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gobstoppr · 5 months

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hey guys am i allowed to say on main that i dont like metadad . am i gonna get beaten up for saying this.

guys i think we all took the term found family too literally and now everythings flattened into a boring nuclear family. guys can we stop. hello . is anybody there

#text #it was kinda charming at first but it feels like everytime i try to look at the mk tag its always the same shit . guys. guys.#we can do so much more w/ their dynamics than just dad and son ugh its so . ughhh.#every since i realized i was like . really really aroace. ive started to grow a bit of a distaste for shipping culture #this is relavant i swear. iwanna talk about metadede #like ok in fandoms right. theres often #the enforcement of specific roles onto characters for a simplified understanding of them for memes and drawing ideas #we want gay rep but we dont quite have it canonically so we make our queer headcanons seem more legit #by giving a char a same sex partner. ok easy we did it. gay people are real now #and we get awesome art and its wonderful bc people are wonderful #but its like . the relationships themselves feel flat a lot of the times.#metadede never seems to be about dedede. its about mk having a boyfriend. bc we need him to date someone.#and im not like . mad at anyone about this. i participated in it back in the day. but like.#ok so. gay hcs are the most popular in most fandom things bc its easy; hot; and sweet #but things like aro or ace hcs? its just. they. how can you depict that in a single framed drawing of a char?so theres none at all.#its not even that i actively hc chars aroace its jsut this is my world view; how i default to reading chars #maybe this rant in the tags is unrelated after all.#but idk. ive got lots of thoughts about things.#anyways as ceo of meta knigth im right about everything #i can talk more about metadad stuff specifically if people want

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raiiinydrawz · 1 month

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sorry you've got art block !

perhaps you could draw noe with murr or vanitas? i hadn't seen any vnc art of yours, but i think he'd be cool in your style! (as long as you get noe's skintone right,,,i've seen a few artists on here make him so white before, and it always makes me cringe)

if you'd like something more specific, feel free to ask lol

OOGH. I WANTED TO INCLUDE VANITAS SOBADLY BUT IDK HOW TO DRAW HIS ASS YET so for now hes got a silly looking murr .

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mysticsnoopy · 2 months

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i'm gonna say it.

i think some of you guys are too mean on heartstopper for no actual good reason.

just because a media is targeted towards teens doesn't lessen its value as queer media. i'm not saying its devoid of critique or anything. it can be like any other queer media. but like any queer media it has a right to exist.

i've been seeing a lot of cynical losers spur on about the show for being what it is; a teen romcom.

while i completely understand (and even agree) with the critique that the "cutest gay stuff" is clearly favoured by companies as it's easy marketability instead of more adult queer media, that doesn't have to do with the media itself. it has to do with companies seeing creativity through marketability, not for what it is.

#snoopy babbles #btw im not a fan of like the show or comic (i previously was but mostly as a younger queer person and more of a casual fan)#im not defending it at that base. i'm mostly just commenting on a phenomenon ive seen of people judging it on an unfair lens #because its not supposed to be an adult show. its clearly for queer teenagers and thats ok. good even! it teaches queer kids hope.#hope of community and friendship and love. i know as a queer kid i needed that. and im still a fan of the adult stuff!#overtime most queer kids will grow out of it and find more adult centric queer media. that's simply how these things work.#anyways im trying not to rant here. that is my very simplyfied thoughts on heartstopper hate.

