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Hello! Welcome to Snapshot Culture Is! Below I'm gonna list a few things about this blog regarding boundaries and stances and a bit about me but for now I want to talk about the blog itself.

"Snapshot Culture Is" is a blog I was encouraged to make by my partner system since we both always see system blogs about roles or being a system in general but I can never really find one about snapshots. Which brings us to the next point!

What is a snapshot? Snapshot is a role in a system which just essentially means you are a former version of yourself of a person. Think of like if you went to go talk to a past version of yourself, that's like 13. They have the same thoughts, same interests, same personality, same general way they hold themselves that might not apply to you today. That's what we call a snapshot and the most important thing about snapshots is that many of us don't change past that point in time but not like truamaholders do. Many people consider snapshots and traumaholders the same thing but some snapshots, myself included, actually don't have anything to do with truama I'm simply stuck in the past with an attitude some of my headmates don't associate with anymore and beliefs they also don't believe in. Some snapshots are hosts and some hosts become snapshots but its kinda a minor role some people don't have and that's okay but this blog is here for the people that do and people that don't get posts they can relate to.

This includes snapshots with no truama, snapshots who are also truamaholders, snapshots who have truama but not the main truama, and snapshots who are hosts.

I was gonna see if snapshots had a flag but it seems like we don't so maybe in the future I'll make one if I get the change or if someone finds one let me know!

Under the cut I'm gonna be talking about boundaries/DNI/BYI things and a bit about myself

Edit: BTW I'm like dyslexic and autocorrect saves me more then I like to admit but just a warning I will mess up words in spelling and reading and I'm sorry if I read your asks completely wrong

Boundaries:

While I am 19 I don't want NSFW asks on this blog since I'm allowing minors to interact. Please be respectful about that.

If you wanna send in an ask that isn't about snapshot culture but just want to talk about something interesting like a fun fact about yourself go right ahead it just won't be tagged as snapshot culture, we can have fun here.

If you send in asks about general system stuff I probably won't submit it since this is a role specific culture blog but if you are questioning I'm perfectly okay with that too just remember this is a specific subrole blog.

DNI/BYI:

I do not have a dni. Straight up I don't care what you do in your free time as long as it's not on my blog. I'm not going into your house and telling you to take down your decorations because I don't like it. I don't want NSFW, discourse or hate on my blog but if your a heater in your free time I'm happy for you just don't come harassing people through my blog.

I'm EXTREMELY Anti Harassment of all kinds. I don't care you have no right to tell someone to kill themselves. Ever. Again not my house not my problem.

This blog doesn't care for syscourse or shipcourse or anything else discourse in the slightest. Anyone can interact forever. I've done my fair share in discourse and frankly I'm already done I'm a grown adult I got no time for that when I have bills to pay.

About the Owner:

So as you know my name is Rubik collectively and I'm a system myself as well as a snapshot host. As I've said I'm 19 as well as Nonbinary Transfem who's too pamsexual for her own good. My pronouns are She/It and we have a special interest in minecraft! We are specifically in love with Minecraft Story Mode and will talk about it all day if you give us a chance.

Some of our frequent frontiers are as followed

Jasmine - Ageless - Snapshot Host

Rewind - Ageless - Optimist Sponge

Roxy - 24 - Ex host Jack of All Trades

We have more frequent frontiers but these are our main trio. We do not identify with a system origin. System origins are unnecessary to us for many reasons we wish to not get into.

Thank you for reading this far I hope you have a great day and send in some asks! We love you systems of all types and hope you find our blog enjoyable at least!

#boosting u #even tho this blog js dead...

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New Plural Discord Server!

If you're interested, DM us and we'll send you the link!

Tagging for boosts: @plegg-culture-is, @pluralpedia, @pluralpolls, @pluralprompts, @plural-culture-is, @abnormalcultureis, @protector-culture-is, @persecutor-culture-is, @introject-culture, @factive-culture-is, @fictive-culture, @problematicfactive, @problematic-fictive-culture-is, @caretaker-culture-is, @multiplicity-positivity, @brainmade-culture-is, @mixed-origin-culture-is, @median-culture-is, @selvesdiscovery, @amiplural, @funnier-as-a-system, @endogenichaven

If anyone wants me to remove their name just let me know! (just trying to tag as many plural blogs as i can think of)

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Something I forgot to add on to this, sometimes making impulsive decisions can be the thing that makes something Yours, too.

