#why did she unfollow me???

[locklylemybeloved]

someone pls tell me why im so like clumsy when it comes to tumblr. istg the amount of times ive just been trying to either block a spam bot and hit follow or send an ask to a mutual and hit unfollow is just too many times. and every time i realize immediately but it always gives me a heart attack i swear 💀

#like it happened just now #and im always terrified that my mutuals are gonna be like #why did she unfollow me??? #and im like oops idk what to do

[shikai-the-storyteller]

Tumblr is way chiller than Twitter for sure but sometimes I see a post and I'm like. Y'all DO remember this is a block game, right? You're not gonna get legitimately pissy and passive-aggressive over characters doing things in a block game, RIGHT???

#i talk #qsmp talk #Chatter: Jaiden don't do this— twitter will cancel you! #The rest of us in chat: Why should she care about anything Twitter says #People on frickin twitter AND tumblr: *whining about Jaiden* #LIKE BRO YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS LMFAOOOOOO #fandom wank #I'm gonna start unfollowing people #not even just for bad opinions I'm just tired of seeing people being mean and bitter #I'm just here to have fun I don't want to constantly see whining #Critique characters and stuff all you want that's part of the fandom experience but some of y'all are so damn mean for no reason lmao #Touch grass and seek therapy #I know me posting this is part of the ''too many people complaining'' problem but Jaiden's my gal I am a little bit annoyed by that #Again: character critique is fine #but sometimes it's just so passive-aggressive and like. written like the character did a personal attack on YOU #<- the last tag is the most important point here I think

[09lover]

my reaction after ()’s attempt to gaslight me for the uncountable time into trying to repair this broken relationship that they ruined

#es talks #no because why………… #you ended it i didnt do… anything…. (head in hands in disappointment) #story time here.. click for more if u wanna read..? #ill call them (). one day they texted me about our friend who ill call koru who unfollowed(?) them on twt because they kept #commenting (more of in a critical way..) about how their art was missing fingers despite it being drawn correctly. so they tried to somewhat #force me to stop talking to koru and shit talks about them to me…. which i still remained in contact with koru and told them everything #so we stayed as besties and eventually () came by to visit me and eventually found out i was still friends with koru then decided to throw a #temper tantrum and ignore me to the point their mother had to get involved… which still didnt work out after their mother helping us 3 times #then our … like 4 years or longer relationship just went down the drain… all because of that. #unfriended me and also started shit talking me to their friends then just yesterday which i found out today #<- discord btw -> she then sent me multiple messages in some gcs we were in… calling me disgusting & said i shouldnt ignore wtf i did in #an attempt to gaslight me thinking what i did was gen wrong and also guilt tripping me to crawl back to her to beg and apologize as i always #do… but i just had enough ehfjejdje #well ill most likely delete this later just needed to get this out of my system!

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

I made a post about my anniversary on Facebook.

It was really nothing special or particularly detailed. Literally just a picture from our wedding and a 2-sentence caption saying how great my husband is in very general and pretty cliche terms (great husband, father, and human being, I’m so lucky).

A woman I never knew very well, who I have not seen in 5.5 years or spoken to in as long, and who has literally never reached out to me just to talk or anything, took the time to send me a MULTI-PARAGRAPH MESSAGE about how I should be more thoughtful towards other people and only tell my husband how great he is privately to his face. Why? Because she has had ups and downs in her own 5-year 4-child marriage, and this morning she had a fight with her husband, so when she saw my status it was extremely hurtful and she can’t stop sobbing and can’t focus or go about her day. She suggested I should only use Facebook for “kiruv and Torah” from now on.

Woman that is. That is so clearly a YOU problem I can’t even. If you can’t comprehend that a cheery post on one’s anniversary does not mean the person has never had a disagreement with their spouse, if you think no one is ever allowed to mark a special occasion where other people can see it because maybe you and your spouse argued today, that is a YOU problem and you should probably get off social media for your own health. It’s not like I’m constantly posting every single time my husband does something nice for me about the specific thing he did and reminding the Internet every other day about how awesome he is. I literally post about him like ONCE A YEAR. This year I’m gonna get really wild and make it twice to congratulate him on his white coat ceremony. If “I’ve been married X years and I like my husband” in public once a year is enough to send you into a day-long spiral, you should absolutely address that, but from YOUR side, not the person who you can just unfollow or even block on social media if their infrequent content is that triggering for you (especially considering you’ve never bothered to keep in touch otherwise, it’s not like you’d be missing anything!). Don’t blame me for your inability to understand that social media is just part of the picture of someone’s life or for your shalom bayis problems.

