#we all need yard time

[scruffydogposting]

I’ve got dog sitting my grandparents beasts down to a science at this point. Weather permitting, I come in, I say hi, I shuffle them down to the yard(their favorite thing) where the hound stalks the trees for squirrels and I play intermittent chuck it with the cattle dog until they bring their energy levels down. Then we go inside and they sleep the rest of the afternoon I do whatever the fuck I want

#we all need yard time #it’s a symbiotic relationship #I’ve got the cattle dog used to taking breaks with the chuck it and offering when he wants a toss #since he’s ball obsessed and I don’t want him overdoing it #and he seems to really like that method(also because he has some ball guardy stuff so it’s all on his terms) #the environmental enrichment is enough for the hound she doesn’t need much else lmao

[aroaceleovaldez]

It's honestly wild to me that ToA went through so much trouble to emphasize the fact that Will did not magically fix all of Nico's problems and was explicitly not Nico's only doctor.

Only for TSATS to have Will fix all of Nico's problems and have Nico be entirely reliant on him the entire book and literally helpless without him and LITERALLY have Nico's problems be magically removed.

#pjo #riordanverse #tsats crit #nico di angelo #solangelo #it doesnt make any sense too cause. in HoO we KNOW Nico was fully capable of handling himself in Tartarus #we already knew he was explicitly on his own. we know he had it worse than Percy and Annabeth did #because we are explicitly told that Nico saw Tartarus' true nature the ENTIRE TIME versus Percy only getting a tiny half-glimpse of it once #and Percy acknowledges that he would not be able to withstand actually seeing Tartarus more than he did without just dying on the spot #and Nico was down there for as long as Percy and Annabeth at least. on his own. flying blind and explicitly having it worse. #so it doesnt make sense to totally retcon Nico's ENTIRE experiences with Tartarus to make him sopping wet and pathetic about it #needing to be helped and only being down there for twenty minutes and crying the whole time #and then all of the book he's literally functionally helpless without Will for some reason. despite being in his element. #could not get more in his element than being in the Underworld. my guy literally lives there. that's his HOUSE. that's his YARD. #and he's still just totally sopping wet and pathetic in Tartarus the second time around #like im sorry. no. we literally have previously established canon indicating this is absolutely not the case #that is not something you can retcon. that is an entire major event. it was not glossed over. #unless you are doing time travel and it's a canonical retcon a la Homestuck im sorry the events of TSATS just could never occur #(not to mention Damasen is just never acknowledged in TSATS and him and Bob were absorbed by Tartarus the god and ergo dead in HoH) #(so Bob and Damasen are like. *Gone* gone. they didn't just die to be reformed later they got ERASED.) #(and Nyx sure as hell isnt gonna be the one to have Bob trapped for whatever reason. definitely not cause she hates light/change/whatever) #(nyx is literally the mother/sister [depends on version - sometimes a mitosis situation] of the personification of day? and sky?) #(and FRIENDSHIP? and the nymphs of sunset? sometimes also CHEERFULNESS? and THOUGHTFULNESS? and old age) #(ah yes the mother of concepts such as love/friendship and aging and. day. would HATE [checks notes] love/friendship changing and light) #(she INVENTED THOSE) < anyways thank u for coming to my aside rant in the tags #in parenthesis to indicate this is an aside/tangent rant. anyways i have so many problems with this plot. it just DOESNT WORK #on NO LEVEL DOES IT WORK AT ALL WITH ESTABLISHED CANON

[continent-of-wild-endeavor]

Omie has let herself out the back door a few times since we moved into this house, but we figured she was doing it by accident, since an excited dog jumping at the door could slap the handle & unlatch it. We just hoped she never realized she could open the door, or she'd be letting herself out all the time. Similar to how she's definitely physically capable of jumping our fence, but she believes in the concept of the fence, so hopefully she won't figure that out.

But then today I went out to feed the chicks on the back porch, and left the dogs inside. As I'm putting the lid back on the brooder, I see Omie coming, out of the corner of my eye. Then as I turn to see if J's there in the doorway, I also see an escaped chick I hadn't noticed.

And my good good dog calmly helped me catch it, I told her she was wonderful, and we went back inside together. But like, was she jumping at the door because she saw a loose baby bird, and hit the handle accidentally? Or did she go "oh, that one's out & #1 Human doesn't see it. I better open this door and go help"? I wish I knew.

