lmao i did it again
was eating in public with my gf, and a visibly trans-id girl walks up to us, complimented both of our hair, and said we "looked VERY queer" before asking to sit with us. (i dressed like total shit because i just threw things on lol)
we obliged. the pronouns are he/him, the chosen name is tyler. 16 years old, knew i was 21. we talked about our troubles with being born female and how that defines us, drug use, bigoted parents, socializing with autism, working toward being the ideal versions of ourselves BEFORE transitioning, and how gay people are not obligated to sleep with trans people. tyler agreed with every TERF talking point i said, and questioned nothing.
i was trusted so much by the end of this encounter, that tyler got in my car with me, asked me to drive to a nearby store for some things, and then drive home.
like... tyler's HOUSE. the address was plugged directly into my phone. (didn't keep it)
and we exchanged numbers before parting ways.
it is truly so fucking easy to blend. you will never find me. i really do look like you. i really do talk like you. you would invite me to your fucking doorstep if you met me, and you would have no idea. i could dangle my TERF ideology in your face beforehand, and you would have no clue.
i am utterly vindicated. seethe.
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@ your last ask: “my biology doesn’t define you” your biology IS you. everything you experience is biological, your sex is just as much a part of you as any other trait you have, even if it doesn’t affect it. also, if you understand that gendering things is bad, why don’t you fight that? why throw up your arms over it? why would you rather convince society that males with “womanly” interests are women instead of convincing society no interests are inherently womanly at all? do you realize how misogynistic and ridiculous it is to say that make up and tight clothing and the color pink should continue to be associated with women to validate the feelings of a small, small minority of males? also, a woman saying something makes her “feel” like a woman is inconsequential, because obviously she’d be a woman with or without the thing. it’s like how i could say listening to r&b makes me feel more in tune with my blackness, but if a nonblack person said that it’d be racist. also, radfems don’t believe in gender. your sex doesn’t “determine” anything. you being female makes you a woman, it doesn’t mean you identify with the socially constructed expectations of womanhood. woman = human female. that’s it, nothing more. misogyny is based on hatred of female people, and our perceived inferiority. gnc & same sex attracted males are hated for “lowering themselves” to the female state. a feminine male or a male on hormones does not experience misogyny in the same way a gnc heterosexual person does not experience homophobia. at the end of the day, both of these people have the option to be gender conforming and opt out of that stigmatization. they shouldnt have to, but they definitely can. also, sex and sexuality are both immutable traits; you can’t compare telling someone they cannot become the opposite sex to coercing someone into a different sexuality; they’re fundamentally opposites.
idk why it’s so hard for you to understand radfems don’t believe in gender or gender identity; woman and man literally only refer to sex. when we say women, or call you one, we mean you’re female. that’s it.
“my biology doesn’t define you” your biology IS you.
My biology defines who I am as a person? Sounds like astrology. "You were born under the sign of the vagina, therefore you like strawberries". Do I like metal music because of my gametes? Do I like cats because of the length of my telomeres? You are arguing biological essentialism, honey
if you understand that gendering things is bad, why don’t you fight that? why throw up your arms over it?
Like. I am, chuckles. I literally say DON'T GENDER ME. You lot insist on it. This one's on you.
why would you rather convince society that males with “womanly” interests are women instead of convincing society no interests are inherently womanly at all?
I'm not. But some women are born into bodies that are seen/assigned as "male". Science says that, not me. And these women deserve to live however they want. And some men, and nonbinary folk, want to just enjoy stuff that is female coded, and not get attacked. Attacked by people like you, might I add.
do you realize how misogynistic and ridiculous it is to say that make up and tight clothing and the color pink should continue to be associated with women to validate the feelings of a small, small minority of males?
I stated a fact. The fact that AS OF TODAY, it is still coded that way. I never said all women have to conform to that. Work on your reading comprehension. I didn't make these rules, sweetie. Society evolved that way. And it sucks. Because you can't wear *anything* without people perceiving you a certain way because of it.
also, a woman saying something makes her “feel” like a woman is inconsequential, because obviously she’d be a woman with or without the thing. it’s like how i could say listening to r&b makes me feel more in tune with my blackness, but if a nonblack person said that it’d be racist
There's the racism. Good job. You can't equate the two. And it's not inconsequential, and you know that. So stop lying.
radfems don’t believe in gender
Then stop assigning me one, please. I don't have a gender. My pronouns are they/them. Please respect that. Put your money where your mouth is.
your sex doesn’t “determine” anything. you being female makes you a woman
You are literally contradicting yourself here. Good job.
woman = human female. that’s it, nothing more.
