#But irl? I am insufferable.

[anti-dazai-blog]

hello! It's been a while but can I just say thank you?? 💗 jsjsjs ahahaha idk if you remember me but you gave me advice on sharing controversial opinions + when I made my first "analysis" post (if it can be called that), you were literally the first one to like to it. and that was like. seconds after i posted.

anyways just wanted to say thank you and also that you're an inspiration lol ✨

yuhhh I don't follow your main but I see you 👀 and ahaha you being so participative (if that's the right word?) or good at/enjoying debates encouraged me to do the same/be more outspoken in school and say things no one's brought up.

that's all, ya don't have to reply to this, i jus wanted to let you knoww

hello, it’s great to hear from you again!!

[disclaimer, I’m about to go on a rant about general social communication, so I gotta preface all this with When I say “opinion” I mean harmless personal or media-related opinion. Not political stuff.]

Listen. Ok. Listen to me for a quick second. I’m a communications major so I gotta infodump on you real quick.

In communication studies, there’s a concept called the “spiral of silence” theory. It states that people will tend to withhold opinions that they consider “unpopular” out of fear of social ostracism. Because of this, the most popular opinions gain popularity, while unpopular opinions die out and disappear.

This doesn’t mean that there isn’t a sizable amount of people who hold the unpopular opinions, it just means that they aren’t discussed properly. Everyone enters conversations with these secret biases and thoughts, which contribute to their viewpoint.

It would be easier for everyone if people were able to mention their unpopular views right from the start, so we could all be on the same page and understand where people are coming from with their viewpoints. It shouldn’t be taboo to like something others hate, or to dislike something others love.

But there’s nothing to be done about it. It’s a social and psychological principal that most people tend to avoid social ostracism. Key word “most”.

The standard counter for the spiral of silence theory is that there will always be people who, for whatever reason, are immune to it. Either because in that given moment they consider it okay or safe to say what they’re thinking, or because they’re a public figure who trusts their fans will support them no matter what (think of celebrities talking about weird food combinations they enjoy, which an average middle school girl would be mocked and bullied if she were caught eating), or because they have nothing to lose.

In my case it’s the latter— it won’t have any effect on my life if tumblr thinks my opinions suck. I don’t know if I’d have the same confidence to go to an anime conversation and say “heyyyy ya know Dazai? From hit animanga bungo stray dogs? Yeahhhh he’s kinda a jerk isn’t he?” [also that wouldn’t be the time or place to have that conversation, but that’s besides the point]

But regardless. Ya gotta start somewhere. It’s a good skill to have, to be able to break the spiral of silence. It’s very difficult to start, but once you get going with it, it’ll definitely be a great skill to have for life.

I’m so incredibly proud of you for not only finding the courage to post whatever opinions you want (it’s difficult! It’s scary!), but for also being outspoken on your thoughts irl. You may not realize it yet, but chances are some of your classmates agree with your views and are finding both comfort and courage in you being able to articulate them openly.

AGAIN just gotta cover my bases This Isn’t About Politics.

Just to reiterate— hate speech gets you taken out back and shot. By me personally. Slurs and racist stuff gets your house burned down with you still inside it (also by me personally). So if anyone’s out there thinking of reblogging this for your weird racism agenda. Don’t.

#Anti dazai asks #im just. SO into talking about my major. #I know I don’t talk about it much (or at all) on tumblr #But irl? I am insufferable. #I fangirl over historical PR stunts #PR my beloved #Ok im gonna stop talking about this now So sorry for the rant guys I know you did’t click on this blog for that

[metomomo]

TVXQ 20th anniversary comeback, big day for annoying people (me and also all Cassies)

#I am about to become the most insufferable person imaginable for the next few months #if you know me irl I’m so sorry #tvxq #changmin #yunho #uknow yunho #thsk #tvxq yunho #tvxq changmin #choikang changmin #dbsk #u know yunho #my #mine

[allh3llbreaksloose]

taylor making spn trend again is what i needed from 2024. a good day for the mentally ill bisexuals!

#spn #taylor swift #supernatural #destiel #i am about to be so insufferable #seriously #my two favourite things trending along side each other #sorry to my irls i will not stop yapping for weeks

[garoujo]

i’m sorry to all of my moots that i never interact with i just think you’re really funny and cool n im really weird and awkward and will overthink any word i will ever say to you so i will just live in ur notifs to avoid my own internal explosion.

#ʚ・◞📎 — em entry. #apparently i am incapable of having a normal person online convo #i’m legit an irl extrovert but as soon as i’m in someone’s dm’s i am STRESSED #i swear after the first 4 insufferably awkward convos i’m really funny

[omnipotentfool]

"Harlan Ellison would hate this" "Harlan Ellison would hate you" okay and? this is internet at its finest? when you write something its bound to be interpreted differently and twisted and that's the glory of art. I hope Harlan Ellison is spinning in his grave. I hope hes doing hand springs. I hope hes getting gold on the parallel bars.

#am #i have no mouth and i must scream #ihnmaims #harlan ellison #he was comically insufferable irl #and self aware #let the internet do what it does

[kenobihater]

the duality of man........ . ... .

