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futurewife · 1 year

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thoughts on set dressing in my s/i’s world

In my old age (joke) I have become one of those boring black and white minimalist home people where I used to be a jewel tone gold trinket loving clutter on every surface maximalist. It’s not all bad, somehow I feel this is partly a reflection of C.able in me cause I always thought he’d live super spartan just because he just strikes me as a guy that is content with the bare basics and he’s like...kinda zen about it... so at least I think we could live in peace with our mutual living space design options HAHA

When I first started envisioning the environment my s/i might live in, at first I had this messy, dark jewel tone, random stuff hanging everywhere block out curtains, kind of environment in mind. Like candle wax and incense ash on the shelves and stuff, clothes in piles, five lamps for no reason etc

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Now, some of you may think I've majorly downgraded and that is valid. I still think maximalism looks amazing, romantic, lush and cozy. I've just started to personally want an environment that is simple and low maintenance, plus I started to get a little more conscious about material consumption/value/functionality. This is not an attack on people that enjoy trinkets, it's more like I have come to some realisations about myself and what I can realistically achieve, mentally deal with and maintain. now I swoon at bedrooms like these HAHAHHA

well that’s my boring interior set dressing story ig xx What kind of living environment do you envision for your s/i?

#also i discovered im way too lazy to dust all that and it personally helps my mental health to not have so much stuff or choice HAHAHA #I think that's why the all black wardrobe also works so well for me. I don't have to think about it!!! What a relief. hahaha #I used to have an ~aesthetic~ that was much more like historical glamour informed and extra. esp. the 20s and 30s. art nouveau etc #I do believe there is no part of the self discovery journey that isn't real and important and valid though #just a little personal musing ig

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sboochi · 4 months

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What do you hope to get in Frozen 3?

It's probably not surprising at all, but I'm a big fan of Frozen :D the first movie holds a special place in my heart (the opening actually makes me emotional) and while I have a few issues with the second, I'm weak for the Frozen Aesthetic™, the characters and vibe.

I have no idea what the story for the threequel is gonna be, but I do have a wishlist!

A proper character arc for Anna. Elsa went through a great journey of self discovery+acceptance, but Anna's arc never felt... concrete?

Same for Kristoff!!!! Please please please gove him SOMETHING that doesn't revolve around Anna

And a solo song!! That isn't silly!!! (Lost in the Woods I love you but I want more)

Speaking of songs, besides Into the Unknown (my fave), Show Yourself and Lost in the Woods, the others felt a bit of a letdown. Idk maybe it's just personal taste

More outfits!!! One of my favorite parts of the movies are the pretty clothes

I know the lesbian headcanon for Elsa is popular but in my heart she's aro, so yeah. Hashtag don't give Elsa a partner at all (again, you can ship her with whoever you like obv. This is just my opinion™)

New secondary characters that don't get thrown away after their introduction. Basically what happened with everyone from Frozen 2

Let Anna use a real sword (optimistic. I believe disney has a rule for not letting their heroes use weapons against people)

#also I have seen Wish and I have a few opinions about it I might write a post soon #TLDR I liked it and wanted to highlight my favorite bits #asks #polymathart #frozen

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blazinghotfoggynights · 2 months

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Fandom is wild! I love it.

Also, I'm just thinking and those thoughts are wandering out of my fingertips. This is just me wondering "aloud".

Tommy Kinard shows up for 30 seconds, after comments about Buck going on a self-discovery journey, and BOOM we have a new relationship and portmanteau in less then 60 seconds.

After last season, I have zero expectations for this season. I can honestly say last season was the most disappointing of the show for me. That ending was awful.

But back to the speculation and messiness. Okay, let's assume for a minute that Buck and Tommy start messing around. I hate to break it to the general public but it isn't as uncommon as you may think for people in their 30s, 40s, and even older to realize they may not be the sexuality they thought they were or to say, "I don't give a damn", and start exploring different avenues.

Personally, I think Buck has been bi-coded all along. But, that's just my opinion. I think he just hasn't dated any man since he began working at the 118.

As for Eddie, I think when they were on Fox, that character was written to appeal to the...ahem...Fox demographic. He's a macho, muscular, handsome alpha male type: good old southern boy, religious, war hero, badass, survivor who loves his family and country. No way was that character EVER going to be anything remotely other than completely heterosexual.

I also believe that as long as the show was on Fox, no white male lead would be anything other than straight. (Look at the history of the major or recurring gay characters on the show. Hen, Karen, Michael, David, the first guy Michael was dating, Eva, and Josh. Note the ratios and how almost stereotypical Eva and Josh are written.)

