#like on social media and irl

[bringoutthedead]

I have a huge need for validation but I can't ask for it and show that I desperately want validation

#i dont wsnt to look pathetic or desperate #or needy #but i think i instead come off as unfeeling #which is probably why no one gives me the attention and validation i want #like on social media and irl #because they thibk i dont want/care about it #but i cant stop thinking about how my coworkers had to to ask TWICE if i wanted a condolences card #abd then proceeded to not give me one anyways #like i cant get over how they had to ask in the first place?? #like not giving it to me sure people forget (it still bothers me though -i really do not dwell in anyones mind i guess) #but i can only guess what vibe i put out for someone to ASK if i wanted a condolences card like idk #like i know im not thought about by anyone but my family (and even then its like to an extent) and like 2 friends #but it sucks when its shoved in my face as a fact #or how when i talked to my mom abou it #which felt weird since it was her mom (my grandma) who died but i didnt know who else to talk to #she just is like oh yeah dont take it personally #like she just wants me to shove off my feelings #i just want her to be like yeah that sucks or yeah its okay to feel like that sucks #i guess i just have to change my entire personality and all of my issues because everything is on me anyways #like im clearly doing something to warrent this but idk how to chnage

[pro-sipper]

What do proshippers generally believe about shipping real people? Stuff like creator x creator or celebrity x reader?

That it falls under the umbrella of "you should be allowed to write anything you want". Once again, it's not my personal thing. There's no real life pairing I read for, and the whole "blank x reader" is not appealing to me at all.

But I have no problem with people writing that stuff, or knowing it's out there. I saw someone a while back say that it's basically just writing about another character, and I agree with that. No matter how much a creator posts or how open a celebrity seems with their personal life, we're still only seeing a tiny snippet of their lives. We have no clue who they are when the cameras aren't recording because we just don't know them. And whatever someone chooses to write about is mostly stemming from that particular persona that they happen to put on for the world and that's it. It's completely separate from our reality because they're basically just writing about another made up character

The problem I have, and it's what I imagine most proshippers also take issue with, is when people start blurring the lines between fiction and reality. To me, there's a world of difference between posting something on ao3, and speculating on secret relationships in the comments of someone's youtube video. Or between talking about something on tumblr, and tagging the person directly on twitter.

I just don't understand people who condemn rpf and talk about how gross and invasive it is, but think it's funny to tag celebrities on twitter to bring up (what they think is) cringe-worthy fanfic tropes that people have written them into. Or people who print out fanworks to shove into an actor's face at a meet and greet and ask them what they think about it. That's where the lines get crossed, to me.

I think ao3 and tumblr still have an air of mysticism to them. A little secrecy, a little privacy. In the sense that someone in the public eye would have to put in a little work to find this stuff for themselves. They'd have to go to the site and search themselves up to find anything. As opposed to just about anyone in the world being able to force this content in their line of sight with a simple @ on a site like twitter.

So to me the problem isn't that this content exists. The problem is when people don't know how to keep fandom stuff private. Write all the rpf you want but remember at the end of the day these are real people, not your blorbos. You don't know them. It's inappropriate to say these things to them personally (which yes, also includes tagging them on twitter or in the comments of their videos). But it's also inappropriate to run up to them with other people's content just to say "look what these FREAKS wrote about you!!" And I think people either forget or just genuinely don't care about the latter.

#proship #proshippers #pro ship #proshippers please interact #proshipper #proshipping #rpf #real person fiction #asks #anonymous #sip rambles #i know its so much crazier in this day and age than when i was a kid #with social media and stupid stuff like tiktok basically being a requirement of the job it seems #and celebs posting constantly and having a quick way to interact with fans #or content creators whose entire brand exists on social media apps like tiktok #who seem to be posting 24/7 and broadcasting their whole lives #and i know most of those types of creators mostly have younger followers who probably do very easily get sucked into #feeling like they know that person like thats their friend #and i also dont think that type of creator really discourages those feelings bc... they want followers and $$$ #but idk just write your fic and read it or dont do either and just leave celebs alone irl please please please

[stuckinapril]

i think i officially set my sights on a therapist and i'll be contacting her very soon?? therapy was legitimately not on my 2024 bingo card (or in the cards for me at all) but here we are????

