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yukiobeyme · 4 years

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Would you be willing to do one of the NSFW alphabet headcannons for Beel? I just read your Levi one and it was good 💓

NSFW under the cut! Thank you for the request <3

Beelzebub NSFW Alphabet

A = Aftercare (what they’re like after sex)

Didn’t really know what aftercare was, just figured it was staying together and sleeping. You end up bringing up your needs or the idea of aftercare. Beelzebub then makes sure to keep extra snacks and drink for you; he even goes as far as finding the electrolyte drinks to make sure you stay hydrated.

He also adores giving you soft kisses on your back and shoulders, holding you close to him.

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

He loves his hands, Beelzebub is huge for a demon but compared to a human, even of average or above-average size, he is massive. He absolutely marvels at the sheer difference between the sizes.

He loves your mouth; he loves how your mouth makes him feel. But he also loves your hands and how small they are compared to his dick. He honestly overall loves everything about you, especially when it’s on him.

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

The first time you swallowed his cum, he was beyond shocked and turned on again. He let out a groan when he felt his dick twitch interested in the scene that was in front of him. If he ever comes on your chest you should expect him to finger feed you his cum until you are clean.

D = Dirty secret (pretty self-explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

It’s not necessarily dirty but it’s probably one of the secrets he has kept from you. He likes how much bigger he is than you, he also knows the pure power he has over you as someone so much bigger as you and as a demon. But it’s something inside him snaps when you take charge and control. Something about seeing you smaller and weaker body on top of him, he is completely submissive and is practically putty in your hands.

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)

Is surprisingly experienced? He is by no means easy but promises of breakfast in the morning definitely motivates him to give his best performance. But it’s only a handful of partners but treats every time as his first time. Not necessarily in a clumsy/awkward way but more in the sense of teasing and casually touching you, making sure you are doing okay before he completely devours you.

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

Missionary, he is a simple demon and he loves the closeness of it. Sure he is down for you to top him or even occasionally take you from behind, but something about watching you fall apart under him drives him wild.

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

Can be pretty goofy, sex is weird and awkward sometimes. And sometimes weird noises are made and he constantly reassuring you that it’s all good. But he also just loves your laugh and smile and bringing them behind closed doors and to an intimate moment just drives him wild. Very rarely is it super serious, those are reserved for times when you need to be reminded of how loved and precious you are.

H = Hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

The carpets do match the drapes, he is naturally not very hairy but he is well-groomed, something about his wrestling outfit. Out of season, it’s a toss-up, It is either well-groomed for a bit but he’ll let it grow for a while, getting annoyed at the length and then the cycle starts all over again.

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

Is more on the romantic aspect, there is always a date or something beforehand. He tries to woo and seduce you every time. Makes sure to worship you and praise your body. You would be covered with his kisses and love before being wrapped tightly in his arms.

J = Jack off (masturbation headcanon)

Doesn’t jack off often, after meeting you, he would have more urges for sure. But Beel used to having food turning him on, so for you to turn him on he was equal parts confused and curious. After getting in a relationship he rather just message you he is hungry for you rather than food and forgoes jacking off alone.

K = Kink (one or more of their kinks)

Food Kink

It was your idea to bring food to the equation and Beel was more than eager to participate. Whip cream and strawberries are his favorites but there something about licking chocolate off you is amazing too. Likes to be one that gets to eat but will occasionally be allowed to be eaten off of.

Size Kink

It’s just something about how much bigger his is than you. How he can corner you and just tower over you. Your hand is so tiny in his and it drives him up the wall. While he isn’t into power play, he thinks his size kink influences his thoughts about how you could easily break when he towers over you. He also enjoys how much he can touch of you at once.

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

Your room, he doesn’t want to risk having Belphie ruining the moment. Though your room isn’t much safer. Occasionally the shower/bath and there was even a wild incident in a random closet at RAD.

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

You. Purely seeing you and seeing you react to him and how he moves. Its intoxicating and makes him hungry in other ways. He is being honest when he wants to devour you. Teasing is always a good thing to get him going especially when you try to eat the most sexual foods innocently. Praising and moaning over the taste, he tells you he is the only one that can make you sound like that.

N = No (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

Anything that can be considered dangerous and isn’t into BDSM. He just won’t do it, anything he is iffy on takes a lot of time and communication before he would consider it.

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

Giving all the way, he takes eating you out to a whole other level. You know that recent video of the Hawaiian Papaya eating contest? That’s how he eats you out, he constantly going down only coming up when he needs air before diving start back in with enthusiasm.

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

Slow and sensual all the way. Very rarely is he fast and rough, only times when he thinks he was going to lost you or if you spent the whole day working him up. He rarely desperate enough to want it fast and rough, He thoroughly enjoys slowly take you apart. Starting with kissing all over you, ignoring your sensitive areas. Before he finds his way to your thighs, where he will nip and bit. Your hands will be threaded in his hair and voice hoarse with pleading with him to touch you before he finally gives in.

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

Doesn’t haven’t often, he just doesn’t like being quick with you. He wants to take you apart piece by piece. He doesn’t want you leaving him without feeling worn out but most important he doesn’t want left to feel unloved.

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

With you he is willing to experiment, it makes it more fun. He is never too serious so any idea you have he won't shoot down and is willing to figuring it how to make it come true.

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

He can go 3-4 rounds; he considers rounds the amount of time you get off. He usually cums twice maybe a third time depending on the day. The first round is always focused on you feeling good without penetration, then focused on both of you with penetration, and the third is working you through another orgasm after you already felt spent. If you are up for another round, it a very slow and sinful round. Beel lasts way too long for your liking if that is even possible but he somehow manages his lust and desire perfectly.

T = Toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

Isn’t the biggest fan of using toys, unless if you express you would like to use toys, he wouldn’t even think about it. Doesn’t own any toys. Though he was a fan when you suggested edible lingerie

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Is very unfair and what makes it so unfair is he doesn’t mean to be. He just enjoys making you feel good and you spend all day worshipping your body. He loves all the noises you make, and it only encourages him, the amount of times you have been close to tears due to his teasing is unreal. You learned that tugging at his hair can usually get him to move on from the teasing but some days it seems like he wants to tease and work you up.

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

Isn’t very loud, he likes to only make noise when he is beside your ear. So you know exactly what noises you pull from him. Whenever he is receiving pleasure it isn’t a surprise to see him biting his lip or have a hand over his mouth to try and quiet himself.

W = Wild card (a random headcanon for the character)

It took a long time before you were able to talk Beel into letting you wear a gag ball. He just hates not being able to hear you or communicate with you. But then again there was something seeing your mouth stretched around a red ball, like a roast pig, that sparked a fire instead of him. The sex was rough and desperate, as you had drool at the corner of your mouths and tears threaten to leak from your eyes.

X = X-ray (let’s see what’s going on under those clothes)

Is HUNG, like damn. Like to the point, it is intimidating that first time you see it, but if you were to be split open… what a way to go. He knows he is huge too and makes sure to always be gentle and never pushes you or your body. The first time you saw it, or rather an outline was during a wrestling match and you were distracted and concern.

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

Is average for a demon, maybe a tad below average. But he would never turn down sex with you, especially because of the soft and intimate moments with you in the afterglow.

Z = Zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

He isn’t going to sleep until he eats to restore his stamina and most times it’s a food coma that will knock him out after sex. But he always brings you water and some food too, encouraging you to at least eat something before he will pull you onto his chest.

#Yuki writes a lemon about a demon #yuki draws #Lemon Time with a Demon #obey me beelzebub #beelzebub obey me #obey me beelz #Yuki Writes!#yuki writes

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curechocolattymilk · 3 years

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TES V OC Thingie

[Got tagged by @jessaryss ! ]

Pause your game! Wherever your OC is in their game currently, tell me about their story so far.

✧✧✧ General

Current Level: 56

Name: Jeer-Tei Perdes

Name Meaning: Literally got it from a name generator lol. But lore wise it was a name gifted to them in honor of an Argonian who served beside Tei’s mother during the Great War

Pronouns: They/Them

Age: Early 30s where they are story wise???

Race(s): Argonian

Place of Origin: Hammerfell

Pick A Theme Song For Them: oof that's tough... From a Crowded Wound or maybe even Firstwake? If you really played around w personal interpretation/the lyrics that is haha

✧✧✧ Locations

Where Did You Begin Their Game?: Argonian Assemblage, Windhelm (Alternative Start)

Where Are They Currently In Your Game?: Whiterun

What Are They Doing There?: Just finished attending a party held in their honor (Post Blood of Kings)

Homes?: Breezehome, Proudspire, Lakeview & Autmnwatch

# of Locations Discovered?: 274

Dungeons Cleared: 104

Misc. Quests Completed: 87

Favorite Areas and/or Locations: Falkreath / Lakewview Manor. Both areas are where Tei heads off to in order to collect their thoughts/feel some sense of calm.