Why the f am I dealing with this at 4am (cuz I’m up nursing and when this girl messaged me for the first time in 5.5 years I was expecting something actually nice and not an essay on how I ruined her day by making a generic happy post, so I opened it)

#and yes she did for some reason feel the need to specify how many kids she has #which is SO ironic in context #like what if I wished I had more than 2 kids by now did you consider that #I don’t but it’s besides the point #you can’t be upset at someone for sharing good things about their life #and then share totally superfluous good things about your own #I could ALMOST see this if I wrote something like #‘he buys me flowers every single day and we have never had a fight ever and he makes 10 billion dollars and also does all the housework’ #but even then just unfollow holy crap! #also my Facebook has never been for just ‘kiruv and Torah’ so idk why it took her this long to get upset about it #oh right because this isn’t actually about me it’s about her #also also do you really think the things I’d tell my husband about our relationship are that generic! #obviously we also had a personal conversation about our anniversary and it was a lot more detailed #I did not tell the world what was meant for his ears

[zackmartin]

okay so apparently tumblr's just unfollowing ppl for me

#i know i did not unfollow heather #that would explain why the post she rb'ed from me didn't show up on my dash 🙄 #truly hate this webbed site!

[hanmegumi]

i love gilmore girls but i kinda hate gilmore girls also as well

#rory why are you cheating 👹 #things are. not okay :// #misc.txt #if anyone's watching/has watched and feels strongly about the show i guess they will unfollow me if i say probably that i don't love jess? #i. can't stand the guy </3 #i think rory should just not date if she's not gonna be with dean #like you did not make me watch hours of dean and rory getting together and liking each other just so this guy could get in the way honestly #he's annoying 🙏 more than a little annoying

[disownedbytiime]

The worst take I’ve seen about tumblr ‘rules’ for refugees is “if you only like stuff, people will think you are rude”

Like ??? Who tf would think it’s rude to like posts? Are you dumb? Sure, reblogs are nice and depending on the posts it helps them more, but who in their sane mind will think it’s rude to like posts. Who? Like ffs don’t tell people how to use their blog

I’d prefer someone who only likes my posts than someone who reblogs 1000x posts a minute and only because they feel obliged to do so. Like let people use their brains and decide what they want on their blogs, don’t make them feel guilty for fucking liking a post.

#in my past blog I had a follower that whenever I revlogged an anime post - she’d only like them #she’d reblog regular posts but if they were anime she’d only like #and then one day she reblogged one (an ohshc) and commented something like: #oh I think I watched this show years ago. don’t remember but I think it was good. it’s been so long since I watched anime #and like. it made little sense since she really liked every anime post. she’d liked so many ohshc posts #so it made me think she was hiding the fact she liked anime even though it seemed clear she liked it. and imo that’s a bit sad #but honestly it’s not my business. she had her reasons for doing that and I wasn’t gonna judge her #and I definitely wouldn’t go to her and tell her: hey reblog all the posts instead of liking them you rude fake person #it also made me remember this other girl I used to follow who drew Pokémon gijinkas who would make public posts against people who #only liked and didn’t reblot her art. I mean. yeah it would be ideal to reblog but why are you making such a big deal. #like once she did tag the people who only liked and was like: what does that do? reblog or don’t like! #that made me unfollow/block her. how are you like this? touch grass people #aidé.txt

[iwait4youalexg]

Idk. On the one hand I want to be the bigger person and leave things on the very nice and polite message I sent her but on the other hand I am NOT the bigger person I am MINISCULE and I want to be like heyyy sorry but what did I do wrong like what did I do to deserve this haha? No need to respond but I will kill myself if you do not give me answers in the next 5 minutes

#I couldn’t have done anything terrible bevause she still follows me on insta and stuff and watches my stories #like if I did something bad she would unfollow me right? but then why ignore me

