#ethren is not the hero

[ethrenisnotthehero]

hello, everyone. it’s been a while.

things happen. days go by. regardless of what we hope for the future, best laid plans remain just that, and people we hoped we could count on slink away like cowards into the background.

maybe this is a bad time for this. i honestly don’t know, because i haven’t spoken with jill in a long time.

i wish there was something more i could do. i wish that i could be physically present as some kind of comfort. i wish i that i’d heard back from people, wish that my calls and emails had ever been answered, even wish that maybe i’d gone to his doorstep and knocked his teeth out of his stupid fucking face myself.

it’s so, so frustrating to be powerless when people so awful seem to get away scott free, and the worst part is that, literally to this day, he’s STILL making her miserable every way he can, poking his head into her life and reminding her that no one can ever make him stop.

in these last two years, we’ve had three more people come forward who were affected by ren’s bullshit, and buttercup herself reach out personally.

ultimately, how frustrated i am can’t even compare to how she must feel.

some of my thoughts and feelings are very different than they used to be. i’m sure that over the last two years, ren’s been up to the same flavor of bullshit. i can’t help but wonder if there were people alienated, then, who are very different people now. two years feels like a blink to me, but it’s a long time for people who suffer.

some things, like how angry i am, are even stronger than they used to be.

where i am today is very different, but i haven’t forgotten. i haven’t gone anywhere. i know you. i know where you are. i don’t believe in a hell, but i do know that the world has a way of turning vipers on their own tails.

these are a lot of fancy words that, ultimately, mean very little. how i feel and what i think isn’t important in the scheme of things.

i probably will not be back here. i hope that my friend finds some peace in the quiet. eventually, even the biggest waves turn into tiny ripples, and, ultimately, fade into the backdrop.

be well. be strong. things will be alright.

#ethren is not the hero #ethren whitecross #ethren #Kyril #Aven #lucian #skyren #hogwarts legacy #hogwartsmystory #hogwarts mystery #hphm #hphl #hphm drama #BELIEVE survivors #aaron strider #strider #advanced scribes #advanced-scribes #awesome sauce #chicken smoothie #chickensmoothie #quill and ink #quill and ink roleplay #qni #captured hearts

[slytherin-puffskein]

Masterlist

Newest additions are bolded.

Tumblr has the habit to gobble up a lot of things, so I decided to make a small masterlist in order to keep order in my things ! Here, you can see many stories I wrote, from walls of text to little drabbles ! Not all of them are included, as I wanted to only write down those I liked the most.

Last Updated: January 11th 2020

AO3

Barnalau Canon Timeline

Angsty works

Cinderella

Withered Orchid

Stefen Jacob King’s True Self

Don’t Go

Three Rules

Redemption (Three Rules Part 2)

Wasted

Claws

Fluffy works

Lau realizes he has a crush on Barnaby

For the Dancing and the Dreaming

How Barnaby and Lau started dating

Kisses and Puffskeins

Soft Pretzel

The Secret Garden

Morning Cookies

Milkshakes and Deals

Waiting for Sunday

Thunderstorm

A Grand First Impression ( Barnalau and side Lau x Aurélie Dumont )

I Promise You

Hands

I’m Sick of Everything, I Just Wanna Hold You

November Kiss ( Pocky Day Fic! )

Miraculous Ladybug AU

A Hero’s Duties

Comfort

Beauxbatons AU

Farewell

Reunion

Barnaby Lee’s Struggle

Fins and Legs AU

Lemonade

Laurent Dorian King’s Curiousness

Compliments

Prompts

Royalty AU

Facing Mrs Norris

Cheesiness Battle

Insecurities

The Downside of Pranks

Tulip’s Awful Timing

The Great Chocolate Theft

Because I Love You

A Forbidden Relationship

Just to say I love you

Dropped my quill !

War’s End Kiss

Part Time Lover, Full Time Friend ( sequel to War’s End Kiss )

Drabbles

A Prince and His Knight ( fluff )

Horrendous Obligation ( angst )

Shared Paradise ( fluff )

Elegance ( fluff ) - Romantic Oscar/Laurent/Barnaby

The Unwilling Prince ( fluff ) - Romantic Oscar Whelan/Tulip Karasu

Twelve Ways To Fall In Love With You Series

Capricorn

Scorpio

Libra

Barnalau Headcanons

Honeymoon

Domestic life

Lau/Other MCs

Nothing Kingly about being Caught in the Crosshairs ( Laurent King/Ethren Whitecross )

Ashen Feelings ( Platonic Laurent King/Skylar Morningstar )

The Friendship between Laurent King and Oscar Whelan

Hope’s Lullaby + sequel by @benscursedkid

Don’t Cry, Snowman

A Tale of freeing Oneself from Control

Ruben and Ilse van Alsteen

Arsène Bellegarde

HPHM Ships

A Happily Ever After Tale ( Bill Weasley/Rowan Khanna ) - Angst

#masterlist #sorta #my writing #lau king #barnalau #barnaby lee x mc

[hphm-tea]

how is it all this proof comes out and theres like... no one talking about it. like all those blogs that jumped to defend ren when they thought he was the one being abused. i don't understand why they wouldn't want to like... make sure everyone knows they arent associated with a pedophile anymore

It’s hard to say for certain why some don’t want to talk about it. There are some for whom this drama is just a fringe of the fandom for them. They might not be involved or know anyone closely involved, so it’s easy to just turn away from it. Don’t blame them, if someone came up to me and started screaming about a toxic person in a fandom I was barely in, I’d be weirded out and step away too.