✧✧✧ Main Quest

Are They Dragonborn / Do They Know It At This Point?: Yes & yes

How Do They Feel About Being Dragonborn: It's...complicated, being thrust into the role of savior by gods of the Cult, which in turn are followed by the folk who see you lesser than them. Tei already has a dislike towards the Divines, this doesn't really help lol

Main Quests Completed: 21

Where Are They In The Main Story Line: Alduin's dead, currently trying to ignore the Civil War as long as they can before the Empire forces its hand into forcing them to join their ranks

Dragon Souls Absorbed: In total overall? 147. The amount currently stored in Tei? 45

Words of Power Learned: 64

Shouts Mastered: 21

Favorite Shout: Firebreath / Dragonrend

✧✧✧ Combat

Most Used Weapon(s): Daedric war axe OR Dragonbone battle axe. Tei technically has both on them at all times during adventuring, alongside a shield, so which they used depends on the situation/which they grab fastest.

Combat Style: Two/One-handed tank. Main tactic is to rush in, cause as much damage/chaos as possible to shake up the opponent, & clean up what the ranged attackers of the party (usually Rumarin, Inigo and/or Lucien) weren't able to deal with.

Armor Type / Level In It: HEAVY ARMOR BABYYYYY (Level 100 + 35 extra points via enchantments)

# of Training Sessions: 99 in-game, lore wise its a lot of self-teaching/keeping their skills learned from Hammerfell sharp. Some of these are magic but lore-wise this doesn't happen cus Tei is not a magic user, save for shouts. I just did those in-game for exp OR so I can help Lucien raise his magic skills :'D

Who Taught Them?: In-game?? Fuuuck so many npcs. Lore-wise? They learned this from their schooling in Hammerfell, going off the canon-lore that it's p much expected for everyone to have a grasp on combat & weaponry! Though they did learn a few things from Kaidan & Anum-La.

Favorite Enemy Type: Dragons! Despite the fact Tei does not have the best magic resistance, it's one hell of a challenge they love to meet.

Least Favorite Enemy Type: Automatons, because of a bad experience with them as a child. Also Undead, because they were raised not to disturb them & it just feels so wrong having to fight them/go into tombs.

People Killed: 945

Animals Killed: 749 (Hunterborn makes hunting fun lol)

Undead Killed: 766

Automatons Killed: 105

Daedra Killed: 136

✧✧✧ Magic

Favorite School(s): None, actually. Destruction is okay though....they guess

Most Used Spell(s): Firebreath or Dragon Aspect. Tei doesn't consider shouts spells though. It's totally different guys shut up they ain't no smelly mage gods

Spells Learned: 9 in-game, mainly due to the spells you're kinda forced to learn for some quests/the ones you automatically know

Items Enchanted: 19 (Tei technically doesn't enchant, and wont next playthrough for sure I wont give in this time >:[ )

College of Winterhold Quests Completed: 8

Where Are They At In The Questline?: Main quest is done bcus i dont like seeing unfinished quests in my journal lmao. Tei's involvement is completely different from canon though in my take. Moreso was hired as a guard for the expedition & was, unwillingly, dragged into the rest of the mess. Is not offered the Archmage position, that went straight to Tolfdir.

Opinions on Magical Guilds (Arcane University, Winterhold, Psijics, Synod, Radiant Dark, etc.): As they get older, they tolerate the guild & magic users more n more, BUT, Tei grew up in an environment that frowns upon the practice of magic, & it shows. They mainly mistrust necromancers/illusionists & still hold onto that belief that reliance on magic, especially for combat, is a weakness.

Bold words for someone with shit magic resistance.

✧✧✧ Crime

Current Gold: 10,640

How Did They Acquire Their Gold?: Odd jobs, selling a lot of the items they made/harvested from smithing & hunting (jewelers are their go-to hirers bcus Tei is great at getting things like ivory), Dwemer ruin diving (they refuse to loot the tombs), also yknow....being part of the Dark Brotherhood helps

Largest Bounty On Their Head: 11,240

For...?: Unfortunately they did not stand down when they were being falsely accused of murder in Markarth. First time Tei called down dragons (Sahrotaar, specifically, Tei managed to get command of Miraak's dragons post-Dragonborn) to absolutely smite some fools.

Current Bounty: None! They're good at not getting caught/threatening and/or bribing guards. :)

Locks Picked: 15 i think?

Jail Time: 1, Cidhna Mine

Jail Escapes: 1, teamed up w the Forsworn lol

Murders: 28

Assaults: 307....In their defense people keep getting in their way during dragon attacks

Items Stolen: 37, most of them from the nobles of Windhelm

Thieves Guild Quests Completed: N/A (wont be doing this storyline unless i cant find a mod that'll let me get the shouts locked behind it)

Dark Brotherhood Quests Completed: 20

Where Are They At In Those Questlines?: DB is completed main arc wise!

✧✧✧ Relationships

Relationship Status: Married to two lovely fellas

Current Companions: atm? none

Housecarls: Lydia & Rayya

Friends (outside of party): Zora Fair-Child, Inigo, Lucien, Anum-La, Morndas, Aela the Huntress, Nazir, Babette, Scouts-Many-Marshes, Isobel, Madesi

Children: Khash, Chases-Starlight, Ram-Ku. (going of where Tei is now - Otero & Mei come around later on in Tei's story!)

Romantic Interest(s): Kaidan & Rumarin.

Sexual Orientation:

GAY

✧✧✧ Religion

Pantheon: Yokudan, with a hint of Hircine worship in there

Patron Deity(ies): From the Yokudan pantheon: Tei mainly views HoonDing as their main patron, but also prays to/pays respect to Satakal.

They are also Hircine's champion.

Daedric Quests Completed: 3 (Hircine, Vile, Dagon - the last Tei didn't really help, moreso pissed off)

Aedric Quests Completed: 1 if you count the whole Alduin thing I guess?

How Devout Are They?: Tei is rather devout, esp to their Yokudan patrons, praying or making offerings daily. They aren't the type to really push it in your face though, but have no issues answering questions one might have.

How Do They Feel About Talos Worship?: Deep down they acknowledge & admit trying to ban worship is terrible, but....Tei also lets their bias/experience with Windhelm, the Stormcloaks & especially Ulfric kinda cloud over this. If the Nords want their old ways so damn much, why fight for a divine from the Imperial Cult? Why not go back to the actual old ways? No, this isn't about worship, not to the men leading this so-called rebellion, they just needed something other than their racist bullshit to fool the common man into throwing their lives away for the nobles sitting comfortable in their thrones.

Also during their whole thing of getting into their role of dragonborn, they get a bonus 'fuck this dude actually' towards Talos, Ysmir, whatever the fuck he calls himself. (tldr; it sucks but good luck hearing Tei say that fully)

✧✧✧ Politics

Gray-Mane or Battle-Born?: Neither, ask them again they will punch you for the love of Ruptga they get asked that every time they enter Whiterun.

Stormcloaks or Imperials?: Also neither, Tei hates em both n think they can all choke. Unfortunately they were forced to join the latter due to, yknow, calling dragons & causing massive damage in Imperial territories during isolated fits of rage and the group being more aggressive in wanting something in return for "letting it slide"....oops

Opinion on the Thalmor?: Oh absolutely despises them, they loudly complained having to work with them during the CW & would go out their way to disrupt their plans/piss them off. Sneaking was an option they did not take during the Embassy quest, if it helps paint the picture.

Opinion Of Ulfric Stormcloak?: Tei doens't say they hate people often...but they sure as hell hate Ulfric. Again, their experience in Windhelm added to this heavily, how both the Dunmer & Argonians were treated like shit, with no help whatsoever from the Jarl or guards when the local Nords targeted them. It's still up in the air if I keep this for Tei's story, but I have it where they knew Chases-Starlight's parents, who were killed. When Tei went up & demanded justice/an investigation, only to be brushed off because it "wasn't a priority," it completely destroyed what little empathy or hope they had left for Windhelm as a whole.

Opinion of The Empire?: Cowards too weak to continue fighting back against the Thalmor, in their opinion, & holds these views they grew up with even when being strong-armed into aiding them. If anything they're at least attempting to use their influence to hint towards a rebellion against the Thalmor, but the Empire could also full-on dissolve & they could give less of a shit.

