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classycookiexo · 6 months

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#high standards #relationships #consistency #consideration

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lvrful · 14 days

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blissfullyecho · 1 year

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how to create a leveling up/dream girl/rebranding plan 🤍🍸🖤

establish your aesthetic

first thing’s first, you need to know where you want to go in life and what is your “aesthetic”? do you want to be giving “classy, businesswoman”? what about “nyc socialite”? of course these are just examples, but you should know what type of girl you want to embody. remember, you don’t have to fit a narrative, but you should have a general “aesthetic” that you want to be associated with. even if it’s 50 million different aesthetics, it’s whatever makes you, you.

visualize yourself/life

get inspired by making a vision board (physical or digital) and add to your board (if digital) daily. i find that this helps you stay in alignment with where you want to be in the future. you have to stay in that frequency and remind yourself of what’s next to come… because this new life is what’s next to come.

start with habits

please refer to my “starting your leveling up journey” post, but basically— you should create 1-3 habits for each of your goals and work on them until they become second nature. then when you’re ready, start implementing more habits that are aligned with your goals.

create routines with your habits

can you incorporate some of these new habits into a morning or evening routine? we all know that routines are important— they almost become our personalities and they set the tone for the day and night, and even the next day. for me, i know i’m only inspired to exercise in the morning around 10am, so exercise is part of my morning routine.

create daily + weekly goals

let’s say part of your journey is learning a new language. a daily goal could be learning one new vocabulary word in that language. your weekly goal could be knowing the alphabet in that language. use this method for all of your goals.

don’t overwhelm yourself with goals, routines, and habits

start slow; don’t overwhelm yourself. if you want to work on one goal at a time, then work on that one goal. burnout is real and it’s very hard to get back into the swing of things afterwards. i understand most of us are impatient when we just want to be a different version of ourselves, but it’s going to take some adjusting. i suggest not working on more than 3 things at once, but if you can work on more, go ahead

be a part of a community to keep you accountable

tumblr and facebook groups in my opinion are the best ways you can connect with other women who are working on the same thing. you can inspire one another, bounce ideas off of one another, and it’s super fun. you might want to even document your journey online.

set milestones and have a reward system

let’s say you would like to lose or gain weight, no matter the number, focus on 5-10 pound increments. when each milestone is successfully completed, reward yourself with something nice. maybe it’s getting your nails done, or splurging on a product that everyone on tiktok keeps talking about. apply this to any of your goals where there are milestones to get to.

don’t waste the day

you should not have any “zero days” meaning… you should be doing at least one thing everyday to reach a goal(s) you have. it doesn’t matter if one goal was to maintain a more organized, clean environment— do your dishes, set the trash out, clean up the hair from the bathroom sink, etc.

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chichiscloset · 1 year

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Soft Life 101: 3 Steps to Escape Your 9-5 Job If You Don’t Want to Work

Before we start, I want to clarify what I mean by “Not wanting to work.”

It means, that I don’t want to exhaust myself. I want to roll out of bed at 8 am then go to a workout class at 9 am. I want to spend my time as I please while keeping my workload to a minimum.

Working consistently, burns me out. I have no desire to prove my worth through productivity, nor do I have any desire to engage in hustle culture. I’m sure many of us can relate to feeling like the pressure to perform is exhausting. This is likely why, “soft life” is the latest trend on social media and has taken the girlies on Tiktok by storm.

In this new soft life era apparently, no one has a job and everyone is a "sahm" or "sahgf". While I understand the desire to escape the matrix and have a man you can fully depend on. Creating a more balanced and fulfilling life does not have to solely depend on your partner (though it helps!).

At the end of the day we still all want money! So how can we create an abundant life while still having a work-life balance?

Step 1: Be willing to make sacrifices

There is no such thing as something for nothing. Get that out of your head! I know we sometimes want to be saved, but unfortunately, life isn’t always a fairytale. Everything that we desire in life requires us to give up something else.

Do you want a better body? Give up junk food and exercise more. Do you want a better man? Give up your dust! To bring in the new we have to get rid of the old. If you want a soft life you’re going to have to strategize and be willing to give up what is no longer serving you.

Step 2: Find a passion you can monetize

*major key*

As the saying goes, “If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life”. Find something you enjoy doing, then figure out how you, can earn money from it. Are you good at doing hair? Become a hairdresser. Are you the best dressed in your circle? Become a virtual stylist. I promise you, for whatever talent you have there are people willing to pay you for it!

For myself, I love teaching and writing! Blogging is a great way to share my expertise, create passive income, and create the life of my dreams that don’t necessarily depend on me going into a job. Also, you can make money blogging with a relatively small audience.

Check out my blog post "Make Money When your Young, Pretty & Ambitious." For more on this topic.

Step 3: Invest, invest, invest

*Another major key*

We all need money to survive. There’s no way around it! Ideally, we would live a life where money isn’t an issue and if that is your goal you have to start investing ASAP! By investing in assets eventually, those assets will make you money.

For example, invest in stocks like the S&P 500 (which is an index fund that is essentially many companies in one stock). Invest in stocks that will grow over time and make you more money than you bought them for. There are tons of ways to start investing: choose one!

A few types of investments

Real estate

Stocks

Businesses

If living a soft life is a priority to you start today with these steps that will eventually allow you to either fully retire or work minimally. If you don’t, you’ll just be stuck doing something you don’t enjoy or waiting for prince charming to come and save you.

©Chichiscloset 2023

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feminineenergylife · 1 month

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Date men who are happy to provide for you & spoil you🖤

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sk-lumen · 2 years

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Go where you are respected, where you are appreciated, where you are wanted. You gain nothing by sticking it out and swallowing any mistreatment. But by walking away from those experiences you teach yourself that you are worthy of respect, of love, of quality relationships; and you also teach others that when they do not mirror the same level of respect, their access to you is revoked, end of story.