Like seeing a plushie at the store that you think is adorable or silly, buying that and loving it to death, before you know it you're the girl with the giant lobster plushie.

Or thinking "hey, cosplay is kinda cool" so you buy sewing equipment and teach yourself how it works, suddenly you're the guy who can fix whatever someone else broke.

Maybe you're just like "I'm a bit hungry, maybe I'll eat out tonight" and you try something you've never had before, now you're the guy who's really into sushi or whatever.

This kind of adheres to the overall idea of "live life like you're just now starting", but I figured it wouldn't hurt to add.

I'm a headmate that's been fronting more recently. I don't really have a lot of things that are "mine", and we're struggling to come up with things i can do or whatever that could be mine.

I'm not looking for any like specifics, but if you have any suggestions for how to help me find things that are my own that would be great.

Currently, the only things that I really have that are mine are that I like guitar music and there are these two YouTube channels in particular that I enjoy watching, but I'm kinda trying to find more physical stuff, too, y'know? That way I'm not always online.

Hey! Thanks for reaching out anon.

Generally speaking, a good place to start to just throwing yourself into places that have a wide variety of appeal.

For example, a shopping mall/plaza, an arts and crafts festival, a museum, a zoo, anywhere that you think might function as an interest fair. You never know what will catch your eye, and this has a tendency to work for us in particular. One of our alters, Soup, discovered their love for skater fashion while at the mall with our behavioral assistant. Another, Jayden, discovered her love for everything Fall related while at an arts and crafts festival with our family.

On top of that, there are things you can do at home. If you have money to spend, browsing Amazon (or other sites) could help you find a new hobby you're willing to try. If you have streaming services, browsing those could help you find a genre or series you're uniquely interested in. Same goes for music. Our alters Vivienne and Latte have unique interest in Breaking Bad and Better Call Saul because they got bored and decided to browse Netflix one day, and I personally love Rob Zombie to death because of sifting through character playlists on Spotify

Lastly, talk to friends. Hang out with people. The more you talk and start conversation the more you'll learn about yourself and your mannerisms, and eventually your interests. Andrew, one of our resident sad bois, discovered that Elephants are a huge comfort to him by talking to our friends, and starting a bit about them. Now we get him Elephant related gifts whenever we see them, because we know he needs some comfort in his life.

Given that you already have some interest in guitar music, it might be worth it to explore that deeper! Go to music stores to browse, watch video lessons, invest in (or borrow) an instrument if you can, who knows!!! maybe you can become the guitar alter! That's happened to us too, with Sasha, who discovered her love for music theory through her interest in guitar music.

That being said, the way to discover yourself is to live as much life as you can, and live it like you're just starting. Don't adhere to anything your system already knows and enjoys. Run into things blind and you'll be surprised what you end up finding out about yourself.

We wish you all the luck in the world. I hope your adventures bring you happiness and individuality.

#Mod Cyn 🔪 #plurality #headmates #anon #ask #self discovery #interests #additions

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I'm a headmate that's been fronting more recently. I don't really have a lot of things that are "mine", and we're struggling to come up with things i can do or whatever that could be mine.

I'm not looking for any like specifics, but if you have any suggestions for how to help me find things that are my own that would be great.

Currently, the only things that I really have that are mine are that I like guitar music and there are these two YouTube channels in particular that I enjoy watching, but I'm kinda trying to find more physical stuff, too, y'know? That way I'm not always online.

Hey! Thanks for reaching out anon.

Generally speaking, a good place to start to just throwing yourself into places that have a wide variety of appeal.

For example, a shopping mall/plaza, an arts and crafts festival, a museum, a zoo, anywhere that you think might function as an interest fair. You never know what will catch your eye, and this has a tendency to work for us in particular. One of our alters, Soup, discovered their love for skater fashion while at the mall with our behavioral assistant. Another, Jayden, discovered her love for everything Fall related while at an arts and crafts festival with our family.

