#and misgendering me but w/e

[a-dinosaur-a-day]

For the record: lots of people hate me. It’s been that way my whole life. Nothing quite like having siblings hate you for existing.

But if someone is posting about me constantly, combing through my blogs for crap to hate on me for, misgendering me, and just interpreting everything I say and do in the most negative and unfair way possible, that’s on them. Not me.

At any rate, last I checked, I have significantly bigger problems to deal with than ridiculous internet nonsense, so that’s the last I’ll talk about it. I have better things to do.

#people stop being obsessed with me challenge #and misgendering me but w/e #and like what can ya do? #cancel me? that’s happened before and it means nothing #make me lose followers? huzzah! I hate having a popular blog! #disagree with me? excellent! more discussion and debate is a good thing #kill me? doing me a favor I can finally rest #drive me off the internet? thanks! I needed to kill that addiction #etc. #your hate means nothing and you are wasting your time

[anti-transphobia]

Just found out about the transunitism tag and I'm having a ball seeing posts from trans people that don't want other trans people dead for arbitrary reasons

#wish we had this transunitism shit BACK IN MY DAY #thats a joke/exaggeration. the infighting was NOT this bad just 5 years ago #it's horrendously bad as people pretend they're focusing on the 'real world problems'.....by getting wrapped up in internet discourse #and terminology #and wasting their time and energy hating other trans people based on hypothetical ideas of what their experiences should be #instead of caring about the actual oppression we all face #anyway me saying i wish we had this back in my day i mean things like the trans run 'bad trans people blog' that had a majority of posts #be about me and how i was a fake trans troll made to make people look bad #because i did the worst thing in the world: be an annoying 15 year old #one of the mods was an ex friend too. ppl will misgender you and doubt your identity because you were annoying or disagreed about something #most of these people were grown ass adults too. but w/e #anyway thats the sort of shit i was referring with my initial tag but honestly. i prefer that to the current state of #the online trans community

[ringneckedpheasant]

had the second worst great clips visit of my life today but thank fucking gd my hair turned out Okay despite the other horrors

#there are 2 in relatively close proximity to me & the one I like more had like 90 minute wait times #as opposed to 15 at the other place #and I knew it would be awkward & bad bc it always is at that location no matter who the stylist is #And Then It Was #stylist repeatedly misgendered me to her coworker who was giving some other guy almost an identical haircut to mine #said coworker did too despite me checking With My Name Which Is Marcus #& then she accidentally nicked my ear w the clippers #& I think she was worried abt doing it to the other ear so I had to trim around it a little when I got home #very stilted conversation which was mostly my fault and isn’t a crime #but she kept telling me I should try a specific style after she’d already started #& I was just like oh haha maybe next time. like three times over the course of 20 minutes or w/e it was #and ALSO sometimes the great clips employees do not really help you get cleaned off #I was spoiled last time the stylist gave me a dry washcloth to get all the little Bits off my face #but todays stylist just sent me out into the world after using the blow dryer for about 10 seconds #got out to my car. hair all over my face. itchy. nothing to wipe it off with. #anyway. worst time was when someone gave me an extremely incorrect haircut bc of a language barrier & I wasn’t really mad about it #but I did cry in my car after bc I felt So ugly & dysphoric #also last complaint abt this poor person #she seemed to have Very little confidence in her choice of tool and changed the guard on her clippers and what clippers she was holding #like 3x more than was necessary & I know this because I get basically the same haircut every time w very little variation #& it just made me anxious that it was going to look bad bc her behavior was #making me feel like she wasn’t very experienced w the kind of haircut I was asking for #marc.txt #last last complaint for real not abt her #her coworker who was also misgendering me cut my hair last time I was there 😔

[dont-offend-the-bees]

Sometimes I'm like am I really trans? Really? Would it be easier to just go through life as my AGAB and save the special delicacy gender for the queer circles? Does it really matter that much to me?

Then I spend an entire evening getting misgendered and it's like ah yes. The Despair.