For the ones who were quick to defend Ren, many don’t care about the abuse and hurt he has caused. They don’t care that he was of age and his ex was a minor, they don’t care that he faked cancer. They still support him in private. 

They are quiet about this support. It’s easy to do that now that Ren is no longer on tumblr. But they think he’s a good guy. He’s the real victim. Jill is the real bad guy, even though she was a minor through all of the relationship. She was the toxic, manipulative one, who plays the victim. But they know that it’s really Ren who is the victim. It’s easy to believe when they have their head in the sand. They don’t have to hear about how he faked cancer, and had an intimate relationship with a minor. 

These supporters are the ones who’ll block anyone the minute they say anything bad about Ren. Doesn’t matter that, HEY NO, there’s some legitimacy to this and this is heavy shit you might wanna listen, they don’t want to hear it. They don’t want to know he’s a bad guy. 

These people are still in the HPHM fandom. 

#ethren is not the hero #ethren whitecross #hphm #harry potter hogwarts mystery #anonymous ask

[ethrenisnotthehero]

@hogwartsmystory is a predator (final)

If you haven’t read the other parts of this callout, I encourage you to start here. As in both previous posts, the normal tags are not included in order to allow this to reach as many people as possible. Potential triggers are listed below, and the main content is hidden to keep sensitive individuals from being unintentionally exposed.

TW: Pedophilia, Abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual Assault, Self Harm, Suicide, NSFW Topics, Faked Illness, Faked Mental Illness, Faked Death, Victim Blaming

Originally, I intended to craft this final part to you, the reader, as an emotional appeal. To be wholly honest, there’s only so much evidence that can be utilized without either forcing Jill to relive unnecessary trauma or exposing deeply intimate or personal parts of her life. Until now, everything I’ve told you and everything I’ve shown you is what was enough to convince me when Jill first reached out to me. If you, the reader, don’t believe the factual information that’s been presented so far, then I don’t think that you will. If you, the reader, believe Jill and her story, then no further evidence is going to magically make her story more true.

However, I don’t have to. Instead, I can let the friends-- the family--that Ren created on his website speak for themselves, and show you with their own testimony just the kind of person he was. Jill wasn’t the only person that Ren hurt. Jill wasn’t even the only person Ren preyed on as a sexual predator. Many people on staff, and many people outside of it, knew Ren and grew to have what they thought was a close relationship with him. People regarded him as someone to look up to, to find comfort in, to aspire after, to lean on; people thought of him as a friend and a hero in his community.

On April 12, 2021, at 9:57 AM Greenwhich Mean Time, the current administrators of Advanced Scribes issued a statement addressing Ren’s actions and his faked death. An additional announcement was made the following day. While the announcements themselves and the replies (including moderator statements) are publicly available, I have saved a print-to-PDF versions on Google for you to browse at your leisure. 

I intentionally waited until the initial panic and outrage died out a little to let the most important statements come to light. Included in the PDF are sentiments that I personally thought were the most important sentiments; edits have been made and pages have been deleted, so you can see the current state of the conversations by visiting them directly. You can find the first discussion at https://advanced-scribes.com/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=42100#p1454263 and the second discussion at https://advanced-scribes.com/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=42107#p1454361.

Before you continue reading, please look over the statements and replies. The words of former staff former friends say more than I can ever hope to about Ren and the kind of reality that he stood for. Additionally, Jill herself has added to the conversation (username Rakuen), so you can read a bit from her perspective by looking into these announcements. After you’ve taken a look, continue below and I will sum up my final thoughts on this predator and his legacy.

Advanced Scribes • Our Statement (PDF)

Advanced Scribes • Change (PDF)

The Act of Grooming, Part 3: Entrapment

One of the reasons that predators get away with their crimes for so long is because they trap their victims. When they gain access to and successfully lure in their prey, they then engage in entrapment behavior to separate victims from other people and build reliance. The reason why kids are so prone to predation is because of how vulnerable they are. Young people just want to belong. They just want to have community, security, and affection. When they can’t get those things in their lives, they seek it out and take it where they can get it even when the situation is obviously bad. Kids can’t be held accountable for being smart because they’re kids. Jill was vulnerable. She wanted belonging and support. She fell into Ren’s lures, and he trapped her. He used his affection as a tool to solicit sexual favors and pictures from her, but never shared his face with her. She was always chasing his love, and all the while he was simultaneously preying on other individuals in the community. For God’s sake, this man had a selfie thread where underage girls would send pictures of themselves publicly on the site for him to look at, and he even intentionally disabled the website’s COPPA features.

Before Jill, there was Buttercup. Buttercup was also an admin, and she was also 13 when she met Ren. While Ren was a minor during he and Buttercup’s relationship, his behavior with her was just as predatory and Buttercup attempted to warn Jill via PM before she ended her relationship with him.

The picture he sent Buttercup wasn’t even him.

The entire time that Ren was convincing Jill that Buttercup was evil, and jealous, and a spiteful, hateful person, he was manipulating her the same way he was manipulating Jill. Ren is a predator who knows what he’s doing; he always has. He draws in his victims and makes everyone hate them so that he’s the only person they have. He makes them so desperate for his approval that they let him screw them over time and time again, and for what? Just to see his face. Think about what you read. He didn’t just do this to Jill and Buttercup. He did this to every person he cheated with or got close enough to get a grip on. Even if he didn’t sexually exploit someone, he emotionally did. An entire community of people suffered through this over and over and over again. Read the statements again. If you only read the live version, read the PDF. 