On top of that, there are things you can do at home. If you have money to spend, browsing Amazon (or other sites) could help you find a new hobby you're willing to try. If you have streaming services, browsing those could help you find a genre or series you're uniquely interested in. Same goes for music. Our alters Vivienne and Latte have unique interest in Breaking Bad and Better Call Saul because they got bored and decided to browse Netflix one day, and I personally love Rob Zombie to death because of sifting through character playlists on Spotify

Lastly, talk to friends. Hang out with people. The more you talk and start conversation the more you'll learn about yourself and your mannerisms, and eventually your interests. Andrew, one of our resident sad bois, discovered that Elephants are a huge comfort to him by talking to our friends, and starting a bit about them. Now we get him Elephant related gifts whenever we see them, because we know he needs some comfort in his life.

Given that you already have some interest in guitar music, it might be worth it to explore that deeper! Go to music stores to browse, watch video lessons, invest in (or borrow) an instrument if you can, who knows!!! maybe you can become the guitar alter! That's happened to us too, with Sasha, who discovered her love for music theory through her interest in guitar music.

That being said, the way to discover yourself is to live as much life as you can, and live it like you're just starting. Don't adhere to anything your system already knows and enjoys. Run into things blind and you'll be surprised what you end up finding out about yourself.

We wish you all the luck in the world. I hope your adventures bring you happiness and individuality.

#plurality #headmates #anon #ask #Mod Cyn 🔪 #self discovery #interests

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Last night, I was chatting with one of my headmates when we both heard another voice none of us had ever heard before. It was a man’s voice, and he very clearly called out, “Christina?”, like he was looking for someone. The headmate I was talking to called out to him and he just asked back if we had seen Christina. We said no but offered to help him look, when another, more distant voice said (very firmly), “No.” We didn’t hear either voice after that.

We’ve never encountered these voices before, so we’re unsure who (or what) they may be. You know, headmate vs. weird brain stuff. Also, as far as we know, there are no gatekeepers who would be hiding headmates from the rest of us. We have no known amnesia and do not lose time when switching, so we’re fairly confident that no one beyond the known count has ever fronted.

I’m not sure whether this would be relevant or not, so I’ll include it anyway: we so far have been assuming endogenic origin, but there is the possibility of traumagenic.

Basically, is it “normal” to just hear random voices like that, or is it indicative of headmates we aren’t aware of?

Well, anon, this is a little bit out of my range of personal experience, so I'll try to go off of research I've done instead.

I'd say, the normality depends on your situation. if this sort of thing happens to you& a lot and doesn't necessarily mean anything, I'd say it's probably just ADHD brain making random thoughts or psychosis brain making hallucinations or whatever else you may suspect. But based on the specific nature of what was said, and how you're describing the way this occured, I'm not inclined to believe it's either of those. That being said, if you did not produce the voice, and you experienced it just as you experience the voices of the rest of your headmates, it is quite likely that is the voice of a headmate. To say whether or not it's someone you know or not is harder to do, but I'll say it's quite common in the community to discover new alters like this.

And if it is someone new, that doesn't necessarily mean a gatekeeper hid them or you're secretly traumagenic or anything like that. Sure, that's always a possibility you should keep in mind and not discount. But, it could just be a recently formed headmate, possibly looking for someone from their source (or their own world, if they're a soulbond or walk-in) or that they otherwise remember.

I mean, for the most part I don't have anything extravagant or super helpful to offer you in this situation. And it's been a little while since you asked this, so it's quite possible that things have already came to fruition (feel free to update me if they have!)

TL;DR I don't have a ton to offer you, but if it sounds like a headmate and acts like a headmate, it's probably a headmate, and that doesn't necessarily mean anything crazy. Could just be a confused new guy with no secrets whatsoever

#Mod Cyn 💥 #plurality #headmates #anon #endogenic #new alters

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Hey guys, life has been really hard, sorry about anyone who's ask has been sitting around for a little while >.>

I'll get around to them all eventually. they might be a little sloppy due to the Horrors making my brain fuzzy, but I'm still open for anyone who needs advice!