With a move to ABC, I think there is a chance for a more...diverse spectrum within the LGBTQ characters; however, I am not sure ABC is willing to write both the male leads, I know Bobby and Chim are strongly written characters, but let's be real, Buck and Eddie are arguably the most popular characters, as possibly bi or gay and put them together. Why are they, and not Bobby or Chim, the most popular, especially with that coveted demographic of women 18-49? When you answer that you have the reason both networks might be hesitant to put two men who live in each other's pockets and co-parent a child together.

In business and marketing, how race and sexuality are approached is still quite influenced by the vocal majority and how they think it works. It isn't right. It silences the voices of those who aren't TPTB. The people who are members of those groups aren't listened to, but that is how it is.

My heart will always beat for Buddie endgame. (And write Buddie fanfic when I have time.) But I have seen how media, marketing, and corporations operate and they will always feed the people holding the wallets keeping them afloat. That is why there is a part of me that believes Buddie is probably only going to exist in fanfic.

Buck, and Buck alone, may be given a bi arc while Eddie is written as 100% heterosexual and permanently paired with a woman, while being supportive of Buck and his partner.

By keeping one canonically straight and making the other canonically bi they can straddle the fence. They can play up the chemistry between Buck and Eddie, teasing a what might or could be situation, while keeping them apart.

I could also be totally wrong. Maybe when Eddie realizes Buck likes men, he decides to add more rainbow to his preferences, give in to the very dirty, and locked down like a bank vault, fleeting thoughts he's had about his best friend over the years, corner Buck alone, tell him drop Tommy or whatever man is d-ing him down, and do the d-ing down himself.

Hey, ABC! You are welcome to use the last paragraph for inspiration!

#9 1 1 #evan buckley #eddie diaz #buddie #buddie 911 #buck x eddie #eddie x buck #buck/tommy #tommy/buck #tuck #evan buckley x eddie diaz #eddie diaz x evan buckley

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iaf · 1 year

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Listen– listen to me. Kenji and Ben are foils to eachother's character.

Let me explain, you have this kid who was neglected by his parental figure for the majority of his childhood. He was given too much "freedom" and materialistic possessions to keep him busy and away. This kid hides behind a facade of cool confidence and constantly feels the need to prove themselves to someone.

Then there's this other kid, who had a present parental figure that insistently urged them to branch-out. A kid that was fine with hiding from the world and living in their own comfort zone. An honest kid that is also easily frightened. He was uncertain with his abilities and not intrested in proving he was "cut-out" for the outdoors.

And as the story progresses, they go through different experiences. They change as individuals but ultimately remain as foils to one another.

Everyday, Kenji becomes more uncertain with who he is as a person. He begins to question who he is without money and status. He wonders what real family means. His loyalties are questioned and tested. This boy no longer knows what it is that he wants. Kenji is held back by the past (his father) and scared of what the future holds. It's all too confusing and unclear. He doesn't know where to go and what to do.

However, with everyday Ben also changes. He becomes more certain with who he is as a person. He accepts the new him, someone free of socialtal expectations. He gains confidence in himself and recognizes his abilities. He holds his ground and states what's on his mind (staying with Bumby). Ben let's go of the past and isn't afraid to embrace whatever mystery the future holds for him.

See season 1 for example. Kenji doesn't want to admit how scared he is, so he tries to act cool and take the lead. Ben however is sharing his doubts and is jumpy but he's honest about how he feels. The last two episodes of the season completely flips the script. Ben takes the lead and does something brave, suppressing his fears. But once Ben is gone, Kenji facade fully disappears. He's honestly states he doesn't know what he's doing.

There's also season 3. Kenji's taking more responsibility. He seeks leadership roles and starts thinking more collectively. Ben is still very much part of the group but is less of a team player (due to inner turmoil). He thinks more independently and silently struggles connecting with the others again.

This is probably why they butt heads so often, right? It's clear Kenji and Ben contrast eachother but they are not complete opposites, at least that's not how I perceive it. You see, these two boys are on the same journey of self discovery and I believe that they recognize that in eachother. Even if they struggle to stay on the same page most of the time, they still get along and one can only imagine how much more solid and understanding their relationship became post-rescue.

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cataphonics · 11 months

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OC - Max Part 4

Max is hard to describe as a singuler being so I'll try to explain him as multiple.

