#In Empathy We Trust

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#unus mundus #1001 #pearl #i-ching #Elizabeth Kleinveld #Epaul Julien #In Empathy We Trust #Kirsi Mutshipule #LA RAGAZZA CON L'ORECCHINO DI PERLA #Pix-Jockey

[spiralsandeyes]

ok but here me out. let me propose. as much as i am crying over the idea of an alternate world where gerry gets to be happy... anyone else feel like something was slightly off there?? anyone else wondering about gerry having little memory of what happened??? i hesitate to even say it in case i'm off base but man they LOVE fucking with us and can you imagine if gerry is not, in fact, living a better life, but instead living a life that he doesn't KNOW is fucked up? can we think about that real quick. in this hypothetical, can we also wonder if "gigi" Does know. CAN WE SPECULATE A LITTLE PLEASE

#like something something we know the magnus institute was doing Something with the kids and it may have had to do with empathy #gerry is immediately shown to be Extremely noticeably kind and generous #his dynamic with gertrude feels a little Too intact in that. one could read her tone as um. her knowing something he doesn't. maybe. #'of course you do' WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT!!!!! #IDK BRO THIS FEELS. FISHY. LIKE THE KIND OF THING WE INITIALLY LAUGH OFF AND THEN IT BITES US LATER #am i insane or do i just not trust gertrude to be honest about a situation in any universe #only time will tell #tmagp spoilers #tmagp #the magnus protocol #magpod

[lornasaurusrex]

I miss you Lorna… this is such a mess

This is an old message and I had several other similar messages, but I miss you guys and hope you’re all doing well!! I’m sorry to see nothing has improved.

I saw I was kindly mentioned by @awesomefringey and some other commenters the other day, so just wanted to log in and say hello and log back out for a few more months. 💕

Sending so so much love to all of you. Take care of yourselves and each other, please.

The video is still on YT.

#Anywayyyyy #The fandom added a whole lot more C to my C-PTSD #So a nice random message every few months instead of a freshly posted death wish is LOVELY. #Don’t fret. On meds and therapied but fresh tf out of money from it so @ L and H… lornasaurusrexx at g*ail is the PayPal if ur bored 🙃 #I hate to be like this but protect your hearts. They’ll never be able to look out for you guys and they feed these trolls ammo for snacks #and it seems to have only gotten worse. Gotta keep them hets hetbaited for their money whilst actively encouraging them to bully yall? Why? #STILL!? At this point it feels like they’ve both chosen that path deliberately now and I find it quite gross. but I’m also very far removed #So don’t worry about my opinions. Keep trusting your own intuition!!! You all see it. I love you guys and your beautiful hearts and empathy #But I hope they can sleep at night knowing the absolute fucking genuine WRECKAGE they left across the Big Gay War generation/era of Larries #Don’t worry guys I’m just as dramatic as ever. None of this has anything to do with them coming out or anything. Just how we were treated. #But trust I fuckin mean that shit from the deepest darkest pit of my Demon Larrie™️ heart. They encouraged this. 🤷🏼‍♀️ #Anyone who cares about my actual life updates: I’m a school nurse now and will be working at a bougie summer camp over break #Had a surgery I needed. Got new tattoos and piercings. In a happy and healthy relationship with the best dude for almost a year now. #OH and I went to New Zealand last year with Prettytruthsandlies!!!! We made a pact back in our Big Gay War/college days to go. And we DID!! #I got overstimulated and overfed and puked in Hobbiton. 🤣 (It was the best time of my LIFE GENUINELY🥰🥰🥰🥰🥹🥹🥹) #Okay BYE LOVE YOU GUYS #There are better and more humane ways to maintain a closet ..like literally STFU entirely. Ignoring it and not exploiting a kid is FREE #🇵🇸

[dez-wade]

God is seeing you people dismiss several crimes committed against multiple people that came out with their statements because you don't like one of the several victims.

He's also seeing that you spent more energy to condemn and discuss one of the victims' "crime" (it's not a crime, it's public information and it was an accident) than condemning the dozens of crimes committed in a span of 1 year against multiple innocent people, that still hasn't gotten any form of justice.

