#shouldn’t be that serious but ??? idk

[senorablack]

#fandom polls #Fanfiction #ao3 #steddie #sabriel #merthur #dreamhusbands #destiel #queliot #personally i power through pretty much anything lmao except a character I hate #shouldn’t be that serious but ??? idk #please no flames ahaha

[spicyicymeloncat]

Saw two posts recently and I disagreed with them for the same reason and that is, y’all better not be falling into the pit of dissing things bc they’re not “sophisticated” enough for you or something.

Like someone complaining about cutesy wutesy terms or like stupid fanfic writing. Some people be saying stuff like ‘no! You have to like real books! Only use real words to describe yourself!’ Who are you? The cringe police?

Actually the colloquialisation of language is kinda a complicated topic. Yeah we shouldn’t dumb down words and stuff when it comes to discussing serious things and we shouldn’t be calling anyone else things that they don’t want to be called. But if someone is using casual language to refer to themselves and they’re someone who can ‘reclaim’ (for lack of a better term) that language, then I don’t think it’s hurting anyone. Sometimes we need to use serious language and sometimes we don’t.

And let’s not make fun of hashtag weird fanfic or fandom (as long as it doesn’t actually promote harmful views or cause harm).

There’s obviously exceptions to both these points but my general rule is, let’s not attack things for the sake of ‘it’s weird’ or ‘different’. Being judgemental and shaming people to conform to arbitrary standards is the talking point of literally every single hate crimer. That mindset is used by ableists, racists, sexists, queerphobes etc etc. Lets not forget that.

#this is in regards to the neurospicy post I saw a little bit ago #may have taken it a little too personally #idc if its a tiktok trend or whatever I first heard it be used by my own neurodivergant friends (me included) and its not hurting anyone #not hurting anyone involved #bc we’re in our own enclosed space and we know what it means #we know the neurodivergant experience needs to be taken seriously I mean we’re the ones suffering the consequences of those who refuse to #acknowledge our needs and struggles #idk ik im taking it personally but the fact that we’ve used a stupid little cutesy word shouldn’t suddenly erase that ig #ik the op didn’t mean to catch other neurodivergents in the slander but like #words have context ig #not a crime to use silly goofy language for yourself #it just reeks of gatekeeping #idk #this probably doesn’t make sense #not to be confused to when people make up cute names for crime allegations #that’s bad #essentially ‘silly words to self describe’ = good bc silly doesn’t inherently mean bad #but ‘silly words to describe serious and harmful events’ = bad bc when discussing said events we need information to be clearly understood #and we want to talk respectfully because others are involved

[bravevolunteer]

people with siblings love saying shit like “you never played put your brother in the jaws of one of your father’s highly dangerous robots?”

#SORRY. SOR RY #maybe he just shouldn’t have died idk /j #you never tried to give fredbear a little kiss kiss? boooo 😞 #i need to stop making posts joking about committing to the bit before people think i’m serious LMAO #⁂ ･ﾟ: i was looking for a job‚ and then i found a job‚ and heaven knows i’m miserable now ➛ ooc

[vampstel]

Been thinking about this for a while now,,, but I always found it weird how some people cling to bigger content creators for clout and validation. It’s very peculiar and I’ve experienced it in many fandoms before.

There’s a big difference between someone in your audience genuinely liking what you post + genuinely being nice because they’re nice vs someone essentially lovebombing you for a quick notice. No one here on Tumblr does that to me. Y’all are genuinely super nice and I’m thankful for that!!

However, I can think of multiple people on Twitter and Instagram that aren’t like that and it makes me feel so icky… It happens so often and it’s just weird.

Same thing applies with some bigger content creators. They drop their friends with smaller platforms because they’re not “useful” anymore and become friends with people as big or even bigger than them to climb up the ranks. I can’t imagine ever doing that… like why can’t we all just be genuine and not chase validation from meaningless, external sources like numbers on the internet 😕

#꒰ v’s rambling ꒱ #Idk man it’s just odd to me #Like why can’t we all be friendly just for the sake of being friendly #why have a catch to it. why do it just for your own benefit #It’s just scummy to me #Numbers shouldn’t matter… #We’re all just silly human beings at the end of the day #This is why I prefer being here than anywhere else #Tumblr is the most genuine platform I’ve ever been on (YouTube as well) #Twitter would be the least genuine #which sucks since I like the layout of Twitter #but yeah that’s all lol this got a lil serious

[givemebishies]

My teen cousin: Yeah I stopped watching MHA, I realized that it’s kinda problematic.

Me: Oh yeah? I’ve heard it’s pretty sexist, transphobic, and gross abt minors. Is that why you dropped it?

