#she's being BLATANT!!

[theminecraftbee]

Here is how to slowly, completely, and irrevocably fall into having someone know your soul as well as you do theirs:

First, be enemies, but of circumstance. Neither of you were really on opposite sides so much as connected to them. You think he loved them, though, that side that was only your enemy by virtue of not being your ally. He loved them, even if he didn't spend as much time with them. You mock him for this. For calling their leader 'king'. (Later, you'll hold onto mockery like it's all you have. You know it's not a game and you know he was really king, but without your ability to make fun of what's happening, you won't be much at all.)

You have a best friend then. This, too, is almost an accident, although to explain all the ways it's also on purpose will take longer than you have to explain. He's wonderful, and loyal, and going to die. So you die fast and young first, before him. You die in front of your friend. You die in front of him.

You don't regret it, the dying young, because it means you die before anyone else can die for you.

Second, watch your best friend fall in love with him, although that phrase feels both too pedestrian and too much like it's overstating the thing that really happens. You have your own drama for too long to really understand how it happens, of course. You're too busy facing a betrayal that will scrape the inside of your soul forever. (To tell the truth, you've already forgiven him for it, but there's something easy about being each other's enemies, so you keep going, orbiting around each other in betrayal betrayal betrayal. But that's someone else who knows your soul, another story.)

Then your best friend dies, as does nearly everyone else. You sit around a campfire with him. You tell him that your best friend trusts him; you'll trust him too. He stands by your side near the end, the two of you running together, another man's memories on your lips.

You're not sure what you regret, then, but you know there's something that won't undo that's a part of you now.

Third, learn the value of choices, as the universe tries its best to take yours from you. In this one, the people you're by the side of is at once familiar and strange. The finalists who'd protected you last time are now an ugly mix of your chosen soulmate and your enemy by making that choice; you attempt to hold on to your ability to choose even as blood makes it clear you can't. (The universe tried to pick someone who would fit you well, you realize later. More people who know your soul that this story isn't actually about. You care for him too, is the thing; you care for choosing more.)

You don't see him much, this time. You respect each other, though. It's hard not to respect each other after everything that's happened. Still, you don't see him, and he doesn't see you. Instead, you see the end of the game. You nearly hold it in your fingers.

You regret. You regret deeply. You are so tired of watching people die, you think, and you regret more than anything else that you couldn't stop it.

Fourth, become enemies, but this time intentionally. Enemies, maybe, is a strong word; you're assigned co-parents, except bad, divorced ones. There's something hysterical about the whole thing, in both the comedic sense of the word and in the original, more concerning sense, especially given the way you all have thought about your best friend-now-son in the past. (Family ties are a thing you'll come to value; it's just that what the names are don't count, really, not when you do this again and again and again. Plus, it's nice to be able to have an excuse to yell.)

It's almost fun again. Maybe it's almost fun. You trade barbs with each other, and try to kill each other, and this time the consequences are light enough that you try to help each other, too. You see each other a lot. You're enemies, of course, but you see each other a lot, as you are: scared, and tired, and not as frightening as you appear, and happy, despite it all.

You don't regret much. You die fast and young, alongside your allies. You see his face before you do though, and you think he's the one with regrets.

Fifth, trip over him as you run across the first session of a new game. You don't know yet what this one will be, if it will be betrayals, or more stolen choices, or family, or fun, or anything else, but you look him in the eyes and make a choice. You will be friends this time instead of enemies. And it's nice. He and you fit together oddly now, but well, despite the oddities. You've had time to learn to, from a distance, and then closer and closer. (People seem baffled you're friends now. You wish you could explain that that's how these stories go sometimes.)

You're pretty certain he'll leave you when the time comes. He says he's a runner, and not a protector, and yet, when the time comes to betray you, you both know he won't hurt you, and you're both surprised anyway.

"You might regret this," you tell him quietly. You both have scars.

"You might regret this," he agrees. But you also both have choices.

"Okay," you say. "Have you ever fallen in love?"

"Cleo," he says, brushing your hair aside, and he doesn't answer.

"I don't think I have," you say honestly. "I think it's something else. Have you ever accidentally given someone a piece of your soul?"

