#lesphobia

[hadeantaiga]

If a straight woman is harassed because other women think she's a lesbian, she's experiencing lesphobia.

If a straight man is harassed because other men think he's gay, he's experiencing homophobia.

If a cis person is harassed because people think they're trans, they are experiencing transphobia.

None of these people were the "intended" demographic in the sense that they are not actually lesbian, gay, or trans, but they were the intended target in that moment because bigots do not care, and that person was the person they wanted to hurt for even looking queer.

We can all agree that being the "intended demographic" of a hate crime doesn't actually matter and you can still be a victim of a queerphobic hate crime even if you aren't gay, lesbian, trans, etc.

So...

Claiming people can be "transmisogyny exempt" doesn't make any sense when you look at it this way, does it?

And that's why TME/TMA is a pointless and harmful dichotomy.

#transmisogyny #transphobia #transandrophobia #homophobia #lesphobia #lesbiphobia #lesbophobia

[sillywetkittenincardboardbox]

i think we need to support characters in stories having changing gender identities.

i feel like people in fandoms are soo hung up over the ideas that "he *has* to be bisexual because he kissed a woman once" or that "they CANT be aromantic/asexual/aroace because they dated someone!"

no!! they can be! people change, and i feel like forcing characters to be one thing or another solely because this or that is harmful to us!

i think it reflects in tbe way we treat people!

someone who says stuff like

"CHARACTER cant be LESBIAN because she kissed a boy earlier in the series!"

"CHARACTER cant be AROMANTIC because they(re) DATED/DATING someone!"

"CHARACTER cant be BISEXUAL because theyve only shown intrest in BOYS"

"CHARACTER cant be NONBINARY because they use THESE PRONOUNS!"

will be more inclined to say

"Oh! Susan cant be a lesbian because she dated that fine lad awhile back!"

"Aha, Brian isnt nonbinary because he uses he/him pronouns!"

stuff like that!!

pleasepleaseplease i just think we need more representation of like. characters who think theyre one flag/sexuality/gender but realise theyre another.

i also think we need to keep this in mind!!

also this does not apply to characters like willow who have been confirmed as pansexual.

[m4ndysk4nkovich]

debbie and her sexuality

this is in a way a shit post and it’s not really organized because i just was thinking about my own experiences and decided to talk about this

i think that there’s something to be said about the way that the gallagher’s and the fandom talk about debbie’s sexuality because it’s infuriating to me as a lesbian. ian straight up tells debbie to her face that she’s not a lesbian, fiona describes debbie’s sexuality as her “thinking” that she’s a lesbian, nobody, except for sandy, really awknoleges that she is a lesbian. and i get it, being a lesbian isn’t her entire character, just like how being gay isn’t ian’s entire character- as homophobic as the writing in the show can be i appreciate how they didn’t focus the character’s entire plot on that. however, i wanted it to be awknoleged more. i wanted debbie to stand up for herself. i wanted debbie to just fucking say, “i’m a lesbian!”. wlw representation, specifically lesbian representation, is so shitty- shameless gave us lesbian representation, but the best representation we got wasn’t even purposeful until nine seasons into the show. even then, debbie’s representation is treated as a joke.

growing up as a lesbian sucks and it is so hard and confusing and even if they didn’t mean to, early seasons debbie perfectly captures comphet. she stares longingly at girls, she tries desperately to get boys to like her by sexualizing herself, but fails to realize that liking someone is more than just having sex with them or liking the attention they give you, she doesn’t even like any guys until someone tells her “hey, you like that guy”, and then she just magically decides that she does. she never actually seems into a guy in the way she thinks she is, she just seems to like the attention.

i feel like debbie represents growing up as a teenage girl, specifically growing up queer/poor/not “conventionally attractive” (even though debbie is gorgeous, but she doesn’t think she is and is told that she isn’t). debbie is so realistic and tragic to me because all she ever wanted was love, and she could never get it. she didn’t understand the concept of love, and her attempts to get it failed so much because she just assumed that love was all about sex. she just assumed that her worth was tied to her looks and body and that she was ugly. she grew up with a father who drank, a mother who left, a sister who tried to parent her but failed, older brothers who could never fill the role of her father, younger brothers who could never fill the role of her child, and a bunch of kids at school who hated her. at home, she felt alone. at school, she felt alone. and she loathed loneliness, she loathed the idea of somebody leaving her and would do anything in her power to make somebody stay, but again, always failed.

a big part of her character in season 1 (and 2 and 3) is just desperately wanting her father. she cared so much about him and would do anything to get his love, attention, and praise, but she never could- and when she did, she clung onto it. so i don’t think it should come as a surprise to anyone that once frank was officially not somebody she cared about (lies) she started to try to get male validation from boys. she “liked” boys because they gave her the attention she lacked, she didn’t like them in the way she was supposed to.

with girls she always seems more comfortable and more herself. i think that once debbie figures out that she’s a lesbian, she becomes more comfortable with herself- which is the case for many people. she has always been very opinionated and sure of herself, so you can imagine how it must’ve felt to finally figure it out.