Civil War Quests Completed: 0

✧✧✧ Personal

How Are They Doing? Need Some Juice? A Nap? A Hug?: The whole event of Blood of Kings has fucked with their head, to say the least. It's the starting point of Tei's eventual spiral. So uh...yeah they're not sure how they're doing everything they knew about reality was kinda challenged & they don't rlly have anyone to talk to about it so its cool, its fine, its all good.

A nap is probably needed, not sure about a hug theough they're super flinchy rn

Days Past In Game: 196

Hours of Sleep: 846

Food Items Consumed: 1833

How Many Playthroughs Have You Done With This Character: Tei actually is an older character from the 360 days so uh...maybe 5 at most? This playthrough & their S:EC one coming up when the mod releases being the main ones focusing on their story

Overall How's Your Level Of Fun: Alright I would say! I just been stepping away from Skyrim more often lately to avoid burning out from it

Must Have Mods To Play This Character (for story or other reasons): Ordinator, Wintersun Faiths, Immersive Armors, Sarcastic Player Dialogue, 3DNPC, Inigo, Lucien Flavius, Kaidan 2, Khash the Argonian, Alternative Start, Leviathan Animations, Beast Race Body Paints, Beast HHBB, Apocalypse Magic, Deadly Dragons, Growl: Werewolf Overhaul, Pronouns, uhhh....idk what else without actually listing my current modlist lmao

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And that's it for Tei! Anyone who wants to do this go on ahead!

#tes v #tes v skyrim #last dragonborn #ldb oc #jeerteiperdes #tes #skyrimblogging #oc meme #long post #character meme #finished this just in time for me to start registering for my online courses neato #also its almost 12am so if you notice any misgendering of tei (calling them he) lmk im tired haha

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riddledeep · 4 years

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Poof’s Full Character Profile

Full disclosure / Soft spoilers / Your mileage may vary

[SORRY AGAIN I thought I cleared my queue but I guess not? Will finish later]

OVERVIEW

Full Name: Poof Nebula Fairywinkle-Cosma

Title(s): Youngest fairy in the universe (Temporarily) / Foop’s counterpart / The Red Ninja

Preferred Form of Address: Poof

Alternate Forms of Address: Fairy-Poof / Poof Prime / Puffball / Poofy / Poofster / Mr. Popular

Born: Winter of the Frozen Planet

Zodiac: Soil

Birthday: Third Monday of February (February 18th, 2008)

Hometown: Dimmsdale, California; USA (Later Petropolis, CA; USA)

Secondary Hometown: Faeheim, Central Star Region - Fairy World’s capital city, near the Big Wand

Came Into Adult Wings: 143,555 (Earlier than average)

Age During Frozen Timestream: Mentally 1-10

Age As of “Live For the Moment”: 147,425 (Mentally 13)

Age As of Devil’s Backbone: 163,254 (Mentally 14)

Race: Fae (Seelie Court)

Species: Fairy

Ethnicity: Mostly common fairy (Faedivus fae); ¼ will o’ the wisp (Faedivus lepidoptera); ⅛ brownie (Faedivus mundus)

Nationality: Ildáthachian (Obtained at birth); recognized as Jakokërian in Twilight Point (Hawthorn Haven)

Patron Insect: Orthemis ferruginea (Roseate skimmer dragonfly)

Mindset: Gyne (Subordinate)

Alpha Retinue Drone: N/A (See Prompt 129, “Happy Holidays”)

Previous Alpha Drones: N/A

Pheromones: Switched into maturity after pairing with Goldie in the Year of the Dancing Sunset

Counterparts: Poof/Foop (Equal core sync) > Poppy

Core: Searchlight

Core Color: Yellow

Core Trait: Vengeance-seeking

Anti-Fairy: Scientist, loner, and patient planner

Fairy Refract: Anime-obsessed pop diva wannabe

Stats:

Power: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Endurance: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Wisdom: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Adaptability: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Charisma: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Openness: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Conscientiousness: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Neuroticism: Below Average | Average | Above Average

Crown Lift: ~9 cm

Breathing Lines: Triple fishtail braid

Fagiggly Color: Purple

Preferred Shapeshifting Form: Cougar

Signature Tactic: _Name - _Description

Wand Type: Kitnut

Family: High status and wealthy (Whimsifinado)_

Creed: _ - “_”

Caretaker Spirit: His Glory Twryth (The wild hog)_

Permanent Residence: 123 Fishbowl Lane, Fairy World

Lives in the school dorms for much of the year - Rooms with Foop, Sammy Sweetsparkle, and Finley Hammerfall

Occasionally stays with his parents when they’re on the job.

Occupation: Student; celebrity kid since birth; on-campus repairman

BACKGROUND

Self-Perception: _

Alignment: _

MBTI: _

Deadly Sin: Pride

Heavenly Virtue: Kindness

Love Language: Quality time

Reinforcers: _

Personality: _

Despite only spending his first 1,000 years outside of Fairy World, which isn’t much by Fairy standards, Poof is aware there are gaps in his experiences with Fairy culture and is constantly paranoid about him. He often compares himself to his peers and feels they’re all smarter than him.

Education: _

Spellementary School: _

Middle School: _Did well academically? Poorly? Sports?

High School: _

Further Education: _

Favorite Magic Subject: _

Least Favorite Magic Subject: _

Favorite Non-Magic Subject: _

Least Favorite Non-Magic Subject: _

History: _

Notable Likes:

Goals:

Beliefs:

Fears:

Upsets:

Comforts: _

Indulgences: _

EXTERNAL

Verbal Notes: _

Language: _

Physical Notes: _

Handedness: Right-handed

Body Language: _

Hair: _

Teeth: _

Wings: _

Gyne Freckles: _Average dusting on face and throat, light dusting on back of shoulders, heavy dusting on upper arms.

Scars: _

Tattoos: _

Style: Relaxed, with a preference for style over comfort. His hair is wild and scraggly, and he usually ties it in a low ponytail. Since Cosmo was designed with the 1950s in mind, Poof was designed with the 1970s in mind; specifically, some inspiration was drawn from beat and hippie stereotypes.

Regular Clothing: Sleeveless yellow shirt, black pants, and untied shoes. His green jacket is the Carl Poofypants equivalent of a letter jacket, so he only got it after lettering in saucerbee.

Casual Clothing: Poof also owns a lightweight striped purple hoodie- emphasis on lightweight, as it is not very baggy or warm. He still loves wearing his headband even when dressing casually, as it’s his signature accessory.

Preening Clothing: _

Nightwear: _ Unsurprisingly, Poof doesn’t wear his headband to sleep.

Ceremonial Clothing: _

Other: _

Height: _4′1″ (Tall for a fae)

Hygiene: _

Morning Schedule: _

Typical Day Schedule: _

Evening Schedule: _

Sleep Schedule: _

PERSONAL

Relationship Status:

He’s preen-repulsed; he’s willing to go through with preening to please a partner, but still thinks the whole concept is squick-inducing.

Ideal Relationship: Poof is a very physical person. He loves cuddles and hugs all his friends regularly (though gives Foop a wide berth). He’ll usually kiss your cheek when he arrives or leaves unless he knows you’d rather he didn’t. He wouldn’t do well with a partner who feels uncomfortable about how physical he gets, or who is uncomfortable with PDA. He meshes well with Goldie because she has no problem expressing affection in public, and also no problem with him hugging other people.

Poof grew up comparing himself to humans in the media, and despite his time in Fairy World, he still clings to ideals he imprinted on long ago. Those ideals have changed over time across many years (most obviously when Dimmsdale was wiped out and Petropolis was built on its remains), but he’ll fall for most of the movie clichés he grew up watching.

Sexuality: Romantically and sexually attracted to Seelie Courters

Attractiveness: Poof is considered quite attractive by Fairy standards... perhaps more than his fair share. He’s well-built, coated in freckles, has a crown that floats quite high above his head, charming, and popular both in and outside of school. It’s this attractiveness that really helps change Fairy World’s negative views of luz mala (magical beings brought into existence through magical means, like wishes) as he grows up; Poof's natural magic may be highly unstable and far too easily affected by his emotions, but he isn’t dangerous! He’s the sweetest, most ruggedly handsome pretty-boy type you’ll ever meet.

Poof is far less attractive in Anti-Fairy society. He’s widely regarded as a bumbling fool who’s only made it so far in his schooling because Foop’s been carrying his lazy, forgetful butt. Anti-Fairies value brain over brawn, so being the son of the infamous Cosmo Cosma, the grandson of Big Daddy, and captain of his school’s saucerbee team on top of being a massive goody-two-shoes doesn’t exactly catch an Anti-Fairy’s interest. In Pixie society, Poof isn’t considered particularly attractive either, but he isn’t considered unattractive. He’s respected for his strength, though his lack of organizational skills are a major turn-off.