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kafkaguy · 2 years

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havin a gender crisis at the train station lol #epic

#reading some lesbian comics and marvelling at the butch experience.......... and then also going into Brain Explode Mode bcos #of how similar it is to the transmasc experience #understanding why so many trans dudes are like 'oh what im just butch or a very masculine woman'#and butches are like 'oh what if im a trans guy'#THE VENN DIAGRAMS BRO. INTERSECTIONS AND CONNECTIONS AND SHARED EXPERIENCES #we are FRIENDS but also its making me feel all . What If She Pronouns. What If More Nonbinary Than I Thought...#cos the thing IS as a bisexual i do feel like my sexuality and gender identity are so intertwined its sometimes annoying #so i cannot think of it as like Ah Yes I Like Men Therefore Im a Homosexual #its a like. i like EVERYONE therefore i am EVERYTHING cos ALL my attraction feels Gay with a capital G #im gay for women im gay for men im gay for everything in between and outside #but i dont see my attraction to women as attraction to the opposite gender cos i dont see women as Opposite or necessarily separate #and vice versa i dont see my attraction to guys as . excuse the outdated language - 'same sex attraction'#because i dont necessarily see myself as A Man . yknow?#the binary is fucked identity is everchanging and ever molding and i am just a little wavelength of light floating through space #THEREFORE. idk where i was going with this #i just think that queerness and humanity are so much more complicated than any of us realise #and sometimes it is so frustrating and tiring seeing other people like me and wjth the same experiences as me #being so conservative and so assuming and trying to generalise something so personal #i am not Doing Trans Wrong . there is no wrong to be trans imo #and i also think we need to be kinder to detransitioned people + transmasc lesbians / transfem gays + nonbinary bisexuals ok thanks bye

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arthurily · 5 days

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Ok but have u ever had a ship that u dont exactly hate but it frustrates you to the core

#my right to rant on my blog🥰🙏#it’s horrible that the ship makes a lot of sense and everyone seems to like it #and im like no fucking way you actually fuck with this #obviously im never gonna harass the shippers or hate on them i just needed to let it out.#but i just wanna say let men be gay and women be LESBIANS #its ok.#its ok for men to be GAY and not be into women at fucking all #so im surprised when my people ship this thing😭😭😭😭😭😭#holy shit genuinely let queers be queer. this type of fucking ship is the straightest shit alive #anyway😍

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nyxi-pixie · 2 years

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i dont trust a bitch that hates ronance

like wdym u like stedd1e(<3) or god forbid fucking h4rr1ngr0ve(😒) but you dont like ronance🤨🤨🤨🤨

like if u dnt ship it bc ur rooting for robin and vickie or ur a super yay jxncy person or smt sure whatever. but if u HATE ronance??? i do not trust you.

#anyone thats 100% insistent and totally sure that nance is straight gets my side eye tbh #bc like did u listen to murrays lil expose on her💀 'ur scared to be urself and instead rely on safety of conventional man'#yeahhh not queer coded at all #when we talk abt how mlm ships need 100x as much evidence as straight ships to be considered plausible???#yeah that but x10000000 for wlw ones jfc #like steve can have a male friend that says hes got nice abs or smthn and everyones WOOF WOOF BARK GRR GAY PEOPLE!!!#sure okay have fun besties #but nancy is like 🥰robin ik i wanted nothing to do w u 5 seconds ago but ive actually decided ur my fav person🥰#🥰we are gonna spend the rest of our time on this world saving mission glued together ok🥰#anyway. do i believe it has any shot at endgame?? no!#but i do not like the way that people are like st3ddie<333❗❗❗ (i love it too dont get me wrong fruity four my loves)#and then totally ignore ronance. or worse. see them as side characters 💀#i have so many thoughts on this but just. im usually a defender of why fandoms fixate on mlm ships bc women tend to have less development #(im a byler first. bc theyre the most obviously romantically coded in a Oh this one has Actual Potential way)#but robin and nancy are fairly well rounded characters. and they interact a fuck ton in s4. so. usual defenses are a no go #and now im ready to sword fight the haters #ronance #this is incomprehensible #but im right #only censoring ship names so i dnt end up in their tags i love stedd1e and jxncy dw