figuring out this major thing about herself was so big and so important, and the fact that people just brush it off?? just say that she’s lying, that she’s actually bi?? it’s fucking bullshit. hate her all you want, whatever, but to completely ignore/destroy her character like that is stupid. if you don’t like her then you don’t like her, but either way, she is complex and she has layers and i hate how people just try to pretend otherwise. she is a lesbian. she likes women and only women. that is who she is, and in my opinion, that is who she has always been.

and your reasoning for saying that she isn’t is stupid. yes, she got high and had sex with a guy as a rebound, but that doesn’t make her bi/straight. she literally said she only did it because she was horny and he was the nearest person. ALSO, if you wanna play that card, you may aswell say that mickey’s straight too because if you recall, he basically did the same thing at the start of 5x12.

so yeah.

#shameless #debbie gallagher #comphet #lesbian debbie gallagher #lesbianism #lesbian #mickey milkovich #ian gallagher #shameless us #fiona gallagher #shameless meta #shameless rant #meta #rant #lesphobia

[genderqueerdykes]

my mother and sister are closeted and repressed lesbians and it hurts. it makes me sad now, and it made it hard for me growing up. i've always been very queer from the get-go, especially considering my intersex condition feeding into my lack of a desire to present femininely, i was very butch my whole childhood and teen years. my mom and sister would complain to me night and day that they "would date, marry, and live with women, if only they could."

i would just sit there and go "but you can?" and they would go "no, you don't understand," and continue to try to beat the queerness out of me like it had been beaten out of them, explaining over and over again some nebulous reason as to why it just "couldn't" happen. it never set in.

i did repress my butch lesbian identity for way too long because of that, but i never repressed being queer. once my sister asked me "why would anyone want to choose to be gay?" and i had to squint at her and ask "what, do you wake up every day and choose to be straight?" and she proudly beamed and said "yes! I do." i felt completely alienated from her as a sibling from that moment forward. i just reeled

i know existing in the closet is safe for many people, but it's just unfortunate that my mom and sister have not been allowed to be themselves. my mother and sister complain about being in relationships with men night and day, but openly fantasize about being able to date women. their internalized hatred would then spill out on me and other people for being butch and trans.

i guess why i'm sharing this is it's okay to exist in the closet, and it's even okay to be repressed, but just think about how you're affecting other people. i think it's unfortunate that my mom never accepted herself, and my sister may never, either, but it didn't have to manifest in vitriol and hatred towards all expressions of queerness.

#transphobia #repression #lesphobia #homophobia

[stupidbitchrat]

Seeing someone call ButchxFemme "the gender binary again" fills me with a kind of rage I can barely describe. How do you have all this queer literature and these personal stories revolving around Butches and Femmes and you reduce us to "Men and Women?" Kindly fuck right off

#butch lesbian #lesbian #lesphobia #butchphobia

[tragedyfetishist]

Girl the only lesbian shows involving vampires I can think of are “First Kill” and “Vampire in the Garden” shut the hell up.

#lesbians can’t have ANYTHING #lesphobia #first kill #caliette #vampire in the garden #lesbian #lesbian shows

[vague-humanoid]

#lesphobia #cancer #child illness

[nancytheslutwheeler]

Sure maybe it was lesphobia that canceled The Wilds, or maybe it’s that you normies couldn’t handle the Carly Rae Jepsen lip sync number

#the wilds #carly rae jepsen #lesphobia #normies

[that-sapphic-witch]

lesbian 👏 is 👏 not 👏 a 👏 dirty 👏 WORD.

#period #lesbian #wlw #lgbtq #lesphobia

[chaos-in-one]

Just had a dude get pissed off and call me chronically online and try to leave the conversation because I called him out for using the d slur as a non Sapphic (and non lesbian especially, the d slur has a history of being especially directed at lesbians, especially black lesbians.)

"Slurs don't have rules about who can say them irl" people irl do get weirded out if you say slurs that are directed at a group you aren't in actually

#lesphobia #lesbiphobia #homophobia

[bi-sapphics]

not to put a target on my back but some of y’all use the word “lesbophobe” to be the boy who cried wolf and then get upset when other lesbians point out how you’re watering down its actually serious meaning. i don’t have to be a lesbian to say that because it’s really gotta stop.

[oxyfem]

It’s so wild to me that gay men can openly be like “ewww women gross!!!!” And everyone’s just like oh haha gay men you’re so funny. But if a lesbian goes “eww men!!!” Suddenly everyone’s hopping on their ass like “oh so you hate all men? You hate anyone who likes men? You’re biphobic? You hate dicks? You must be transphobic.” Just making up insane accusations in order to hate on a lesbian!!!!!

#AURUGGHHH FUCKKKKK #lesphobia #itssoooo frustrating #esp when bisexual women can be like ugh men!!! #but when a lesbian says the same thing they’re hounded for it #ahrjehhhhh