#Othe rpeople's things

[moonbyulsstuff]

Uh hi I was wondering if u could do a headcanon about s/o who is cubby and very insecure about there body And how lookism characters would react? If u already did it than pls ignore this! Anyways have a good day 😄

How They Would React To Their Chubby S/O Being Insecure Headcanons.

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Characters: Daniel Park, Goo Kim, Zack Lee, Vasco, Eli Jang.

Daniel Park:

Daniel knows how it feels, he has been there.

Looking at himself in the mirror with hatred of his own body.

So when he found out that you have been feeling like that for the past few days, he felt guilty.

Not being able to comfort you at the very least.

So, he comforted you. Whispering you sweet things to your ear.

Making you feel like a absolute king/queen.

And everyday, he compliment you every day. To make you feel less insecure about yourself.

And also, for you to feel better about your body.

Because in his eyes, you are just perfect.

He would be making you blush, as he would giggle at your reaction.

He just absolutely loves you to death and just to love to your flustered reaction.

Goo Kim:

He would be absolute shock.

He would be just complimenting the hell out of you.

Kissing all over your body and face.

Goo doesn't want you to be insecure of yourself.

He doesn't want you to think of your own body so badly, he loves you so much.

He would definitely pinch and massage your chubs, and telling you on how cute you are.

The two of you cuddle on the bed or by the couch while watching TV, as Goo would whisper sweet nothings to you.

And reminding that you are beautiful and that he would love you the way you are.

Zack Lee:

He would hug you, tight, like really tight.

He would kiss you all over your face, and then go on a long rant of how much he loves you and how beautiful you are.

It would go on for 2 hours actually.

Zack knows how insecure you are about yourself, will all the relentless teasing and bullying that comes from your weight.

I mean, Zack has done that before. Bullying othe rpeople.

But he changed himself, he changed his way and he's embarrassed on the way he used to act.

So, Zack would cook up your favorite meal.

He knows how hard it is on you, he could hear you degrade yourself while looking at the mirror.

So it has been Zack mission to make sure you are less insecure of yourself.

Vasco:

This poor baby would panicking and really just asking you questions making sure you are all right.

He would be in tears, telling you, that you are beautiful and shouldn't mind what others say about you.

He would be kissing your body, your face, just everywhere. He would kiss it.

While telling you on why he loves this part of your body, and etc.

You would just be in his lap, cuddling each other.

As Vasco tries to get the those thoughts out of your head.

Eli Jang:

This man would...

When he found out about what was going through that head of yours.

He was determined to make you talk.

Eli would make you sit down and make you talk about your insecurities with him.

And when you hesitated but eventually caved in, and eventually told him.

He would listened attentively and comfort you throughout.

Kissing your knuckles, and telling you on how beautiful you are.

You would leaning against him as he caress your hair, whispering sweet nothings to you.

Eli doesn't want you to feel about your body, just because it looks like that.

He wants you to knows you are beautiful with that body, and he will love you no matter what.

#lookism #webtoon #🌙moonbyulsstuff works #gn reader #x gn reader #gender neutral reader #x gender neutral reader #eli jang #daniel park #vasco #zack lee #goo kim #chubby reader #chubby gn reader #chubby gender neutral reader #headcanons #requested

[hunting-songs]

Muse Bravery Checklist: Senritsu Döne Reblog or repost and fill out the form all about what your muse would/wouldn’t be brave enough to do. Then tag any friends you’d like to see do it as well! Note that some of these aren’t smart things to do but in this case, bravery and risk are both included.

Tagged By: A little Wildbirdie ! Tagging: @rake-rake @skarletchains @bewitchingbaker @nephytale @gyofukuki @jxgi @uzumakiuser @kiigan @distortedkilling @yeonban @swxpped @zealctry @muddsludge @curseisms @saiakv ....AND YOU!