I'll do my best to keep up with it when I can. Thanks for the patience

#Mod Cyn 💥 #im so freaking tired

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hi, i'm putting this on anon because people i know are highly anti-endo and i don't wanna out myself as being pro-endo. if you want to delete this feel free btw since i know fusion is a touchy subject for some systems

we're a system. we've been diagnosed with DID and told to see a specialist. said therapist who diagnosed us and referred us out is advising we peruse final fusion. we would do it... except the only reason why we would is because we fear nobody would ever like us the way we are (we're a very independent and private system. other than the host, all dating and such is done in system and kicking the host out of front is rare).

do you have any advice on that? i'm sure it eventually gets easier but i'm not sure how to make it easier. do you have any resources and advice on getting comfortable with being a system, and being comfortable sharing that with people (both other systems and singlets)?

thank you. just delete this if it's against the rules or if it makes you uncomfortable :) your comfort is important too

Hi! Thank you so much for reaching out.

This question isn't too sensitive or anything like that, and I see stuff like this a lot in the system world. Even I myself have dealt with similar issues.

What really helped me was 'coming out' to only a few really close friends. It gave us the space to talk about what goes on inside our head, and be honest about who we are.

Ofc, this isn't super helpful if you dont have really close friends. The second best thing I can suggest from personal experience is participating in the system community, either here on Tumblr or on Discord or wherever else, and working on being progressively more open there.

Those are both really vague and I'm sorry about that, the only thing we really personally needed to come out of our shell was trust, either already pre-existing or built from watching others live the same way as us.

Something else that really helps us personally when trying to get more comfortable with ourselves OUTSIDE of a social context, is encouraging the others to find their own way. That's why we made this blog actually. The best way to become comfortable both socially and personally with being a system is to foster a space for every headmate to live their most authentic life as fully as possible.

If you can, try inviting your alters to front with you, to try out new things that AREN'T related to trauma, therapy, or journalling (If you don't have a journal already, I suggest you look into that first and foremost). If you can't, you could always just wait until you cofront naturally to bring this up with them. Your headmates are people too, and the best way to make THEM stop feeling like less than or like something to be ashamed of is to help them grow.

As for your therapist, it sounds like she doesn't have your& best interest in mind. If you can, I'd look for someone who's comfortable with both fusion AND functional multiplicity as options, and can help you find the way you truly want to follow way better than I, some stranger on the internet, ever could.

Lastly, a fair disclaimer, DONT go about doing any of these things if you think you or your alters might not be entirely ready. If you happen to be newly discovered as a system, it might be good to take some time to learn about one another at a nice slow pace, first, before jumping into anything else. Be very careful, as much as selves discovery and branching out and growing as people is important to being happy how you are, it can be dangerous to some systems in certain situations.

I could understand though how these things may not be what your looking for, but since I don't have a ton of information on your personal experience I can't really get any more specific. If you're looking for more specific resources, I'd encourage personalized research, or going to a professional with your concerns, since the most I really have for this sort of thing is personal experience.

Either way, I wish you luck, and I genuinely hope you can find people who accept you as you are, and help you in your journey to grow. You& got this!

#tw fusion #tw integration #Mod Cyn 🔪 #alters #headmates #did #plurality #growth #discovery #social issues

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Welcome to Plural Affirmations!

This is an ask-based blog run by the @evergreensys centered around affirmations for the plural/system community; some may be more specific (such as "My system role doesn't define me"), while others will be more generalized positivity (e.g. "I am a good person").

We are 100% inclusive of all origins, but we do not allow the use of the words tulpa/tulpamancy, as we wish to listen to and uplift the POC systems that have spoken against them. Some alternatives may include "thoughtform", "willogenic", "paramancy", etc.

Please do not interact if: you follow @/sophieinwonderland, you are trans-ID/radqueer, syscourse/anti-endo, or pro-ship. Thank you for respecting our boundaries!

#boost!

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Copied and Pasted from Twt/X:

Hi all! We didn't make any updates on survey to have a day to relax and not focus too much on it~

At the moment, the survey is at 221! A few more responses from TikTok come in but the majority is from Twitter/X, Reddit, and Tumblr. Instagram seems to not have too many systems active or available on their platform, but we are still posting about it regardless in hopes of still getting some traction! We have had some systems reply but it's possible there might not be enough to get a big statistic! But we'll keep continuing to try until at least minimally the end of August!

