#fet club

[hellyheresy]

This is one of my favourite makeup looks I did back when I worked as a Club Kid/ Entertainer

#alt girl #goth #model #club kids #drag #makeup #makeup artist #gothic #red aesthetic #mua #entertainer #goth club #alt model #alternative #hostess #fet club #kink community #fettish #cleavege #sexy titts #graphic design #art detail

[okcoolthanks]

I REALLY HATE EDWARD TWILIGHT

#UGGGGGGHHHH #HOWD THEY FET THE SANE FUCKING NUMBER AND THE LAST EPUSODE THEY SPENT TEN MINUTES LOOKING FOR LIKE DEACON AND THEY COULDNT DO IT #BUT THEY FUCKING FIND EDWARD #IM STARTING TO GET A FUCKING PHYSICAL REACTION TO HIA STUPID FUCKING MUSIC #HE SHOULDA DIED IN CLUB CURPUSCULE #UGGGGGGHHHHHHH #the suckening

[theafrochick]

Who wants to come over and cuddle while it aggressively thunders and pours out :(

#ive had no less than 2 dreams since it started where im fetting a dilly goofy lottle hug and like #saying im scared is a bit dramatic but i kinda want one 👉👈 #and now im in my feels lmao whens it my turn bro #crying in the club

[kissingmilfs]

📚bells and whistles au: doctor visits 🩺

cw: pet play, med fet, 18+ themes

thinking about med fet w/ wanda and buttercup.

buttercup and wanda visiting the doctor’s office for regular check ups. the first few times it was completely normal. examinations to make sure she was healthy. but some way along the lines it turned…to something different. the doctor would still do the normal examination but then leave the room once they’re done. telling wanda - she’s healthy. do as you wish. and wanda makes buttercup lay down with legs open. she snaps gloves on and carefully lubes up two fingers. there’s never a warning period either - just wanda’s fingers inside buttercup. stretching her out and feeling around. wanda asks buttercup questions along the way - who do you belong to? has anyone else touched my pet? are you a desperate slut or mommy’s good girl?

if wanda knows buttercup has been begging for playtime for the ladies in book club - wanda will spank buttercup’s pussy with her latex medical gloves on. the sting is immensely worse than bare handed. if wanda wants to humiliate buttercup more - she’ll make buttercup get on all fours and spread herself open while she snaps pictures of her kitten. wanda inspects buttercup’s mouth with her wet fingers too. pushing her tongue down, widening her mouth, forcing her fingers down buttercup’s throat until wanda can see the outline of her fingers pressed against buttercup’s skin.

wanda likes using the sonogram on her more…deranged days. she loves whispering into buttercup’s ear that at any moment - wanda can impregnate her little pet whenever wanda pleases. she’ll show buttercup her empty womb and make maybe not so empty promises of knocking her up.

#bells and whistles au #wanda maximoff #wanda maximoff x reader #wanda maximoff x female reader

[marthammasters]

Of course the fet club has an event when I’m out of state and alt club’s upcoming ones are all 21+

#lee postz #oh well #I need to u guys to pray my brother distracts my mom enough on this upcoming trip I can actually get crazy #that or FLtuals please send awesome events my way whenever u come across… I’m BOREDD

[cherishedproperty]

Helloo I saw your answer to that anon ask earlier today talking about munches, and I was wondering if you could share your experience going to events, please? Just what kind of things you usually do, how it was the first times you went, especially if didn't know anyone yet? I'm thinking about attending local munches, but as someone with social anxiety just the thought of going can be overwhelming, but I thought if I knew a little more about them maybe I wouldn't feel so nervous :) Also any advice for joining fetlife? Please and thank you 💕

I’m actually going to start with the second question, on advice for joining Fet. There’s a lot to say here, from personal safety to finding events to meaningful interaction. I’m not going into all of it, but I’ll try to hit some highlights across the board. Also a caveat that my Fet experience is largely based on being a bisexual, cisgender woman in a large American city.

Fet isn’t as bad as people make it out to be. If you have a location listed (and an F by your name), you’re likely to get more men in your inbox with…unwelcome messages. But Fet does allow you to pick a fake location or not show your location except to friends. This keeps people from finding you by just searching your city and looking for the newest (young) women who’ve joined.

My #1 piece of Fet advice is to never, ever delete Fet messages. Archive them, but don’t delete. You’ll want to know if someone has messaged you before, especially if you meet them at an event. I’ve met guys at munches and then gone to check if they’ve messaged me before, only to realize they were a gross asshole previously.