God of a saviour - This part of him the part that desires saving people and is a large source from where is powers come from. This part of Max desires to save every human for the simple reason that that is what the god is meant to represent. This part of him isn't comples since it is just an idea. An idea doesn't need that much motivation. Any motivation is acceptible to it if it means that humanity should be saved.

Destruction - Seeing as he is the being that is meant to balance out the dark ages, his existance needed to be destructive to combat all of the terrible parts of this world. It is even said that Max is the reason that pagan and monsterous beings no longer exist since he killed most of them. His part of Max desires only to kill and destroy for the simple reason that it is the balance of the terrible situation that humanity was in. This part of him doesn't conflivt with the savious aspect of him however. The destruction part is only awake whenever he is needed to kill something. He isn't a jesus character or someone who will fix the world by helping its kingdoms or countries. No, he is a saviour for the simple reason that he kills anything that'll hurt humanity.

Max Wellington - This is the only part that conflicts with the others since this part is a human mind. We don't know much about Wellington but what we do know is that he is a very reflective character with nothing much going on in his life. His only motivation for anything is survival. Its contrasting feature is the fact that this part makes Max question what he is doing. When he is killing monster and such, he isn't thinking about much. He just loves it but whenever he is not doing it, whenever he is just minding his own business, he begins to think about everything that he does. Why does he save humanity? Why does he love destruction? Why was he born? Because of Wellington, he is forced to think about these things.

Max himself - Max is a very retrospective and philosophical character. On one hand, he wants to save humanity by destroing every monsterous thing that moves, while on the other hand he wants to figure out his identity. Max embarks on a journey of self-discovery as a result of these reflective thoughts and his quest for solutions within his own spirit. He explores the nature of existence, free will, and the entwining of the mortal and divine in deep philosophical reflection. The conflict between Max's responsibility as humanity's savior and his own search for self-awareness causes a significant psychological battle. He can't be challenged physically so the only way for him to change is mentally.

His personality is kind of like the classic cool, confident dude but on the inside he feels kind of empty. He kills and kills and enjoy every second of it but when it's all done, all he can do is stare into his empty hand, filled with blood of those around him.

His powers are (again) OP, seeing as he is the balacing of the 200 year long era of the dark ages.

His powers are the reverse of gods and ideas. They get their powers from maniqulating people's preception of reality to change it so that the outcome will serve them. Basically, if you believe that you're on fire, I believe that you're on fire and everyone else believes that you're on fire and if even the atoms believe that you're on fire, then you'll be on fire. Gods maniqulate this to make themselvevs stronger.

Max's power are the reverse of this. If someone believes that he is as strong as a bear, then he becomes as strong as a bear. If someone believes that he is as fast as the winds, then he'll become as fast as the wind. He is literally a fantasy character existing in the real world for the story! If people write stories of him being able to lift a mountain, then he'll be able to do that.

#oc #worldbuilding #own character

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heyovivi · 3 years

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THIS IS EMBARRASSING

Okay this is...troubling. Only because I know from @yazthebookish that this specific user is especially problematic within the ACOTAR community. So this comment was made on a Gwynriel TikTok (cardans.tail (lmao the name 😂)). So basically, the TikToker made a video using a sound and comparing that sound to some of the colorful language that some E/riels call her, not the good Elriels but the toxic E/lriels. And then this specific user commented this ^.

And wow. Like I had no idea I was a racist or a misogynists. I also had no idea that that any of mutuals were because honestly my mutuals seem like very lovely people.

Now this comment got over a hundred comments already and most of it is this toxic E/riel trying to defend herself against Gwynriels. And her defense is also toxic.

Now I do appreciate those who stood neutral in this conversation, and agree that both sides have their own share of toxicity, but that isn't to say that all sides are bad. I know for a fact there are good Elriels out there and I will respect them as they respect me. But when I see posts like this:

Like I personally don't have a problem with the fact that this person is not Brazilian. Like I don't think that has anything to do with me, it feels like that kind of a heritage thing and doesn't have anything to do with this fandom. But I did hear that a few E/riels did call the Gwynriels from Brazil "mutts" so I suppose if this specific anti weren't apart of the legion of haters then they shouldn't warrant such hate. But also, as this person commenting against this anti said that this person has a habit of hunting through social media and attacking our side of the fandom relentlessly. And even if they aren't active on Tumblr they didn't deny that they still attacking Gwynriels on Twitter.

And even if this person is not playing victim (which they kind've are) their "truth" is their opinion. Their vicious opinions that result in harassment against a certain party of mutuals.