Until then, we are still very much looking for more responses from any systems of any opinions regarding Syscourse online! We heavily also appreciate the reblogs and follow and those who have posted about taking it!!! I really helps! For those that haven't, the survey is 100% anonymity driven and just asks the questions the Syscourse Carrd code does. Which is linked directly in the survey form!

You can find the post by clicking on the tag "Syscourse Survey" below hopefully! And or just tap below~

#syscourse #reblog #google form #survey

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hi .. we want to stay on anon for this one due to the nature of the question. Alright, so ... We're disordered, and I wasn't aware of my system for a long time, and because of how our trauma works, I'm basically frontstuck and I hate it. I struggled to communicate with my headmates, and most had to learn how to co-front because we'd never done it before. I wanted to leave front completely because I just want a break, I know that's normal and not too bad.

So about the more disconcerting part ... In working to front switch more, we started noticing more heavy amnesia we didn't notice before due to me always being the one in front. The biggest is time loss (which is much less of a blackout and more of a dilation, but idk if that's because I don't completely lose consciousness?), but I also struggle to remember more than even the most basic of events if I'm far from front, random switches are happening way more often, things like that. I'm losing the control I didn't realize I had over us.

My point is, though, that .... I kind of like it, honestly? I really like it. I'm so much happier like this. I trust my headmates to do whatever's needed without me, being able to rotate things out more consistently is a huge weight off of me, the amnesia/time loss is actually a relief because I meticulously over-analyze every single action the body does. My desire to present as "sane" to singlets grows less and less every day, especially since we're already nonworking and unable to drive due to separate circumstances. I feel myself wanting to get to the point where I'm so far in back that I don't get shaky and fearful and forced back into the front seat when somebody in outerworld "requires" me. Not forever, because I have partners in the system and out and a life I want to live, but I crave that disconnect I or others in my system can sometimes initiate.

Would it be wrong of me to not discourage these aspects of our system normally considered "disordered"? I really don't mind not remembering things, my headmates remind me, and my qpp is usually there to tell me what I missed. I already have other memory problems so it feels more like accepting them. Random switches are only mildly annoying at best, and have only caused trouble when a singlet in outerworld expects something of me. Letting go of control and letting my headmates figure things out has been a relief and a blessing, a freedom from the exhaustion I constantly feel. It's also been improving the mental health of the headmates we rotate out with.

But I know these aspects are quite literally part of *why* we're disordered. I know some aspects of disabilities are only disabling because we live in a society catered to the "abled" side of the false dichotomy. But I see people around the system community saying encouraging dissociation and memory separation is dangerous, wrong, and anti-recovery. We... Really need an outside opinion, if that's alright.

TLDR: Is it wrong to encourage dissociative aspects of our system when it's drastically improving our mental health?

Hi!! Thanks for reaching out anon.

Honestly, not at all. I'm super happy for you, and very glad that you take comfort in the aspects of yourselves that are meant to be disordered.

If it makes you feel any better, we entirely relate. The amnesia, dissociation, time loss, losing control, switching a lot, especially when triggered or overwhelmed, are all extremely helpful and beneficial to us. Of course they're inconvenient sometimes, and unpleasant when we try to present as sane like you said, but they formed to protect us. They literally came to be to make us feel better. There's no shame in being relieved and grateful for these coping mechanisms your brain has built in for you.

There's also no shame if they end up getting more difficult at some point. The state of your symptoms with OSDDID is notoriously fluid, it's okay if you hate your symptoms and just want to be "normal" one day, and are grateful for everything they do for you the next. There's no shame in wanting to step back, dissociate, and block everything out from time to time, or even all the time.

We are very proud of you for finding happiness where you are. Never feel pressured to change that for anybody. The most invaluable thing a trauma survivor could possibly feel is happy with themselves. Being happy or content will never ever be anti-recovery, the entire goal of trauma recovery is to be happy and accept yourself. It would only be anti-recovery if it remained maladaptive, and hurt you more than it helped, yet you continued to lean in onto it. Clearly, you're& doing great. Keep it up!