#PLS vote i don't wanna drag this out over a week!! #i'm personally leaning towards the second one but i think that might make some weirdo je.di apologists send me rude anons after only seeing #my url lol. i dislike him bc he would likely be insufferable irl but he's not real so i love him in fictional form if that makes sense?? #also i think it's just kind of a funny and ironic @ bc he's the actual fandom darling and i am not immune to his charms either 😮‍💨 #im gonna vote for option 2 bc i want results immediately lol. and all of this might be for nothing if i decide not to change or fall out of #love with star wars again. i ALSO have t4tobiwan which is on brand for me but i don't rlly like it v much? i don't see him as exclusively #t4t at all bc that means saltine krust was trans which... just NO lol #len asks

[hellonerf]

its kind of fucked up that i get lightheaded over being rly into some characters. its kind of fucked up when my brain takes over and im thinking about hetalia yaoi slamming heads into tables pulling them by the hair clawing at faces blunt force trauma etc etc. and then i get lightheaded.

#i need #Ok #del later #im gonna ramble in the notes #LOL i gotta make these characters have genuine personality issues its the only way. #ame specifically. #hetalia thanks for making them have traits that would be insufferable irl i love my life #/serious #i like when they cant get along #i got this specific ukus view where theyre kinda chill now but they kinda find each other rly annoying too #actually not rly ukus idek if i even “ship” them HAHA #or if u can call any of my heta ships “shipping” cz i dont think theyre romantic most of the time #its cosmic fate stuff #rusame is “cosmic fate” not rly but theyre gonna die probably i hope #caname is (starts smoking) its (coughing) its

[housewifebuck]

i am sooooo ready to compete with you on who’s more insufferable. i feel like i can take you easily

Oh you could take me huh. That’s kinda gay dude….

#and if we kiss? what then…… #but also I’m definitely gonna be the more insufferable one I’m sorry ask anyone #we haven’t been mutuals long enough yet….youll see soon enough<3 #at least irl. I am going to be screaming and punching the ground etc #asks #office hours

[padfootastic]

ok not to sound like a terrible human but. why are the tumblr AITAs so damned boring. literally can be summed up as either social anxiety or ignorance. just. where is the spice. the excitement. the nasty. why are people so damned earnest. am i just ruined by reddit n twitter or?

#everyone is sooooooo stupid #oh no i accidentally ate half of my friends carrot am i the antichrist :( #i feel like i would want to punch half of these people if i ever met them irl #they sound insufferable #do u just. not have any critical thinking or? #this isn’t motivated by any one post #just. generally. they’re all so milquetoast #no self awareness at all #i want dramaaaaaaaa #even if it’s made up 🥲 #but no one’s doing that 😔 #and i don’t have enough creativity #which is why i like AITAs generally #but nope. not happening here is it. #pen’s whining

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

I come as bidden to ask for angsty fic recs! :D (Especially if they end good though, I just watched a TV show from which I am a little physically ill of Bad Things Left Hanging) 💛

ohoho yes good you've come to the right place!!! angst with a happy ending is one of my favorite tropes ever tbh, especially including lots of hurt/comfort!!! without further ado~

protective dad Bruce

family-wide angst with a side of character study

Jason and Bruce have very different ideas of remembrance

very angsty Cass fic for the Cass mutual ft. hope and healing

Damian and Jason have met before

the passing down of warmth from fathers to sons not quite their own

pretty heavy Babs character study (this author is REALLY GOOD)

getting shot is a great way to end a family feud (and Tim is a little bit feral for a hot second)

baby Dickie and a field trip gone bad

Damian thinks he's going to die (he's wrong) and Tim won't let that happen

Tim and Bruce and healing

Steph and Bruce get yoinked back in time and they are not having fun

Bruce just needs to see his kid alive

Steph telling Bruce "I think I'm bad" will stick with me forever

a little bit vague and a lot bit sad but everything is okay at the end, for the whole family

Dick and Jason being brothers

this one made me ache a little bit and then healed the bruises (B and the kids and the finite nature of human life)

I feel like this has probably been recced to you already but OUGGHHHH the family feels from Dami's POV... it's so good

this one is actually pretty soft and has a really cool concept (and ten bucks says you can probably guess why the title caught my eye) with Tim and Bruce

Dick is hallucinating his kid and it just might break him

SAD SAD SAD ANGSTY HOWEVER read the endnotes bc everything's gonna be okay

I KNOW this one's already been recced to you but honestly it fundamentally changed something in me. in the back of my mind I'm always on some level thinking about it. I cannot adequately explain just how much this fic wrecked me and how important it is to me. I'm just gonna say again what I told @called-kept after she first sent it to me: for middle children in the Wayne clan, sometimes dying (and coming back) is what it takes to realize how loved they are. (Kept actually pitched this to me with, essentially, "hey you like fics where the others are comforted in near-death experiences by the fact that Jason's already been through it, right?" though not in those exact words. and if i let myself I'm going to write a hecking epistle to you about this so I'm just gonna uh... stop talking now)

so ya know how I'm really emotional about Dick being a parent to Damian?

Jason is having panic attacks

Jim Gordon is SUCH a good dude.