Oh this poor, misguided soul. Kudos for this user for keeping up with the argument, I'm amazed how you can deal with such...troubling people. This poor, lost, confused anti must've been blind to all the hate comments that Steph received. The whole point of the live was not to confirm their ship (like how a bunch of E/riels wanted) but it was mostly to catch up and discuss the new release of Crescent City 2. Yes there were snippets of Azriel and ONE question about Gwyn (because again, toxic E/riels are convinced that Gwynriel is a pedophilic ship), but you shouldn't be pressed about there not being any questions about Elain. Elain was a present in four books prior so I'm sure in the lives for those books there were plenty of questions about her. As for Gwyn, she is a completely new character and I can't believe that instead of getting insight into her character Steph and SJM felt the need to confirm her age so Gwynriels could feel like their own ship was less problematic.

This kinda explains itself so no further word on this argument.

Yes, there are many sides to this fandom that are extremely toxic. All the Gwynriels I found on Tumblr have been extremely nice and caring people. They are very supportive and protective of their ship and as long as you don’t poke them there shouldn’t be a problem. But if you poke them then they come at you with textual and cited evidence. And believe me there is enough evidence to prove that this anti is a bully and harasses many Gwynriels and Eluciens

The fact that their only argument is that Gwynriels are racists and misogynists probably means that they don’t have any real argument and this is a more personalized matter. Because no, on this side of the fandom we are not misogynists. We want both Elain and Gwyn to grow into beautiful empowering female characters. Elain can branch out into her own person. She isn’t just Feyre’s gardener she can expanse into being more than that. She has potential. And Gwyn isn't Azriel’s booty call. Her existence isn’t simply tailored to being Az’s love interest for us. Gwyn stans are all interested in her journey of self-healing and self-discovery. It was hinted multiple times that her part in the books is bigger than what we realize and who knows. Maybe her role is going to Spring Court and bringing Tamlin back to his senses. Or maybe her role is finding her family in Autumn Court. We don’t know. It’s not misogynistic to think that these beautiful female leads can grow into strong and independent characters. They aren’t just Azriel’s love interests they also have their own journeys ahead of them as well

I try to stay away from the E/riel side because, well, it’s what I expect the Court of Nightmares to be amongst this fandom. But never have I once came across E/riels who try to defend Gwyn’s assault. Instead I see them arguing that the fact she went back to the library after the Blood Rite is a sign that she and Azriel aren’t going to be endgame. Ummmm Gwyn risked her life in a vicious trial where she had to be kidnapped, drugged, and then had to fight for her life in order not to be killed and raped. Of course she went back to the library. But that doesn’t mean she isn’t going to get her own healing journey. And just because we ship her with Azriel, write NSFW fan fiction and draw NSFW art doesn’t mean we are invalidating her trauma. A large part of why I ship Gwynriel is because I see the tremendous potential between them. Though I’m not against them have their own separate journeys of healing I also feel like they can help rise each other up.

And also it’s not like SA survivors can’t heal from experiences and have sex ever again. In fact, a lot of survivors find healing in sex because it’s a sign that they refound their own control of their bodies and accept themselves and can move on healthily. Many Gwynriels can identify with Gwyn and this ship because of their own experiences in their lives and artists such of myself incorporate the more intimate parts of this ship because we identify with those moments and like to envision that moment where Gwyn can finally accept herself and her more intimate side.

The rest of the comments are just back and forth arguing but for the most part it is clear that this fandom needs to grow up. Stop the bullying, stop the hate comments, stop everything. The post on TikTok was to show that this person was being bullied for simply liking a ship and how did it end? With both sides trying to justify themselves. Bullying and harassment shouldn’t be justified. I shouldn’t have to see why talented artists like @vmiae have to explain themselves or why an entire community are being accountable for one or two people’s actions. One person doesn’t speak for all. This person clearly did not get the message and we can only hope that they learns the truth and isn’t just speaking from their own opinion.

#acotar #gwynriel #gwyn berdara #anti e/riel #azriel #elain archeron #booktok

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indigoschool · 7 years

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I feel like I rushed into something I wasnt ready for. And sometimes I feel like my awakening was a mistake. If I never found out about indigo children I probably would have been fine. Now I'm not even able to function because my mind isn't right and even though im aware of that nothing is changing,Yes before finding out about this I might have been the same but I wasnt aware of it and id rather be unconscious about the way I feel then have to feel it so powerfully that I'm having panic attacks

Pt2. I go to school 4 days a week, for 3 hours at an alternative high school. I only need to do one semester and I can graduate. I was supposed to graduate in 2015 and I didn’t. I got put into alternative school I’ll go for a month or 2 and stopped because I ended up crying and freaking out in school so I’d start over the next semester. This is like the 4th time I’ve done this, this is my second day of school and I was crying because I cannot fucking relax man.