[maddy-ferguson]

i can't watch people be fans of random people on tumblr who don't even follow them back i know i used to do the same thing when i was 12 on twitter but it's too embarrassing i don't like seeing young people repeat my mistakes

#it's not that deep it's not a Mistake it's just yk embarrassing #the way the tweets are still up #i remember there was this one girl whose username was perrie something (from little mix) and i wrote in my notebook or whatever #'if *username* ever deactivates i will DIE' (not word for word this is from 9 years ago) and then i took a picture of it tweeted it and #mentioned her like why would a normal person do that. she ended up deactivating or i ended up unfollowing her because my last #memories of her are from 2014. so from when i was 12 or 13 #yes this is about byler celebrities #i've said this before without the anecdote #so i actually haven't said this. i just said that i did the same thing when i was younger #you guys are allowed to be in love with me though i love my fans #and like i say: brf slt

[hazardsoflove]

st needs to stop trying to make me feel sorry for b*lly it’s literally never gonna happen. give it up

#like yeah it sucks that his dad was abusive and i wouldnt wish that on anyone #but dude oh my god that still does not make me feel sorry for him or make any of the shit he did okay #and he was racist?????? like he tried to kill lucas and also threatened to run down the kids ep1 and prob wouldve if max didnt stop him #add that to all the other violently abusive shit he did and how he treated max #and i get max and i get her grief and why shes upset and i think shes valid for that but that doesnt mean im ever gonna feel sorry for him #i hate him and nothing they do will ever ever make me like him or feel sorry for him #also steve hates his guts too so if u ship h*rringrove kindly die and unfollow me #robin liveblogs: stranger things #r.txt

[milfsco]

nooooooo today has been so wild i need to go put myself to sleep before it gets worse lmfao

#the chief of staff for my company likes to send out pizzas to every location once in a while and she was gonna send one to me tomorrow right #so she placed the order on door dash for it to be delivered tomorrow around 1 #and like 10 mins ago i get a call from an unknown number while i’m BUSY d*cking mySELF d*wn like a WH*RE #SO NATURALLY i silence the call but then i started getting texts #about a delivery in the lobby #so i had to STOP . my god this is embarrassing smfwhy am i speaking #it’s so funny oh my god. anyway yeah. texts about delivery in the lobby so i trxted my gf #and she’s not expecting anything and neither am i so i was like???? u got the wrong number boo #and they call me again so i answer and the person is asking me if i want the delivery sent up to MC which is code for the floor i work on.. #and i was like TF WHAT delivery and he said PIZZA and i was like nooooooo that was meant for tomorrow i’m not THERE #he goes you’re not up there????? and i said i’m at home????????? it’s way after hours??????????? #so he was like do u want me to send it back or what. and i told him to keep it and share w the boys #and i’m over here half n*ked LAUGHING my ass off at how stupid this all is #and i had to message the woman that ordered it and b like Uh it was just delivered 🥺bls send another . #bc i was soooo excited for it i’ve been craving pizza all weeeeek #and she orders from a GOOD place like it’s not ur regular nyc slice it’s goooooood #anyway. all of this and ig i don’t get to *** *** #can’t wait for my gf to read this in the airport and roll her eyes at meeeee bc i literally. did not even wait for her to be out of the city #okay good bye i hate this i hate m%self goodnight i need to go #also helo this is why my blog is e*ght**n + pls unfollow if u are not that. i’m sorry

[iintervallum]

I hate the dismisal of online lgbt spaces as not as important as in real life or what goes on within the spaces as not that bad, because for me at least, I don't have anyone I know in my area that I can talk to about being lgbt, and I'm relatively scared of selectiviely outing myself to find more people, because i really wouldnt want it to get back to my parents somehow.

My point is, online spaces are very important as a point of connection for the many of us that have no one irl, and I hate how any serious method of discussion gets turned into discourse. like people saying there is a severe amount of lesbophobia, biophobia, transmisogyny and racism in the community are not picking fights. we're trying to make this space better because for some of us its all we have! so please, do better.

