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I hate being alone and I’m starting a new class, I don’t really know anyone there so I’m really nervous but I’m so shy to talk to anyone, do you have any advice so I can stop stressing out about this? 🥺

okay first things first: take a moment to breathe and try to relax yourself before going to that class. even if it's been three classes already, if you still feel anxious about it - stop, take a minute to recollect yourself.

i completely understand how you're feeling and i'm positive that some, if not many, of your classmates will be feeling the same way. as someone who has dealt with social anxiety my entire life here's a few things i do whenever i'm in a similar situation to yours:

1. make yourself more comfortable, physically. if you're stressed about first impressions, nothing better than to make yourself feel good by dressing up in a way that makes you feel confident and yet physically comfortable. by this i mean that if you feel more comfortable in jeans and that cool yellow converse you've had for years, go ahead and wear these for your first class. if you have a beautiful that you love shirt or a shirt with your favorite band on, wear that to feel good.

2. on that note, sometimes finding common interests is the key to getting to know people. even if you don't utter a word to them, someone will comment on that band you have on your shirt or will like the way you did your make up, your yellow converse shoes, etc.

2.5. you can also make the first move even if you're shaking on the inside (and outside). you see someone with cool glasses or making nice drawings or even someone who has a neat handwrite style - go ahead and comment on it. you can make it as short as you want, even just uttering the "cool shirt" basic comment can make a good impression on strangers and not overwhelm you.

3. remember that no one there knows you - that can be terrifying but it can also be an opportunity. you can present yourself in any way you want to. if you don't feel comfortable with the comments technique i just mentioned, try raising your hand in class and commenting on a topic you know well or give an example. even the silliest of things can work in situations like that.

4. you will be okay. sounds generic but i often find that i need to remind myself of this; it's just a class, everyone will be focusing on themselves and won't pick your every move or breath apart to judge you.

5. being alone in a new environment is temporary! you'll end up meeting people in many different ways, whether it's in group projects, seeing each other in another environment and making brief eye contact, etc. it takes time but it happens.

5.5. if by any chance things don't seem to be working out, remember that all of this is temporary - you have your back up in other people as well; family, friends, pets and teachers and maybe even a therapist.

lastly, don't overwhelm yourself with the social aspect that much. like i mentioned in #5, things flow their natural course most of the time and you don't have to do anything out of your comfort zone to meet people sometimes. it is ten times easier to make friends if you do leave your comfort zone, but i get that it may be better to protect your mental health than stress yourself with something that feels too unnatural or uncomfortable.

i hope this helps anon and i wish you all the courage and calm in the world for this new experience. be kind to yourself and don't worry too much about this particular class - it's just one class, one moment in your life, people are also concerned with their own issues. you've totally got this, remember to take those deep breaths before going into class and keep in mind that nothing you do or don't do in those minutes in class will define you as a person.

i believe in you, i'm positive you'll meet people and connect to them in small or deep ways. either way, i believe in you.

#reblogs #mental health #mental wellbeing #tips #advice #college #studyblr #high school #school #make friends #new experiences #anxiety #social anxiety #confidence #therapy #coping #mental wellness #i hope this helps #i hope you are well

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ten things i noticed during my first month at university:

—🪐 no one cares if you have the prettiest notes or the fanciest pens and notebooks. only people into stationary will ask, but most students just type their notes and go on with life

—📖 no one has it all together - absolutely no one. that includes your professors, they’re struggling with something in their lives just as you are! don’t compare yourself to what people show of themselves, it’s not the entire truth of what they’re living.

—🥀 it’s not easy to make friends from different courses if your university separates faculties in buildings, especially if they’re not close to each other. you have to attend social events to get to know different kinds of people. for me, that’s a little tough but i’ve learned that it’s important to get out of your comfort zone.

—🌞 it’s hard to hold yourself accountable when living by yourself. not just in your studies but also daily tasks, such as cleaning, cooking, etc.

—🧠 skipping lectures is too easy, specially if they’re live streamed or recorded. it’s also a vicious cycle for me bc of my depression… but yeah, i don’t recommend unless it works for you better that way.

—🧸 no one knows you - that’s right, no one knows if you’re the “nerdy” dude or the “quirky” student. this isn’t high school, most people won’t know you and won’t have ever hear about you if you’re not studying at a super small university or commit a huge crime lol

—🍒 on this note, you’re free to be whoever you are and/or want to be. there are people similar to you and so different from you that you’ll meet and love or realize they aren’t worth your time. you’ll learn to value your friendships and realize that if you don’t make an effort, you’ll have a hard time keeping friends because your schedules don’t match or they work after school, etc.

—🎓 it’s not impossible and it’s not a competition. no one will care how much you got on a quiz and having the very best grades doesn’t mean anything if you’re not willing to work for your future outside of academic achievements.

—📝 some days you’ll wonder if you’re going on the right path, but the thing is… there isn’t a wrong way or anything like that. you’re on your own journey and if you feel like you’re not where you’re supposed to be, re-evaluate your choices and your personal goals. don’t pressure yourself to be where society and other people tell you to go.

—🌻 it’s okay to make mistakes. actually, it’s important to make mistakes - that’s how you grow and learn more about yourself and the world. don’t worry too much about having everything figured out, just live day by day and appreciate what you have right now <3

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hey guys, I’ve decided to share some tips of how to deal with your mental health during quarantine that my therapist gave me and some of my own tips are also there to help you out.