#this blog always had a focus on social science and detangling feelings and experiences. like it's basically been serving as my diary #bc this blog has always been my main outlet for it. i hate talking feelings to anyone irl. it's a bad habit but i hate it #so it was a game changer and helped me grow up sooo much. esp supplemented w other people's experiences. #being raised by a stoic engineer mother who's very much warm but also not very good at feelings at times has caused me to suppress SO much #compounded w being the eldest daughter. like that is a damning sentence in and of itself #tumblr just gave me an outlet for stuff like this. and every social media is essentially a highlight reel of ppl's best moments. #tumblr is the opposite. i've always loved that too whether it was in the form of humor or more earnest posts #could i work through my own issues by myself? yes probably #and my blog will always have that facet even if i get a therapist #but a therapist's input. just a professional's input. will expedite a lot of improvement for me i think #this has been a critical time period for me anyway bc i'm budgeting my whole schedule for once vs being handheld by uni deadlines #and it's just gonna keep getting more and more intense from here bc i'm truly pushing my comfort zone more than ever before #it just feels like the right call even tho i'm lowkey nervous ab it bc i HATE talking feelings in person. #this therapist will not fall for my trying to deflect by asking her about her life. which. usually works on my friends <3 #we will see. a therapy arc is coming very soon basically #p

[zana-art]

a scene from The Courage of Stars by @hella1975

idk why its so dark but u may need to turn brightness up to see it

[ID: a semi-realistic digital portrait of yue and suki from atla. they’re facing each other, faces close, looking each other in the eyes. suki is wearing her kyoshi warrior outfit and yue a parka. behind them, the stars and the full moon shine through a circular window. /end ID] (ID by @maileesque <3)

#hiiii hella so i know you’ve literally never heard from me before #but i’ve read taob like 3 years ago and have been following u since (on a different acc my irls know abt) #i just dont talk to ppl on social media #so i’ve never talked to you #BUT taob changed me as a person #and i feel like a creep not saying anything for years so #yeah this is a love confession basically #<3 #also i have more taob wips and a tbp one #yes im saying that just to make myself finish them but this was a wip for a year and a half #at this rate idk when that will be #anyway #i love u xx #yueki #suki atla #atla yue #my art

[pansyfemme]

i think i may hate instagram the most out of all the social medias i use its so fucking boring i cant stay on there for more than 5 minutes. thats probably a good thing but like if it wasnt for it being the most reliable for following irl friends (and a lot of visual artists i like) i would never use that fucking app it puts me to sleep

#all the ‘meme pages’ are so unfunny and 100% stolen shit #i never want to look at that discover or reels page ever. i like mostly use it as a messaging app lmao #i post there but mostly when i have something 2 say to irls #or art. bc it is good for art to a point #tiktok has the worst content by far but i like the vegan cooking video and art supply reviews so i stick around #its just that that stupid fucking app would rather show me infurating garbage than the content i activly search out #tumblr i like the most obviously. best sense of humor. most like minded people. #my usage is a bit much i agree but like idk. other social medias make me feel like i am being deprived of all happiness and this doesnt do #that at the very least

[commanderfreddy]

people are discoursing about the laios and shiro fight bc that was always going to happen but i do hope that wave crests quickly and we can all come to see it as what it is: literally one of the best written fights between two people who are both entirely justified in their actions and acting without any malice or cruelty of all time

