#CTFD

[harompe]

capitalism? no, you misheard me. i said "capybarism". it's about being a chill little guy who loves to hang out

#ctfd #50k post. in my heart

[palephx]

I just wanted to say, as an autistic 50-yo, THAT is how you "do a friendship."

#thank you for being a friend #stfu #ctfd #have a seat #autism

[aibidil]

I think every parent of a neurodivergent kid learns VERY quickly (likely before they know their kid is neurodivergent) that the hardest part of the parenting gig is unlearning our assumptions about what is "acceptable" or "non-negotiable" behavior. If you have a toddler who won't do x, it doesn't matter how much bystanders or your parents say, "Well that's simply not acceptable." It doesn't matter if it's "acceptable" or not—because if you have a kid like that, you know you can't control another human in that way.

So this isn't a new revelation. But recently we've realized that my 10yo has a PDA profile (pathological demand avoidance/pervasive drive for autonomy—if you want to learn about it, look up Harry Thompson on the socials), which means that perceived demands cause him to enter a place of fight/flight response. I can't tell you the number of times he had a rage meltdown, injured me, trashed his room, etc. Because of this, we figured out (trial and error) how to interact with him starting when he was a toddler, so again, nothing earth-shattering with this new diagnosis, just an actual framework to understand him that finally encompasses all his (often confusing) quirks. What's interesting about pda is that the solution is basically to treat the person...like a person. It's a neurotype that INSISTS on being treated as capable and autonomous (what most people would think of as "treated like an adult", as if kids aren't entitled to autonomy).

What's really incredible is how, when this is all understood and supported, it doesn't have to cause him a lot of problems in day-to-day life. He's been supported and taken seriously for years, and now that he has words for it, he's even more comfortable in his skin.

Last week, we were both not in top form one day and I asked him to put his backpack away. (A demand! How dare I?! After he'd had a hard day of demands at school?!) and he literally threw it across the room, said something mean, and stormed off. (At which point I realized belatedly what was going on and dropped the issue completely so he could ctfd.)

Yesterday, in contrast: he had a bad day at school and I listened, then let him go and bury himself in YouTube for awhile. As I was starting to make dinner, he came and asked if he could help because he was hungry. (Note: no demand was made of him!) I said sure and we cooked together. When the food was ready, he said, "Can I eat alone today? I had a hard day."

Now, my upbringing (and my partner's) was one of The Sacred Family Dinner. The family eats together always. Why? Because that's what we do. No one would ever dare question it! This assumption that family dinner is inviolable lives deep in my soul. If I had said this to my parents (and I wouldn't have—it would've been unthinkable), I would've been dismissed out of hand. They would've scoffed and said something about how I had to do what our family does.

But because I'm not new here, I pushed all that away and said, "Alright. Thanks for helping me cook."

And he goes, "No problem. Thanks for understanding."

🥲😊😭🥲

Beautiful things happen when you let go of limiting neurotypical heteropatriarchal culturoinstitutional norms and narratives. Doing that requires leaps of faith. Leap after leap of faith. Scary leaps that challenge all your insecurities. Leaping every time your brain or another person says, "Well how will they ever learn to do x if you—” No. Leap.

It's worth the leaps.

#parenting #the work of parenting is unlearning #neurodivergence #autism #adhd #pathological demand avoidance #pervasive drive for autonomy

[fdny8231]

CTFD - 10 Acre Wildfire - 4/14/23

#youtube

[notesfromafashionista]

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[aaengelic]

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[tabzjoynt]

really need to ctfd over the next few weeks and get some hours in - there's nobody else that can get me out of the house with no plan (or cash sometimes😅)

and the damn lure of KFC 🙄 buuuuut tonight I made it from the city to my front door in 52 minutes 😁

Got to see lots of familiar faces and dance in choppy as water - almost ate a block of chocolate on my own tho so this gonna be an interesting week for my skin 😬

came away knowing one thing...

I need to get a new camera

biggest LOL of the night was standing behind Jun to take pics and then the stinky photographer stood right in front of me so that he could take pics - such a wank! and then just stayed there cos he's a fucking window the cuntsack 🙄

anyways I got work in 3 hrs kefzzzz ✌🏾

[w4lk3rbedit]

HaHA now You got me #ctfd#rotten

[reportwire]

How To Get Rid Of A Hickey

How To Get Rid Of A Hickey

If you’ve arrived here after a frantic search for how to get rid of a hickey, first of all, CTFD. It’s only a bruise. Nobody dies of it despite all the rumors you may have heard on the internet. Giving hickeys and receiving them is normal, especially if you’re a teen and not aware of what an uncontrolled make-out session could do to your body.  Second, hickeys don’t last long. Like any other…

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[harompe]

#dashart #ctfd

[noisynutcrusade]

How To Get Rid Of A Hickey

How To Get Rid Of A Hickey

If you’ve arrived here after a frantic search for how to get rid of a hickey, first of all, CTFD. It’s only a bruise. Nobody dies of it despite all the rumors you may have heard on the internet. Giving hickeys and receiving them is normal, especially if you’re a teen and not aware of what an uncontrolled make-out session could do to your body.  Second, hickeys don’t last long. Like any other…

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[thedaddycomplex]

So... uh... to borrow a word from my bestselling book: What the fuck?

My book Calm The F*ck Down came out in 2015 (based on a post I published right here on Tumblr). This other book comes out this year. And the description of this new one sounds a lot like mine.

To be clear: There are other books that share the same (or similar) title as mine, but they're not humorous partially-autobiographical parenting books. I don't think this book plagiarizes mine — man, I hope it doesn't — but, the similarities test the bounds of coincidence.

I mean, sure, everything's derivative of something else. Hell, they pitched the idea for the movie Alien as “Jaws in space.” But, at least they changed the setting and the monster.

#parenting #writing #writeblr #books #wtf #CTFD #ctfdmethod

[madwomanthinkingoutloud]

Over the Hill

Having lived half a century, puts things into perspective. If you have lived a good life, you try to always be positive, not cynical or depressing. You are grateful to be alive and well. If you didn’t exercise, or eat healthy, you start doing so. You are happy with what you have, if not, you find your happiness. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. You can do and say whatever you want. You don’t have to tolerate anything you don’t want to. You are responsible for your actions/decisions/choices. You don’t have time for drama or spectacles. You don’t have patience for whining and selfishness. You don’t want to deal with children, teenagers or immature adults for extended periods of time. You pick and choose who you want to spend your valuable and limited time with. You surround yourself with positive, happy people, it's contagious. You treat others the way you want to be treated, with honesty and respect. You never compare yourself to others. You are important. You are special. You cherish every moment with friends and family, because it could be your last. You control only yourself, not even your adult children. You don't give unsolicited advice, only when asked. You don't criticize others, because you are not perfect. You try not to sweat the little things, because it's not that serious. You learn to take it easy and not take on more than you can handle, so you don’t get stressed out. Laughter, dancing, and sex are great stress relievers. You limit your personal/financial obligations. You plan ahead for the same reason. If you never were financially responsible, you start worrying about finances, and your upcoming retirement. You spend your money on what you want and is valuable to you. You never worry about what others have. You start thinking about a time when you don’t have the responsibility to get up and go to work every day. You walk and drive slower, because you’re not in a rush to get where you’re inevitably going. You enjoy every day like it’s your last!

#ctfd #50 #overthehill #love #live #wordstoliveby

[theimpar]

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[notesfromafashionista]

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