"All the time," he says, and that's that.

The end is coming soon. You'll find out if you regret it.

#secret life smp #secret life spoilers #zombiecleo #ethoslab #a bee fic #trafficshipping #<- YEAH OKAY THIS IS A LITTLE MORE BLATANT THAN I NORMALLY AM. #you can read this platonically if you WANT but. it's. yeah it needs the tag. #anyway etho and cleo are soulmates but they're soulmates who very slowly and almost accidentally slid into being it #who built their way up to soulmates over time #do you understand me. #...also it DOES strike me the irony of tagging shipping on the fic where the lead SPECIFICALLY SAYS she hasn't fallen in love but #YOU KNOW. ITS THE VIBES.

[booasaur]

Monarch: Legacy of Monsters - 1x04

#mlomedit #monarchlegacyofmonstersedit #monarch: legacy of monsters #monarch legacy of monsters #cate randa #may olowe-hewitt #kentaro randa #anna sawai #kiersey clemons #ren watabe #monarch legacy of monsters 1x04 #cate x may #femslash related stuff #but subtext #okay so again isn't this quite blatant #and to clearly frame kentaro as sad about it #I mean of course it could just be that she hasn't forgiven him yet #still! #cate getting in that thumb rub here and the earlier scene #and lol at kentaro and may being all chapped and icy through the ep #while cate looks like she's in a catalogue #she and her grandma are SO stunning it's crazy

[whogirl42]

My very straight mum, completely unprompted, after watching the first episode of Loki S2:

“They're starting to give off an Ineffable Husbands feel.”

#AND THIS CAME FULLY FROM HER!!! #I hadn't said anything about shipping Lukius since s1 #All I said is that I love their dynamic #what a great double act they are #SHE'S the one who brought it up! #Guys I don't think we're being queerbated #Like I don't know if it's just cause Good Omens S2 recently came out #But for my very very straight mother to notice Lukius... #Guys what if we're not being queerbaited what if it's actually gonna happen #Cause s2 is being so so blatant about it in a way I'm not sure they were in s1 #Lokius #Mine #loki series #loki season 2 #loki laufeyson #loki odinson #mobius m mobius #ineffable husbands #Good omens

[dykefaggotry]

pack it up everyone dylan mulvaney jumped on the "girl dinner" type of tiktok humor w a silly song about Girlhood and now all the cis girls who were eating it UP from other cis women are demonizing her and saying she's evil for mocking womanhood and doesn't understand

I'm absolutely sick of it. that culture was Bad to begin with, but any time it was critiqued the response was "WE'RE COPING WITH WOMANHOOD of course we understand!" & you were branded a Misogynistic Self Hating Woman for not finding it funny. but the SECOND a popular trans woman jumps in on it? it's think pieces about "does she really understand womanhood at all? people need to know that she understands and this song misses that" as if they wouldn't be gobbling it the fuck up if a white, blond, cis woman made that song.

#if u want to know the song it's days of girlhood #and like yeah tbh I dislike it in the same way I dislike all these songs and trends and bullshit around womanhood being cutesy #but tiktok sure would've LOVED IT coming from a cis woman #it's very blatant hypocrisy #either you see All Songs and trends like this are rough #or you don't just complain when it's a trans woman doing it #like no she very much does understand the reality of womanhood and misogyny shes just making a silly fun song like so many cis women made #popular on this stupid app #anyway.

[genderkoolaid]

tbh its not entirely fair to paint all blatant rep as poor in comparison to queercoding (altho i do love some good queercoding). i think the reason so much blatant rep is Like That, while queercoded stuff feels so much more meaningful and real, is because the blatant rep we often experience is made to Market To The Queers. while it may have queer creatives working on it, the reason its created is to make money off of queers. its trendy. so just write a fairly surface level fluffy movie about white queer teens and get some cash! its blatant, which means it will be treated as a groundbreaking queer media especially by liberals.

while queercoded media on the other hand (intentional or not) cant or wont just slap two conventionally attractive teens on screen and make them kiss and get those rainbow dollars. its an expression of queer silencing, the quiet thats left when you arent allowed to say what you desperately want to. when you cant spoon-feed your audience queerness you have to. yknow. actually think about what it means and how to express that artistically. you have to show and not tell.

thats all to say, there is blatant queer rep that is good. but you probably aren't gonna find it on amazon prime. that kind of rep is being made by queer artists making indie films. i promise you its not either "blatant queerness that feels shallow" or "deep queerness thats not allowed to be blatant". theres a secret third option and its "capitalism will never liberate you and you need to actually support indie queer artists and actively reject queer capitalism to experience the breadth and width of what queer art is capable of being and doing."

