#their uncomfortable * english what is it

[bellamyblakru]

idk why but the trope where character a changes the routine or something in the daily life of character b and character b complains and gets annoyed at the new addition and then suddenly one day character a gets genuinely upset and stops doing said thing which then makes character b all ☹️wheres the thing i miss the thing but has to pretend they want it back and is only doing it for character a’s sake when we all see its just them being in love or whatever is something i fucking LOVE to see?? every time???

#this is so specific and yet #do u know how many times ive seen this and every time i love it??? #its like someone who hates change but is willing to change for someone. their happiness overpowers they uncomfortable feelings and it #suddenly feels as though they have lost something so precious so beautifully character a that they need it back. #girl how many shows do this lets see: #merlin #with merlin’s chatting and smiling and arthur missing it and being audibly upset when its gone #semantic error #when my red man stops fucking with him and he just goes :(((( #30 but 17 #with everything she does esp with the plant and the home itself and going to work ugh #destined with you #which im currently watching now and up to episode 7 but these bitches are both whipped withojt realizing it #there are 1000 other examples of this and i love every rendition #okay thanks for coming to my ted talk at 5am bye #their uncomfortable * english what is it #tropes

[hanniedream]

fans asking kpop idols to speak in english gives me the same vibes as racist wh*te amer*cans telling anyone they come across speaking in another language to "speak english when you're on our land"

#saw a comment under a tiktok of hao's weibo live #saying “what about intl fans? english?” #and it annoyed me so much #he's literally a chinese live streaming on a chinese app #why does he have to use a language that he isn't even fluent in and probably uncomfortable with conversing in #just to cater to YOU #if you wna understand so badly then wait for someone to sub it #or learn the language yourself #expecting someone to use a language just bcs you can't understand them seems like such entitled behaviour to me #bibi thoughts

[sskk-manifesto]

Ok I didn't want to say anything but I need to get this out: don't you think its weird that the anime changed the most meaningful moment between atsushi and aku (and even some small moments such as akutagawa's shock expression when fukuchi tells him to kill atsushi) to make it looks like he doesn't care about atsushi at all(and even added that line of "ango told me everything" taking away atsushi's moment of reflexion in the manga) but then changed that scene of aku and higuchi(which was supposed to be terrifying in the manga) and made it look way more suggestive???

... I think I'm not the right person to ask this to. I mean, I have evident sskk bias, so it's pretty hard to tell whether my judgement is objective or not.

I've considered the scenario the Fukuchi vs. sskk fight was adapted like it was in order to water down the queer subtext - I mean, that scene in the anime does feel straight, in a way the same scene in the manga definitely doesn't -, but in the end I feel like it's too wide of a stretch to say it was done intentionally. It is hard to believe Bones steps away from homoerotic subtext (Dead Apple is literally out there), and it's probably more likely this has just been an instance of sskk being very very unlucky to be adapted in one of the seasons with the least budget destined to them.

I'm not sure what to think about the Higuchi / Akutagawa scene. It was very pretty, definitely better animated than the entirety of the previous episode, but I'm guessing it kept consistent with the quality of the rest of ep 4, so I doubt it got some kind of special treatment? ... And even if it did, idk, I feel like the problem isn't when scenes are animated well, it's when they aren't. The problem shouldn't be the Higuchi / Akutagawa scene being animated well, as much as it should be that all the other episodes should have met the same standard, which they didn't.

#I'm not sure what to think about the Higuchi / Akutagawa scene tbh #That scene made me uncomfortable when reading the manga and it made me uncomfortable when watching the anime and to an extent I guess it– #was meant to make the audience uncomfortable so #I'm not sure if I'd say it's more suggestive? #From what I can tell the dialogue is exactly the same compared to the official English translation #people asks me stuff

[raayllum]

& i will say as someone who has always liked the gothic / earned my degree in english... there is something to be said for “never say never” if you actually want to analyze media and/or expand your horizons. 

not only are pieces of media that discuss violation and taboos interesting (in many ways from a literary standpoint, incest and cannibalism are the same thing - a violent consumption and one sided ownership - but one is sexual and the other is physical, and bringing them together can be Fascinating in terms of how we can talk about the human condition, the harm we can do to one another & have done to one another, etc) but are also just useful, because how those things have been seen and treated have varied (somewhat) over history? 