My muse would ... [X] Spend the night in a haunted building [X] Go into a burning/collapsing building to save someone [X] Take a shortcut through a dark alleyway [X] Stay calm with a weapon pointed at them [X] Be confident defending themselves from an attack [X] Touch a dangerous exotic animal [X] Take someone else’s punishment to protect them [X] Travel to an unknown place by themselves [X] Spend a night in the woods alone [ ] Witness (or join) a seance [X] Play a scary video game in the dark alone [X] Explore a pitch black catacomb with only one light [ ] Contact the spirit of someone they once knew* [X] Spend the night in a cemetery [X] Sit in a room with one hundred creepy dolls [X] Hang their feet over the edge of a tall building [X] Swim in dark, murky waters without being able to touch the bottom [X] Be covered in spiders, snakes, or other insects [X] Go looking for the source of a mysterious sound late at night [X] Spend an hour sealed up in a coffin [X] Go sailing miles from shore without any communication [ ] Use a Ouija board* [X] Go diving in a dark, underwater cave [X] Climb through a long tunnel just big enough to fit through [X] Explore a spot where cult rituals were performed [X] Go walking late at night, alone [X] Spend the night in a home where someone was murdered [X] Go surfing on the Dark Web [X] Play an urban legend game (bloody mary, the midnight man, etc...) [X] Stay home alone with a suspected killer on the loose [X] Climb a dangerous mountain where many others have died on their way to the top [X] Explore ancient ruins where strange things have happened [X] Touch a supposedly cursed object [X] Check out a creepy cellar or attic [X] Cross an unstable bridge over a huge drop [X] Pick up a hitchhiker in the middle of the night

Apparently Senritsu is Fearless! Which is in itself for one thanked to her personality and recklessness. And on the other hand it is really hard to duprise Senritsu, as she usually gets a very fair warnng beforehand throug her keen eyes, so most things do not scare her as she easily always knows more than othe rpeople about a situation. Senritsu also might be reckless on her own, but she is also a deeply caring person, so when someone is faster at announcing their reckless plans she will quickly step up and put her foot down to keep the other person from doing the reckless action to protect them and also correct her own behaviour to not lead the other person on. However if she is on her own and with noone to look after, Senritsu very much is a Hunter through and through with the survival-instinct of a Lemming.

Contact the spirit of someone they once knew+Use a Ouija board: Senritsu does not believe in an afterlife. She knows that when someone dies there sometimes is left behind parts of their aura. However, that aura is not sentient and only goes after the strongest emotion they had at the time of the owners death. Accordingly what is left behind is never "That Person" the aura belonged to. It is a wish and a feeling that is left behind but never "That person". So Post-mortem-Nen is not a Ghost but an abstract echo without own thoughts or motives. Therefor Senritsu would never try to contact spirits or use a Ouija board because she simply thinks that something like ghosts does not exists.

#hunting-songs: headcanon #hunting-songs

[dent-de-leon]

Molly seems like the type to wear othe rpeople clothes if he likes the person at all. But Molly is also short-ish in my mind (5'5-5'6 maybe), so I can imagine him absolutely drowning in those clothes.

YES I ABSOLUTELY CHOOSE TO BELIEVE MOLLY IS SMALLER, AND HE LOVES TO STEAL EVERYONE ELSE'S BIG COATS AND CLOAKS FOR WARMTH!! Adore that one panel in the comic where Molly is standing up on tiptoe and he's still so much smaller than Yasha, it's just the cutest thing. And I love the thought of him borrowing her big fur shrug and just looking so tiny ;;

Also!! Animated Mighty Nein let Molly be smaller than Caleb, which is very fun and cute to me. I'd just love to see him in wrapped up in Caleb's oversized coat and being all snug and cozy--

#no thoughts head empty #tiny tealeaf getting all snug in caleb's big coats and yasha's furs only-- #small molly headcannon is very important to me i love that animated nein decided to make it real that was very cool of them

[desiresign]

the dream started sort of going to grocery store with my mom,was checking things out at a register and depite buying only a couple things, saved like 20 dollars? was like huh i dont save that much money with regular purchases. anyways was about to leave and this tiny old lady comes behind a closed register with some items. im like, 'hey, the register is closed and youre not supposed to be behind the register' and then all a sudden she starting morphing into a younger woman, and was actually an employee. i was like. oh. and someone next to me was like 'heh, you must be new here' and i got pissed off about it

next we're in the car, its me, my mom, and my brother. we're driving and...everything is themed!? like everything is decorated. one area had multicolored trees with rainbows shooting out of them, one area was like a snowy winter land, the lorax theme, stuff like that. it culminated in going to an area, where it was a video game, but played out IRL. the best part of the dream.

i can compare it to smash bros world of light, but touhou. we each got a character to play as, and the goal was to clear at minimum a certain amount before failing. i was ichirin. i should note that unzan wasnt there at all, and ichirin was good at physical moves and 'magic' moves.

the levels werent really levels at all. they were all jumbled together, and vaguely sorted into rainbow colors. there would be multiple colors per base color. there wasnt just "green", there was green, lime, dark green, thing slike that. the colors aligned with the enemies, and the enemies were from anything. example, one of lime green tiers enemies was mimi from super paper mario. it was a free for all battle, and by the way, everyone else was there too. othe rpeople who were different characters.

