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Gender Dysphoria Isn’t What You Think

Cassie LaBelle has an interesting take on gender dysphoria over at Medium.

She argues that the traditional descriptions of gender dysphoria may not make sense to trans people who are still in denial or exploring their sense of self:

The more I read, the more certain I became that I wasn’t trans. I had only cross-dressed a few times as an adolescent, and never as an adult. I didn’t feel intense distress about having a penis. I didn’t even feel like I was “trapped in the wrong body.” I didn’t exactly LIKE my body, but it’s not like I looked in the mirror every morning and thought to myself, “hmm, this should be a girl!” And if that wasn’t at the heart of being trans, then what was?

Telling a trans person that they aren’t trans — or aren’t “trans enough” — serves no purpose other than cruelty, Cassie argues.  She also points out that lot of “unhatched or newly-hatched” trans people suffer from gender dysphoria without actually realizing it. 

Gender dysphoria appears as a different experience once you fully accept the fact that you are transgender.  Mirrors were distressing for Cassie, but she did not understand why. “..early on, you can come up with an alternate explanation for almost every symptom,” she writes.

Talk to trans women about their pre-transition experiences with women’s clothing, or with playing female characters in video games, and you’ll get a similar range of answers. Some trans people gravitate toward expressing their true selves using clothing or digital avatars early on, perhaps not even realizing why. Others (like me) felt too much frenetic energy bound up in these things, and shied away from them — not because I didn’t want to be seen as more feminine, but because I had a lot of shame and confusion and anxiety bound up in these things, and I wasn’t ready to face it yet.

Read the whole article including “Cassie’s Incomplete List of Things That Were Actually Gender Dysphoria The Whole Time!” here!

Illustration: Ponomariova_Maria

#gender disphoria #ftm #mtf #trans #transgender

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Studio Ghibli ♡

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Abused kid things:

having scars on your body you can’t remember how you got them

gaping holes in memory

feeling distortion in your limbs, your body doesn’t feel yours

always feeling terrified of being called out for a mistake

worrying that you are A BOTHER to everyone at all times

guilt for wanting attention

depriving yourself of attention to cope with guilt and thinking it will “toughen you up”

guilt for receiving attention

feeling uncomfortable whenever things are about you

always feeling seconds from being targeted for someone’s anger

being overly accommodating and still feeling it’s not enough and you will PAY FOR NOT DOING MORE

feeling you’re going insane

trying to blame your own symptoms on yourself

trying to shame yourself just like everyone else has shamed you

feeling life would be better if only you weren’t the way you are

craving for something horribble to happen to you just so you could stop anticipating it

fantasies of abuse + obligatory guilt for having fantasies of abuse

self doubt over weather you actually deserved or wanted to be abused

trying to prove to yourself that you didn’t

not knowing how to prove that to anyone else

trying to soothe yourself by explaining your symptoms away and telling yourself your fears are not real

wondering why you stayed alive this far

#trauma #cptsd #trauma symptoms

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#adhd

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Self check check list

ADHD can make it difficult to figure out how we are feeling physically, mentally and emotionally. Commonly it is due to difficulty with self awareness caused by our executive dysfunction.

This is a checklist I go through mentally to try and figure out why I might be feeling off. Referring to it helps speed up the process.

I feel off..

Am I sitting funny/ have I been sitting in this position for a period of time?

Am I mentally drained?

Have I been working on this task for a long time?

Have I eaten/ drank anything recently?

Have I been eating properly? Am I craving something specific?

Have I gotten enough sleep recently?

If not, am I being kept up by any specific thoughts/ worry?

Have I socialized recently?

Have I forgotten to hang out with my friends?

Have I spent time with my family?

Is how I’m feeling positive or negative?

If negative, have I experienced anything recently that I haven’t processed?

Have I fought/ argued/ had disagreements with people close to me?

Is there anything coming up that I am worried about?

Have I been making a lot of small mistakes recently?

Have I felt that I lot of things have been happening to me that I can’t control?

If positive, have I let myself enjoy the feeling?

If don’t know, has anything happened recently out of the usual?

Have there been any changes in my life, big or small?

Have I done my usual relaxing activities/ hobbies?

Have I been unable to follow my normal schedule due to any reason?

Have I exercised recently?

#adhd #adhd self questionare #adhd tip

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Emotions take practice

Feeling, processing and expressing emotions isn’t something that people just ‘get’.. it actually takes practice. Most people have an easier time with this as they learn it as they grow up. However, ADHDers have emotional dysregulation so this is significantly harder.

I used to dissociate from my emotions until just a few years ago.. and when I actually started letting myself feel the emotions and not just push it away, it felt WEIRD. Like, I wasn’t used to the feeling of letting myself feel so it just felt so odd. I can’t describe it.

People tend to take this ability for granted, but its not something that comes easily for everyone. It needs a lot of practice and experience. 

#adhd #adhd tips

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In case this knowledge is useful to you...

Self-oriented perfectionism: Having high standards for yourself and being self-critical when you fall short of them.

Socially prescribed perfectionism: The feeling that you need to live up to external expectations for validation.

Other-oriented perfections: Having high expectations of others and being highly judgmental of their performance.

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I'll be waiting for fix it fics of Endgame

#Endgame #Avengers Endgame #Endgame spoilers #somebody fix me please #endgame has ended me with its ending #can i hug tony please #he didnt deserve that at all #avengers

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Or alternatively

Life is going TOO slow for you then you end up crashing again

fellow adhd folk……. y’all ever feel like things are going too fast??? like everything is accelerated™️?? and you can’t catch up??? feelin that tonight

#adhd #adhd problems #what is it about adhd #stop ruining my life please

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Mostly adhd contents for now

like or reblog if you’re an ADHD blog or someone who has ADHD (bonus if you have RSD)

i need more blogs to follow and i’ve been wanting to follow more fellow humans with ADHD so it’d be cool if you could smash that like or reblog button

#adhd

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No this didn't happen at all, nope, not at all haha

*reads every available article about ADHD/ADD while sobbing*

#adhd #adhd problems #adhdfeel #tadhdf #dammit stop being relatable it hurts

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I need a hug

Anon, I believe you need more than just a hug but *sends you a virtual hug* here it is anyway.

#asks #ask #ask me

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This is probably one of the reasons most adhders have anxiety tho.

I mean like, how can you not panic and beat yourself when you suddenly have the thought and urge to aggressively poke someone near you with a knife you're holding.

It ain't nice.

Intrusive thoughts are awful. They make you feel like a psychopath or a pervert due to thoughts that are not under your control.

Learning to dismiss them is vital. With ADHD’s overthinking (read: obsessive) behaviour, learning to not dwell on it is VITAL.

#adhd #actually adhd #adhd tag #intrusive thoughts #abcs of adhd

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So you're saying that all those times I thought I was a sick person for having thoughts like that is actually a symtom and some others are experiencing it as well.

Huh.

Intrusive thoughts are awful. They make you feel like a psychopath or a pervert due to thoughts that are not under your control.

Learning to dismiss them is vital. With ADHD’s overthinking (read: obsessive) behaviour, learning to not dwell on it is VITAL.

#adhd #actually adhd #adhd tag #intrusive thoughts #abcs of adhd

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Not knowing where the big spider went

If you could see anxiety. What would you describe it as?

#anxiety #mental illness #describe anxiety