advocacy and community care*. *A great time to remind y'all that we are still in a pandemic. Wear a mask.

People who are both disabled and aspec may deal with the added stress of stereotype threat*. Stereotype threat is the anxiety and stress that comes from possibly confirming a negative stereotype about the demographic one is apart of. Stereotype threat may arise due to the stereotype that disabled people are not suitable for romantic and/or sexual relationships, or due to the stereotype that asexuality and aromanticism are signs of illness or dysfunction. *Stereotype threat can occur to people of any minority demographic - age, race, gender, orientation, etc.]

#ace #aro #aspec #disability pride month #aromantic #asexual #aroace #alloaro #alloace #gray ace #grayro #also let us know if alt text in the caption is unhelpful #we don't want to assume everyone has a screen reader or knows how to access alt text

[questionmarklive]

No one talks about the unique hell of being disabled and aroace and no one understanding what it means to be either

#aro spec #aro spectrum #aroace #aromantic #ace spec #acespec #arospec #ace spectrum #asexual #disabled #disability #i have never felt more alone

[thedenofravenpuff]

A lil something I put together for Pride Month this year.

The cane has become a daily tool I can no longer deny, and wanted to create something to show the acceptance of this aspect of my life. Alongside with the many colours I've found through the never ending journey that is self discovery.

I did create one flag myself here, the bottom right purple one. Purple is the colour ribbon used to represent fibromyalgia as well as the butterfly used as symbol for this chronic illness. I took those elements and made my own fibro flag to go with the Disability Pride flag.

Do enjoy and merry Pride Month to ya'll.

Trans Gender Package The Autism Awareness Package

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#PuffBlog #MyArt #Pride Month #Pride Canes #Design #Digital Art #Cane #Chronic Illness #Disability #Disability Pride #Aro Ace #Aro #Ace #Aromantic #Asexual #Asexuality #Enby #NonBinary #Trans #Agender #Fibromyalgia

[scleracentipede]

we stan an acearo king

(Image Description: A drawing of a cartoonish Scarecrow with the words “Love is in the air? Wrong! Fear Toxin” in the above and below text meme template style. He wears a gas mask and a large hat as he sprays fear toxin out of what looks like a spray paint can. The demisexual and aromantic flags are next to him in little hearts)

#artists on tumblr #queer artist #digital art #trans artist #disabled artist #batman #dr jonathan crane #jonathan crane #scarecrow #scarecrow headcanons #ace characters #ace headcanons #aromantic headcanon #sceleraverse

[this-teen-is-on-fireee]

Reblog if schools should stop spending thousands on new sports equipment and should fix their elevator and air conditioning to increase accessibility for disabled students and quality of life for everyone

#like #everyone appreciates good ac #just fix it #please we dont need a new track #chronic illness #chronic pain #chronically ill #erythromelalgia #invisible disability #disabled

[deancaslover]

Please reblog!!

#poll #tumblr polls #ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #aroace #disability #physical disability #developmental disabilities