#m. #like verilybitchie has talked about “bad queer rep” in a video essay (check her out) #and she mentioned one bisexual tv show made by a bisexual #that was both blatant and interesting #or uhhh that transfem vampire movie #like. this shit exists. you just need to put effort into #breaking free from spoonfed capitalist media and interact w indie art #not trying to be pretentious either! #if you enjoy fluffy capitalist queer media good for you fr thats 100% fine #and its not NOT important that we CAN have that pandering now #but like. from an artistic standpoint #capitalism prioritizes money not art. it will never care about you #queer media is only being produced bc enough people will go see it that studios will put it out #its not even a matter of homophobia rlly. we only matter as long as we make money #when queers stop being profitable to netflix queer indie artists will still make thought provoking takes on queerness

[genericpuff]

And with that, 2000 years of history and 10+ years of an animated adaption later, Attack on Titan is over.

I wasn't planning on making an essay post about this but like all of my essay posts, it got crazy out of hand, so here we are. I have a lot to say on it and the more I wrote, the more I realized exactly what the Attack on Titan finale was about. It's cathartic. It's also kind of a big shitpost but not for the reasons you might think.

Spoilers for the Attack on Titan finale ahead! CW: DISCUSSION OF WAR AND GENOCIDE AHEAD!

Now for anyone who knows what I'm about to talk about (and anyone who follows my stuff here), I'm sure you're wondering , what side do I fall on in regards to Attack on Titan's ending? Am I about to talk shit about it? It's very divisive and somewhat inconclusive. It followed the exact ending in the manga which, while expected, was still disappointing to many who had hoped the anime would take some other path.

But I have to ask, could there have been any other way?

Eren committed mass genocide, bordering on extinction of the entire human race. There was no way that he was gonna come out of it redeemed or as a hero, and he knew it. He went straight up Walter White core here and like Walter White, he is not a hero.

The fact that the Marlayans have been constantly going to war with other countries using Eldians as their personal soldiers goes to show that for countries that seek out conquest, there's no target too small or insignificant that can't be marked as an "enemy", and we see that reflected in Eren as well, in his pursuing of "freedom", an ever-moving goalpost that can never truly be satisfied.

The Jaegerists were hellbent on creating a new empire on the bloodshed of Marley - 'an eye for an eye', so to speak.

Nothing was ever going to truly satisfy either 'side' in the conflict of humanity vs. Eldians because such conflicts' origins have been obfuscated in hundreds of years of history, propaganda, and generational trauma that has repeated itself for so long that many don't even know what they're fighting for anymore, aside from one thing - that they don't want to suffer, that they shouldn't have to suffer for the actions of their ancestors, that they want peace and happiness but don't know where to start with taking the first step.

I think people are disappointed in this ending because, let's face it, it's anime, and it's an anime adaption that took years to finish. We always want to see some kind of vindication from stories like these, but I think in having vindication, it ultimately removes the point altogether of what's being said.

As much as we may try to fight it, try to deny it, the course of human history travels in a circle. Conflict will always arise. History is written by the victors, and those victors will be seen as heroes by whichever side they're fighting for regardless of what heinous acts they may have committed to justify their salvation. And after all of that conflict, regardless of the result - time goes on, and new conflicts arise.

But I don't think that means we have to succumb to grief and suffering and that's a point that I'm seeing missed in a lot of the discussion around the finale. There's a very powerful scene between Armin and Zeke, in which Armin talks about how he was born to run up the hill with Mikasa and Eren. He recognizes fully that if his life isn't meant to be long, he can still cherish those small moments that he thinks back on fondly, the moments that defined his life with the people he cared about.

