#i don't know at what point in the multiple-step process that is sending a tumblr ask that they thought THIS was a thing to say to a stranger

[corrodedbisexual]

The ultimate shadow ban survivor guide

I've seen multiple people I follow, or their mutuals affected by shadow bans lately (makes me wonder if it's @staff's attempts to fight bots going totally haywire). As someone who survived a 2-month-long shadow ban on my main this winter, I thought I'd make a post.

First step of being shadow banned: calm down and take a breath. A shadow ban is just a stupid glitch in tumblr's anti-spam system. You're not losing your blog. You're gonna need a whole lot of patience, and deal with inconveniences, but it's fixable.

Read the incredibly useful post All About Shadowban by @that-damn-girl. It outlines the symptoms quite well. The only thing I'd point out is "your original posts won’t be visible to your followers either" - afaik that doesn't happen. Everything you post and reblog will still be visible to your followers, and also they can interact with your posts - like them, reblog them, reply to them.

Just like the post says, contact support. I recommend using a different email than what your banned blog is registered to; not because your ticket won't go through (mine actually did, as I found out when they finally replied), but because you might not receive an email confirmation for your ticket (it's somehow tied to the anti-spam thing, I think), and you're going to worry and try to send more tickets, like I did.

Now wait. And wait, and wait, and wait. They are SLOW. I've seen some miraculous 1-day unbans in the #shadow ban tag, but most people, like me, wait around a month for support to reply. Those are the same guys going through thousands of bot reports every day in addition to user tickets.

If you're going to wait, might as well keep blogging. Now if this is your sideblog that's shadow banned, consider yourself lucky. Make a new temporary sideblog, use it to post your original stuff so it goes into tags (mind that it might take a few days for a new blog to start showing up in tags). Reblog everything to your shadow banned blog so you still have all content in one place and your followers see it. If it's your main that's banned, you can still do that, but there's the extra pain of not being able to reply to posts or send non-anon Asks, since that is only done from main. Might need to register a separate account for that.

Some more fun facts under readmore.

Fun fact #1

Trying to send support follow-up emails in the request confirmation email isn't going to do anything to speed up the process. But I did tweet at them using this tumblr support summoning picture by @cornmayor and offered a raccoon blood sacrifice to resolve my issue when it was like a month with no response. This is what they replied.

3 hours later I got an email that my shadowban was lifted. I honestly don't know if it was a coincidence, but I mean, this is tumblr staff. Maybe they do accept blood sacrifices.

Fun fact #2

If you're wondering why my shadow ban lasted 2 months if I got a support reply after 1 month, well. It's hard to say exactly how their ban/unban system works bc support replies exclusively with pre-written template sentences, but basically they fucked up. The first time they told me my blog has been restored, I gained pretty much all functions back, except that my posts were still not appearing in tags. Which means probably that being hidden from tags is some kind of different flag on your blog that they forgot to remove. So I had to send a follow-up ticket and wait another month.

My advice is, when they tell you it's fixed, don't take that at face value, go and check all the functions you'd lost (replies, messaging, asks, tagging, appearing in notes, getting mentioned by others).

#tumblr #shadow ban #shadowban #tumblr support #reference

[caparvisquartet]

figured i could post this here too and have this short story as my first tumblr post, so here you go <3

Zoro is lost. He has an uncanny way to find his path back home.

(A zosan short story)

***

“Who the fuck gave the map to Zoro?!”

Nami roared, half-enraged half-stunned.

She turned to Usopp, recoiling in fear behind the trunk of one of the large trees that made the forest they were currently lost in.

"LONG NOSE! I entrusted you with the map, so don't run off and explain why it ended up in the directionally challenged idiot's hands!"

"Hey!" Zoro protested half-heartedly, at least sheepish enough to not make any additional comment. Nami decided to ignore him anyway.

"Explanation, now!" she barked at the sniper.

"Well, you see, it's funny, really..." he trailed off, looking to the side. Nami heaved a long-suffering sigh and grabbed the straps of his overalls with force.