#I HATE ITTTTTTTT #AND IT WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN!! BC I'M NO BINARY AND DUNNO IF I WANNA DO HRT!!! SO I'LL ALWAYS LOOK LIKE THIS!! #AND I CAN LOOK MORE 'MASC' BUT ONLY WITH LOTS OF EFFORT AND BY CUTTING OUT CLOTHES N THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY #AND I HATE IT AND IT CONFUSES ME WHY DOES EVERYONE THINK I'M A GIRL I DON'T LOOK LIKE ONE #EXCEPT APPARENTLY??? I DO????? TO OUTSIDERS????????? #H O W #Worst part was both my folks not correcting anyone and even going along with the misgendering lmao excellent #What e v e r #Worse things happen at sea I guess #It'd be nice if they'd at least see why that's fucked though #Sigh #S I G h #Tis a day of sighs #I'm tired #I have to go to a meeting tomorrow and I don't wanna #I'm knee deep in a quarterlife crisis #Time to do a nandor and have a super slumber 20 or so years should do the trick #mr. bees speaks #Apologies for all the recent negative posts lads I'm having a Bit Of A Time

[taniushka12]

The thing abt me is that i only come out when its strictly necessary for Me to do it, otherwise id just tell someone that knows im a guy to spread the news so when i arrive i dont need to have That conversation at the very least

#fun fact when i came out to my dad he asked me if he could tell my aunt (frm my moms side) and it was like sure. #fastforward a day and my aunt Calls me asking me if she could tell the rest of the family and it was like By All Means! #it saves a lot of time lmfao #tani's personal shit #saying this bc my uncle frm my dad's side keeps inviting us for lunch and now that i started the tshots itd be really uncomfortable #if he + his wife dont know.... yknow? #yes i told my granny and she always gets it wrong but she's the only person allowed to misgender me bc shes got memory problems so w/e #but my uncles gotta know... by tomorrow..... #wont lie im a bit anxious abt how that'll go bc both of my cousins are different flavors of transphobes last time we touched the subject.. #but i Am his favorite and only nephew so....... anyway. im not the one having this conversation anyway but i still hope it goes well #anyway goodnight

[kindacreepy-kindaugly]

Wait is that where he got the whole bein closeted thing too cause that definitely wasn't canon related

#cause b started out (supposedly) not bein into guys n only kinda entertained the conversation cause he found the body attractive #which isn't a d i r e c t parallel but it's more of an explanation than anything else i've been able to think of n also kinda makes sense #he never misgendered us though n also ended up dating another guy (which was a whole fucking nother mess but anyway) #i think at least #wait no there might have been a phase where he was like 'it doesn't count if your body is female' but i think spike shut that down p fast #i. can't believe he rly took that n just kinda made it even more outrageously gendered #like uh val are you like. aware you're some kinda fucked up hybrid of these disjointed traits n ideas that apparently just #sat in a fucking time capsule for YEARS til they decided to fill in the blanks w/ the canon shit n fuck me over #i mean ofc he isn't he doesn't even acknowledge he's part of a system but. girllll get help #spdrvent

[gender-euphowrya]

had one of the therapy nurses who’s only been there for a couple months tell me while it was just the two of us that she’d not have guessed i was trans if she hadn’t been told and wrow

#it’s nice because i’ve only socially transitioned so i don’t really pass all that much #like no strangers like retail workers or w/e have gendered me correctly yet #so i was kinda feeling that i just did Not have any sort of passing yet #and then she comes around and tells me this and it’s like Oh? #it’s not much but i feel like knowing this i maybe would idk #at least once try to correct someone who misgenders me and see how that goes ? #because so far i’ve just said nothing because eh they’re people i’m never gonna see again it doesn’t matter #but i just want to try to like… gauge whether people like. #this isn’t the right word but ‘’agree’’ that i’m a he after i tell them #or if it’s still a bit early for that #so that i know i at least have that option when i get misgendered and feel it’d be worth correcting it #can’t wait for when i no longer have anything to correct in the first place though. the joy of someone spontaneously getting it right

