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steponmepinkjun · 3 years

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also abt ur adhd post i am afab and have adhd and it took me literal years to get diagnosed which cost FORTUNES of money only for the doctors too look me up and down and say nope because girls adhd happens to be different then boys adhd before i actually got a diagnosis.

YES ABSOLUTELY. ON EVERY LEVEL THIS. As a teenager my anxiety and depression were out of control, I grew up in poverty in an abusive household, and wasn't able to be properly diagnosed with ADHD until I was much older.

And how was I diagnosed, you ask? My first psych doctor was a lunatic, incredibly irresponsible. I spent years bouncing from antidepressant to antidepressant, with no relief. One day I mentioned my older sister has adhd, and wondered if I might have it too, and he went hmmmm that's interesting. On a whim, he said, "let's try a stimulant." I came back a month later and was like "WHY IS MY LIFE SO MUCH BETTER ON THESE MEDS?" He said, "It was just an idea, but it looks like you might have adhd. Let's get you tested." And what do you know, I meet all the symptoms. Because of the backwards way I was diagnosed, I know none of my doctors after him would ever take it as fact. They would never respect it. They would deny it outright and call me a drug seeker, I KNOW IT. Anyone who's ever dealt with doctors knows it. But I've been re-tested and my ADHD meds have been the difference between committing suicide, and being able to have a job, an apartment, friends, and happiness. But because I was diagnosed after first self-diagnosing, and then officially diagnosed by a doctor who has since lost his license, if any of my current practitioners found out, they'd take me off all my meds and throw me back in fucking talk therapy and ruin my life. If I hadn't started treatment for my ADHD, I would be dead now. I would have killed myself by now.

And this is also key, I didn't have the jargon to properly convey what I was experiencing to doctors for many years before I began researching ADHD independebtly. Many people who self-diagnose have tried in vain to explain their symptoms to doctors who simply don't understand. I was also taught that many of my symptoms were just "part of life," and didn't disclose them. This refusal to let patients learn and take control of their health fuels the inability to properly advocate for ourselves, even in the best of situations. If we are shamed for researching our symptoms in order to better understand our own issues, then we won't be able to aquire the tools to even begin to explain our symptoms properly, let alone to advocate for our health.

Like I can't believe I have to say this, but gatekeeping diagnostics from people who don't have access to decent Healthcare is just... Pointlessly cruel? I don't understand the point of it. Maybe some people find it annoying to see people diagnose themselves with serious psychotic disorders, but I can guarantee it doesn't mean their doctor is giving them Haldol to pop like mints just because of their insistence. Self-diagnoses rarely equates to medical treatment based on it. So I don't see what the point of it is other than continual demonizing of people who are ill. (And if you feel the need to explain the point of it to me, save it. I don't care and I don't want to know.)

Those of us without access to Healthcare really don't have any choice but to self diagnose. We can't get doctors to listen or to care, and they won't even explain side effects of drugs to us, let alone talk us through our health struggles.

#People with universal Healthcare DONT INTERACT #Because you don't understand and you never will

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harrycook · 6 years

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June 12th 2018 was my 27th birthday.

Here are 27 things I feel like I have learnt about life so far:

1. Don’t Argue With Stupid People.

You get nowhere. It’s like playing scrabble with a dog, no matter how well you play, the dog will end up shitting on the board and walking away like he won anyway.

2. Eat The Damn Cake.

Yes I know that eating right and exercise is important for your health, but if you are in the vicinity of a cake or delicious bite of something, just eat it.

3. Working Is A Part Of Life, Not The Entirety Of Life.

Unless you adore what you do for a living and it is your pasison and life’s mission, take a deep breath and don’t take it all so seriously. At the end of the day, a job is to pay the bills and have pocket money to go and enjoy yourself when you’re not working. Unless you are genuinely passionate about your career, don’t sweat it. Don’t break your back worrying about a job that would replace you within a week if you dropped dead.

4. Don’t Take Anything Seriously, Seriously.

Unless you are performing open heart surgery or have the cure for cancer in your back pocket, lighten the fuck up. No matter what your job is, ask yourself if it will matter in 100 years? If not, giggle and let it go. The world won’t stop spinning if you miss a deadline or make a mistake. Breathe. It’s all good.