#aster.txt #kind of a vent more than anything because its frustrating and i'm getting both nostalgia for the past and derision for it #there were two people i did know in my HS that are lgbt but they both moved to canada for uni #one of them is a total sweetheart and I miss talking to her so much #like they were such a wonderful person to complain about our schools stupid rules #and how shitty gender roles are and how conservative indian parents suck #and last i saw shes transfem since they made a secret priv account with she/they pronouns and them wearing a dress as the first post #i hope she found people that they could connect to where ever she is now #the other is not so positive a story lol #she is the main reason why my self esteem issues went from not that good to very bad #like her mind games and the fact that she called me clingy as an attempt to get another friend to stop being around them was shitty #i isolated myself from other people for a long time becasue i thought i would just ruin things if i got too close and showed my personality #despite her doing that i didnt actually hate her until i found out what she did to a friend of mine #my friend was having family issues because her father had tyroid cancer and her “friends” including that person forced her to tell them #and that person had the gall to say that what she was going through wasn't that bad and she should stop making stuff about herself #after they forced her to open up #god i hated high school uni isnt any better but i'm glad its not high school #so many petty people because we're all teenagers going through our own shit and we're still figuring things out #i'm half thinking of just unfollowing a lot of them on instagram becasue they sucked but no i wont do that..yet

[sanguinolencyandscriptitations]

That feeling when you realise that it's you putting all of the work in, so you stop reaching out and initiating conversations with them, half hoping for them to invest in the relationship. But instead, they cut you off when the texts stop coming, proving that they were just enjoying the attention you lavished upon them and that they never cared about you back

#when someone hasn't started a conversation with you once and you step back to see if they ever will #and instead of putting in effort to maintain the friendship they just leave because you're of no use to them anymore #this is fine 🥲 #friendship #ex friends #old friends new strangers #why are relationships so difficult #txt post #txt #mine.txt #mine #i haven't seen my oldest friend in two years #i messaged him to see if he wanted to hang out over a year ago. he said he'd get back to me about when he was free #he never did #and i haven't heard from him since #two years ago he simply forgot about my birthday but last year he was celebrating someone else's #it's a pretty unusual birthday I've never met someone with the same birthday as me #@ the girl i was in love with and checked in on every single week who never asked me how I was #she didn't once message me first and when i stopped making her feel like the centre of the universe she unfollowed me on everything

[omanu]

THERE IS A LIMIT FOR TAGS NOW???? FUCK YOU

#hello its me againee #so im here to cry about how lonely i am. im literally gonna cry #right off the bat i just wanna say that i AM different #dont care what it is. i just am #so. i dont go through what people usually go through. #everybody says: eventually you will get there eventually you will find yourself with what you want #first of all: no i wont #second of all: im lonely #i am not scared of people i can speak w people im not that shy around people or even strangers #not anymore #but what i do know is that people dont wanna know me. and i dont wanna know people that much either but #i know i need to #but i do not interest a lot of people #not even online #where its easier #like #i was trying to find people to follow on twt followed a girl that looked nice #a few hours later she made me unfollow her page by softblocking me like #she didn't even want me around vkskfk it's her right of course but i am just wondering what it was lmfao #what did i do why not me? its not that deep but #ive been feeling pretty lonely so this has definitely ticked something in me #i tried following an old mutual but they havent followed back yet and i dont think they will #at least theyre not softblocking me #what i wanna say about this is that is funny that i cant find anyone to be my friend even online fjdjjdfj #on twt... we like the same stuff but im nobodys friend over there #or here but that's beside the point #no one likes what i say #and i have this old mutual who made a new fan acc and they already have like over 250 mutuals and already have groupchats w them #which i havent been added to any btw #and i just keep wondering how.

[daincrediblegg]

no you know what I'm going to scream about the stuff I talked about in the tags of this post publicly

I'm tired of the well-meaning "don't feel bad if your work only gets 20 notes your genius is what counts and do it for you!" bullshit. I've had a good handful of friends who have straight up DEACTIVATED in recent months because their work was not getting reblogged AT ALL. No, it wasn't from lack of not being well-liked, no it wasn't from lack of trying to make sure it was getting out there to the people they knew would engage with it. It was because no matter how much they were praised privately for their work, when push came to shove, absolutely NOBODY reblogged it and gave it the audience that it was due, and I'm tired of people shoving the "unsung genius" narrative as an excuse for it. Nothing excuses that. And the boop event really proved that.

