#aphobes suck

[bl33ditout]

this is your reminder that this blog will always be anti ai 👍🏻 fuck ai and anybody who supports that garbage

#btw this blog will also never support aphobia (i'm literally a-spec...) or any other lgbtphobia ever #or any other bigotry or discrimination for that matter #probably goes without saying but hey doesn't hurt to remind #and ik basically all my mutuals and followers are cool but cant forget the one aphobe ex-mutual that had a little hissy fit lol #anyways back to ai - it sucks ass and it'll never replace real artists and creators #ai isn't inherently bad but like stop trying to say it'll replace human creators ok. that's lame #well back to regular posting now

[pet-cemetery-emotes]

unrealted but what does endo mean? /genq

Short hand for endogenic! Which usually means anyone who is plural for non trauma reasons! or who doesn't relate their plurality to trauma. if you don't know what plural means, there are a lot of definitions! I'd recommend googling around or talking to plural people, because i dont have good words today. plurality is often associated with DID, but that's not the only source or cause :) another common one is MADD (maladaptive daydreaming disorder) or immersive daydreaming!

take this with a grain of salt, though - people will often change their personal definitions of what it means to be plural or endo to exclude others. perhaps because of their own internalized ableism, or exerting control over their online spaces is the only control they readily get, or because picking on a subculture of a subculture means that their targets often won't be defended and they can get away with using them as stress toys. Similarly to queer infighting, and aphobia. Thumbs up emoji

#not emojis #it is often debated by people with DID in particular whether or not endos even exist #and i think. whether or not they do. anti-endos are pretty mean about it! their posts on it remind me of transmeds or aphobes. #i'd rather support people who later change their IDs or are wrong about themselves then people who bully them #been told both sides suck. i dont go into discourse. wouldnt know. but there are loud and mean people everywhere. #and the fact that people call it 'sides' when it's experiences... telling... #i prolly wont answer questions like this in the future #because i usually get hate mail afterwards! which is stressful or annoying depending on my mental state #i was not open about being plural for a long time because if you do it the “wrong way” or have unfinished or clumsy opinions #or ways of wording them... people wanna hurt you over it. #but anyone can ask me anything. <3 and i want to help. #so. risking it today. feeling brave/stupid i guess!

[toytulini]

god this stupid fucking intracommunity infighting bullshit never ends and im so god damn tired. stop it. and if youre fucking discoursing this stupid shit you should have to add a fucking disclaimer to your fucking posts at least im tired of having to search yalls blogs when smth slightly off about your wording that i cant explain has me like hmmmmm and then i end up right and i really dont want to be