[transmutationisms]

i have a q which might be controversial and also im not entirely sure how to word, so forgive me. i dont consider “transandrophobia” to be a useful term since androphobia is obviously not a thing that exists; additionally, i know that transmisogyny is the term used for the specific oppression faced by trans women and is the intersection of transphobia and misogyny. my question is - do transmasc ppl also experience oppression that is an intersection of transphobia and misogyny? i have to assume they do, at least in some ways, and so what would that be called? is that also transmisogyny? how do we define that?

ok, i get why people on here sometimes define transmisogyny just as "the intersection of transphobia and misogyny" (not just you—i have seen this phrasing a lot) but i think it's a bit oversimplified and misleading and kind of based on very distant third- and fourth-hand readings of crenshaw. one thing the term 'transmisogyny' is useful for pointing out is that transfeminine people are culturally marked specifically b/c of the directionality of their gender, ie, specifically for 'becoming' women or 'choosing' womanhood. it's this that disrupts the idea that women are a) immutably distinct from men and b) specifically distinct in that they are inferior. the cultural read of transfemininity isn't just that it transgresses the border between men and women, but that it specifically does so to claim womanhood. that's construed as inherently a threat to a logic of male supremacy.

i don't think it's that helpful to haggle over 'who experiences misogyny' and as many people have said before me, to some extent it's really a pointless question because misogyny is the root of the entire patriarchal gender system we all exist in. like yeah of course transmascs also live and operate in this context. and ofc we can be and often are misgendered and perceived as women who 'want' to be men or whatever. but what the term transmisogyny points to is the specific position of being marginalised for transfemininity: for being women & claiming womanhood. obviously this is not a guiding principle in the cultural construction of the figure of the transmasc because well, that's not the directionality of our gender transgression.

i am frankly so sceptical of the idea that transmascs 'need' a special term that somehow combines transphobia + misogyny in some different way because i think this idea belies a misunderstanding of what transmisogyny conveys and how it functions (for example, transmisogyny is very useful for picking apart the ways transfems are seen as both sexual objects and sexual deviants, & how this depends on misogyny that specifically is punishing, again, the idea of gender transgression that goes in the direction of identification & expression of womanhood—transmascs can ofc be sexualised or w/e but again this is a different cultural and discursive construction because we are not being punished for gender transgression in the direction of womanhood, but rather in the direction of 'abandoning' it for manhood, which is then still assumed superior and desirable). again i think a lot of this comes from kind of a superficial understanding of intersectionality and what that framework can achieve. transmisogyny is not just stacking transphobia + misogyny on top of one another like two different sheets of paper; transmisogyny functions in specific and describable ways and arises, again, not just from hatred of gender transgression but from the specific cultural construction & directionality of transfemininity.

[our-transmasculine-experience]

It's been on and off for what feels like the last couple months but I think I might be trans. I kinda remember wanting to be a boy when I was a little kid and I remember I used to try to intentionally make my voice sound deeper when I was like 15(? or maybe 14, something around those ages?) because I hated how my voice sounded but I stopped because my sister and mum took the piss out of me for doing it one time. I want to try presenting more masculine than I already try to do but my parents feel like a massive fucking roadblock to this. There's nowhere I know of that sells binders in person and I don't want to deal with the issues that could come from ordering them online(mainly my parents asking me what I ordered and stuff like that), my mum doesn't want me to cut my hair shorter because she thinks it'll be a shock to me or w/e. I hate having boobs so fucking much(they feel horrible and sweaty and I want them gone so badly but a part of me feels like that specific part might just be sensory issues) and there's no fucking way my parents are gonna let me get rid of my tits and also I remember during a car ride with my mum, sister and grandmother my grandma went on a rant about people asking for pronouns or w/e and while I don't think it got explicitly transphobic(or maybe it did, I don't remember too well) I ultimately remember coming out of it thinking "I will only come out once I'm able to move out of my house and be financially independent :)". But my parents don't even fucking let me try to get a job and I feel like I can barely even get any form of independence and I just feel so goddamn pathetic and with all the shit going on in the UK about trans rights I don't think I'll ever be able to come out even if I am able to eventually move out and the fact that I have an autism diagnosis(which I also fucking hate having so much and I sometimes wish I was never diagnosed) is just a whole other can of worms that I know will also be a massive fucking roadblock to coming out and actually transitioning. I don't want to say that my parents are transphobic(my dad at least seems like the safest person to come out to out of everyone) but my mum still sometimes accidentally misgenders a childhood friend of mine even though she's kinda known him long after he came out as trans and for some reason, I don't know if I'm misremembering what she's said but when she told me that my friend came out as trans I remember her saying something along the lines of "Just because [ ] is a boy doesn't mean you are too"(he wasn't there for this when she said that fyi) so I guess there's a decent chance she's just not gonna accept me as trans and I'm also scared that both of my parents will just think it's a stage at best and decide that they've had enough of me and kick me out at worst and I just fucking hate that I'm like this though I could be massively overthinking all of this and I just feel like shit about it, I just fucking wish I was born a guy or even some genderless blob so that I'd never have to think about this shit ever again. It's all just so suffocating and I hate being like this.

