#lesbiphobia

[hadeantaiga]

If a straight woman is harassed because other women think she's a lesbian, she's experiencing lesphobia.

If a straight man is harassed because other men think he's gay, he's experiencing homophobia.

If a cis person is harassed because people think they're trans, they are experiencing transphobia.

None of these people were the "intended" demographic in the sense that they are not actually lesbian, gay, or trans, but they were the intended target in that moment because bigots do not care, and that person was the person they wanted to hurt for even looking queer.

We can all agree that being the "intended demographic" of a hate crime doesn't actually matter and you can still be a victim of a queerphobic hate crime even if you aren't gay, lesbian, trans, etc.

So...

Claiming people can be "transmisogyny exempt" doesn't make any sense when you look at it this way, does it?

And that's why TME/TMA is a pointless and harmful dichotomy.

#transmisogyny #transphobia #transandrophobia #homophobia #lesphobia #lesbiphobia #lesbophobia

[madohomurat]

you can tell a lot about a person based on how they react to a lesbian saying "im so glad i dont love men"

like i can just tell sometimes when bitches see that and theyre fucking seething inside. they hate the idea of lesbians feeling proud to be lesbians. they get defensive and try to argue that lesbian pride is biphobic or misandrist or whatever the fuck.

they hate it when lesbians even bring attention to a key part of our sexuality (not loving men) like legit people will say "why cant you focus on loving women instead :/" as if its such a fucking crime to be proud of not loving men lmfao

#cy texts #lesbiphobia

[starfishinthedistance]

God whenever non-lesbians give shit to nonbinary lesbians with complex or 'too masculine' (read: 'not woman lite™') genders and they say "grrrr that gender can't be lesbian grrrr" it's like bro...you don't Get it.

Whoever first said "lesbianism is as much of a gender identity as it is a sexuality" or whatever it was was so right. Being lesbian gives you such a unique experience societally, being so sexualized and so demonized at the same time, being excluded and invisible from many queer discussions, the contempt from both men and women...it absolutely affects your gender. Something something the gender binary inherently being heteronormative, something something its idea of womanhood is entirely based around men and breaking that is inherently gender noncomformity...

Even lesbians who otherwise identify as cis women feel like a different gender than straight girls at some level, but this stuff gets especially more intense for trans and non-binary lesbians because then societal transphobia and shit gets added to the mix.

So yeah, sometimes lesbians will dress masc. Sometimes they'll use he/him pronouns and masc terms. Sometimes they'll be bigender or pangender or genderfluid or demigender. Sometimes they might call themselves trans masc or transexual. Sometimes they'll refer to themselves as guys or men while still being absolutely non-binary and absolutely lesbian (fyi if you're fine with non-binary people referring to themselves as guys and can understand that they're still non-binary and not men, but aren't if that non-binary person is lesbian, you're a piece of shit <3 )

To say that a fundamental part of the lesbian experience somehow makes someone less of a lesbian or not one at all proves you know nothing about us. Lesbianism has been this way since before you were born, it's not gonna change for your bullshit exclusionism.

#lesbian #non binary #non binary lesbian #trans lesbian #lesbiphobia #enbyphobia #lgbtq #lgbtq issues #lesbian issues #queer #trans rights

[0w0tsuki]

Hey you know your Jakey? The one you tagged that lesbians post about her attraction to women with because you "babygirl" him? Yeah. I forcefemmed her. She's trans now.

#lesbiphobia

[softbutchthatlovesyou]

This might sound defensive but if you're attracted to a 100% binary trans man as a woman then that's straight regardless of what you say, because trans men are men full stop, maybe it's unintentional for you but there's a lot of trans men aren't really men or are women-lite shit going around, reanalyze yourself and your transphobia because that's straight up awful shit and I'm so sick of seeing this being spread around it's fucking conversion therapy shit disguised as something positive reanalyze why you want trans men to be with lesbians so badly when lesbians traditionally mean and is understood by wide society to be women liking women, like actually sit and think about that, maybe it's hard to admit that it's offense but good fucking god

You seem to be under the assumption that I am forcing the tran men who identify as Lesbians to be not fully men or women lite and you are very wrong?? I do not see a trans man as any less of a man for being a Lesbian. He is a Man and A Lesbian. They are both true. They are not conflicting labels just because of societies perceptions of a word that was forcefully adjusted after Lesbian separatism.