Try to find some local community leaders, preferably women, who can help you make a friend group of other women in the scene. The kink community is small. One of my local female kink leaders hosts a regular munch and also play parties, but she also runs a chat group of local women. And she (+ the other ladies) have helped me to vet potential partners and learn who to avoid.

Fet isn’t really a dating site, but a lot of people (mostly men) use it as such. They think everyone is there for quick, easy sex. Again, this is where the archive button comes in handy.

As for events, you’ll typically find four kinds of events on Fet:

Munches/happy hours—These are clothes-on, vanilla events in public locations for the purposes of getting to know each other. While they are occasionally at private homes, I would not trust that unless you know the hosts and guests pretty well. More on munches below.

Educational events—These are often hosted at local kink clubs but may be at a private home. They might be on a topic like rope bondage and will have an instructor and time to practice the skill. These events are more likely to be clothed (or at least not fully naked), since they are educational.

Club events—These are kink/play events at a club, typically where you have to be a member. While there are going to be more people there, they also typically have dungeon monitors who make sure that all scenes remain consensual and are done as negotiated. These places may feel more public. But they can also be good places to try something for the first time, especially if it requires a skilled top (e.g., electro play).

Private play parties—These are kink/play events hosted at private homes. While it can be more intimate, especially if you know people, there’s also more risk dependent on who the host is. We have a nightmare host in my local area who does nothing about repeated consent violations, because he only cares about the money he makes off entry fees. But I also have a couple close friends who host great parties that are safe and fun.

Back to munches/happy hours and what to expect. I’ve been to a number of munches in my city. Here are a few things to know:

Typically, they are hosted at a restaurant or bar. Sometimes they are sit-down, dinner style events, and sometimes it’s more of a stand-and-mingle situation. There are even a few that are more activity-focused (seeing a movie with socializing after, athletic groups, karaoke). But the restaurant/bar ones are the most common in my area.

Mostly people just stand around and talk. Sometimes kink topics come up, but mostly it’s normal life stuff. What kinds of hobbies you have, have you seen the latest movie, etc.

Every munch I’ve attended has had a group of regulars, but they’ve also been very welcoming to new folks. Sometimes there are name tags, sometimes not. The host will typically introduce you around to regulars, if you ask. But people are generally super friendly.

Some folks use these events to find partners. But in my experience, most folks respect the unwritten rule that you don’t ask someone out at the event. You wait until after you leave and then message them on Fet. That’s how I met my partner. :) There are also folks who will use a munch as a first meeting place for a potential partner. Some of my friends refuse to go out with anyone who doesn’t or won’t attend munches.

My first munch was a lunch munch in my area, which I figured was pretty low commitment. I met a great group of folks with a lot of lifestyle experience. They recommended other munches that are good to go to, as well as various education/kink events. One of the women I met there added me to a chat group for local women, many of whom are still good friends six years later. This was my window into a whole support system of people who have helped me through a lot of life challenges and have kept me safe and informed as I got to know the local community. Honestly, I can’t say enough positive things about munches. I can’t vouch for your local area, but my experience here has been pretty good.

So basically my take is, you’re going to be fine! It will be fun. And you’ll meet people who show you the joy in kink, as well as how the kink scene is really just full of a lot of normal people. :) Folks, please feel free to share your own Fet advice or munch experiences!

#ask #my ask #starting out

[joeloverture]

Baby are you open to writing voyeurism? Exhibitionism or even public pleasure? It’s so nice to think about it even though i know i wouldn’t even do it irl lol

honestly i hadnt even thought about it — but i love the idea of exhibitionism in a setting like a fet con/bdsm club. not sure if i could depict actual unadulterated public sex properly, but in a consenting environment i think id like to explore writing it !

#ask #anon #so yes :) #if a project demands it

[cerysdelaney]

Consent and Conversation

“No offense to straight men, but I will probably never date one again,” my friend says as she talks about her newest relationship with a queer guy, “I’ve never dated anyone like him… he just… sex is just…”

She smiles and I can read it on her face so I finish her sentence, “Full of communication and consent?”

“YES!” She’s so glad to have someone else who gets it. “Sex used to cause so much anxiety-“

“Because you didn’t know what was going to happen.”

“YES! He asks me if I’m okay with this… do I like that? All during and I… I just realized no one has ever asked me that. I never considered what I did like or didn’t like.”

I nod. All of these things I had discovered at the fet club and meeting others in the fet life.