Where drones are concerned, Poof is averagely attractive as a gyne. His subordinate nature makes him no one’s go-to, but his roles as saucerbee team captain, one of the most popular kids in school, and a celebrity since he was born do score him a fair amount of points. Physically his looks are intriguing so occasionally he gets lingering glances, but drones tend to favor his roommate Finley if they’re looking for someone to hang around.

Intimate History: Considers his first sexual experience to be with Goldie, whom he dated for most of her life, while they were both still young. Poof has extremely uncertain feelings about the whole thing because he was pretty high on peppermint at the time and can’t remember if he consented to taking things as far as they went. He loves Goldie and doesn’t want to believe she would hurt him, and blames himself for being too stupid to hold onto his memories.

The two had a messy conflict afterwards, followed by a long period of abstaining from intimate relations. They’ve continued flirting, dating, and kissing despite this. Even so, tensions run high between them. Neither truly wants to leave the other, but Goldie knows she inadvertently hurt Poof and Poof feels terrible for being distant with her. They’re working through a lot of things right now as they try to apologize and make things work.

Turn-Ons: _

One gyne stereotype is that they’re into boys who fit the soft, cute cliché. Poof doesn’t go for all the small cute guys he’s expected to, but he does go for soft and nice.

Father: Cosmo Julius Cosma

Grandfather: Robin Cosma Sr.

Grandmother: Florensa Cosma (née Lunifly)

Uncle: Robin “Anti-Schnozmo” Cosma Jr.

Notable Ancestors: Ky Braddocki (The first brownie); distantly related to the von Strangle family

Mother: Wanda Venus Fairywinkle

Grandfather: Dusty Fairywinkle

Grandmother: Kylia Swiftspark

Aunts: Wendy “Blonda” Fairywinkle

Notable Ancestors: Ilisa Maddington (The first will o’ the wisp)

Brother: Dusty Smoky Fairywinkle-Cosma

Met at age 1,007

Godbrother: Timothy Tiberius Turner

Met February 18th, “2008”

Godsister: Chloe Carmichael

Met May 8th, 2004

Pets: Sparky

Met March 8th, 2003

Sparky stayed behind when Timmy and his godfamily parted ways, but when Timmy “outgrew him” so to speak, Cosmo and Wanda took him in.

Girlfriend: Marigold “Goldie” Kelsia Goldenglow

Met _

Current Love Interest: Goldie Goldenglow

Other Important Relationships: He considers Foop’s alternate personality (Hiccup) to be his cousin, but they have a rocky relationship. He’s on good terms with Goldie’s counterpart, Anti-Marigold, although he considers her to be on the fringes of his friend group.

TRIVIA

Sometimes teased by his classmates for “breathing like a pixie” due to his triple fishtail lines; H.P. is the one who gave those to him.

There’s a lot of gossip among Fairies about his lack of additional core color layers, including speculation that he may be adopted, he may be illegitimate, or he may have been a godkid who was turned into a fairy (See also, “Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Pixies”).

Poof is typically associated with animal imagery while Foop is associated with plants.

Likes to build things. Tinkers and welds when nervous.

Fan of human culture, history, and movies.

Interested in acting; can throw his voice.

Went through speech therapy in his younger years.

Never quite outgrew his fear of the dark.

Terrible at communicating when plans change.

He’s a kinesthetic learner.

Guilt eats him alive and he can only hide things for a limited time. Very bad liar.

Struggles to empathize with those he doesn’t like.

If he doesn’t like you, he’ll straight-up avoid you as much as possible.

Flies everywhere; almost never walks.

Never ties his shoes.

Despite the fact that he and Chloe are both good, cheerful people, the two tend to rub each other the wrong way; Chloe is a loud and enthusiastic go-getter while Poof is quiet and laid-back. Against all odds, she gets along better with Foop.

APPEARANCES

Riddleverse Classic Timeline: Identity Theft > “Bells On Bats’ Tails” > Along the Cherry Lane > “Whenever Possible” > “Let’s Speak Vatajasa” > Hawthorn Haven > Devil’s Backbone

130 Prompts Timeline: “Open Your Eyes” > “Make You Proud” > “Second Chance” > “Teaming Up” > “Evolution Hopeful” > “This Is a Box” > “Take a Break” > “Frozen” > “Unwelcome” > “Tools of the Trade” > “Opinion” > “Live For the Moment” > “Watch and Learn” > “Temptation” > “Repeat” > “All I Ever Wanted” > “Flying” > “Revenge” > “Prisoner” > “Forever”

AU Appearances:

Dust to Dust

#RD Poof #RD canon characters #RD character ref #RD profiles

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caddy-whump-us · 4 years

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Some questions/food for thought: Why can Lucian never be a Black Swan? Has he done something to discount him from that entirely? Does he ever beg to be treated like one (and get suitably punished for his insolence)?

Oh anon~ This is about to be a Deep Dive into the Lore and Backstory. Spoilers ahead for some of the unwritten bits of the vampire series. And this is seriously long, okay? And, more importantly:

CAUTION/TW for referenced non-con, sex work, and forced/non-con sex work, and physical violence. Nothing is described outright; all mentions are only oblique references. Still, please proceed with caution!

Okay. Lucien. This snide little asshole. Let’s talk about him!!!

Lucien could be a black swan–in theory. But he’s been passed over because he’s actually not entirely human. O wat? O yes.

So the “red light district” of this city (which needs a name; I generally picture something like Yharnam from Bloodborne but with fewer monsters and more of a functional city) is called Smoketown. And it’s off to the southeast corner of the city, on the other side of the river. And this is the part of town where the drugs, gambling, dance halls, and sex workers are found. To use the local slang, there’s grindhouses and ponyboy stables, and dollboys around Smoketown.

There’s a bit of a hierarchy, I guess, in all this, with the “dolls” and “dollboys” being the top tier (charging the most), down to the ponyboy/ponygirl stables (middle tier), down to the grindhouse boys/girls (lower tier), on down to the “crib hoors” and “street hoors” (generally regarded as awful and only suitable for the most broke and desperate). This is a real simplification, but I guess that explains the basics?

Lucien was, some time ago, a dollboy (so was Maggie Magpie, actually). They’re regarded as the prettiest and most expensive–if you want to be fancy you could almost call them courtesans. And, ideally, they’ll get themselves a particular patron and be a sort of love affair for pay.

An aside: so this imagined world has different views on sexuality (and to some extent gender? but not quite so much). Basically, when one is young, go ahead and fool around. You’re young, what you do now is less important than what you do later. But because this culture still very much holds to primogeniture, you had better be married to someone with whom you can have a biological child. That’s the ideal. But while you’re young, a teenager, a 20-something, go ahead and fool around–ideally not in Smoketown, but if you’re a boy and you find yourself drawn to a boy classmate, well, that’s just how it is when you’re young. And if you’re a girl, and you find yourself drawn to a girl classmate, well, go on ahead, because young love is passionate but rarely lasts. You can like whoever during this period of particular romantic and sexual freedom.

Once one gets a little older, it’s considered mature and responsible to “grow out” of this phase of experimentation and rampaging passion. You settle down, you marry someone with whom you can have biological children, and your firstborn will inherit your estate, &c &c. But, of course, some people just…won’t. Because this is how they are. In some cases, like Nikolai and Jonathan, they go on with their relationship and don’t grow out of it but rather into each other (this is why N&J staged a secret wedding between themselves, with rings and all; they can’t marry in the eyes of the law, but they consider themselves married). And, yes, this is not considered mature or wholly acceptable, so they keep these (quite committed) relationships as secret as possible.

In other cases, especially among the titled, the gentry, the upper-class, who all marry each other as one does, if you must indulge in this misplaced youthful exuberance, there’s Smoketown. And if must go to Smoketown, at least pay for the services of one of the sex workers of equally high status. (Does that always happen? No. But you get the idea.)

So you have this set of “houses” of highly-paid, highly-regarded “dollboys.” And these houses are both in competition with one another but not a strenuous competition. Any competition mostly plays out in trying to find or recruit new workers (Maggie, as an example, was born to a sex worker and, presumably, a client and was kept as a kind of a household servant in that same “house” until the proprietor of the Aviary encountered him and essentially bought him and kept on using him as a household servant until he was of age to actual start work; he’s in debt at this point).