Jason stress cooks/bakes

growing up is hard when you're a bird-themed vigilante

I don't usually go for soulmate AUs but this is a REALLY GOOD platonic soulmate AU (it made me cry)

ANOTHER fic that's made me cry and also the one that made me realize how deeply bittersweet I feel about Dick Grayson

Timberly dealing with being immunocompromised (a word which my phone apparently does not like smh)

brothers grieving together — sad but has a happy ending!!!!!

INCREDIBLY long oneshot (with a sequel that I also greatly recommend!!) with a lot of angst but!!! it does not stay there!!! as is a theme in this list there's also healing!!!! (Tim needs help to feel again. that's ok bc he has brothers.)

dare I say it THE Batfam angst (presumably with a happy ending) fic? I'm slowly making my way through it and AAAAGHJHHH it's SO GOOD the characterizations and relationships and struggles and fears and never giving up... so so good

basically anything by @envysparkler but I have like 90% of her fics bookmarked and this list is already super long so I'm just going to gesture wildly and excitedly toward Envy's AO3 and leave it at that

and last but not least one of the first Batfam fics I read and really really loved. a bird gets a bird of his own and Damian gets a new understanding and deeper relationship with his next-oldest brother

#one thing about me is that i will never miss an opportunity to wax poetic about looking back #'I'm glad it's you you who’s here for me. you who comforted me. you who never promised to come back but still did. you who loved me.' #i WILL sob about this fic okay??? never meet me in person because I'd be even more insufferable about these family dynamics #than i am online #(actually tho i would love to meet you irl. if you're ever in the northwest US lmk <3) #ANYWAY I'm half asleep and delirious could you tell?? and my fingers are freezing sjfkbakfjslgnslfj #as usual i have wayyy more in my actual ao3 bookmarks if you ever wanna dig through #I've been told i read freakishly fast so i go through a LOT of fics. mostly oneshots but. a lot. #and also once again feel free to dm me if you ever want to Discuss fics!!!!! or just fandom stuff!! or anything as you are a #beloved mutual who i would love to talk to #and with that said i REALLY need to go to sleep shfkbakfnakdj #<3 #Lu rambles #asks #mags tags #batfam #fic recs #lu don't lose this

[skywarpie]

Bristow VA moots hit me up bc my ass gonna be at that show hollering for my wife 😤

#the band ghost #d.ont reblog #also ya know #i want to annoy people irl #god i am going to be insufferable after this

[lumashoes]

i say poggers unironically

#i am insufferable irl please know that

[abnerkrill]

everyone manifest with me IRL friends who want to play the farscape roleplaying game at grad school

#like i will play it over discord with friends if/when it comes to that. i am just DYING to do it irl #yes the book came in the mail yes i am going to be insufferable about it #anyway...... mutuals if u have interest in a farscape rpg........ this is an interest check lol pls message me :')

[wyrmalien]

I love my online friends I LOVE MY ONLINE FRIENDS even if we don't really talk a lot anymore we are all holding hands frolicking together

#this post is because i love my onlinw friends <3 #but it is also because i am remembering now how normal and insufferable my irls are

[sailforvalinor]

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#hffjfhfhhhhghgh #sometimes you think you’re over a guy but then you have a normal conversation with him like a normal person and proceed to think about it #for the next ten hours #my silly little INFP brain is being insufferable about this #like seriously I don’t want to date a guy who curses like a sailor I don’t #but we just get along so well together? he was homeschooled like me? he’s an lotr fanatic (as in he’s read the books)? he has OPINIONS #about little women? he’s an agatha christie fan?? he had reasonable things to say in biblical studies a couple years ago (which is more #than I can say for 95 percent of the people in that class)? #but I mean it doesn’t matter we’ve known each other for nearly three years and I can’t tell that he’s ever had that kind of interest in me #(granted I am a TERRIBLE judge) #fun fact though he is the guy who read a story I wrote freshman year and read a romance scene and exclaimed ‘that’s it! that’s what love is #supposed to be!’ #I mean how was I SUPPOSED to react #if nothing else he’s definitely one of Anne’s kindred spirits and I think I can live with that #anyway sorry feel free to ignore I just needed to ramble #I drove for like three hours today and it was just swirling around in my head the whole time #will probably delete later because there are a couple people who follow me who know me irl and would probably know exactly what I’m talking #about. they’re not super active though so #(and yes this is Alcott boy. although hilariously before I knew his name I called him Agatha Christie boy) #on a lighter note I may have convinced him to watch otgw because it has Elijah wood in it lol

[kaijubrains]

In hindsight, having PCOS was a blessing. Ive got a broader, thicker build than most afab folks.

AND I already have a shitty little moustache and chin scruff. Better than what some people get on their first few months on T!

Im hoping this means my timeline of changes will be faster than average? Since i dont look super fem to begin with... Idk i guess we will see!

#rant #trans #sorry for talking about transition stuff so much #mute my rant tag if u want #it is just i am surrounded by only cis people irl- i need to vent to people who understand it more! #warning- i WILL be ecstatic when my dick starts growing- i will be insufferable- sorry in advance