#you don't trust lea? oh what about the current dozens of admins that came out and confirmed her claims about workplace abuse? #they didn't “doxx” anyone but whatever right #we know were you truly stand #qsmp neg #qsmp discourse #i want to forget this whole server and this fandom but this isn't fandom drama CRIMES were committed #victims are being harassed for speaking up #and that's when even though it would between for me to be silent and ignore all this i just can't #because it's so unfair the admins were already through so much shit and they have to be harassed at top of it #because people think it's their job to defend millionaires... #me and you could be in that position anytime. and you'd like if people stand up to you #the lack of empathy is insane #you offered more patient for people that committed multiple crimes than the victims that aren't allowed to one mistake

[bestialitybestiary]

I've just realized they did that to Peter two times! They made him guilty of what he's done when he wasn't in his right mind/conscious of his actions. But Jackson was clearly a victim, hm?

#I'm not salty #More like a little disappointed #Like #I think they (the characters) treat him like this because he's not stupid #He won't let anyone see his weaknesses so they don't see him as a real person #In a way #In s1 this lack of trust and empathy was perfectly justified #Those were scared kids and this mean guy was scaring and hurting them #and was much more in the know than them #So even tho I can see his reasoning I don't have a problem with him being a villain #But s4? #Nah #They actually made him work with Kate so we would also stop trusting him #Because it never was about morals #It was about trust #They were only waiting for the opportunity to get rid of Peter because they didn't trust him AND he was smart #Even tho he helped them so many times #Damn my bias is showing XD #teen wolf #peter hale

[no-empathy-culture-is]

some empathetic folk seem to lack empathy when talking about us, that's sus

oh yeah no ppl who consider themselves Better Than Those No Empathy Freaks are almost always pricks lmao

imo its /much/ better to be a low/no empathy haver, lacking care for other people and choosing to be good to them anyways, than an empathetic person who chooses not to be good to people they consider 'weird' or 'not normal'

#not culture #mod gabriel #& ofc theres nothing wrong with lacking empathy lol - just under the definitions of self-righteous empathetics #lacking empathy is like some sort of cardinal sin #but ofc its Good when its directed against The Bad Guys trust me on this one #we totally got the Correct group of Bad Guys this time its ok we can do what we want #/sarcasm

[navramanan]

sorry but i'm so delighted over how diaspora arabs have been realizing that turkey is very hostile towards them which is why many of them thought twice about going on vacation there and decided not to. take this as a lesson to NOT idealize a country to absurd amounts like the muslim diaspora loves doing with turkey

#we been telling yall how racist these people can be and yeah it's gotten worse enough for diaspora to know about it #but theyve BEEN hostile towards arabs even before that. these people have insane european complex #see themselves as european and therefore better than middle easterners #the soft power turkey has has had muslims everywhere in a choke hollllllld with the tv shows and what not #when you notice youve turned into a borderline fanatic for a country/culture maybe stop and think wtf am i doing #trust if a country possesses a significant amount of soft power ESPECIALLY over a certain demographic #theyre just trying to gain sympathy for vile shit theyre doing #it's a powerful tool to turn people silent over crimes ur committing #after all how can someone accept that their fav culture exporter does bad things? #it's always easier to turn the other way and not deal with your own position #i guess it only goes so far until it hurts you personally :) bc people have forgotten what empathy is #nesi rants

[kaleschmidt]

I love ppl getting into dayshift meta. Wish they were more right abt it

#Grave's Digs #(^^^ THIS IS LIGHTHEARTED. But also I don't trust anyone but my friends n a few others w dayshift analysis #I will forever hope that the guy who was ableist abt Jack's empathy EXPLODE 5 MILLIPN TIME OVER #ALso thst one person who insinuated Jack doesn't care abt his siblings like. Did we play the same game. Did we. Did w #DO THEY EVEN KNOW DAVES BPDISMS. I almost put npdisms. Thats jack #DO THEY THINK. ABT DAVE AND PETERS ARALLELS.

[arolesbianism]

Ohhhh no it just occured to me that Im probably gonna be seeing a unbearable hoard of bad aro hcs in the dst tag this month huh. Uhhhh gentle reminder that just because Wx used to be human doesn't make hcing them as aro risk free pls be careful with that. Aro ppl who hc them as aro ur fine keep up the good work 👍