She wore her sweetest, most threatening smile as she crooned, "what's funny?"

Usopp swallowed painfully, forced to look her in her rage-smoldering eyes.

"I really intended to keep it, Nami," he whined. She only tugged tighter on his clothes.

"But then there was this huge wolf, and I got scared, and Luffy offered to chase it off for me, right?"

Imploring eyes shone to her, but she didn't budge.

"He took the map at some point to shoo the monster away with it, and it didn't process immediately for me because of the fear, okay! And then he ran off, and I don't know what happened, and then we all met again and Luffy ran off again back to Sunny because he was hungry, and I didn't know anymore where the map was and I was too afraid to say anything about it..."

He slumped in her arms, utterly defeated. She didn't even have the strength to send him flying with her climat-tact, too busy being absolutely baffled by his carelessness.

She turned to Zoro, growling.

"Anything to say for yourself?"

The swordsman just glared at her defiantly.

"Luffy gave it to me. Figured I could do the job as well as Usopp."

"SO YOU LOST US BECAUSE YOUR ASS IS NOT EVEN CAPABLE TO READ A MAP???"

"I'm plenty capable!" Zoro barked in return, looking offended like he had absolutely NO business being. "And this shit here is more flaming garbage than it is a map, it's unreadable!"

She let go of Usopp, who fell limp to the forest floor, trembling, and snatched the map from Zoro's extended arm.

The paper was still wet from a jump in the water, probably, and was adorned by multiple sticky fingerprints that she immediately recognized as Luffy's. She turned the map in her hands, eyes going a dull shade of neutral, then looked back to her two companions.

Usopp winced at the sight of her face.

"None of you talk to me anymore," she decided, her grimace by that point as good as burnt into her features.

Taking a few angry steps to distance herself from the two boys, she then brusquely came to a halt when the realization dawned on her.

Lest she had the urge to strangle one of them, she kept her back to them as she growled.

"So. You're telling me that our map with the way back to the others is ruined. And, that we lost our foolish captain, who was the only one who could help us make it back to the Sunny, because he already ran off by himself to the ship?"

She tugged on her hair and heaved a crazed laugh.

"Great. Great! Absolutely tremendous."

Silence stretched out for a little while as she paced on the soft soil of the forest. Then, Zoro yawned and huffed a displeased sound.

"It's supper soon," he stated. "I'm hungry."

Bristling in rage, Nami whirled around and pointed a threatening finger right between his eyes.

"I literally couldn't care less right now."

Zoro just rolled his eyes like he was bored with the whole exchange. "You don't understand. It's supper soon."

"And?"

"And the cook is preparing dinner."

"O...kay? And what do you want me to do about it?"

He pointed to some place behind her.

"It's coming from there."

"Huh?"

She turned around. Saw nothing. On her side, Usopp turned to him in surprise, forgetting his apologetic and fearful muteness.

"How... Wait. You can smell it like Luffy does?? Like you do for booze?"

Zoro simply shrugged, the bastard.

Usopp and Nami both blinked owlishly at him.

"What gluttonish Nakama I have..." she muttered under her breath, then challenged, "How come you're able to smell food from this far?"

"I can't simply do it for any food. It has to be Curly's."

He said, like it was a perfectly fine answer. Their eyes widened even more.

"Haaah...?"

And to make matters even worse, the doofus had the indecency to blush a little.

"I mean, it's not really his food, specifically. It's just, his food smells just like him, you know?"

"NO, I DON'T KNOW!" she all but hysterically cried, and laughed at the same time, because what. The. Fuck.

"Wait, wait, backtrack." Usopp said, confusion etched all over his face. "You're telling us you can use Sanji's smell to navigate yourself around?"

Zoro made a face too guilty for Usopp to be wrong. "I never said anything like that!"

Nami was almost feeling her eyes slowly falling off her head.

"Dear god. You're absolutely hopeless, aren't you? How come you're not dying under the weight of such a humongous crush?"