5. Ignorance Is A Choice.

Yes. It’s 2018. There is no excuse for ignorance or stupidity when we have more information on our phones than a public library. If you don’t understand something, research it. Pick up a book, scan the internet, question everything, especially the news. Be curious, ask questions and most of all, don’t be lazy. Educate yourself so the world can be full of kinder, more worldly individuals who know what they are talking about.

6. Throw Away Anything You Thought You Knew That Doesn’t Sit Well With Your Values.

We grow up in a society that feeds us garbage from the moment we enter the world. Boys are taught to be one way and girls are taught to be another. It’s a system that hasn’t changed in hundreds of years because society wants us to constantly keep within the mold. Screw that. Break the mold and let people be who they want to be. Go after a job you want, not what society wants for you. Travel, see the world, stop worrying about what everyone else is doing and go after the stuff that means something to you.

7. Laugh At Every Chance You Get.

Nothing beats a good belly laugh. Plus, it’s also extremely healthy. Laugh as often as you can. This goes straight back to the not taking anything seriously thing. Giggle more. It works wonders for the soul.

8. Get A Hobby.

The past year I have picked up the piano again (not literally 'picked it up', obviously, but started learning again), attempted to learn Spanish, set a goal of reading a book a fortnight (up to book 25) and started working out a minimum of three times a week. Each year older I start realising how quickly time goes and how many amazing things are at my disposal to learn or try.

9. Read The News, Then Read It Again, And Then Research Some More.

Don't take anything at face value. Just because the news tells you one thing, don't take it as gospel. These news shows are run by multibillionaire white men and corporations with agendas. Don't take it at face value. Look in to things. Read as much as you can and become your own private investigator for the truth. Just because a news show says something, doesn't make it fact.

10. Read More.

Nothing opens up the heart and mind more than a good book. The excuse of not having enough time to read doesn't cut it. Instead of watching an hour of Netflix, take an hour to open a good book. It's good for the soul. Trust me.

11. Get A Pet.

YASSSSSSS. Get a dog. Then get another dog. Then when you think you simply can't handle the amount of snuggles you are getting, get another dog!! In all seriousness, dogs are extremely good for your health. They reduce stress and anxiety, boost happiness and are wonderful snuggle buddies. Adopt don't shop! There are plenty of rescue animals in need of good homes.

12. Sometimes People Hurt You. It Sucks.

Yes. Sometimes the people you never in a bazillion years thought could hurt you, will hurt you terribly. I had an experience in recent years with extended family that completely shifted my entire outlook on people in general. Sadly, some of the people you think you know are far from what you think. It sucks, yes, but once you acknowledge it, it slowly stops hurting. You can move on with your life when you realise that sometimes a wake-up call is all you need to realise that you're better off without certain people in your life. And that's totally ok.

13. Log Off. Often.

The age of social media is WONDERFUL for so many reasons. Keeping in contact with people, viewing beautiful content, learning things with a click and the hours and hours of streamable content are all fantastic reasons to use social media. But on the flip side, it can also be an information overload and I highly advise switching off, taking a bath and leaving your phone somewhere away from you for a few hours. It can't be healthy getting a constant stream of negative news 24/7. So unplug. Those cute puppy pics will be there when you get back.

14. Exercise.

I know, I know, YUCK. Exercise isn't the most fun of activities, and I am the first to admit that whenever I heard someone say "but the endorphins are good for your happiness levels" I'd roll my eyes so far back in my head I could see my brain. But it's completely and utterly true. Just a 40 minute run 3 times a week has improved my mood ten fold. I've suffered with depression, anxiety and addiction for years, but exercise allows me to completely refresh and enjoy the day on a belly full of endorphins. Do it for the feeling you get, not to achieve some unattainable body. It works a treat. Trust me.

15. Napping Is AMAZING.

Yes. Napping is one of the best damn things to do. Nothing beats an afternoon nap. It refreshes you for the rest of the day and is a great way to reboot the system. Don't let people tell you otherwise. It's bloody fantastic.