I think the queer and kink communities have made a lot of strides in asking for consent and opening communication about sex. And it works really well when people are being honest with each other and themselves.

I’ve found some amazing straight guys in the fet community because they confirm consent, check in and communicate regularly throughout a play or sex session.

“And I can tell him if I’m not interested in something and he doesn’t shame me for it!”

Consent and listening and adjusting to each other’s needs… it’s fucking sexy.

Learning to not take personally someone’s dislike for a position; respect a person’s triggers; stay within the boundaries of an agreement - S E X Y.

Not making assumptions about what someone wants; not asking someone to read your mind when you’re only just learning about each other; not asking repeatedly for something that’s already been told “no.” - D E L I C I O U S.

Talk.

Tell me more.

I’m listening.

Like this?

And

Here?

Show me.

Checking in.

You like it when I��

Keep going…

Yes.

#Cerys talks #consent and communication #fet life #queer life #love yourself

[purezoetry]

Dressed up for club night! Dancing with the boys 🥰

Also PureZoetry on Fet, Fans, insta and lit!

Dm for link to uncensored 🖤

#redhead #ginger girl #alt girl #horror fan #jason voorhees #slasher fandom #adult model #onlyf@nz #onlyf4n #red hair #makeup #eye makeup #blue eyes #collar #bdsmaccount #bdsmgirl

[riseofthecommonwoodpile]

advice for someone looking for a dom, tips for first irl meet or anything? i think the way you openly share about your sex life inspired me to get on fetlife lol

so, sorry to take a long time responding to this, i was mulling it over in my mind for a while to see if i have anything much useful to say. i don't know that i do, but here's something, at least:

the best thing you can do, in my view, is to go to local munches and sloshes, meet people, get to know the community around you. as someone with terrrrrible social anxiety, i know that can be a terrifying prospect, but if you're looking for something longer term than a one or two night thing, even if you aren't looking for something romantic, you'll want to actually like any dom you're playing with as a person and not just as a kink dispenser, and making friends in the community makes it easier to meet additional people anyways. it's the difference between going on a date with someone you've met a few times irl and know you have a rapport with versus someone off tinder where you have no idea how you'll vibe, and i personally much prefer the former (though i do still meet plenty of people on tinder or grindr, so hey)

if your anxiety is too much to do something like that, then look at local groups on fet and see if there's any personal ads that strike your fancy, or post your own. talk to people for at least a few messages before meeting up, and always meet in public first and let someone know where you're going and when they should expect you back or to hear from you. weird tip, but relevant i think: masturbate and cum before you agree to meeting anyone or doing anything, so you know it's something you are actively interested and not just horny for at the moment. may sound dumb, but i've definitely almost made some very bad decisions while super horny that i avoided by just jerking off and getting that post-nut clarity of like "oh wait, that's a bad idea and i don't want to do it".

additionally, i would highly, *highly* recommend not doing any play involving restraints the first time doing a scene with someone in private. any type of kink play involves a lot of trust and some inherent degree of risk, but being able to get away or fight back if something bad starts happening is super important. risk mitigation, especially early on when you're still learning, is crucial shit. in general, if there's any kink clubs near you, i would really recommend playing there first, because if someone is going wrong or if the person you're with is ignoring you safewording and saying no, there will (at every public space i've been to) be people whose job for the night is monitoring the dungeon and intervening if need be.

no matter which method you choose or how you meet someone, be clear and honest about any experience or lack of experience you have, both for your safety and theirs, mental and physical. if you've only done something to yourself, say that explicitly and not "i've done X", because those are very different situations. there's nothing wrong with being a beginner in something, as long as you are honest and direct about it, and you'll have a much healthier and more enjoyable experience versus being thrown into the deep end because you fudged your experience level with X or Y or Z. also: aftercare is important for almost everyone, and even if you find you don't need it, which is very unlikely (i used to think i didn't need aftercare, but it turns out i was just ignoring sub drop because i was so depressed generally it didn't seem abnormal lmao), the other person very likely does, even if they're the top or dom in the scene. common trick is also have some dark chocolate in the fridge for the day or two afterwards lol, it sounds silly but it has genuinely helped me with sub drop.

uhhhh i mean there's a lot more i could get into, but it gets into a lot of things that require knowing specifics on your situation, and you're much better off meeting people in the community IRL and learning from those with more experience, asking for help and answers to questions when you don't know things or even just need clarification. hopefully that's at least somewhat helpful though

(also brought up in mentions, there are people who offer classes on kink 101 stuff and there's books as well [Screw the Roses Send Me the Thorns is a common rec i feel], but i personally don't love them [at least for beginner stuff, i have done and loved plenty of classes on more specific subjects], and a lot of "you should do this in a kink relationship" advice is incredibly specific to the personal outlook and experience of the person writing, and not usually something that can be easily universalized)

[deirdreskye]

went on a hike ( not date but u kno how it is ) this week w some trans dude who said he was into petplay but also thought leather + latex was weird (??) + thought med fet stuff was inherently dangerous.