Oh and I forgot to put in journaling! It helps me a lot as well!!

I hope you’re all staying safe at home and don’t forget to take care of your physical and mental health please!

[camomilestudy]

ten things i noticed during my first month at university:

—🪐 no one cares if you have the prettiest notes or the fanciest pens and notebooks. only people into stationary will ask, but most students just type their notes and go on with life

—📖 no one has it all together - absolutely no one. that includes your professors, they’re struggling with something in their lives just as you are! don’t compare yourself to what people show of themselves, it’s not the entire truth of what they’re living.

—🥀 it’s not easy to make friends from different courses if your university separates faculties in buildings, especially if they’re not close to each other. you have to attend social events to get to know different kinds of people. for me, that’s a little tough but i’ve learned that it’s important to get out of your comfort zone.

—🌞 it’s hard to hold yourself accountable when living by yourself. not just in your studies but also daily tasks, such as cleaning, cooking, etc.

—🧠 skipping lectures is too easy, specially if they’re live streamed or recorded. it’s also a vicious cycle, i don’t recommend.

—🧸 no one knows you - that’s right, no one knows if you’re the “nerdy” dude or the “quirky” student. this isn’t high school, most people won’t know you and won’t have ever hear about you if you’re not studying at a super small university or commit a huge crime lol

—🍒 on this note, you’re free to be whoever you are and/or want to be. there are people similar to you and so different from you that you’ll meet and love or realize they aren’t worth your time. you’ll learn to value your friendships and realize that if you don’t make an effort, you’ll have a hard time keeping friends because your schedules don’t match or they work after school, etc.

—🎓 it’s not impossible and it’s not a competition. no one will care how much you got on a quiz and having the very best grades doesn’t mean anything if you’re not willing to work for your future outside of academic achievements.

—📝 some days you’ll wonder if you’re going on the right path, but the thing is… there isn’t a wrong way or anything like that. you’re on your own journey and if you feel like you’re not where you’re supposed to be, re-evaluate your choices and your personal goals. don’t pressure yourself to be where society and other people tell you to go.

—🌻 it’s okay to make mistakes. actually, it’s important to make mistakes - that’s how you grow and learn more about yourself and the world. don’t worry too much about having everything figured out, just live day by day and appreciate what you have right now <3

[camomilestudy]

some advice: if you need to take a break, take a break. studying when you’re tired or not focused is a waste of time – try distracting yourself for a while and then go back with all you’ve got!

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“failure is not the opposite of success – it’s a part of it.”

Karamo Brown

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celebrate your accomplishments. even if they don’t seem much, you made something good happen.

didn’t get an A even if you studied the whole night? well, you got a B, so celebrate that. don’t forget to be happy for your accomplishments. you’ve worked hard for it and you should be proud of yourself.

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my january log looks kinda cute too?¿

(this is what happens when you start bullet journaling in the last two weeks of the month lol)

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the perfect break: coffee + pride and prejudice

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March 2nd 2020🧡👩‍💻

hi lovelies, hope you’re having a great year so far!! here are some pages i have in my bujo and i’m remaking my calendar bc it didn’t look good enough lol ++ i know my year in pixels isn’t really in pixels, but let’s just pretend that didn’t happen...

(also, i absolutely love selena’s new album so don’t drag me for not liking two loved songs by most stans😬🤪)

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March 2nd 2020🧡👩‍💻

hi lovelies, hope you’re having a great year so far!! here are some pages i have in my bujo and i’m remaking my calendar bc it didn’t look good enough lol ++ i know my year in pixels isn’t really in pixels, but let’s just pretend that didn’t happen...

(also, i absolutely love selena’s new album so don’t drag me for not liking two loved songs by most stans😬🤪)

[camomilestudy]

hey everyone, how are you feeling during these crazy times?

{here’s three pages of my bujo: a quick look into my march spread, my reading list for the frist semester and the start of my april log}

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lavenders for my may spread

hope you are all safe and healthy!!

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just came in the mail☕️💕

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things I’m doing to stay sane during my quarantined summer🌞🌻

cleaning my room at least once a week

showering regularly

getting some sun for at least 10 minutes every day

reading light books that don’t overwhelm me mentally

playing my favorite game in the world: the sims 4

trying new things out — such as streaming on twitch and being more active in uni groupchats

talking to my friends at least twice a week, either by text or video calls

drinking plenty of ice cold water

organizing all of my photos so i can make a photo album later — this is great for my nostalgia lmao

making gratitude lists — i try to write down at least three positive things that happened to me that day (ex: it was sunny, i had ice cream and watched a good movie)

talk to my therapist every week and journal every now and then

how are you spending your summer during quarantine?

[camomilestudy]

hey guys, I’ve decided to share some tips of how to deal with your mental health during quarantine that my therapist gave me and some of my own tips are also there to help you out.

Oh and I forgot to put in journaling! It helps me a lot as well!!

I hope you’re all staying safe at home and don’t forget to take care of your physical and mental health please!

[camomilestudy]

celebrate your accomplishments. even if they don’t seem much, you made something good happen.

didn’t get an A even if you studied the whole night? well, you got a B, so celebrate that. don’t forget to be happy for your accomplishments. you’ve worked hard for it and you should be proud of yourself.