Pt3. I can’t even finish high school I feel so pressured to get my diploma because i feel like its the bare minimum but it’s all fake. Everything is fake and I want to leave. I dont leave the house, I have no friends, I’m adopted for fucks Sake. My mind isn’t right it might be the subconscious Idk. I wish the universe would send something down that will physically help me right now. I tried everything, positivity, crystals, tarot, mindfulness but then I think about mindfulness like a idiot.

Pt4. You dont really have to say anything Im just venting. I'm so sad this is so painful and I feel like no one cares. People say they care cause its the right thing to do. I'm not in your face at this moment crying in your face so you don't care. I want to die but I feel like the universe prevents that because I would never put such pain on my mom. I feel like I need medication or something this discovery has done nothing but make me feel crazy. Idk why im here but it's not fucking worth it.

Pt5. I had a melt down in school because I felt like my presence was bothering someone . How fucking stupid is that. Is it wrong to regret your journey ? Is it wrong to feel like it was a mistake? Is it bad I want to leave? Idk what to do, I'm suffering and im aware that I'm suffering and I'm aware of the reason why I'm suffering but that very reason causes me to suffer. I understand why indigos commit suicide. Hell what if I'm not even an indigo and this was a faze and I just destroyed my life?

Your awakening isn’t a mistake. Reaching higher levels of consciousness isn’t something that shouldn’t have happened. You shouldn’t regret it. Sometimes, there’s an adjustment period that follows your awakening, and this period can be rough. It’s not that “your mind isn’t right,” it’s just that you haven’t adjusted to the new state of consciousness through which you’re now perceiving life. Have you ever heard the saying “ignorance is bliss”? Yes, not knowing about the way things are and the injustices happening in the world may be easier because you don’t have to deal with it, but does not knowing change anything? Awareness is much more effective than ignorance is. I know that you don’t like the fact that nothing is changing, but by being aware of it, you’re one step closer to creating change than you’d be if you were ignorant of it. It’s okay. Don’t pressure yourself and don’t try to regress in consciousness. Keep growing, because the more you grow, the easier it is for you to center yourself and find a way to begin working toward making the world a better place and using your existence to better the lives of others.

Try to practice mindfulness as much as you can. Focus on and live in the Now, the present moment. This will help to clear your thoughts and reduce panic attacks. By practicing mindfulness, you control your mind instead of your mind controlling you. You have more autonomy and can be free from worrying about how you feel or what’s not changing. The Now is the only time there is, the Now is the moment in which you can use your new level of consciousness to manifest a reality that you’d like to see. Meditate as much as you can as well; meditation is kind of like deep mindfulness, and doing it daily will help you to

center yourself and will make it easier to practice mindfulness throughout your day. Along with meditation, amethyst, blue calcite, amazonite, aventurine, agate, hematite, jasper, malachite, shungite, smoky/rose quartz, and turquoise are very helpful with panic attacks. Keeping them around your room, on your person, or near you in meditation will help to soothe your mind and allow you to adjust to your level of consciousness.

Edit: I wrote the above response before I’d seen parts 2-5, so below is my continuation.

Reading this, it feels like you’re trying very hard. You’re frustrated and restless and trying to go to high school but trying to get away from it and trying, trying, trying. Be still for a moment. Close your eyes, breathe, and do this for as long as it takes until your mind is clear and still. Do you feel still? Do you feel at peace?