Sorry for the wall of text I just needed to get this off my chest at the very least.

i’m so, so, sorry that you have to deal with that. that sounds absolutely awful, and if you ever need to vent again or ask for advice, my ask box is open! (most of the times)

#shit like this breaks my heart #trans #queer #ftm #trans guy #trans man #trans boy #lgbtq #lgbt #transmasc #transgender

[seerofmike]

got a text outta the blue from my very christian grandmother abt how she is not going to call me mike or refer to me as a boy or say he/him etc etc ever to me. i was like ok i already know this. idk where this is coming from but w/e. then i get a call from my dad today saying hes sorry cuz he called my grandma today to talk and found out she texted me All That and he realized she texted me because a couple of days ago he got annoyed at her for misgendering and deadnaming me every other sentence and was like can you just call him mike. its really easy

anyways now im up in my feelings abt it because whoa hey what the hell. my dad actually cares about people misgendering me and deadnaming me and doesnt just do it when im around to be nice. thats cool. (is totally crying)

#up in my feelings abt it because multiple family members only gender me correctly when im actively in front of them . btw

[vampdyke69]

at a weird point in transition where it feels like no one notices my masculine characteristics when im presenting masc and v much trying to be read as male - then as soon as i present even a lil fem or like put on a dress, ppl notice and scrutinize my masculine aspects 1000x more and will like try to misgender me by he/him-ing me . like tht les feinberg quote or w/e abt being called the correct pronouns in a derogatory sense, like its just rlly weird (n often unsafe) feeling

#idk how to articulate it jst Thinking

[pansyboybloom]

i try not to touch the 'dont call people egg' thing bc it so often dissolves into transmisogyny and pointing fingers at trans women for trying to gaslight cis men or w/e bullshit people feel like inventing about trans women that day, but today something happened to me and idk what to make of it. posted a photo of myself in a dress and make up and was called an egg by a trans person bc they thought i was a gnc cis man when i am, in fact, a gnc trans man. they called me a woman, actively misgendered a fellow trans person, because i was gnc. i think egg jokes have a time and place, and discussing gender can lead to eggs cracking in a good way! egg comments can be helpful! but labeling strangers as a gender bc of how they dress is getting real close to reinforcing gender norms and it makes me real nervous

#okay to rb i guess?

[ftmtum]

hi this is my kink blog!

NO MINORS. I BLOCK AGELESS BIOS. i also do not do DMs simply bc i am not good at responding to messages irl and that would be compounded by the fact that i only look at this blog when im horny. HOWEVER i LOVE asks so feel free to send me some ANY TIME (and if u want me to answer them privately i can!!)

things i am into:

pregnancy

multiples / mutual preg / not knowing ur pregnant

clothes that don’t fit / pregnancy related stuckage or weight gain

lactation, expansion, hyper or rapid preg

sub top stuff / the dominant partner being pregnant (please)

trans men / transmasc people in any of these scenarios

i am NOT into: misgendering / detrans, the idea of pregnancy / having tits or w/e making a transmasc persons body more "feminine", scenarios where the pregnant person is EXPLICITLY not enjoying it (basically pregnancy as horror, punishment, or absolute negative).