I also want you to bear in mind that everyone on staff was equally a victim as they were an enabler. It doesn’t erase their responsibility, but their roles in this story or more nuanced than “moderator bad, burn the witch!” Some of Ren’s supporters were as young or younger than Jill when they met him. The two people most notorious for standing at his side right now were both “rewarded” with a relationship with him in the fallout of his faked death.  

At some point, this man looked at his behavior and not only decided that he didn’t need to take responsibility, but that his victims daring to try and claim some kind of ownership over their own story was a personal affront to him. 

Ren is a monster of his own creation. He chose to be that monster again, and again, and again.

What makes his enablers equally to blame is when they became adults and made a conscious choice to ignore what was happening, which brings us to the next topic.

Finally... How Old Was Jill?

Despite everything I’ve said and shared so far, I still get this question in my inbox.

How old was Jill? Did she lie about her age? Is she free of guilt because she was a kid? Did he know how old she was? Was she legal in her country?

I gave you all everything I had. There were some things I just couldn’t confirm because there was no proof either way. However, all of that changed when the announcements were released. I now know exactly how old Jill was when they began dating, exactly how old she was when people knew about their relationship, and even that Ren was public with all of this information. I also know that staff knew everything, and chose to do nothing.

As you can see in the screenshots above of Buttercup’s message, it was sent on Jun 17, 2015. At that time, Jill was 14 years old. By Buttercup’s estimation, they had been dating for around a few months, which is how I was able to discern the previous exact age of 14 years old at the time they began dating.

However, Ren himself refutes that fact in a Valentine’s post for Jill. As pointed out in the “Our Statement” thread, the post that user amnesia. references includes very sexual and disgustingly graphic descriptions of Ren’s activity with her. It also says this:

As per the timestamp of this particular post (as seen below), Jill was 16 at the time. Ren, a man claiming to be twenty-five years old at the time, was proud to admit that he had been with Jill since she was 13.

You can view the full PDF of this post to see what else he said here, but please be warned that his descriptions are NSFW and absolutely disgusting. 

Warm Fuzzies Post (PDF)

No adult should talk about a kid like that. In the statements, several staff members admit that they knew that the two were dating when she was 16, and that it grossed them out. But none of them did anything. To amnesia.’s credit, they claim they tried to pursue legal action but found no viable routes. 

From the discussions and statements, we can discern five things:

1. Jill was 13 when she started dating Ren. 2. She did not lie about her age. 3. Ren did not lie about her age. 4. Ren knew how old she was. 5. Staff knew how old she was.

Jill’s feelings and her opinions on staff and their behavior are separate from my own. She does not share my beliefs here, and I need to make it very clear that what I’m saying next is entirely my own opinion.

To everyone who was staff at that time: shame on you. It’s one thing to be a victim yourself and to not understand how or when to stand up for what’s right, especially when you’re young; it’s another to become an adult and to have let something like this permeate your legacy and your community for all this time. From what I understand, none of you are completely innocent in this. Ren wasn’t secret, he was loud and proud and he didn’t give a shit what anyone thought. Everyone who was an adult then and is an adult now shares some responsibility for that. Those of you who mean your apologies, thank you, but those of you who are using this event as a stepping stone to make that website into your own personal playground know who you are. Stop. There’s an entire generation of kids between AS and CS who have lost years of their childhoods to this shit and the only right thing at this point would be to turn the site over to the police so that Ren can answer for his crimes the right way.

To everyone else: protect the people around you. People like Ren don’t think about how other people think or feel. They don’t care who gets hurt or who they trample under their feet. Look around at your community, and ask yourself if those who interact with you know that you are safe. Inevitably, someone is going to get hurt. Are you the kind of person that they can come to when it happens, or are you the kind of person who will turn your head away? 

Be the person that everyone knows they can come to, because, eventually, someone’s going to need you.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

@hogwartsmystory is a predator (part 2)

If you haven’t read the first part of the callout, I encourage you to do so here. As before, the normal tags are not included in this post in order to allow this to reach as many people as possible. Potential triggers are listed below, and the main content is hidden to keep sensitive individuals from being unintentionally exposed. TW: Pedophilia, Abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual Assault, Self Harm, Suicide, NSFW Topics, Faked Illness, Faked Mental Illness, Faked Death, Victim Blaming

Ren met Jill sometime between December of 2013 and January of 2014. At the time, he was dating another staff member of the website who will be referred to as Buttercup from now on. Jill was vulnerable in some of the most classic ways a CSA survivor often is. Her home life was chaotic and difficult. She was just finishing middle school. Depression had started to surface, and, worst of all, she had just been diagnosed with a life-altering chronic disease that would require her to change significant aspects of her daily life just to survive. She just wanted a place to fit in and be welcomed, and fell into Ren’s lures without ever considering the danger that lurked behind the screen.

Up until now, it could be understandable to argue that Ren may not have been purposely grooming young girls. Creating a mature themed website might be creepy and inappropriate, but that doesn’t necessarily make someone a predator. No, what made Ren a predator were his motives, his goals, and his solicitation of vulnerable youth into grossly exploitative relationships. What remains the most disturbing to me is that his behavior consistently fits with the profile of an egomaniac desperate to have power over someone dependent on him, fitting textbook descriptions of the methods abusers employ in order to coax their victims in and trap them there.