#rat rambles #dst #wx-78 #like theyre arospec in my hcs so I wish I could be happy abt the idea of seeing aro wx stuff but alas I do not trust ppl with aro hcs #in casw youre curious the quick rundown of potential wx aro problems #just because they used to be human the aro robot trope could still become a problem if you chose to tie it to their empathy module #like thats quite possibly the worst thing you could do like thats fucked on so many levels #relating to that is the risk of evil aro and emotionless aro shit #this doesnt necesarily mean saying their aro because their evil directly but I dont have time to go too into detail since I need to shower #oh but one last thing mean aro is also a thing #rly the big thing is just like. think abt how you would word your reason for hcing them as aro #for example if its like yeah I think theyre too busy planning world domination to care abt romance then I am very much not a fan lol #because that kind of stuff rly ties together romantic attraction and relationships in a way I rly dont like #like idk. if theres a character that considers friendship a waste of time we wouldnt say theyre incapable of liking ppl #it just heavily simplifies the aro experience in a way that can also easily lead to other writing issues #for example the framing of aromanticism as a personal disinterest in dating gives room for a specific reason theyre not interested in it #for example. being a robot. or being evil. fun stuff like that #ok god its late I cant keep going on like this idk I might talk abt it more at another point or if I see ppl being dumb lol

[bi-demon-ium]

also once again i think one of mr benedict's greatest strengths is his faith in other people. his kindness, his capacity for compassion and empathy and forgiveness. sometimes it does need to be tempered with someone willing to stand up, someone willing to get angry, someone willing to call people out--that's why he has his friends--but ultimately like. it's his kindness, his compassion, his willingness to listen, his empathy, that wins the day. and honestly, this applies to the whole show.

the team is only gathered through this--even if he isn't truly their leader, in many ways, he's the heart. milligan. they both have every reason not to trust each other, all those years ago when he showed up at mr benedict's door. they both have crazy stories no one believes. they both are in a position to hurt the other in one way or another, they're both vulnerable. but they choose to trust each other, choose to see good in the world and in each other. mr benedict lets a stranger into his home, listens to his story, and does everything in his power to help. they become partners. he meets the others--other outcasts, other brilliant, troubled people--and they become a team. it's how he gains the trust of the children, particularly reynie. and then in season two, despite everything, despite everyone seeming to think he'll fail, that he must fail, he has faith he can get through to his brother. that he can talk to him, can help him, that he's just lost his way. and like. yes, that's not always the right view. yes, people have been hurt, and we can't ignore that. yes, number two is still right to be angry, reynie is right to be doubtful. yes, this isn't just nicholas's faith in truth, in doing the right thing, it's also very, very personal. but like. he's right. he's able to get through to him. he's able to save him.

#SOMETHING SOMETHING THE THEMES OF REFUSING TO ONLY LOOK AT LOUD EVIL BUT TO ALSO NOURISH QUIET GOOD #and like. miss perumal's line about how maybe we need to save the bad guys if we can. maybe that's the only way to really win #and truth being empathy and seeing others and listening to others and having compassion #and truth being important kindness being important #nicholas having every reason not to trust someone not to reach out #and always choosing to reach out anyway #like it's not perfect it's not always the 100 percent right answer #sometimes maybe it is desperate optimism #maybe one day he'll meet someone he can't save #maybe their sister will be that person #but that's why he has friends too #they cover each other's strengths #maybe he can remind them there's kindness in the world #and they can remind him being kind doesn't mean being nice and letting people hurt you #and that sometimes ultimately it doesn't work #but he can remind them like. you still have to try #oguhghhhh im rotating it in my brain idk how coherent this is #anyway the redemption thing was rushed but my god does it make me explode inside #mbs spoilers #the mysterious benedict society #nicholas benedict #mr benedict #mbs disney

[blujayonthewing]

I was trying out variations on colorways for aubree's outfit and, with a few of them, realized that her outfit has trended slightly less colorful over time, and specifically less yellow (originally a green and yellow striped vest, then a green vest over a yellow short sleeved shirt, and now possibly a white shirt and green vest, with only small amounts of yellow embroidery). this wasn't intentional, but nonetheless, the concept that, as the adventure has worn on, she's outwardly losing color-- and specifically in favor of browns and whites, the colors associated with the halfling god of death-- is compelling to me. I mean, I suppose if I had been doing it on purpose, the shadowfell arc immediately following our literal deaths and mysterious rebirths would have been a really good time for the most muted palette... but, then again, aubree was still relatively fresh then, confused and traumatized but also still powerfully and stubbornly alive where it counts; vibrant, burning, shining light into dark corners just by existing. but the more we learn, the heavier things weigh, the fewer outlets she has, the less she feels like she can relate to the people who should understand better than anyone... she's still righteous and angry, but she's also just... sad, and tired, and growing more tired the more she feels like she has to keep herself together for everyone else. and gradually, quietly, her colors are washing out.

