#at this point its just a red flag for me

[drev-the-procrastinator]

ugghhh EBU refusing to let Zelenskyi speak at the Ukrainian Eurovision finale because "it would be against the rules because Eurovision is apolitical uwu" like. EBU. Girl. You do understand that refusing to let him speak there is a political act in and of itfself right???? Do you think you kicked Russia out for the lols??? The 1st semifinal's show with all the text messages on the screen was just a fancy visual??? The pride flags in the audience not a political statement in support of LGBTQ+ rights??? lmao please. apolitical my ass

#eurovision #esc 2023 #eurovision 2023 #eurovision song contest #not to even mention all the other years #like idk. hosting in israel and banning all palestinian flags but letting israel use those territories in its postcards. #letting russia put up a tank and the red-army choir on stage when they hosted. #why did camilla and charles get a cameo in the opening video but zelenskyi can't show up????? ukraine WON #i'm so annoyed at the hypocrisy #besides deciding what counts as apolotical and what doesn't is also a political act #so like-------- #ugggghhhhhh #i just watched a video essay about the politics in eurovision so it annoys me extra #because i just had so many examples of politics in esc pointed out and now they're again like "esc being apolitical is a cornerstone uwu'' #no the fuck it's not #ughhh

[maxgicalgirl]

Archive 81 tv show made Melody Pendras straight we cannot trust podcasts in the hands of mainstream media !!!!!!!

#archive 81 #I have mixed feelings about it and as soon as they introduced Gal Pal Annabelle to replace Actual Girlfriend Alexa it should have been a #red flag #conceptually I really liked what they did to flesh out the first season #but they took it in a completely different direction by the end and at that point it’s not even the same thing anymore 🙄 #like you can’t even pick up anything from the original’s season 2 because they reconstructed the narrative so much #idk man its not like they’re going to make any more of it anyways but I still felt the need to come on here and bitch #honestly main stream adaptations of podcasts scare me like I revel in exposure for things I like but ultimately so much gets lost in #translation #like archive 81 podcast is weird and nonsensical at times and Tape Recorder Man’s adventures in the Upside Down just don’t translate to a #general audience ? so they gotta bring in reasons for it to make sense like satanism and witches and demons #when that was sooooooo not the point of the original #like seeing how much they had to adjust to appeal to an outside audience makes me almost glad the wtnv tv show didn’t get green lit #can you imagine ???? how the fuck would they get five headed dragon Hiram McDaniel on my actual television ???? #standing next to a Cecil Palmer with a canon appearance no less #like adaptations are cool and they CAN work sometimes but if you’re going to have to break and bend the world in order to make it to the #point where it’s a new thing entirely #ESPECIALLY since we live in a world where audio drama is not respected as a creative medium #at that point I’m just like leave it alone it’s fine on it’s own #anyways archive 81 is an interesting experiment into what live action podcast adaptations COULD look like but you can pry lesbian Melody #Pendras from my cold dead hands and that makes the adaptation automatically inferior imo #I guess she could be bi but when you remove Canon Girlfriend and instead make her kiss a man ? not likely #I am just talking to hear myself talk now goodbye #max rambles in the tags

[legionofpotatoes]

been playing bits and pieces of horizon forbidden west! game's pretty as hell

#horizon forbidden west #photo mode #my edits #yannow. it got me thinking too. the npc fidelity in this game is off the fucking shits. never seen anything like it #even ​secondary dialogues are leaving all the competition in the dust. it's an insane level of work #major burnout red flags for sure. but also maybe talking about engines as specialized tools instead of ubiquitous ones isn;t so bad? #i mean there's definitely trends. ramming down RPGs down frostbite's throat has never worked well #while decima is tearing up the open worlds and tech fidelity quotas like nbd even on prev gen #is it really about implementation at this point #maybe some engines just. work best for certain types of hard goals. and choosing that right is what matters #i pkayed this after ragnarok and that game looks embarassing next to hfw. and I'm not even saying it flippantly. I stand by what i've said #shorter games less scope lower fidelity etc. for healthier dev teams. but this can be a scalability tell tale? maybe using something #like decima can mean an easier time for a standard EA dev cycle *without* hitting these insane fidelity goals. just thinking out loud #cause forever salty about frostbite. probably wrong but hey! I am on a blogging website famous for its phobia of deeper contexts #or maybe playing as aloy gave me that stupid self confidence juice #the way she bulldozes into delicate foreign policies with nothing but her ego and hutzpah really proves that whiteness is alive and well #in whatever variant of post-post-apocalypse this story is set into. they better interrogate her issues cause otherwise this plot will like #fizzle out under the weight of her self-righteousness lmao

