#young single adult

[doctortoothless]

If your birth year ends in an 8, all your coming of age milestones are in the same decade.

Puberty

Driving

Dating

Voting

Graduating school

Drinking

Becoming old enough to drink

I'm sure there's more.

#90's teen #first love #first kiss #first date #first school dance #first break-up #old enough to drink #old enough to gamble #old enough to vote #high school graduation #going to college #going to uni #learning about yourself and your likes/dislikes in many areas of life #coming of age #milestones #young single adult

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

*tries to organize my thoughts*

*remembers i'm not in school and therefore beholden to neither heaven nor hell nor any man's grading system*

*joyously shredding & tossing all my carefully arranged 3x5 mental notecards into the air like so much beige confetti. raising my arms in victory, cheering raucously until i accidentally inhale bits of homemade confetti*

(*coughing up itty bits of paper like a cat evicting a hairball with a firm understanding of tenants' rights*) wait wat happens next

#i marie kondoed my thoughts and *i* feel great. but now my stream-of-consciousness has escaped containment #so many innocent bystanders at stake #every time i try to organize my thoughts i run out of plastic bins and have to make a trip to the container store where i get even more dis #racted so. you can't just hand me THIS brain and NO catalogue OR library classification system #and expect me to single-handedly sort through all this nonsense? bad form but fucking form not in my job description #aNYways. formal education sure did a FUCKING NUMBER on us huh #(a number i measure not in gpa or dollars of student debt. #but in the number of therapy sessions & medical debt it will take to recover.) #seriously folks. our education systems are...innately traumatizing for a huge number of students. and we NEED to address this. #the fact that it is culturally common for adults to have anxiety nightmares about school/exams...even decades later? #that is not cute. it is Alarming. #no one--much less entire generations--should be spending their developmental years in an environment of chronic stress & pressure & strain #and yet that is the reality for millions and millions of pre-teen and teenage and young adult students #this isn't healthy and it serves and empowers NO ONE #...except of course the many exploitative educational & financial & debt-collecting institutions thriving from the current balance of power #and of course it's a nefarious and powerful way to sabotage/erase the middle class #which billionaires and the wealth-inequality creators they finance couldn't possibly have any noteworthy interest in whatsoever #it's not like there's an elite group of people with huge financial incentives to drain/steal resources from the masses... #anyways sorry for going all Conspiracy Theory on you. #obviously the billionaires who control the vast majority of our resources and news and political campaign funding #are not tied to every single itty bitty social issue and i'm a silly billy to imply it #please tell elon musk to ignore this tweet i am so subservient and acquiescent #mr musky u r so good at inheriting slavery-built mining fortunes & buying other people's companies #& building rocket ships & fancy cars that do NOT explode/catch fire & also NOT running billion dollar companies into the ground #mr musky u r so talented genius billionaire playboy with 10 kids and ex-wives who find you creepy af babe u r basically iron man

[wiitzend]

at the end of the fourth episode on quiet on set, it releases a statement by dan schneider who said, "everything that happened on the shows i ran was carefully scrutinized by dozens of involved adults. all stories, dialogue, costumes and makeup were fully approved by network executives on two coasts, etc, etc." i guess he put that statement out to try and spin this narrative so that it doesn't sound so absolutely horrific, but all it does is highlight the fact that damn near every single adult knew. they knew and did nothing. dan was able to take advantage of these defenseless children and allow other predators to prey on them and not a single adult raised hell about it. he was able to do this for years, completely unscathed, and nickelodeon offered him a huge amount of money in order to drop him from the network. the sadness and rage i feel CANNOT be put into words.

