#grief is for people

[chrysalistudy]

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[funsimplethings]

"People touch each others jewlery. It's a form of intimacy. The way we pop an earlobe towards us or tug at someone elses fingers. These gestures expose the dormant thief in all of us."

-Sloane Crosley Grief is For People

#sloane crosley #grief is for people #jewlery #intimacy #closeness

[wttnblog]

10 February 2024 Book Releases

It’s nearly the shortest month of the year, but that isn’t stopping authors from publishing their exciting new work! Below is a list of the 10 books I’m most excited for that are debuting in February 2024, the month of love. Many of these are memoirs, nonfiction pieces, and short stories, which is a bit off brand from my usual recommendations, but I’m sure you’ll find these delightful…

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#a love song for ricki wilde #aj finn #alphabetical diaries #anna quindlen #by Jocelyn #celeste ng #end of story #fourteen days: an unauthorized gathering #grief is for people #julia ridley smith #kristina forest #margaret atwood #namina forna #sex romp gone wrong #sheila heti #sloane crosley #the eternal ones #the gilded ones #the partner plot #tia williams #tommy orange #wandering stars

[ionomycin]

Grief

ref photo by @jawsstone

#artists on tumblr #my friend let me use a really gorgeous photo they took #it made my brain go brrr #and i had to draw this #i usually take my own reference pics so it was cool to work from someone else's #enjoyed drawing this a lot #despite the subject matter #i saw a pretty scene of a narrow alley #with white stairs stained black from people walking on them #and somehow it took my brain here #grief visits every house

[takereveng3]

Reading a book about death. It is insanely good.

#sloane crosley #grief is for people

[theadmiringbog]

Russell is my favorite person, the one who somehow sees me both as I want to be seen adn as I actually am, the one whose belief in me over the years has been the most earned (he is not my parent), the most pure (he is not my boyfriend), and the most forgiving (he is my friend).

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Find one of us, pull the string, you'd find the other.

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Still, there are those who will, unsolicited, tell me that I shouldn't blame myself. These people are idiots. Or else they are projecting their own losses.

And are also idiots.

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What I am experiencing is post-traumatic stress disorder. PTSD employs a math opposite to that of denial: Instead of your brain convincing itself nothing has happened, it convinces itself everything has and is still happening.

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Who are we to litigate the severity of someone else's pain? Suicide is often referred to as a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

No one here is arguing the first half of that.

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In the Barbara Pym novel Excellent Women, a character decides that an unsolicited declaration of love must be "something like a large white rabbit thrust into your arms and not knowing what to do with it."

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He gravitated toward underdogs. He would never put it in such sentimental terms, but he understood that real literature, like love, comes from a desire to be known.

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The reason I hadn't noticed that pieces of our world had been falling from the ceiling was because Russell had sheltered me from the debris. And by the time I did notice, our world was already gone.

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I'd spent my last day at Vintage escorting Alice Munro around town and, during a lull in the conversation, I asked her if people ever recognized her on the street. She thought for a moment and said: "On my better days, I think they do. On my worse days, I think they're thinking, 'What a sweet little old lady, I hope she doesn't die in front of me.'"

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Anger is a cousin of intelligence. If you are not revolted by certain things, you have no boundaries. If you have no boundaries, you have no self-knowledge. If you have no self-knowledge, you have no taste, and if you have no taste, why are you here? Russell taught me that.

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Perhaps this is the plainest definition of anxiety: mourning what isn't gone yet.

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Remember that time an author gave us acupuncture sessions? Yours passed without incident, but I didn't realize how still I was meant to stay. I turned my head halfway through. It felt like being punched in the spine.

"It's just pain leaving the body," the acupuncturist said. "You don't have to hold on to it. It's already happened."

#Grief is for People #books

[kammartinez]

#books #nonfiction #memoir #sloane crosley #grief is for people

[kamreadsandrecs]

#books #nonfiction #memoir #sloane crosley #grief is for people

[jupiterslibrary]

one of the differences between good omens the show vs good omens the book that will always fuck me up is the post-bookshop fire scene. crowley goes from picking himself up, dusting himself off, accepting the loss of aziraphale and Just Driving Anyway to completely falling apart. i do get why people have gripes with it being changed so fundamentally, and i've thought about it a lot myself, but i've never been able to bring myself to get mad about it. i always circle back to how the book was written by two best friends. that drunken, wrecked, grief stricken scene was written in a post-pratchett world. he lost his best friend.

#saw that 'i wanna talk to my friend' clip and now i am crying #not to get parasocial but like. you can lose a lot of people in 30 years and i can Feel those years of grief in the show's version #good omens #gnu terry pratchett

[sems-diarie]

death is insane. wdym i’ll never see my grandmother again

#she’s in her chair in the den cant nobody tell me nothing ok #death tw #grief #what’s this house without my grandmother in it? (all the people she left behind) #i cried this morning while eating grits she taught my mother how to make. love is so big when i think of it like that #i thought i heard her walker clack in the hallway last night. #she wears glasses & we have to decide where to keep them #grief is so strange #i can’t keep crying by myself (i’ll be crying for the rest of my life) #love is carrying on. i think.

[somnimagus]

My page for @sheikahzine; about Impaz's duty to her village, empty of people and full of memories.