cannibalism and kinslaying was a massive no-no in ancient grecian society, in spite of or maybe even in response to both of those things happening one by one in their primordial myths (kronos literally has children with his sister - like all gods - then eats his children, only for his children to later ‘kill’ him by chopping him into pieces. his dick formed aphrodite)

and to a certain degree, watching people go through terrible things or inflict terrible things on one another in the realm of fiction is the crux of tragedy. there’s emotional catharsis in tragedy, of course, of just expelling emotions in a safe setting where terrible things are not happening to you, but then there’s also the reaffirmation of agency and security that you have, because they’re not happening to you - that characters do not have free will, their stories are written for them, but you do have free will (which is its own burden, but mostly not). 

like you may say “i’ll never ship anything that falls into [x thing here]” and that could very well be true (although bad news if it’s incest and you’ve enjoyed literally Anything based off mythology in your life like PJO or hadestown, etc), there are definitely squicks for me i’ll never really be into but like. i also don’t totally know? there could always be the right story at the right time and place that makes me intrigued or interested in something i wasn’t before. 

having that openness also means allowing for different interpretations. i can ship past viren/harrow, and even in the present day portion of the show, while acknowledging and being fully aware that narratively / thematically (and canonically, if we wanna go that far) they’re supposed to have a brother-like bond. but to stuff characters and ships and moral rules into stuffy little cubbies and ignoring all the grey areas, and where people (fiction or otherwise) have always existed in those grey spaces has just... never sat right with me?

perhaps it’s because i’m nonbinary, so i exist in a grey and outside of a binary. maybe it’s because i lean towards not needing definitive answers, thanks to the reading i’ve done on judaism and religions other than my own (cultural & religious) christian background. maybe it’s because as an aro person, my own form of attraction is incredibly blurred between romantic and platonic. maybe it’s because i am Very good at recognizing anti (anti sex work, anti kink, anti shipping, anti queer, anti trans) rhetoric because it all comes from a place of “this exists and i think it shouldn’t, even though it’s not harming me” not only from my existence as a queer person, but also from my perspective (and from others like me) of being a minor harassed by adults in the name of ‘protecting the children,’ because they thought i was shipping a minor/adult. i wasn’t, for the record (canon ages were extremely ambiguous) but even if i had been, that’s still totally okay?? and not worth harassment?? just be Normal about it??

so yeah, i block liberally about it to protect myself, and i don’t blame other people who do too, because if someone falls into one of those anti camps, it’s very hard to tell which other ones they may fall into

and idk, i just think it’s Good for people to read things that make them uncomfortable, fiction wise. it pushes you past your own cultural understandings. it can lead to growth or reaffirm your own worldviews for the better. the more you overtly moralize (and demonize), dividing things into categories of “this is always bad or irredeemable” the more you make it harder for people to discuss the full complexities of their lives, because something can be always bad, yes, but that doesn’t mean there was never any good (or reasoning behind it that, right or wrong, appealed to the best or worst of people) in it either. if you deeply moralize racism, you give ‘nice whites’ a shield to hold up. if you deeply demonize age gaps, you make people who are actually vulnerable to them less likely to listen, rather than giving young adults better tools and concepts to learn when a relationship - any kind of relationship - is healthy for them.

and i’d say it’s fiction’s responsibility to challenge, but not to unilaterally teach, ethical and moral norms, anyway (which also aren’t defined principles, but you get my drift). what’s that quote? “Art Should Comfort the Disturbed and Disturb the Comfortable” by la cruz. Yeah

anyway all this to say go read the perks of being a wallflower or kiss of the fur queen or the book thief or things fall apart and come back to me about prioritizing your personal comfort over letting people just live their lives in fandom without moralizing everything. modern day sanitation will not help you in the long run

#the english major strikes again #don't know what trigger warnings to tag for but #mentions of cannibalism & incest as motifs #anti purity culture #as always ship and make whatever you want just tag accordingly #long post #fandom nonsense #and just to be clear: it's also perfectly okay to want to be comfortable #again: i avoid tons of fics bc it has something that makes me Uncomfy #HOWEVER (and i say this all the time) what makes me uncomfortable #(i love exploring violence in stories but it has to be written bc brain cannot handle screen empathy) #may be exactly what or why someone else loves it #and that is normal and okay #tag ramble #no i don't know what this is