because I know given the opportunity, indiscriminately pressing a button (sometimes 10 thousand times, as I did) is not beyond this website's capability. y'all loved doing that. and look at what it wrought. nothing but love and affection and happiness. just from a couple of quick clicks of a little paw button. sure. nobody knew who you booped but the other person (which is how likes used to work on this website, btw). there was an element of anonymity to it. but that is kind of the core of this website that no other social media platform still has: the ability to be anonymous. and hyper-curating a blog on here like you might on twitter or instagram to project an image is simply not viable. and hey. you wanna know a secret: literally nobody cares what you post or whether it goes with the "theme" of your blog or not. yeah. I know. CRAZY concept in this day and age. but literally. I myself have reblogged things that have had nothing to do with whatever I am currently fixated by and you know what happened to my follower count? not a damn thing. in fact, I actively try to reblog things specifically BECAUSE it's my friends who made them (even though I'm not always good at KEEPING UP WITH HOW MUCH THEY POST @prismatica-the-strange will NEVER GO UNRECOGNIZED by me).

And you know what fucking sucks? I have to deal with this too. surprise right? you ever wonder why I reblog fics or art I post like 20 times the day that I post them? do you ever wonder why I ask about tag lists and beg for asks all the time? IT'S BECAUSE EVEN I GET LIKE. 5 LIKES ON THE THINGS I POST. AND THE REST OF THE REBLOGS ARE MINE SO I CAN MAKE SURE THAT PEOPLE WHO WANT TO SEE WHAT I MAKE GET TO SEE IT. and I say that knowing that I'm certainly not an unpopular blog, or an unpopular writer. I know that people love the stories that I create. Hell, half of the people that I've talked to about lady terror have told me that they consider her to be canon (AND EVEN SOME!! THOUGHT SHE WAS!!! WITHOUT EVEN HAVING WATCHED THE SHOW! WHICH IS STILL SO SO WILD TO ME!!!) But especially in the last 4 years (which really dates this phenomenon), my posts, no matter how well received they've been amongst people I've talked to about them directly, I still go into the notes and at least half (often more than half) are MY reblogs to make sure people saw what I posted. and it happens every single time, and I can't tell you how much it crushes me considering that it used to be that I would be able to post it only once, and people would reblog it sometimes even HUNDREDS of times.

It's not about popularity. it never has been. it's not about anxiety. or shifting website cultures. even if you lurk, the simple fact is, that if you want people to keep making what you love. you have to reblog. your theme won't suffer because you reblogged a fanfiction that you really admire. your posting won't be ruined because you reblogged some fanart from someone in a different fandom. really. I promise. and if people do unfollow you for that? who needs em. followers come and go but you should NEVER have to cater to them. on this website it has ALWAYS been the other way around. lean into it. make it yours. put stuff you ACTUALLY WANT to be seen and that you love and appreciate on your blog. no matter how old it is, how new it is, no matter how niche or off-theme it is.

so please. if you really want to show your appreciation for someone's work? you reblog. it's really as easy as that. check the tags. add some when you reblog if you like. but please for the love of god reblog. it's as easy as booping and even more rewarding for the people who you reblog from. if you want to let someone know that their work is genius and appreciate it? show it. reblog. then DM them if you're too nervous to say what you want to say but not in a public forum. but for christ's sake. REBLOG.

#fanfiction #fanart #reblogging #boop

[puppyvenom]

funny how quickly people will go from “gendered clothes aren’t real! wear what you want” to “not like that!!!!” when ur trans like ….

it’s all “dress how you want, gender roles are stupid” until i, a trans man, dresses feminine it very quickly becomes “well u can’t actually be a man if u enjoy dressing feminine n wearing skirts n makeup >:((( u aren’t a real trans man” gender roles are stupid until a trans person breaks them, then it invalidates their identity

then you get “you don’t have to change your gender to dress masculine” ….well u don’t have to say any more to get me to stop talking to u!! bye :o)

#8 years of friendship down the drain innit #for someone so ‘liberal’ ur like a step away from being a terf #‘i’m always so honest’ then why did you not tell me how you felt tO MY FACE #why did u tell ur bf? why not come to me #sorry im venting #she’s unfollowed me on everything anyway #transphobia #trans man #transgender #sludge speaks