#maybe this sounds a little dramatic but i genuinely don't care. not to trauma dump BUT #i had to live in a home in which children were beaten senselessly nearly every single day for years. even when i was in high school #i was too young to do anything. i was terrified every day and all the adults in my life just sat back and let it happen #so watching things like this just makes me so mad #quiet on set

[smute]

honestly the problem with booktok (and bookstagram) is not YA lit. it's not about people enjoying books that some might consider "low-brow" or whatever.

imo booktok is the culmination of several problems:

firstly, there's the homogeneity of algorithmic recommendations and the enormous influence those recommendations have on the publishing market. booktok recs tend to be of a very similar style and subject matter. they're easily digestible, easily bingeable titles that arent overly complex. booktok favors stories written by white women, often featuring characters with traumatic backstories and focusing on themes like overcoming adversity and the pursuit of romantic love. they are also usually very anglo-/americentric. none of this is necessarily bad, and none of it is by design, but it's not a coincidence either. it's the result of the constraints of short-form content on the one hand, and on the other, of an algorithm that amplifies, in broad strokes, the preferences of the core demographic of any given group of users.

secondly, it's about the commodification, not of reading, but of being Someone Who Reads Books (TM), which i think is just a particularly obvious symptom of online peer pressure and social-media-driven self-presentation. booktok doesn't encourage you to read, for example, sally rooney. it encourages the cultivation of one's own identity as someone who reads sally rooney. the problem here is not that sally rooney is a shit writer whose work has nothing of note to say. quite the opposite. sally rooney's work is relevant and interesting. in fact, it's being studied by scholars, and even if it wasn't, people can and should be allowed to enjoy some light reading, and yes, even Problematic (TM) fictional characters.

the real problem is the fact that the very nature of how booktok works actively discourages the critical discussion of the stories that it circulates. the problem is not millions of teenagers reading colleen hoover's slop (i love me some slop) – it's millions of teenagers encouraging each other to read and internalize – UNCRITICALLY – hoover's particularly romanticized depiction of abuse. tiktok's algorithm does not foster diversity of opinion. it doesn't foster diversity PERIOD. it doesn't foster slow, in-depth discussion. its only function is *make line go up* – line go up = clicks, views, engagement, money.

due to tiktok's popularity, booktok also has an enormous influence on marketing-related and (apparently, to some extent) editorial decision-making in the publishing industry. this is not just the fault of booktok, goodreads is part of the same problem. i mean, booktok has managed to turn colleen hoover's 'it ends with us' into a bestseller FIVE YEARS after it was originally published. it has also led to publishers dropping authors or DELAYING THE RELEASE of new titles after booktokers flooded the goodreads pages of unpublished books with one star reviews.

as i said, the underlying issue here is not unique to booktok. it's the same homogenization that plagues the movie industry, the tv industry, streaming services, etc. the publishing industry is just particularly vulnerable to such manipulations of public opinion. in the end, tiktok is not a social media app. it's an entertainment app and its content is focused on brevity. the biggest booktokers aren't simply avid readers. they don't post actual reviews of books they enjoyed. they're influencers who receive boxes of books from publishing houses to show off in haul videos like "have you guys heard of squarespace?" and that's it. the level of engagement with the texts themselves is like reading a blurb on the dustjacket, and unfortunately that is reflected in the selection of titles that become popular. if it can't be sold to you in 3 sentences, the algorithm will bury it.

#and that dear children is why we hate booktok #and before you respond: THINK! #is it TRUE? is it HELPFUL? is it INSPIRING? is it HELPFUL? is it KIND? #<- that spells thihk but you know what i mean lmfkxkdkg #again: NOT about young adult fiction #im a staunch defender of the YA genre #a lot of hate towards YA books is just thinly veiled misogyny #this is not about that #this is about tiktok in particular and how it encourages superficial engagement with simple stories #how it *prohibits* deeper engagement with more complex texts #and about the chokehold it has on the book industry #& #oh also #booktok single-handedly destroyed z-lib

[eerna]

good night to everybody but especially the couple who sat next to me during tonight's showing of Spiderverse, where the guy spent the latter half of the movie trying to initiate a makeout session while the girl kept ignoring his advances due to being preoccupied by the spectacular celebration of animation and art happening in front of her eyes

#he started trying during that plot twist chase scene and i was like ''dude now??? really???'' and then he didn't stop #he was so obvious during that one emotional parental moment even my brother noticed and was like ''wtf is he doing NOW'' #eernatalk #special mention to the way the entire room went quiet at that ending. it was shock. it was silence. #and then. an explosion of ''WHAT''s and ''HEY????''s and ''AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA''s #i was at the last showing bc that's the only english dub one and there wasn't a single kid it was just a bunch of young adults #excellent experience fr

[nateconnolly]

The gods are not aware of us. That’s what I like most about Aristotle’s cosmology. The gods are perfect, and therefore they only think about perfect things (themselves). We are imperfect, therefore we are not worth thinking about. They don’t know that they caused us. 