#how smart IS this gd dog #like if she's knows how to do that on purpose but DOESN'T most of the time #then the possibilities are: #she chooses not to let herself out into the fun yard all the time because there are Rules #one of them being humans decide when we go out #OR #she's goes outside whenever she damn well pleases when we're not there #and then also SHUTS the door afterwards #both of these are frightening to contemplate #and improbable #so she must be doing it by accident right??? #but she sure did show up exactly when i needed her #good dog #farm dog #my dogs #Omie #dogs

[weirdcultstuff]

My therapist: so do you think this could be an example of thinking about and making a plan for a scenario of scarcity - which hasn’t happened yet - as a way to feel a sense of control when you’re feeling anxious?

Me:

#one time my dad went on a diet phase and we all had to do it with him #and that’s when I actually started learning how to forage from the yard and woods #eating thistle root with my sister #hiding food between the boxes in the storage room #hiding the kids Tylenol so they’d buy more so we wouldn’t run out the next time the kiddos got sick #and now I have a ton of random shit I don’t need and it’s annoying but I’m PREPARED for improbable things

[healingheartdogs]

People who don't know dog body language who have pushy sketchy dogs are so awful to be around. I told our housemates that their dog Klaus doesn't like me when we went out to watch the eclipse earlier today because I didn't want to go in the fenced yard with him out and they were like "oh no he's fine don't worry." When he saw me he charged up to the fence, high flagged tail, snorting and barking and jumping at the fence and they still were like "oh he's friendly, he just wants to smell you, see his tail is wagging". Like my dude... tail wagging does not mean friendly, and what about the noises he's making rn sounds friendly to you?

Selene's sister grabbed him and I thought she was going to take him inside because she acted like she was going to, but instead she stopped halfway and just held him back while I came into the yard and then let him go to run up and sniff me, which he had very stiff body language the entire time he did so. For a while after that he ignored me because of the kids calling him away and was chill, but still kept coming over and sniffing me occasionally and was very tense each time so I just tried to stay calm and sweet talk him and didn't try to touch him to help defuse the situation.

Then I walked a little away from the group to point out a plant in the yard to Selene's mom which was a mistake because once I was out of the little circle we were standing in he started body blocking me, tense face, stiff body, whale eyeing, and then jumping at me and barking. They tried to call him away and were like "oh he's just trying to get you to play, sorry he's so demanding of attention." I started trying to walk toward the gate to leave because he very much was NOT trying to get me to play and I did not feel confident in their ability to control him, and he immediately did it again. And again they tried to call him away. And I got maybe another two steps before he turned right back around and did it again. And they called him away again saying he was just trying to play. Rinse and repeat for a total of like six times of him body blocking me, tense and whale eyeing, and then jumping at me and barking. All while they're just laughing like "Sorry, Klaus just really loves playing". Dudes your dog is actually behaving aggressively toward me right now, please get control over him so I can leave he is NOT TRYING TO PLAY WITH ME.

This is the second time I've been invited into the yard while Klaus was out and the first time they kept telling me the same thing but he was actually following me around growling at me then and they were still like "oh it's just cuz he doesn't know you yet, he'll warm up to you, he's friendly". YOUR DOG IS SKETCHY. I DONT WANT TO INTERACT WITH HIM. HE DOESN'T LIKE ME. PLEASE JUST PUT HIM INSIDE WHEN I'M IN THE YARD WITH Y'ALL. And PLEASE learn some dog body language because nothing about his right now says "friendly" at all!!!!! Not even a little!!!! TAIL WAGGING DOES NOT MEAN FRIENDLY, ESPECIALLY A HIGH FLAGGED TAIL.