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biteapple · 6 months

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got this weird thing always where im always wondering if im a gay man or a bi dude-kinda or a bi girl-a-little-bit or a gay man-also-woman-a-bit, and its like. whenever im like "OKAYY I DONT CAREEEEE MAYBE I DO LIKE GIRLS" .... IMMEDIATELY my thoughts about liking women are gone like. when im trying to appease that. and then im like "hmm maybe i DONT like girls??" the thoughts about liking girls comes back

#and GENUINELY... COSMICALLY... if i really want to date a woman i would love to just allow this for myself. and am trying to #and whenever i try to its like ''yeah nevermind man it wasnt even anything''#so when i do go ''oh okay i guess it was nothing'' the desire to like women comes back #and maybe its a case of ''putting it off the table makes me want it more'' .. but its like.. when i say ''ok im bi'' its gone.#its like hey. come back. what happened i said i liked it. gone. until i accept that its gone. and then its back. chameleon type shit #permanently grass-is-greener type of living... please..#ALSO.... this happens with ''being a little bit of a girl'' because then im like ''ok cool man im a girl now. yup''#but when i put this into action i HATE IT and VEHEMENTLY need to go back immediately #and then when i go back im like ''but what if i WASNT just a guy..... hmmm...''#and its like that bit from courage the cowardly dog where baby muriel wants her mac and cheese 500 different ways #and is never happy when you give it to her #when i MOST think about ''being a girl who is bi'' is when i feel THE MOST like a gay man #& when i think about and put into practice ''being a gay man'' i CANNOT enjoy it due to the ''what ifs''#its like i have to do a schrodinger's sexuality on myself #genuinely really dont mind what my sexuality and gender is as long as im happy and YET.... its like chasing my own tail with myself #its funny because what i do know is that i love masculine terms i love being he/him'd i love being called a man i love my body on t #but... ''what to call this other than blanketly 'transmasc'.. if anything'' and ''who do i wanna fuck about it'' are like going in circles #and NOT to say people need anything more specific than just being transmasc or just saying ''im gay'' or being blanketly queer or anything #and maybe i need to take a page from that if its giving me grief. but ... *gestures vaguely*

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famewolf · 7 months

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I wish masking less at work was easier! I am naturally not that verbal unless I'm talking about a special interest, but I know that not talking makes people uncomfortable ... but it's so draining for me in such a specific way

it's not that I'm ignoring people when they talk to me, it's just that certain types of people read me as upset or mad or tired if I am not emoting every time they try and engage me ... and it just so happens that I work with quite a few of those types of people lol

#[static]#and then they come over while im busy writing out my order to be like 'hey are you ok?'#which baffles me every time and makes me feel defensive lol #im just minding my own business trying to do my work please dont interrupt me #just because i didnt wave enthusiastically in your direction when we met eyes doesnt mean im in a bad mood fjgkdfh #my mondays are always hard because there's less queer people and more of the folks who are always seeking attention and-#-Need you to meet their energy or else they think something is wrong #and they have .... very high energy

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britneyshakespeare · 9 months

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i had a really weird interaction on youtube the other week. i commented on a short tv clip of someone gay doing something funny a few years ago and i said smth sweet and generic like “oh wow that’s cute i love him” and it became a top comment so sometimes i still get notifications of ppl liking or replying to it.

but for some reason, you know how faceless people on the internet will say their most shallow and judgmental thoughts to a real person like it’s not the rudest thing you can do? yeah that happened. i had left the most impersonal, inoffensive comment in the world but someone responded to me “just admit you’re only entertained bc he’s obviously gay and you project your lack of a personality onto that”

and i was just like. honestly shocked. like what? you literally don’t know me at all. i didnt even say I WAS GAY in the comment or anything about being gay it was LITERALLY just a tv clip i thought was funny and cute. but this angry homophobe who clearly just hates to see queer ppl have fun and make jokes on the internet made it *my* problem...

and like first of all i don’t do that. i don’t just identify w everyone i come across who is queer and funny and root for them for that reason alone. the only person i project my lack of personality onto is dave davies... ok... chill out that’s not what i watch jeopardy for, that’s why i listen to the kinks