I was hoping to talk to him bout meeting other ppl in my city + any local fetish clubs but we talked about community organizing shit BRIEFLY and mans dropped that he thought stalin did nothing wrong + the USSR in no way supported genocide/Naziism. Idk. Never hung out w him again. Times a flat circle. No he/they doggy hole 4 me worst day ever.

reminded me of a post u made. Xoxo

Wow this guy really said "I may be a dog but I am not a latex doctor". I actually kinda respect that. Guy sounds like kind of a pill but I will not lie I am myself not above tankie hole at all.

I really love the phrase "no he/they doggy hole 4 me" I did chuckle on the bus upon reading that. Come off anon so I can draw you

[sparklinpixiedust]

Will maybe get hate for this but im so sick of the West demonising the hijab.

" some women are forced into the hijab so you must all take it off "

Excuse me? Why? Yes some are forced and its wrong , no denying that , but why does everyone else who chooses to wear it have to take it off?

Tell me this , there are millions of girls around the world forced into prostitution and have men leak their nudes and all that. Why don't you guys work to shut down onlyfans in support of the women who are forced into this field ?

Why don't you all work to shut down strip clubs because there are some women who are forced to work there , either physically or by helplessness.

Why don't you all fight to shut down clubs in general because a few men have decided to drug and rape women?

Why does effing playboy still exist? You can twist it all you want but that magazine was created for nothing else but to objectify women for the pleasure of men. Women empowerment ? please, so many playboy bunnies have come out with horribly they were treated at the Manor and those clubs. Sounds like manipulation to me.

Why is anyone supporting women in the p#rn industry? When there's so much info on how it creates nothing but unrealistic ideas and promotes violence against women? Why not shut it down and promote safe and realistic ideas through actual learning.

I remember coming across a tiktok talking about a research that said women who don't dress modestly tend to be less effected by harassment.

For the record I read the research paper this video talked about and there was a small paragraph talking about the possibility of this, it wasn't confirmed. But of course everyone twisted to demonise the hijab.

Funnily enough , that whole research paper talked about how women who work in jobs of service like waitresses and nursing were at higher risk of being sexually harassed by men. But no mention of that.

Not even a little bit.

I know when you read the above examples , you're gonna say " but that's the problem with men. Why should women have to suffer because men don't understand boundaries and respect" or " women choose to do those things and shouldn't be held accountable for actions of men"

Exactly. Exactly my point. Now apply this to the hijab.

Women choose to wear it. I choose to wear it. Yes some men are abusing the idea and it's wrong.

But demonising that idea as a whole?

Literally everything a women does has been abused by patriarchy in some way to turn it around and control them.

Antiaging ? Botox? Why? Do young women look better cuz they do or Because of the deep rooted ideology that men prefer younger women to fulfill their fet#shes and desires that has spiralled into the belief that women look worse with age but men look better?

Tldr , no hijab is not the problem, islam isn't the problem. Its men. Its always men who don't like seeing a women live her life.

#blocking the reblog because i said what i said #feminism ? #my body my choice #long rant #hijab #women #muslim

[havinganormalone]

Laughing about my bitch baby ex under the cut

So I reached out to the BDSM club I went to with my ex to tell them about the revenge porn and threat of outings, and they agreed that if he shows up to the club they will call the police since there is a warrant out for his arrest. And he KEEPS RSVPing to their events on Fet. I know him and his manipulation, so I understand it is a blatant attempt to intimidate me out of going to events, because heaven forbid I find a new partner to replace him (joke's on him, I had a new partner withing a week of dumping his ass). The club owner however is so confused. He's like "I haven't seen him at these events, and you said he had fled the state so I don't understand why he's doing this." and I'm like "Look it's a blatant attempt at intimidation." So the club owner reaches out and tells him that he can't keep RSVPing if he isn't going to show up to events, and now that little bitch baby is having a piss fit. Wah wah, can't use stupid intimidation tactic anymore. Gonna cry? Gonna kill yourself?