And that's really all life is. Small moments and experiences that stick with us until the end. The very act of being born in and of itself is a cosmic miracle that gives us the chance to experience things that bring us joy and stay with us forever - however short or long that 'forever' may be. We take these small moments for granted when we're comfortable, but we look for them the most when we're suffering.

If I can relate all this to another piece of media that says the same thing - albeit with a much brighter ending - FF XIV: Endwalker also asks a similar question to Attack on Titan - is the only meaning in life to suffer and die? Of course, by its end, we learn that while death and suffering is an inevitable part of life - not something that should be avoided - it shouldn't persuade us to give in to fear and despair as a constant state of being. And I think Attack on Titan goes for a very similar approach, albeit slightly more as a cautionary tale - a nihilistic reminder that ultimately, the losses and victories we find in our current point of history are still just that, a single point, a blip that will be forgotten until it's ultimately repeated, and there's no escaping that.

It cautions us that freedom cannot exist without constant vigilance for war and conflict. It cautions us that our values and core beliefs for attaining freedom, love and happiness can be twisted into a weapon to cause harm, vindication gained at the cost of another. It cautions us that when left in the wrong hands, power can and will be abused by the ignorant while propagandizing itself as "the greater good".

So why not just find the joy that we can? The friendships, the little moments, the things that bring us happiness even if only temporary. Conflict is inevitable, suffering is inevitable, but that doesn't mean life isn't worth living. "Happiness" is not a tangible end point - it's the side effect of living a meaningful life that's true to yourself.

Attack on Titan is over. Some will argue the ending was the only way, others will argue that there could have been another way and that the anime adaption had the chance to change it but still didn't for reasons beyond their comprehension.

But isn't that the whole point? We'll argue. We'll bargain. Many of the arguments made will reinforce our own beliefs further rather than sway us. Many of us will insist there had to be another way, just as Armin insisted that this couldn't have been the only way, that humanity must have had another option. Meanwhile, many of us will acknowledge that at the end of the day, this is the story Isayama wanted to tell, and regardless of whether or not it makes him an idiot toying with his audience and admitting defeat by lampshading it in the penultimate scene of Eren admitting to his own idiocy, this was the power given to him and he used it in the best way he knew how.

Much like in any conflict, there's one thing that unites both sides - the human need for joy, connection, and freedom.

We might not agree on how Attack on Titan ended, but we can agree that it was a hell of a ride, and I hope we can all agree that it was worth riding, even if it wasn't satisfying for everyone in the end. It brought many people together regardless of their backgrounds, experiences, and differences, and connected them through something they all loved for over ten years. And despite how big a part of our lives it was, life will still go on, and we'll move on to other things to watch, enjoy, and argue over. Isayama will move on to whatever awaits him next, knowing fully well that his choice was his own, that he created the series he wanted to create regardless of how people feel about it. We'll all look for our own forms of joy and happiness as life moves on around us, as conflicts come and go.

Isn't that really what freedom is at the end of the day?

#also ok i know this turned into a philosophical post but like #i'm still just talking about fucking anime #so please for the love of god i don't want to be seeing anyone using this post as a way to play devil's advocate on real actual war crimes #human conflict in and of itself is an enigmatic inevitability but blatant actions of genocide and colonization are not #and that was made VERY clear by the end of the series through eldians and marlayans putting aside their differences to take out eren #also ymir being in love with king fritz was a bit of a weird thing to do but that's for another post #i think it spoke more to her just being that desperate for connection that she fell into an abusive relationship #but idk it could have been executed better esp because a lot of the 'romance' in AoT is weird #still i really enjoyed the finale tbh and i don't think we're supposed to be left feeling strictly one way about it #the fact that we're arguing over whether or not the finale was good is literally just proving isayama right ngl LOL #attack on titan #attack on titan finale #attack on titan spoilers #shingeki no kyojin #shingeki no kyojin finale #shingeki no kyojin spoilers #essay post #long post #tw genocide #tw war

[dancefloors]

thoughts on the taylor being person of the year

incredibly funny. I don't really have anything profound to say, I guess I don't really expect much more from Western media, and it's really not so consequential in the grand scheme of things but in a year where I feel like the needle has shifted, the divide has deepened, eyes are open to the cracks in the shiny U.S. empire and the foundation of bodies it lies upon, where resistance has taken the world stage on more than one occasion, disillusionment and realisation and personal stake... I don't know I guess it's poetic and honestly hilarious to see an embodiment of frivolity, celebrity, and liberal capitalist idealism be positioned front and centre. but as taylor said, "are you not entertained?".