[nowendil]

been thinking a lot about womanhood lately

#like. i don't exactly identify as being a woman. in contrast i do have a strong nonbinary/muunsukupuolinen identity #yet i do feel and acknowledge that in most contexts i AM a woman #not only because that's what most of the world sees me as but that's also consecuently how i move through the world #there is no one set way for women to experoence the world but i do feel like my experience is one of those. because i am gendered as a woman #it used to make me uncomfortable and dysphoric and i'm not saying that now it never does #but i have made my peace with it? like. i feel like i have “let womanhood in” as a part of my identity #and i have also realized that it's not actually being seen as a woman that makes me uncomfortable but being seen SOLELY as a woman #like my friends calling me a woman or my partner calling me their girlfriend doesnt sting usually #because i know they also see the other parts of my gender identity #but when a coworker refers to me with she/her or includes me in “ladies” it stings. because i know that's all they see #like YES i can be a woman. if you acknowledge that i am a bit of a weird woman. #i can be a woman if you acknowledge that i am a gnc woman. a bisexual woman. a queer woman. a woman who is sometimes bit of a man. #if you see and acknowledge that we can talk #however i am NOT a nonbinary woman. i am nonbinary AND a woman. which to some people is the same thing #but to me it's an important distinction. being nonbinary and being a woman are both parts of my gender identity but in very different ways #and very distinctively. lumping them together as equal parts of my identity as i feel the term “nonbinary woman” does doesn't describe me #i am enthusiastically nonbinary. i am begrudgingly a woman. i'm a woman with a long footnote explanation. woman¹ #“nonbinary woman” also doesnt feel like it accommodates the way i relate to manhood or boyhood. but that's a whole another tedtalk #i'm not a man but i like how it looks. and i'm not a man i'm just borrowing parts of it for genderfuckery reasons #idk how to explain it in english... #in finnish i would say that en oo mies mut joskus lainaan tai iahn vaa ihailen asioita mieheyden kuvastosta. #but because in social situations and In Our Society That We Live In you mostly can just choose one gender and it's either man or a woman #thennout of those i would rather be a woman. legally. with strangers. you know. not a woman but kind of yes because i relate to other women #if i could be seen only as nonbinary i would. but then again my nonbinaryness does encompass some parts of both womanhood and manhood. #so i guess people would have trouble seeing it as “only nonbinsry” #idk man. it's complicated and also changes emphasis multiple times a year #ask me again a month from now and the gender landscape will be interpreted completely differently #gender #nowe talks

[aroacehanzawa]

speaking of last reblog i've noticed sometimes i will say thing that will have people ask me what my pronouns are or otherwise subtly try to figure out what is my Deal with gender and i have to specify that i am a but a cis woman. except that i am also a boy detective (edogawa ranpo kinnie) and mad scientist (victor frankenstein kinnie). hope this helps

#also one time i said i don't have preferred pronouns and someone took it to mean that i'm nb like no i though we're past this whole thing of #'dismantle the gender binary of girl/boy only to replace it with she/hers and he/hims' #like for me it is just a feature of language i literally could not care less what word people use to refer to me when speaking english #we only have one third-person pronoun in finnish does that mean everyone in finland is nb? #for some people pronouns are important. for me they're not. if people default to she/her when they see me then that's that 👍 #oh and the occasion when i said this 'no preferred pronouns' was during an introductions round #when they specifically said 'and your pronouns if you're comfortable sharing' and it wasn't that i was uncomfortable per se #but that i just didn’t want to answer so i left this part out of my introduction #and then they SPECIFICALLY were like oh you forgot to say your pronouns uwu #brother what happened to the 'if' #that's so. counterproductive to whatever inclusive environment you're trying to create #idk what i'm trying to say but. you'll notice i don't have pronouns displayed anywhere 👍 #i will say she/her if i must but i don't like specifying that it's my ~preferred~ pronouns or whatever because what mean is that #'this is how people normally refer to me so there's no need to deviate from it' #but if i say no preference people will sometimes go out of their way to say they/them out of some kind of misconstrued idea of #respect/carefulness/inoffensiveness. and that's not right idea. #what i'm saying is. stop speaking english 😌👍

[disdaidal]

I don't want to brag or sound too optimistic about it, but after three weeks of training at a private college, I think my lessons with this one particular immigrant student (who has serious motivational problems lemme tell ya) are finally starting to get through and there's been improvement.