[butchez]

sigh. people are very meanies about friendless people thus exacerbating the issue

#person sitting behind me wouldnt stop talking abt how she thought being friendless at 20yo was a huge red flag like ......its liyterally #like the biggest transitory period in your life keeping your friends at that point is more a matter of luck than anything #idk. personally ive made peace with my general friendlessness i just hate when people act like making friends is easy #jude talks

[gibbearish]

yknow what bugs me is when ppls criticism of YA media boils down to them just not knowing how teenage crushes work

#'bella being depressed because edward wasnt at school is unhealthy obsession' no that's called having a crush #'him asking her out by them hearing a rumor saying theyre dating and bella going 'what should i say' +him responding 'well i guess you could #tell them yes. yknow just because its easier' is lame and boring' are you kidding me i ate that shit up at that age #when two shy awkward people flirt thats how you end up in a relationship is you both kind of just sidle your way up to it #and i dont even feel like that one contributes to like 'things abt him that arent necessarily red flags on their own but as a whole point to #bad things' like. from what i gathered feom the movie bella did not seem like the type to like some big first move #like. shes an emo bruh girl. if it wasnt some sort of edgy teenage heartthrob performance then shed just brush him off like #every other Conventionally Attractive Dude™ falling all over her #ppl keep acting like her not going for every other dude who wants her is a character flaw or bad writing but. like #literally just have you ever met a depressed teenage girl. #shes Not Like Other Girls™ and finds regular guys who express emotions in regular ways boring #her wanting him over every other bland boring safe guy she could have in an instant isnt a plot hole‚ its characterization #also i disagree with the vibe that she's just a blank slate like. as someone who was a depressed teenage girl #she didn't come across as blank to me #she came across as. depressed and emo and trying so very hard to look cool and mysterious at all times and had #spent her life up to that point praying to find out magic was real and could whisk her away into a life of adventure and romance and drama #you look me in the eyes and tell me that girl didn't spend middle school chewing through every book she could get her hands on #as fast as possible. #idk #origibberish

[effervescentdragon]

wheres that post abt havimg an archenemy that doesnt even know you exist i just remembered that if i ever see denis villeneuve its on fucking sight

#i just watched sicario and i had an off feeling the whole time #i mean i guessed some of the plot points but tb #hats not the point. the point is the directing #it gave me a certain feeling #the movie ends. OF FUCKING COURSE its villeneuve #i literally dont know that i'll even watch dune in my life #especially after the og my beloved trash #idk if zendaya and sexy daddy isaac are worth suffering three more hours of villeneuve #anyways i should probably check who makes these movies #but i saw victor garber and i never looked back #my only red flag is that i am still absolutely in love with victor garber #but also. i should probs read the like. who wrote the fics im reading. or posts im reblogging #... imma queueue this actually #effervescentdragonrants

[arolesbianism]

So. Sit with me everyone. We agree that we need to stop worshipping a person or media on the sole grounds of being gay right. Can we finally agree that it's not homophobic to criticize gay ppl with large platforms. Can we finally actually learn to think critically abt how these ppl talk abt ppl outside of their immediate identities and to recognize that just because they say they aren't bigoted doesn't mean they aren't. Please.