The Act of Grooming, Part Two: Approach

Even though common luring methods of child predators are well-known within advocate and legal communities, the average person typically has neither heard of them nor is likely to recognize them as they happen. Some behaviors attached to common lures are easily identifiable: a stranger somehow uses a young child’s name to create familiarity and abducts them, or convinces a child that there are prizes to be had if they come along. Methods like these have names, and Ren is guilty of utilizing at least four to his advantage.

The Authority Lure

When Jill first told me about her first interactions with Ren, she was quick to note how starstruck she was with that fact that he wanted to talk to her at all. “I was surprised that admins even RPed down with their peasants on this site,” she told me. Interacting with staff on the site made her feel special and seen, and Ren was quick to start chatting with her. He had a particular interest in her character. Someone of great importance and authority on the site, going out of his way to interact with her out of all people. He held power over her (over most users on the site) and that was something he was keenly aware of. More sinisterly, not only did Ren himself have power over younger users, but he increased his reach and control through the creation of alternative identities. Ren’s main identities were Aaron, Seth, Carter, and Lauren, all of whom he used to form relationships with and manipulate different individuals on the site.

Seth and Carter’s accounts have since been deleted, so unfortunately I was not able to see what kind of people Ren made them out to be. However, he clearly made users believe that these were all existing people, and used their identities to build his authority. When everyone on staff is the same person, it doesn’t leave very much room for dissent.

As for Lauren? Lauren was Ren’s real identity, and the mastermind behind all of it.

As you can see in this post, as of November 11, 2013, Ren was 17 years old. Not only that, but he was in a position of power over children in real life, too. There’s no reason that Ren would not have known better; no one in that position would be able to have a relationship with a small child as a “mistake.” Frequently, Ren claimed to be a babysitter for kids as old as 14, which means that children were fully exposed to him on all fronts. Ignorance is not a viable excuse for him; there’s no way he didn’t realize what he was doing was wrong.

A person might argue that there’s no substantial proof that these identities are fake. That would be a valid question at this point. One of Ren’s supporters (and self-proclaimed partner) has admitted themselves that these “alternate personalities” did not exist. In an attempt to explain away Ren’s toxic behaviors, they offered up a Dissociative Identity Disorder diagnosis as a defense:

However, there’s one glaring issue with this claim. According to the DSM-5 classification of mental disorders by the American Psychiatric Association, amnesia must occur for a diagnosis of DID. Amnesia is defined by the DSM-5 as gaps in the recall of everyday events, important personal information, and/or traumatic events. Ren never experienced amnesia associated with the “switch” of an alter; in fact, he claimed that he and his friends would regularly do activities together, and would even communicate back and forth online with each other during the same lengths of time on AS as he switched between accounts.

I understand that everyone has different experiences with mental illness, and that illness does not have the same symptoms for every person. Regardless, Ren was clearly aware of his actions and the way he used his other accounts to lure/hurt users. Mental illness is not an excuse for hurting children, ever. Ren knew it then, and I can guarantee you he knows it now.

The Affection Lure

Another way predators appeal to their victims is with affection. Pedophiles take advantage of rocky home situations or difficult experiences to abuse the trust a child has placed in them. Jill came to know Ren well through their role-plays. They talked often. Ren made himself available to her, gave her comfort that she desperately needed, and even offered other friends who could be an ear or a shoulder to her. When Ren learned of Jill’s chronic illness, he connected her with Seth, another of his personalities. He coaxed Jill into trusting him, and their relationship became inappropriately intense. Most children are exploited by people that are close to them, by people who they trust and rely on.

At the time, Jill may not have realized how difficult her situation was for her. To her, the chaos of her family life may have seemed normal. Having to compete with siblings and neighborhood kids may have seemed normal. Falling into severe, deep depression may have seemed normal. The truth of the situation is that a vulnerable young woman was falling through the cracks, and Ren saw an opportunity to place himself as the most important person in her life. She needed to belong, so he made sure that she felt like she belonged with him. She needed to be heard, so he made sure that she felt like he was the only one who heard her. She needed friends, so he made sure that all her friends were him. 

Not only did he use her trust in him to groom her for a relationship, but he used it to isolate her. If everyone she knew was him, then he would be the only positive feature in her life. If everyone else was an enemy, then she would have nowhere to turn to but him. If he convinced her that she was his world, and that he was hers, she would never believe anyone trying to warn her about him and his behavior. Ren took advantage of a 14 year old child’s insecurities and sickness to insert himself as the most important aspect of her life.

There’s plenty of evidence that this wasn't the first time he’d thought of something like this, either. Ren had an obsession with themes of abuse, torture, and child slavery in his stories and role-plays. Much of his content centered around taking advantage of vulnerable people.

It wasn’t just his role-play ideas that crossed the line. His behavior toward other members of the site was hair-raising at best. His supporters try to paint him as someone affectionate and well-meaning, but he had habits of talking to young users in a manner that borders on profiling.

These aren’t things that someone a few months short of their eighteenth birthday should be saying to children on the internet. His behavior also delved into the realm of victim blaming, too; when a minor on the site was posting about their father going out of his way to make custody as complicated and as disruptive as possible, Ren had this to say:

A man, who would have been 18 at the time, with the audacity to imply that a child was to blame for the controlling behavior of their father. That their father only loved them, and that they might have done something to make a grown man act like a petty child during a divorce.

Ren’s idea of love was as toxic as his need for power.