And when I ask you lot to please define female then, you always come back with biology. That's what I mean. You DO say your biology defines you, as your biology alone makes you a woman. Despite arguing that woman is a made up concept. You are so incoherent, and can't even recognize that.
misogyny is based on hatred of female people, and our perceived inferiority.
And, pray tell, how would one go about that? Outside, in the real world? Any misogynist, out on the street? You think the people wolf whistling are asking politely for ID before they do? You think the people beating someone to a pulp while screaming "faggot" ask for their sexual orientation before they do?
Or maybe, just MAYBE, it is because of presentation? Because of what they SEE and what they recognize about that person?
Do you think homophobes CARE about the distinction between a drag queen and a trans girl? YOU sure fucking don't.
Female people, yes. Feminine people, too. And that has FUCK ALL to do with your biology.
gnc heterosexual person does not experience homophobia.
Oh they fucking do. Learn to read. It doesn't matter who you ARE, it matters how others PERCEIVE you.
both of these people have the option to be gender conforming and opt out of that stigmatization.
Wow. So just deny who you are, stop wearing what you want, what makes you happy, stop acting in your natural way and just conform.
Have you ever read 1984? Grey jumpsuits for everyone, yes?
That's called "masking", a lot of disabled/neurodivergent people are forced to do it. It's not fun, let me tell you that. It's exhausting. Denying who you are just to please others. To please YOU. You are one entitled asshole, seriously
And you really think people CHOOSE to be oppressed?? Do you think it's a kink??
If it's that easy, why don't YOU just wear men's clothing, deepen your voice, wear a fake beard? Opt out of your own oppression! Because that's how you obviously believe this works
Have you been outside?
idk why it’s so hard for you to understand radfems don’t believe in gender or gender identity; woman and man literally only refer to sex. when we say women, or call you one, we mean you’re female. that’s it.
And there you go, assigning me a gender (sorry, sex) again. Google gender identity, please. It is what YOU KNOW you are. You know you're a woman? You feel like one? That's your gender identity. Congrats! You have one! I have one, too! It is agender. Even though I don't have a gender, I have an identity.
You are obsessed with a strict binary that just DOESN'T EXIST.
SEX is not a binary.
The idea of binary stems from white supremacy.
But you can't categorize biology this neatly. It doesn't work that way. Biologists can't even agree on the definition of LIFE. Much less any subcategory of it. When did a dinosaur stopped being a dinosaur and became a bird? At what specific point? Spoiler: None. These neat cutoffs don't exist. It black/white, fundamentalist thinking to claim otherwise.
The words we use are DEscripitive (they describe what we see as best we can, and sometimes we're not and need to change), not prescriptive.
Why is it so hard to understand your point of view? Because you contradict yourself at every turn.
You say you don't believe in gender and want it abolished, cool. Yet you INSIST on gendering ME. You INSIST on upholding a strict binary, no deviation allowed. You INSIST on not being called a person. It's incoherent
you can’t compare telling someone they cannot become the opposite sex
It's cruel, and goes against every science. YOU are advocating for conversion therapy. You are doing it, actually. Science says trans people exist, and are who they say they are. No amount of "nuh uh" can change that. Are they still biologically their agab? Sure. Nobody says otherwise. Again, what we're saying is
OUR BIOLOGY DOESN'T DEFINE WHO WE ARE.
But also, maybe it does, actually. Depending on your point of view. Since science found that a female brain can develop in a male body, and vice versa (using simple language here for illustration)
Again, here is the study:
However, since sexual differentiation of the genitals takes place in the first two months of pregnancy and sexual differentiation of the brain starts in the second half of pregnancy, these two processes can be influenced independently, which may result in transsexuality. This also means that in the event of ambiguous sex at birth, the degree of masculinization of the genitals may not reflect the degree of masculinization of the brain. There is no proof that social environment after birth has an effect on gender identity or sexual orientation.
The irreversibility of programmed gender identity is clearly illustrated by the sad story of the John–Joan–John case
What this means is, yeah, maybe my biology does indeed inform my gender identity. But still not who I am as a person. Since my gender is just a tiny part of me. As I explained, I am a whole person. Not just a gender. I don't make being trans my whole identity, you know.
Maybe do some reading. Look up the John/Joan case, it's really tragic. And shows that you can't just "identify out of" your identity. If you actually care so much, that is, and are not just regurgitating what others told you, with zero research.
Let people live. If someone tells you they're a woman, believe them. Don't argue with them over their genitals. That's creepy. Or, you know:
Just say you hate trans people and go.
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