And, of course, the different houses have different aesthetics. The Aviary tends to have boyish workers that play to that nostalgic “school romance” or “university romance” aesthetic, Lucien’s house (no name yet) tends to play more with gender especially re: clothing and makeup. Lucien likes feathers and leathers and silk and lace and painting his eyes. He knows he can kind of saunter along and blur that line. And it works well for him.

So that’s Smoketown. Now. Off north of the river and outside the city (northwest of it, I think?) is a district called “The Five Churches.” And there are, indeed, five churches, that all share a large plaza or square onto which their doors open (p.s.: weddings are conducted on the porch of the church; just a fun fact there). The sixth side of the plaza is open to the city. Beyond and behind the churches is a massive, massive cemetery–it is absolutely the cemetery for the entire city (please picture Highgate Cemetery or the Glasgow Necropolis).

And somewhere out in or beyond or (actually) under the cemetery is a secret, hidden, exclusive…club, I guess. It’s not a cult, but it’s extremely secretive. A secret society, is I guess the best way to put it. And it is called The Red Circle.

The truth is, the Red Circle is really just a giant whump party. The rich and powerful (men, almost exclusively) have at their disposal a selection of whumpees to use as they see fit, to release the tensions of the lives or to satisfy urges that otherwise cannot be soothed or just because.

Now it’s time to introduce a new character. His name is Cyprian and he is a vampire. And he is also under the control of the Red Circle (for reasons I haven’t figured out yet). They’ve got something to use against him if he betrays them, IDK.

Etienne has actually found evidence of Cyprian but doesn’t know it. There are tally marks in a book hidden in Viktor’s library that add up to about 3 years and change and at the end are the initials C. G. That’s Cyprian from back when he was Viktor’s black swan. And, yes, Viktor turned him into a vampire. And, no, Cyprian wasn’t happy. He should have been Viktor’s heir, but that didn’t work out. And now he’s under the command of the Red Circle. But why?

Well if you have a bunch of whumpees and you love whumping them, how do you keep whumping them without constantly killing them and then needing new ones? The answer came from some of Cyprian’s research (he started digging into the whole “black swan” custom among other things): it is possible to create a kind of ghoul, a kind of half-vampire by carrying out the procedure used to turn a human into a vampire but carrying that procedure out only partially.

Rather than draining the human of all (or almost all) of their blood and then feeding them blood from the vampire that drank their blood, a vampire can inject a human with a small amount of their blood (not taken from the human victim in question here) and you’ll end up with what’s been termed a ghoul.

Ghouls are worthless to vampires: their blood is disgusting, they smell like rust and iron to vampires. And they don’t get many of the benefits that full vampires have–they can’t move so fast, they don’t have the sharp teeth, &c. they do have better vision at night but their eyes are inclined to reflect light like a cat’s eyes will.

Instead, ghouls are more like humans but still have the vampiric sensitivity to sunlight (neither ghouls nor vampires burn in the sun, btw) and are bound by what’s called the Obligation of Flesh. Where vampires can sustain themselves with blood only, ghouls have to eat raw meat with some regularity. This both keeps them essentially sane and (more importantly to the Red Circle) helps them to heal inordinately quickly. Deny them meat and they heal like typical humans. Feed them some raw liver or brains or raw chicken and raw eggs and they’ll start mending right before your eyes (no, it isn’t comfortable, thanks). Yes, they can die and much more easily than true vampires and some of the Red Circle’s ghouls have, in fact, died.

Now you’re probably way ahead of me by now: Lucien is, in fact, a ghoul.

The Red Circle’s method goes like this: one or more of them identify someone they want to add to their collection. This decision is discussed and debated until consensus is reached–and they’re very careful about how often and who they add to their collection. At that point, lower-ranking members are sent to the target’s working house and pay for their services–whereupon they whump them up but badly.

This happens sometimes, even in the best houses, even in the Aviary. The target is allowed to heal but this means less money for the house. As soon as the target is back at work, someone else comes in and repeats the process: payment, whumping. The proprietor is not likely to put a bruised boy out on the floor in a good house, so back he goes to heal and, again, money is lost. And this repeats as long as is needed until word gets out that the proprietor is getting a little fed up with this pattern but it’s not one obvious person or one obvious group doing it. At that point, a messenger from the Red Circle will arrive with an offer to buy the target outright at an extravagant cost, enough to make losing this one boy worth it, especially if it means an end to having an unworkable boy so often. It may take time, but the proprietor is eventually coerced into accepting the offer and the target is spirited away by members of the Red Circle (or aspiring members maybe? pledges, if you will?) and to their secret meetingplace.

Everything about this sucks, including the part where Cyprian makes them into a ghoul, because that alone hurts like hell. And then they’re stuck there, getting whumped regularly, then patched up and/or fed raw meat. One of the higher-ranking members serves as a kind of proprietor there; Cyprian is as much a servant (or slave?) as any of the ghouls.

So that’s how Lucien ended up being completely undesirable to vampires. But how did he get out of the Red Circle? Mostly because he was a very bad element to add to the collection and there was an uprising against the members of the Red Circle and there may or may not have been some revenge whumping and even cannibalism (gotta meet that Obligation of Flesh somehow).

At that point, after the Red Circle was broken, everyone in the collection kind of went their own ways. Even Cyprian was free. Lucien, though, kind of fascinated by Cyprian and the things he talked about, sought out Viktor and offered himself as a postulate. And, as we all know, Viktor accepted him. And Lucien set out to be the best and most devoted because that’s how you get rewarded in the world he comes from.

But the first time he offered his blood to Viktor, Viktor laughed and called him a monster and refused his blood. And here Lucien, having learned of the whole black swan tradition mostly from being in Viktor’s house, had been hoping for such a place of honor and now it seems like it’s been absolutely denied to him forever–because he’s a monster with blood Viktor can’t consume. And, yes, Lucien is unbelievably angry and bitter about the whole situation, especially when Etienne enters the picture (unexpectedly).

I hadn’t thought about him begging for the chance to be treated as a black swan and then being punished for daring to ask for such a thing but, damn, now I want to think about that. He probably would–albeit in private. There’s a lot of jockeying for position among the postulates and Lucien has worked his way up to the top, almost a class by himself, and he will not let that go easily. So to be seen begging for something could weaken his position and that won’t do. And yet…and yet…he does want it…

He might get what he wants someday. But it’s going to take some interesting circumstances.

So that’s a bit of a deep dive into the lore, worldbuilding, and backstory that’s running along and behind the vampire stories. If you made it this far, thanks for reading all this! Bits of this will come out as I get more of the stories sorted out and written. But there you have it~

#whump #whump adjacent #worldbuilding #vampires #Lucien #viktor #backstory #lore #captivity

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imaginedanganronpa · 6 years

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!!! could i request some sfw + nsfw headcanons for Korekiyo Shinguuji x Male!S/O x Gonta Gokuhara? :3c

I’m kinda bad at writing in male-perspectives ahh, but I tried. I hope you like it! I love both of them so much~I assumed this was meant to be written as a Poly-relationship, so that’s what I did. NSFW Under the Cut!

Korekiyo Shinguuji x Male!S/O x Gonta Gokuhara Headcanons! (SFW & NSFW)

Safe For Work

Your relationship was very laid back and carefree. Korekiyowas never someone who placed a lot of boundaries and rules on his partners, andGonta was a big hopeless romantic, who was too in love with you both to care.It was nice having freedom.

You and Korekiyo had no issue with the idea, but Gonta was still figuring outhis sexuality and settling into the relationship – which you respected.

When cuddling, Gonta is usually in the middle, while you and Korekiyo tend tocuddle against his chest. You lock hands as well, whilst Gonta has one armaround each of you.

It was Korekiyo’s idea to be in a Poly-Relationship in the first place. Gonta,of course, wasn’t quite sure what that was entirely, so took longer to getcomfortable. In the meantime, you had Korekiyo all to yourself, and he gave hisman all of his affection.

You were okay with it because it meant you didn’t have to choose between thepeople you loved the most, and the messy love-triangle you three had ended upworking out with no problems whatsoever.

Gonta is definitely the big spoon, but whenever it was just you and Korekiyo,you switched off on who was more dominant.

Korekiyo loves preparing dinner for all three of you. He’s essentially the headof the household.

Korekiyo was also good at distributing equal amounts of love to each of you,whilst Gonta was a bit more selfish: he’d go through phases where he wantedmore affection or attention from one of you than the other.

They lowkey equally love it when you play with their hair and do things likeput it up or braid it.