Only slight improvement so far but I have spotted some, so maybe not all hope is lost yet.

Remains to be seen I guess.

#personal #so in case anyone's still wondering i'm studying to become a tutor/instructor/guidance counselor etc. etc. whatever it's called in english #and currently i mostly work with immigrants with language. sometimes i help high school students as well. but mostly immigrants #and there's this one immigrant student who's been there since last spring. and he still barely even knows the basics because he's 'given up #according to him that is. he told me this at least three times yesterday and i told him that's a problem #so i've been trying to hammer it through his head that he can't be sitting in classes and using his phone when he's supposed to be learning #or expect me or teachers giving him all the answers when he also needs to show a little effort and help us back as well #and that he needs to participate in pair and group activities in classes because we're a team and we need to work together #so basically he's been asking me to either teach him or then find someone who can teach him #i told one of our teachers this and she answered that he could also participate in evening activities at the college but he's not doing tha #and according to him he doesn't 'mingle'. so i told him maybe he should once in a while. get out of his comfort zone. at least try #to my surprise he actually showed up to one of the evening activities that i hosted. didn't do much anything there but sit but still #that was effort. he did exactly what i said despite it making him a little uncomfortable so that's improvement #so then yesterday he asked me about teaching him the language again. i told him i host a homework club at tuesdays & thursdays @ 3:30-4:30p #he showed up there yesterday and was the only student. so i had time to teach him basic greetings. weekdays. months. things he shoulda know #and i thought it's all probably in vain but i tried. so today. he was in their class and actually doing pair work and reading stuff aloud #and even translating some stuff when i asked. calling it easy. and that he's trying to use his phone less and memorize this stuff instead #to which the rest clapped at and cheered him on for. and i told this to the teacher afterwards when she asked me about him. and she gave #me a thumbs up and looked a little surprised but also delighted. because he's been a popular subject amongst ourselves for a reason #so i don't want to get too optimistic about it. because he still has an attitude problem. but he's tried a little at least. so there's hope

[labyrynth]

/salt

trying to interact w genshin fandom is just constantly playing russian roulette and losing

like is this random user normal about kaeya and diluc or are they convinced that kaeya’s name is ragnvindr? are they normal about kaeya and diluc or do they ignore everything diluc has to say?

are they normal about kaeya and diluc or do they ignore the original text in favor of a mistranslated snippet that has a meaning opposite what they think?

are they normal about kaeya and diluc or do they call everyone that prefers canon over their headcanon a freak?

go on, give it a spin. i promise some of the chambers are empty.

#moi #salt is salt #genshin #it doesn’t even matter how many times ppl refute their claims #bc they just don’t fucking care #and then they try to get cute all ‘wow it’s so racist that you think china condones incest’ you stupid motherfucker. #what’s racist is insisting that the english translation is superior to the ORIGINAL chinese text. #what’s racist is ignoring what the original text fucking SAYS. #because you can’t be assed to learn even the bare minimum about the language #side note: ‘i like familial kaeya and diluc’ is NOT the same as ‘ITS YUCKYBROTHERINCEST FREAKS GET OUT’ #it’s completely inappropriate to throw a fit when someone asks what you think of shippers. #also why are antis incapable of just saying ‘i’m uncomfortable with that topic and would prefer not to engage with people who enjoy it’ #*remembers what an anti IS* oh. right. that’s literally their whole thing is their inability to live and let live. #they are literally defined by their need to call others freaks. #deep sigh #like at this point i just don’t trust *anyone* that doesn’t actively ship them #bc at least with them it’s clear where they stand #i can’t believe they’re STILL trying to use the hangout as ‘evidence’ like bro it literally says the OPPOSITE #i’m so fucking tired

[starpros-sunshine]

also I love this that is the face of someone who is very much not happy with anything at that moment you really can tell how much he does not like seeing the object of his affections treated like that