i finished up as ichirin, and the thing was when you were done oyu had a gravestone shaped award. mine wasnt spawning in properly so i was mad about that. so i pulled out my phone and started yelling about the 'game' on discord... and how happy..... and i needed anyone who was a taoist character to show me their unique award right now!!

finally the end of the dream, switched to a tojiko pov. mikotoji seemed to be real in this moment... she was eating a burger... and she was like, i wish miko was here with her handsome face and nice smile... and then was too emabrrassed to continue.

#* #dreams

[actualbird]

merry xmas eve kuya zak!!!! sorry in advance if this is filled wiht typos i had my very first bottles of soju and san mig light tonight haha.

hope ur noche buena was fun <33 hope this year was good to u and i hope the next year is gonna b good to both of us

also if ur willing to divulge what was it first drinking experience like??? what did u drink and with whom and what did u feel the day after etc etc idk now that im tipsy i wan know how othe rpeople experience it

neway thank u for being here in general ur blog and ur fics brought me so much joy and im glad u made every wip and published fuc and every analysis and every silly and not so silly but sad headcanons

lotsa love !!!!

that one marikenyo In Ur Inbox All The Time

wahhh merry christmas, inbox-marikenyo :DDD!!! i saw this ask on christmas eve but during then i too was also drunk off a few cocktails and promptly passed out a little bit later orz

i had a great noche buena!! i kept falling into a food coma because i kept eating so much, as the lord intended <3 JHVSKJHFVSD. i hope you also had a great christmas eve and are having a lovely christmas day today ^w^

and as for ur q, my first Real drinking experience was at a party i went to on my last year of college actually in 2020 right before the pandemic hit omg, kinda "late" by some people's standards. i say Real drinking experience, cuz prior to that party i did drink sometimes, but never enough to get drunk!

at that party though, i was with my girlfriend and it was the party of her college org and i was continually handed drinks. i Definitely Got Drunk.

what did i drink? no idea. a mutual friend of my gf and i was mixing the drinks and i never ask whats in stuff, i just drink whatever tastes sweet enough or is drowned in enough soda that i can stomach the bitterness of whatever alcohol content is within.

how was i when i was drunk? the same way i am when i get drunk nowadays: absolute disaster jahsfvasfhasvkfjh. i tend to get loud and lose all my filter when im drunk. also clingy. two things i remember clearly at that party are

1 ) my girlfriend went to the bathroom and i sat on the floor texting another friend about how i missed my girlfriend So Much and i love her So Much. later, when my gf had to leave early before me, i loudly announced "IM GOING HOME, MY GIRLFRIEND IS GONE SO I DONT WANNA BE HERE ANYMORE"

2 ) i was talking to the mutual friend who was mixing the drinks and he was talking about how he plays billiards. i remembered how billiards gloves looked like (it's like a normal glove but two fingers are out in the open) and i said something along the lines of "oh my god so you wear the WHORE GLOVES. why are billiards gloves so fucking SLUTTY"

thats pretty much how i am when im drunk up to this day ajhfvajshf but i seldom drink enough to get to That point, basically only at parties since like, im not the one paying for the drinks LMAO. when i drink lots, i get drunk. but when i drink little, i just get sleepy.

and when i drink enough to get drunk, the next morning always has me regretting Every Decision Ive Ever Made because i always...always....forget to drink water the night before....people around me try their Best to hydrate me while im drinking, but i get stubborn and forgetful and when im handed water i just put it down instinctively and look for something sweeter and usually with alcohol in it and im caught in a vicious cycle that ends with a fuckoff terrible hangover

but it's nothing a soft boiled egg breakfast cant fix HAHA

hope that answered ur q :DDD!! and thank you for the well wishes and the kind words ;v; im really glad that the stuff i make here can bring joy, and i really hope i can make more things in the future

sending u all the love too, inbox marikenyo!!!