#rat rambles #like seeing ppl dunk on james is vibdicating and all but also. yall do realize that even without the plagerism hed still be a piece of shit #and that another white man shouldnt have to spell out to you what misogyny is #<- directed at ppl who watched mr misogyny before hand #Im not saying anyone is a bad person for not realizing. Im just saying to be more careful and attentive in the future #dont be scared to criticize the ppl you watch even if you dont think theyre a bad person #hell Ive been watching hbomberguy for years and he is certainly not perfect #like in a lot of his old videos you can rly see some unconcious ableism #and I could go on and on with nitpicks and gripes Ive had with him over the past several years but thats not the point of this post #the point is that you need to get yourself comfortable with digging deeper into the things you consume #a lot of ppl will say things like 'oh this person gave me a bad vibe but I didnt think it was this bad' #and I want to just say if you get that sort of bad vibe then fucking dig deeper!! interrogate that feeling and where its coming from! #this also applies to situations where you might dislike someone for bigoted reasons of your own #I think ppl try way too hard to train themselves to not interrogate their discomfort and it's so not good for your critical thinking skills #and in fact interrogate your comforts too #just in general thinking abt why certain things make you feel certain ways is good practice and will help you see red flags sooner #is this gay guy focusing more on gay men than gay women? why might this be? is it really the topic like he says it is? #if you think well Im also more interested in gay men that gay women in history so hes not doing anything bad #then question why you think that. idc how uncomfortable it makes you to question your views on minorities fucking do it #cause imagining you arent misogynist or racist or whatever the fuck doesnt make you less bigoted #if you want to be the ally you think you are you need to suck it up theres not rly a kinder way I can manage to put it

[iwantyoursexmp3]

i went through a magazines archive of (monthly) issues this year -- common hobby of mine -- and the same writer was in at least 5 issues and i'm just like....sorry that is weird to me! not the being published by the same mag multiple times part but to be in nearly half of a magazine's year of issues is so??? do you as an editor not want some variety in the people you publish lol

#idk i just think that many in a small space of time at some point you have to be like hey we should give space for someone else #honestly...as someone with not a lot of pubs its offputting to me because i don't see an intention on the magazine's side #to make sure they're publishing a variety of voices + taking the chance to uplift new writers #i absolutely agree with mags that have a 'cool off' period for writers they publish before they can submit again #to give space for others + some variety #even magazines who don't like....do you not feel weird submitting so soon after?? #like i would have a self imposed cool off period #the two mags that accepted me this year i absolutely love and would submit to again #one has a cooldown period but i won't submit to them again unless i have something i rly feel would suit there #one doesn't and its a mag that publishes one story at a time so its great for a writer to have a moment where all the eyes are on them #so i would rather enjoy my moment when it comes and then sit back for a while so others can have it you know #anyway i looked at their 2022 archive and the same writer was there multiple times too #that's suspicious. that's weird. and bare in mind each issue is like 9 stories #to so frequently give one of those 9 spaces to the same writer for whatever reason is a litmag red flag FOR ME

[toytulini]

mental health just straight up plummeting

#toy txt post #everyday the smallest things have me spiralling into such stupid despair #constantly fighting myself cos every single thing has me wanting to throw up my hands and walk the fuck off bc theres bo point #whats the fucking point!! just despair and exhaustion and burned the fuck out and gnashing at the fucking walls and then spiralling into #a stupid little self pity self hate spiral cos im just a weak stupid little baby who cant handle the real world. plenty of ppl have it so #much worse and havent given up yet so whats my fucking problem? which is so stupid. but i cant logic my way out of this one #so i am simply sitting here feeling so god damn bad #and i dont even really have. a good reason for it. idk. like i dont have a lot of concrete quantifiable reasons i can present about why #i am so goddamn miserable at my job. im just. going insane i need out im performing badly its not worth it theres no fucking point #every day im fighting the urge to just fucking walk off over the stupidest tiniest things that are definitely not worth that kind of #reaction. like yea maybe i do need like mental health meds or smth but i also know. i need out of this fucking. job. but i dont know #like. idk its like my options are just kore of this same stupid bullshit or retail/food service. and like. shout out to retail and food #service. i fucking could not i fucking cannot. but like im reaching that point here too. everything hurts all the time with no reprieve and #all my options just feel like its gonna be ! even more stupid repetitive motions that wont help! like idk! idk what to do. i just #wanna read about stupid little fucking worms and fish but doing that professionally im not sure im up to it and #between me and that career path is thousands of dollars and homework. so #now im the rat instead now im the rat instead now im the rat instead now im the rat instead #trying so hard not to display idk red flag behavior but im Going Insane. i should just start crying at work. why bother hiding it. whats the #point #vent #ig #i should go eat. and waste the rest of my stupid fucking night playing zelda trying to soothe my brain enough to function except im not #functjoning cos then itll be 5am again and ill have done nothing but play zelda and be up too late and go to bed and not get enough sleep #and be a little to a lot late and be miserable and the cycle just fucking never ends #not enough fucking podcasts about worms out there for this #i opened several academic papers on tongue eating isopods to cope and barely read them bc i cant do that at work it takes too long and i get #lost and my productivity is already in the shit and i need to stop being on my phone and i know that but like also if i dont fucking #distract my stupid fucking brain right fucking now im gonna start throwing things and crying #anyway. thats how im doing. bye