#toy txt post #INNOCUOUSLY WORDED POSTS THAT YOU AT FIRST AGREE WITH AND THEN YOU SEE THE PATTERN #WITH YOUR HORRIBLE BRAIN OH SO PRIMED FOR THESE STUPID FUCKING DISCOURSE HINTS FROM THE FUCKING YEARS OF #UNAVOIDABLE ACECOURSE. ARE YOU ACTUALLY CALLING OUT TRANSMISOGYNY OR DO YOU BELIEVE #THAT TRANSMASCS DISCUSSING TRANSANDROPHOBIA AND CREATING THEIR OWN TERM TO DESCRIBE IT IS 'TRANSMISOGYNY' AND #YOU CONSIDER DISCUSSING THE EXISTENCE OF TRANSANDROPHOBIA TO BE TRANSMISOGYNY? BC THAT IS A DIFFERENT THING. #YOU ARE MISUSING THE WORDS TO ENTRENCH YOUR STUPID FUCKING DISCOURSE #YOU ARE EXACTLY LIKE ALL THOSE MOTHERFUCKERS IN 2016 WHO MADE INNOCUOUS POSTS COMPLAINING ABOUT HOMOPHOBIA AND CISHETS #THAT AT FIRST YOU READ LIKE YEAH HOMOPHOBIA SUCKS AND THEN YOU RECOGNIZE THE URL. OR YOU SEE THE COMMENTS. AND YOU REALIZE #OH WHEN THIS PERSON SAYS HOMPHOBIA. THEY MEAN A-SPECS EXISTING AND COINING TERMINOLOGY FOR OURSELVES. WHEN THEY SAY CISHETS THEY MEAN #A-SPECS. BUT BC OF HOW INNOCUOUSLY WORDED THE POST IS YOU CANT CALL THEM ON IT WITHOUT LOOKING INSANE. ALSO. THE MOST RECENT EXAMPLE OF #THIS I SAW. THE PERSON WAS ALSO A FUCKING APHOBE. LMAO. BC OF COURSE THEY WERE. FUCKING OF COURSE #GOD. FUCKING. IM SO TIRED OF THIS. IM TURNING REBLOGS OFF ON THIS POST. I AM NOT GOING TO ENGAGE WITH ANYONE ON THIS TOPIC #to be clear. not every post. not saying every post. but enough times now ive seen posts where like. i already knew context 4the situation #and the person was absolutely just trying to hide behind their marginalized identity. or like the op was innocuous but their mutual #replied showing their true colors in the notes so Now. everytime i see one of these posts im like yeah. that is a fair point #I will agree that when transfem ppl online do anything ppl slightly dont like the response is often disproportionate in a way that is like. #hmm some transmisogyny at play here for sure. however. now i cant fucking trust you ppl making the fucking POSTS. and im so TIRED #conservatives are like making trans genocide like one of their main fucking platform points for 2024 and youre trying to drive more fucking #wedges in the community rn? really???? REALLY? #im so tired im so fucking tired. im turning reblogs off. do not contact me about thos post. check the context of posts ig bc ppl will #just fucking say anything #also god. i forgot about cl0set k3ys being an aphobe lmaooo #even if theyve apologized im just blocking based on that 2017 post alone god that was rancid. why did yoh say that. shut up forever. bye #im about to just start fucking blocking every user i see without bothering so search #like just every user regardless of vibes or content. just going to be me and my mutuals in here and all the posts they reblogged from #everyone i have blocked

[vulpinesaint]

if you ever tell me how funny you think the warm milk post was by the way it gives me a sudden and intense vision into the fundamental differences in our life experiences up to this point. and also makes me really fucking uncomfortable

#not a funny post just so we all know. i know ace people have to do all the work of pointing out how that stuff was like. aphobic. #cause the point was making fun of ace people. and mocking ace people. #and it followed a huge trend of doing that + destroying our community #and people pretending to be ace to make posts to make like? ad hominem attacks on asexuality? #and so it fucking Sucks actually? and i know that it always has to be ace people that go to the trouble of telling you that #but. well. hm! #valentine notes #asexuality

[dumpster-lizard]

Asexual/Aromantic headcanons: Good, I love them, keep going

Asexual/Aromantic headcanons based specifically on characters lacking genitalia or even being nonbinary: I am blowing you up with my mind

#high key feels aphobic to me #our sexuality is not based on our genitals #again ace headcanons are fine #im ace #but hcs based solely on the basis of a characters sex or even gender suck

[void-imp]

the op of that lgbt and opinion on beer post you reblogged is being Aphobic in their replies letting you know :(

oh fuck i didn’t know! i’m ace myself so fuck them, will delete my reblog now. thanks for letting me know!

#ask #aphobes can literally suck their own toes #anon

[redysetdare]

Look, i get it. You're SAD your Aro. You're SAD your Ace. you HATE not feeling romantic/sexual attraction. you WISH you were allo. Life isn't how Amatonormativity said it would be. I GET IT. But at some point u gotta stop wallowing in self pity and misery and reach the acceptance stage of grief. I promise you that you will feel better once you stop feeling bad for yourself and start realizing you aren't broken for being aspec. literally you have the option to not live your life feeling miserable over something you can't change. You will find other things to make you happy. you will find that you don't have to "miss out" on anything. You can find happiness. You just gotta learn to let go of your misery. You deserve to find happiness, even if it's not in the way you original thought you would.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #also it's just good to let go of the internalized aphobia because every aphobic thing u say is seen and heard by other aspecs #dont think ur self deprecating posts are only effecting you. #but literally the amount of ppl i see who just wallow in their own misery instead of like...even trying to find happiness elsewere is wild #i promise u that u dontt have to feel this way all the time #'i can never be in a romantic relationship' who says that? you literally can if u want to no one is stopping u except for urself there bud #yeah it's not exactly as amatonormativity described it but amatonormativity was BS to begin with sooooo #iidk i just dont get the point of feeling sorry for urselfwhen ur handed something that gives u a new perspective on the world #i just dont think it's healthy for so many ppl to just trap themselves in a grief and not move on from that #like yeah i get it sucks but also u gotta learn to accept and love urself as u are at some point #if only for your own emotional health

[aroace-genderfluid-snake]

God, I’m so fucking tired of romance.