The Hero Lure

This is, perhaps, the lure that Ren is mostly guilty of. An egomaniac soothed by his own words, Ren saw himself as a hero. In his own mind, he was a faultless deity who deserved no less than the complete and undivided affections of his subjects, but who fabricated false identities at every opportunity. In Ren’s mind, he is the hero. The survivors of his abuse are turned to abusers, those who dare question him are nothing but petty liars, and anyone not completely enthralled by him is nothing but an extra in his story. That’s what Ethren was created to emulate.

Ren has not grown. Someone who has grown would take ownership of their mistakes and apologize for the pain they had caused. Someone truly sorry, truly changed, wouldn’t dare to trample on the feelings of people they had hurt. Ren is no different now than he was six years ago, when he made the decision to change Jill’s life. Instead, he’s turned a survivor into the villain of his world. Instead, he faked his own death so that he could start over with his reputation on AS intact. He never accepted what he did, and instead continues to paint Jill as someone who needed to be “fixed.”

Wanting to be with someone because it feeds a need to “fix” or “help” someone isn’t love. It’s an adult man putting the weight of the world on the shoulders of a little girl. A girl already struggling to adapt. A girl already struggling to fit in. A girl who spent her second week of high school hospitalized because of a sickness that would change her life forever. Jill is a person; she’s a person who’s had to learn to live with restrictions that mean the difference between life and death. She’s a person who’s had to walk alone through the past six years battling depression and trauma completely unheard and unseen. She’s not a character in Ren’s world. She’s not some fixation to help him feel better about himself. 

Jill is a real, living, breathing human being with thoughts and feelings and a future: a future that Ren has done him damn best to make about himself for the past six years.

Ren never wanted to help anyone. Ren needed to feel important to other people to have some kind of meaning to himself. His obsession with playing hero went so far that he would torment his victims just so that he could swoop in and be what they needed. He would pretend to be sick or injured. He would go from having a cold, to strep, to pneumonia in under a day.

He would suddenly need a nebulizer for breathing treatments for his false illnesses.

His friends and loved ones would suddenly have life-threatening medical conditions and need to be taken to the hospital.

He pretended to have cancer.

He would use his identities to threaten self harm or death. He used Seth to tell Jill that he was going to send someone to kill her, making her scared for her own life. He made her a part of a world where he was the only one who could help her to satisfy his own sick need to be the most important thing to someone else.

When life caught up to him, he pretended to die.

He knew what he was doing was wrong. He asked Jill to lie about her age and told her that if anyone ever found out about them, he would get in trouble. He used his status as her hero to solicit sexual content online. He knew her age, knew how vulnerable she was, and knew how desperately she needed to fit in. He took advantage of that to fill his own desperate need to be the hero.

The legal age where a person can consent in Jill’s country is 16. When they officially began dating, she was 14. Ren was 18. He was an adult four years older than her, who would have faced charges of child abuse in his own state for their relationship. They had a sexual relationship online, which would be equivalent to soliciting child porn in his state. She never cheated on him; he was her world, because he made every effort to make sure that he was.

She never even saw his face.

She never even knew his real name.

She grappled for years afterwards with trauma, and he wouldn’t even give her the decency of having peace when they finally split. Instead, he came here with his stories. He wrote up fantasies where he was the hero, and she was the one who abused him. Jill was still a minor at the end of her relationship. When I asked her if she’s gotten help, she didn’t think a therapist would take her seriously. Ren took her ability to trust her own voice from her. He took her ability to believe that her own problems were valid. He took six years of her life and made it hell for the sake of his own ego and vanity. Pedophiles will often lie about their age, but most of them make it clear that they’re adults. Their true age might vary by four to five years (like in Ren’s case of claiming to be 21 at 17), but they always make it very clear that they’re adults. Predators know what they’re doing. They’re master manipulators. They’re adept at communication. They seem innocent on the surface, until everything they’ve done is laid out where it can be seen for what it is. Predators rely on persuasion, not coercion (Abrams 2016).

Someone I know asked me if I ever considered, even briefly, that Jill wasn’t telling the truth. I answered back without hesitation that I never did, not even once, because I hadn’t even touched one of the most important parts of my research.

Like other predators, Ren had a type. Buttercup was his first victim. When she and Ren met she was only 13-- Just like Jill.

Continue to Part 3

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

hey there!

here’s something people seem to confuse a lot, but that needs to be understood.

holding people accountable =/= cancel culture. when people do something wrong, the right and just thing for them to do is to own up to what they did and accept the consequences that come with it. when someone refuses to do that, they deserve to be forced to face the consequences. being a good person doesn’t mean you never do bad things, it means taking responsibility when you mess up and doing better in the future.

“cancel culture” is a term used almost exclusively by people who want to be forgiven without asking for forgiveness. people don’t owe their transgressors anything; transgressors owe it to people to prove that they’re willing to change.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

Who is Ethren?

@hogwartsmystory is a self-insert fanfiction penned by a pedophile who tried to fake his own death in order to dodge responsibility. 

This blog is dedicated to exposing him for what he (and therefore Ethren Whitecross) truly is: a grown predator using the internet to harass someone he abused and exploited in order to validate his ego.

Callout

Part One

Part Two

Part Three

Believing Survivors

Abusing Your Status

Justice for Survivors

Art Theft

What is Free Use?