Often, you three would be viewed as just friends rather than romantic partners.Gonta was more vocal about his disapproval, while Korekiyo tended to be thecalming, more understanding figure in the relationship. He was the one whoalways kept a cool head and diffused any and all tension within the group.

Often, you would switch off date nights – rarely did you go as a group ofthree. Korekiyo was the best at planning the dates, but you also did your fairshare.

Dates with Korekiyo were often romantic and passionate, whilst those with Gontawere usually more playful and relaxed. And on those dates where it was Korekiyoand Gonta, you never knew what to expect – it always seemed to be somethingcompletely different and unique. If you all did go as a group of three, it wasto something a bit more tame – like the movies, or a lunch-date.

Jealously was nonexistent, which was relieving. You three are completely opento one another with no secrets and nothing to hide.

Korekiyo tends to plan the surprises. However, you three are all so polarizingand different that gift-giving can get a little bit messy, so that doesn’thappen too often.

Your mornings begin with soft kisses and sleepy eyes, a gentle wake-up call.Korekiyo is the first one awake and always prepares breakfast, whilst Gontasleeps-in most of the time.

Your nights end with just as much gentle and loving interactions, and sometimesnights of passion and lovemaking.

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Those nights were always filled with intensity.

Korekiyo prefers having no strings attached whilst Gonta likes taking someprecautions – unless he’s really in the mood.

Korekiyo is also definitely the kinkiest one out of all of you.

He enjoys ropes, obviously – he’s very vocal about this. He also enjoys beingdominant, gagging, and painplay. There’s a safeword, of course.

Gonta, on the other hand, doesn’t have very many. He’s dabbled in petplay,under Korekiyo’s guide.

You like to help Korekiyo dominate Gonta since he obviously has a physicaladvantage over you two, so both enjoy exploring his body together – and hedoesn’t mind. Gonta prefers being submissive, but switches from time to time.

Korekiyo is a massive fan of oral, which you’ll happily help him with. Gonta doesn’tlike giving as much as he does receiving, so he usually works on you while youwork on Kiyo. It works out, since Korekiyo loves seeing both of his boyspleasuring another, and he gets to sit back – it gives him a power rush.

Gonta prefers being dominant over you than Korekiyo, and during those times,Kiyo usually sits back and enjoys watching his boys. He gets off at seeingothers get off.

That’s why he likes watching porn so much. He sees beauty in humanity, andoften tries convincing you two to watch with him. Sometimes you oblige, butGonta wants nothing to do with it.

Korekiyo loves to tie both of you up. Usually its one or the other but if he’s feelingreally assertive, he’ll tie you both up simultaneously and tease yourelentlessly. His favorite thing is teasing, and you love the rush ofsatisfaction you get when he finally gives himself to you.

Gonta loves being praised, especially by Korekiyo since his voice is so sultryand attractive. He has explored dirty talk but gets a little bit shy, but you’regood at luring that side out of him.

When they let you dominate, they let you practice any and all fantasies youhave on them. Essentially letting you do whatever you want to them, and you’rerather good at it.

Gonta needs a lot of reassurance but Korekiyo is good at this, and sometimes he’llloosen up and let you take hold of the reigns for a while. Until he’s feelingmore controlling again, and then he majorly power-switches and will pin youdown.

And on even rarer occasions, Gonta is dominant and lets his inner-animal out.He’s very rough, but only has short bursts of dominance before he submitsagain.

These nights always end with a lot of cuddling and kisses, and falling asleep togetherin a tangled, messy heap.

- Mod Rantaro

#korekiyo shinguuji #gonta gokuhara #danganronpa #ndrv3 #ndrv3 imagines #danganronpa v3 #imagines #lemon

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leiraevol · 3 years

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#weedismyschool

I love him!

And he loves me!

But it’s different than romantic love. I wasn’t attracted to him for sexual purpose. But we are very very close, like we are comfortable holding each other to sleep, showering together, peeing in front of the other, wearing each other’s underwear etc. it’s very unique.

It’s like the love for a really really good friend, like finding “知音”, someone who floats within the same frequency slot like you, yet from a different way. There are not much polarities so to speak (difference in frequency); but like to like.

It’s a very different form of relationship and connection. It confused me with my sex addiction and marriage fantasy issues; so I was trying to put a label on it, yet failed and suffered. If I have to put us into conventional box, or him into a simple value level, I am still being dogmatic and not fully floating.

Yea, if I really “discovered” the secret, then why would I be wasting time waiting for a bunch of late boomers to become awake? It’s best to play the game and show the world myself, first!

Well if they are interested in learning how later, I can then teach them.

He’s the other joker. That’s why we understands each other. He’s more black and white and I am the one with the colors.

Embrace who you are; not judging it. Manuwavering is perfectly fine in a dry fact based system. It’s all a game. Telling different levels of truth, intentionally misdirecting conversations, leaving important parts of the information — is it the same as lying?

As the system gets more and more complex and we are more and more connected, it’s time our judgements flexibility also raises.

It’s really nice because he’s deep in his view of the outter world; and I am deep in my contemplation of the inner world.

I think that’s why we need each other. To experience and understand the others world, thus expanding who we are, together.

He probably will be a long term partner of some kind, probably business, because the friendship is deep and we are both talented and we adore each other, so why not make something happen together to the world?

Maybe real humans are not suppose to have that many sex in their lives? Most animals only do sex to reproduce, right? Perhaps it’s better to focus attention somewhere else, and not let the society media advertisements induced addictions take over? Most of them are fake knowledges and heavy lying with little regards to human well beings. — typical level 5 stuff, right?

Hey, I do not have real many friends. And probably will limit the access even more once I am at the position of choosing. It is an “opportunity” to be my friend, yes. With the juice of Eric I don’t feel I need to extra socialize with many— they are a waste of time.

We are living— either we work hard together, we motivate each other, or we play together and really have fun and live. We seem to be on the same page and matching steps.

Wow if that’s how universe introduce who I needed the most— a business partner to me, I am truly amazed and grateful.

Theories now become real actions and game plans, while documenting and celebrating along way.

If new art forms can be distorted and weird and still being authentic, why not writings? Why not performance? Being weird is the new cool thing. The majority, or all of us, are somehow attracted to things we don’t know, and we want to know them to expand our consciousness anyway . That’s the real “work” on earth, and should really be priceless. But in the capitalism world, perhaps we can input some price label to make people really appreciate the concept.

It’s best to offer some form of ownership — it’s a cool thing, it’s like, even though I don’t have the time or mental capacity to read books, but I like to buy them

And own them so I feel a sense of ownership and somehow connected to the field and the bigger expansion.

There must be energy exchange, then based on that it’s how much I value the interaction.

Ideally people are willing to pay more for what they like more. That’s one order. Or for whatever reason they somehow paid a lot of money for something, then they would start to like that more simply because it’s more expensive, more energy was given out. But energy doesn’t lose or diminish under physical laws, so as they are doing the exchange, new dynamics are formed and energy are added to both the work and the buyer and the creator.

People are on earth to do their “work”— the expansion inner work as well as the the expansion of outer material world. And they strive for balance. So after some one who made a lot of money in the out world, he or she must have an urge to fill her inner world as well to get balanced.

Hummm

If abstract painting, cubism was a thing to distort a person, and people like it, I wonder if language will also exist not to “make sense”, but to emit “power” and vibes?

It’s good to stay away from all who manipulate you to feel like shit, only stay close to those who make you feel good about yourself— then you can do good. Everyone is manipulating, but the difference is, to what direction? What’s the intention? Is it good for me?

I have a choice about what to follow and what not. Really get to understand who cares and how they care and to what degree.

Under ecology and respecting the other persons world, it’s ok to maneuver to my direction, because it will be mutually beneficial in the long run. It’s a process, wait, the game hasn’t even started.

You have been doing massive amount of prep work, to get you trained, and get you experienced, and more skills, to start the next phase of life.

It’s not about you two anymore; it’s about something from you and bigger than you, it’s about something for the rest of the world who don’t have access to your mental plane. And you, give them the access, and charge for it.

It’s almost like opening up Einstein’s brain and have a tour in his inner world — get to know his thinking process, his emotions, how things interact with him, how he arrived at where he’s at, etc. we have a tendency of being curious about something fascinating and something we don’t know. Thus we read about people’s biographies. But the new way to present a person is probably now both inner and outter— both have work and show the process as well. Something to be put in museums later. Lots of artists got to live for a long time because their inner and outter world still have value to the rest of the world, and thus business people have their shows out of love or profit making.

Yea, can’t stop me from thinking big.

In the “real” world, business people work for true artists, not the other way around. Founders of unicorn companies are some of the biggest artists ever. Then the business people work for them.