Then, she turned to Usopp and whispered. "Like, come on, his smell? Ugh, they disgust me."

"I know, they really need to do something about this thing they have going on..."

"You guys finished?" Zoro growled. Nami couldn't really tell if he was beet-red from anger or the shameful revelation. She itched to laugh, suddenly.

The urge was just too great to pass.

"Find your way back to your boyfriend, lover boy," she cackled, tears seeping from the corner of her eyes at the absolute madness that just unfolded in the last couple of minutes.

Zoro gave her the finger.

"NOT my boyfriend, witch."

She just howled in another mighty bout of laughter.

#zosan #sanzo #one piece #one piece strawhats #writers on tumblr #my fic #they are gay your honor #sorry about that #inspiration took hold of me and there this was here #i dont regret anything #zoro is lost #zoro roronoa #nami #nami pov #usopp #sanji

[flameandindifference]

🔥 🔥 🔥

Send me a “ 🔥 “ for an unpopular opinion.

'Sorry, I don't know enough about your muse/the source material' is a weakass excuse for why you wouldn't interact with someone.

Now hear me out! I'm not saying that you HAVE to interact with anyone, that's your choice to make of course. No one should force you into anything you don't want to do. But in my own opinion, saying that as if you cannot just ask questions to the mun about their muse or the source material-- which most muns LOVE anyway-- is more of an excuse to yourself than the mun.

I'd accept 'I can't see how they would interact' or 'I don't think our writing styles mesh' a lot more quickly than 'I don't know the source material, sorry'.

Ask questions??? It's seriously just a one step process! Just ask them!

Because shit like this is really frustrating and unfair to super obscure muses, like Lucius himself. Barely ANYONE I've spoken to that I write with here had any idea the Lucius games were even a thing!

Imagine if all those people went 'Sorry, don't know the source' and bounced. I'd have, MAYBE, two or three people that would be writing with me and that's insanely discouraging for a blog. That's how you get deleted blogs because then what's the point?

2.

'Reblog from the source' has killed the RPC a lot worse than Reblog Karma ever did.

I get not wanting people to use you as a meme source, I really do! I hate that shit too! But the thing is that at least with reblog karma there was a higher chance of someone sending you something. With reblog from the source, people can reblog all the memes they want without sending in a single thing which creates a vicious cycle of no one getting anything at all.

And maybe this is just me but I actually like when people reblog Aesthetic or Musing posts from me. It never fucked with my notifs badly enough to bother me and at least it showed that people were looking at my posts, were engaging with me in SOME fashion. Nowadays I can go the entire day with exactly ZERO notifications, for several days, and that hits worse than finding a notif saying someone reblogged a gif set from me.

3.

'Personals will be blocked on sight' is a damaging mindset to take. Why you may ask?

From my experience it seems that a lot of people on Tumblr just kind of forget that Sideblogs are a thing??? I use my hub blog as a personal blog but I have it plastered right in the blog description that I'm a HUB BLOG, that I have rp sideblogs, that I am there in the follower list as a potential partner. It's literally right there, a two second hover away to see.

And my ass has still gotten blocked on multiple occasions because people slapped the block button on sight instead of just... I dunno, taking less than ten seconds to check? It's pretty frustrating and has happened so often that I don't typically follow people first because I'm afraid of being blocked for the crime of **looks at smudged writing on my hand** not making my rp blog my main blog?

Just... please remember sideblogs exist. It's bad enough that Tumblr itself won't support us (we can't even send ASKS for fuck's sake), we don't need potential partners doing it too.