#i will not be going back into the yard while he is out #i only did this time because they made it seem like they were going to put him inside #but then didn't #i do not trust that dog #and they are oblivious and just laughing while he is actively menacing me #cant tell them shit about it though because they act like we're criticizing their parenting if we do and get offended #and then be like 'well your dogs are out of control so what do you know' because my dogs bark at strangers #like... okay your dog growls at and menaces strangers???? mine just bark at strangers who talk to them and try to rile them up #and i dont correct them for that because its not worth correcting and also not their fault #your dog is actually dangerous and you dont have control over him #my dogs are not dangerous and when i tell them to be quiet and get inside they do #so who doesnt have control huh???? #theyre just mad because theyre the strangers my dogs bark at sometimes and since i dont like how they interact with my dogs i allow it #because they are rude as fuck and do not respect my dogs' boundaries at all #and think that dogs shouldnt be allowed to have boundaries because they should be 'kid safe“ which really means shut down from punishment #thats how they are with klaus which is a big part of why i dont trust him too #because they have created a dog who gets punished for setting boundaries so that the kids can 'safely' climb all over him and annoy him #and to me that is a recipe for a dog that doesnt give a lot of warning before becoming aggressive because hes been punished for it #i do not trust dogs who have been punished for having boundaries #and i dont trust their owners either #also them doing that means their kids think they can do whatever they want to dogs and interact very rudely with them #so i dont let their kids interact with my dogs at all now because even with me constantly correcting them they ignore me and are rude #and that definitely is something theyre also salty about because their kids want to play with my dogs #and they also want my dogs to play with Klaus and there is mo way in hell I'd allow that which they also dont like #hes an intact bully who they have admitted can be 'really fiesty' with other dogs #and Hermes is an intact male who seems to have a 'kick me“ sign on him for other dogs and i just wont risk it #and it drives them crazy that i dont trust their strange dog not to be aggressive to my dogs and wont let them all be 'friends' #DOGS DONT NEED TO BE FRIENDS WITH STRANGE DOGS THEY DONT KNOW OR LIVE WITH #I hate ignorant pet owners that make their ignorance my problem #rant

[winterskyfirefly]

I want to cry today. I hope mom got to enjoy the eclipse, hope she kept her eyes covered by something safe. I miss her.

#the joke is she’s underground she was cremated and planted in our back yard #but I hope somewhere her energy was enjoying it #I didn’t have the glasses you need to look so I stood under our deck #the world seemed to get washed out of color in a way #it was still light out but it was like someone wiped away the saturation #it felt strange #I could hear a bunch of kids counting down and shouting #knowing so many people are all doing the same thing today at the same time #I don’t know I’m rambling and today hurts a little bit I miss her and wish she could have been here #we would have gotten glasses and looked together #I’ve lost a lot of my saturation in a way since she passed

[technovillain]

oh man. i am so......... i will vent in the tags

#my dog was put to rest today. it was tough. but i got most of my sadness out of the way yesterday. #after that #a random ass dog came into our yard and starting being aggressive and growling and barking #and we have an outdoor cat and chickens #he was being nice for a bit but got mad again and i got so mad at him after he bit at my rooster. #he turned out to be okay but i am so pissed #animal control was called. we stood outside for a solid hour waiting on them. we saw them drive past our house #they did not stop to help us #this dog is harrassing everyone in the neighborhood and we are all so tired #we took our cat in the house. the chickens are in the coop now. #so theyre safe #but somebody has to come get this stupid dog #god i hate the government. emergency services are total ass and balls. nobody ever fucking shows up when you need them #weve had problems with animal control refusing to come out and help us when a big dog was harrassing our dog #and when they finally did show up after we begged them they were being assholes and acting like the stray was our pet we just wanted rid of #and this time they just dont show up at all #after calling us to tell us they were on their way. been hours now #i am so exhausted #and now i have to take a test for a class i really want to pass but i always do horrible on the tests. and i am just so so exhausted #feel awful right now. #aguuughghhh #delete later #.txt

[wizardlyghost]

just wanna fuckin. rip the roof off of my living room so i can get some fucking SUNLIGHT in here!

#i only get direct sunlight inside my house when it is dawn or dusk and i HATE IT #i don't have a back yard i need natural light!!!!!! #some dipshit in the 70s: what if we built a block of apartments with windows exclusively facing east and west #the residents won't at all feel like they're living in caves if they're at home in the daytime! #why would they get headaches from the difference in light inside vs outside the windows that's dumb #also let's put brown-patterned asbestos tiling in the kitchen and cover the rest of the floorboards with the MOST dust-collecting carpet #space age isn't it? #working indoors all day and having to choose between privacy and natural light between times is physically killing me

[whatimdoing-here]

Another bagel morning. These shapers from Amazon make all the difference because I am not good at that.