#asks #inboxmarikenyo!anon #i can start tagging u as this na if ever bumalik ka sa inbox ko HAHA merry christmasss!! #cw drinking #cw alcohol

[nyandela-catalogue]

yeag!!! right now im doing a phone drawing of my trauma animal!!! its a mole!!!!!!! mainly cause

a) my bad feels usually tend to affect me most at night

b) my bad feelings are usually blind to whatever else is going on sround me, they cant see all the good things in life and only focus on what i hear, which are usually bad things

c) my bad feelings hide around othe rpeople, cause they dont like to be seen in fear of being taken advantage of or feeling threatened.

wowie !!!

aww, i wanna give your lil guy (and you) a nice cozy blanket and some snacks 🫂

-Jonah(host)

#og #ask #hoodiewearer09 #host post

[noro-noro-noro]

i'm in that part of my "having dreams and writing them down" cycle where i have really long detailed dreams but i just don't write them down (3 days in a row now) but i want to break the cycle

in this dream kabru dungeon meshi was there for some reason. don't remember who why or how - like what his relationship was to me.

anyway this first part took place in the typical sunset-like dreamworld of my old neighborhood + my dad's neighborhood mashed together. there was a classroom with the lights out but the projector on. there were othe rpeople too. i tdid not want to be in class but i had to be ...? eventually i got out, but it was night now & i wasn't sure where to go. my sister & i had fled mom's neighborhood originally. why.?

then: i was visiting a friend in a huge city neither of us had ever been to before. everything was in a different language, so i was having a hard time navigating the public transportation, though a lot of people there spoke english so it wasn't as bad as it could have been. all the buses were dark blue. for some reason my friend & i weren't staying together, so we had to meet up at this one park every time. i think the bus line i had to take was route 5 .

the first day we met up as normal. the bus even stayed in a parking lot the whole time just for me! anyway we went off to the right to like the edge of the town. it was really dusty there. there was something there as well.

the second day we were goign to go bback that way, but the bus didn't wait in the parking lot politely this time & my friend wasn't there also. his friends were though, so we walked around and chatted a bit? and then my friend got there. we went out of town again. then i was on a low-flying plane that was going to crash in the fuckin wasteland out there & my friend was on the way to get me. fortunately, plane crashes are only fatal if there's a lot of people on the plane! if there's less, then it's fine. the plane crashed & i got out. the ccity skyscrapers were all in the distance, but it was again just an empty field of construction style orange dirt in the afternoon. my friend picked me up. still some kind of threat in the area.

I remembered the evil! There was a guy I was helping out - but it turns out he had weird ulterior motives. While me & my friend were able to return from the outer city wasteland unscathed, my other friends (kabru, this is why i remembered him & rodya) he took them. and by the time i went to him to ask for them back, he'd already put fed them to an aberration of Nothing There from lobotomy corp. once it eats you, you continue to live but you are irrevocably a part of it. your face grows out like a tumor and you have fucked up eyes, but you can say things - are they what you want to say or what it's saying? anyway they warned me about...something.

then: i as at my highschool at simultaneously day and night nd evening. there was some kind of event going on - like a mini fair! but it was bad. the event was bad. the main event something bad was going to happen. nothing there was going to come & devour everyone. idk if i was there to stop it or what. my name was on a little flag - everybody got a shoutout! eveyr single person that participated got a shoutout. the interior of my highschool resembled my elementary school now. i was with someone trying to convince them i knew it was bad, but...?

#dreams

[decayaway2007]

CONTINUED

OKAY SO ‘DOORBELL’ ALSO HAD THE FUCKING BALLS TO SAY MORE SHITTT I WISH I SCREENSHOTTED THIS SHIT CAUSE I DELETED MY OLD INSTA ACC IDK WHY LOL....

yeahh so she was talking to me and she was like people would ONLY ever like you for your looks, and that the only reason she talked to me was cause she thought i was pretty aND ASSUMED I WOULD BE POPULAT (HOW SHE WAS SO WRONG LOL) AND THAT SHE WOULD USE ME TO BECOME FRIENDS WITH MY SUPPOSED POPULAR FRIENDS TFFF!?!??!?!??!?! WHAT THE FUCK LOLLLL!?!?!? AND SHE SAID IT LIKE IT WAS A GOOD THING OMLLLLL

OKAY MOVING ON TO OTHE RPEOPLE,my teacherrr (love u mr alonso) YEAHHH HAS SEATING PLANS  the first few classes we do like a random shuffle so itc ahnges I KEPT GETTING SAT NEXT TO THIS ANNOYING ASS DUDE, WE WILL CALL HIM apple???/ okay the first time we have to sit and second time he sits next to me hes ANNOYING BUT DOESNT BOTHER ME, OKAY SO THE THIRD TIME WE GOT SAT NEXT TO EACH OTHER this fucking retard was like ‘christian can you switch seats wth me’ so he wouldnt have tp sit next to me, HE WAAS FULL ON COMPLAINING IM JUST LIKE BITCH!!! I DONT WANT TO SIT NEAR U EITHER!! and then the person next to him asks why you dont u want to sit next to her AND HE SAID ‘shes so quiet she literally doesnt talk’ OKAY THATS KINDA TRUE SO FAIR ENOUGH. BUT TFFFF U EXPECT ME TO SAY TO UR ANNOYING ASS DUDE LIKE SRSLY WHY WOULD EVER TALK TO U!??!?!? so entitled istgggg.