Art Theft is Theft

FAQ

q: who is ethren? a: ethren is the self-insert version of a man named ren, who engaged in a relationship with a minor starting when she was 13.

q: how old was ren when he started dating the survivor? a: ren was 18; he claimed to be 21/22.

q: did he know how old she was? a: ren knew how old she was while they were dating. it’s unclear if he knew beforehand, but he continued the relationship despite knowing she was under the age of consent.

q: did the survivor lie about how old she was? a: she never lied to ren about her age. advanced scribes staff knew about her age and expressed disgust over their relationship, but never did anything to intervene or warn users.

q: how long did they date? a: from some time in 2013 to the end of 2017. they possibly dated until the first or second quarter of 2018, when ren admitted to his behavior and faking his death. jill was 17 when their relationship officially ended.

q: did ren know what he was doing? a: absolutely. he, in his own words, acknowledged that he “could get in a lot of trouble if people found out.” later, when staff expressed disgust and concern he blew them off by saying it “didn’t matter, because she’s the age of consent.” he claims to have worked with young children at the time. he even created a website to get around rules on mature content while recruiting users from sites made for children. COPPA was intentionally turned off on his website.

q: how many victims did he have? a: at least four survivors were sexually exploited, and potentially many more. an entire community was preyed upon emotionally. q: what is his fanfiction about? a: his fanfiction is based on his character from the game “harry potter: hogwarts mystery.” he uses this fanfiction to write his relationship with the survivor in a way that validates his actions, and based his version of the character merula snyde to keep her in his stories. q: who are you? a: just a dude being a pal. just a pal being a guy. helping my friend where i can. note: only genuine, good faith asks and support for the victim will be published. this isn’t an impartial blog and i have zero responsibility to entertain pedophile apologists. i couldn’t care less about what you have to say if you don’t believe survivors.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

@hogwartsmystory is a predator (part one)

Ethren Whitecross is a Hogwarts Mystery MC created by an abuser, and his story has been utilized to torment the survivor. Ren, his enablers, and the friends who support him are a danger to the HPHM community, and it’s important that people are made aware of their presence on tumblr. To ensure this callout reaches as many people as possible, some of the normal tags on our posts are not present on this callout. I know that this isn’t the kind of content most people want to see, but it would mean a lot for everyone who reads it to pass the warning on. It’s the responsibility of adults (all adults, period) to help prevent kids in our circles from getting wrapped up with people who would hurt them. TW: Pedophilia, Abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual Assault, Self Harm, Suicide, NSFW Topics

Thanks to everyone who’s been checking in. It means a lot to Ren’s victim to know that people hear her and believe her, especially after all the time she’s spent suffering because of this. I’m frustrated that no one did this sooner, because predators like Ren will continue to abuse people to cater to their power fantasy unless they’re consistently called out for their behavior. Unfortunately, many of the people who support Ren now were also some of the same people who excused/enabled his behavior, or were even children themselves at the time. @hogwartsmystory is run by a man who used to role-play on children’s websites, going by the names “Wolfsabre,” “Strider,” and “aaron.”

The Act of Grooming, Part One: Access  

One of the communities he frequented was an adoptable pet website known as Chicken Smoothie. We’ll refer to this website as CS from now on. Between 2011 and 2014, CS staff went through several periods of cracking down on adult topics their role-play forums. Frustrated with not being able to get away with RPing adult topics on CS, Ren decided that he would make his own site to serve as a “haven” for mature role-players. At the time that Ren created his site (first known as Awesome Sauce and then later as Advanced Scribes), he could have been as old as 16. For the rest of this callout, his website will be referred to as AS.

Ren’s founder blurb on the Staff section of AS:

A significant portion of users who switched to AS did it because they could no longer RP popular topics on CS, including: + sexually explicit scenes (crackdowns in 2009, 2011, and 2014) + nonconsensual romance (huge crackdowns in 2011/2012) + slave/master dynamics (crackdowns in 2010, 2011, and 2013) + prolific violence (crackdowns in 2011/2013) + detailed gore (crackdowns in 2010, 2013, and 2014) + most swearing (consistently since 2011) + dog-fighting, puppy mills, and animal abuse (banned in 2012) + and abusive relationships (huge crackdowns in 2011/2012). When I say get away with, I mean get away with. Explicit or sexual scenes/RP topics were banned in 2009, so by the time staff were truly cracking down on NSFW RPs it had been banned for years. Official topic banning explicit content on CS in 2009:

Ren knew the rules of the site, but chose to RP mature content in the forums, making excuses about why he continued to stay. He also consistently proved that he was aware of the fact that it was against site rules, but continued to advertise his website as a place where users could RP sex, drugs, and violence, among other things.

And this is just a fraction of his advertising. After he created AS, a significant portion of users flooded over to his site to get around CS rules. In fact, so many users used CS to solicit partners for mature AS role-plays that even mentioning the site was banned for a period of time after it was created. Proof of AS ban from advertising on the site:

And despite everything said, it’s not like AS’s content was occasionally outside the scope of CS rules. People knew AS as the place to RP suicide, addiction, sex, drugs, abuse, salve and mater RPs, violence, gore, etc. These were people who were bothered that they couldn’t RP slave and master relationships on a children’s website. 

And keep in mind, CS was created in the early 2000s. A lot of the people who grew up on the site were pretty young back then, myself included. Jill, the person that Ren would go on to abuse, was 12 at the time that he started advertising this bullshit on CS. This behavior was pervasive on CS, literally so bad that there would be huge waves of bans every few months during the early days. I had my own underaged character be sexually assaulted in an RP by someone who claimed to be an adult man. For God’s sakes, there have been actual arrests made in connection with this site, that’s how bad these infractions of the rules were. From 2011 to 2013, at the height of predatory behavior happening in a place meant to be a safe haven for children, Ren gave them a safe haven to go to and created a space perfect for luring in impressionable, vulnerable youth. And that’s how he met Jill.