#it's very good #very very good #it really makes me think of that one line which I can not cite freely but it was something along those lines too #this single two second shot of Eichi looking so uncomfortable is so good actually because they could've made him put on that pokerface #but they didn't so #yanno #I'm not sure how to explain this in english my brains a bit mushy #but like #that's Wataru and he's getting berated by the student body and it is Eichis fault #to Eichi I mean and you know how he said he's a "huge fan'' of his #pains him so much that he can't even pretend to be unaffected #is what I mean #wataei #eichi tenshouin #I'm not sure if I should tag wataru too because he's technically speaking not in the post directly

[elendsessor]

after work today i can say wholeheartedly i don’t like english bulldogs :(

their smushed muzzles make me sad

#i mean they can barely breathe and it makes it hard to vibe with them #also maybe it’s bc i’m a weak ass bitch but #they easily overpower people when it comes to the establishing dominance side #like they’re really aggressive about it to say the least #i get the dog doesn’t know what it’s doing and i don’t blame them but jesus #every time i do a playtime with an english bulldog they never fail to make me uncomfortable somehow #kinda a vent here sorry #people train your goddamn dogs and don’t breed them to be unable to breathe

[icharchivist]

So apparently Etemenanki was a ziggurat in ancient Babylon. It was so huge (six layers tall!) that people would talk about it and it would later inspire tales of the tower of Babyl

Also its name means "Foundation of Heaven and Earth"

I was just watching a video about ancient Babylon and started screaming when they mentioned that and just had to share

aah thank you so much for sharing <333 i appreciate you running in my ask to share the knowledge, it's really sweet!!

I happened to know about all of this, i did a few researches on some of the important names in wmtsb (and in most stuff i care about) to try to figure out what the inspiration was and stuff, it's been something that has obsessed me for a while!

(i read about it before Tower of Babyl was announced as an event, i can tell you my theories ran wild at the time until they made it just "the ruins of the Pandemonium")

Also fun fact, my mom is the type of person who is always watching a documentary of some kind, depends on what she is having a major interest in at the moment, and for some reasons, our interests end up overlapping in weird ways like... when i was reading the Dragon Knights stories, if i was to wander into the living room, she would somewhat coincidentally be watching a documentary about Arthurian legends. Stuff like that. All the time. and so while i made my own researches about Etemenanki at the time, since i was staying at my mom's for a bit, it just happened that it was in the middle of her Babylon and Canaan obsession so it was all there was on the TV, and i had a moment of "going to grab something in the kitchen only to hear the TV start talking about the Etemenanki and being all like wtf"

So i feel you so much in term of suddenly being spooked by this type of things in documentaries. Always an amazing feeling right?

#the thing to know about me and my mom is that like two years ago for my bday we went to a restaurent #and i was deep into demon-inspired content like wmtsb and obey me #while she was deep into Canaan and Babylon stuff #and we like. spent the whole dinner discussing on the disembuguity of the mythos around Beelzebub and Satan in particular #were getting super intense too i remember we talked about the Helel Ben Sahar/Shalem myth too #but we were *so* intense about it and discussing Baal and stuff #and then like. halfway through the dinner we noticed the people right next to us were super uncomfortable and stealing glances at us #and later i overheard them speak english and they didn't know a single bit of french #so i don't think they like. knew what we were talking about. #if not for hearing once in a while the demon names which are the same in french as in english #it lives in my mind rentfree forever. bc English folks are also much more sensible to demonic stuff than french ones #so it added a layer to it #we left the restaurent we couldn't stop laughing #so. well! #anyway long story short. yeah. #thank you again for sharing though <333 #ichareply #anonymous #ichafantalks gbf

[sammygender]

it’s insane to me when people talk like ‘i hate vriska but’ or ‘vriskas a shitty person but-’ why r u acting like the ‘but’ redeems what you’re saying you’re still stupid and wrong. not to get into vriscourse in the year 2023 but homegirl has literally never been portrayed as older than 16 in ANY canon material. ninety nine percent of what people hate her for she was literally THIRTEEN. i’d like to see you guys at thirteen

