Little AuDHD complaint under the readmore (skip over if you can't be bothered with the negativity because even I can't be bothered with my own feelings right now)
I've been struggling a bit this week - likely PMS which has now become a late period - but my friend is coming down this weekend. Originally we had plans for her to come down Friday but that moved to Saturday for reasons beyond her control. I've been thinking about it all week and trying my best to get the house organised and all that but it's been hard to even look after myself. Like I can't concentrate at all either so I'm just having a hard time being a functioning human. I've failed to get half as many things done as I planned but I really tried.
I was supposed to pick her up at like 11am at the train station but now she's said that another friend will be around at that time so she'll just meet me at 1pm at the location we planned to meet up with our mutual friend. And I know to most people this is totally reasonable, like why wouldn't you try and see as many friends as possible when you're not often in the area?
But it always just makes me feel like I'm just an option when this kind of thing happens? Like I'm an interchangeable friend or a box to be ticked rather than THE reason she's coming to visit. I matter so little that a last-minute spontaneous meeting with someone else takes priority.
It also messed with my plans and one thing I really struggle with is spontaneous changes in plans. I can't force people to comply with this because I'd just feel selfish but it completely throws me off, especially when I'm in this state where everything is so hard for me to keep together.
Idk man it's probably worsened by rejection sensitivity dysphoria - scratch that, it's TOTALLY worsened by that. I'm incredibly sensitive and I have to keep it in check constantly.
Even if I rationalise the situation and know there was no intent to hurt me and ofc my friend cares for me, it doesn't change the initial 'oh...' feeling of my heart sinking a little bit. Which makes me feel pathetic which makes me feel insane which makes me feel even worse about myself even though I shouldn't beat myself up over my neurological disabilities.
Just another joyful day of feeling shame when people hurt me because the hurt I feel is unintentional on their part and people don't think the way I do. Rationality only goes so far. I still feel like a very sad individual right now.
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I got tagged by @impossible-rat-babies tysm owen!! God you’re so good at poetic description. when will it be my time to be that good!!
So yeah, this one got away from me and I spent the entire day thinking about some of those even though I had a pretty clear idea on the answer already, but I always struggle a bit. She’s so not me I always have to stop and ask myself “would she say that or would I say that?” but I think I got it. anyway. please perceive my most special girl.
— B A S I C S
name: thesa
nicknames: estinien called her “thes” once, she almost killed him and he hasn’t stopped ever since.
age: 80~ (aragorn age coded)
nameday: 22 sun of the 5th astral moon (9/21)
race: viera / rava
gender: female
orientation: only had male partners but I don’t think she cares tbh
profession: adventurer!
— P H Y S I C A L A S P E C T
hair: grey-ish/white with pitch black ends. pretty thick and mostly unkept tbh.
eyes: darker grey, so shiny tho……..
skin: brown, with warm undertone and some darker patches/spots, especially on her face.
tattoos: going for parts here so first, the tattos. back in her forest days she didn’t like the whole “permanent” thing so she usually painted her marks everyday. as soon as she leaves, she decides to get a tattoo on her back, along her spine. white and with the clan/family marks. after shb she adds the azem symbol to it.
scars: multiple. getting my sketchbook to list you the relevant lol. a bunch of tinier ones from wood days and a claw one on her forearm from her chocobo (rael) when she first got him, burnt/lightining scar on her thigh from thanjit/fatebreaker, a bite from a tiny sineater she didn’t have the nerve to kill, a blasphemy one on her hip that mimics perfectly one azem had (not that she knows) and lastly another claw/grab one on her biceps from zenos (ew instance).
— F A M I L Y
parents: she was born back when her village still followed strictly male/female living apart, so she didn’t really meet her father. her mother is alive and well as far as she knows, but she didn’t visit them after leaving the forest so she wouldn’t know better tbh
siblings: her mother was much more of a leader than anything else, so strangely enough, she has just one brother and he’s half-hyur.
grandparents: only ever met her grandmother who died not much long after she was born (which is how the leadership passed to her mother)
in laws and other: blood related there are few around her village. not blood related, well, is it here where I gush abt her and the twins?
pets: technically, just her chocobo.
— S K I L L S
abilities: dragoon + gunbreaker mainly but really aces in any physical combat (bad with magic tho); has pretty great smitching skills, animal handling and survival instincts too. also, ofc, dominates the echo pretty well by now.
hobbies: exercise/sparing, camping/hiking/gathering (outdoor stuff), tinkering her weapons/armor, collecting stuff from travels (loves art, bad at it. could recite one or another poem but would never admit it willingly) and weirdly enough, journaling.
— T R A I T S
most positive traits: quiet, loyal, practical, independent, focused, perceptive, very loving with a couple of people and cares a lot.
most negative traits: also quiet, blunt, stubborn, prideful, judgmental, paranoid, reckless, private, competitive, bad guilty complex, very limited communication/emotional skills and also… cares a lot.
— L I K E S
colours: red and black.
smells: wood, rain/wet soil, herbal/flower aromas, anything forest adjacent.
textures: again, loves having dirt under her feet, rain on her skin, etc. also cold metal and worn/loose linen.
drinks: really doesn’t have any. she is very used to eating/drinking just to sustain herself, so she doesn’t have any cravings for that.
— O T H E R D E T A I L S
smokes: probably when she was younger once, but never was her thing. and ofc, she is paranoid.
drinks: only with friends, sometimes not even then. also, see above.
drugs: only medicinal ones, and again, sometimes not even then. she really should take more.
mount issuance: one of the first things that made her go “ugh. civilization.” when she first got to gridania but she got it lol prefers traveling than using aetherite tho, so it was for the best.
been arrested: never. technically she should’ve for a few things she has done right after she left the wood (stealing rael included, don’t worry about it, he was always hers anyway) but well. what can I tell you, she’s good at getting away with things like that.
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Saw a bunch of ppl doing it already but trying to tag ones I didn’t saw yet!! I may be wrong lol but also pls talk to me abt ur wols I need to know about them (being extra, no pressure in doing this):
@galadae @aethergazing @birues @alackofghosts
@thefreelanceangel @myreia @coldshrugs
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