#theres a tendency - especially in action and faction based media (which a lot of fantasy is or is in dialogue with) - to depict fights only #as happening between someone who Is Right and someone who Is Wrong #and getting to see a full on beatdown between two dudes who are both acting in an entirely understandible way and who both dont actually #want to hurt the other at all - to the extent where their desire to maintain a positive relationship with each other is the SOURCE of their #conflict in the first place - is just so cathartic to see #like unpopular opinion but sometimes you do just need to Fight someone to work through issues youre having #like irl i would not recommend that extent of Force obviously #but if you're two people in a situation where neither has active power over the other sometimes the healthiest option involves expressing #and receiving genuine anger that is not filtered through a social buffer #like sometimes you just need to yell that someone is pissing you off by how much they invade ur time and space and sometimes you need to #yell that someone is sabotaging your ability to interact with them by not expressing any discomfort with your behaviour ever #AND MOST IMPORTANTLY SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO BE YELLED AT #BECAUSE it sucks. it sucks to experience and until you can both share that space of feeling awful with each other youre not gonna get past #it and you're not gonna understand each other's pain #i think they're both wonderfully well written characters and its a testament to their depth as people that i can so easily understand why #and how both of them are behaving the way they do #im still only like halfway through the manga but it is like my favourite character interaction scene so far #fred says a thing #dunmeshi

[solradguy]

There have been a lot of days recently where I'm scrolling through GG tags/feeds and it just isn't fun. I'm too involved, I think; I need to find some other way to distract myself when I'm bored before I explode

#textpost #It's been on a decline since they added Bridget and since Elphelt I've reached some kind of apathy maximum #Idk what the purpose of this post really is because it's not working towards fixing anything I'm complaining about #I kind of just want to complain rofl #This entire winter's just been absolutely miserable #We had like a record for longest amount of total cloud cover ever. So much shit's going on with family and stuff irl #I have zero energy/motivation all of the time and then I hop on social media and it's even more complaining and high school level drama #I haven't worked on a translation or anything since I finished GGCA 15 and I don't have any real desire to #Just.... Ughhhh..... UUUUGHHHHHHHH #What's that meme of the guy kinda leaning forward and walking into a cloud of light? 'Peace out'? #I need to do that. Get outta here. Go do literally anything else

[reggiestein]

i always get nervous posting my art bc i feel like i draw him Different than how other ppl do but i guess that is a good thing kinda. peace and love. god bless🙏

#im in love with him btw. in case anyone didnt know #licorice cookie #cookie run #my art #i have more art but ^^ i stay silly #idk i feel weird posting my stuff online nowadays even though i literally need to if i wanna get a job making art😭 #i used to post it all the time but being in a Fandom and feeling insecure abt the kinda different way i see media made me so sad and angry #im a lot better now but its... *sigh* yea guys it actually does help to interact with your friends irl and stay off of social media sorry #anyways omg i have so many ideas and stuff for my oc and licorie but i dont wanna be cringey!!!!!! i feel like nobody cares so i jus keep #it to myself but if anyone wants to see stuff i wouldnt mind it if u told me sumhow..

[033h]

i hate that Instagram is the most active social media for my friends because I truly find the idea of my ig being a public representation of who I am repulsive so I never post. Like idk seeing others and being seen and seeing them seeing you… it also just creates a bubble where you end up seeing the same everything style wise and it even makes me feel wrapped up in that need to “keep up” or “get ahead” of every little thing that defines influencing imo

#also idk being mysterious is sexy to me and above all else it feels safe #I don’t like social media as an actual social thing I think we should just hang out irl #also everything abojt it feels performative to me I just can’t see it as pure or fun

[basslinegrave]

why is the internet dying so much, its making me feel awful. more people using ai generation. kids getting fucked over because teachers are using ai testers giving false positives on their work. they cant even google shit anymore as its hard to search for stuff. doing my thesis i used bing the entire time because google sucks so much! but even bing has built in ai so the first thing you get is generated. old websites dying, link rot bigger than ever, and social media falling apart completely. posting art online is always at a risk whether youre a good artist or not. its always reposted, which is partially good for archivation but once your work leaves the site you posted it onto you have less rights ratio to it and it can end up who knows where and very much become ai food.. everything is just advertisements now, 80% of twitter posts are pushed ads for me and every second or third post on tumblr is an ad. most of them ai generated. first google results are all ads. and dont let me get started on reading comprehension and media literacy, its GONE

#i grew up without too much internet i only went there for games and chatting with irl friends #until social media got bigger like fb tumblr etc. but now as an adult its a place to advertise my work #and unfortunately im an artist and all that. so it hurts #this is actually being shared around so to add by reposting i mean when you post to twitter it will pop up on #copy sites like buhitter and such #and i can still find art from my suspended account on google through such copy sites! so its not entirely gone but means its reposted #which is obvs good and bad - i like when i can find my stuff in other places if credited but as i said it can be misused so not always good

[chubbychiquita]

you guys are my captive audience for my non horny posts and i love it. you have to listen to me because im hot! insane!

