#I'm not even trying to mock this thing

[zerodaryls]

it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.

i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.

there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.

'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.

to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.

and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.

but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.

#i try to reclaim 'feminine' words for myself in private #calling myself 'babygirl' when i need to chill out. or saying i feel pretty. or going 'she needs help' when i'm struggling lmao. #but there's still so much fucking trauma in those words from the people who've forced them on me #who've snarled in my face that GOD made me ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY and that's a WOMAN (stepdad) #who've guilted me for taking their precious perfect daughter away as if i'm fucking dead (mother) #who've mocked me and everyone like me as if we're not the experts on our own sense of self (general transphobic public) #like. i'm not a fucking man. i'm not a fucking woman. i'm nonbinary. gender is absurdity as a concept. i'm done with it. #but being called a man or a son or a guy or 'he' or WHATEVER in that vein is fine and dandy because i've never had anyone say #'that is all you can EVER be'. or worse: 'that is what GOD made you to be and you have a ROLE to fill' #(christianity pls die approximately yesterday thanku 💖) #so yeah. idk. ranting yet again about Cis Audacity. #the complete lack of empathy. the lack of curiosity even. #the condescending bullshit. the 'i understand you better than you do'. the fucking AUDACITY. #i am the expert on myself. i am the ONLY expert on myself. period. no contest. not a debate. #i understand myself better than anyone else is CAPABLE of understanding me. #i could call myself 'she' and understand that i meant it in a nonbinary way. #in fact i could even see myself letting other trans people call me feminine terms at some point in the future. when i've healed more. #but cis people? probably not. they can call me 'he' or 'they' or they can fuck off & never get to know me because they don't wanna know ME #/end rant #any terfs/bigots that try to touch this post will be swiftly blocked and quite possibly cursed. have the day you deserve <3

[supercantaloupe]

@widevibratobitch @verdiesque

can y'all either @ me or block me already this is getting exhausting

#sasha speaks #if you get upset about other people 'vagueing' you then perhaps try not doing it yourselves. use those spines of yours #here's the thing i don't even really care all that much about who wins or loses the polls #what i have an issue with is the attitude i see of 'we're better because we like these operas not those ones' #and 'this opera is objectively better than that one' when that wasn't even the point of the bracket #(it's 'preference' not 'objective quality' if such a thing can even be measured) #and the attitude of derision and meanness towards people for expressing hurt feelings towards your behavior #i don't have anything against verdi himself or his body of work as a whole really. in fact i would love to know what other people #see and love so much in his work. maybe i could see it then too #but i can only stand to have that conversation with someone who's demonstrated that they'll respect me for disagreeing #and i really have not seen that so far. for the most part notes i've seen from you just read as cliquey and self aggrandizing #or really moreover just. unpleasant. #but by all means prove me wrong. if you're willing to chat i'm all ears. but only if you're gonna be respectful #otherwise just block me already please. don't mock me.

[bluesfreakingart]

HHGHGHFJHg 300 FOLLOWERS??! THANK YOU?!?!?! also holy shit I've been COOKING...EVIL COOKING....

#Ever since I did that silly ask blog mock up I've been sitting here #thinking about it and I'm like how the fuck would I do that #I"M NOT EVEN THAT WELL VERSED IN THINGS BUT AUGHG #my demons are eating me alive and I'm trying not to be insane knowing DAMN WELL THAT'S A COMMITMENT #Will delete later? whO KNOWS #ALL I KNOW IS I'M DYING

[zoennes]