#my post

[bleachellie]

so bewildering to me that it's almost funny when like.. i'm ~out~ in public and having a conversation w/ someone and it's going well, and they have all the information they need to clock me as a woman (i've introduced myself as ellie, i'm wearing a skirt or dress or w/e etc) ..and they still misgender me 😑

and i don't even mean in a necessarily malicious way, like for all intents and purposes they've been lovely to me so far!! but i think it's just a case of them like, connecting the dots and coming to the conclusion that.. i must be the gayest man on the planet??? bcos being a trans woman doesn't even occur 2 them 🤔

#i guess it's the next step up from ppl assuming i was a scottish man b4 a woman when i was wearing a pleated skirt lol

[wainwrightjakobshammerlock]

okay so i finished worlds of borderlands and here's my main takeaways

I knew 95% of this already but I'm a lore buff so it doesn't say much. I doubt I was the target audience for this anyways (it was probably gameplayers who think Borderlands lore has the depth of a kiddie pool).

"Six Galaxies" is confirmed to be not figurative. Humanity IS spread across six galaxies.

The timeline sux. Wdym Typhon was on Eden-6 only 34 years ago. Thats a lie (and does NOT match up with my age hcs). But I can ignore it I think who cares

There was an error where Monty was written instead of Wainwright. But I have a pen so I fixed that. They also misgender Lor once and there's a few typos so I fixed that as well. Ugh. This feels really rush-edited.

Alistair's handwriting is very nice, and his drawings are immensely lifelike.

The "writer" refers to Hammerlock by his first name a few too many times. Which to me is sacrilegious and should only be allowed by people closest to him but w/e.

Also despite the fact the entire wildlife section includes his things, the part about Wainwright later on does not contain much if any gushing. This is a crime.

HOWEVER the fact Al is the first guy mentioned in the "misc" character section pleases me greatly. Yes please bring my man to the forefront.

The excerpts I find most relevant:

#my post #borderlands #worlds of borderlands #worlds of borderlands spoilers #text post

[levmada]

Hello how are you? I’m missing trans!levi

Would you mind doing some cute, hurt/comfort and NSFW headcanons.

I‘d really like to know more 💕

Greetings 🌻

yes of course!!

//accidental misgendering, gender dysphoria, transmasc!Levi, female genitals called male names, slight homophobia/transphobia mention

kind of projecting my own trans experiences onto Levi here. there's no right or wrong way to feel about being trans, so pls don't come after me if u feel differently!

– Levi doesn’t have it in himself to get genuinely annoyed when someone misgenders him accidentally (emphasis on accidentally). He’s going to ignore it even, because mentioning it turns the entire mood awkward and it puts too much attention on himself. But whenever he’s with you and among work friends or w/e you come loyally to his defense each. and every. time. you firmly request that they remember who Levi actually is. He gets all flustered and crabby about it, but small stuff like that just makes his heart swell.

– Before you go anywhere to eat or grab coffee etc, you always check out the place on Google for gender neutral or family bathrooms because before the hormone injections changed his appearance enough for him to pass (tho Levi is never confident that he passes enough), he would simply refuse to use a public bathroom. Otherwise he’s inches from a breakdown until you get back home. If there’s only gendered bathrooms, you’ll go someplace else or won’t be there for long.

– Levi denies when he's triggered for as long as possible. You can tell when he goes silent instead of quiet, staring off into space or looking at you, but not seeing you. His hands knuckle in the fabric of his pants, his shoulders hunch. At these times he just needs to be alone, but he appreciates the lengths you go to to help, even when it's inconvenient for you. He tries to focus on being more thankful than ashamed - because mindset does matter.