Yow however are the one assigning those people a sexuality based on how you see their relationships. Is a woman supposed to break up or change her entire sexuality because her partner came out and she didn't stop being attracted to him? What if she still primarily dates women after they breakup for unrelated reasons? Does she earn being a Lesbian back? Or maybe consider how many trans men are butches in the community who are Men and Lesbians and their femmes love them and are no less lesbian to any of their peers. What about those who are firmly Trans men and Trans Women at the same time? Do they stop being a lesbian on "Man days"? Do they earn it back on women days? You know, to make sure on "man days" they aren't viewed as Womenlite for being a lesbian by their own choice. Where's the line anon?

It sounds defensive because it is. You are not reading a word I've said about any of this and are shoving shit I don't believe into my inbox under the guise that you think I condone any of what the fuck you iust said.

I am a man and spend half my time fighting to be seen properly as one against transphobic Lesbians who insist I have to be a Girl Butch otherwise they have the right to dictate who I can date. I fucking know more than enough about people who want to change my gender to fit their transphobic views. I spend an entire portion of my blog fighting about transmasculine rights if you bothered to look around before you sent this accusatory ask.

Some Trans Men are Lesbians because THEY WANT TO BE. When I talk about Lesbian Trans Men I am talking about ME and THEM. If you cannot understand that then you are not having the same conversation as me.

Also the fucking Lesbiphobia of revoking someones right to be a Lesbian because you don't see it that way is disgusting. Who the fuck are you to think it's okay to tell somone they aren't who they say they are? we got a council that can kick us out of our little clubs since that's how you wanna treat these identities?

#this makes me nauseous to read #to tell me i see any of my fellow trans men not as men because i respect the ones who are lesbians???? #and to think YOU have the right to tell them how they can identify?? #transandrophobia #Lesbiphobia #im so fucking tired read what i said or just dont bother to send an ask #gideons talking time #inbox #anon #arlright i guess i need a discourse tag now if yall are gonna be clowns #ill block anything malicious #but im not letting blatant misinformation about what i said go around #so uh #Fungus.txt

[daybringersol]

what types of oppression you experience has little to do with your identity and everything to do with how you are perceived.

what types of bigotry you are capable of propagating has nothing to do with your identity and everything to do with the systems of oppressions you are living under.

please actually internalize that instead of saying you do and then saying shit like ‘men can’t experience misogyny’ or ‘oh no he’s not homophobic, i swear, he’s gay!’

#leftist #leftism #oppression #homophobia #misoginy #transphobia #racism #aphobia #transmisoginy #anti transmasculinity #exorsexism #intersexism #ableism #classism #lesbiphobia #biphobia #antisemitism

[akajustmerry]

This is a clip of Cynthia Nixon being interviewed for Them Magazine and I really can't stress enough how much it shows that MOGAI and normalisation of "queer" as a label in the lgBt community is so deeply rooted in transphobia, biphobia and lesbiphobia. How is calling yourself "queer", a word created in academia as an Othering pejorative and popularised as a slur by your oppressors, preferable to calling yourself a lesbian or bisexual? You know, words created by your own community?? I'm sorry but if you unironically identify as "queer" because the words in the original LGBT acronym feel "pedantic" you're just suffering from internalised lesbiphobia/biphobia/transphobia and you hate the history of your own community. I hope you get well soon and pay reperations if you say shit like this. people will really say this kind of biphobic shit when the 30+ year old bisexual manifesto is one google away. if you call yourself pansexual/queer in lieu of calling yourself bisexual because you think bisexuality is "limiting" , here's a reminder to unfollow me because you are just biphobic and you're not welcome on my bisexual little blog.

#biphobia #lesbiphobia #transphobia #this doesn't even make sense

[nachosforfree]

The idol making people go "wow... the weeknd kinda sucks.." has been making me go insane. Yall didn't realize he sucks when he wrote a song that has the lyrics "You said you might be into girls ... While I fuck you straight (fuck you straight yeah)"?