Like seriously! It’s everywhere! And where it’s not? People try to say it is! Like is that all you alloromantics think about? Is it that great that most people, consciously or not, believe they need it to be happy? Is it addictive or something? Why does it belong everywhere? Why is it that the moment there’s any sort of aromantic rep, people are trying to prove that they’re not aromantic? Why is it that, if I explain my ideal relationship to an alloromantic person, they’ll probably just tell me it’s actually romance? Why is my sexuality considered nothing when half of the romantic bullshit out in the world literally has no substance?

Why am I considered less? Because aromantic people are. We’re considered less queer, less lgbt, even by people who aren’t exclusionists. Not only that, but aromantic, along with asexual, is considered to just be a modifier: this is a straight person who doesn’t want sex (never mind that isn’t what asexual means), this is a bi person who isn’t interested in a romantic relationship (again, not what aromantic means), this is a non-binary person, their sexuality is nothing!

Did you know that there’s literally no scientific studies on aromanticism? Did you know that conversion therapy for us is very much still legal in almost every single country? Do you know what it’s like to learn your identity in a community who’s modo is “love is love!” to find out you can’t fall in love? Do you know how fucking dismissive it is when people say “oh, but there’s platonic love! There’s other types! Just because you’re aromantic doesn’t mean you can’t feel love!” when someone so much as comments on aphobia in a post very much directed towards romantic attraction? Not to mention how fucking cruel it is to look at aromanticism like that. Like it’s unfortunate. And how saying we can still feel other types of love isn’t even true to all aromantics.

The first time I heard of asexuality and aromanticism was in an exclusionist’s post. I was on Instagram, which is a fucking cesspool, but I was also 13, so I didn’t know. And you know what happened? I believed it. For the next three years, I believed it! And all I can think, as I look at some of you, is that if exclusionist didn’t include trans people and weren’t terfs, you’d be silently agreeing with them. That you are agreeing with them when it comes to the aspec community. Because I’ve gone down the exclusionist pipeline before, and you guys? Some of you are already in.

#lol it’s 4 am and I’m tired but. idk. i just read something that set me off #it was my own fault. I knew it’d be about romance. but. #but I don’t know. i guess I’m just tired of expecting aphobic comments every time I read anything romance related #what does it matter? most the people who read this will also be aspec. the ones that aren’t are mostly already good allies. #and the rest can go fuck themselves I don’t have the energy for them #I’m tired. so tired. in a way that’ll never go away. or more accurately wont go away until I don’t have to see romance everywhere #and this isn’t abt seeing couples in public or seeing gay ppl talk abt their romantic relationships. it’s really not. #it’s about how if a show had a canonical qpr so many people would see them as a romantic couple. act like they can’t be anything but #it’s about how the few times I’ve posted abt aro hcs ppl have gotten mad at me #it’s about how romance is referred to as something more. fuck y’all for that one. seriously. y’all suck #and yeah it’s been worse and it’s getting better but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m tired #a better future doesnt erase a worse past #but whatever. most people don’t care either way #aro #aromantic #arospec #asexual #aroace #oh yeah the aroace nonbinary person is me and that actually happened ❤️ #queer #lgbtqai #aphobia tw #ace #aspec #acespec #happy pride. I’m going to sleep

[weresehlat]

Wow! Twitter fucking sucks! Anyways.

#Sasha Makes A Post #Ace Discourse is fucking back and it sucks more than ever #And I am NOT going to emotionally put together a huge thread of why my trauma around it is valid and important b/c: lmfao. Lol. Nobody cares #I'm not out here to leave deeply personal details floating on the internet #Just wish whatever coward bully made a whole new sockpuppet just to QRT me implying ME. A TRANS PERSON. am being transphobic #for saying "I'm surprised the aphobic backlash to this got so big. I thought exclusionists were hammering on trans folks exclusively now'' #would DM me their main so I could properly mega extra super block them or whatever #Genuinely distressed by the idea of it being someone I regularly talk to and not sure how to deal with that! Anyways.