#Mod Cyn 💥 #plurality #headmates #anon #ask #osddid #traumagenic #disordered #self acceptance

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there is no way to hate myself into becoming a person i like.

there is no way to shame myself into a better life.

i can’t motivate myself to heal in the same ways i encouraged my own destruction.

#Mod Cyn 💥 #reblog #positivity #self improvement #self acceptance

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reminder to all systems out there that change is normal. it's okay if your name changes. role changes. the people in your system or the way it all functions changes. change is normal and what you needed last week/last month/last year/last decade is most likely different than what you need now

#Mod Cyn 🎱 #reblog #change #plurality #positivity

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Wanted to say P-DID systems can often co-front without the host leaving, and we can also learn some switching things via like tulpamancy methods and such, we've done it ourselves and have seen others manage it as well! It just likely won't be the feeling of the dominant person COMPLETELY dropping out and not being aware anymore. The most I've managed being in headspace without perceiving front is about two seconds flat, and even then, the headmate that took control in my absence was median. So like... There are ways. It won't be the complete relief anon might be looking for, but there are ways with a LOT of practice.

Thank you so much for the addition!

We (obviously) aren't P-DID ourselves, so we can only really speak on what we've heard.

This is great news, however, and if you have any resources on said tulpamancy methods or on P-DID in general that you feel are accurate and would like to share, please do!

#Mod Cyn 🎱 #plurality #headmates #asks #follow up #anon #tulpamancy #osddid #pdid #additions #frontstuck

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short question: how do i stop fronting?

long question: i'm (it/its, they/it only with close ppl) a host of a self-diagnosed ossd 1b but possibly did traumagenic system of most likely 5 (collective: they/them, they/it with close ones), and i've been frontstuck for probably a lot of time way before the discovery (as in years). i'm not really invested in the whole roles thing (or the host/co-host stuff too tbh), but if i used them, then i'd probably be some kind of protector and trauma keeper (we share most of our memories but i'm the only one who thinks about them). i want to stop fronting so bad. i managed to co-front and be co-conscious with 2-3 alters (me included) before, but i was always present. it makes me feel like i'm faking the whole system thing, and i'm just tired of fronting in general. positive triggers helped with co-fronting, but, again, i never stopped fronting. haven't tried it, but my negative triggers would just make me uncomfortable and push others away as we can usually know each others' thoughts (also one of them is a minor and he doesn't need to think about that sort of stuff)

i need to get out!

Hello Anon, thank you for reaching out.

TL;DR, there's probably a reason that you're frontstuck. If you're not a partial DID system, it's likely that a gatekeeper is holding you in front for some reason, likely trauma related, and you should seek help to resolve whatever conflict is standing in your way of leaving front completely. If you ARE a partial DID system, you may be the dominant personality, and this is unfortunately just how your system functions.

I agree that you should not try to use negative triggers to influence a switch into happening. That will only cause more mayhem and distress than necessary.

I have personally had a lot of experience with being frontstuck against my will, and being unable to will others into front through positive (or negative, for that a matter) means. In the case of a system who is genuinely able to switch, you are most likely experiencing such a thing because your brain and/or gatekeepers believe it necessary for you to remain the primary or sole fronter. A lot of the time, as in my case, this can feel counterproductive, maladaptive, or even destructive, but there is almost always a reason, and if the decision feels retroactive, the reason could be trauma related. That being said, my very best advice to you, if this is the case, is to try to resolve or at least better manage whatever trauma it is that you're personally holding onto. Seek professional help, preferably, but seeking other resources online and among loved ones could also be beneficial. If you're still in a traumatic situation, that may instead end up being the roadblock in question. Either way, this is kind of a tough situation to be in, and probably won't resolve quickly or easily.

Alternatively, there is a diagnosis in the ICD called P-DID, which refers to a system in which there is a dominant personality who is (almost) constantly in front and often unable to leave, while all other alters interact through non-possessive means, or passive influence. I'd suggest you also look into this, because if this fits you, it's quite likely that you being frontstuck forever is just how your system works, unfortunately.

Either way, I wish you luck, and I'm also very sorry if the wording of this post is kinda convoluted, I'm a little out of it at the moment.