#homophobia #lesbiphobia

[aroaceconfessions]

tw aphobia, homophobia (idk if it qualifies but better safe than sorry right?)

i just came out to my mom as a lesbian (I came out to her as aromatic a month before) and she said that I shouldn't define my life when I'm 13 and that it's okay to change (she also said that when I came out to her as aromantic which I can kinda get?? I mean it can change and people do get their first crushes when they're in their 20s but still) when I didn't prompt that response AT ALL. and nows making me to tell her that in questioning my gender. she probably didn't even mean to do it but it's killing me. and the thing is she probably didn't even mean be like that cause she's always been rlly supportive. but. it just makes me feel rlly crappy about myself

idk if that made any sense at all

please help

Submitted June 17, 2023

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aspec #lesbian #coming out #invalidation #aphobia #arophobia #lesbiphobia #homophobia #questioning

[madohomurat]

its important to analyze why you feel comfortable or uncomfortable sometimes. if you actually sit back and think about these things you can often uncover prejudices that you subconsciously hold on to.

for example, a someone might say they "get bad vibes from lesbians" and leave it at that. if they sat down and thought about why they feel that way, they would likely uncover that these "bad vibes" are actually their own lesbiphobic ideas projected onto other people.

you see the same kind of phenomenon when a white person says they "get bad vibes" from a group of POC. being vague about how and why you feel the way that you do because deep down youre afraid of realizing that you are the intolerant asshole instead of the innocent victim you act like you are.

#cy texts #lesbiphobia #racism #xenophobia #you can apply this comfort or discomfort surrounding labels as well #when i was just a baby gay i was hesitant to call myself a lesbian because i felt it was a 'dirty word' #but one day i decided to actually confront that feeling and think about why i felt that way. i realized i was harboring lesbiphobic ideas #if i never bothered to try and analyze my line of thinking i might still hold on to those same ideas #even if it was internalized lesbiphobia it was still just as shitty

[starfishinthedistance]

As a lesbian, I have literally never been bothered by the things non-lesbians have told me I have to be offended by.

Ace lesbians? Cool.

Aro lesbians? Swag.

Aroace lesbians? Neat.

Lesbians with split attraction? Wonderful.

He/him lesbians? Sure.

Transmasc lesbians? Whatever floats your boat.

POC lesbians with their identity influenced by their culture? Lovely.

Bigender lesbians? Nice.

T4T lesbians? Amazing.

Butch 4 butch lesbians? Rad.

Femme 4 femme lesbians? Great.

Like there are so many issues we actually face that we'd love y'all to get fired up about, but instead you chose to play identity and respectability politics with members of our community just living their lives and not hurting anyone??? It's wild.

#seriously just listen to us #lesbian #lesbian issues #lesbiphobia #wlw #sapphic #sapphism #nblw #trans lesbian #nonbinary #aro #ace #oriented aroace #angled aroace #gnc lesbian #butch 4 butch #femme 4 femme #t4t #t4t lesbian #trans #lgbtq #lgbtq issues #ace lesbian #aro lesbian

[chaos-in-one]

I genuinely hate the argument against lesboys that "Lesbiphobic cis men will use it as an excuse to keep joking about being lesbians to invalidate actual lesbians!"

Because it's literally just a repackaged way of saying "I think lesbians are at fault for lesbiphobia. Lesbians should stop having complicated identities because of this."

Which is

Incredibly lesbiphobic

#the majority of lesboys are literally nonbinary in some way #and sometimes even also women #y'all are just dicks #lesboy #lesbian discourse #lesbiphobia

[softbutchthatlovesyou]

"You aren't a real woman cause I don't find you sexually appealing."

"We can't let gay people marry! They'll force us to marry gay and have gay sex"

"Trans people are evil deviant perverts who have The Weird Sex and will trick me into thinking I should have sex with them"

"You can't be male and A Lesbian bc Lesbians (me) dont fuck men."

So are we tired of basing people right to be themselves based on the idea of who we'd personally fuck or???

#like im tried of being told i cant be a man bc you wouldnt want to fuck me #shut the fuck up and stop being fucking weird #gideons talking time #lesbian #lesbiphobia #homophobia #transphobia #sexism #like my identity doesnt concern ur attraction if ur doesnt include me

[popclown]

Hi heres a reminder that speaking over lesbians talking about lesbian matters is really fucking gross and actually lesbophobic!

Anyway sea fairy is a lesbian and if you ship her with a man you should reconsider your life choices.

#seamoon #discourse #lesbiphobia

[strawby-jelli]

Apparently not wanting men interacting with my LESBIAN CONTENT is now horribly misandrynist terf behavior.

This is lesbiphobia and misogyny in action. I will never be okay with someone disrespecting a boundary. Lesbians, don’t let anyone tell you that you MUST let men interact with your content. You are not evil for being uncomfortable. You’re not a terf for respecting yourself.

YES MEN AT PRIDE BUT NO MEN IN LESBIAN SPACES

#lesbiphobia #lesbophobia #men dni #terfs dni #lesbian #blocklist