#also burst out laughing because of the use and context of that quote. almost seemed too on the nose #Not a diss to her because she doesn't make the decisions #and all of this is not so consequential anyway. it's just strange how it feels quite literally like one of those moments in a book. #where everything feels so blatant to the point of it being funny #the article itself though... an incredibly baffling image of herself she chose to paint. what a case study of a woman

[lastoneout]

"We need more imperfect female characters!" Y'all can't even talk about Nami without describing her as "mean" despite the fact that the entire crux of her first character arc is her caring about her village so much she tolerates torture and misery for years just for a chance to save it, and after that becomes one of the most kind and selfless characters in the entire main cast.

#every time I see someone call Nami a “mean lesbian” before implying she would never give a shit #about her friend's problems or wellbeing I lose ten years off my lifespan #even as a joke it's just blatant mischaracterization #regardless of her hypothetic sexuality she's legit so empathetic and she cares so much all the time #she gives up money constantly to help people #she can be a nice lesbian you know #not all lesbians are mean #idk I know it's a joke mostly but Nami means a lot to me as a character #so I hate to see people call her mean when SHE ISN'T SHE'S SO NICE ALL THE TIME #she's usually the FIRST one in the crew to stand up to injustice #she puts so much energy into caring about people and protecting them #she's incredibly selfless #to the point that it's a flaw #she's only mean sometimes as a defense mechanism bcs she's traumatized #and she heals and stops being like that #one piece #nami one piece

[keclan]

breaking my silence as the resident swiftie mutual. it was bad.

#what a mess... #31 songs and only like... 4 were even passable #imgonnagetyouback being just a blatant ripoff of get him back! by olivia rodrigo... but worse? #like it was a materially worse song. unbelievable. #nothing musically interesting happening. the sound is so flat you can't tell when it switches from song to song #and nothing lyrically interesting happening for sure. bad. like a lot of bad lines. #31 songs!!!!! cut that down to like 10 and focus on making them good??? what's wrong with you #i didn't like midnights either. but some of the songs kind of grew on me after a while. #this album was just a nightmare. i don't know. #i do think the 1830 lyric was taken out of context to look worse than it was bc she's saying in the song that that's dumb logic #but people are making it look like she actually means that #it's STILL a bad lyric #but it's like there's so much other stuff going on that's bad here so #lot of material to work with without making stuff up #the jokes have been funny though #all in all just like. i kind of think she should have just stopped making music a while ago.

[shikai-the-storyteller]

Bruh it's been such a bad day for Mexicans 😭😭😭

#i talk #Akira Toriyama passing... #A bunch of Spanish streamers being super racist (and yeah fork found in kitchen but the frickin GALL to be so bold and blatant about it... #and then everything going on with Quackity (the racism against him + all the other BS i see every time I make the mistake of opening twt) #Can we please catch a frickin break 😭😭😭 #I still remember when my cousin emailed me and mom #(yeah it was that long ago) #''Hey I'm hanging out with the cast of the Dragon Ball movie rn lol'' #she was in Mexico studying at the time #she's so charasmatic and funny she was just There hanging out with them #frickin wild #I texted her a bit ago to talk about Dragon Ball #I think it's time I watch it

[aconstantstateofbladerunner]

@jelly-as-in-grape-concord made this for me

Tiger’s Curse book 3 is officially the worse book I’ve ever read and Colleen Houck is my eternal enemy.