[invisibleoctopus]

kind of minor kind of related to the post about needing to be told what i do wrong but i "love" making a post on r/AreTheStraightsOk where i read ALL the rules and i posted it and then i get the message "your post has been removed because it doesn't fit the spirit of the sub, look at rules 5 and 8" I ALREADY LOOKED AT THOSE RULES AND I THOUGHT I WAS FINE THATS WHY I POSTED IT. AT LEAST TELL ME WHICH FUCKING RULE I BROKE

#le p2iigh #this was before the boycott or before i knew about it or something #my guess is if i asked for further clarification they wouldve told me to post it in r/crazygirls. no. the misogynist vibes are yucky #i was just trying to make a point about how its 'cute' and 'sassy' for a girl to say 'when im giving attitude but he gives it back' #but how if the roles were reversed 'when im giving my girl attitude and she gives it back' ppl would be like 'RED FLAG ALERT' #but its a red flag no matter which gender is starting shit and which gender is receiving the shit

[binders-and-beanies]

Why do people like. Make me feel weird about being attracted to people my own age. Like I’m 24 and I’ll say that someone who’s like 22-26 is cute (anyone younger than like 21 is probs a no for me) and people will be like um they look like a fucking child you freak. Like sorry not everyone I’m attracted to looks like someone’s parent? Sorry I wanna feel worthy of people in my age group being into me too? I’m in college and want the life experience of having partners who are also in college? But then when I have partners who are 30+ people tell me I’m a victim. Why is everyone so ready to make trans and disabled ppl feel creepy for not just being fuckin ace I don’t get it WHO am I supposed to like

#mine #txt #got reminded of this bc of a post where someone said it’s a red flag to be attracted to the percy jackson guy bc he looks like a baby #my coworkers do this constantly like I’m known as Guy Who Fucks Older Men #but then if someone my literal same age is into me and I’m into them too it’s like ‘um wtf they’re not my personal type so you’re weird’ #like yeah lady you’re in your late 30s it makes sense for u to think someone in their early-mid 20s looks young FOR YOU #and same w people my age like. you have the privilege of dating within ur age range so u don’t know any other experience #but it’s like fucked up of me to want that? #its similar to how ppl treat gender and attraction like ur literally just not supposed to like anyone #bc it’s all sinful just in different ways #should not have to FUCKING say this but don’t use this post to justify any actual whack shit #my whole point is DONT equate attraction to like 21-25 year olds w attraction to like. minors. #like if you’re pro fucking whatever don’t touch this #also for context almost all my long term partners have been specifically 2 years older for some reason #so it’s not like it’s Only old men who like me but that’s just like. the most common demographic #I know I’m making many different points in the tags don’t mind me I haven’t slept

[3knecrotic]

Yknow my girlfriend asked me If I was addicted to dxm and honestly that shit is so god damn nuanced I probably wouldn't say yes until I've like. Fucked for it or puked taking too much quite frankly