Also I made M lower calorie bagels or whatever in the very back... Just self rising flour and plain yogurt. They're honestly not bad with the everything bagel seasoning.l

#and the little little things are donuts from the store #also of course now that today will tip off in the 50s and its hella windy small fry has a soccer game #but at least everything is turning green #we were supposed to seed the yard or whatever but m wanted to call someone out about rhe sprinkler system first #but he hasnt so I'm about to do things my way and he'll have to deal 🤷‍♀️ #other people that need to be called: tree trimmer and contractor #but i don't call people so #i take care of the mental load in the house 90% of the time so that is on him #anyway happy sunday may it be chill for you all #alex does food

[lessthanimpressedlesbian]

It's times like these that I remember my mom also has chronic anxiety

#i dont know what set it off this time #but shes coming over to cut down some weeds on this property #shes worried about being cited even though the weeds havent been cut in over a year and we haven't been told anything #my wife says the people only cite if someone calls in a complaint or they see a bad yard while patrolling #i doubt they will cite us #but now i have to prepare things because we havent raked up the dog poop in a while and i just know shes gonna be on my ass about it #i just hate how she will decide randomly to show up and do maintenance on the yard #my wife and i have very little energy so we do whats needed to make things passable #and i guess thats not enough for her so she feels like she has to take care of it #i wish she could give me more than 2 hours notice #i wonder what exactly set off her anxiety this time #i hope she'll see that its really not that bad and will leave soon after #im particularly not excited because shes probably gonna drag my twin over too #and i dont want to deal with him at all #this week has been horrible #i hate it

[gradling]

Oops! Fell behind on grading again because my brain is mush from last week! Gonna try to get the grading down to 20 tonight before bed, then I’ll have to mix in grading with writing tomorrow.

#Some of my friends and I are going to rake leaves + clean gutters at another friends house tomorrow #bc she has to care for her elderly dad who now needs 24/7 care and lives 2+ hours from us #so she’s been suuuuuper stressed #and we just found out about all that #but we can at least help with yard work even if we can’t help with the actual care #so there’s that #I’ll count that as my ‘break’ time tomorrow #it’s a mental break anyway #jam posts

[imwritesometimes]

got a bad case of 'too much going on brain overloaded body shutting down completely' today ✌️🥴

#I'm just sitting here at 12:30 in the afternoon in my jimjams still like #what the fuck? #I'm immobilized by the sheer what the fuckitude my life has been the last 72 hours #I have to go buy frozen pizza later and bring it home and immediately cook it #and we have to eat it ALL cause there is no where to put left overs #and we have to figure out how to live like this for basically a whole week #idk if I'm gonna be able to make this stupid fuckin meeting I have Wednesday cause I'm just so like #fuckin drained mentally and idk if I'm gonna be better then cause we still won't have a fridge #asshole next door wants to know if we want to kick in $200 TODAY and get our trees trimmed by some service he has out today #and my brother was like bro just. no. not a good a time. leave. our fridge died. you need to LEAVE. #motherfucker like I care if my tree drops leaves into your yard this is nature go live in a bubble #have fun cutting all your own trees down tho! idiot. mine are staying. so much shade! and habitats for critters #I am mentally fried bro #erin explains it all

[bibiana112]

Come on let her like ants! She's sounds so happy it's great! When I was little (like 4-7 ish range) there were a couple bushes in the by my house and I liked to sit back there to play in the dirt and watch the ants crawl around. It was fun except for the one time I got a tick on my head that nobody noticed at first because my hair was hiding it... I don't play in the dirt anymore, but I would still happily watch ants crawl around

On your head??? I remember once finding one under the farm dog's fur and it being extremely concerning to everyone I can't imagine how worrisome it'd be if one latched onto a kid

#I never really had a yard on my house so I guess people kept a good eye on us at all times when we went to my grandparents farm #cause it was like full of things you need to be careful around especially with kids there #I remember my cousin stepping his whole foot into an ant pile by accident once lmao that must have been awful #but yeah Aiba's interest in bugs is so endearing she's always so happy talking about it I love her so much #cAIta psynching time

[ketchuppee]

During the 2008 recession, my aunt lost her job. Her, her partner, and my three cousins moved across the country to stay with us while they got back on their feet. My house turned from a family of four to a family of nine overnight, complete with three dogs and five cats between us.

It took a few years for them to get a place of their own, but after a few rentals and apartments, they now own a split level ranch in a town nearby. I’ve lost track of how many coworkers and friends have stayed with them when they were in a tight spot. A mother and son getting out of an abusive relationship, a divorcee trying to stay local for his kids while they work out a custody agreement, you name it. My aunt and uncle knew first hand what that kindness meant, and always find space for someone who needed it, the way my parents had for them.

That same aunt and uncle visited me in [redacted] city last year. They are prolific drinkers, so we spent most of the day bar hopping. As we wandered the city, any time we passed a homeless person, my uncle would pull out a fresh cigarette and ask them if they had a light. Regardless of if they had a lighter on hand or not, he offered them a few bucks in exchange, which he explained to me after was because he felt it would be easier for them to accept in exchange for a service, no matter how small.