You’re probably more familiar with the Olympians—figures like Zeus, Athena, and Poseidon, the sort of Greek gods that appear in Percy Jackson or Disney’s Hercules. Those gods are deeply invested in human affairs. Homer portrays the gods sponsoring armies, and making alliances with humans. Aeschylus has Athena begin democracy. They have children with us, they accept offerings from us, they even lash out at us in judgment. But Ancient Greece was a huge civilization that lasted an incredibly long time. Sometimes they disagreed with each other.

For Aristotle, praying to the gods can’t ensure a good harvest or military success. It can’t even get their attention. We are able to relate to the gods, but it is a completely one-sided relationship. If your motivation for practicing religion is purely transactional, then there is no reason to care about these solipsistic prime movers. But for Aristotle, the gods can help us achieve virtue. 

We can imitate them. We will never win their favor, we will never have their love, but we can follow their example. Although we will never be perfect, we can observe perfection and try to learn from it. We can be a little better than we are today. Perhaps that is enough. 

#Im NOT saying this is better than religions with a personal or devotional or transactional god #but it’s a fascinating position #if your religion is important to you then one way to nurture your religiosity #is to compare and contrast with the alternative religions and spirituality #so if you have a devotional religious practice #then this is good to know about #this is NOT a knock on Percy Jackson #shoutout to rick riordan fr #gotta be one of my favorite young adult authors #I’m just saying he didn’t have time to cover every single theological position ever held by an Ancient Greek #nate's writing #philosophy #greek philosophy #classical theism #god #aristotle #original post

[nerdygaymormon]

What are some strategies you'd suggest for someone who wants to remain active and engage with the church but isn't in the best ward?

I'm in a YSA college ward right now, and the last month of church lessons have been aggressively heteronormative and focusing in on needing marriage, dating, and sealings as an integral part of being a good member/getting into heaven. My bishop is even consistently asking about who I'm dating and pressing me to get my endowment. Someone in the ward even said that the 'think celestial' talk convinced them to start dating even though they didn't really want to because they needed to be sealed to get into heaven

I feel like I'm invisible and unwanted because I don't want to get married and couldn't get sealed to my anyways partner under the current rules. I want to continue engaging with church and finding ways to learn and feel the spirit, but at the moment I feel like I'm being aggressively pushed away.

There's a lot I like about Young Single Adult (YSA) wards--they give young adults many opportunities to serve, they generally are more open about queer topics & people, they often have a lot of social events which helps build community and belonging.

My experience with YSA wards is there's also a LOT of pressure to date & marry (male+female marriage only), and if someone isn't feeling like this is the time for them to get married then they're going to feel dissonance.

People can feel like it's not the right time for them to think of getting married for a variety of reasons. Maybe they're planning to serve a mission, maybe they're 19 and are working towards becoming independent and feeling like an adult, maybe they're focused on their education or their career, maybe they're queer and not ready to deal with the church issues that come with dating.

The YSA ward doesn't need to preach marriage in order for people to get married. Simply having a large number of single people and providing opportunities for them to socialize will naturally lead to many of them pairing off.

I've yet to hear of a YSA ward where there wasn't a lot of talk about future spouses & future families, temple marriages, lectures about dating instead of hanging out, engagements are announced at the pulpit, and messages on becoming the kind of person that we want to marry. It would be nice if church could be about coming closer to Christ and not about a push to get married. Officially YSA wards are for helping younger people come closer to Christ, but since people who get married have to leave the ward, that seems to underline that this is the main purpose of YSA wards.

As requested, here's a few strategies:

You are in charge of your own social and spiritual experiences and growth. You can be responsible for talking to others and getting to know them instead of waiting for them to come chat with you. You can be upfront that you're not currently looking to get married but do want meaningful friendships. If the bishop is saying he thinks you should do the endowment ceremony at the temple, tell him when you're ready to pursue that opportunity you'll let him know.