GELUKKIGE VERJAARDAG, ZOË LOOCKX 𒀭 15 FEBRUARI, 2003

#wtFOCK #Skam #Zoë Loockx #Veerle Dejaeger #Skam Daily #SkamverseDaily #I've made this in one afternoon that's why it looks so... #not good enough for Zoë's 20th birthday #I had so many quotes I wanted to use and scenes I needed to blend together and some didn't look the way I expected and ugh #however... here we have Zoë quotes x what people thought of her x what she thought of herself #when I see the despicable girls mocking her wanting to be 'perfect' x what she was always doing I actually laugh #it's ironic and I love it #mock awayyyyyyy #I'm gonna do like the poet when he had to define love: I'm not going to even try #Zoë is so important to me no writer making her do or say the most ooc thing would ever erase the amount of love I have for her #I love how pure she is #like... her intentions #she's not trying to look cool or do 'the right' thing because she's supposed to do it #she just genuinely cares about people and tries her best to not betray herself #she follows her fucking heart and she pays for it a lot of times but DAMN SHE TRIES #she's so fierce and so passionate and so unaware of how wonderful she is #I miss her like I'd miss a best friend I can't talk to anymore but I do talk to her you know #that's why I keep on writing fics because I hear them so clearly #they just have a lot to say #she's happy #she's not being written by a mad man anymore so things are going well now #and I really need to stop writing here and go to sleep #Zoë Loockx you're no accident #you're inspiring and loving and so so loved by yours truly #happy 20 to the babiest sweetest bestest blorbo I'll ever have

[chat-dank]

You have the right to like your Angbang intense. You have the right to like your Angbang fucked up. You have the right to like your Angbang unhinged. You have the right to like your Angbang harmful. But you also have a right to like your Angbang fluffy, too. You are not woobifying them if you like it soft or write a fic where they say they love each other or kiss or high five or take a bite from the same sandwich or whatever. You have a different interpretation, that’s all. You’re not committing some horrid unforgivable atrocity against your fandom. You’re not an “annoying fan” if you want your ships happy, even if other people dislike you for it, the same way you are not an “annoying fan” if you like your ships intense and other people dislike you for it. You’re not a mean person for having an opinion that the majority dislikes. You’re an individual human being who has an opinion and your opinion is worth JUST as much as every other opinion in your fandom. Because that’s how opinions work. You’re not disregarding canon any more than people who bend it to fit their other non-canon ships or headcanons or other interpretations of this ship or their interpretation of any other ship or anything else that JRRT or Christopher or the Tolkien estate disagree with. We all see a piece of media and interpret it differently. It doesn’t make any of us better or worse for it. Ship and let ship. 

#Can the #Silmarillion #fandom stop being hostile towards different depictions of their own ships #for five minutes? #Yeah another post about #angbang #Remember how the Tolkien estate was FURIOUS with the LOTR trilogy for the changes that were made? #Remember how millions of people still saw the films and fell in love with LOTR and Middle Earth and the very concept of fantasy regardless? #Children who never saw another LOTR adaptation prior and adults who remember the Bakshi version& their localized low-budget tv adaptations #all saw it and agreed that a story made with so much love still deserves to be told even if there were changes made to the source material #If a story or a headcanon or an opinion about a ship or a fanwork or an interpretation is made with love to bring people joy... #it has the right to be shared #even if those people aren't the majority by the way #Did Jackson woobify Aragorn by giving him extra angst? If so.. where are all the takes about bad fans liking woobified angsty movie Aragorn? #Remember the times before the 2-3 artists who often drew supportive angbang left when people kept giving them crap for their depictions? #And now you don't see that art anymore either on tumblr or at all. Does that make anyone happy? did anyone accomplish their goals? #Why make people leave again? Do you hate differing opinions so much that they do not deserve the right to exist? #Does it genuinely make anyone happy to try rid a fandom of all ideas they disagree with them their preexisting friends' ones? Why? #I'm so old I still remember when it was common fandom etiquette to NOT tag the thing you were insulting without the word 'anti' before it. #...Do I need to keep going or can we ship and let ship now and NOT mock people for having a different take on a FICTIONAL pairing?

[50c14lly4nx10u5]

hmmm *finds old spotify playlist* what if i listened to it

why is there an mlp based song on here

#because i first found it through the recommended songs #and i didn't realize it was mlp based at first #when i did figure it out i liked it too much said fuck it and kept it in my playlist #because it's a bop #50c14l speaks #i still feel uncomfortable liking mlp stuff cuz my brother essentially bullied me out of liking it when i was younger #and even now when i'm trying to feel more comfortable liking what i like; including mlp; he still mocks me #try not to let it get to me but :((((( #i'm more comfortable liking steven universe; gravity falls; amphibia and the owl house cuz HE liked those things as well #ohhhhhhhhhhhh he was complaining about not having anything to watch maybe we can watch atla together so i can rewatch it and finally finish #shall prepose that... at the beginning of summer cuz school has me too stressed right now to be committed to watching a show