Hold on to this feeling. Try to hold on to this feeling for as long as you can. Try to summon this feeling as often as you can. The feeling of having no thoughts, or at least not paying any attention to them. Clearness and stillness. This feeling is what will help you get over the pressure that you’re placing on yourself. Don’t “think” about mindfulness, just be mindful. All it takes is focusing on the present moment. Don’t try positivity, crystals, tarot, etc., just be. Don’t force anything if it doesn’t feel right. If you try those things, expect no results. Lose all expectations. Lose all expectations for your life, for the people around you, everything. Expectations are rooted in the future, and mindfulness means living in the Now. Be here now. Stop trying. It’s okay. Do what feels right. Live your life as if your eyes are closed and you’re following the sound of someone’s voice guiding you. In other words, don’t use your mind and overthink your options and become frustrated with how things are or how they should be. Allow your heart to lead you toward what feels right. Whatever that is, go to it. Trust your heart. It’s okay to be alone for some time, so don’t overthink having no friends. The Universe wants you to have some time to build yourself, to trust yourself, to let your heart guide you. Friends will follow. When you’re at school, be present. Be in the Now. This level of mindfulness will help with the “freaking out,” because you’ll find that there’s nothing in the present to freak out about. There’s only the here and Now, a beautiful space. Be there always and do what feels best in that moment, and everything else will fall into place. You are worth it. Life is worth it. You were born for a reason. I know that may not sound real and it may come off as something I’d just say to anyone, but seriously, you exist for a reason. An important one, too. Your existence is imperative to the Universe itself. Literally. You matter so much. You have a purpose, you have a mission to accomplish here on Earth. You wouldn’t have been born if that mission weren’t something you could handle. You can do this. What you’re feeling right now is temporary and natural, but please don’t dwell in this space too long. Know that you can transcend this. You will transcend this. I care about you and how you feel, everyone else at the Indigo School does too. It’s not wrong that you regret your journey and it certainly isn’t something you should blame yourself for. Like I said, it’s natural. You’re adjusting. But please, allow yourself to adjust. Allow yourself to feel these growing pains. Then grow past them. You can and you will. Nothing you experience is a mistake. Everything that happens is part of your journey. This journey is to prepare you to reach your full potential and manifest your best self so that you may accomplish your life’s mission. It doesn’t matter if you’re an indigo or not. It doesn’t matter what label you put on yourself; the truth remains that you have not destroyed your life, your life cannot be destroyed. Each day is a new opportunity to start over, to do better, to be still and mindful and love yourself. You are not stupid, you are not an idiot, you are a growing being who makes mistakes. That is okay. Suicide will not make it better. You are here for an important reason and removing yourself is not the solution. “Yourself” is not a problem; you are growing and developing, nothing you do is irreversible, and you can do better every day. Please believe me. I love you.

#advice

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purposelypassionatejackie-blog · 5 years

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Why me?

The better part of my life I have asked the question that is the same as my title. It seemed like no matter how good, nice, kind, loyal, etc... I was, I couldn't escape the bad stuff.

I'm not saying everything was bad. I mean I have been blessed with 6 beautiful kids, a husband that loves me, and a family that cares about me. But for example, my first 2 kids are with my ex. I did everything right, so I thought. I gave him 2 beautiful daughters, wouldn't even consider looking at another man for years, even though we were never in a committed relationship. No matter what I did or said, the guy just didn't want me or our kids.

It seems like those are the types of situations or experiences I always had. Maybe I was blessed in one way, but there would be something I lost or didn't receive almost as if it were a cost for my blessings.

I couldn't understand why I had to pay a price in order to receive a blessing and that kept me asking, "why me?".

What was I to do about it? I just started to assume that was how life worked. So I kind of just went through many years just existing. I never even knew that I was just existing. What could be the difference in just existing and living? I didn't know nor did I try to find out for a long time.

Year's of mistakes and addiction to pain medicines (opiates), led me to my rock bottom. It wasn't until then and even several more years later that I realized I wasn't truly living. I just went through the motions of day to day life, whatever that might have entailed at the time, with no desire to do anymore.

It took someone important to me, a mentor, to tell me how much he believed in me, how capable he thought I was, and how reliable and dependable I was. Those are things that I don't think I ever heard anyone say to me in all my life. It turns out, that's all it took to kick my ass into gear. I finally realized that I did have a purpose in life, I did have things I was passionate about, and I did have skills. It was time to put all of that together and start truly living my life intentionally.

Unfortunately, my mentor got cancer and within 8 months he was gone. Instead of taking everything I learned from him and continuing on my journey of self discovery and my quest for my purpose and passions, I let myself down and probably him to had he been here. It was hard to continue on a road that, in my eyes, I only had one supporter that was now gone. I didn't think anyone else would take me seriously or see me for who I really was. So I just kind of gave up for a while.

It has just been in the last few months that I have realized that the only people that lose from me not being the real me, fulfilling my purpose, and living my passions, are my kids, my husband, and mostly Me!

So if you are ready to stop just existing and are ready to really start living, discover your purpose, and realize your passions comment, message, or email me and we can take this journey together.

I have since gained a renewed sense of confidence and motivation. And although I don't think I would have ever had any of that without Charlie, I now know that even though he isn't here anymore I can still be who I am meant to be, and live my best possible life!

I look forward to you joining this journey with me!

Jackie A. Mower

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