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We express satisfaction about something based on how much we value it. We won’t find happiness in it if we don’t appreciate it. For example, if you have received a long-anticipated or cherished gift, you responded with joy because it was something you valued.

For the believer, when you appreciate God more than anything else, you will experience the greatest pleasure possible. You will be forever happy because Christ is eternally valuable. https://lifeovercoffee.com/a-post-christmas-follow-up-are-you-happy/

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A Child's Identify Formation: E.g., if a parent has a pattern of anger or passivity, they are making a value statement toward the child: "I don't like you," or "You're not worthy of my time."

Then the parent gives the child a phone, creating ease of access to a world that can't wait to draw them into their web, giving them an identity shaped around their heinous ideologies and agendas.

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Is cyberspace real or not. We know what a real, tactile place is, but what is cyberspace? You can’t touch it. Is it real? If you were to make a case for cyberspace being real, how would you steel man your position?

The arguments are compelling on both sides, but there is a straightforward way to cut through the debate. The next time someone is on their phone, converse with them. Are they “with you” or somewhere else, regardless of how you define that other place? https://youtu.be/faunDS20bJ0

#social media #technology #internet #addiction #biblicalcounseling

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Growing old will happen to all of us if we live long enough, and for some of our friends, it can be a dreadful experience, especially if it’s hard to come to terms with one’s physical and spiritual condition.

Everyone’s experience of growing old is different, motivating us to consider our stories with compassion and courage. However, due to fallenness, a few typical tripwires can catch us if we’re not careful. I want to share ten of them with you. https://youtu.be/94E2OU_MMWQ

#biblicalcounseling #rickthomas #relationships #family #growing up #growing older #elderly care #elderly man

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The blessing of habits is you don’t have to think; you do them. The curse of habits is you don’t have to think; you do them. https://lifeovercoffee.com/why-do-i-keep-doing-the-same-sin-over-and-over-again/

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#socialmedia #internet #cybereffect #biblical counseling #rickthomas #relationships #marriage #family #parenting

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To live well with others requires living well with God.

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I just finished Thomas Sowell's excellent book, Social Justice Fallacies: https://www.amazon.com/Social-Justice-Fallacies-Thomas-Sowell/dp/1541603923. It's an outstanding book that presents solutions to the zeitgeist killing our country. Sowell is a national treasure and one of the greatest minds in our country. Sadly, he does not have more public prominence but is relegated to one segment of the culture, suppressed from those who need to hear his prescient, salient, wise, and practical words.

#thomas sowell #Social Justice #Human rights #America #Truth #Culture

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The things a couple brings into their marriage (1) will bite them hard at the end of their lives (4) if they don't change them. Too often, couples become distracted (2 and 3), kicking the can down the road, not recognizing when the empty nest comes, the distractions leave, and the pre-existing problems return, but amplified.

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One of the things I noticed when I started working out of the home in 2003 is that my wife, as a stay-at-home mom, never has a day off, seven days a week, and is always on-call. It was convicting, motivating me not to think that my day job was all of my job. Like her, it's a 24/7, always on-call opportunity to serve our family. https://lifeovercoffee.com/biblical-dads-continue-working-after-coming-home-from-work/

#stay at home mom #stay at home wife #stay at home dad #stay at home parent

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This story is one of the most heart-breaking you'll ever hear. Born as a boy with a physical abnomality. The doctor convinces the parents to "make him a girl." They do. He finds out at 22 years old that he's a boy, growing up all his life, thinking he's a girl. Meet Sophie. https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-490-sophie-ottaway-engineered-at-birth-to-be-a-girl/

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We connect our ability to persevere with others directly to our relationship with God and how we appropriate His life to ours. A transformative relationship with the Lord will give us what we need to interact with anyone, regardless of how challenging it may be.

Perhaps you can invert the solution by thinking about an improper relationship with God. If someone struggles relationally with others, and it’s a pattern, that individual needs to address their relationship with God. https://lifeovercoffee.com/the-benefit-of-being-intentionally-intrusive-in-your-relationships/

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A genuinely repentant person is a broken and contrite person who has come to the end of himself (Luke 15:17), which starts with God’s favor (James 4:6). He is singing through quivering lips, “Nothing in my hand I bring; simply to Thy cross I cling.”

Perhaps his actions ruined his relationships, and more self-reliant efforts would only worsen matters even if good intentions were behind them (Isaiah 64:6). He needs a better strategy, so he begs for God’s help.

#forgiveness #forgive me #i forgive you #biblicalcounseling #rickthomas #bible #relationships #family #christian #repentance #parenting

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Now that I want forgiveness for my past, what is the best path forward? THIS: https://youtu.be/Auq2RRFTPYw

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The interview begins at the 3 minute mark: https://rumble.com/v3n9fms-real-talk-with-pastor-ben-graham-8.17.23-real-talk-with-rick-thomas.html

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Counseling success is impossible if the counseling context is the exclusive means of grace for change to happen. It is upon the individual to apply and maintain what he learns in counseling.

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Becoming a certified biblical counselor merely means that an individual has gone through the training requirements of a biblical counseling organization. It does not mean that the person who completed the training is qualified to counsel people, particularly those with complex and longstanding struggles. https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-225-why-some-certified-biblical-counselors-harm-people/