okay one sec i gotta hate on alonso for a teennyyy tinyyy bit so he always makes us like answer random questions NOT GOOD FOR ME CAUSE IM LITERLALLY ANXIOUSLY ON THE VERGE OF TEARS EACH TIME CAUSE ITS SO RLLY HUMILATING FOR ME LOL, and yeah i remember that encounter with ‘apple’’ i nearly started fuckingggg cryyijnnnggg in front of everyone cause the teacher makes me go up and draw on this graph orr smtt ITS ACTUALLY PAINNN, it reminds me of last year where i used to literally have full meltdowns if i had to present anything in front of the class, mr schintzel LITERALLY TRIED TO FORC E ME TO DO THIS GAME THINGY IN FRONT OF THE CLASS AND I COULD FEEL MY EYES WATERING ITS SOO BADD,, god idk why im sensitive and take everything to heart all the times ://// YEAHH I SORTA GOTTA BETTER BUT IT FEEL LIKE WHEN I GET THOSE FULL ON ANXIOUS MELTDOWNS AHHH!!!!

YEAH AND THIS WAS THIS TIME HE ASKED ME TO COME TO THE FRONT DO THIS IDK LIKE GRAPH OVEMENT THING IN FRONT OF PEOPLE LIKE U WOULD HAVE To walk around and stuff in front of the whole effing class im like ohh hell no this shit isnt rlly happening right////??? DUDE I FREAKED OUT LIKE I JUST FROZE I COULDNT MOVE THANK GOD IF UR OUT THERE HE HAD THE LIGHTS OF IN THAT ROOM SERIOUSLY CAUSE I ALMOST BURST OUR CRYING. i seriously dont get why im like this cause nobody in that class acts like that :/// i cant even talk to the people in the class im just so unconfident and nervous all the time

okay but i just feel so uncomfortable and sad in that class lol.

[kittkaleen]

Mood: In the deep end

#Othe rpeople's things #Daily Mood forecast

[marinette-buginette]

I am so tired of fic writers from USA being held to another standard than the rest of the world. When non-USA people write fics set in the USA we have to research everything, from the school system to the medical system to foods and so on. But when USA people write fic set literally anywhere else they couldn't give less shits about it. So sure lets make people pay with dollars, go bankrupt because of hospital bills and whatnot. Basically lets write this story in a way that is set in the USA and then slap another country 's name on it and pat ourselves on the back. Why be bothered to do the most basic level of research that can be achieved by putting four words into google and getting an answer without having to even open any link. Basic stuff like the currency used is the absolute bare minimum you can do and sorry not sorry if you can't be bothered to do just basic research for your story setting that's just lazy. And when any of this points are raised, some dickhead always comes with flimsy excuses like "oh, but that's what they are used to" as if the rest of the world isn't used to other things but still research their stuff when setting a fic in USA. And don't even pretend for a second that if I wrote a fic set in USA and I made the characters pay in euro, I wouldn't have one billion people jumping at my throat for not getting it right. Quit being so fucking entitled and do the bare minimum of research, it is not some monumental effort and google is right there, it takes five minutes

#it is true and you know it dont bother to @ me #yes i snapped #it is not strictly about ml but reading fics in this fandom for so long sure made me see some stuff #so tired of this fucking shit #just so you know guys once when i was 13 and i was writing one of my first fics i literally got a super long comment full of insults #wanna know why? #because i spelled donut with the british spelling #that was a thing #so dont even fucking pretend that othe rpeople asking usa writers for basic stuff being researched is too much #and no the post above doesnt apply to every writer ine xistence out there #and no it isnt only a select few who cant be bothered to reearch #flavia is talking shit