#the clip itself wasn't even about being gay it was just a guy doing a snap #OBVIOUSLY GAYYYYYY #i mean the guy was gay but like. get a life? get a life #tales from diana #get it right. i'm very specific w how i project my lack of personality onto real people i can overly-personally identify w okayyyy #ok~ teehee :)#seriously though what a catty fucking homophobe #im not even a gay man. my life and my taste in art has definitely ALWAYS INCLUDED LOTS OF QUEER MEN ok but am i one? no #and that's fine. they're part of my community very much but i don't look at every single one and am like 'omg youre so me bestie'#dave davies is the only (arguably?) queer man i project myself onto. and he had to be a complete dandy and musical genius to earn that #(dave davies actually doesnt identify as queer but he does speak openly about his experiences w men... he grew up in a different time #and he's allowed to identify however he likes its not my business. debbie harry is kind of in the same boat saying shes straight now #but used to be bi... let the boomers say whatever they want as long as theyre not policing us which neither of those ppl are)#(personal identification is personal)#this whole post is Not That Serious btw in case this needed a tone indicator

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thickest-slimiest-malware · 11 months

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ofc ive always had adhd, but personally what really fucked up my attention span is agar.io (and being depressed enough to play it for hours every day. people whose lives are ok dont do that shit)

#like im financially stable but really really really really lonely and it was covid when i started + body image problems etc #im already taking all the meds i can this is more of a skill issue #lets break down why my life is so bad: im rude to people and end up randomly (accidentally?) upsetting them often #so its hard to maintain friendships #im on social media for friends instead of irl bc messing up irl is scarrier but combined with agario its messing with my attention span #(it didnt use to. how i use social media just changed. i used to watch long videos and fine tune my tumblr feed)#+ lets be honest the world is kinda scary and difficult for everyone #also its hard to find true communist queer autistic polish people who dont drink AND are not on tiktok #but still i should really get out there #i should sleep more eat better excersize more and idk maybe i would have more energy. idk how much of it is incurable chronic fatigue #but i need energy to get out there. i have time just not the energy #and maybe not the confidence. admittedly my confidence is very fake and fragile and i can talk to people but when i fail i crumble #crumble is such a cool word. crumble bumble doo be di doo. i have a little red present for you #i like rhyming with scatting. you can just say whatever. one of my fav cartoon gags is when you can kinda tell what the character will rhym #like 'crumble bumble doo be di dosis my mother has come down with osteoporosis'#ok going to sleep now goodnigth

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skrunksthatwunk · 1 year

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pulled aside by my father to watch a homophobic k&p sketch and just had to sit there like 😬 and then when i explained it was homophobic he was like "i fear for your sense of humor". christ alive