[byanyan]

byan gets into a lot of trouble at school and, while yes, most of the time it is their own fault, there are plenty of times where they get in shit for retaliating and protecting themself against those who intentionally harass & try to hurt them. even in these situations though, byan tends to take the brunt of any punishment because they don't bother trying to explain that they were simply defending themself. used to not being listened to or believed, to having the blame fall on them because they're the one known for their attitude & outbursts, they no longer see any point in wasting their breath fighting to explain what really happened - they'd rather just be given whatever punishment lies in store for them so they can get out of the principal's office and on with their day.

similarly, they won't speak out when they're being targeted & bullied. it's a waste of time & effort, and they see 'tattling' on some other student who's making their life miserable as a pathetic, weak thing to do, an admission of defeat - even when the other's actions are literally causing them harm. they'd rather take care of it themself. violently. ...something which has led to their expulsion from at least two different schools.

#they've broken at LEAST one kid's nose for mocking their struggle with reading #no one said their retaliation isn't often excessive #even if it is sometimes justified. SOMETIMES. #anyway u know me I'm in bed curled up trying to sleep & being attacked with thoughts that I have to write down so I don't lose them #byan is used to having their problems ignored or made out to be less than they really are #bc that's how it's been for most of their life #as a younger kid they definitely TRIED to speak out when they're wrongfully accused but #by 17 their rep has only gotten worse so they're believed less and less so what's the fuckin point in fighting it you know? #even if they get kicked from this school there's always another they'll get sent to. and another after that one too. #(also they hate to admit when someone is affecting them so when someone makes it their mission to make their life hell #they'd rather just get revenge & literally fight it out. the problem there though? they don't always come out on top. #and ultimately that makes the situation so much worse for them) #ahdjgjsg these thoughts are kinda scattered forgive me it's sleep time #━━ ˟ ⊰ ✰ HEADCANON ⋮ DANGER IN THE FABRIC OF THIS THING I MADE.

[eggmeralda]

late spring true love by sadness is genuinely the song ever in all of history. ik I say that about every song I like but there is something about this one...

#okay basically do you get random vibes that you can't tell if they're memories or you saw them in a dream or saw them on tv as a kid #but they give the strongest feelings ever and it's so annoying bc you don't know where it came from but you've felt them for years #like are they memories of a past life are they memories from when your brain wasn't developed enough to actually remember #are they pre-memories that will gradually get clearer the closer you get to death and eventually it'll all make sense the day you die #anyway. certain songs trigger these ''memories'' more than others #and this song is so intense it feels like the memories are right in front of me fully clear like a painting in a gallery with a description #but the description is in a language i can't speak and maybe someone else can speak it but I'm the only one who's ever seen the #painting and it's too abstract to describe to anyone else so I'm the only one who can try and work out what the description says #and the painting is almost mocking me bc it literally has the answer to where these memories came from but i just can't understand it #yeah that's how this song feels #i haven't even known it for a month yet but i have so many things to say about it #ramble

[sensazioneultra]

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#having bpd is all fun and games until... #well no it's never fun and games #but my point was #i truly truly truly hate not being able to believe ppl care about me #like you can tell me 3000 times i won't believe you i can barely believe my mum loves me (she does i'm like mostly sure of it) #(at least when it's not a super bad day or when she doesn't forget my bday) #anyway like... idk. i just don't get why anyone would care about me #i don't even care about me #yeah it's a very bad self loathing time lately like worse than usual #and i try telling myself what i feel isn't a reflection of reality #but god!!!!! i don't have a therapist telling me that over n over n over i haven't had one for so long #and me telling myself really doesn't work #i mock myself when i tell myself things like 'maybe they don't hate you?' #i TRY not to like genuinely. i tell myself to STOP BEING MEAN #but i just get bombarded with mean (to myself) thoughts all day so it's really hard to fight them all #i barely fight 6% of them #sorry idk where i'm going w this i rly need therapy but i don't trust therapists and the likes anymore so . mh #it's weird cause i don't feel ppl around me understand my bpd n all related issues #and yeah i don't talk abt it so okay my fault but it's also #idk i'm scared to talk abt it bc i sound insane. i am insane. and the only person who i can confide my insane thoughts to is myself #everyone else would just hate me judge me be disgusted be repulsed find me weird etc etc #i used to have more friends w bpd btw #it never ended too well LMAOOOO but i do sometimes miss it #cause while yeah we were fucked up n i was honesty doing terribly and now i'm better (doesn't feel like it rn but #i am) #i kinda felt more... free to be myself including the bad and the ugly? does that make sense #it's actually insane how much i repress nowadays like especially irl but not only.. i just PUSH PUSH PUSH everything down so ppl don't see #just how badly my mind works i pretenddddd aaaaall day long it's exhausting #you know i just... kinda wanna scream and spill my guts figurative and literally sometimes. just. let it all out #until i am but a shell an empty container and i can maybe be at peace