Use church as an opportunity to lift others. One thing that always strikes me when I read about Jesus' interactions with the marginalized (women, foreigners, the ill & mentally challenged, people without official power in the church or without much social standing) is their interactions with Him uplifted them. Help others feel good about themselves when they're with you. Bolster their confidence. Show interest in the things they're interested in. Point out the good in others.

Take opportunities to turn lessons about dating into seeking Christ by answering questions and making comments in a way that changes the focus. You could share that your own answers to prayers indicate this isn't the time for you to be seeking a companion but instead to grow your spirituality and discipleship and understanding.

Be your own person. Be willing to say things that others might not. For example, if someone is temporarily home from a mission, you could say if they want to go back then that's great, but they don't have to go back out to the mission field if they don't want to, that Jesus loves them either way.

Best of luck to you

#tumblrstake #young single adult wards

[dangans-ur-ronpas]

i think i might actually start mauling people. i think i should be allowed to hunt toshiro haters for sport.

#dungeon meshi #the fact that this is written in that goddamn eggman piss copypasta also adds. an interesting layer. to this post #need to put toshiro on a shelf above all these dunmeshi fans bc clearly they can't handle it #'bitch made weaboo shit' about a japanese man is. a telling choice. #this is not even the entire post there's at least three paragraphs of this nonsense #and it's all written in this excessively aggressive internetspeak type lingo #every single toshiro hater that likes the attached post owes me 300 dollars effective immediately #going to stop going through the dungeon meshi tag i think. going to let my following list vet the tag for me #this post reeks of like. someone who has never tried to interact with east asian culture outside of anime and other pop media #anyways. im going to go buy soju and calm down. i am an adult with responsibilities and a 9 to 5. the world has every kind of person #going to give them the benefit of the doubt and say they're a very young person enjoying fandom. ok. hope they learn. bc im not teaching #(checks bio) oh they're an adult. hm.

[punkrogue]

one of my fave things about the xmen is like half of them are super geniuses or experts in some field and half of those people don't even have high school diplomas. none of these people are accredited but half of them can build a fusion reactor as a fun weekend project

#train.txt #the young adult mutants who're still at the mansion fascinate me like what's the college plan for these guys #is it just walking to another wing of the school or? #rogue has never had a formal education in her LIFE she doesn't even have an ssn but she could probably build a better plane than boeing #i don't think magneto has a single degree either bc well Ya Know but he can build the wildest shit imaginable #the o5 are the only people in the mansion for like a SHOCKING amount of time who have a hs diploma lol #if there's a college/uni attached to the institute what are the possible majors? i wanna know glob's degree track.

[fizzytoo]

i said this in the tags of a different post but i kinda wanna get some input 🫂

how do we feel about bringing in a surprise baby to plc gen 4? doesn’t necessarily have to be karlee’s or amaya’s baby, could be a friend’s baby. but i’m kinda interested in like a raising a child w friends/ “it takes a village” scenario.

#*fizzyspeaks #i don’t think it would be something i’d do right now but i think i want to do it while they’re still young adults #i’m even preferring it to be a friend’s baby. a young single parent situation in need of support #this gen has no specific requirements in postcard legacy bc horse ranch didn’t exist when it was written up. and i think this could be fun #to navigate #also if it will be a friends baby it will probably be one of the sims’s that was submitted to me. so if you’re okay w your sims suddenly #having a baby ! let me know

[aphrogeneias]

i recently saw a mom talking about how, when you see a small child playing with a baby doll, the way they interact with that doll says a lot about the way they've been parented, and that her daughter was acting in a way with her dolls when she was little that made her want to change the way she was raising her kid because she saw herself through the eyes of her daughter and didn't like what she saw

and that's been a lot on my mind lately, because even though i'm not a parent, and i don't intend to be one, sometimes the way i talk to or act around small kids is very indicative of the way i was raised. a little impatient, a little aloof, detatched, very hands off approach, and that's something i actively try to police and change because i'm not a parent but i am a teacher, and my students, the little ones, deserve better than that

but i did deserve better than that too, you know? so i think i do this for little me as well

#saying all this because my mom just sent me a rude voice message to say that i didn't do something the way she expected #and she always talked to me like that lmao #like if i don't like it now as an adult you can imagine how i felt as a kid #and idk like she didn't know better she was doing her best as a young single mother but #you know? #yeah anyway #luiza.txt

[cowardstiel]

the other week a woman in my class said that gay marriage was legalised fifteen or sixteen years ago in australia. it was actually legalised in december 2017. less than six years ago. people forget just how recent this change is and just how significant it is.