@ofhardknoxxx

#asks

[abd-illustrates]

On a completely different note from all the genuinely lovely post-stream messages the majority of y’all have been filling my inbox with tonight:

I already went ahead and blocked the anon in question on sight, but hey! Here’s a general reminder to not be a fuckin’ creep and send me weird sex asks, ‘cause I’m rockin’ a zero tolerance policy round here ✌️✨

there’s a lot to unpack here but let’s just throw away the whole suitcase

#screenshot is under a read more but idk if that works on mobile so please scroll past if this seems like an uncomfy thing for any of y'all! #daily dork #tw sex mention #tw whatever the hell else is going on in this ask #i don't know at what point in the multiple-step process that is sending a tumblr ask that they thought THIS was a thing to say to a stranger #but hey ho #oop forgot to tag: #tw swearing #tw cursing

[clubgif]

2 Gifs in 1 Canvas Tutorial

In this post, I will explain how to put two (or more) gifs into a single image canvas. The tutorial will be based on this example:

Please like/reblog if this has helped you and feel free to send a message for any questions and concerns! ♥︎

↓ SEE TUTORIAL UNDER THE CUT ↓

2 Gifs in 1 Canvas Tutorial

[1] Think about the gif dimensions

Before starting, think about what your final gif is going to look like. Here's my "thought process":

What I'm planning to make is the basic 2-in-1 gif that looks like two separate gifs.

The size of my individual gifs will be 268px (width) by 268px (height).

Add the width of both gifs and we get 536px.

Subtract the sum from 540px (the maximum Tumblr post width). The 4px difference is for the gap between the two gifs. The height is still the same, 268px.

[2] Create a new document

This is the document where you'll put the gifs side by side.

To create a new document, go to File (upper left-hand side) > New... (the shortcut is { Ctrl for Windows / command for Mac + N })

Type in your width and height. In the example above, 540px is the overall width and 268px is the height.

Make sure you've selected Pixels + have a Resolution of 72 + an RGB Color Mode

Click Create/OK

[3] Prepare document for gifs

Click "Create Frame Animation" in the Timeline window

Convert to Video Timeline. In the right-hand corner of the Timeline window, you will see an icon that looks like "≡". Click the hamburger button "≡" > Convert to Video Timeline. See demonstration below:

NOTE: If there's no Timeline window, go to the upper edge of Photoshop and select Window > Timeline (make sure it's checked).

Next, we'll be focusing on the gifs. We'll get back to this document after.

[4] Make the gifs separately

Make gifs like you normally would, apply coloring, sharpen, etc. then save. If you don't know how to make gifs yet, click here for some great tutorials.

[5] Prepare gifs for transfer

NOTE: The steps in this section must be applied to each .gif file.

5.1 Open your saved gif (.gif file, not .psd file) in Photoshop. To do this, you can either:

File > Open > [select your .gif files] (the shortcut is { Ctrl for Windows / command for Mac + O })

Right click on your .gif files > Open with > Photoshop

5.2 Convert to Video Frame Timeline. Check section [3] on how to convert it.

5.3 Convert layers to Smart Object. Now we're focusing on the Layers window which contains Layers 1, 2, 3 etc. or whatever your layers are named.

How I converted these layers into a Smart Object:

Select all layers (How? Select the layer at the bottom, hold the Shift key while selecting the last layer).

Click the hamburger button "≡" on the right-hand corner of the Layers window.

Look for "Convert to Smart Object" and click it.

NOTE: Doing this converts all layers into a single layer.

[6] Transfer gifs to document

How I moved "gif-1.gif" into "the document.psd":

Select the Move Tool (shortcut: press the letter V key).

Simply click and drag the Smart Object (named Layer 109 in this case) onto the tab of the document created in section [2] (the same way you would drag and drop a file into a folder on your desktop).

While still dragging, wait until the "gif-1.gif" tab automatically switches to "the document.psd" tab.

Drop the Smart Object you're dragging into the document.

Do steps 1–4 with the other gif(s).

Properly position your gifs in the document. In this case I positioned "gif-1" at the left and "gif-2" at the right.

In the Layers window, delete the Background layer (the one with the lock).

[7] Final adjustments

In the Timeline window, one gif layer is usually longer than the other. For the overall gif to work, all gifs within need to have the same length, otherwise it would look like this:

This is happening because the first gif is shorter than the second gif.

To fix this, simply move the end mark (what the green arrow's pointing to below) to where the gif with the shorter length ends as demonstrated below:

And then save like how you would normally save a gif and you're good to go!

