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The feminine urge to do a tarot reading on my crush every five seconds

#female manipulator #girl interrupted syndrome #lana del rey #alonetime #coquette #coquette aesthetic #coquette community #groupie #2k14 grunge #2014 soft grunge #ed diet #the pretty reckless #euphoria #lust for life

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“Reality doesn’t impress me. I only believe in intoxication, in ecstasy, and when ordinary life shackles me, I escape, one way or another. No more walls.”

— Anaïs Nin, Incest: From “A Journal of Love”: The Unexpurgated Diary of Anaïs Nin, 1932-1934

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i always loved Rikki the most

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How to be that girl

A guide on how to get your life together because you probably need it. xo

Be independent and confident. Don't hold onto people who drain your energy; confront them or cut them off. Don't let them waste your time, babe.

Be your main priority. Take care of your mind, energy, mental health, and body. Work out, eat healthy food, meditate, read and do what's best for you. Become your own best friend and take care of yourself.

Pretty people are always kind. Be nice, compliment people on small things that you notice, and be uplifting and supportive. I've never met a mean, pretty person.

Jealousy is a disease. Take inspo from people who have what you want, look up to them, and learn.

Let people know you're there. Share your thoughts, be funny, don't take yourself too seriously, be open-minded and be as present as you can be. Don't hide; it's time for you to shine, sweety.

Stop Overthinking. Focus on the present and stop thinking about what has been; what has happened is already over. You cant change it. Live in the moment. Thinking too much will just make you feel worse.

Have a morning/night routine. It's fun, and it makes you feel good.

Stop caring. People's opinions shouldn't matter to you. You like that outfit? Wear it. You want to eat? Eat. You like pink more than blue? Own it. fuck other people xoxo.

Have a signature... scent, nail color, hairstyle, make-up look (like red lipstick or a strong eyeliner), accessory...

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

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Here is my "Get It Together Plan." I use this whenever I feel myself reverting to victim behaviors or my life feels it's falling apart.

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“Couture” photographed by Anuschka Blommers / Niels Schumm for AnOther F/W 2002

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Gaining & Maintaining Power: A Reading List

Power & Manipulation

48 Laws of Power by Robert Green

The Prince by Machiavelli

Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne

The Dictator's Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita

Power: Why Some People Have It - And Others Don't by Jeffrey Pfeffer

The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success by Kevin Dutton

Charisma & Social Skills

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane

Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards

Never Eat Alone, And the Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi

The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over by Jack Schafer

Persuasion

The Art of Seduction by Robert Green

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter by Scott Adams

Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change by Robert Cialdini

Win Your Case: How to Present, Persuade, and Prevail, Every Place, Every Time by Gerry Spence

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness by Richard Thaler

Methods of Persuasion: How to Use Psychology to Influence Human Behavior by Nick Kolenda

You Can Read Anyone: Never Be Fooled, Lied to, or Taken Advantage of Again by David Lieberman

Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson

Psychology

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman

The Art of Choosing by Sheena Iyengar

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions by Dan Ariely

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green

Philosophy and Mindset

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

Letters from a Stoic by Seneca

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Mastery by Robert Green

The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill

Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Taleb

The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday

Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life by Hector Garcia

Public Speaking, Rhetoric, and Debating

Rhetoric by Aristotle

How to Argue & Win Every Time by Gerry Spence

The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking by Dale Carnegie

The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie

Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds by Carmine Gallo

Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion by George Thompson, PhD

Thank You for Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

p.s. a lot of these can be found on z-library.

xoxo ❤️

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I suffer from su!cidal sad girl syndrome.

#tw ana thoughts #alonetime #spilled thoughts #4n4m1a #4na diary #not pr0 4na #girl interrupted syndrome #self destruction #black swan #thnspo #2014 soft grunge #i want to be th1n #th1n$po #th!n$p0 #meanspii #not pr0 just for myself #groupie #dear diary

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idk who this is by but it really beautiful

#lust for life #groupie #art decò #ldr blog #art #l4l #girl interrupted syndrome #lana del rey #alonetime #coquette aesthetic #female manipulator #grunge rockstargf brooklynbaby lana ldr lanadelrey #rockstar gf #indie rock #coquette #coquette community

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Stop trying to fit a circle into a square. You're so concerned trying to get people who don't have the same values as you to see your vision of life and being disappointed when they do not reciprocate it.

Understand that your life experiences are unique and they have shaped in ways they haven't others. Instead of trying so hard to try to get others into a similar state of mind, instead of forcing interactions with people with different values and outlooks of life, simply remove yourself from those circles and position yourself in circles and spaces where the kind of people that will match your energy and interests are. This might take you a long time, but it is much better to be alone for a period of time and put in the work to align yourself with high quality people eventually, than to waste your time and energy with bad company.

