#Feeling fancy

[alberta-sunrise]

Got my hair done today… looks 🙌🏼♥️

#me #selfie #blonde #green eyes #nose piercing #eye makeup #fresh haircut #fresh hair #feeling fancy

[cameoutstruggling93]

Dream a little dream of me 🎶

#please excuse my face #girls #nerdy girls #bambi eyes #hazel eyes #sibling date night #feeling fancy

[thedesertdove]

Feeling fancy.

#hat #feeling fancy

[noc-loft]

that feeling when you get a fancy jacket

#art by me #ayden #hybrid #harris hawk #gryphon #new jacket is gud #feeling fancy #birbsona #sona

[d-lanx]

#feeling fancy #cm punk

[detransraichu]

Please feel free to answer only if you find it productive to explore these questions. They’re also coming from the assumption you see sexuality along the lines the bulk of the trans community claim to (ie, gender based, not sex based).

What do you think lesbians are attracted to in women that lesbians can’t be attracted to in men?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives woman-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait women have that men can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

this is such a good question! this might get lengthy.

i honestly have been thinking on this for a long time, for years. i was identifying as nonbinary since i was 13-ish, even taking testosterone for a while, very deep in the trans/nonbinary community until i detransitioned and embraced being a woman, specifically a lesbian woman. i still have many trans & nonbinary friends irl. i've never actually felt attraction to a... well, i was gonna say a man, but in trans terms i HAVE been attracted to pre-transition trans men. so i thought i was bisexual due to that. but the thing is, i knew something was off with me labelling myself bisexual. i've never felt truly attracted to an amab person. there were some post-hrt trans women i had sexual videocalls with back in my camgirl era, but i tried very veryyyy hard to focus on their hrt breasts and even then i kept drying up. when doing anything (long-distance) with amab people, i always had to pretend they weren't there, and always found myself imagining an afab body. if anything amab-typical showed up, like their deeper voice, or a certain angle of their face, my faint conditional attraction would dissipate. i'm attracted only to people with bio vaginas and breasts. i could say that applies to amab people post-surgery/hrt, but they just will never be the same, and the second i'm told they're amab the conditional attraction will vanish; and, if i had done things w them, i will feel very upset afterwards. just like how upset i was after my camgirl days. i knew that external forces, poverty, comphet, etc made me feel like i needed to "give amab people a chance." i felt guilty even daydreaming of same-sex exclusive lesbianism. i felt transphobic. misandrist. close-minded. like i needed to unlearn something that was preventing me from being amab-attracted. but it never worked, no matter how much therapy or personal growth i did

i was always more attracted to trans men -- even if that attraction wavered if they went on hrt or had surgeries, especially with just the social role of suddenly passing as straight -- because they had gone through afab puberty with an afab body and usually had a bio vagina, and often breasts, or at least feminine curves. trans people often joke they have a trans radar, but if cis people note the same thing, they all brush it off as delusion and bigotry... but if you spend enough time in transfem & transmasc spaces, you notice typical amab and afab traits in trans folks. and for me it just became too much, i couldn't be dissociated trying to force myself to date trans women anymore; i had done it in large part bc i knew they saught that validation from wlw very badly and posted about this quite frequently, and were all over me when i was a camgirl so i felt the pressure build. i have dpd and people-pleasing tendencies, and i knew i would've been dry or at least dissociated af if i had tried anything sexual w an amab person irl. that was a constant issue with the videosex. it's just not in my nature, i was just built to be afab-attracted, just like a cishet man. yes, afab-typical traits in an amab person can pique my curiosity if they trick me into thinking they're afab, but once it's confirmed they're amab it's just complete disinterest, everything in me is indifferent at best, repulsed at worst, depending on how pushy they are. and if i try to push through i get very upset, like a cis man thinking briefly of a guy being pushy with him at a gay bar. it's just dread at being made to do something you're not into. pure dread.

so yes, due to all this, i believe that i, and honestly the large majority of the population, has an attraction that is sex-based. in general, i believe that most people use man/woman to refer to sex anyway; they're straight bc they're exclusively sexually attracted to bio vaginas & afab traits or bio penises & amab traits in bed, they just don't get truly aroused otherwise so a relationship wouldn't work out. they can try to pretend, focus only on one part of their trans partner, but it just wouldn't be healthy. unless it was a sexless relationship i guess, but i believe that at least my own romantic attraction is purely sex-based as well, and that most ace straight people still wouldn't be able to stomach dating a same-sex trans person, as rude as it sounds. it's just not in their nature!!

and the thing is, this should be okay. sexual and romantic attractions ARE NOT PREFERENCES no matter what anyone say; typically the people saying so are bisexual, and so of course they don't understand monosexual experiences. it's like saying that a carnivorous animal has a meat preference... no, it's unhealthy for them to eat anything else even if they tried!!! i truly believe that sexualities are built in from birth, or at least a young age. anything else is typical conservative homophobic rhetoric. like lady gaga always said, baby i was born this way! you can try to change me, you can try to force me, but that'll never change my nature. i tried and tried and tried. but i'm homosexual. i feel bad for trans women struggling to find women to date, but they may have better luck with bisexual women. bisexuals and transgender people have a looong history of dating eachother. why they hyperfixate on homosexuals is beyond me... i respect trans people transitioning to better their lives, but telling us to fix ourselves bc they want to date specifically homosexual people to feel valid in their identity is honestly creepy, and super unnecessary

#asks #lay text #radfem #gender critical #man idk why i ended up using so many semicolons lmao #feeling fancy

[roboreblogs]

man

you know what, fuck you

*puts a suit on your favorite cryptid*

#roblox doors #doors roblox #seek doors #doors seek #doors fanart #roblox doors fanart #feeling classy #feeling fancy #feeling a bit stylish

[jezzibelle89]

I’m feeling fancy due to the fact I have started using the queue option on my tumblr.

#shameless #mickey milkovich #gallavich #shamelessedit #ian gallagher #gallavichedit #ian x mickey #feeling fancy #dancing gay boys are my favorite #they’re so cute

[giriduck]

Painted my nails matte black and stamped on some metallic gold swirls, very reminiscent of WW Ganondorf’s sleeves.

#feeling fancy #legend of zelda #wind waker #ww ganondorf

[bilbopaggins]

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#selfie #feeling fancy #thicc af #dumb thicc #big tiddy gf #big t1ts

[kiratsuyoshi]

So I got a robe for Christmas. 😌🍷✨️

#my art #artists on tumblr #digital drawing #artist on tumblr #self insert #i feel luxurious darling #feeling fancy #wine pls #digital artist #lineless drawing #semi lineless

[jajna]

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Painting my nails bright orange today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Relaxing~ Nice~ Alas, Only thing i can do the coming hour is typing on my large computer keys IF i want to do anything other then wave hands around in the air. dry faster, dryyy, dryyyyyy When dried I be happy anytime I look down on them. MMmmmmmmmmmmmmmm <3 The small wins. ^^ Might even make myself a blueberry smoothie. hohoho, the need to pamper oneself.

#FEELING FANCY

[joost5]

#joost #feeling fancy #thrift store pickleball tie with hugo boss

[galaxyofghouls]

we got room service wineee

#feeling fancy #it’s a Chardonnay