Oh and according to the club owner, the excuse he gave is that "he still travels to [my state] for work." Bitch please. That fucker couldn't afford a car (or the rent he promised me) because he was too busy pickling his brain in weed and booze. If he could drive, I would be dead. Like I just know that. He would have killed me if he could. The only thing stopping him is he has to go live with mommy and daddy because I stopped giving him a free ride, and they are two states away. He's not driving 8 hours for a 9-5 that paid $18 an hour. But he will do literally anything to pretend like he's not an unhinged stalker.

Anyways, I hope he DOES show up to a fucking event there. Would serve him right to get his ass arrested trying to intimidate me.

#adventures of violater ex #yuru howls

[angelkitty32001]

My lovely friend sent me these and they arrived today. He was supposed to bring them to the fet club on Sunday, but forgot, so he braved the post!

I have some lovely friends 🥰 they send me pretty boys.

#matt jackson #nick jackson #trading cards #pretty boys #fabulous friends #personal

[nyanggk]

Moots game! Give your moots a song and an idol you ship them with 🤭

imma drown myself in this anon good vibes✨✨ I'm having sm fun doing these moot games, I hope my moots aren't getting too annoyed at my endless pings😭 just message me if u guys are !!

so disclaimer tho !! im only going to do this moots game for my moots who I could think a song off for.

die for you by the weeknd & enhy jay — @nikirishimura

my other party goer queen😭😭😭 OK but Jay for this tho👀👀 lke, die for you is such a saaaxxxyyy song, I feel like you'd vibe to this for sure in a night club and yall are just gonna hump eo while dancing ( I CANT IM SORRY)

english love affair by 5sos & enhy jaeyun — @maiverie

IDK MAI THIS IS FOR U🤧 ik u ain't english but still, the "I'm 7k miles away. the movie playing in my head on her king sized bed means I can't forget my AUSSIE love affair" gives me you vibes since you're a party girl and jakes going to be drunk af and u guys are gonna have an AUSSIE love affair🤩✨ IK I KEEP SAYING YOURE A PARTY GIRL BUT I CANT FET IT OFF MY HEAD DEL IM SORRY IF ITS ANNOYING I CANTIFOWNF

woman by doja cat & enhy jay — @heexseung

to my independent woman‼️ this song screams woman empowerment to me pop ver. ISNDOWND also I felt like jay would be the best one to pair this song w u bcs he seems like the type of guy to have a slayful and wild gf while hes gonna be the calm and supportive bf🤧

cyber sex by doja cat & enhy jaeyun — @jngsngie

I CANT— WHY ARE ALL MY ENTRIES FOR THIS MOOTS GAME SO INAPPROPRIATE IM SORRY😭 Astrid gives me the wild vibes so that's why I feel like she'll be my moot that's most likely to do this with jake🤩 IDK EITHER why I keeps putting jake and jay for these MAN it's just cause jake is such a wild guy and I feel like he's such a fun guy to be around (both in general and in a sexual environment) and jay would be that sweet and hot one🤪🥵

again, sorry to my moots who I didn't get to include and MY BAD CAUSE the shit I listen to are either rock, rap, or sexy(?) music. I don't have wholesome, calm, and cutesy ones😭🤧

#— mirais spies✨💋 #mirais asks⚜ #{to do list — moots game 3 ! FINISHED} #this was so hard #but so fun at the same time!!

[baladric]

this feels like such a stupid thing to be upset about, but as i’m really coming into myself, i’m realizing that i very badly want to get into kinky shit that, you know, i want like. education on and hands-on experience with outside of explicitly sexual situations. before i fully dive in. but i can’t go to the one (1) kink club in my city, bc my ex-abuser is a major frequenter of the club and really deeply tied into the leather community in a way that would probably overlap a fair amount with the munches/play parties i would be going to. and i’m like... is it worth dealing with that confrontation? bc it would almost certainly be a confrontation if i ever saw him again, or he would shit-talk me to everyone in the community before i could prove myself. it’s been four years since i cut him off but fuck, i am still so fucking scared of him :’) and it’s awful bc i’ve been itchy this whole time that he got the club in the metaphorical divorce, but this is the first time i’ve actually been missing that option in my life, and idk what to do about it!! i was hoping he’d maybe moved away, but his fet says he’s still here, so.... idk idk, idk what to do, this would be different if i had a partner who was into s/m already but i don’t, so. fuck me, i guess.

#personal #kink shit idk