I work for a company that produces a lot of fabric waste. Every few weeks, I bring two big black trash bags full of discarded material over to a woman who works down the hall. She distributes them to local churches, quilting clubs, and teachers who can use them for crafts. She’s currently in the process of working with our building to set up a recycling program for the smaller pieces of fabric that are harder to find use for.

One of my best friends gives monthly donations to four or five local organizations. She’s fortunate enough to have a tech job that gives her a good salary, and she knows that a recurring donation is more valuable to a non-profit because they can rely on that money month after month, and can plan ways to stretch that dollar for maximum impact. One of those organizations is a native plant trust, and once she’s out of her apartment complex and in a home with a yard, she has plans to convert it into a haven of local flora.

My partner works for a company that is working to help regulate crypto and hold the current bad actors in the space accountable for their actions. We unfortunately live in a time where technology develops far too fast for bureaucracy to keep up with, but just because people use a technology for ill gain doesn’t mean the technology itself is bad. The blockchain is something that she finds fascinating and powerful, and she is using her degree and her expertise to turn it into a tool for good.

I knew someone who always had a bag of treats in their purse, on the odd chance they came across a stray cat or dog, they had something to offer them.

I follow artists who post about every local election they know of, because they know their platform gives them more reach than the average person, and that they can leverage that platform to encourage people to vote in elections that get less attention, but in many ways have more impact on the direction our country is going to go.

All of this to say, there’s more than one way to do good in the world. Social media leads us to believe that the loudest, the most vocal, the most prolific poster is the most virtuous, but they are only a piece of the puzzle. (And if virtue for virtues sake is your end goal, you’ve already lost, but that’s a different post). Community is built of people leveraging their privileges to help those without them. We need people doing all of those things and more, because no individual can or should do all of it. You would be stretched too thin, your efforts valiant, but less effective in your ambition.

None of this is to encourage inaction. Identify your unique strengths, skills, and privileges, and put them to use. Determine what causes are important to you, and commit to doing what you can to help them. Collective action is how change is made, but don’t forget that we need diversity in actions taken.

#long post #some thoughts I’ve been having

[horrorsequel]

idiot. im always like "why do i get so many fucking occular migraines?" dude u have anisometropia, photophobia, and chronic dry eye. ur gonna have some issues.

#also always on those damn screens #its so depressing to know u need to fix ur life and know how to fix it and also be unable to accomplish it #llike i do just need to get out and spend more time outside and shit #but we dont even have a yard and my parents are so AUGH and its all augh and i cant get free

[the-gayest-tree-you-ever-did-see]

and what if i tell you the thirteen minute flight was by an estate company because she long sold that jet, i don't think y'all are here for reason. accept it taylor swift is the poster child for your hate

the thing is you people are so hateful towards her that you don't care about the actual issue but bringing her down.

awh, you know me so well............... im free tomorrow night if you are?

#taylor swift #look. im fine with discussing the nuance in these situations. i have consistently and you'd know that if you took a quick scroll #i like taylor swift as a person as a musician and as a businesswoman overall but lately it has not been minor issues #or things that can be swept away #the fact is that she holds an immense amount of power right now and she is squandering all the good she can do with it #i believe she should cut down her carbon emissions just as i believe anyone on that top 10 list should. #like where is steven spielberg even flying to that much??? there is absolutely no excuse. #and we can argue that it's for the tour but taylor swift was the biggest celebrity carbon emitter of 2022 -- theres a Yard article on it #i can share the link if you'd like but its a quick google search. she was not on tour during that time. #and i believe that she is just as awful for being a billionaire because there is no ethical way to hoard that much money as rihanna and #jay z and paul mccartney are #the reason i talk more about taylor swift is 1) i genuinely just know more about her and am a fan so i have a right to criticize #and 2) she arguably has more influence than all of those people combined right now. over wealth she has power and the public eye on her #does it suck? yeah. but clearly not enough because she's still doing what she does at the same level #i dont hate her. i just dont like her very much. at least not right now. #and this is JUST economic and environmental issues to say NOTHING about political and social issues. i dont need her to acknowledge #everything and anything. but maybe three headlines in the new york times. she can pick the timeline #i probably shouldve made this its own post but tbh. i dont care that much especially not if yall are reading it in bad faith #asks #the tree speaks #ily anon