My teen cousin: Nah, Bakugo is just kind of a bad person :/

#this made me very upset #people thinking BAD characters just shouldn’t exist are very confusing to me… #THEYRE NOT REAL??? #chatterbun #MHA #my hero acedamia #transphobia mention #sexism mention #idk how to tag the sexualization of minors tag without it going somewhere rly serious lol

[scholarhect]

i watched barbie again it was fun. honestly am more convinced of it having done what it set out to do than i was before. like i get it now. there are things you could criticize about what kind of movie they chose to make but i would say they were pretty successful in making a movie that worked

#post tag #by which i mean i don’t think there’s any glaringly obvious issues with like. it claiming to be feminist but being antifeminist. or anything #but like sure you could say ‘do we really need a movie that portrays barbie this way’ or something like that #it does have . some flaws. but like. plot beats aren’t bad i don’t think #i think i was more weirded out by the ken ending before than i am now #she didn’t really fall all over herself to make ken feel better. she just went to him because she had affection for him as a friend #and they had to move on from what happened #and like yes trying to invent patriarchy was a bad thing to do to her but like. it’s like the steven & the diamonds thing #what happened isn’t treated as very serious because it’s just a fully unserious movie #and like. like i said i guess. you could say they shouldn’t write a plot like that if they’re not going to be serious about it #but idk. i don’t think it’s so bad

[peapod20001]

I wonder how many times I’ve googled whether I’m having a panic attack or an anxiety attack...

#vent #hohohahhaoho anyways #I am sooooo bad responding to things.... #anyways I’m literally less than five seconds my heartbeat shot up to 144 bpm so. fun <3 my lucky number 44 wouldn’t have it any other way #anyways I need to cry but I can’t cry so you understand. I’m pacing my room and standing with locked knees #and trying not to fumble or bump into things while makin my sister a snack while smilin and being normal <3 #do u understand. ough what is with TODAY whhhhh. is it the aderall?? did the adderall fuck me up today?? or ?? wha?? #oghghgg why am I so sweaty JUST in my pits like that’s the WORST spot to be sweaty in #kitty is here <3 she can sense when I’m crazy 🤪🤪 #I’m at 160 now <3 ogohohoo ahhhhh I can’t lay down right like that the one thing you shouldn’t do with a fast heart rate #hoho anyways the crippling fear of not being who I need to be for the people I need in order to be #sounds chaotic and strange cus of phrasing but. you understand #anyways my heart doesn’t even get like this when I’m like. performing a full page monologue in front of my peers #I can pretend to be a cat for a minute and a half and tell the dog to stay in their place and not get into mine #uhmmm yea idk I want people to feel comfortable being serious around me and prove I’m the friend to go to for things or be the one who under #understands. but I always feel like. a pariah. is that the word? idk. when I feel confronted with things all I can do is like. run away. cry #suffer alone cus it’s what I deserve. yeaaaa I’m going insane can you tell I think this is the first time since like. February where I feeL #SO bad ugh idk what. I did this to myself the fuck?? haha. hope it doesn’t stress me to hair loss and skin picking and disorderd eating and #bad (or should I say worse HA) sleep habits. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm sorry my problems are minuscule to others and I haven’t had a day of #any real discrimination or struggle in my life #i have everything I need. all I have to worry about is doing class work and attending lectures and watching plays. I don’t have to get thing #a myself or worry about food or a place to live. wooofff uhmmm. I wish I had someone here to squeeze me until I don’t feel like crying any #more. oh I feel so bad what the hell. and my nail is breaking ahahaha imagine. a life where my biggest problem I have to face is #a nail breaking mhmhmhaha #haha when you hold in your tears so hard your nose drenches your chin. sorry that’s gross ahaha idk what I’m doing flooding your dash with. #whatever this is. I’ll try to stop now. sorry

[vydumaj]

both my mom and my sister really need to contact hospitals rn and it’s stressing me outttt

#in mom’s case it might be something chronic like she was at risk for arthritis #but she doesn’t want to call because she ‘should have improved her insurance first’ and…I get it but it’s already too late to get ‘better #insurance’ for this since she’s got one meeting with a rheumatism doctor in her log #she won’t get better insurance and it’s just getting worse…quickly #in my sister’s case she’s had some kind of clearly very distressing pain since Monday night #in the lower part of her tongue and now she’s saying it’s spreading backwards in her mouth but she won’t call 1177 because ‘it’s too tiring’ #they’re both stressing me out !!!!! please just go to the hospital before it gets worse jfc #rant #I get they don’t want to spend a lot of money on meds or end up getting expensive treatments but…if it’s actually serious stuff they’re #gonna end up paying anyway :/ #in my sisters case she shouldn’t even have to worry about costs I think she’ll at most end up paying like 100€…which is a lot of money but #globally? for health care? :/ not really #she just doesn’t want to call and sit in the phone queue… but she’s also too distracted by the pain t eat comfortably and discuss what we #should do…idk

[firstfandomfangirl]