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Self Improvement Masterpost

Time Management

Waking up earlier

Stop staying up all night

Wasting too much time on a certain website?

29 Time Wasting Activities

General Time Management Guide

Creating an effective schedule for your day

How to stop being late to things

Easy to prepare healthy recipes

Make time for your hobbies!!

Making School Suck Less

Prioritization

…what if everything is a priority?

Studying methods

Strategies for students with ADHD

Strategies for students with learning disabilities

AVOIDING BAD PROFESSORS (This too)

Quick and healthy snacks that are good for focus

Finding cheap textbooks

Relationships and Sex

How to tell if someone genuinely likes you

Why relationships fail

Putting yourself first when you need to

Eight differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships

Know the difference in protective and possessive

10 things to know before you start being sexually active

Maintaining a long lasting HEALTHY sex life

Considering a friends w/ benefits relationship? read this!

Money Management

Are you spending too much money on ____?

8 Tips on Saving Money

Steps to take in starting a budget

Mobile apps for budgeting!

Buying a car

Tips for buying a house

…and apartment

25 Wastes of money

Even savvy savers make these mistakes

Getting / Keeping a Job

Getting started with LinkedIn (This is important!)

Interviewing etiquette

Creating a resume

Starting your career before you start your career

Workplace etiquette

Shitty boss?

Waking up with a hangover…

Getting ahead in the workplace

Physical Health (Diet and Exercise)

Exercise helps with mental health

General Men’s Health website

General Women’s Health website

Gym Etiquette

Micro changes for macro results at the gym

20 foods to help trim belly fat

How many calories should you be consuming?

No gym? Try these at home work outs

Great diets for men

Great diets for women

Miscellaneous (Better you…)

Stop forgetting things

Stop cursing

Keep your car stocked

Stop smoking

Deal with the police responsibly

Love yourself

Know when to shut up (This is from a Christian outlook btw but it would probably still help whether you’re religious or not)

Stop talking shit about people

Let me know if any links stop working, even if this only helps one person in a small way it was worth the effort i put into finding good sources! - Keaton

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I cannot wait for the day that i can finally move away to new york city where the realest people really stay

#melanie martinez #melanie #nyc it girl #manhatten #new york #lana del bae #lana del rey #female manipulator #alonetime #chemtrails over the country club #lust for life #girl interrupted syndrome #art #love #woman #2014 soft grunge #2k14 grunge

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Re: Pink Pilates Princess

Hi! I'm more or less in a similar situation, what I do is use some pilates workouts on YouTube (my fav is Bailey Brown) & Daisy Keech's abs workout and alternate that with some dance/Zumba workouts so it's not that boring. Also Lazy Dancer Tips' Ballet Cardio workout is a good start!

When it comes to food, since I don't get to choose that much about lunch/dinner I always try to have a healthy breakfast (basic smoothies such as banana+spinach+apple/mango, or fruit+yogurt+cereals/toast kind of combo w green tea) and have fruit as snacks (small fruits/fruits cut into little bites are the best, especially if frozen!)

From time to time I'll buy myself some face mask and whenever possible some skincare product that I can safely implement into my skincare routine. My basics are toner+moisturizer, lip balm & obviously sunscreen (better if it has vitamin c!).

This concept also implies taking care of your mind; find interesting journal prompts in Pinterest and write them on a Google doc. Write 5 things you're thankful for every morning in general terms & every night for what happened that day, focus on the little things.

Learn new things, borrow books from the library, join free courses on Coursera/edX, watch a TedTalk, find new musicians to love, nurture/make healthy friendships.

Also what helps a lot is making a daily schedule to work towards whatever goals you have that you find easy to follow & tracking your goals weekly+monthly.

Hope it helps! ✨

omg thank you sm <3

this just gave me a ton of motivation!

#pink pilates princess #green juice girl #workout #fitness motivation #self improvement #self care #self help

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Aspiring Pilates Princess..

Someone help :(( like you don't understand how much i want to turn my life around and be a "green juice girl." have a healthy and happy lifestyle daily.. but how can i do that when my home life is enabling me soo much. i am barely allowed to do anything. i stay in the house all day and all night. the only times im allowed out is to get fucking fast food. i really wanna fix this but my mother is controlling me too much to the point where it all feels hopless

#green juice girl #pink pilates princess #it girl #get motivated #loassumption #loader attachments #that girl

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i’ve just realized how much i really don’t desire friendships anymore. i’d rather be alone an not have to worry about the status of our friendship every five minutes. i only find real peace when i am in solitude. i am my own safe haven. i wished i would’ve realized this sooner. could’ve saved myself a whole lot of fucking trauma.

#self concept #female manipulator #lana del rey #alonetime #i live alone #Spotify