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Let me know if there are any typos 😂

Please like/reblog if this has helped you and feel free to send a message for any questions and concerns! ♥︎

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REFERENCE:

Multiple Gifs on One Canvas Tutorial by Allresources

#tutorial #gif tutorial #allresources #itsphotoshop #completeresources #dailyresources #yeahps #hisources #club post #here u go anon!!! sorry it took so long #intermediate #multiple gifs tutorial

[logicgunn]

13, 22, 41 and 54 for the ask games :)

13. How do you deal with writers block?

Well first and foremost I'll have a grumble with @bunny-bopper, who'll tell me to "stop being an idiot and go play a video game" till I'm not a grouch anymore! :P

But more practically I try the following:

Lie down in my bed and daydream about what I've done so far. This often helps me to visualise the next scene/chapter or find a way to rework whatever I've written. This is most useful if I've written myself into a corner and need to unpick something or change it completely to continue the fic.

Go back to my notes and read through it for a while. I have a document for each fic in which I write ideas and scenes in some vaguely coherent order plus character and environmental notes. It's a fluid document that I will open up and scribble things down whenever I get an idea even if I'm not actually writing at the time (usually in the middle of the night as I'm falling asleep - why do all my ideas happen then?!) 9 times out of 10 if I'm stuck (but I'm not at a dead end) this will remind me of something I wanted to add that fits naturally into the next scene.

Ask people for help or inspiration. I'm very lucky to be acquainted with people that I consider to be some of the best current fic writers in my fandom, so occasionally I'll post on Tumblr or Dreamwidth or I'll dm someone for help.

Switch to another fic. Chances are if the above doesn't work then I'm in need of a break from that fic. If I can't write the next fic either then I seriously need to step away from word and do something else. I actually often go for many days without writing anything at all.

22. How many drafts do you need until you’re satisfied and a project is ultimately done for you?

This is a hard one for me to answer because my drafts are very fluid. I review my fics continuously as I write them, and send snippets to @bunny-bopper throughout the writing process to beta rather than just send one long draft at the end. I don't consider a fic finished until both she and I have looked it over and I've sat on it a few days and looked it over again. That said, I always find errors within a few minutes of posting that I need to correct! I have to be strict with myself when I reach that point because I'm a terrible perfectionist and nothing would ever be truly "done" if I had my way. I know a lot of people that write swear by multiple drafts and betas but I like to live on the wild side!

41. How many stories do you work on at one time?

Sigh. When I first started writing I was firm in that I wrote had one, and only one, WIP at a time. Any other story/scene/dialogue that popped into my head were written down in note form only, and I forced all my actual writing focus onto that one fic.

These days I have three long WIPs on the go, as well as numerous smaller ones. But I try to limit myself to thinking about only two or three fics at any one time. It actually helps sometimes to switch fics (see Q13), but it also means that I'm going to end up with three long stories ready to post in the same month if I'm not careful.

54. Any writing advice you want to share?

That excellent idea you had at 2am in bed? If you don't write it down then and there you will forget it.

On that note, keep a journal/document/email-to-yourself dedicated to your random ideas and read it when you need inspiration for a fic or scene.

Stick to a single POV, or use a linebreak to switch to another character. Swapping your POV within a paragraph is really jarring for a reader.

If you get stuck on a word/concept/phrase/scene just put a note in brackets [LIKE THIS] and move on.

Don't get bogged down in the word count.

All those archaic rules you learned in English class are there to be broken. I often start a fic with dialogue, end a sentence with a preposition, or abuse italics/parentheses/ellipses. The only people who care are long dead.

Read for pleasure. Reading makes you a better writer.

#Fic Asks

[thesunnyshow]

EPISODE 5: MINA

Writing Blog URL(s): @jaemina00​

Name: Mina 

Age: 20 

Nationality: British 

Languages: English, Bengali 

Star Sign: pisces  

MBTI: INFP-T

What fandom(s) do you write for?