It’s about what level what skill you have as an artist, which decide where you will stand in this art-business dance.

Ideas. Concepts. Intriguing. Enlightening. Educating. Empowering.

Or simply beautiful, authentic, even bizarre.

They are things companies and eligible individuals like to own.

In company you work you get paid, quick. With art, sometimes it will take a long time before you see a paycheck that covers generously all of your previous work, known (work came to being) or unknown (the pieces that die during the process). The creation process is part of the effort,and the more you put in, the more that will come back to you in one way or the other — pure enjoyment of it, or even material payment; it’s an adding process.

Con-artists are still artists, they possess different types of skills, the dark triangle of people. If we look at them from purely expansion point of view, and appreciate the craftsmanship, I think we can still derive value out of it. Like a tragedy movie — it still holds emotional value despite not being a comedy, some times tragedy makes people remember it more, and had a deeper ripple for someone who’s due to experience some sort of emotions within him or she.

Ownership huh.

Maybe it’s good to keep things private, first. Before selling for more. Before someone copying things without me being able to sue them back. The criptical currency solve this media plagiarism 尴尬。 it’s helping the art community for sure. Where ideas and concepts all have value, the more closer to the ground the more value it has. Like a tree giving out fruits, but it takes dedication to grow a tree. Yet someone who’s growing a tree with all the patience in the world, won’t be able to if he or she simply doesn’t have the seeds. So it’s critical someone sells the seed in the process. But seeds compare to the fruit, probably won’t be able to charge a lot of money for one, yet can still make a living selling a lot. Wait, or not. Being the only exclusive seed on earth, at least can sell higher than other commodities. You as a buyer are still not sure if the seed will turn into a tree yet, but at least now you own the golden ticket— an opportunity to have a gold tree.

well

It depends on how you look at it.

Usually the more money one has, the more artistic /creative one is, the more “任性” they can become, and the more willing to present more resources for the things they like. And they can simply afford more of their expensive tastes. That’s it.

I’ve been there. Tested it. It feels good. But gotta make sure it’s your own money first. Not so fun to get in debt.

Perhaps being “sick “ was my entire market research effort— by becoming one of the consumers. Yes I shop weird, but there must be people just like me, maybe not the majority, and they will be the target .

Being “sick” is my natural acting, it’s the price I have to pay to get funding through the resources. Who are motivated by obligations and responsibilities. Pay now, enjoy later. No fun though.

It’s also an investment from a business perspective.

Yea he’s kind like Brendon, or John Strait, but a younger more socially acceptable version. 知音。they really love you but not trying to “hold住” 你。

大女人是拿来爱的，不是拿来hold住的。

They bring the best version out of your self.

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Can I have my boi David and tiny little turn ons and things that make his heart flutter - campcampman B)

I believe I’m a little predictable. But at least I’ve got a market, and I love you all!

When they discover they’ve got a crush:

David’s a simple man.

I’m not saying I don’t think he’d have any sort of fears or insecurities about liking someone, but I also feel like he doesn’t think that deeply about it. He likes someone, he enjoys being around them. I’m not even all that confident how romance factors into it; he sort of strikes me as a “if we’re together, I’m happy!” kind of fella.

How they confess/hint:

“H-hey, um, _____? Listen, I, ah, I was wondering if you might — well, I realize it’s short notice but I thought it might be fun if we … maybe … wentoutonadatenookaythenbye!” *zooms away*

Not very smooth, is what I’m saying.

Big gestures of love:

The man wears a fucking boutonniere on a date.

He goes HAM with the big gestures. I’m talking flowers, I’m talking candles, rose petals, probably a band or quartet of some sort. The man will use his tiny camp salary to blow you away with romance. And when he has no more money he’ll make a picnic and take you out under the stars and show you how beautiful the forest is at nice.

He’s a bit of a hopeless romantic.

Little gestures of love:

I’m not confident David has little gestures of love. The man has 2 modes: thoughtful and sweet, and a total inconsiderate asshole. He’ll completely forget your anniversary because he was busy staring at butterflies or something, but he’ll also drive 20 minutes out of his way to find the exact brand of chocolate you like when you’ve had a bad day.

How to win their heart:

Do you like camping? Do you like nature? Do you like kids? Do you like anything?

No? It’s okay, David loves you anyway and is probably choosing to gloss over or ignore the fact that you don’t like the same things he does. I’m pretty sure the only people in canon he doesn’t like are Jermy Fartz and Jacob, so don’t be a nasty unpleasant child who makes out with dogs and don’t date his ex-girlfriend and you should get on like a house on fire.

How to break their heart:

Why would you ever want to do that, you monster?! He’s so sweet and fragile!

But I do think homeboy has some abandonment issues. Rejection seems to hit him pretty goddamn hard (when it sinks in; see the glossing-over bit from the last question), and I think feeling unwanted would be enough to break the boy.

Tiny little turn-ons:

I think he’s a bit of a princess. He likes to feel special and that’s probably the quickest way to win him over. He also loves cuddles and hand holding (it’s like a hug for your hands!) and little affectionate kisses on the nose/forehead/cheek/hand.

*coughs* Okay I also headcanon hard that he’s an ass man. I’m sorry, I just do.

Big turn-ons:

*turns to Massive Pile O’ Gwenvid Smut* Um … being called “sir.” But also is a total switch and very naturally submissive. Neck kisses/hickeys/being marked. I like to think (stolen from @ciphernetics, as are all my best things) that the scars he’d have on his hands from being stabbed are really sensitive.

I wrote a whole collection of sexuality headcanons for this man, please consult that or aforementioned Massive Pile O’ Smut for more. I think those are the big ones, though.

Things that make their heart flutter:

Friendship! Just overt expressions of affection in general, and for people less obviously sweet like Gwen ohhoho I am the trash queen I imagine he learns how to read between the lines and pick up when someone’s genuinely trying to show him they care, and he appreciates things like that.

But being pulled into hugs/kisses and picked up like a sack of potatoes and just general snuggly goodness? I think that’d make him melt, because while I don’t necessarily imagine he’s touch- or affection-starved, he’s obviously a very tactile person.

Their type:

WE KNOW THIS! It happens to be smart-mouthed, tough, dark-skinned women who could probably kill him. I also think he has a thing for big teddy-bear-type guys, but canonically? David wants a lady who could snap him in half.

Ideal date:

The forest! Probably a picnic or a nice meal followed by a long walk in nature (I could see him liking walks on the beach, the fucking cliche. What a dork). But I also think he’d really enjoy planning a date, like cooking a meal or setting up a thing; it’d probably remind him of planning camp activities, and he just seems like the kind of person who loves running things.

Past relationships:

Nope. Pure undiluted virgin. Maybe kissed someone in highschool, but it wasn’t something he especially enjoyed, so while he entertains crushes and *ahem* the like, I have a hard time imagining him having had a ton of relationship experience, both because he’s just so painfully innocent-seeming and because … I mean, who outside the fandom would want to date him?

How they might affect current relationships:

He’s very nervous about getting things right, and does absurd amounts of research on everything from navigating the first fight to how to perform anilingus. Asks lots of questions, is very quick to backpedal and skittish in general, must be led by the hand, but is also ridiculously enthusiastic about everything and eager to learn. Feels … lucky, kind of, to be given the chance by someone so swell, and he really wants to make sure he doesn’t mess it up.

‘Goals’ in a relationship (marriage, kids, a house, etc):

Yep. Those are the ones. I feel like David’s very much a “been planning his wedding since he was 5 years old” kinda person. Hugely romantic, and while I also think he’d end up being very happy in a less traditional lifestyle, I’m not sure it would even occur to him without some kind of catalyst. There’s something about him that seems a little bit old-fashioned, I guess.

Any other love headcanons:

He just wants to be loved. He has so much love to give and things never seem to quite work out, but he’s confident that they will! He’s a great believer in the power of positive thinking.

Oh, and he was absolutely in love with Jasper. At the very least harbored a serious crush. I will not be swayed on this one.

#campcamp #cc david #gwenvid #ish #jaspid #again -- ish #jaspvid #ask forest

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Why I Stopped Dating Japanese Girls… And You Should Too!

I used to do it a ton.

With a couple days a week for gym, and a few others for going out (either to bars and clubs or for daygame), I still managed to squeeze in probably 4 dates a week during a certain period of my game career. Sometimes I’d cram 2-3 dates in a single day, and other times I’d meet them late after work or gym.