#on my irl social media i have like 8 followers and they are all my cousins taking pity on me

[nectar-cellar]

amir x dani moodboard pt 2

#i feel like theyre both silly vulnerable angry sad lonely emotional and then the grindr one is for funsies (not serious) #in my story after they broke up dani blocked him on every social media & its the only way for amir to make contact other than meeting irl #after [redacted event] i envisioned a scene where amir finds a tucked away journal in danis room & reads it #the entries reveal danis mental state + life post breakup & also there are some entries about him #still deciding if amir himself would be a journaling type... tbh it would be on brand LMFAO #anyways i feel like the entire plot doesnt work/needs a major rewrite so i never post much about it 😭

[becthefool]

I just realized there's only two, maybe three TME people in my life who I can actually trust around conversations about transmisogyny (and therefore realistically the only ones I can ever truely trust) and how that compares to how some TMEs talk about transfeminist issues taking up all the space, transmisogyny theory hogging the discussions etc. etc. Like just putting that perspective in place that in the real world the queer community is constantly alienating and hurting trans women. Hell, I only have a couple close friends in real life who use the right pronouns consistantly. This idea of trans women being the darlings of queer & trans space is so patently untrue it's hard to even think about how people could come to that idea.

#transmisogyny #that sucks. #ive been trying to divorce myself from social media use #but without IRL transfeminist praxis and community there's no way I could let go of stuff like tumblr

[aroandawkward]

It feels kind of magical to happen across other aspecs in the wild. Once I heard a friend of a friend talk about aesthetic attraction so I tentatively asked if she was aspec and her face lit up with a "Yes!" Another time I was chatting with someone that I'd sat next to in the first lecture of a new course and (because they were talking about queer stuff) I mentioned that I was aroace and they exclaimed "No way - me too! I've never met another one!" and we were both so excited. Even just learning through the grapevine that an acquaintance (e.g. a family friend I played with when we were kids, and a girl I was in a writing group with six years ago) is ace and/or aro makes me feel so warm and happy. It reminds me I'm not alone. It reminds me that other aspecs don't just live on the internet. They are out there in the world, living their own full and rich lives.

#Aspec #aromantic #asexual #actually aromantic #actually asexual #Feeling kinda down today partly cos of aroace-related stuff so I'm trying to remember moments like this #This has happened to me a lot more since I started being more open about my orientation #because that openness creates more opportunities for these discoveries #But I think I'm also more able to revel in it than when I was less confident in being aroace #like I remember a few years ago seeing someone I knew irl posting on social media about being ace #and just feeling flat about it because I didn't feel connected to them #and I didn't feel like I'd ever be able to talk about that with them even if we were friends #But now I feel more solid in my orientation #I am more able to be like 'same hat!!' #Anyway I know I have been lucky to have these moments #but if you are someone who has never met another aspec person #chances are that you will one day #or maybe someone you already know just isn't out #or hasn't realised yet #There are enough of us that it is more than possible to meet other aspecs by pure coincidence #Awkward aroposting

[ohmeadows]

hanya. she.

#meadows.txt #sorry i haven't been on tumblr much #social media has been snagging on my consciousness in odd ways #i'm mostly active on discord and uhhh the server junie set up like it's a playpen enrichment center for my writing brain lmao #in terms of fic writing: #things are moving along slowly #at a crossroads irl hence taking my time creatively #working on a ruan mei piece has taken up most of my time #as well as a filthy indulgent hanya smut oneshot #i rly just want to finish the ruan mei fic and move on it's been a WIP for two months now almost

[big8cola]

sorry tumblr is so much less stressful whe n u only reblog stuff grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr like getting attention on the internet is such a freaking snake eating its own tail situation.....

#aand like tumblr is such a bubble...... i #idk #being on social media from like a young age is crazy bc it FEELS like such a major part of ur life but irl its so inconsequential..ykwim