#not to be fake deep I guess I just love her #and she's having A Rough Go Of It #this isn't even the most rough SHE'S personally had this campaign actually! #but *I'm* a lot more upset about the party failing to give her meaningful support than she is lmaooo #THIS is more-- okay the raven queen is DEAD and the fate of COUNTLESS SOULS in transition is now uncertain #and it's directly because bringing us back to life significantly weakened the gods that did that!! that's all pretty upsetting!!! #also what might this mean for urogalan? or for our warlock's demigod patron who wasn't that powerful to begin with? #but lisbet's so far up her own invented grimdark emo nonsense that she's implying maybe the Right Thing would be for us to all die(???) #and talia's like [shrug] dude idk we didn't ask them to do that so who cares. whatever. it's literally not our problem lighten up #OH OKAY OKAY OKAY I'LL JUST CARRY ALL OF THIS FEAR AND EMPATHY BY MYSELF THEN. WHILE YOU ALL TREAT ME LIKE I'M BEING DRAMATIC. #THAT'S FINE. #[strained humorless grin] and she doesn't even KNOW about the time she was unconscious and being closed in on by monsters-- #and the party all ran in every possible other direction to do literally everything else other than PROTECT HER WHEN SHE WAS HELPLESS #justin had NPCs on standby in case things got ugly without The Tank but they straight up were the only ones who helped me at all #.... ANYWAY. all of which is to say. we're not on a darkest timeline path or anything but she's in the metaphorical moonlight right now #and it's only by the grace of 'I trust my DM' and specifically 'this campaign balances darkness with meaningful hope and love really well' #that she's not doing worse :') got some dark times to stew in #but now that I'm thinking about it I can be proactively thinking about when to bring more yellow back in #about me #my OCs #aubree

[robbyykeene]

Hawk!

Okay feel like I need to elaborate on this one so prepare for an essay below

I don’t dislike Hawk, and I actually really love and appreciate his character for the role he serves in story and the very specific narrative they were telling with him. My problem is more that everyone else’s own ck radicalization arcs have watered down Hawk’s. When it was just him and Tory, their arcs and motives were different enough that they both felt like worthwhile stories to tell. But then they threw in Robby, and then Kenny, and while neither one was quite a repeat of Hawk, it just made his storyline in retrospect feel tired and kind of killed it for me. Which is a huge shame, because I think arguably Hawk is the only character they actually displayed the radicalization process really well for.

On top of that, I was disappointed with where they took his character in season 4. Hawk’s done a lot of really terrible things in the show, and it felt like instead of meaningfully addressing that, they just had something equally terrible happen to him to try and minimize it all. And even if that wasn’t the writers’ intentions, that’s how it came across to me. Which just feels like such lazy writing, especially for a character who had one of the more interesting arcs in the show.

And I’m not going to lie and pretend I’ve ever liked Hawk’s character in a way where I feel personally connected to him/relate to him, but that doesn’t mean I don’t really love certain aspects of his character and the specific role he serves in the story. In particular how his devolution was a direct result of Johnny’s failures as a teacher/mentor, and how that served the larger themes of the show. Which is why it’s doubly a shame they had his “True Redemption” hinge upon the forced cut, and not on a positive mentor figure guiding him in the right direction. Be that Johnny or Daniel. I think there would’ve been ways to do both that felt like a complete resolution to his arc.

#i also think tis show has a selective empathy problem #it decided which characters it wants you to feel bad for and spins the narrative around thatbut its often contradictory to itself #were supposed to forgive johnny for all that happened in high school bc kreese was grooming him #but….kreese was grooming hawk too. and tory. and all these kids. should we immediately forgive them also? #i think if they had centered hawks story in s4 around the realization that he had been manipulated and hurt by an adult he trusted #it would’ve made for a more interesting story and ALSO tied in better with the larger themes of this show #and given him and johnny and daniel like smth to relate to about #but whatever #anyway I guess i lied when i said i dont really have much to say about them hahaha #ANYWAY ty fro sending this!!! ❤️🥰 #character bingo #hawk #i also just feel like there is so kuch meta about hawk that i have nothing to contribute #like i know my personal feelings on the character but other than that i dont have much tos ay that hasnt been said already better if that #makes sense

[rowenabean]