Continue to Part 2

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

Let’s talk about this now.

Everything that follows in this post is totally my own opinion. It has nothing to do with Jill; it wasn’t read by her or condoned by her. It’s my story and my experiences, and I think it’s important in this context because some of a survivor’s worst enemies are often other survivors.

As someone who has survived abuse, and as someone who is currently in training to become a Court Appointed Special Advocate for youth victims of abuse and domestic violence, I’m going to explain why internet callouts and motions like the #MeToo movement are not only something you can believe, but that you should believe because of the complete and systematic failures that continue to persist in our real-life institutions of justice.

Please heed the tags. Nothing is in too graphic of detail, but I remember when just the words were enough for me.

TW: Abuse, Neglect, Gaslighting, Sexual Assault, Pedophilia, Trafficking, Drug Use, Mental Illness, Violence

I spent a majority of the first years of my life in sexual slavery.

Before April, 2004, pseudoephedrine could be purchased over the counter and without an ID in the United States. Tablets of it were used across the nation to manufacture what some people still call “the drug of the 90s:” methamphetamine. In 2021, many people might know meth because of television shows like Breaking Bad, and make xenophobic jokes about Mexican drug cartels and the infamous “Wall” while breaking up blue-tinted sugar candy.

The truth is, few people our age this day remember methamphetamine use being the epidemic it was when Oklahoma enacted its ban of pseudoephedrine in stores. In 2005, which required medication to be sold at licensed pharmacies and for purchasers to present a photo ID to acquire limited amounts, OK officials located and shut down 334 home meth labs -- less than half of the 812 seized before the ban.

In fact, meth use was so widespread and easily accessible that 93% of people who went through rehabilitation for it would end up using again. It was viciously addictive, and the help that was offered was only a drop in the bucket of a growing sickness that the government wrote crime bills to control instead of trying to treat the symptoms. By 2004, it was too late for a lot of people. By 2004, it was too late for me.

My birth parents spent their entire lives addicted to meth. My birth mother grew up in the American foster care system and was adopted as a teenager by junkies in the deep South; my birth father was a paranoid schizophrenic who spent the first 7 years of his life locked in a closet by his parents until they lost custody, and then aged out of the system. She used drugs to get away from the fact that her birth parents despised her; he used meth to “calm” his paranoid rages when he couldn’t afford medication. They both tried rehab. They both failed to stay sober.

They had several children before us. My birth mother miscarried. She tried again. My birth father lost custody of his first before he met her, and they relapsed together and lost custody of a second child. That child died from complications of neglect.

They had me.

They stayed sober for six months. They relapsed again. They weren’t smart enough to make meth, so they bought it. They had another kid. My birth father lost his job. They couldn’t afford it. They couldn’t afford medicine or food. They had no money, they couldn’t get work, and so they gave up what they did have.

2004 was too late for me.

When the ban came, my parents moved to try to escape. We came to a new state. They found a job. My “uncle” became their new dealer and they paid the only way they knew how. One day, a SWAT team showed up at our door. They told us we could pack one box of our belongings, and that was the last time we ever belonged to those people.

The law chased them down, but not for what they did to us. They were given a plea deal; my birth parents would sell out their suppliers and their “business partners,” and they wouldn’t go to prison. The entire case would be locked up, the records closed, and they could try to get their kids back.

My parents never served a single day for their crimes.

They showed up once to visitation. They kissed me. They promised me they would come back. I privately wished that they would disappear forever, and they did. I later learned they relapsed the day before our next visitation, and had parental rights terminated.

The law does not protect children. It rarely protects the victims that it’s meant to, but it never protects people who can’t speak for themselves. Unless you have money, no one will care. If no one cares, your transgressors will never, ever answer for their crimes. To this day, the United States Justice System will not let me own records or copies of records of the case against my parents. I couldn’t speak until I was six years old. When I was put into foster care, I couldn’t eat solid food for three months. My gag reflex was so bad I couldn’t brush my teeth comfortably until well after I was adopted. I trembled under my bed because my nightmares blended into my waking hours and I was so scared I couldn’t even scream.

When I turned 18, my birth mother found me. She lives with my birth father in a state known for its rampant meth use. She had another child. He’s 14 now. He plays soccer, has girlfriend, learned the flute last year, and his favorite Pokemon is Rayquaza. He got all A’s in his final year of middle school. They started over.

I talk to him sometimes. I don’t talk to her, because when I asked her to apologize for what happened, she told me the government was lying to me. She told me there were two sides to every story. She told me that my adopted parents had poisoned me against her. She called me an ungrateful little whore and told me that God would punish me one day. She told me she was a victim, too, and she deserved a relationship with me.

She is a victim. I still remember the sound when my birth father broke her arm in a rage when she threatened to leave him. 

I also still remember trying to hide with her as she lay on her bed, high as a kite, not so much as lifting a finger to help me.

Being a survivor doesn’t give a person the excuse to minimize the experience of other survivors. Some people get justice. A lot of people don’t. Sometimes the police swoop in and make predators pay. Sometimes they shoot mentally ill foster children to death because the alternative takes too much time and effort. Technology is a useful tool, because it gives a voice to the voiceless. It empowers people who are made powerless. My adoptive parents didn’t believe me when I finally had the words to say “I was harmed.” They beat the shit out of me when I was little for trying to draw out what was wrong. They stopped letting me see a therapist when she told them I showed signs of serious trauma from sexual violence. The internet gives a rope to people who are stuck in a whole with everyone around them calling them a liar. Technology gives survivors and outlet to make their story their own again.