#and not just straight people #ive seen a lot of younger lgbt people not grasp the gravity of this #i know this happens with every new generation + isn’t dissimilar to women’s rights activism #we don’t realise how much previous generations have had to fight for what we have now #but fuck if it isn’t frustrating sometimes to see teenagers and young adults taking it for granted #i guess i’m glad they can ??? but idk it’s like. weren’t you there??? how sheltered were you? to not see what was happening around you? #to not live every single day thankful for what we have #it’s just. i’m only 23 and it feels like just yesterday i was watching the tv for the plebiscite result #and crying and crying watching magda szubanski #and we only won by 61% #like FUCK #sorry im just so #a lot of internet kids do not realise how precarious gay rights are and how recent this change is and how people all over the world are #suffering still #anywayyyyy #my post

[cyanide-rifle]

#im too young to stress about love but also my head is screaming #YOU'LL DIE ALONE #adults keep asking me when im gonna marry and have kids #im 22 leave me be i know in ur eyes thats too old to be single but aghhh #i dont want kids #i have so many siblings #video

[oldestenemy]

Thinking about Duncan Grimwater again.

Thinking about the wizard letting that fight play out.

About letting him win, landing in the commons, and using dungeon recall to go back, showing up behind him.

Thinking about "Did you really think with everything I've been through, that I would go down that easily?"

#anyways wizard losing it for a second over Duncan's very clear jealousy over their perceived 'status' and 'importance' #and going off on him about it. and basically going 'you want to be me? then finish it. no more pulling punches. kill me.' #wizard101 #anyways the scion series is going very well very good super great #duncan grimwater #for as kind as the wizard is i think it is very easy for those around them to forget that they committed murder at age 14? #this is not a pacifist child this is an exhausted young adult by now who has had more ripped away from them than most people have by age 80 #hell even as a CHILD they weren't a pacifist #this single kid has been carving their way through the spiral since age 12 and is not about to stop just because someone else thinks they- #get special treatement. not when that supposed special treatment is the thing traumatizing them to hell and back #lark is still playing funky wizard game from their childhood

[clodiuspulcher]

once again everyone thinking ‘past good’ is foolishly and arrogantly unable to image themselves as among the 50% of children who did not live into adulthood

#maybe im just biomedicine pilled but please god get a grip #before about eighty years ago every single person with type one diabetes died #they just died as children or adolescents or sometimes young adults #there was nothing you could do except watch your child die a slow and painful death #waste away into nothing #dead certain that like the richest thirteenth century noblewoman or whatever would give up all her wealth and luxury #to live in a world where smallpox had been eradicated and she didn't have to fear for her childrens lives #kim wexler voice picture it... REALLY picture it #a world without vaccines sanitation anesthetics antibiotics antivirals blood transfusions #chemotherapy immunotherapy radiation treatment x rays CT scans MRIS #without a basic knowledge of how diseases are spread and where they come from without antimalarias and antihelminthics #without any sort of meaningful medical testing without surgeries or anything like the ability to medically transition it #you literally cannot imagine it #and of course the fact that our medical advancements aren't available to everyone across the world because of capitalism is horrific #it is nothing if not a crime against humanity #but that problem won't be solved by pretending cornelia mother of the gracchi wouldn't have chosen to live #in a world where 9 of her 12 children didn't die if she could #9 out of 12 children. god. really picture it. can you? #i can't and i am thankful for that

[silly-stings]

i like to think either shrignold does this to everybody and they hate it, or people do it to him and he SUPERhates it (or both)

#(referring to source shrignold) #it either goes: #''oh what a handsome young man you are!'' ''i am an adult man do NOT chastise me.'' #or ''oh what a charming fellow you are!'' ''shrignold please let go you do this every single day'' #🐝 #dhmis #shrignold #dhmis headcanons #shrignold dhmis #dhmis shrignold #dhmis hcs #dont hug me i'm scared #scopo cw