16. Journal.

I've written a journal since I was ten years old and looking back on all the adventures, worries, achievements and memories throughout the years is something I cherish so incredibly much. Studies have shown that journalling is really healthy for the mind and soul. Grab a notebook and get doodling.

17. Take Photos.

If taking selfies is your thang, go for it. If taking pictures of trees, animals or the sunset gets you going, snap away. Taking photos is therapeutic for a number of reasons, but most of all it's a lovely way to document your life with things to look back on. Get snapping.

18. Never Think You Know It All.

It's easy to be arrogant when we are conditioned all our lives with things we are expected to believe. "Boys should do this", "girls should do that". But just because we've been taught it from a society that has never been challenged to think differently, doesn't make it right. Question everything. Stay curious. Look into things and don't dismiss stuff you know nothing about. Not only is it a really ugly personality trait, it gets you nowhere in life. Opening your mind and heart is a surefire way of experiencing life in all its' beauty.

19. Go After What You Want In Life.

Jim Carey did a graduation speech about his father who never went after his dreams because he wanted to do the ‘safe thing'. Have a 'stable' career that would provide for his family. From memory, his father failed and lost everything in his 'stable' career. The moral being that if you are going to fail at something, at least let it be something you love, because the fact is it is just as possible to fail at something you hate. Give it a go. Life is too short to not go after what you want.

20. Travel. Travel. Travel.

See the world. It'll show you that we humans are all the same. It replaces ignorance with knowledge and shows you how vast our planet is. Get out there.

21. Someone Who Is Nice To You But Not Nice To The Waiter Is Not A Nice Person.

I love this quote because it's so damn true. Don't be a dick to service people. Don't think you're better than anyone because you're not. End of story. Period.

22. Get Over Yourself.

Sort of a continuation of the above, this is just a reminder to get over yourself, have a giggle and realise that just because you have a fancy car, a nice suit or well manicured hands means absolutely sweet F.A. Being a good person, showing kindness, empathy and caring about the planet and human beings as a whole is what counts in my books. Just be a good person. It's that simple.

23. Tell Your Loved Ones You Love Them And Don’t Go To Bed Angry.

Pretty self explanatory this one, but all the same, something to remember constantly. Life is far too short to go to bed angry at someone. Throw away silly arguments and tell the people you care about how you feel.

24. Screw What People Think Of You.

I mean it. Who cares what someone else thinks of you? That's their stuff. How they perceive you and how they feel about you is none of your business. Water off a ducks' back. Let it go.

25. Try Not To Worry So Much.

I know. Easier said than done, but sometimes it helps to take a step back, take a deep breath in and ask a few key questions: Can I do anything to change the current situation? If yes, do it. If not, let it go. Breathe through it and remember all we ever have is right in this moment.

26. Meditate.

YASSSSSSSSS times a million. Meditating is one of the most powerful things I have ever learnt in my 27 years on this planet. Taking a moment to just sit and reflect and focus on the here and now is one of the most intensely wonderful ways of reconnecting to what matters. There are a million different apps you can use or simply sit and count your breaths. It works wonders.

27. Life is what you make it, but most of all it’s about love.

Love, family, friends and making memories is the most important thing in life. Every year on this earth I realise more and more how utterly stupid it is to worry about material things. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't enjoy material stuff whatsoever, but it shouldn't be what you go after in life. Nobody ever gets to the end of their life clutching on to their Chanel bag. The things that matter are the people you love and the memories you make.

So go for a walk, take in the view, have a laugh and breathe in every moment of every day. It's all we ever have.

- Harry.

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ask-a-voltron-paladin · 7 years

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Lance: Hey beautifuls. *winks* You would not believe the day we had. I got...stuck in keith.

Hunk: Lance! That's...ahhh. Use better wording!

L: But it's true!

Shiro: *sigh* Lance, yes it's true, but you don't have to say it like that. You'll confuse our followers.

L: But I am literally inside of keith right now!

H: *blushing* Oml, Lance. I love you, but stop.

Keith: Also, Lance, stop making that face with my face.

L: I can't really control what my face does, Keith.