#look idk anything about k&p maybe they've gotten better. not the point #it's the one where there's a pop duo singing a love song to a crowd of women and one of them keeps coming onto the other guy despite him #being obviously uncomfortable for like. two minutes. and then when the queer guy gets too into it and starts singing about the other #artist's bald head he backpedals and starts singing about being cartoonishly straight #thats the whole thing #the joke is 1. gay guy can't catch a hint and makes straight guy uncomfortable by hitting on him or expressing interest in him #(classic homophobic joke. probably don't need to explain that)#2. when everyone realizes what's going on gay guy stumbles back into the closet in an over the top way #and when i pointed out point 1 to my dad he was like 'i fear for your sense of humor'#im gonna shit bricks #[father's first name] [father's last name] be fucking normal for one second challenge (possible but he's a proud asshole so he won't do it)#i spent so long haha yeahing my problems with what they did away that now whenever i challenge them even slightly and see that they #will not reflect and will not change it's wild. i explained why this was homophobic (less clearly than here but still) and he was like. :/#youre no fun. like ok i actually tried and it Is That Bad. sheeshhhh #the answer is probably to keep trying until they get it bc they think they like queer people but that's. a lot.#(they in this case = my parents. just switched into a broader rant without warning my b)#he rewound it when my mom came out and when it seemed like i was gonna leave too so like... idk what that was about but it feels very #'now that our gay kid's out of the room. cishet wife with a similar sense of humor to me do you think this is homophobic?' to me #and hey maybe that'll be productive and reflective but uh. historically speaking? probably not.#i feel like im not doing enough to make them less shitty or at leaat to stick up for me n my brothers so i gotta keep going and doing more #and theyre not the worst people ever really. so i should do my part so to speak. but man it fucking blows is all #they're so annoyingggg #also why does he talk like that who does that. i mean. i do. but it's bad when he does it #and they ARE capable of change. i had to argue for trans people existing years ago and now they act like that never happened #(granted i was arguing from a cis transmedicalist perspective back then but like. still. (i have grown since age 13 if you can believe it))#so theyre pro trans in a superficial kinda way. which is something. i just wish they'd acknowledge that they were wrong literally ever #it's happened once that i can think of. twas my dad #theyre like emotional and ideological brick walls it's insane #ugh. god gives his most frustrating softcore bigoted parents to his swaggiest gay transsexuals i guess #man what a post to be making soon after the daig o one. what a coincidence that that post materialized with no influence from my life haha

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mechawolfie · 1 year

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finding a neat looking sdv expansion mod only to see the new npcs it adds r just more white ppl

#smudgy.txt #i dont understand why anyone would think theyd need to add More whiteness to this game and #not understanding things makes me angry so now i hate that game #i got the diversity mod too n it was cool but the game at its core just feels so. white #and by white i mean boring as hell <3 #sorry im being snippy bc im upset. i dont like it when i find smth that'd usually be right up my alley #only to realize it's not bc it is just Very obvious the that creators did not have someone like me in mind when they were creating it #it is a very Safe game which does not feel safe to Me #bc what's Safe is decided by people who either could never consider my existence or outright find my existence upsetting #maybe thats why things like DE & tgm feel comforting to me #they dont feel White in that specific way that Safer things tend to #......also maybe farming sims just arent my thing ADGFFSHDFH #BUT I SWEAR THEY WOULD BE IF THEY JUST BOTHERED TO BE COOL. LIKE CMON #LIKE HAVE SOME CATBOYS OR SOMETHING AT LEAST. JESUS #MAN if there were some sort of sim set in the lxh world. id die of pure peace of heart #peaceful & wholesome as h*ck. casual queerness & disability. AND it's got catboys. like COME. ON.#n ok sure there's only like 1 black character. but have u considered that shes cool as hell & i love her so so much

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host-gone-gay · 1 year

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It has come to my attention that I currently lack queer friends so if you're queer and ready to deal with my bullshittery and complete tomfoolery, DMS are open .

Please be respectful, I will not tolerate any form of toxicity and you'll be instantly blocked and reported.

This has been an important message.

Good luck. (With dealing with my ass lol)

#queer #lgbtq community #I need something to do with my life and my epic invisibility powers and lack of social skills are hindering my abilities to connect #Currently very lonely and will jump off a cliff to feel something /hj #it is very much highly recommended and very encouraged to absolutely turn into a madman. let your inner weird self and broken humor shine #for i am the same and would love to be weird with someone else who understands #it's also recommended to be as straight forward as you can bec im very dunce and it'll just save us both the effort tbh #try not to be dry. I don't want to feel like I'm deep throating you to get the convo going #ok that was a weird way to describe that but sure #lesbians/gay girls/nb pals who like a bit of the labia. i summon all of you. you are all mainly the target audience #of such an announcement #I am now your friend. you can't escape me. is a very encouraged approach if you don't know what to say #ps don't be mean. i dislike mean people with a passion

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faerociousbeast · 2 years

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beimg the only brown person in your friend group is. well. Something