#tiger’s curse #there’s 2 more books in the series #At this point #i’m just here to see how bad it gets #The third one swiped me on the way out #With some of the most blatant ableism I’ve ever seen outside of old eugenics texts #And that’s on top of all the racism sexism and classism #Plus #it’s bad in regular ways too #Like the protagonist being deeply shallow and useless #While everyone praises how wonderful she is #the fact that all the books are 500+ pages but the plot doesn’t start until halfway through #And the writing is childishly bad #The real curse is that i can’t stop

[samarecharm]

Would love to explore some more shu/ake dynamics bc theyre both so interesting to me. Interesting as in they would not be in a traditional relationship; theyd be so incredibly dysfunctional it would genuinely get either of them killed if they were to attempt something prior to the end of base game. Goro is angry and volatile and full of self righteousness, but he is incredibly depressed and miserable and full of self loathing. Hes someone who has been alone for most of his life, and has an incredibly complex relationship with his public facing persona and his goals; he is not ready for someone who will make him challenge his worldview at every chance they can. He refuses to be patronized but he needs someone who will be gentle and understanding. And hell never get that in a normal way bc he views someone being gentle with him as patronizing 😭

So he needs someone who will actively call him out on his bullshit, on his self loathing, and his attitude. But he also needs someone who will be patient with him and remind him that he IS worth something, that hes NOT a failure (hello??? ‘Im…special?’’youre more than special dude’ it was so easy for the thieves to get to him by just validating the work he did, and the trouble hes caused them lol). Akira CAN do this, but i think, w the way ive characterized him, he is just as angry and volatile as Goro, and he wouldnt know how to diffuse their arguments in a productive way. It would be catastrophic as Akira tries to show that he fucking CARES, and goes blind w rage as Goro consistently taunts and defies him and ignores his logic. And Goro would spiral trying to rationalize Akiras behavior as anything other than Good; the assumption that he must be lying and trying to manipulate him would eat at him until hes forced to storm out.

Anyway. All of this to say that shu/ake TO ME is “akira and ryuji are dating, and sometimes goro is there in the background looking like this 👇🏾”

#chattin #that last addition is a joke but also its not #like genuinely the only way i can see goro being happy and behaving himself is if he has ryuji there too #and like. ryuji cares. alot. he cares sm about everyone . hes got a BIGASS HEART #<- blatant ryugoro apologist here #so its not exactly a polycule; but it is a friends w benefits adjacent thing #like a qpr with him. do u feel me? #the timeline for all my au stuff is a little bit later than whats presented in the game (by only a year) #so like. by the end of the game. and akiras palace shenanigans #and the whole thang w strikers #goro would be way more adjusted and less explosive and unstable about things #but in order to get there; it takes alot of work #the moral of this is that ryuji is struggling w akira and his issues too. and he is the grounding force for him #and it makes sense that that would work on goro too lol #ann is also like this; which is why i think she would be the person goro relaxes around the most before the others #she and ryuji are blunt and not afraid to tell it like it is. but they are also incredibly nice and lovely #and they do not hold back on compliments either. #its them being so honest; and that honesty also containing a wealth of positivity that makes it difficult for goro to keep the mask on #weugh #anyway #shuake #<- tagging this for blacklisting and not bc i enjoy sending out a call to all shuakes in the area. i am afraid of them #and hoping that keeping the tag at the end prevents it from going in the main tag #even though i know tumblr tagging is horrendous and it will appear there anyway ☠️

[mymarifae]

my favorite trans girl in the whole wide world isn't she so beautiful and pretty and special i love her dearly and i think prsk fans should explode

#apparently i got so mad earlier that i didn't finish blocking the person in the prsk tag using he pronouns for them #and i just saw it again and i'm so fucking annoyed #how do you see mizuki face blatant transmisogyny on a day to day basis and think it's actually because their fashion sense is too 'weird' #BRO mizuki is primarily bullied at school. where everyone is wearing a goddamn uniform #she's singled out for wearing the girls uniform when she's 'not supposed to' this has nothing to do with their girly kei/lolita fashion #don't 'japan has a cultural problem with individuality and westerners are missing that context' me that is NOT what mizuki's story is about #IN. THE SLIGHTEST. #i don't think i've ever seen a stupider way to purposefully misinterpret transmisogyny. you're Really going to say it's because they- #-have an 'unusual fashion sense.' like. really? because no the fuck they do not and you're being obtuse on purpose at this point #it's a blatant trans narrative. accept it and respect it or die