#dk speaks #rambles #like #addiction is kind of fucked #stupidly fucked #i dont think id ever reach a point where i Would be addicted to something im just Generally a depressed fucking idiot #like yeah no i feel empty and sad and closed off and can barely talk to people handle people or do basic shit like clean without the drug #but also. #thats not #the Drug's fault #im just Like that as a default sooo #idk #addiction is a weird discussion to me if its about Bot your typical losing a job body going necrotic from drug use type addiction #i mean i am very willing to get seritonin syndrome for a good high which isnt great and probably a red flag #but regardless of such my life is relatively stable soooo #shrugs

[ging-is-a-boar]

I really wish I could rb the "I'm not pr*ship or anti, I'm a NORMAL person with a JOB" (or whatever) post, but mannn in my experience, people that say those things things and won't stop talking about how they're "ANTI" ship discourse very frequently are revealed to be into some weird shit

#nbh!! im just saying i personally dont like saying those things bc its at the point where its a red flag for me #if you have to go on and on about how normal you are... #??? #i personally want to stay out of it but im not going to be outspoken against the discourse either

[scrollypoly]

Feeling oddly validated in this chillis tonight

#theres a reason i only have a handful of people blocked #aside from the bots obviously #i dont like blocking people. if i block you i have a damn good reason #some are personal. some are just #you give me uncomfortable fuckin vibes and i dont like nor trust you #this is a case of the latter #glad i somehow dodged all this even tho i got messaged by one of the players #ill gladly watch from the sidelines #tho i can also say ive been seeing red flags in this person from their dms to me literally 2 years ago #my posts #im being purposefully vague dont @ me #i dont want to be involved i just think its so gd funny #all the twists and turns to read through its like a movie #im so so sorry to the other creators tho. believe me #i know how it feels to trust someone and learn theyve turned their back on you and talked shit about you #they have every right to feel as hurt and betrayed as they do #and you. focal point of all this. you are pretty scummy to be pulling this shit after bragging your experience and maturity in this fandom #saying others should know better bitch you should know better!! #quit projecting your superiority complex onto others and stay in your gd lane #okay . . . rant over #delete later

[tortellinigirl]

how tf are we right back to “this person can’t be an abuser!! i like them and they’re nice to me :-)” like haven’t we already had this conversation?? do people seriously think that abusers are evil right off the bat 24/7 to everyone they meet??? abusers aren’t gonna go around abusing everyone they fucking meet lmao. nobody is gonna stick around for that. they choose one person and very slowly turn up the abuse so they don’t even realize it’s happening until it’s too late. and if they’re any good at manipulating, they’ll make sure to come off as likable and charismatic to everyone else, bc then nobody will suspect anything. and if anyone DOES suspect anything, nobody will believe it because “he’s too likeable and charismatic to do that”

like that’s literally how it works ?????

#its ON PURPOSE!!! #personally if someone is charming and charismatic it sets off alarm bells for me bc my dad was SO charismatic #people LOVED HIM #and obv the fact that it puts me on edge is a result of my trauma and not actually a valid assessment of that person #like just to clarify being charming isn’t a red flag in and of itself #but abusers can be very charismatic to the point that my brain now associates that with abuse bc of my dad

[kelprot-old]

actual worst thing in the world happens to me every single night and that is me looking through all the ao3 pages for 10k+ goro akechi fics and finding nothing that isn’t either a) something i haven’t read before or b)  written. actually well

#i love reading a bit of smthn before bed but </3 i went into a frenzy a year or two ago and went thru the entire tag #and now i just. mostly reread the same 2 fics if i end up going on that site for entertainment #i say ''written well'' because even if i'm on ao3 i am SO picky and i cannot read stuff that's like. generic or just clearly beginner-y #likeYEAH....its a bit pretentious of me but. the less time i spend on that site the better i think. and at least i'm only reading good stuff #i've got my RED FLAGS in a little bullet point list in my brain and i will knock out hundreds of contenders. not reading u tonight fucker!!! #and probably not reading u ever actually #anyways whatever