#im grateful for my friends theyre awesome but there are things they just dont get and its obvious they feel awkward when i mention them #even when its not like. detailed rants ab the stuff i go through and just brief mentions of celebrating holidays they dont know #the s.umeru stuff is especially annoying bc i feel like some sort of freaking diversity hire 😭😭#'oh well my desi friend said its ok so its ok i dont have to feel bad'#there are some things that you really need other people from your area for. its not an insult against anyone else #its just hard to talk about your experiences when they arent shared for these specific sorts of things #bc the system is so weird that other people even if they try literally are just. Unable to relate #and its always shitty when they attempt to bc like. i guarantee the racism i face is not comparable #to lgbtq issues.#yes we are both marginalized but i am a part of both and some experiences just cannot be shared #especially since poc literally still face racism in the community + white queers seem to think their queerness #is a get out of jail free card #its even worse when they try Too hard tho and try to compare your shit w the most mild things 😭😭#us being threatened to leave this country is not the same as people (rightfully!) telling you your food is bland #and if you dont get that then i genuinely dont know what to tell you

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lycanr0t · 2 years

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"[x] sexuality/gender is just cis/het people who want to feel special"

gender and sexuality is complicated and nuanced actually and just because you don't get it since it doesn't fit into your small idea of gender and sexuality doesn't mean it's bad or wrong, it just means you're a bigot.

if someone says they're a certain gender or sexuality then maybe, it's because they are that gender or sexuality. maybe you should fucking believe them. because it's not your damn job or damn business to tell them otherwise. queer identities are not and never have been simple or easy to put into clean boxes.

there will always be identities that people call 'cis/het people trying to be special' because they're reducing those identities to the most bad faith, twisted version of it that it can be while actively ignoring the actual lived experiences of the ppl who identify with it. I'm sooo fucking tired of it. so tired.

if your identity has ever been invalidated like this just know that i see you. i feel you. i stand by you. your identities are not bad or less queer than more accepted/known ones. you belong in queer spaces just like every other queer identity and no one but yourself gets to decide what words are acceptable to describe your own personal experiences.

#rot posts #if you think that any queer identity is just 'cis/het ppl trying to be special' then you are an asshole and bigot no exceptions #dont argue with me about this i have no fucking patience for that shit. can we just let queer people exist without judgement #queer ppl put up with so much bullshit i dont care if someone is a gender that i dont get. thats not my business to tell them theyre wrong #genuinely if we all just fucking listened and accepted each other without trying to decide if x label is bad and invalid or whatever #then we would have such a better time and be so much more united #label discourse is stupid. call yourself what you want if it makes you comfortable then thats good and exactly what labels are for #if youre using labels to try and control others youre doing it wrong and need to shut! the! fuck! up!#ok rant over. pissed off today #if you clown on this post i sweAR to god i will block you so fucking fast im not fucking kidding

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alexclaain · 16 days

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I dont really know how to explain this, but every religion gives me an ick if it's starting to lean into the more radical sides and excludes or oppresses people. And it's weird to me how there are people who will claim you're (religion)phobic, if you call out the bigotry.

#as much as i am of the belief that everyone has the right to follow any religion they like #its very very weird to me how its becoming more and more common to see some openly hate on gay people or non believers #and when we go hey thats not fucking cool #ur being called a bigot for not respecting someones beliefs #like dont get me wrong islamophobia is very very fucking bad in the western world and deserves no room #but that doesnt mean im gonna start to be ok with some folks being homophobic for the sake of their god #i respect everything until it comes to intolerance ok #also dont get me started on Christianity because the amount of CCs lately pulling out the bible being like i found my way to god 🥺#makes me want to throw up and not trust them #if you need a book to tell you how to behave #for your religion #i mistrust you very very quickly #anyways #to anyone out there whos religious and queer of any sort #i hope you know that your god or gods love you just the way you are #and no one can or should tell you otherwise #and if they try to get behind me

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