NCTzens 

When did you post your first piece?

This year back in late May or early June 

Do you write fluff/angst/crack/general/smut, combo, etc? Why?

Mostly fluff because I'm a sucker for the way your heart can literally ache in your chest but also angst because it also causes such strong emotions. 

Do you write OCs, X Readers, Ships...etc?

All X Readers so far 

Why did you start writing on Tumblr?

It started really as just a pass by of time, I love creative writing and kpop so it just seemed the best way to cross them. I was incredibly bored due to quarantine and thought it was a good way to enjoy myself and not let my brain rot away but I surely fell in love with it. 

What inspires you to write?

Any moment really. Late night thoughts or just the people I'm surrounded with. Music I think is especially great because it allows you to feel emotions without actually having to go through the experience and scenarios and then you can write based on how you felt those emotions through the song. 

What genres/AUs do you enjoy writing the most?

Like I said before I really like fluff, recently I've been more interested in AUs like reincarnation and a lot of psychological beliefs as well as mythology and the supernatural.

What do you hope your readers take away from your work?

Feeling. Whether it's a feeling of happiness that made their heart swoon or the aching of sadness, I hope my reader just feel through my writing. 

What do you do when you hit a rough spot creatively?

I take a break and step back from my writing. Sometime, being so stuck in your mind makes it much harder to write. So I stop writing for as many days as it takes for the ideas and the flow to comeback to me naturally and without being pushed. In this time I usually try to find inspiration from music and other stories. 

What is your favorite work and why? Your most successful?

As of right now I really like 'Love Me Now' and 'Nighthawk'. Love me now is based off NCT 127's song and I loved how I just wrote what I felt in the exact moment I was listening to it, it holds a special space in my heart for that. I also love nighthawk because of how  stuck I was with it. I was planning and drafting it for the longest time and everytime hating what I've written and restarting, so I have some pride in now finally actually liking what I've written. Most successful however is 'Firsts' I do love it but because it's of the first ones I wrote so there is a slight cringe to it now. 

Do you think there’s a difference between writing fanfiction vs. completely original prose?

The only difference I see is that when writing fanfiction you have a name and a face to go with it however everything else is the same. You have to come up with how the characters are presented, what's their dynamic, what's the storyline and how it's going to be presented. You still have to showcase emotion, action and dialogue as well as everything in between.

What do you think makes a good story?

A story that has you engaged and feeling something. Like it makes you almost sad that you've finished it and makes you want to come back to read it again. 

What is your writing process like?

It varies it can be like  have an idea I make a plan on how I want the story to progress and how I want it to end, I try to think of how I want my characters to be portrayed to my reader and how the dynamic between characters is. Then I write multiple drafts and slowly eliminate based off which one I hate and which ones I like until I'm left with the best one and then I reread and either add or remove bits and go over grammar and spelling. Or I just go with the flow, honestly it's a process of cutting and writing again and again until I'm somewhat satisfied. 

Would you ever repurpose a fic into a completely original story?

I don't think any of my fics are good enough to be the basis of a story and I most definitely don't think I couldn't write a full original story. 

What tropes do you love, and what tropes can’t you stand?

Honestly I think every trope is okay if it's well executed and well written. Even tropes that are classified as clichés are nice to read when the writing style is engaging. 

How much would you say audience feedback/engagement means to you?

It means a lot because it allows room for growth and development. I really just want to know how I can become better what people like so I know what is successful and what isn't. 

What has been one of the biggest factors of your success (of any size)?

The fact that I like what I've written? I don't know but I think that it's important and I'm just glad that I do. In fact I kind of find that alone to be a success.

Favorite color: It changes but as of now pastels and especially yellow 

Favorite food: literally any food 

Favorite movie: The green book 

Favorite ice cream flavor: Chocolate 

Favorite animal: Giraffe 

Go-to karaoke song: Can't sing for my life :/

Dream job (whether you have a job or not): I'm studying law right now so the end goal is hopefully in human rights

Coffee or tea? What are you ordering?