#i know she killed people but that parts not that relevant terezi killed them too and she did it for fun slash justice vriska HAD to- #like it’s homestuck and they’re on a violent troll workd everyone kills people. #what she gets the most hate for is her general uh. ‘abusive tendencies’ i suppose. treatment of tavros #and yea i get it if her character makes you uncomfortable but she’s so fully formed and i fucking hate this shit idea of dismissing her for #being a ‘shit person’ i hate hate hate this black and white chronically online morality where ‘bad’ and ‘good’ people are things that exist- #just remembered i wrote an entire essay on vriska serket for english class when i was 13. no one hmu #anyway all this is activating my homestuck sleeper agent instincts sorry #oliver talks #homestuck

[aaeoluss]

idk it's so crazy bc in high school I wrote seven novels--and they aren't good or anything, maybe conceptually, or maybe not even that, maybe simply thematically, but to consider capacity, they were the best books I was capable of writing at the time. to write seven books in four years that are the best you can possibly do is kind of a lot.

which I don't say to 1) brag or 2) invite people to say "oh yeah well I wrote 9 books, so", I say only to prove a point which is that I loved writing. during this time period I considered myself a writer before anything else. which is just crazy because I'm so distant from my work now. I think 16 y/o me would be shocked by it.

((I get it it's fine college is busy burnout happens yeah yeah yeah I've heard. I'm not lamenting just observing))

#whats also interesting though is that my work has taken a fundamental shift #starting more or less after i took my first english class in college and dove into contemporary lit #prior to that point my work all carried a certain Quality. different genres and themes and plots but it all had an indescribable quality #tones of modernism maybe? I'm not sure #but there has been a fundamental shift in my work since then which i think is part of why i write less #i think the unfamiliarity of my own work is uncomfortable to me #my posts

[mxbitters]

i will die mad that i didn’t get to be a boy scout

#like what benefits came from being a girl scout ? weird religious stuff? #not knowing basic life skills because even at 'camp' you can't learn shit for survival? #the boy scouts growing up went ZIPLINING and cooked hot dogs over campfires and shit #and what'd we get? i'll tell you what we got we got fucking pyramid scheme 101 #a very clear hierarchy largely built not upon the work the actual kids would do but the influence their parents have #standing outside ALL DAY sweating your ass off begging for old people to find you cute enough to buy cookies #like i didn't learn shit from that what!!!!!!!! #oh ig i also got an awkward interaction w my high school english teacher since his daughter was in my troop at one point uhhhhh #like damn i just wanna know how to tie knots is that really so hard !!! #i still think there should be a scout type thing for queer people who had awkward uncomfortable scouting experiences #like it'd be a really good way to get to know different things #like it could be likee basic skills learned in the scouting groups we weren't able to be in #but it could also be likeee some more specific stuff from political action to sex ed #oh oh oh and ALSO you get merit badges :0 #this particular thing i'd want to be an adult thing though to be clear #idk im slightly high and thinking a lot

[jasontoddssuper]

Bi4Bi Ichihime and lesbian Tatsuki fit so well that i straight up get shocked when i see people saying IH is het or shipping Tatsuki with dudes JFJCJGJH.They're on the same level as trans girl Marco for me,they have so much evidence that they're as good as canon to me despite it not being Kubo's intent at all

#in case you're wondering what i think this it's because of they're being a lot of parallels between ichihime and chadichi and tatsuhime #and tatsuki being gnc and uncomfortable with romantic attention from boys!they're's even an english translation of a chapter where chizuru #calls her butch #ichigo kurosaki #orihime inoue #ichihime #pro ichihime #t4t ichihime #tatsuki arisawa #lesbian tatsuki arisawa #bleach #💌 #trans marco #letters from summer

[afieldinengland]

pamela (1740)

#guess what i have a seminar on later #this isn’t me saying This text has uncomfortable elements it’s evil etc etc etc obviously i’m not an idiot. we read these things for good #reason it was just hard going 😭 it’s pretty rough to a modern eye that doesn’t belong to a cisgender 1700s man #And you have to engage with these things. You can’t duck your eyes just because it upsets you. obviously #i just think it’s a bit of a weird text to jump straight into after tristram fucking shandy #also not really sure what we were meant to do if the text properly distressed us. not go to the lectures? #if my seminar tutor who is lovely but clearly a bit insane in that wonderful way everyone who studies english is #asks why i only read volume one i will tell her very honestly i couldn’t stomach anymore. Even that was hard #The lord’s prayer……. Well there were elements i had to breathe through