[oatbugs]

and also just adding onto that, the recent wave of like armchair diagnosing ppl as npd is sooo annoying. Like its actually a serious condition, you CANNOT diagnose someone as npd with just one story or interaction. Sometimes ppl are not "narcissistic", they're just assholes? It feels like every second story i hear, there's ppl going "thats a narcissistic trait yk :/" and its like just bc its a narcissistic trait doesnt mean they have npd??

yes defintely !! it's so so harmful and i have not seen any other disorder (except maybe aspd?) get as much demonisation and hate as npd has and it is genuinely so heartbreaking bc it is a serious dissociative disorder that does Not inherently make anyone a bad person and yet !! like the term "narcissistic abuse" and also ppl just generally equating [mostly covert] abuse w narcissism is so immensely Harmful .

anyway i think we should bring back calling people mean, assholes, rude, gaslighters, abusers, etc instead of being like "my mother was a narc abuser so all ppl w npd are abusers and will never change!" etc etc bc it does 3 horrible things:

1) implies all people with npd are abusers

2) implies people with npd are not capable of self-improvement just like any other human being

3) offloads the horrible actions of abusers onto a disorder, thereby taking away the responsibility they had/choices they made in the situation and instead blames the (completely inaccurate + harmful!!) perceived invariability/ubiquitous evil of npd symptoms/traits .

"how to spot a narcissist" babe are we birdwatching now for ppl with a dissociative disorder or...???

#basically i had a breakdown moment where i realised that despite upholding lying as like. a moral principle . #i used to lie a lot in the past. but i didn't rly realise it then. and having this realisation kind of like...broke down a lot #of self image issues etc and i started looking into Why i did what i did etc...obvs i felt an immense amt of guilt #and while researching i found npd and i was like oh the symptoms actually kinda match #i started doing research into it and oh my godddd the amount of absolutely horrifying articles etc etc i found #nothing was helpful and everything was just what to do if ur parent is an evil narcissist 🤪 and it was just like. signs of covert abuse. #and i was like. even if i did have this disorder i would be so discouraged for getting help bc of this!! there were like 2 places on this #whole internet w an ounce of compassion. anyway i talked to my therapist and she said i definitely do not have npd and there is a much bett #explanation etc bc im autistic and there are comorbidities etc etc but i cannot forget the sheer . feeling of heartbreak and horror. #like the way that these people were being talked about as though they are animals. whole human beings who were abused and mistreated #ive never in my life seen such blatant and rampant and LOUD villinisation and demonisation of ppl with a disorder #i realised this was a problem b4 i went down the research rabbit hole but this just made me realise the sheer extent of it. truly disgustin

[suncaptor]

oh no the anti Taylor Swift takes are going to grow more and more ableist that will be the angle I CANNOT handle

#slutshaming and blatant lies is one thing and if you want to insult her for being a billionaire ill even clap along #but the core of it people just dont like her and will find some way to hate her about it. and when the takes show ableist to do it #yeah i wont handle that well. #like her album is literally about experiencing severe suicidality and delusion you cant but shes a rich white woman so she shouldnt #experience suffering out of that one. i am not against criticising the way she fails to use her money & platform and the privilege she doe #have but please listen to yourself. mental illness is NOT connected to what you think is a valid emotional response. #delete #vent

[the-avaricious-meddler]

On the earlier topic- Maybe it's just me, but people refusing to use the correct pronouns for it/its users because it's 'dehumanizing' comes across as a bit... "You don't know what's best for you but I do"-y. And like I get that it's probably not intentional, but it's still a bit yikesey.

#Even among trans/nb and trans/nb positive groups there's a pushback against it/its pronouns and it's like #For he/she/they pronoun users someone misgendering someone else for their own comfort would be rightfully viewed as bad #But now that it's your own comfort zone being challenged it's suddenly fine? #Yes someone who doesn't use it/its pronouns being called 'it' would be dehumanizing but that's because it's blatant intentional misgenderin #A she/her user being called he/him would also be dehumanizing. Or a they/them user being called she/her or he/him.