[cayennecrush]

you know what, i already made it weird LETS JUST GO THE FULL MILE 

honestly its not as jarring without color lmfao

#steven universe #jasper #garnet #i mean should i really even tag the others lmfao #THIS IS TERRIBLE #I HATE THE LAST POST I MADE SO MUCH ITS SO AWFUL LMFAO #ITS SO WEEEEEIIIRD GAHGWEIOHGOWHG #im glad that so many othe rpeople find it cursed #ITS THE WORST THING IVE EVER DONE #and least now its just jasper jasper jasper andjasper #goddamn it need to draw like 8 new things to push that pic down lol GET IT OUT OF MY FACE

[missrandomdreamer]

When you and your classmate dont know what the hell you are doing on a final paper so you just BS and hope for the best:

#literally texting my friend #we have no idea what we are doing #teacher didnt explain have of the things in class #didnt give us guidelines #just told us to look at othe rpeoples work and go off of that #we haev 24 hours left to finish it #still have two other papers to finish #and im distracted #this isnt going well

[ohlawsons]

i was tagged by @mythalsfavour for the 7-7-7 meme the other day and i’ve already done this for the only fic i’ve touched in ages, so how about a little bit with the local fantasy disaster squad since i’m working on calli’s story again?

re: tagging, if you have an original work you’re up for sharing a bit of consider yourself tagged!

Go to page 7 (paragraph 7, if not that long) of your WIP then go to the 7th line, share 7 lines, and tag 7 more writers to continue the challenge.

“There are a lot of tunnels,” Callista said, by way of an explanation, stubbornly ignoring the fact that she was fairly certain Eiluwen had meant the joke for her specifically.

“Physical magic humor,” Kimo added, a waver to his voice. “You wouldn’t understand.”

Still leaning into Callista, Mya reached over and threw an arm around Kimo’s shoulders, pulling him over. “You alright, kid?” she asked, keeping her voice surprisingly low. 

“I, uh. I get claustrophobic underground. At least, I think I do. I don’t know. I’ve always managed to stay, you know, up here.”

#chapter seven has THREE different magical puns in it #it is my favorite thing about lu's character #bc big fancy powerful immortal queen who has literally created an entire school of magic #and she puts PUNS in the name #and names districts of her city and sections of her home with multilingual puns that basically no one else will get #bc like two othe rpeople actually speak the language bc it's Old As Balls #what a nerd i love her #brooke rambles #brooke replies #the writing saga continues #original writing tag #wip stuff

[taketheringtolohac]

i hate being in groups with people who are overachievers and who breath down othe rpeoples backs for things im sorry im in a bad place right now but literally i cannot do my fucking work faster than this thanks bitch!

#truly hate it here! why would she think having a semester of all group work is a good idea hello! #roxy talks

[nyaruhodou]

what are some things that make you happy and bring light into ur life?

MY FRIENDA!!!!!!! kate @somanypens jams @minorphobe charlie @desterea delra @sherliams sherliams mx gjn @kurapikawithagun @tristks @arkromes ellie @harunodyke charlies @luznyaceda wini @bairuoyao and . harshini @killusaur othe rpeople im sorry im very drunk so antbodu eslse who ive ever talked to youre my friend and i love youuuuuuuuuuuy

#drunk neff

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

My entire dashboard is still filled with people attacking stevie nicks for talking about harry. I genuinely think some people just enjoy hating on powerful women because she has literally never said a bad word about him yet blogs with thousands of followers are telling her to "stfu" and "leave him alone" and they sound like Twitter rads saying that in my opinion

While I’m sure gender is part of it, I think it’s actually much worse than that.  The longer I’ve been in fandom the more I’ve come to realise that some fans really believe that they should get to control how other people talk about the person they’re a fan of.

For some people it’s just a rhetorical device and they haven’t fully committed to the position that they’re saying.  But if you start to look at how people use @ it becomes clear that large numbers of people do actually think that it’s acceptable and appropriate for fans to try and control how people talk about their celebrities. 

And it’s terrifying - the idea you can and should get to control how other people behave. Psychologically it’s a really common anxiety response, but it’s also a huge part of coercive control and abuse. One of the things that I do find most disturbing about fandom is that you do get a sense of how much people want to be able to control everyone and everything.  

I wish those people who actually accept that people are going to talk and think about Harry in a wide range of ways and accept the legitimacy of diversity of opinion and expression, would talk in a way that showed that belief.  Because I do feel like attempting to control how people talk is given legitmacy by people who sometimes intend to speak metaphorically.  

It must be possible to build a fandom culture that accepts that people have lots of different things to say about an artist, and treats wanting to control othe rpeople as weird, rather than the other way round.  But it’s definitely not where we are.

#Fandom psychology is a very strange thing #Anonymous