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#legend of zelda #loz #twilight princess #loz tp #i'm still reeling that someone sent me an ask about this one.. that they took the time to find my tumblr and tell me they liked it #it really meant a lot; thank you to anyone that stops to leave comments like that. they make me happy #but yeah! here's the usual symbolism ramble: #i thought it'd be cool to have the 'spirits' flowing one way and the cats walking through them the other way #to kinda show the difference in life inhabiting the village in the past and present #link's face is covered because impaz was just waiting for 'the hero' so his clothes are what matters; not his face #and it (hopefully) gives a surreal and intangible sense to 'the hero' she could only hope would actually show up #you can feel free to interpret the glowy blue sheikah as ghosts or just as memories of the past! i couldn't decide either way #the one on the bottom left is oot impa since she's implied to be the village founder. so i guess she would be a ghost actually? #fan art #my art #project stuff #and ahhh the book-- everyone's stuff is so beautiful!! #especially the writing. some of the fics made me really tear up and some were so fun and clever. i really love them #a lot of them captured the sheer burden of the role of the sheikah; all of the time and grief and doubt #i know i always say this stuff about every project but. the people i get to work with in these are truly so skilled every time

[funsimplethings]

"Sometimes I was lonely, sometimes I was just alone. This is the kind of distinction people make after breakups. As if loneliness is what happens to you when you fail to be alone."

-Sloane Crosley

#sloane crosley #grief is for people #loneliness #alone #breakups #lonely v alone #alone but not lonely

[metanarrates]

nothing is more sexy to me in fiction than a time loop being thematically linked to the experience of grief and/or trauma. a constant reliving of loss and pain that becomes literal, an inability to move on, a cycle that always finds new ways to hurt... literally where would we be without it

#narrates #hi guys. im regular #also this is why i like the read of majoras mask as a grief metaphor... i think a lot of people make it overly literal #but my brain was rewired as an adolescent by viewing that game as grief for link's lost childhood

[uncanny-tranny]

Not a day goes by where I do not think about the advent of medicine like PrEP and wonder just what the people - especially queer people - who passed from HIV/AIDs during the AIDs crisis would think

And then, I read this survivor's testimony and it just makes me emotional. I think this is the closest answer we have. HIV has changed, and we must always remember the people who didn't see that change before it happened.

#gay #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #described images #image description in alt #i do try to learn from older queer people about this tome period because i wasn't around for it #but i always wondered what the people who didn't make it would have thought of where we are now #there's this weird grief and celebration because i am so glad we are where we are. i just wish everybody cpuld have seen this #this is why it's so important to learn from each other about everything #it takes a village to create community #i have been thinking about that twitter post at LEAST once a month since i first saw it #very complex feelings on this one folks #there is so much left to learn i think but this just hits me in a specific way

[cemeterything]

there's truly nothing as crazymaking as the dynamic between a person paralysed by their own grief and the person who takes it upon themselves to break them free of that by taking their hurt onto themselves. it's inarguably not a healthy form of intimacy but it's such a unique and compelling bond. not to mention the fascinatingly irrational emotionally-driven psychological machinations that could drive someone to override their sense of self-preservation to martyr themselves in order to relieve someone else's pain in such a manner. you can destroy my possessions. hit me. say whatever cruel, unfair things are raging inside you. you need to let it out, so take it out on me. i can take it. i can't stand to see you hurting, beyond my reach, and not share in what you're feeling. so help me to understand. let me share the burden. i'll take whatever you give me. and when you're done, and you collapse in on yourself, the fire that's been eating away at you entirely spent, weeping with such shuddering sobs that they wrack your whole body on the way out, unable to stand unsupported, i will gather you in my arms and hold you tight, unable to resist placing myself between you and the rest of the world for just a little longer, and tell you i know. i know. i know. and it will be the truth.

#🐉 #tl;dr i love the horrors of love and grief and the kinds of unconventional intimacy they lead to #also i love it when people do consensual violence to one another

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

i think it would be funny if people occasionally arose from the dead. like if that was a real-life one-in-a-million but well-documented Thing That Sometimes Happens, and the entire legal system around death (laws on inheritance & marriage & murder etc) had to include caveats for the unlikely-but-scientifically-possible event that the dead person in question might spontaneously self-resurrect, even years or decades after death. it would raise so many inconvenient and absurd possibilities

#imagine the legal system in that timeline #property laws and inheritance laws and bigamy laws--what happens if your spouse resurrects 10 years after they die? #think how AWKWARD that would be #what happens if you inherit from someone who comes back do you have to give the inheritance back? what if u used it to buy stuff? #does the jetski u bought with the money your grandpa left u 15 years ago in college now belong to grandpa? #or is there a statute of limitations? #if the guy you got convicted of murdering returns from the dead does your conviction get changed from murder to grievous harm? #how is the grievousness of the harm measured? in the number of years the guy spent as a corpse? #what if you spend 20 years in prison and the victim comes back to life and it turns out grievous harm would have landed you only 5ish years #do you get reimbursed for the extra 15 years u spent in prison? #what is the legal process for proving you have come back to life? #what are the minimum legal requirements for establishing a revenant's identity? #does it become regulation to make fingerprint/dental records of every single person who dies just on the off chance one of them comes back? #what happens if it's someone from like 300 years ago? #the world has changed and everyone they know is dead. is there a social services department that can help with that? #there would be a whole branch of counseling services for people who have reanimated or had a loved one reanimate #grief 2.0 counselors