K: You mean MY face.

S: ANYWAY. What we're trying to say is that we are not...in our bodies.

H: That makes it sound like we're ghosts.

L: No. None of that ghosts nonsense again.

Pidge: Guys. We've gone over this. There are no such things as ghosts.

L: YOU CAN'T KNOW THAT FOR SURE PIDGE. THEY DO WHAT THEY WANT.

P: Anyway. We’ve basically bodyswapped. Like, all of us.

H: Yeah! It's really weird.

P: I’m apparently Hunk now. Weird.

L: Do you feel tall up there? Cause I'm feeling pretty short down here.

P: I AM DEFINITELY NOT USED TO BEING THIS TALL.

S: This is definitely odd, I'll say that.

P: SHIRO YOU ARE ME

S: You really shouldn't be wearing these glasses. Everything's a little blurry. They have a prescription, but you don't need one.

H: Really? Pidge, that's not good for you!

P: I’m bad for myself if we’re being honest here. Besides, don’t we need to like… figure out how this happened? Maybe it had something to do with that inventor alien guy...

L: Yeah! If I have to spend one more minute with this mullet on my head, I swear I'm cutting it off.

K: LANCE DON'T YOU DARE.

L: Why not?! ...This is actually an opportunity. I go in my room and lock the door and NO ONE CAN STOP ME.

S: Lance, stop teasing keith.

L: Shiro...I pfffft...I cant Hahaha I can't take you seriously in that body.

H: Heehee, it's true! Like, pidge is intimidating in a certain way, for sure, but what usually works for you is...not right now.

L: Bwahahaha. Look at him stand there with his arms crossed trying to establish leadership!

P: AHEM.

H: ...Sorry, Shiro.

P: Yeah so anyway. The inventor guy on this planet we were stopped at accidentally blasted the five of us with some sort of weapon… cannon… thing.

L: You said it didn’t do anything!

P: That’s because it didn’t! At least, not at that moment.

H: Exactly.

S: So now we need to analyze our bodies and see if any of our levels are off. We should also talk to the princess to see if she has any idea what that was.

P: That sounds like a plan. I'll start running some diagnostics. In the meantime, you guys talk to Allura and start researching.

H: Can I make some snacks first? I'm hungry.

L: Also, I think Keith got cut when we were hit. My arm is throbbing. And I'm pretty sure I hit my head when we went down, so you should check that, Hunk.

K: Actually...Shiro. What should I do with this arm? How do I use it?

S: We'll...talk about that when we disperse.

P: That reminds me. We should check to see if we use the Bayards of the body we're inhabiting or our usual ones.

S: We might actually have to hold off on any fighting for now. No offense, Pidge, but I don't think I can fight in this body.

P: It's alright, I don't think I can fight in this body, either.

K: So we're just gonna run if we see a galra?

H: Sounds like a plan! I don't think we can handle it right now, Keith.

K: *mutters* I could take em.

H: But uh...what are we doing about the bathroom?

Silence~

P: Oh no.

K: *shrugs* It's the same idea as usual, right?

H: How can you say that?!

L: Well I'm not worried. I have nothing to be ashamed of. *winks

H: Oml, Lance.

K: Don't you dare do anything weird with my body, Lance. Or when we switch back, I'll kill you.

L: Okay, okay! *mutters* His threats are a lot scarier when he has the muscle to back it up.

S: We'll just...figure it out when it comes to it. For now, just try to hold it.

P: Hopefully we'll fix this before it becomes an issue.

K: I still don't see the problem, but okay.

S: Alright, team. Pidge is going to start some tests, so the rest of you should check your injuries or...make some food. I'll go talk to the princess. Check back at the lab when you're done.

H: Okay!

K: Fine.

P: Cool.

L: Right-o! Oh, we'll keep you guys updated, too. If anyone has any ideas, shoot them our way. I'm sure Pidge would appreciate it. Oh! And just to be clear, I'm in Keith's body, Keith is in Shiro's, Shiro is in Pidge’s, Pidge is in Hunk's and Hunk is in mine. Hope your day isn't as swapped as ours.

#text #body swap #day 1 #help

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