#Mod Cyn 🎱 #plurality #osddid #traumagenic system #host #frontstuck #anon #asks

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Hello, I want to preface this by saying, that if this is considered syscourse or any other type of discourse, please absolutely feel free to delete this. If you& don't think you& can answers this, or do not feel comfortable with answering, that is also totally fine.

I 'recently' formed in a white bodied system and we have tried our best to research on a few things. I view myself as having tan skin in headspace, and I wanted to know if it is considered rude or offensive to display that in my profile picture on SimplyPlural and/or Pluralkit for example?

I won't call myself by any race or anything of that sort, because I am aware that that is racist in many ways. (I just wanted to mention this, before someone makes assumptions.)

I really just want to make sure that me having a profile picture / avatar that has tan skin is okay. If it is not, I will refrain from doing this.

Thank you. -🌱

Hello Anon! Thank you for reaching out.

I wouldn't consider this syscourse. for the most part, the only thing we would consider as such is pro/anti endo/tulpa discourse, as this blog is accepting of any and all plural individuals.

Also, from what we've seen in the community, and what we do personally, what you're describing would not be a problem. When the topic of alter race is discussed, the presentation that is generally considered unacceptable would be applying racial stereotypes, culture, oppression, and/or experiences to yourself that your body has not and cannot experience. Many folks end up doing this by just claiming that they are a race that their body is not, but that's clearly not your intention.

To pull from personal experience, our host is mixed race (white/Taiwanese) in his source and pseudomemories, and everyone who knows him knows this. He does not claim to understand or legitimately be Taiwanese (we are white), but it comes up due to his appearance and relevant factors in his memories and trauma. This, in the spaces we are generally in, is nothing more than acknowledging objective fact. His source, memories and appearance reflect this trait, but by acknowledging that it doesn't apply to him in this body and respecting that it is not his place to claim such a thing, he isn't hurting anybody.

That being said, all that matters is that you are self-aware, and continue to respect and acknowledge the dissonance between your appearance/memories and the real world that you live in. Presenting yourself how you appear should be totally fine.

If any POC have unique perspectives or additions to this post and the advice I've given, please feel free to add on.

#Mod Cyn ❓ #additions #hiiragi7 #plurality #headmates #syscourse #Missed this in my notifs earlier but I find this addition important.

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Hello, I want to preface this by saying, that if this is considered syscourse or any other type of discourse, please absolutely feel free to delete this. If you& don't think you& can answers this, or do not feel comfortable with answering, that is also totally fine.

I 'recently' formed in a white bodied system and we have tried our best to research on a few things. I view myself as having tan skin in headspace, and I wanted to know if it is considered rude or offensive to display that in my profile picture on SimplyPlural and/or Pluralkit for example?

I won't call myself by any race or anything of that sort, because I am aware that that is racist in many ways. (I just wanted to mention this, before someone makes assumptions.)

I really just want to make sure that me having a profile picture / avatar that has tan skin is okay. If it is not, I will refrain from doing this.

Thank you. -🌱

Hello Anon! Thank you for reaching out.

I wouldn't consider this syscourse. for the most part, the only thing we would consider as such is pro/anti endo/tulpa discourse, as this blog is accepting of any and all plural individuals.

Also, from what we've seen in the community, and what we do personally, what you're describing would not be a problem. When the topic of alter race is discussed, the presentation that is generally considered unacceptable would be applying racial stereotypes, culture, oppression, and/or experiences to yourself that your body has not and cannot experience. Many folks end up doing this by just claiming that they are a race that their body is not, but that's clearly not your intention.

To pull from personal experience, our host is mixed race (white/Taiwanese) in his source and pseudomemories, and everyone who knows him knows this. He does not claim to understand or legitimately be Taiwanese (we are white), but it comes up due to his appearance and relevant factors in his memories and trauma. This, in the spaces we are generally in, is nothing more than acknowledging objective fact. His source, memories and appearance reflect this trait, but by acknowledging that it doesn't apply to him in this body and respecting that it is not his place to claim such a thing, he isn't hurting anybody.

That being said, all that matters is that you are self-aware, and continue to respect and acknowledge the dissonance between your appearance/memories and the real world that you live in. Presenting yourself how you appear should be totally fine.

If any POC have unique perspectives or additions to this post and the advice I've given, please feel free to add on.

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