[queerloquial]

on the one hand i do like that tumblr's 'for you' page is inept enough that it mostly shows me the same posts over and over again, and often ones that i've already seen on my regular dash. good job not obsessively tracking my site usage, tho i Am kinda bored of reading the same posts for several weeks (please, i am not interested in post-death im0dna fluttering or all the key1eth c3 posts)

on the other hand, the times it deviates it shows me the Worst fuckin opinions and Will Not stop no matter how many times i hit the 'gtfo' button

#misc tag #tonight's bitching brought to you by trying to kill time and instead having to block a fuckshit of blogs #bc while i Am interested in [niche community] it continually shows posts from #[asshole side of niche community's discourse] and not [normal people in said community] #also fsr today started with a Lot of extremely granular mogai flag/coining posts #like granular to the point i instinctively reeled away and had to remind myself #that No they are not Hurting Anyone so Don't Be A Bitch #not even when your first thought looking at their term is 'jfc not one part of that is a recognizable affix' #(i just. i think if you have to detail explain every syllable of your term it is not a useful term) #((but maybe it's just Not For Me and i shouldn't complain about it when it doesn't affect me)) #((bc mocking things just bc i don't understand them is a dick move)) #((and i'm not Better Than Them for having relatively normative identities))

[mordcore]

Why white people don't like to talk about race: A Theory.

definition of "racialization" for the sake of this thread: for me what it means when a person gets "racialized" is that they are being put in a box labelled with whatever race people decide to assign them from the outside and kind of objectified/reduced to that label. i'd also argue that there are different degrees of this experience.

being racialized fucking sucks. if you're a person of color, i don't think you need me to tell you.

but most of us white folks probably don't experience it a lot. being confronted with the fact that i am white; based on my skin color which is: innate, out of my control, undeniable and immediately obvious to everyone who can see me; that is uncomfortable! even more so if it comes with being put in a box/assigned the label from the outside, and all the assumptions that might carry. i'm not sure if i understand the topic of white guilt very well, i believe it has something to do with the awareness that our ancestors or even just people in our "box"/racial category have done or are doing awful racist things, and with feeling guilty about it, but obviously incapable of changing other peoples past actions, which creates a conflict -- me personally? i refuse to feel guilty for things i had no part in. or i try to at least. but it is a sore spot and accusations of being guilty for being white hurt, and sometimes i also misinterpret things to be accusations when they are only pointing out this conflict to me.

this conflict is likely a part of the discomfort associated with being in the "white" category. now i know most white people don't get confronted with racialization very much, and maybe that is why so many of us struggle to act normal when we do. i also don't know how accurate my theories are and how much i can generalize my observations about myself, because of my specific trauma about the topic. idk if other white folks feel the same as i or the same level of it. but i think we could benefit from observing without judgement, in ourselves, how it feels to be categorized as white from the outside. do i have a knee-jerk reaction to it? what is my first impulse when this happens? am i trying to push any feelings away? which ones? why? is there an inner conflict?

for example, i feel a conflict between my need to be/believe that i am a good not-racist person, and my feelings of discomfort about the topic, that i try to push down because i feel like it doesn't fit who i'm supposed to be, therefore inadvertently deflecting whenever someone is trying to have a productive conversation. or out of fear of doing that, i fall into the fawn trauma response and feel like everything i'm doing is wrong, and like feeling like that is also wrong, and there goes the spiral.

i believe that most of us white people would benefit if we ask ourselves these questions, and our friends and loved ones of color might also benefit if we do, as well as antiracist activism in general.