– In the dark of your bedroom, or when he's in the mirror in the dim light of morning / winding down late at night, you sometimes go up behind him and whisper how handsome he is into his neck or into the shell of his ear. Affirmations he claims to find cringey but doesn't tell you to stop.

– A surprisingly big reason why the sex with you is so good on his end is because you don’t call what he’s got for what it is. When you’re making out so heavily you have to pull back for air, but you need each other so much you barely part an inch to gasp, you grind your palm between his thighs, moaning how hard he is makes him lose it. There’s something about how inconsequential it is, how you don’t have to comment at all, but you say he has a pretty cock when he spreads his legs for you… or begging him to come inside you when he’s using the strap.. It makes him both swoon and cum hard every time.

– His chest, before top surgery, is off-limits. He was unbearably anxious the first times you undressed him, because he wanted to either wear a shirt or have sex with the lights off, and he couldn’t stop calling himself a freak for that, so he didn’t know how to voice it. Just pried your hand off his shirt without thinking about it, and mumbled that he can't.

Now (but before his top surgery), you wait for him to change into a big t-shirt or sweater with zero judgment. His chest might as well not exist. He’d once apologized about making you “miss out” when it came to sex, but you shut him right down with a kiss and a reminder that you love Levi. With or without sex at all. (And then you gave him head.)

– Levi has trouble adjusting to a submissive role at first, mostly because of outdated ideas about gender norms. But whenever you call him a good boy... whenever you have him on his back and a vibrator pressed to his clit, telling him he can fuck it if he lets himself make a sound for you (considering he can't control the fragile high pitch when it feels too good)... he comes to enjoy it a lot.

– You have some men's t-shirts and pullovers in your wardrobe because you like to see Levi in your clothes as much as he likes to see you in his. Seeing how it's so easy to shop for his size, that makes it doubly convenient.

– Not really a relationship hc, but whenever Levi came out to Hange, they convinced you and Erwin to deadass throw a baby shower that next coming weekend with all these congrats it's a boy! balloons and shit ifjifj. There was even a cake. Levi swore on his life that he'd kill Hange one of these days, but all in all it was a pretty good day.

– Sometimes Levi over-compensates in appearing conventionally masculine in public, specifically when he's with you. He chooses the potential of asshole strangers deducing that he's trans and making a face at him (or saying something about it if they want to die) than the more likely potential of Levi not passing and someone making a face at a lesbian relationship. Shit like that almost never happens, but Levi is just the type of person to prepare in case of anything ever.

– Levi's music taste is usually slow, which is on a spectrum from Deftones to Taylor Swift's Folklore album, but you introduced him to an album by Against Me! called Transgender Dysphoria Blues. It's very punk-centric and rough, but it's honestly one of his favorites (and maybe some Cavetown).

– Levi always uses binders that are a bit too small for him because they "bind better", which is true, but easily makes him winded and leaves red creases on his upper half when he takes it off. You obviously don't agree with this, but he compromises by setting a timer of 8 hours on his phone - the max time you should always wear a binder - and obeying it 99% of the time.

– He always thought he was limited to certain sexual experiences because trying them on his own made him too uncomfortable, specifically using a dildo. He was the one who brought up trying penetration again actually, the condition being in the dark and under the covers, you behind him wearing the strap.

When you first push your fingers inside him, since he's almost never done it, he's shocked by how good it feels. He squirms in your arms and demands he's ready within a minute or less of that, so when you cautiously push in with the rubber cock - reminding him to tell you if it's not good - he squeezes your hand so fucking tight and just reels from the fullness. It's so lubed up and he's soaking wet, but it's hard to move at first because he's clamping down so much.

"God, you're throbbing," you whisper. "Does it feel good?"

His head is thrown back against your shoulder, not-so-subtly whining for faster, deeper, and somewhere along the line: "Call me... that again."

Your pace is hard but steady as you piston in and out of him. "What, a good boy? Of course... You're always my good boy, Levi."

He enjoys praise in the first place, but that's just what he needs, and he comes so hard you have to fight to hold him still, and he shouts so fucking loud.

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