Your story doesn’t erase other peoples’ stories. People who are nice to you can be hurtful to others. What you see isn’t necessarily the truth and until we have a government that survivors can rely on it’s always, always important to believe survivors.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

Ask: Hopefully what's left of Ren and his supporters take advantage of the fact that you're not going to call him out anymore. I'm assuming you mean you hope they don't take advantage. No... I don't think they'll be able to show their faces period pretty soon here. And, there won't be anything for them to take advantage of. Ren is (hopefully) never going to live a day in peace from here on out. Like I said, this isn't a witch hunt, it's something that we're handling legally behind the scenes, too. I'm not going away any time soon. I hope that you find a better community in the next one.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

last post for today. patrick is everyone who still supports ren at this point.

also if you see this, please hydrate yourself. give yourself some love and hang tight. you deserve happiness and i hope you have a good night despite all the vileness of the world. do what makes you happy.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

also, as a follow up.

 to ren’s friends who are passive aggressively saying bullshit like “there’s two sides to every story” and “people believe everything without hearing anything else” and “but he told me [thing]”

motherfucker i’m not stupid! i just wrote a three part thesis on this pedophile’s crimes. do you really think i wouldn’t notice you didn’t read any of it???? don’t be in my dms pretending like you read any of my evidence. 

your ignorance precedes you.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

everything about ren seems to be a lie - obviously - but i remember being on as wayyyy back in the day and he talked a lot about having a kid/being a father. do you have any idea if this is true??

from what i’ve read and gathered, ren has always wanted to be a father. unless he had a kid or one of the many, many people who he seems to be dating has had one pretty recently then no, i don’t think it is. 

an additional note (off topic, so under the spoiler), people say that ren looks really young, younger than 24. 

As much as it pains me to go into this, I do have to put out there that the bane of many (not all) transmasc individuals is looking younger than we are, especially at the beginning of HRT. 

It takes 10 years for all of the cells in the body to be replaced, and it can take as many as 6 or 7 to even start growing facial hair. That’s one reason why “passing” is such a big deal to some trans people and why I don’t and won’t demonize Ren for wishing he was cis. I’m proud of who I am today, but I wish I was, too. I think that’s inherently part of what it means to be trans (though I obviously can’t speak for everyone, and my understanding is limited by my experience and my ignorance). It’s humiliating to be misgendered because of your height or your build or because your face still looks young and soft. 

I know for a fact Ren is mid-twenties because of certain evidence (and because his supporters literally confirmed he was 4 years older than Jill before deleting their defenses). 

He just looks young because he’s a small/thin person and at the absolute maximum he’s been doing HRT for like. 3 years. It takes a long time to achieve hard masculine features or facial hair and some people never even do. That’s one of the reasons why the bloody “uwu cute femboy trans man” stereotype is a thing (please never say that kind of thing to a transmasc unless you know they’re okay with it or that’s the identity they’re going for, it’s not okay). 

Being a more femme transmasc person doesn’t make them any less valid or trans, it’s just that unfortunately for a lot of us that’s a period we’ll experience during androgenic second puberty whether we want it or not.

#ethren is not the hero #ethren whitecross #ethren #harry potter #hogwartsmystory #hogwarts mystery #hogwarts legacy #hphm #hphl #ask #this dude is an adult #please do not believe him #when he is out here #saying he's a child #he's a predator #he is dangerous #aaron #aaron strider #strider #advanced scribes #advanced-scribes #skyren #captured hearts #aven #lucian

[ethrenisnotthehero]

About the Future

I got an ask about what happens next with Ren. I’m still figuring out how to navigate that in tactful way, because there are certain circumstances that make it necessary for us to keep on the down low about the specifics right now. If I can figure out the best way to say what I need to without giving away too much, I will, but for right now I just want to assure everyone that Ren is going to get what he deserves one way or another. (In a legal way, of course. We do things properly in this house.)

Stay safe. Take care of yourself.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

Half of the people who defended Ren are "leaving the fandom" because of "how toxic we are" 🤡🤡🤡

good. i hope that makes it easier for the rest of you to enjoy the game and your fandom in peace and without worry. i played it for a bit to see what the fuss was about and it’s neat. the community can be awesome, too; you guys are incredibly talented, incredibly unique, and incredibly creative. be careful, be safe, and take care of each other. don’t let them bully you out of your space.

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[ethrenisnotthehero]

TW: abuse, pedophilia, HPHM drama

i feel like this shouldn’t need to be said, but if you’re interacting with people supporting @hogwartsmystory (ren) then you have an obligation to do/say something. enabling a predator is nearly as bad as being a predator, and anyone who refuses to acknowledge the fact that people in this fandom abuse children (ren) or draw literal porn of minors (kyril) is directly contributing to a toxic environment for kids.

people don’t like hearing that, but it’s the truth. i’ll be dropping names in my final callout of everyone who has supported ren in the past and hasn’t come out against him. as an adult, it’s your responsibility (yes, you) to make sure that kids in your fandoms aren’t exposed to actual pedophiles. if reading that makes you upset or uncomfortable, you are part of the problem.

“i’m staying out of it” is not a valid excuse. “i’m just here to have fun” is not a valid excuse. the only valid reason not to address this is “i’m a minor and these topics are triggering for me.” period. people who have helped ren and his friends earn a spot in this community are responsible for making sure they lose it.

this isn’t suddenly over once my callouts have been posted, and it’s extremely important that the entire fandom keeps fighting predators in the community after i’m gone.

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