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#HATE that i don't trust my patient's surgeon's communication skills #bringing the patient in on Thursday for some news that would really be better coming from the surgeon #because i don't have the full what we do next plan #but i DO have empathy and willingness to sit with emotion and my patient deserves that #breaking bad news is very much part of my job but it also SHOULD be part of the surgeon's job #if you think of me tomorrow please pray it goes ok #rowena adventures

[myheartxmyman]

And you saying things like 'yes I know it happened a lot, but other people don't act out the way you do', is such a horrible thing to say. If we would have been just friends at that time you wouldnt have said something like that, ever! And for the strange case that you would have had the audacity to say so you would have been 'my friend'. Really, I am again in shock off how rude I let you treat me. Sometimes I change perspectives, I am one of my girlfriends and you become her partner. Honestly I would tell her to leave him for good. And if she wouldn't I fear there would come a time when i would throw my fists at him. At least if I would see her unhappy again and again. If her boyfriend would say something like that around three times it would have been to often. Mistakes happen, but what repeats itself again and again is not a mistake; its a pattern.

#and to be honest I feel like you wouldn't call what you said a mistake #you would find a way to approve of what you said and wouldn't see a fault in it #and then you are trying to tell me you are empathetic #sad about that is that I also used to see you as a man who's full with empathy #when we were friends you always showed me the understanding and empathetic side of you #but while being in a relationship while being beaten down by life again and again and again you told me I am wrong #you blamed me #you made me feel even worse #you basically told me to stop feeling what I did feel #you warned me you would leave me if I wouldn't get my shit together and accept the fact that Louis and my Dad are gone #that was approximately between the end of July and beginning of August #you didn't treat me with your core values 'loyalty / trust / respect' when saying those things in my face #your words made me feel like I am wrong #like I am not good enough #I felt blamed controlled neglected not seen not heard unworthy not important and also threatened #that's why I asked you 'where is your empathy?' or 'you're not empathetic towards me at all' you answered 'all my friends say otherwise' #yes I bet they do I would have too #why did you treat me with more compassion #with more respect more empathy more warmth when we were just friends? Why did you behave in such a 'not Vince' way #I often feel like you treated me better while we were friends #I could always count on you those days #I had your attention #you were actually listening to me #you were always careful about my feelings #I felt safe being with you and in your presence #why did you treat me so cold while I was already 10ft deep? #why did you chose to abuse me after saying 'Let me show you a love that doesn't hurt'? ' #why did you lost your temper during some fights but after the accident never again? This proves you chose to get violent #it was an active chose of yours #it wasn't an aggressive outburst in the

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[catmask]

tbh when i hear some people talk about 'breaking cycles of abuse', it becomes clear pretty quickly who has come to understand that phrase to mean 'since i was a victim of abuse/neglect by my parents/caretaker/s i will do everything to be nothing like them' and that is all. its not a completely flawed way of thinking either - something that hurt you would very likely hurt someone else; through empathy we learn to understand not to hurt others the way we were hurt too.

but what 'breaking cycles' looks like is more complicated than just not being your parents/caretakers - it's about recognizing how the things that happened to you changed you and how you can heal so you don't hurt someone else in turn. the survival skills you learned in an unhealthy enviroment often translate to poor if not unhealthy interpersonal skills in an enviroment where things ARE safe.

its a difficult pill to swallow for a lot of survivors of abuse (trust me, i know) because we have a tendency to simply want our pain to be recognized. by painting yourself as "absolutely nothing like my abuser" you can abstain from recognizing your own harmful tendencies and live comfortably in the role of victim hood for the rest of your life. it can be tempting to do this especially when so many people will do their best to deny what you experienced - almost like leaning into a stuck door that just won't budge.

the problem with this is if you never recognize that being mistreated made it so you LACK a lot of what other people learned from a loving enviroment, you can hurt people pretty badly even when doing your best just not to replicate what your parents/caretakers got wrong.

this also hurts for victims because, when it comes down to it - it's not FAIR. you were hurt for no reason, and most of us will never hear an apology or even admittance from the person who did it - so why do YOU have to change? why do YOU, the person hurt unjustly, have to put in the work?

and i mean. that's what breaking a cycle is. it means pushing against what's fair and comfortable deliberately so that you can stop something that's been repeating. it's work. its not just recognition of pain, it's the purposeful healing and treatment of it. but thats scary, and it's not fun, so a lot of people fall right back into it. its a lot easier said than done.

#txt #scratchpost