#damn that was a tough nut to crack #to access and understand these feelings in myself i mean #ive been struggling with this topic for years and oh yeah i had to work through some trauma first to be able to even get here #despite what my fawn response is trying to tell me i think this is a good thing to have written and that i will not be punished if i pub #lish it #and despite it being 2 am i wrote something that seems coherent! whoa! #i actually typed into a text editor for 2 hours until i had sorted my thoughts and worded the point i was trying to make #and then i pasted together the relevant paragraphs #adhd hack discovered! #i've also decided not to disclose the 'specific trauma about the topic' #because i realized i feel the need to prove.. something? #basically it's an impulse that doesn't seem productive to the point i'm trying to make so i left it out #it was interesting to type it out though cause ive never. done that before. to see it all in one place is weirdly cathartic. #uhm ANYWAY #my stuff #white guilt #white fragility #btw i believe that mocking these feelings is counterproductive to solving these issues #i know it did set me back! #target audience: white people who want to do better and dont know how. secondarily; anyone who is interested in the topic

[cooltapes]

It’s been a while since I had to budget for food shopping as tightly as I used to (not because we’re rich LMAO but we do have a variety of helpful factors) so maybe things have ballooned more than I even realised (looks at lettuce) but I swear I see a lot of people being like “how could you possibly buy groceries for [2-4 people] at under [triple digit number]???” and I think ... easily ... ? Like I understand I’m not as time-poor as many folks (which is one of the reasons I’m just poor-poor) so I’m not saying “the solution is to cook your own beans” or anything, but it’s not like I cook all my stuff from scratch and these budgets still always seem totally doable to me.

I think a lot of people are just convinced, by their upbringing, education, and advertising, that certain foods/commodities are things they Need for ... idk ... balanced nutrition or something else equally vague, so it just doesn’t... occur to them? That they could be eating something else. I’m also not sitting here like “simply forego every single pleasure in your life, it’s not hard to budget”, like the budget I’m imagining includes chocolates snacks etc or whatever??

I know I’m sort of glossing over other household expenses and focusing on food. Plus I’m not a parent but I understand feeding kids is often more expensive, if not because they’re growing then because they just Don’t Get It and might not grasp the need to ration stuff like food between meals and it can be hard to deal with them eating it all in the first half of the week then whining or something. Especially if they’re sports/active kids. And I know from experience that if you have any food allergies or intolerances you can expect prices of some foods to simply balloon. But I can’t tell who’s out of touch here - me, who has hoarded so much pantry/freezer food that my day-to-day budget seems much lower, or perhaps shoppers who grew up middle-class or adjacent and now struggle to even imagine where they could be cutting costs

Edit: I will admit I am probably also underestimating how my ability to cook at least passably/not being a picky eater is contributing to this

#I think perhaps also when I see people talking about 'how are you spending less than $XXX on food??' #my brain automatically defaults to a 'I literally have ONLY $XXX max to spend on food' situation #and so I go ??? are you ok??? I can give you tips but like are you going hungry or what #because my baseline assumption is that people are already trying to shop cheaply #so anyone who needs to budget this tightly is doing so out of necessesity #but then I remember a lot of these people are just ambiguously trying to 'save money' #and they probably don't pay that much attention to their food budget #they just look at their expenses at the end of the month like 'sure is hard to keep the food budget under $XXX' #which is not a judgement or anything. it's just not an experience I can really relate to #if I go over my budget I'm very aware of when/why LOL #also wow *necessity LMAO #anyway I should try making some mock food budgets for different household makeups #even if just to stay in touch with how much things I don't really buy that often cost these days #it is super funny to see 1L of soy milk being consistently as cheap as/cheaper than dairy milk these days tho lmaoo #just because I remember alt milk being one of the things that was so often cited as being 'too expensive' way back when

[clownpassing]

i hate it here (inside my stupid brain)

#txt #op #obsessing over them. as per usual #whybdoes my brain do this #i want to get high but i know that will make it worse so i wont 😔 just sit here and focus ig #i cant believe its only 10am #ive made up a situation in my mind where they hate me even though that is a completely unfounded belief #i also just feel like i will never ever get to participate. because my role in god's life is a silly little sexually frustrated jester #so i'm not funny to him anymore if i ever get to try what i want #'i am worthy of my desire' yeah sure. everybody but me #that painting mocks me every day #i want to believe its true but if that were the case then why have things been this frustrating for like 4 years. lol.

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

#warm up #writeblr #this one has bothered me for a bit #any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime #hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying #as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing #like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts #why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge #''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it #ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace #if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!! #men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible #ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing #the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....