#high standards #high value woman #glow up #level up #self love #self respect #sk lumen #selfcare #healing #recovery #mindfulness #writings

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princessprettyprivilege · 1 year

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I Challenge You To..

Be as delusional as possible for a week.

Take 2 selfies a day. You need to be very self aware of your beauty and pretty privilege. Do not wait 5-10 years and see how it’s like to feel average.

If you only drink water when you brush your teeth, begin drinking at least 1 bottle of water (16.9 oz) every 2 hours. Water changes your mentality and enforces self-discipline.

Literally embody your feminine archetype. If you’re worried you’ll be seen as an attention seeker because your archetype or femininity is trending on social media, GET OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA AND SMELL THE ROSES.

Grandiose displays of femininity have ALWAYS been around but we now have pictures and audios within arm’s reach! Wear that outfit you’ve been staring at, hang up a woven teabag full of Epsom salt, orange zest and rose petals on your shower faucet, wear the lipstick that’s been sitting on your counter and speak the language you’ve been practicing for years in public!

Remove self-limiting beliefs and restrictions. You are the blueprint, a sex symbol and inspirational. You don’t need permission to wear what you want and to act emboldened because they’ll copy you anyways. Some people will sell their souls for your voice intonations, skin color and hair.

Pause overthinking. Referring back to displays of femininity, do not waste your time, sanity or money watering down what could happen if you take up space in a room or envision yourself as a desirable goddess.

View your self esteem as a trophy behind glass in a vault. No one can intrude unless they have your fingerprint.

#femininity #high maintenance #pretty privilege #high standards #expensive taste #black femininity #high value woman #femininity tips #level up #princesskhalyiah

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becomingher-era · 11 months

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High standards protect you from low quality experiences.

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golden222petal · 5 months

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Princess Era 🎀✨

#pink princess #black princess #feminine energy #luxury black women #black girl luxury #soft black women #soft black girl #princesscore #leveled up mindset #black femininity #black luxury #high maintenance #high standards

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victori4nflower · 2 years

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We need more black women in princess roles

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classycookiexo · 7 months

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#luxury #high standards

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vivaciousofficiall · 2 years

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Lets Talk: Elegance

In todays society, true elegance is rare.

Women are now shying away from words like this because for some reason they believe it doesn't empower us. However, elegance is one of the most important attributes you must have if you truly want to succeed. NO DEBATES.

What is Elegance?

If anything, elegance is princess energy. Imagine yourself to be the daughter of a king. A royal. You walk with poise and grace. You are a prized possession. You are not stressed over men because you know the right prince will find you. . You befriend other princesses. You are polite and respectful to everyone regardless of status. You don't tolerate bad behavior from others. You are soft, gentle, optimistic, kind.

Why Should One Be Elegant?

In my opinion, money can only get you so far in life. The way people receive your energy is too important. Money cant conceal bad behavior. If you want to have a successful relationship with other people you need to master grace and elegance.

Xoxo, Vivacious

#divine feminine #high maintenance #self care #high value woman #black girl luxury #femininity #high standards #spirituality

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blissfullyecho · 1 year

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🤍 sorry but i’m on my high maintenance, spoiled, it’s all about me era moving forward and i’m unapologetic about it 🍸

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kingess · 1 year

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okay so just wanted to ask how to be ready for a relationship. Like a real, healthy relationship. I thought I was prepared but when the opportunity came, I just couldn't do it. I used to think I was ready but still I would attract those very consuming and harmful situationships. But now I realize I myself wasn't ready for a proper relationship. So how can I prepare myself for one?

You heal.

You take an intentional detox period from males and go in total celibacy for at least 5 months. No talking, no flirting and no entertaining males for any purpose. You're not going to use the time to just lounge around though; you're going to want to complete 4 steps.

Trauma work. You're going to deep dive into what's happened to you and how that affects your relationships as an adult. Get the books and get the journal going. What you face can be erased.

Confidence work. You need to find yourself because after all you've accepted into your reality you're a shell of the woman you could be. Level up, refine your style and social act and get comfortable with your self-validation being your main fuel.

Be fearlessly & intentionally alone. Stop accepting "good enough"-people in your life. Stop accepting friends or family that don't align with your values or dreams. Absolutely drop people that don't respect you deep or hype you up. Set boundaries; only love should get access to you.

Learn to vet a man. Finally, to find diamonds from a sea of rocks you have to be very clear and skilled. Your standards have to be as solid as your goal. Learn to drop males from the first sign showing they're not what you're after.

In my opinion, every woman should go through this process for their clarity if they're after a commited relationship.

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sk-lumen · 11 months

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When someone consistently mistreats you, your only course of action should be revoking their access to you. Nothing speaks louder than the silence that says you're nonexistent to me.

#boundaries #high standards #high value woman #healing #level up #self esteem #confidence #mental health #relationship advice #writings

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princessprettyprivilege · 2 years

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10 Pretty Privilege Affirmations FORCED

My beauty brings men to tears every nanosecond

My desirability increases by 10,000% increments at the universe’s speed

I am a show-stopper at every place I visit every nanosecond

My confidence is increasing in magnetism at the universe’s speed

My pretty privilege makes me money every nanosecond

I am immune to low quality experiences every nanosecond

My walk brings traffic to a standstill

I am so stunning, I naturally have a spotlight every nanosecond

I am immune to time wasters every nanosecond

My pretty privilege is opening every door I desire at the universe’s speed

#femininity #high maintenance #pretty privilege #princesskhalyiah #expensive taste #high standards #level up #femininity tips #feminine likeness

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