Iced Americano or Mocha frappe

If you could have one superpower, what would you choose?

Teleportation I think is really cool, just imagine being able to go anywhere in the world in the span of a few Milliseconds.

If you could visit a historical era, which would you choose?

Probably the 20th Century, just seeing the world go through both world wars, the cold War, Vietnam and so many other political problems going on as well as so many revolutions both industrial and literal is both scary and such an exciting time to be alive. 

If you could restart your life, knowing what you do now, would you?

I think it's fun not knowing everything, it's definitely scary but there's an exciting buzz to it also I don't think me restarting life with what I know now would make a difference. 

Would you rather fight 100 chicken-sized horses or one horse-sized chicken?

I don't think I could fight one chicken sized horse let alone 100 but I most definitely can't fight a horse sized chicken. First of all, that's a big chicken and second, chickens are actually very fiesty. So I have to go with 100 chicken-sized horses. 

If you were a trope in a teen high school movie, what would you have been?

Probably the main characters best friend who judges every stupid decision they make and making it clear with lots of sarcastic comments but is their nevertheless fully supporting them to do more stupid and impulsive things. 

Do you believe in aliens/supernatural creatures?

Yess!! I find it almost impossible that we are the only intelligence in this much bigger universe. We are just mere specs and there has to be another form of intelligence out there. 

Fun fact about yourself that not everyone would know? 

I can fold my tongue in a three leaved clover? Lmao

Do you think fanfic writers get unfairly judged?

Yes! Just because it's based on someone in real life and isn't conventional story writing people expect it to be bad but actually there are so many amazing authors who write so many unique fanfictions. People also only expect it to be plotless but it's far from that. 

Do you think art can be a medium for change?

Definitely, I think art is a great medium for change. It can really play with someone's emotions and really open their eyes to new perspectives and wider horizons. Art can really change a person's ideologies on just about anything. It's powerful and allows people to find themselves as well as get lost in a world you've created. 

Do you ever feel there are times when you’re writing for others, rather than yourself?

I don't think I've come to a point like that yet, I enjoy writing so far and maybe it's because I'm fairly new that I haven't experienced this yet. 

Do you ever feel like people have misunderstood you or your writing at times?

No I haven't but again I haven't written much or for long. 

Do your offline friends/loved ones know you write for Tumblr?

Yes and actually depending on how I feel about a certain piece I let them read it and ask about what they think. 

What is one thing you wish you could tell your followers?

I hope you find some comfort or even happiness in my writing, I hope it made you smile or put you in your feels and you just overall find it enjoyable. Also don't be afraid to talk to me or send asks!!

Do you have any advice for aspiring writers who might be too scared to put themselves out there?

Just go for it! If you like what you've written then others are bound to like it, as cliché as that sounds it's true. At the end of the day if you love writing, it'll show in your work and others will fall in love with it too.

Are there any times when you regret joining Tumblr?

So far no. I've had a very pleasant experience with reading other people's amazing work as well as writing my own.

Pick a quote to end your interview with:

 “Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time.” - Thomas Merton.

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[beckettsthoughts]

My names Emilia, I have an issue with the abused/normal life you reblogged. Your life is a normal life. You are a cis white privileged female? Do you know how many other people have actual abuse happen to them and it's way worse than you could ever imagine. Sure I don't know your life, but from what i've read/seen - you just get a bit of grief from your step dad because he thinks you need to be a bit more 18 instead of 8. I'm sorry if this is harsh but I'm tired of reading posts about abuse.

If you think you’re being abused why don’t you tell your mum, surely if he’s that bad she’d do something about it 

Hi Emilia,

My name is Beckett. I am not a cis female. I use they/them pronouns, because I am agender. I would like, in any future correspondences, if you could respect that. I do being in several ways privileged- one of which you pointed out, I am white- but I would not say I am that privileged. There are multiple axes of privilege, after all. I have already mentioned being non-binary, but the main disadvantage I have faced in my life is ableism. I have two neurodevelopmental disabilities (professionally diagnosed, if that matters to you). What I’m saying is, consider very carefully before declaring somebody to be “privileged”, because that generalisation ignores a lot of the aspects of identity that people might not have shared online. Not every axis of oppression and privilege is immediately visible, and I would advise you to keep that in mind.