:/

#rambling #idk exactly how to have this conversation with him but #I wish any time I created something my dad’s first instinct was not to go ‘oh you could make money off of that!’ #I crocheted some flowers for my mom for Mother’s Day and my dad was like ‘yknow those are really good #You could easily sell those’ #And I was like yeah sure mHM #And any time I mention writing to him ever he’s like ‘so when are you gonna publish’ #It’s not for publishing!!!!!! #both him and my mom (who is a published author) will tell me over and over that I’m a super good writer and that if I published I would #make money but #I don’t #WANT to right now #Like I’ve tried to monetize my hobbies in the past and it’s sucked all the joy out of them #I’m doing a crochet commission for a friend rn and it stresses me out because I want it to be PERFECT #which is what ruins the fun of doing things for money #I get anxious that it won’t be good enough #And sure yeah anxiety is bad and not to be trusted but also I shouldn’t have to publish/sell my work if I don’t want to! #I need to sit down and have a serious talk to him about this but he has a history of not really listening #I know he means well. He and my mom both do. They make a lot of money via self publishing and they want me to be financially comfortable #but I want to be regular comfortable as well

[unawakening-float07]

Are you OK Irvin after last night? x

yeah. that woman who got like hulk hoganed body slammed probably isn’t.

#i just learned that i really am NOT ready for a relationship #i just had the dude i really like begging to start something serious with me and #i was so turned off by the idea #because he’s moving states soon so why? #like i can’t get fully invested in this dude #that and we had to drive past where my ex lives #and it just made me realize im not completely over him and i think i’ve been trying to find someone to date #to replace that feeling i had that he gave me #and that is not healthy and i refuse to basically use someone to live out my romantic fantasies #even if it is just for a few months #so idk im in a weird state of mind where i don’t want to have sex and i want a relationship #but i shouldn’t be in one #btw i’m fully like almost 30 and talking about my fucking ex boyfriends like i’m 15 like this is so embarrassing that i’m like #this much of a child about things

[melodianaartist]

Idk man just the idea of “Someone hasn’t gone through x amount of trauma so their voice isn’t valid.” Greatly bothers me.

(Rant in tags sorry)

#unless the topic is specifically that one trauma it just tells me that you’re not someone I would go to if I was struggling #also fun fact you’re not privy to everything a person goes through even if you know them very well #so the chances you’re invalidating someone’s trauma aren’t that low #also you’re putting that person in a situation where they may feel like they have to open up about their trauma against their will #also it plays into the idea that trauma is like this passage way/makes you stronger when really most of the times trauma doesn’t make you st #ronger and the idea that you have to turn it into a positive while nice and uplifting to some can also be really hurtful because no trauma #isn’t this secret trump card or like necessary thing. it’s something that shouldn’t have happened in the first place. #trauma is a vile horrid thing nobody should have to go through (even if everybody most likely does at some time in their life) #and while everyone deals with it differently and a lot of people may find the idea of it making them stronger in the end healing #I think it’s damaging if that is the only narrative present when it comes to discussing trauma #tw trauma #trauma #serious post #idk what to tag this

[butimnotseventeen]

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#honestly really hate long COVID jokes #I just think unless you have it you shouldn’t make light of a serious disability #idk maybe im just too sensitive

[i-am-the-awesome-sperm]

I love feeling guilty for calling out for mental health. Like I know that I need a day to get myself together but why does telling a white lie make me feel so dirty and wrong, I hate capitalism 😭😭

#I shouldn’t have to say I feel sick physically ya know? I should be able to say “brain not up to standard #brain need more horse power before I can function #idk I feel like I miss the feeling of being excited to stay home from school I feel the same should apply to calling out #but most of the time you call out now cause it’s for serious stuff #I don’t wanna grow up I wanna be a toys r us kid

[jvnkless]

feel like. whenever ppl in this fandom talk about queerbait & how it’s like. “actually good”. it shows a very clear misunderstanding of what queerbait is.

which is kinda amazing since this fandom should know better than anyone on what that is 💀

cause the word of what you’re actually looking for in stories is “long-term queer romance”. queerbait isn’t that. just because destiel was one of the only pairings from that era that proved itself to be more than it seemed from its competitors doesn’t mean it’s, like, wholly equivalent.

obviously destiel has its history in queerbaiting but that isn’t what made it actually good. it’s the substance. it’s the writing, the themes, the parallels, the chemistry, etc. something that ships during that era didn’t really have. that’s what made them true queerbait and, I’m gonna say it, not actually good.

#jvnk posts #idk I think I’m just pissy when it comes to words but like… dude use better words to describe things you wanna see in media. #queerbait is not the thing that made these ships good. #none of y’all seriously wanna be back in those trenches and if you say you do— #—that’s cuz youre too 2014-brained and shouldn’t be contributing to this conversation lmao. #like… I’m dead serious… shut the fuck up. 💀