And it was great. I’d go out to restaurants, izakayas, bowling, batting cages, picnics, home dinner dates with wine, ping pong, rooftop terraces, boat cruises, matsuris, hanami viewing, fireworks shows, friends’ music sets, and pretty much everything I could think of.

Dates are, after all, the main way people connect and get to know each other better and forge a romantic connection. They are etched into the collective unconscious through culture and society, with nearly everyone able to relate to typical tropes such as the awkward first few minutes, the deciding whether or not to have another drink, and the magical “first kiss” moment – a hugely hyped second in time where the act of leaning in just a few inches never felt so nerve-wracking, as if you finally got to discover whether you’d just wasted several hours or not.

All in all it was a fun time and I don’t regret it at all. Dates are a total blast and generally how the rest of the world operates, at least romantically. I built a lot of skills regarding holding an interesting conversation, offering up interesting stories and topics, and digging into the reality of the person in front of me. Dating taught me patience, empathy, communication skills, cold reading abilities, and of course, boldness to make a move.

So why did I stop?

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Ultimately, dating (especially several times a week, as I was) ends up taking a large amount of time, effort, money, and coordination over text. Flakes on the same day would ruin my time allotment, leaving my schedule suddenly free, and while I was perfectly capable of coming up with something else I needed or wanted to do, it still didn’t seem like the most efficient way to spend my time or connect with women.

What changed?

Somewhere along the way, I started to realize that I could simply sleep with women the first day I met them. The fabled SNL – same night lay – had caught my imagination. Now, when average guys hear about people pulling SNLs they imagine drunk girls whisked off from clubs – sluts and hoes blacked out and either purposefully putting themselves out to be taken home, or senses dulled to what was happening only to discover in the morning and regret it.

Our society doesn’t really account for the fact that women want anonymous sex, and that more often than not, a far larger segment of (female) society is open to the idea. Perhaps they don’t leave the house with the plan of ending up with a stranger in a love hotel or banging in a karaoke-kan, but when presented with the opportunity in the form of a charismatic man who recognizes them for who they are, leads them effectively and engages them emotionally, and provides no risk to their friends, family, or workplace (who would likely shame them for their desire for casual sex), they might just take them up on it.

My first daytime SNL was a huge rush. I had pulled from clubs and bars before, and to some degree pulling girls in the night time is something that society understands to be possible. The average joe realizes that women go to clubs and sometimes leave with guys they met that night. But the daytime? ABSURD!

The typical responses and doubts creep in for guys who hear tales of daytime SNLs (or even night time, for that matter):

-They must be ugly

-They must be desperate

-They must be sluts

-They must have messed up relationships with their fathers

-You just happened to be exactly their type

And while some of these may be the case some of the time, the vast majority of women I (and those I’m close with) pull from streets, cafes, bookstores, train stations, department stores, buses, convenience stores, and pretty much anywhere they exist are, by and large, better looking and less of the ‘party girl” type than those people often end up with coming home with from clubs and bars.

Somewhere in the cobwebbed corners of my mind I remember the old joke/observation someone had about the popular video series, “Girls Gone Wild.” Trying to explain the allure and massive popularity of the series over something more straightforward like porn, they casually mentioned,

“Why is Girls Gone Wild so much better than just normal porn, despite showing less? Because porn is just porn stars. They take dicks on a regular basis, and anyone can see it and find them without really any difficulty. It’s their job to do that. But GGW is regular girls, gone wild! They do it because they want to.”

In many ways, this explains several trends in porn itself, such as the massive popularity of amateur home videos, camgirls, “girl next door” types, wife porn, cuckolding, and more. In other words, the regular nature of the girls, the fact that they are not professionally out there riding cocks left and right and instead are doing it because they just want to go wild makes those girls more exciting.

Similarly, while you can find the occasional “good girl” out there in clubs, chances are these girls are the kinds who are getting wasted weekly and going home with different guys. Nothing wrong with that of course, and I will happily take a hot club girl home for a romp. But there’s something extra exciting about bringing a sexual encounter to someone who otherwise had no idea of the possibility before the day. Not a regular, a professional. Creating the opportunity for a normal girl to “go wild”, as it were.

On the streets, you find the normally bookish girl who went to girls’ university and now works tucked away in some lonely engineering firm.

The elegant housewife, married but unsatisfied, wandering the daytime streets of Minato-ku and Omotesando.

The tourist girl visiting from Osaka, wandering around Tokyo with bags full of shopping.

The cosplay chick who spends nights working as a companion in various sorts of attire but is internet-famous.

The jazz singer who performs on stages around the country, but just happens to be free and in the area that day.

While you’ll undoubtedly stumble across party girls and the same types as you’d find in bars and clubs (indeed, they have to walk on the streets to get to those bars and clubs!), your overall range of possibilities is much higher.

On top of that, most of the hottest girls I’ve ever hooked up with, I only had ONE chance with them, usually the first day I met them. Now, I’m talking about absurdly high-level chicks here. Booked out every day for months, rarely without friends or minders, celebrities or semi-famous girls with entourages, models… you get the idea. You’re welcome to try to schedule dates with these kinds of girls. And sometimes, it can work. Sometimes, it’s the only shot you get. BUT, if you happen to catch one of these girls with an hour or so free time before her next appointment, and you DON’T pull the trigger then and there, I’ll climb down your chimney and throw caltrops on your floor while you’re sleeping because that’s a damn crime. Keep in mind these girls meet dozens, if not hundreds of wealthy, cool, socially savvy and tuned in guys every week. Your five-minute approach on the street with a number close that has you feeling over the moon isn’t likely to stick in her memory as much as pulling and instantly banging her.

“What if she doesn’t have time at that moment?” I hear you ask, “You still wouldn’t date her?”

On a given day of gaming out on the streets, I’ll get anywhere between 5 and 20 new contacts. Often, I never even write them a single message. Most commonly, I’ll mass invite them to parties and events I’m going to and see who turns up. And with the very minor few who make a particularly powerful impression on me and I can’t get out of my mind, then I’ll schedule an actual proper date.

On any given day, I have a pretty high chance of pulling a girl home (or to a hotel, etc) for an SNL. In fact, the critical point at which I stopped dating so much was when I realized that, accounting for flakes on dates and girls not wanting to hook up that day, I have a better chance of hooking up with a girl by ONLY going for an SNL than by scheduling dates at all.

Now I’m not recommending you do this. In fact, for 95% of the guys out there, this strategy would be absurd and impractical. This is something you can only do when you have a massive abundance of girls and a decent ability to go out there and pull girls for SNLs. But I just wanted to share why I stopped dating Japanese girls.

Of course, the title is a *bit* misleading. In the last month I think I scheduled about 3 dates (all with those girls that I REALLY was excited about) from over 150 new contacts. But despite dating less, I get laid more than ever.

And I just take the girls I’ve already slept with to all those places I want to go to (fireworks, dinner, activities, etc). It’s just easier that way. They show up more often, put out, and we laugh the whole time because the “wall” has already been broken.

What about the rest of those contacts? They get thrown on the reserve list, to be pulled out when a friend wants to throw together a party and needs a bunch of girls to show up, or if I have a particular friend who suits one girl I might try to hook them up. I also periodically hit up a huge chunk of girls (perhaps 50 or so) on a night I’m out to see if they’re also out and want to come hang together. Often, this will lead to a spontaneous “date”.

So in summary:

-Dating is more expensive, takes longer, requires more follow-up over text, often has more things out of your control (illness / change of moods / sudden boyfriends) than simply SNLing her then and there

-Approach more, build huge abundance while at the same time pushing each interaction farther

-Inviting large amounts of girls to one single night or event is a good use of your time and leads to higher chances of hooking up

-Often the hottest & best quality girls are the busiest, so if you catch them with some free time, swing for the fences!!

-All other things held constant, you have more to gain by making a stronger connection sooner rather than later. Sex, of course, builds connection & breaks down barriers between people.

Ultimately, this is the way I’m gaming these days. Live on the streets, go hard in the paint, and pull for the home run.

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17 things all couples must do together before they get married Marriage is a big step – if you’re planning on doing it right, then you are signing up to be with the same person for the rest of your life so you had better both be sure that you know each other well enough to know that you won’t spend 90% of the marriage ripping each other to bits (rather than the standard 80%). There are a number of ways to establish whether it’s the right time for you and bae to dabble in the matrimony game. If you can tick all of these 17 things off and still get the butterfly feeling in your stomach about your other half, then it’s time to go ring shopping. 1. Have a big argument Seriously, this couldn’t be more important. You need to know that you can handle the inevitable rows and be able to move on from them. Arguments are never pleasant but are often necessary to air things and can actually make a relationship stronger. 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