(I’m going to put in a warning here, because I will be discussing in some detail the nature of the emotional abuse I have faced. From what you’ve said in your message, it’s not a great leap to assume that this might be potentially triggering. In the paragraph following this one, there is also a mention of physical violence. Please, if this is going to be a problem, feel free to skip and skim as you will.)

Also, Emilia, I do feel you are being “harsh”. I would like to remind you that you do not know me, or my family, or the details of my relationships with my family. That kind of discussion is usually kept for private messages, or at the very most my personal sideblog. I have lived in the same house as my stepdad for eight years now and while I know the emotional abuse I have endured is not as bad as some people’s, but that does not discredit the problems I have faced. It takes it’s toll, dealing with the constant put-downs, being blamed for things I can’t control, having each of my flaws repeatedly pointed out to me and being insulting for my personality, having all of my interests devalued, cruel critiques on everything from how I eat to how I stim, my appearance insulted, my fears and anxiety mocked  and my skills disparaged. I have been called a “bitch”, I have been called “stupid”, a “leech”, “lazy”, “ungrateful”, “rude”, “coldhearted”, “dumb”. There are more that I can’t remember off the top of my head, and while I am sitting in school please forgive me for not having the full archive of insults. There’s more that I can’t put into words, very easily. Of course there is. There’s all of the looks, the glares, the denial of things I enjoy. Hearing what he says to my mother behind my back; all about what a burden I am, how bad it is having me around, how much I stress everyone out, how “useless” I am. So much of it is linked to my disabilities, things I need help doing or don’t know how to do, and that hurts. Being emotionally abused for being disabled hurts.

No, it’s never been physical. I’ve never been physically hurt by my stepdad, but I have been scared of it. After that one Christmas in his mother’s council flat, seeing him punch his sick brother and my mum having to physically drag him outside to the car so he didn’t strangle him, of course I have been scared of it. And before you give me more advice about telling my mother, you’d best believe she knows. She’s tried to stop him, told him to stop, and it works. For a couple of days, as long as she’s in the room. Then it slowly slips back, starting when I’m alone with him before working it’s way back into everyday life. When it goes too far, when it crosses a line, the process repeats. For eight years.

He’s stubborn. And in his eyes, this is “good old-fashioned parenting”. After all, his own kids turned out fine, right? They’re not autistic, they don’t have ADHD, they don’t have anxiety, they’re not LGBT+. They’re good straight adults who are both married, one is a priest and the other runs a daycare; she has two small kids too. They’ve turned out good, in his opinion. I am bad, in his opinion. 

There are many reasons nothing has been about this. We do not have good support services, here. We do not have much money. We need somebody else in the house in case my nan needs help, when my mum and I are out, somebody else who could rush home if there was an emergency. I can’t stand change, I couldn’t stand seeing my mum as upset as would be if he left. That’s a reason. There are hundreds. Instead, I do what I can. I weather it as best I can. I avoid him where possible. This, I hope you understand, is the best I can currently do.

So yeah. You were being harsh.

And I don’t mean that in a bad way, necessarily, but I want you to consider carefully in future before you send these kinds of messages. You said in your ask that you can’t claim to know me or my situation, which means you know how unfair this judgement could be. Other people may not be so willing to explain and people who have experienced gaslighting may even experience this as a trigger. I know it’s frustrating when you see people claiming to have experienced abuse when you can’t see the evidence, I know it’s frustrating. But just because you can’t see the evidence from their Tumblr blog doesn’t mean the evidence doesn’t exist, doesn’t mean that they’re wrong. It doesn’t mean that they’re exaggerating or lying, and it doesn’t mean they deserve to be interrogated and invalidated by people who don’t know them or their situation.

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